Sigh. So. What did you all do last week?
So my laptop. The first thing that I have to say is that the whole crew at Alaska Airlines has been great. They have continually demonstrated the excellent customer service that they are known for. I will absolutely fly their airline again and would recommend them to everyone.
The whole reason I tweeted about my laptop was pure desperation. The airport I flew into (Reagan National) closes at night, and I realized my computer was still on the plane after they were closed. By tweeting, I got an immediate response from Alaska Air and was able to start the computer search right away. That is one of the awesome things about social media.
To answer some questions – I was the last person off the plane, and I was sitting in the last row. I used my computer on the plane and I have a receipt for my wireless service to prove it. About five minutes before we were supposed to prepare for landing we hit turbulence so I wasn’t able to put my computer back in the overhead compartment like I usually would. Add to that a chatty flight attendant and a fussy baby and it was the perfect storm of forgetfulness. When I realized the computer was gone, my mind screeched to a halt and it zoomed onto a picture my laptop leaning against the wall of the plane on the floor under my seat. Straight out of a movie.
And then all I could think about was how dumb I was.
Upon arriving home this weekend, I immediately started going though every external hard drive and storage source I have to see what might be missing. I’d say about 95% of the stuff I have of Madeline is backed up and about 50% of Annabel’s photos and videos are. I lost a lot of writing, which really sucks, not to mention all the passwords that my computer automatically remembers. I don’t even know what I need to remember to change…does that even make sense? My brain hurts.
It’s definitely a cautionary tale to everyone – back up your computers often. You may not be dumb enough to leave it somewhere like I did, but your hard drive could crash, water could spill on it, you just never know.
I brought this whole situation on myself, and I take full responsibility. I appreciate all the support everyone gave, and some of your stories about the stupid things you all did made me laugh and feel better.
Besides the files on the computer, I have memories attached to the actual laptop itself. Maddie sat on my lap and we watched videos and played games and took silly pictures with the web cam. Some might say it’s just a thing, but it’s more than that to me. It’s something she touched. I would have kept that laptop forever. I don’t have much hope that it will turn up, but I know Alaska Air will keep looking and I am very thankful.
And now, the laptop power cord sits, forlorn. O laptop! it says. I’ll miss you!
Don Juan IV is my laptop. What, you don’t name your computer? That is too bad.
Sorry that it hasn’t turned up. Very glad to hear that most of your pics and vids were backed up, especially those of Maddie. Still, it’s hard to lose something that’s so much a part of your life, especially considering the memories attached to it. Thanks for keeping us updated, and I’m still hoping it turns up, as I’m sure are you!
Oh, and my laptop’s name is Scarlett (because she’s red, and I’m super creative like that). I feel like she’s basically a member of the family, so she needs a proper name.
i know this might sound bizarre and far fetched but is there a way you could somehow find a website that lets you know when your computer is turned on? is that weird? like for stolen electronics you can find out where it is? tracking your computers IP adress.
anyways don’t give up hope!
I’ve been worried about this all weekend so thanks for the update. I still think there’s hope that you might get it back, but I’m very, VERY glad that you had so much backed up. But I hope you get the laptop back for the memories attached to it and the writing. Don’t blame yourself too much. Clearly someone was watching you and took advantage of a moment when you were distracted. I’m keeping my fingers crossed that you haven’t seen the last of Don yet.
It took me a couple of looks at the picture to figure out that it said something.
I’m so glad so much was backed up. It doesn’t replace your laptop but at least you got to keep a lot of info on it. I hope that helps.
Ms. Anthropy says:
If you were the last passenger out of the plane, wouldn’t that mean an employee, or cleanup crew has it? Maybe someone will have a change of heart and decide to be honest.
Kate @ UpsideBackwards says:
Eeep. I think we should back up our photos. My husband might have done it already, but I should check. This pc is nearly eight years old, anything could happen with it!
Thanks for the reminder. I hope your laptop shows up somewhere miraculously unharmed.
I’m glad to hear that most of your Madeline files were backed up but so sorry to hear that you lost even one, and for losing Annabel’s stuff and your writing.
As for the Maddie memories attached – I know this probably won’t help, but those memories are real because they’re in your head and your heart. Having the laptop in front of you doesn’t make them any more real. You had that precious time with your little girl and nobody can take that away.
