As a former teacher, I know that when teachers get down they often worry their students are forgetting everything the minute they leave the classroom. This may be the case sometimes (it definitely was with my junior year Physics class – sorry Mr. Calignia) but not always. In fact, there are things my teachers did that I can still remember clear as a bell even though they happened 20-30 years ago.
Unfortunately, not all of these things were great, and some were actually kind of messed up. Here are three examples of messed up things my teachers did that I will never forget.
The Kiss
Out of the entire first grade the thing I remember the most happened on the last day of school. Our teacher, Mrs. Bertolatti, announced that, before we could be dismissed for the Summer, we each had to come to the front of the room and give her a kiss on the cheek. I nearly fell out of my seat.
“I’M GOING TO HAVE TO KISS…HER?!?!!?”
My classmates were equally horrified, and I’m pretty sure a few of us considered waiting out the Summer in the classroom as an alternative to puckering up. Soon Mrs. Bertolatti began calling students up alphabetically, and as she worked through the alphabet I felt sick to my stomach.
“Psst,” the kid next to me said. “You don’t actually have to kiss her. Just lick two of your fingers and press them against her cheek. She’ll never know!” The kid next to me did just that when it was his turn (crafty, little bastard) but I was too afraid I might get caught. I forced myself to kiss her, and I’ll never forget how wet her cheek was from having been kissed by twenty slobbering kids before me. Blech.
“I Know What You’re Going Through”
When I was fourteen I went through an awkward period, a fact which made starting high school at a school where my older sister was a pretty cheerleader difficult. On the first day there, for example, I overheard a cute sophomore say to her friend, “That is Monica’s brother? Ugh. Sadness. I was hoping he would be hot.” As hurtful as that comment was, however, it was nothing compared to the one my Speech teacher made apropos of nothing one day.
“You know, Mike, I know what you’re going through,” she began. “I was the ugly sibling too, and I hated that my sister got all the attention. But you know what I did? I focused on my academics to distinguish myself. You should try that.”
I slumped out of class unsure of what I should be more offended by: having been called “ugly,” or the inference that I wasn’t trying hard in school.
Discipline
This last story isn’t really messed up, it’s actually pretty cool, but I can’t pass up the chance to tell it. My sixth grade teacher, Mrs. Pierce, had a reputation as a great teacher who was very strict, and while she was strict, my fellow students and I respected her tremendously because we were learning so much. We also understood that we were lucky to have her because she was in her sixties and soon to retire.
One day a woman suddenly screamed outside the classroom. We all turned and looked out the window to see our female principal being attacked by a hulking sixth grade boy who, in retrospect, clearly had a lot of emotional problems. Mrs. Pierce dropped her math book, then bolted across the room and threw open the classroom door. The other students and I ran to the window just in time to see Mrs. Pierce tackle the kid like she was Lawrence Taylor herself. After seeing that, you can bet we were well behaved the rest of the year.
For the record I also remember a lot of terrific, inspirational moments with teachers, but those don’t make for nearly as interesting stories. Man, thinking about this stuff makes me glad I’m no longer in school. It could be a messed up place sometimes, couldn’t it?
TamaraL says:
Your last story immediately brought to mind a story about my third grade teacher, who I luckily only had for the last half of the school year. We had a problem student in our class and one day, as the teacher was walking around the room, that student TRIPPED our teacher! She fell, hit her head on the chalk tray of the board, and passed out. In a mobile unit full of third graders. Freaked us out!
She wasn’t a great teacher, but she didn’t deserve that. Still, I’m glad I didn’t have her long. I did have many other great teachers though. Great teachers are worth their weight in gold!!
Elinor says:
In 6th grade there was a kid who barked at me, any time I spoke, passed his desk, or otherwise made my presence known. Sometime around the middle of the year my Mom sent me to school with a dog bone to give to this kid the next time he barked… I did and was then given a weeks detention for bullying. I knew even then that the kid had problems but since he only barked at me it’s not like he couldn’t control the barking. I think it was at that moment that school lost it’s pleasure for me. The teachers should have interceded well before that point or at least explained why I was being punished and why he could keep barking at me. That is my defining memory of school…
JMH (Jill) says:
As an elementary teacher for 18 years, I have many crazy stories about school…..maybe one day I will write a book!
TonyaM says:
What the hell, Mrs. I know What You’re Going Through?! Although, Mrs. Kiss Me follows a close second. I just want to hug Young Mike. I do not, not, not miss being in school. Or teaching school for that matter. And with a daughter heading to middle school this year, I’m dreading what that may bring.
defendUSA says:
Yikes…I had a teacher who actually told me I was dumb. in Seventh grade, I was struggling in math, with one concept. I was staying after school for help and that is what she said to me. “You’re not here for help, you can’t be helped, you’re dumb.”
Mrs. O’brien, somewhere up there is a nun waiting to blister your knuckles with a ruler.
giselle says:
Mrs. Kenner. She was the thorn on my side in 8th grade. She was my algebra teacher and she had it out for me. She would poke fun at me in class and try to embarrass me by saying things about me liking the boys sitting next to me (which I did, luckily she assumed it was the wrong one, so it was a little less embarrassing!) She also stopped my friend in the hallway when we were walking and asked her why she was friends with me because I was so pathetic.
It actually was a bad scene. I threw up every morning from anxiety of having to see her. It’s been 16 years and I’m still a little traumatized, but at least now I’m on anxiety meds.
I hope Annie never goes through bullying from a teacher like I did.
Emily E says:
When I was in the sixth grade, one of our teachers had a complete mental breakdown in our class one day. She started screaming at us, ran out of the room, and didn’t come back for 6 weeks. That was definitely memorable.
