Annie has two new obsessions: cooking shows/videos, and making pizza. If I’d let her, she’d watch the Food Network and YouTube cooking tutorials all day. When Mike jokingly said to her, “Annie, you should have your own cooking show,” she flipped her lid. She asked us every day for weeks if she could “have a…
Canonizing The Deceased
August 29th, 2013Comments: 29
We all know how once someone dies, their biggest faults are often forgotten. Generally, this is okay. It’s good for those who remain to let go of pettiness and past hurts and focus on the happy moments. At funerals, we put them up on pedestals and that is where they remain in our memory. This…
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Preschool Pressure
August 29th, 2013Comments: 23
Preschool starts next week for Annie, and at parent orientation the school administrator made a point of emphasizing that the kids need to be relatively self-sufficient. This means, among other things, that the kids will be expected to be able to open their lunch bags and go to the bathroom unassisted. “Annie’s got that,” I…
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Balancing Act
August 28th, 2013Comments: 35
Today should have been Madeline’s first day of Kindergarten. Her late birthday would have put her in transitional kindergarten last year, but today would have been the big day. The pictures, the first time with a backpack, the whole shebang. Kindergarten is a huge milestone, and it’s another one that she is missing. I am…
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I think there’s a general feeling out there that once something truly bad happens to you, nothing bad will ever happen to you again. Or more specifically, nothing bad should ever happen to you again. When I was pregnant with Annabel and I’d mention my fear of something going wrong with her pregnancy, countless people would…
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