I’m so sorry and have been thinking of you. I’m so glad most of it was backed up but I totally understand that it’s not so much about the laptop, it’s the memories.
*whispering* I call my laptop Tobias and even pet him every so often. No heavy petting yet. We just met about a week ago. We’ll see how things go first.
Yeah after losing the first year of my daughter’s life photographs I started saving all my photos on my time capsule and no longer store them on my laptop at all.
It sucks when you lose things, and the pictures in particular you probably never will get back. Hopefully whoever found it and decided to keep it will become very guilty and then send it back to you.
Gosh, Big T is such a non-creative name for my laptop. It has a huge screen for movie watching & it’s a Toshiba.
Sorry about Don Juan. I hope it gets back to you.
Catherine Lucas says:
Grin, mine is called Intel… I am sure that this is very edgy. ;o)))
Laptop is photocat. One has to be original… DOH
It’s one of the downsides of our digital life, that we are in the clutches of a hard drive. And yes, we do loose them or they fail… Lessons learned the hard way. I chucked a folder two years ago with 60.000 photographs… Looking at my bin and wondering what on god’s earth it was tossing, it looked like so much files. When the coin dropped, I knew it was my picture folder. Call me stupid! Now I work with a Drobo.
I totally understand how the laptop itself can be an emotional thing. The most harrowing story I ever heard was an old man telling me about a burglary in the house. They did take a camera, and that little camera belonged to his passed away son and had the last photographs his son took on it. The thieves broke his heart again for a second time… Honesty is at times more then honesty!
It could still turn up! Keep the faith. I knew someone once whose house burnt down and absolutely every photo they had ever was lost…this was before the days of blogs and internet when everything is out there in cyberspace somewhere- It’s great to hear you have so much of Maddie backed up, sorry you lost 5 percent though, that really sucks.
My computer is most often called things that are not fit to print…
and thanks for the reminder of backing things up, although I am sorry you went through all of that. ugh.
Were you able to enjoy some of the rest of the trip?
Ha! Of course I name my laptop!
I have two: Grizzle (PC) and Nifkin (Mac.)
My iPod is Radcliffe.
I hope, somehow, Don Juan IV finds his way home to you.
Ha! Nope, I’ve never named my laptop. I named my car though, so I don’t think it’s that odd.
Losing memories sucks. I used to carry pictures in my purse (back before everything was digital and backed up on a computer). Anyway, I had one of a kind pics of my mom and dad together (my dad left when I was little) before I was born, my grandpa, and friends that had passed away. Then my purse was stolen and they were all gone. Forever. It sucked so bad. It was almost 10 years ago and I still cry when I think about it.
Sorry. I know this probably doesn’t make you feel any better, but I just wanted to let you know a little bit about how you are feeling. I’ll still pray Don Juan IV turns up.
This post made me back up my docs ASAP! The whole situation sucks..I know, I’ve been there myself (backseat of NYC cab = lost stuff wasteland). But I love that you name your computer – my current laptop is Superman, for its ability to rescue me during finals when Napoleon, my netbook, repeatedly dies.
SO glad for this update. I’ve had knots in my stomach every time I’ve thought about the situation. I hate that you lost anything at all, but I’m so glad you had so much of your stuff backed up.
Still praying that it turns up! LOL @ the name. I don’t name my laptops, but I certainly name my cars. The current one is LiLi.
XOXO from GA,
I’m so sorry you lost your laptop! Even if you’ve got 95% of the pictures, that’s 5% less than you should have had. I hope it turns up!
My computer’s name is Captain Kirk. My phone is McCoy, and my iPod is Spock. I think there’s a theme somewhere there, but I’m not sure what it is.
Oh no! I hope it still turns up. Since you were the last person on the plane I would think it would have to be a staff member of the airline who would have it. I hope if they took it for the wrong reasons they have a change of heart.
I wanted to let you know about a backup service though you might want to check into. All of my files on my computer are backed up automatically online through a service called Mozy. I pay 4.95 a month for unlimited storage. It is so worth it because the external hard drives have gone bad on me in the past and I still lost my backups.
I’m so sorry about your computer – and I’m really happy you had a lot of it backed up. And sympathies to your cord as well. ; )
When you get a new computer, do invest in a wi-fi camera SD card. I am told when you upload stuff from it to another device, it can be tracked. (Just in case!)
