Today is my birthday and as many of you know, I’m also a twin, which means today is also my brother Kyle’s birthday! When we were kids we had joint birthday parties until we were about seven or eight. After that, as our friend groups changed, my parents gave us each the option to have a party at the house, or have an outing with a smaller group. My brother always chose a small group, and they’d go to mini-golf or the movies. I, of course, invited over every girl I’d ever met for a swim and sleepover party.
It was awesome of my parents to throw two different celebrations, but as my mom said, that’s what they would have done if we’d been born on different days. I really appreciated that they never forced us to have our parties together, even when we were small – it was always what we wanted. I think that’s why, in high school, we started having our birthday parties together again. Celebrating together was special, and because we’d always been treated like individuals, we were never resentful over having to share.
There are definitely things you should do to make your twins feel special at a joint party. If they’re old enough to express theme desires, do what you can to make it work – even if they have two different requests. You can always make suggestions (the amazing Jen and I put together four boy/girl themes below), but if one of them wants Hello Kitty and one of them wants Army Men, make it work. I’d also suggest having two cakes (or special cupcakes!) and singing the Happy Birthday song to each child – it’s nice to get that solo moment in the spotlight.
So, like I mentioned above, the fabulous Jen and I came up with four ideas for boy/girl parties in honor of my birthday. The challenge with parties for young girl/boy twins is finding a theme that will appeal to…boys and girls. Obvious, but easier said than done! Jen and I went with ideas that leave room for the kids to pick what appeals to them regardless of gender. Girls can be pirates, boys can be royalty, etc. Annie would absolutely figure out a way to be a mermaid pirate!
Pillage ye party, matey!
1. Make your own treasure chests! You can get unfinished chests at your local craft store or online.
2. I love that you can put the faces of the birthday kids on this invitation to make it more personal.
3. These cupcakes are so adorable.
4. Create a treasure map/scavenger hunt and hide the “loot” around the house, or outside in the yard. Keep the loot simple – think Dollar Store!
5. This watermelon fruit boat is amazing!
The Mickey and Minnie Mouse theme is perfect for very small kids.
1. A simple yet striking invitation for your twin mice.
2. I’m pretty sure even I could swing these Oreo “Lollipops.”
3. Mickey and Minnie cupcakes look easy (and good enough to eat rightnowomg).
4. While this cake is very fancy, you could easily recreate this with different frosting colors and some Mickey & Minnie figurines on top.
5. & 6. Pin the bow on Minnie and pin the button on Mickey! These would be very easy to make yourself.
7. Adorable pink and blue Mickey and Minnie mouse-ear garland.
8. This fabric banner is so cute, and it could be hung up in a child’s room after the party.
A Knights and Royalty party for your Sirs and Ladies.
1. I need to make this AMAZING cake immediately.
2. Shields and crowns make excellent cupcake toppers.
3. This invitation is framable.
4. Make “stocks” and throw wet sponges at all who deserve to be punished.
5. Cute DIY swords and wands.
6. You obviously have to make thrones for your birthday royalty to sit in!
Yee haw cow folks, giddy up into the Wild West.
1. Cowboys and Cowgirls together on one adorable invitation.
2. These cupcakes are perfection, and so easy to make with frosting, sprinkles, and a tube of horses.
3. I always love a photobooth! These photo props are available for instant download, and you can make a Wanted background by hanging a tan sheet and paining on the “Wanted” lettering yourself.
4. Lasso a horse! How fun is that! Wrap a hula hoop in rope to make it easier for the kids.
5. These hats and bandanas do double-duty as party decor and favors for your guests.
I’d love to hear some of your twin ideas!
Susan says:
Happy Birthday Heather and Kyle!!
Sue says:
Happy Birthday Heather and Kyle! Hope that you have a wonderful day!!
Susan says:
Happy Birthday to both of you!
Molly says:
Happy birthday! My girls are three years and exactly one week apart (they will be 4 and 7 in Sept) and so far we have done all joint parties doing exactly what you recommend–two cakes, two themes, and two rounds of happy birthday. Last year they wanted Mickey Mouse and The Little Mermaid (I found an Etsy seller to help me blend the two themes). This year so far they want Harry Potter and Frozen (so far). I haven’t asked them yet whether they want individual parties (I think my oldest would say yes and my youngest would say no), but I’m hoping I can get a few more years of joint parties. We do a big pool party and invite all of our adult friends with kids and it’s always so much fun (well, for us–hopefully for the kids too ;-])!