Molly (different Molly) says:
Oh man, the first one is just weird. The second one, seriously WTF. You are adorable Mike, don’t believe a word that mean lady said! and the third, she sounds like a total badass.
Chris says:
Having gone to uh, 14 different schools before graduating HS thanks to my dad’s constant promotions I have a LOT of stories, but the one that sticks with me the most is from third grade. I was way ahead of the class, and while they easily let me do independent study and additional reading for that portion of the day, and additional writing, etc. When it came to math, they wouldn’t let me have any supplementary work. I was finishing math work in 5 minutes, and sitting there bored out of my mind (and getting it all perfect). The kicker: there was a boy in the class who they brought in alegbra to entertain. When I asked for that, I was told no because I was a girl. Straight out told in the early 1980s I couldn’t learn alegbra because I was a girl. Welcome to my spiraling hatred for math. I already knew everything we were doing in class that year. No amount of intervention from my parents got anything done, and I was bored by math the rest of the year, all because girls didn’t need to learn alegbra. Ha!
Summer says:
I work in education (kindergarten) and my mantra is “You never know when you’re making a memory” I use it in everyday life as well. I strive to leave people with something good. I can see by your posts that you and Heather strive for the same thing.
Lissa says:
My go-to horrible teacher story was from college. I was in a 2-year technical program, only 30-some students in the program my year. Before our last final (microbiology, the toughest class), the program director came up to the front and gave the whole class a 20 minute lecture about what losers we all were and what horrible apathetic mean-spirited people we were. Then, he invited us to all just not come back in the fall. Because we were the most horrible class ever and none of us deserved to be in this field.
That was 8 years ago and since my graduation I have lectured, become a supervisor and acquired an advanced specialty certification, putting me in the top 200 in my field in the country. Take that, Mr. Teeple!
Liz says:
I had a sixth grade math teacher who, when I gave an incorrect answer to a math problem in front of the class, announced that I should, “make sure to marry a wealthy man, because I was never going to be able to do math.” I went on to take the bare minimum of math credits to graduate high school and college. Irony is that I’m now a teacher and yes, I DO teach math…granted it’s 2nd grade math, BUT STILL…
Sonya aka Glam-O-Mommy says:
Oh Mike, this brought back two memories for me immediately.
#1-In third grade, I lived in Blytheville, Arkansas (my dad was military). We switched classes everyday for reading. My reading teacher was an elderly lady named Mrs. Lipscomb. We had been learning about the difference between “Fact” and “Fiction” in reading class. At the beginning of December, my friends and I walked into Mrs. Lipscomb’s class for reading to see she had put up two new bulletin boards. One was titled “Fact” and had a picture of the Nativity scene. The other was titled “Fiction” and had a picture of Santa Claus. And that is how the entire third grade of Gosnell Elementary School learned there is no Santa Claus. To this day, I think she should’ve been fired. That woman had no heart and she sure broke all of ours!
#2-My sophomore year of high school, now in San Antonio, I was a straight-A student ranked second in my class of 800+ students (I graduated Salutatorian two years later). My history teacher nominated me for one of those end-of-the-year awards and I was surprised to receive the award at the assembly and touched that this teacher nominated me-she wasn’t my favorite teacher and I didn’t know she would do that. So afterwards, I went up to thank her for nominating me for the award and her reply to me was, and I quote, “You’re a really smart girl. Just don’t mess up your life by getting pregnant or doing drugs.” Now, I’m not disputing this life advice for high school students AT ALL. However, she said it kind of harshly like a reprimand and I didn’t feel like I had done anything to make her expect this outcome! And it took me like 20 more years to get pregnant and I’ve never done drugs-ha!-so I guess I followed it nonetheless, but it offended me at the time!
I certainly had some great teachers too, but man do the bad experiences stay with you!
Annalisa says:
Boy, that Mrs. Pierce!
And boy have times changed! When I was going through my teaching program five years or so ago, I was told that it was absolutely important for teachers not to break up a physical assault ourselves, so that neither we nor the school should be sued. Also, that often restraining violent students would result in physical injuries on my person. Mind you, I was going to teach elementary school!
(For the record: I’ve broken up a couple of kid fights anyway… and then there was the preschooler that almost kicked me in my belly because he was mad at me for telling him he was out in a game of tag when I was five months pregnant, and only missed me because another teacher got between us. Good times.)
Alexandra says:
I was homeschooled for most of my life (up until sophomore year of high school) but in first grade I was in a family school program-half day homeschooling and half day public school. My mom told my teacher at the beginning of the year that I had mild ADHD and she was not planning on putting me on medication. For the entire school year, every time there was a broken object in the classroom the teacher assumed that I had broken it-and announced to all the other kids that I had broken it-even though nine times out of ten I hadn’t. A little over halfway through the school year, I had a fight with my best friend Ria over a game of tetherball at recess. The teacher kindly took me aside and gave me a lolipop and told me to give it to Ria and apologize to her because I was lucky that anyone would be friends with me. Hint: if any teacher ever had the right to say that to their student, it sure as heck wouldn’t be a seven-year-old
Auntie_M says:
OMG! If I’d had to kiss my 1st grade teacher, I’d have gagged…I’d have done it but I’d have gagged! Gross & grossly inappropriate!
As for Ms, I-Know-What-You’re-Going-Thru…WTH???? Talk about a left-handed compliment! (says the left-hander)
You know, it’s amazing any of us make it through school at all–let alone go on to want to teach school! Perhaps it’s the righteousness in us: wanting to be the good memory that a child has that prompts some of us to get teaching degrees!