My laptop is named Edna after a neighbor that I adored as a child. Just like the neighbor, she is old and a little slow but she is dependable and always ready when you need her. I have a flashy new computer for work (Tori) who is fast but high maintenance and demanding. Edna is the old standby.
Best wishes on finding Don Juan IV.
Lynn from For Love or Funny says:
I’m so relieved to hear that you’ve backed up most of your Maddie pics. Perhaps there is still hope that Don Juan 4 will return to you…
So, glad to hear a lot of your stuff was backed up. The lost writing sucks though. Maybe there’s still hope and Don Juan IV will be returned to you.
I learned the back up lesson the hard way. A couple of months ago the hard drive in my laptop (that is less than a year old I might add) went out. We were in the process of selling out house so all the pictures that normal would have been loaded on our desktop were instead on my laptop. I lost about 4 months worth of pictures and videos of Maya, plus a ton of writing, spreadsheets, etc. Needless to say we ran right out and got an external hard drive and signed up for a back up service.
Oh Heather I know how horrible it is to loose a laptop with so many memories…On April 1st I came home to our house and saw the front door wide open and my heart sank as I automatically knew “we’d been robbed”…Of course they took my Mac laptop, video camera, SLR camera….among many other things….I too hadn’t backed up everything so I lost pic’s and video of my girls…Not much, maybe a months worth but still I relive that day over and over….If I only had brought the laptop to work, If only I came home earlier maybe I wouldn’t have been robbed, etc…
Thankfully you have most of Maddie’s pics and stuff backed up!
I went straight out and bought the Mac Time Capsule which wirelessly backs up everything so I know I’m always covered now. I also back up on two other external hard drives since I”m sooo paranoid now…
the Mom says:
I’m sorry you lost Don Juan IV. That sucks.
Yes, I named my computer. It’s name is Steve.
Blech, I’m so sad that they haven’t been able to recover your laptop. I just hate that for you. I’m so, so, SO relieved that you had almost everything backed up, but I’m sure that 5% you didn’t hurts like the devil. I recently bought an external hard drive for my desktop because I was so afraid of what would happen if it quit working, and when I read a story like yours, I’m so thankful that I did.
Crossing my fingers for you still!
Hamlet's Mistress says:
So glad to hear how much of Maddie’s stuff you have saved elsewhere! And I don’t know if they did this for everyone, I’m sure they did, but AA actually responded to my FB message to them. Which was impressive. Who am I to them, you know? I’m not even anything to you, so why should they care? But they did. I’m glad they did all they could and are still looking.
Jen L. says:
I’m so sorry this happened, but soooooo glad you had as much backed up as you did. You were right when you compared losing a computer to losing a wallet. I hadn’t thought about it that way, but we have SO much info on here from banking to work stuff, that it’s definitely comparable. I HATE that you were the one who had to learn this lesson first-hand.
My laptop’s name is actually Madeline. I named her after Madeline Kahn. Right after I got her, my son became addicted to a Youtube video of Grover and Madeline Kahn singing “Sing After Me,” so any time I’d turn on the computer, he’s scream, “Madeline!” I think it’s a pretty great name.
Ms. Moon says:
My laptop is my magic box. I understand how you feel.
Oh I so feel for you. My laptop’s name is Hernando. My cats are jealous of the time he and I spend together and keep trying to knock over water glasses on his keyboard.
I don’t have a name for my computer except for when it’s not functioning properly, but those names aren’t really appropriate to put here ifyouknowwhatImean . . . I know it won’t make you feel any better, but I lost all of my photos and video’s from 2010 when the power went out in my condo and my hard-drive wasn’t shut down properly. It’s not the end of the world, but I’m still very upset about it. I really hope that Alaska Air pulls through and finds your precious Don Juan IV!
I’m so sorry they haven’t been able to find it. I saw all the tweets and worried about it and you. I’m really, really happy to hear that most of your photos and videos were backed up. I agree completely about backing up computers frequently. I’ve had two scares in the past six months when I thought my computer was no more (once I spilled soda on it—very slick), and it was horrifying. After that, I started backing up.
But still, even with your backups…that sucks. I’m really sorry.
Mrs. Flinger says:
OOOOFFF. I was hoping to hear you got it back. Sigh.
Snickrsnack Katie says:
Well that makes it even more obvious to me that an employee stole the laptop. Who else would have taken it? There were no other passengers who could have. I am sorry that there are people out there who steal stuff. They SUCK!
