The Spohr Family is Mike, the husband and dad; Heather: the wife, mom, and writer of this here blog; our tiny guard dog Rigby; Madeline Alice, our oldest daughter and our miracle preemie; Annabel Violet, our younger daughter and our little spitfire; and James Asher, our crazy toddler. We have most of our adventures in and around Los Angeles. Mike and I have been together for over twelve years.
I’ve been blogging about my life since 2002, but I started this blog when I was pregnant with our daughter, Madeline. It was a rough and rocky pregnancy and I wanted to keep our friends informed. When Madeline was born premature on November 11, 2007, I posted updates about her rough start in life.
In the year-plus following her release from the neonatal intensive care unit, she was hospitalized three times thanks to complications from her premature birth. Through it all, Maddie was seriously the happiest little girl you could ever meet. Our life together was full of adventure. I blogged about Maddie’s triumphs, my husband’s propensity to brush his teeth with butt cream, my dog’s stuffed animal fetish, and my knack for revealing private parts of my body in very public places. Among other things.
Then, our world was turned upside down. Madeline came down with a respiratory infection on April 6th, and she very suddenly left the world on April 7th, 2009. She was only a few days shy of 17 months old. We were shocked and shattered. We had to pick up the pieces and learn who we were without her.
On January 22nd, 2010, our second daughter, Annabel, was born. She gave us the strength to go on, along with hope and light. Our son James arrived on May 30th, 2013, expanding our hearts and completing our family. We miss Madeline every day and will for the rest of our lives, but we find joy, love, and purpose in her siblings and each other. Together, we are learning to celebrate life as we live with loss.