I hadn’t tried to take Annie to the movies for about six months – not since the Finding Nemo debacle – so you can imagine my surprise when she asked me out of nowhere if we could go see a movie. I was a little nervous about how things would go considering our last trip, but everything went great: she sat still and wore the 3D glasses the whole time, laughed her little head off, and even thanked me for taking her on the way home. Too cute, right? But here’s the thing… I’m not sure how much of the movie she actually understood.
“Look, Dad! I’m wearing the glasses!”
The movie, Escape From Planet Earth, was very little kid friendly, but it did have some elements about aliens, Area 51, and the government that undoubtedly went over her head. Later, when I asked her what the movie was about, she had a hard time answering, but she had no problem telling me about her favorite parts – when “Gary got a forehead” (that’s Annie-speak for a brain freeze) and “when they got married.” So while her grasp of plot may be a little iffy, it’s clear that things she can personally relate to, like brain freezes (our ice cream fanatic has had more than her share) and weddings (her recent obsession), really speak to her.
If plot is tough for little kids to grasp, you can forget about sub-text or theme. Last weekend we watched Wreck-It Ralph, and at the end I asked her what her favorite part was.
“When Vanellope became a princess!”
If you haven’t seen the movie, Vanellope is a tomboy-ish little girl who turns into a princess at the end, then rejects being a princess in order to stay true to her tomboy self.
“But after she became a princess she decided that wasn’t who she was, remember?” I said. “That’s why she went back to dressing the way she did before, because that was the real Vanellope.”
Annie just stared at me with a blank expression.
“Never mind,” I said. “I liked it when she turned into a princess, too.”
Annie smiled. “Princess Vanellope! Yay!”
We had a similar experience after watching the movie Enchanted. We were “playing Giselle” (basically where we role play the movie), and Annie kept talking about how much Giselle loved Prince Edward (the James Marsden character).
“Well,” I said, opening my big, stupid mouth again. “In the end she finds that she doesn’t love the prince, that she’s actually in love with Robert (Patrick Dempsey).”
Annie whipped her head toward me, horrified. “The…Daddy?”
(Clearly, the thought of a princess liking a daddy that way is inconceivable.)
Kids see movies a lot differently than we do, but I’m okay with that so long as Annie continues to like going to the movies with her old man. And, in time, she will develop an understanding of things like plot and theme. In fact, she’s already started to ask a LOT of questions during movies (“Who’s that?” “Why’d he say that?” Where’d she go?”), which shows me she’s trying to piece things together. Here’s hoping she figures it out sooner rather than later… I’m still looking for someone to explain Cloud Atlas to me.
Auntie_M says:
A princess in love with a daddy???? The horror of it all!!! Heaven forbid!!
I dare you to introduce her to Robert Munsch’s book “The Paperbag Princess”!!! That one will blow her mind! I have a 10 yr old niece who still doesn’t get why Princess Elizabeth would reject Prince Ronald at the end. She gets that he was a a jerk…but how Elizabeth could be happy after ditching him is beyond her!!! LOL I love it &the read it to them just about every time they spend the night! (Seriously though, it’s a great book & fine for Annie’s age grp)
Kate says:
I’m a huge fan of Disney movies and went to see Wreck-it-Ralph in the theaters. I was the only adult there without kids. It was a really interesting social experiment, because there were definitely parts that the kids laughed at (like Vanellope’s name-calling) that the adults didn’t really respond to . . . and moments that the adults all laughed really hard at and the kids were confused by.
I actually left the theater thinking that Wreck-it-Ralph isn’t really a little kid’s movie, because I think a lot of the themes and morals really don’t work until you have a little more self awareness. Or so I will say in order to justify the fact that it has made me cry literally every time I’ve seen it.
Gail says:
I was just watching Free Willy last night with my 4 year old daughter for the first time. The questions…oh the questions! Things you NEVER have EVER contemplated about Willy and Jesse, she demanded the answer. Finally I realized that if I answered simply enough, she accepted. Darn smart kids.
Lisa says:
I need someone to explain Cloud Atlas to me too….we almost walked out it was so confusing/bad. And I couldn’t understand Tom Hanks half the time.
Anna says:
Teach Annie to press her tongue against the roof of her mouth when she gets a brain freeze. Works every time!
Veronika says:
If you’re not too opposed to Japanese movies, you can try getting her copies of My Neighbor Totoro and Ponyo on the cliffs by the sea. My 3yo loves those at the moment and they don’t have complicated plots. In my experience, a lot of Disney animated movies are really aimed at the adults. The humor and plots are just way over the little kids’ heads. We still watch the Disney stuff too and she loves her some princesses. Her favorite is Brave, but Ponyo and Totoro are amazing and a must see, for adults and kids. I guarantee you and Heather will be laughing and enjoying them too.
Mary says:
Now that you name the movie Giselle, haven’t you noticed the uncanny resemblance between your wife and Amy Adams?? ; )
Mike says:
Hi Mary,
Yes, I’ve definitely noticed Heather’s resemblance to Amy Adams! In fact, five years ago or so Heather wrote a silly post about what celebrities our family members most look like, and even then the choice for Heather was Amy Adams because of how often she was told they look alike! Here’s that post if you’re curious: http://www.thespohrsaremultiplying.com/family-and-friends/now-casting/