Sorry about the laptop – it just frustrates me that someone from their company “stole” the laptop – I wonder if a reward would do ..
at least you have the memories – which will not be erased
I’ve been dying for an update, but only for good news! That’s very nice of you to take the blame. It sounds to me like someone it being a scuzzy, slime ball thief though. I blame them!
If they find it today, post an update
I waa thinking about you all weekend. I am glad much of your stuff waa backed up. It does not even matter how it go lost, it still sucks. The memories you have of you and Maddie will remain in you mind and heart forever………
It may yet sill turn up…..
I don’t have anything funny or poignant to say, so I will just say this. Blurg.
Trisha Vargas says:
Please don’t give up hope. I believe there are still a lot of good people left in this world and maybe Don Juan is on his way back to you now.
((((HUGS)))) from Florida
Although we don’t name our computers, we do name our cars. My husband drives Pearly Mae and I drive Desert Rose! So sorry about the laptop, girlie!
Oh My Gosh! Someone else that names their computers! Thank you! My old laptop was Charlie…but when I switched to a MAC – it seems more female – So Lola entered our world. I’m so sorry about your computer…It royally sucks.
Just Me says:
I feel ya. I lost my mom in Oct and had pictures of her ashes, her memorial, her and my kids, her and I, and all kinds of memories on my laptop, that was just stolen from my house. I feel like I lost my mom all over again.
Lots of hope and prayers that the laptop turns up, somehow……I was just given a message that I was posting a comment too quickly and that I needed to slow down. So, I just typed the rest of this comment really really slowly and my fingers are really mad that I’m making them type slow.
Ok, after reading the comments, I’m feeling a little weird for NOT naming my computer (or phone, or car or even my beloved camera.)
My dad had an expensive set of golf clubs “lost” on a flight. They did turn up about 4 months later…a police officer called him from TX (we’re in NY) to say they were in a local pawn shop that was under investigation. He saw the name & address label tucked inside the bag and checked to verify if they were really sold to the shop, apparently this store had a “connection” with an airport employee. The clubs were returned, so maybe there’s still hope for Don Juan IV?
Would the crew/etc be motivated by a reward? Say, even a new laptop???
I am so sorry you lost your laptop I thought I was the only one that named computers lol. Mine is named Lulu Lappy.
amy d says:
I name my laptop too!!!
I have a pink dell inspirion named Bert;)
(Really sad you’ve lost your laptop, still hoping it turns up, love:(
My laptop is “Russell”. Because my laptop makes me as happy as a middle-aged salad dodger can be. G’day!
Freckle on the Nose of Life's Complexion says:
Such a bummer that you didn’t get your computer back, but I’m glad they somewhat resolved the situation and left you feeling good about the airline company.
I named my car, but my technology remains unnamed – gotta change that!
Kayla N. says:
Oh Heather, I am so sorry! Even if I don’t have as precious cargo as your laptop did, I totally feel what you are saying and encourage everyone who reads this to back up- last year, a friend knocked over a cup of water at a study session and JUST A DROP spilled down the air vent of my computer and sent it on the fritz in tHE MIDDLE OF FINALS when I had a 15 page rewrite due. I had to copy the entire fifteen page draft from the printed page, and then redo all the other stuff I didn’t have in time for finals, because I didn’t back up.
And I totally name my computer! I am typing this to you on TInder (who replaced Kingsley, who replaced Julius, who all got along fine with my external hard-drives Mad-Eye and Jack Burden, my iPod Hector, and my kindle Rupert Giles.) Dude, it’s totally cool!
I’m so sorry the laptop wasn’t found, but glad most things are backed up.
(Also, there are people who don’t name their laptops? Really? Who knew!)
Still hoping and praying that someone has a heart and turns it in….
I had no idea people named their laptops. Now I feel like a dumb butt..
Momma Lioness Michele says:
I’m sad for you and your lonely power cord. Glad to hear that the airline has been good to you, but it just doesn’t make sense that you were at the back of the plane, last one to leave, and the airline staff cannot find poor Don Juan. I’m sure he misses you too! Still hoping he finds his way home to you.
Oh I’m so relieved to hear that most of your photos of Maddie are stored elsewhere. It’s still sad that you lost any at all (and of Annie too). I associate many objects with my grandma and would be equally devastated if they were lost, even though they are just “things”. It may turn up, it may not. As always, I hope & pray for the best.
