I’ve been blogging since 2002, and even though I’m taking a (necessary) break from posting regularly, I still think of myself as a blogger. It’s been an amazing sixteen years that has brought me and my family incredible experiences, but the thing I will ALWAYS value the most is the relationships I’ve made. If it wasn’t for those relationships, we never would have had so much support when Maddie died. Our friends (both IRL and virtual) rallied around us and carried us when we couldn’t stand.
One of those friends was Rebecca Woolf. Bec and I met at a local blogger even in LA when Maddie was a baby and she was pregnant with her oldest daughter, Fable. Becca and her husband, Hal, were there for us when Maddie passed away. In the years we’ve been friends, Becca and Hal added twin daughters to their family (bringing their total to three girls and a boy), while Mike and I added Annie and James. Bec wrote beautifully and honestly about their lives in LA, and I felt lucky to call her my friend.
Yesterday, four months after being diagnosed, Hal died of pancreatic cancer. To say I’m devastated for them is an understatement. Hal was an amazing person, but an even more amazing father. His four kids will now grow up without their dad’s tremendous presence, and it’s so unfair. Bec will now go through life without her partner, and I just cannot imagine how overwhelmed with sorrow she must be today. My heart is broken for my friend and her beautiful family. Some friends started a GoFundMe to help with their expenses, because no one should have to worry about how to pay their bills when they’re burying their spouse.
Cancer is the worst thing ever.
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The world is so sad today. Here’s a cute baby picture to make you smile:
Happy Sunday, everyone.
Kylene says:
Thank you so much for sharing this Heather. I’ve really enjoyed her blog though it’s been a little while. They built such an incredible family and I loved reading about their adventures. I’m just crushed for her and the kids. ?
Kylene says:
That question mark at the end was a purple heart.
Jordan says:
you are most definitely still a blogger, though I do miss your regular posts something fierce!! (I haven’t blogged myself since May… sigh).
So sad to hear about the Woolf fam. I found them through you! Rebecca’s writing has such a lyrical, magical ring to it– I always felt enveloped in the story when I read her words. Cancer is too cruel.
Opus says:
Thank you for sharing Rebecca’s story. I’ve missed reading her blog and had no idea all of this was happening.
Susan says:
I am heartbroken for them. I am thankful for the blogging community. It is a source of community that lifts us up and comforts us. I am sending love and light to everyone.
jocelyn says:
i found both you and rebecca through momversation years ago, which i watched because i’d been following dooce for years and she’d post her momversation videos on her blog. i saw rebecca’s posts about hal a few months ago. my heart breaks for her and her family.
Pattie says:
I’ve been reading Rebecca’s blog since she a bit before she got pregnant with Bo and Rev, and I’m also mourning for her and their family. #$#@ cancer.
I’ve also been reading your blog for as long as I can remember, and understand you need a break from it. Take care of yourself.
Amber Gardner says:
I’m so sorry for the loss of your friend Heather.
I’m so sorry for the loss of the husband and father of a beautiful family.
Thank you for sharing.
Sending lots of hugs.
Nellie says:
I am so incredibly sorry for your friend’s loss. I seriously have no words as the tears stream down.
May love and light guide your dear friend and her beautiful children, especially when they are in need of it most.
Toni says:
So very sad! Cancer truly sucks.
Steph says:
Thank you for sharing the link for the gofundme for Rebecca’s family so more people can help. Although I don’t know her in real life, I’ve enjoyed following her since before the twins were born on her blog and now instagram. I also enjoyed her book. Her writing always seems so honest and compassionate. I’m so very sorry for the tragic loss of her husband, Hal. Much love to all.
p.s. also thank you for the picture of the adorable baby.