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I haven’t talked about it much, but my Aunt Lynn is a two-time breast cancer survivor. The first time she beat breast cancer, I was just a kid. My parents kept us very insulated from it at the time—all we knew was that she was a little sick, but she was going to get better. And she did! In fact, she was better for twenty five years.
But when I was pregnant with James, my aunt found another lump…cancer, again. This time, I was old enough to understand, and hormonal enough to be a bit of a wreck. I’d just lost Jackie to brain cancer a few months before, and I was terrified I was going to lose my beloved aunt, too. This time, her treatment was much more difficult, but I am so happy to say that she’s been cancer-free for the last three years.
My Aunt Lynn with my three babies.
The thing that inspires me the most about my aunt is that she does a lot of work with the local Cancer Support Center. She works tirelessly to support the newly diagnosed, and speaks throughout the community to encourage early detection. She inspires me!
She recently wrote me a wonderful letter, and I wanted to share part of it here because I think it’s so important.
Dear Heather.
I’ve wanted to give you advice all your life, but hesitated to do that (well, most of the time). And you’ve thrived without my interference. However, as you approach the end of your thirties there is a piece of advice I must insist you take from me. It is lifesaving advice. Your loving husband, mom, dad, and two adorable children will be grateful if you take advantage of today’s technology to find a life-threatening disease early. It is a disease that runs rampant in our family and you lost your most beloved grandmother, aunt, and a best friend to this disease – cancer.
I am alive today because I found cancer in my breast early! Twice!! I was only 43 years old the first time I was stopped in my tracks with a breast cancer diagnosis. A routine mammogram found a lump. Unfortunately, the previous mammograms didn’t find it when it was really small and a simple removal would have been the cure.
I dodged a bullet, however, because it was only at stage one with no lymph node involvement. In those days (a long long time ago), all lymph nodes by my left breast were removed along with the cancerous tumor (lumpectomy). I also received radiation treatments and was on a hormone blocker, tamoxifen for five years. Removing the lymph nodes and subsequent radiation treatments created a new normal for me. I was compromised for the rest of my life. Had we found the tumor much earlier, the healing role lymph nodes play likely would not have been compromised.
Fast forward to 2012, 12/12/12 to be exact. I learned that a lump I felt in my breast was cancer again. Now, I had been religious about having a mammogram every year. But I skipped a year. It didn’t take long for the tumor to make itself known. Again, it should have been detected years earlier through the mammogram process. That’s why self-exams are so important. It is ironic that I looked for a lump because I had just given a speech to a group of women about the importance of early detection and the next morning decided to take my own advice. Voila!
This time I had to ‘give up the girls’ to a double mastectomy. There was a glitch, however. I could not have an implant on the left breast because it had experienced radiation 25 years earlier. Apparently implants and radiated skin do not work well. Now, let’s turn this lemon into lemonade. I was told I qualified for a ‘DIEP flap’ procedure where fat is taken from elsewhere in my body and moved to my breast area. So I donated fat from my tummy; I got a tummy tuck! Now, that was sweet lemonade. But it was a loooong 10-hour surgery process. However, I am reminded every day that early detection saved my life. But earlier detection would have been far less brutal.
I hope I haven’t scared you. Please know that early detection will save your life. Take advantage of the latest technology to find potential breast cancer early. You see me, three years after the second diagnosis, an active retiree who volunteers at our local Cancer Support Community. I am proud to be a survivor, encouraging others to replace fear with hope. I help with important fund raising events, encourage newly diagnosed cancer patients and their loved ones to take advantage of the free support at the CSC, and I talk to organizations throughout our community about getting the word out about early detection and the help available at the Cancer Support Community to all who are impacted by cancer.
Cancer doesn’t have to be a death sentence. People have survived all stages of breast cancer diagnosis, but survivability is better and much much easier when it is found early!
I love you dear Heather and want to see you enjoy your fabulous children for decades and decades. My advice – finally! Please hunt for, find, and remove any possibility of breast cancer. I found it is worth the effort because now I get to enjoy your children too.