I am not nearly as creative in my naming. My old Dell (7 years and still going strong! Yeeeeah!) is Mr. Laptop. I’m so inventive, as you can see.
I am so sorry your laptop still hasn’t turned up, but glad most of your stuff is backed up. I have hope that maybe it will still be turned in…..
My laptop is named Morgan Freeman because he is great at everything he does, as is my MacBook. Morgan Freeman (the computer) and I hope Don Juan IV returns to you soon.
Marti from Michigan says:
Apparently an “incident” like the one of you misplacing your laptop happened about a year ago on an airline. Some of the people responding on Facebook who are not followers of your blog, responded about that. I don’t know the other story, and I myself responded to a couple of those people’s comments.
I am still having super hopes that the laptop will turn up, or that someone grabbed yours by mistake and is trying to return it. That happened when my daughter laid her purse on the counter at a gas station, and another person grabbed her purse by mistake and my daughter grabbed the other person’s purse. They got it figured out eventually with nothing missing……there are still great people in this world!
Poor little power cord looks so lonely…still hoping that your lappy will turn up. Maybe it’s on it’s way home right now.
Lisa @ Early Morning Run says:
I’m really sorry about your laptop. Perhaps Don Juan IV will still make his way back to you! You never know. stranger things have happened. I’m glad to hear that you had a good amount backed up. I have an external hard drive that’s been sitting in it’s box for a few months now. I think I’ll back this up a little later this afternoon.
Hope to see you soon!
Props to Alaska Air if you are happy with their service… but laptops don’t just vanish into thin air. The laptop is somewhere and it is increasingly looking like one of their employees stole it.
I name ever computer. My iPad has a name. I am considering naming my new iPhone.
I’m sorry you didn’t get your laptop back. Boo.
I name cars and plants but never thought about giving my laptop a name. Although it probably responds best to, “you stupid POS!”
I am so sorry to hear about your laptop. I had my fingers crossed all weekend that it would turn up and I hope it still does. I know this is far-fetched, but have you thought about tweeting the airplane number? If anyone else flies on that same airplane, they could keep their eyes peeled for it, hidden somewhere — maybe so deep under the seat that AA just didn’t see it. I know this is a long shot but maybe…
And thank you for sharing your cautionary tale with us. I just got a new macbook for work, and after reading your entry I went and backed up a major document I have on it.
That really sucks. I’m so sorry it’s not been found. It’s even suckier that one of their employees took it most likely.
I’m glad a lot of it was backed up, but am sorry that you don’t physically have it anymore. I can completely understand the need for that. (((hugs)))
You can use a program called Carbonite. It saves all you info and backups everything. Our hard drive has gone 3 times and if I did not have this all of my kids pics would be gone. Sorry about the laptop that sucks!
I’m so sorry that the computer hasn’t turned up, but I *love* his name! (And that so many other people have named theirs. Clearly I need to come up with a name for mine that doesn’t involve curse words.) Still holding out hope that Don Juan IV will find his way back home!
I’m so sorry, this sucks. It’s pretty obvious that it was taken by whoever from the staff went looking for the laptop the first time around, when you clearly explained that it was on the floor. If I understood correctly they said that they didn’t find it, after looking only in the seat pockets. Yeah. Instead of turning it in, they took it. As a previous commenter said, laptops don’t vanish. If they have such good customer service, I hope they manage to get it back to you.
That sux so bad about your computer, hopefully someone will find it and turn it over to Alaskan Air. Keep up the tweeting and posting, and bug the airlines until they are sick of hearing from you and find your computer.
I hope they find it! My bags were lost for over a week, and suddenly they found them no where near where we traveled! Hoping for good news for you soon!
I’m soooo sorry to hear your laptop hasn’t shown up yet! I’m so bummed for you It bugs me that some person out there took it, knows people are looking for it, and is chosing to keep it. What a jerk. Maybe I’m being cynical. I guess it’s possible that someone just hasn’t turned it in yet?
Still hoping that your laptop will somehow, magically show up! i think someone mentioned in the previous post about websites that could track the location of your laptop based on the ip address…maybe its worth looking into?
Laptop – Gus, car – Lucinda
(hugs from grey and chilly seattle)
Amanda M. says:
My laptop’s name is Nekopan. That’s Japanese for cat bread!