Melanie says:
I have a girl and a boy born 2 years apart. They actually had the exact same due date (obviously just different years), but the first was born almost a week early and the second was born almost a week late. (Second was also born the day before my birthday. Until we had our last child – born two days after our anniversary in July – our entire family had our birthdays in the month of December!)
ANYWAY, for the first five birthdays of my second born’s life, we did joint birthday parties. When they were tiny it was easy because they still liked the same toddler characters – like Blues Clues. Then my girl was a tiny bit of a tomboy so we had some Cars and Toy Story themed parties. Last year, as they turned 8 and 6, was the first year they really couldn’t do a party together easily. We were moving that December, so we just skipped the big friend birthday party all together. They’re both already talking about what they want to do for their birthdays this year – and they both have very different ideas. I’m pretty sure this year they’ll each have to have something separate – especially to make it up to them for being ripped off last year!
Meg says:
As a mid-December baby whose parties repeatedly got attached to Thanksgiving or Christmas, I can’t imagine all the work with so many birthdays in the same month! (I’ve been lobbying for celebrating my half-birthday in June for, well, decades now. Only happened when I was 12.)
Karen says:
Happy Birthday Heather & Kyle! I have twin girls and they definitely have very different styles and desires for their birthday celebrations. I think this is the first year we will be having different celebrations. Thanks for the great ideas!
Nellie says:
Happy Birthday to one hell of a creative, talented and amazing….YOU!!! Wishing you and your brother a day filled with lots of love and belly aching laughter!!!
These themes are amazing and it’s because of you and that first post I read and saw pictures of (Madeline’s First Birthday) that I started doing birthday themed for my own daughter – thank YOU!!
Mel says:
Happy Birthday Heather. I hope you have a fantastic day.
Tam. says:
My son asked me the other day if the date of his birth was the beginning of him. He recently turned 8 and cuteness still abounds. Happy Beginning of You Day!!!!
Jordan says:
happy birthday Heather and Kyle! Love the Mickey Mouse and Royalty ones. So cute!
Tania says:
Awsome Ideas!! Happy Hatch Day Heather and Kyle!!!
Pattie says:
Happy birthday, Heather and Kyle! I hope you both have a fabulous day.
Damita says:
Happy birthday Heather and Kyle!
Anna says:
I am the girl of a girl/boy twin set and we never really had themed birthday parties growing up – or maybe the theme was “Here is cake and pizza, run around and play”. It was so much fun – we had joint parties until jr high. I have to disagree on the individual song singing though – having my brother to share the spotlight was such a blessing – now I still feel uncomfortable when I am sung to solo! Being a twin has been perfect for my personality – I hate being the center of attention all alone!
Cheryl says:
Well my brother was born on my 3rd birthday so we shared from that time on. My mom stopped doing birthday parties after I turned 7. After that it was family only no friends, she said she didn’t want to do 2 different parties. We did have 2 separate cakes and made out pretty well in the present department. But my last really birthday party was that year I turned 7.
Eunice Johnson says:
Happy Birthday Heather and Kyle – hope you have a great day
Ana-Maria says:
Certainly do have a happy birthday, love. Enjoy your day.
Cheryl says:
Happy birthday! As a mother of b/g twins, thank you for these ideas. Right now, the twins are young enough that we did a Sesame Street themed party with an Elmo cake and a SuperGrover cake. Next year, I foresee that they will want completely different themes!
Glenda says:
Happy birthday to you and your brother! And a great weekend!
Who’s older? You or Kyle?
Lenora says:
Happy Birthday (my sister’s was Wednesday)!! I hope it’s a great day and year.
Jerilynn says:
Happy Birthday, Heather and Kyle! Hope you are having a wonderful day with your beautiful family!
Gina says:
Happy birthday! This is helpful to read…my daughters are 4 years and 1 day apart. We’ve only had to do one birthday together so far (my youngest is just 1), but I’ve been thinking about how this will play out when they’re older.
Maria says:
I have 12 year-old boy-girl twins and we did lots of theme parties over the years. We tended to do things that were broadly appealing to both genders, like a “nature” party theme. Probably my favorite of all time was a mini-party that we did for them, where everything was mini. Mini foods, mini sack races, mini cakes, mini favors, mini party hats… it was a complete blast. My second favorite was the year the twins were in third grade and they were hugely into Harry Potter. Making a “Hogwarts” for a party is a lot of work, but completely worth it, and it really adds to the fun when you have both girls and boys at the party.