With all my love, Auntie Lynn
The mammography technology available to us now is so much more advanced that when my aunt was first diagnosed. The Genius 3D MAMMOGRAPHY exam is the only mammogram clinically proven to detect cancer 15 months earlier than conventional mammograms and reduce callbacks by up to 40 percent. It has also been proven to detect 41 percent more invasive cancers than traditional 2D screenings. It’s definitely something I will be asking my doctor about when it’s time for my first mammogram in a few years. Like my aunt said, early detection is key, and I want to be here for a long, long time.


a says:
Thank you
Lisa says:
Thank you for this, I need to get a mammogram and like many others have delayed it due to, well life, work, etc. I will be asking about the 3D mammogram for sure and will schedule an appointment right away. This gave me the push I needed! And you can get a mammogram now due to your family history, no need to wait until the big 40.
RzDrms says:
Lisa, if you have the means (money, insurance, etc.), please please schedule an appointment as soon as possible. Best wishes!
Leslie says:
Actually, there is a downside to getting tested earlier. Most women have very dense breast in their 20s and 30s, that slowly decrease in density over time. I would recommend asking your doctor to run your personal and family history through an adequate cancer risk model (I use Hughes Risk, which may only be available at Massachusetts General Hospital and its’ partners). If you are at high risk, you should have a breast MRI, but NOT an early mammogram. It is unfortunately a somewhat limited test. It does find many many tumors, but it also finds many many MANY false alarms, and more in younger patients.
Leslie says:
To clarify – the density of your breasts significantly impairs the mammogram’s sensitivity. So if your breasts are denser, the mammogram is a less effective test. It is actually not really recommended in patients under 40.
Marjorie Steele says:
thank you from me too. My mom is a Breast cancer survivor as well and I will be sure to stay on top of self exams and mammograms. Your aunt is very caring for writing you that touching letter.
Erika says:
Very important advice. But I can’t stop staring at Annabel! Such a squishy, squishy baby!
Glenda says:
This was my second year with the 3D. Heather due to your family history, you do not have to wait to reach 40! Great post. Sweet letter!
Cheryl says:
I start mammograms at 30 because my mom had breast cancer, she did eventually pass from it, 15 yrs after her initial diagnosis (12 years totally free of it). A mammogram did not detect hers, she found it 6 months after her mammogram. Thank heavens mammography has improved so much since her original diagnosis in the early 90’s. I had a suspicious spot and with my family history they didn’t wait and I had a needle biopsy in January, luckily everything is fine. I agree with your aunt early detection is critical.
Christy says:
Much love to you Lynn!! ?
Emerson says:
I have family history of breast cancer and had my first scare at 16 (turned out to be a lump of precancerous cells). I’ve had yearly ultrasounds since, as young breast tissue is too dense to see anything on a mammogram, and I’m so thankful to have doctors who take prevention seriously. I’m 28 now, and have been felt up by more people than I care to admit, but I’m cancer free and have caught it early. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE stay on top of it.
RzDrms says:
Hi Heather, I’m genuinely curious (and, frankly, really alarmed): why would you wait “a few years” to get a mammogram, *particularly* since you had a grandmother and two aunts who had cancer? Having children and all kinds of hormonal changes to your body would also lead me to think that you’d want (nay, demand) a mammogram as soon as possible. I highly recommend that you consider it if at all possible, as soon as possible. I’m a bit shaken that you’d wait any longer. As your post says many times, *early* detection is key!
Heather says:
I will lead by saying that I will ask my doctor again when I see her later this month. I’ve been told that I don’t need to be seen until I’m 40 because the breast cancer is on my father’s side. The other cancers in my family are on my mother’s side, and they were leukemia, colon, and melanoma. I regularly get skin checks (I am obsessive), and won’t have to get colonoscopies until I’m older as well.