I still hold out hope that it’ll appear. I can’t help but wonder what the heck happened to it!
Oh no! I really hope someone has a change of heart and your laptop mysteriously turns up!!
Love the new font on your titles (or has it always been that font and I just now noticed??)
I knew you could handle this. I still hope your laptop shows up.
Aunt Becky says:
I want to write a song about your emo computer cord. If only I could sing songs about that.
I have a hard enough time naming my children, forget about electronic equipment.
I’m so sorry you’ve lost a link to your little one. That’s just horrible.
I’m sorry you haven’t found your laptop … I thought for sure it would turn up by now.
I just got my laptop. It’s not named… but now I feel bad for it after seeing all these other names… maybe I should ask for suggestions
I was REALLY hopeful that you would find it. Or better yet, that it would find you.
I’m still hopeful.
Expat Mom says:
I really, really hope they still find it for you. I’m very glad to hear that most of your stuff was backed up, that’s very good news.
So sorry to hear that your laptop never turned up : ( …
I named my laptop last year… her name is…
Ugh, I keep hoping you’ll report that you got a call that they found it or someone turned it in =( I am a very very sentimental person so I totally get that “things” can hold special meaning. I am so sorry, it really stinks!
Oh dear I know how you feel. My laptop was stolen from my locked bedroom by a family member. This happened the 2nd week of July, I’m still waiting on it’s return. I unlike you had nothing backed up and lost pictures of all 5 of my
nephews when they were born. I am hoping that both of our laptops make a safe return home! Oh did you try contacting the maker of the laptop, they may be able to track it through the serial number and the LAN that was in it!
Kristie McNealy says:
I’m so sorry it hasn’t turned up. Perhaps the airline might share your story with their employees and allow a way for it to be anonymously returned.
Don’t give up hope though. A few years ago, my wallet was stolen after I dropped it getting out of my car at the zoo. Some kids used it to buy cd’s before I even realized it was gone. About a month later, it magically turned up in the mail.
Michelle W says:
On my second visit to this same post I actually noticed the Emo power cord was expressing emotion. Sad indeed. But I am also relieved to know you had backed up most of Maddie’s pictures and a good portion of Annabel’s. Nevertheless I am still sad for you and recognize this as a loss not of something just of financial value but emotional as well.
I will keep holding out hope.
sooo funny…..i can’t believe how you can keep your sense of humor in a bummer situation like this. i hope that it turns up!!!
So sorry about your computer. As for names, I had named my one computer Johnny 5 (from the movie Short Circuit). =-)
I am so sorry Heather, like your emo power cord..
I was so upset when your computer wasn’t recovered! Boo on bad humans who steal, yay for good customer service.
I do name things, like Grant the Volvo and Beauregard the arm chair. I don’t name technology. My iPod, HP, etc. remain unnamed. Except my baby computer (netbook) is Hermione. Oh yeah.
PS: Love the new design!
Poor Don Juan!
Michelle W says:
On a separate note but totally related?! I highly recommend Carbonite for backing up your data. My husband who has an IT business recommends it to everyone. The great thing about it is you don’t have to remember to back anything up it does it automatically and if something/anything happens to your computer you won’t lose everything permanently. I wish I had thought to tell you about it before all of this….
Neat – new blog design! Like.
The new design looks great!
So sorry about your laptop. I am currently typing from Matilda II (Matilda the first was a first-gen iMac, then I had a PC, which I don’t think you can name, then back to Mac). I really hope it makes its way back to you eventually.
FWIW, my laptop is not backed up at all. Because I am a retard. Going to look at external drives now…
That it the reason I don’t take my laptop anywhere, I would totally forget it.I was desktop only for so long, it’s not automatic for me to look for it. When I was in the hospital, my husband brought me the cheap-o netbook, rather than my macbook, because i’d rather replace the 200 dollar dell if something happened.
And my laptop’s name is iMaximus.
A friend of mine just suggested this website to another friend who’s laptop was stolen, supposedly it’s free and helps you track down who has your laptop. I thought of you – maybe it will work? I hope you can get it back…. anyway – here’s the web address:
I lost all our early videos of our first born, and I know how sad I am about that, but at least I still have him; I can’t imagine your heartbreak.
I hope you gave AA permission to share your story, and that those aren’t “just kid photos”. I also hope you’ve filed a police report. It really seems to be more of a criminal matter now