RzDrms says:
I really appreciate the response. “A few years” was just a jolt (and a complete juxtaposition) after reading such an impassioned letter rightly begging for what seemed to be the complete opposite (early-as-possible testing). Mammograms are generally SO easy and SO fast (four photos for me last time – maybe five minutes max – and DONE!) that I’m always of the opinion of why WOULDN’T someone (woman *or* man, if a man is in a position to need one) beg for one if at all possible?! I started them when I was about 37 years old when they were offered free (with insurance) and conveniently (in a mobile unit) by my company, and I got called back once before I was 40 for further scans (…incredibly scary…). Again, though, they’re super easy and fast; I’ll hope that your doctor allows it when you next speak with her. Thanks again for the response and consideration!
Karen says:
Hi Heather, Just wondering… With your family history, has anyone in your family tested positive for one of the BRCA genetic markers?
Heather says:
My aunt is the only one with breast cancer, and she tested negative!
Karen says:
Yay!!! So glad to hear about the negative result!
Jordan says:
This is something I’ll have to be tested for in the future– nearly every woman on my dad’s side has fought breast cancer. Most recently, my aunt- she actually got tested for the gene and was positive- so she opted to have a double mastectomy as a preventative measure. Come to find out, they found cancer deep in the tissue after the removal! If she had not had the surgery, they probably wouldn’t have caught it until it had spread.
I’m only 23, but it’s never far from the back of my mind! I’ll be getting tested for the gene eventually.
Rachel says:
I don’t recall, but it is highly possible that the family members (other than her aunt) had some other cancer. But I agree, Heather, with a family history, you really should go to a breast clinic – some now offer risk calculators, and depending on the outcome, you may get early mammograms and/or MRI screenings!
And I also find Annie, in particular, soooo cute in this pic with all that baby fat.
Heather says:
You are right, Rachel! But I will be asking again at my physical this month. and I know, Annie was the chubbiest EVER. I miss that!
Heather says:
Thank you for this. As a breast cancer survivor myself (diagnosed at 41 on my first mammogram ever), I 100% agree with your advice!
I would like to add that even if your risk factors are low, do not delay at all. Get screened. Every test I took before my diagnosis said I was almost no risk – good health, no history in my family of this or any other cancer, etc. Had I taken that info and run with it, I’d be dead or much worse off.
Get screened and ignore those risk factor tests!
SUSAN SPARKS says:
I too am a breast cancer survivor and I want to encourage you to GO NOW DO NOT WAIT until you’re 40!!! You have a family history of breast cancer and it is of utmost importance that you GO NOW!!!!! I was 35 with NO family history of breast cancer and ended up having a double mastectomy that saved my life and has allowed me to enjoy my children growing up and blessing me with 9 grandbabies….PLEASE GO NOW!!! DON’T WAIT!!! YOUR BABIES DESERVE THIS!!!!
amourningmom says:
I. Love the pictures of your Aunt with Maddie, Annie and James. She is a very wise woman. Thank you for sharing her advice. xo
lauren says:
I just want to add that it getting an ultrasound along with your mamos an even better way to go. Mammo’s are actually notoriously inaccurate (according to me DR). In addition, if you have dense tissue, have a family history or have ever had a an off mammo for any reason, see a breast specialist. Have them examine you and look at your stuidies. They have even more expertise than your gyno. AND go get a mamo and ultrssound even every year if you feel nothing!!! because you won’t always feel that lump!
Heather says:
Agreed. I just had my six-month checkup and had a 3D MRI, mammogram and an ultrasound, which finally revealed an abnormality the other two did not detect. Getting a biopsy next week.
Gretchen says:
When I had my last physical, my doctor told me guidelines have changed and they recommend a baseline mammogram at 35+. I had that, and then follow up 3D imaging and ultrasound because there was nothing to compare the baseline with. Now I’m good til 40!
Lauren says:
I am 36 and just finished chemo for breast cancer, stage 2. Early detection is KEY! It’s terrifying for any woman to think about, but it is important to remember that with finding it early, the less of a toll it will take on your body, and you WILL survive. Just going to have one hell of a year. My paternal aunt had it at 39 and is doing well at 78. I was tested for the gene, which I do NOT have! However, the geneticist did say, these genes are the most concerning, and it’s not to rule out that it is not hereditary.