Parenting can be very scary, so much so that every once in a while something happens that knocks the wind out of you.
Yesterday Annie and I were in the backyard playing with her bubble gun when I remembered that Heather had asked me to use the hose to knock out some spider webs on the side of the house. I put down the bubble gun and told Annie it was time to switch gears.
“Can I help, Daddy?”
“Sure,” I said, then turned on the faucet and pulled out the hose. I started blasting away at the spider webs when Annie suddenly ran toward where we’d left the bubble gun. The next thing I knew I heard a very loud crack followed by Annie’s shrieking. I dropped the hose and charged over to find Annie flat on her back in a puddle of water that had trickled out of the faucet. I quickly realized what had happened. The water had mixed with the bubbles from Annie’s bubble gun to make the ground super slippery, and Annie had slipped and smacked the back of her head against the ground.
I raced Annie inside, trying to console her as she continued to wail at the top of her lungs. I could have used someone to console me, though, as all I could think about was the thud her head made against the ground.
Once inside I told Heather what happened and she grabbed her phone to call her mom. In hindsight it’s kind of funny because within seconds we had probably a dozen people – Heather, her parents, her cousin, friends near and far – Googling about head injuries to children.
As this was happening Annie started to say that she was tired and wanted to sleep. This scared us to death because we’d always heard that you should never let anyone sleep after a head injury. I did my best to keep her awake until Dr. Google made it clear that the “no going to sleep” rule was not true, and that kids, in fact, often want to sleep after a head injury to help them recover. There were warning signs, however, that everyone’s research said to watch out for including:
Thankfully, Annie didn’t pass out, throw up, or have slurred speech, and as much as I annoyed her by making her walk across the room, she was walking normally, too. The only warning sign that fit Annie was that she was inconsolable for a long time. Eventually, though, she fell asleep, and we obsessively watched her doze (even nudging her awake every ten minutes to make sure she was okay).
After about an hour she sat up and started to cry again until Heather sat next to her holding James. Annie stopped crying and asked if she could hold her brother. Heather put James into Annie’s lap and Annie cuddled her brother and told him what happened. It was very sweet, and a relief to see her calm again. That night we checked on her through the night every couple of hours – it wasn’t hard since we were usually up with James anyway – and in the morning she cheerfully announced, “I feel better!”
Heather might roll her eyes when she reads this next part because between the two of us I’m definitely the bigger worrywart/over-protector, but all things considered I’m surprised at how well I’ve been able to cope with knowing that anything can happen to our kids at any time. Having been in the room with Madeline when the worst possible thing happened, it’s now impossible for me not to go there in my mind when something scary happens. But though I may freak out for a second, I quickly get a hold of myself. Today, though I may still be a little shaky, I’ve put what happened this weekend behind me. It’s the only way to live, really. If I spent every second paranoid that I might lose Annie or James the way I lost Maddie I wouldn’t be living much of a life.
Still, it’s all damn scary, and you don’t have to have lost a child to know how true that is when something happens to your kid. I can’t tell you how happy I am that Annie is okay and back to trolling for ice cream.
You are the parent and you did neglect her…next time keep her by your side at all times so she does not go through the pain you put her through…simple as that!!!!
I could not roll my eyes harder at this comment. Jenny obviously does not have kids, or common sense..
Really – a 3 and half year old should be at “your side at all times”? How exactly is a child going to explore and learn when tied to a parent’s apron strings?
Kitty @ LambAround: Life with my Sexy Nerd says:
Wait…was Jenny’s child in her lap as she typed this at 1:08am? Or was her child all alone, unsupervised in bed, while mommy selfishly used the computer? NEGLECT!
Oh my gosh, Kitty, thanks for the laugh! I needed that after my eyes almost rolled so much that I could see my own brain.
Best comment award goes to Kitty. Perfection.
Oh Jenny….oh goodness… I have very few words for this utter stupidity. Kids will be kids. Accidents happen. Thats life. Mike did everything right.
Oh please, did you really actually just type that??
OMG – I can not believe that someone would leave a comment like that. The comment makes no sense at all as any parent will know. But it is also unbelievably rude and hateful!
This is too ridiculous to even merit a legit response.
Seriously, thanks for the laugh.
Perfect comment to the worst comment. I’m still laughing at ‘neglect.’ Please.
Um, what the hell? It’s called life…we are all living it..and we can’t keep them by our sides at all times. That’s how they learn independence and trust.
Mike, what a touching post. I’m glad to read that she’s ok..and the trolling for ice cream line made me giggle.
Jenny is an IDIOT. The end! As for you, Mike.. You and Heather did everything right. I personally think you are both awesome parents!
Wow Jenny – Maybe they should be holding her hand at all times, even when she is walking through the house as she could slip on the floor and fall. You definately do not have children or if you do, you are the “neglectful” one by not letting them live. Grow up and grow a brain….simple as that!!!!
This is the dumbest comment. I’d like to represent the other “Jenny’s” and let you know that we are not all such judgemental, condescending harpies.
I’m glad that Annie is okay. I’m also glad that you don’t try to make her live in bubble wrap.
RIDICULOUS!! Seriously RIDICULOUS!
This is sarcasm. Right? Must be.
Colleen MN says:
I can’t tell if this is a joke or not. If you were serious, you are waaaaay off base. You can’t have a three, two or even one year old by your side every second, that is ridiculous and completely unhealthy for both the parent and child. This was an accident and accidents will happen. If you were serious, shame on you for saying that.
This has to be a joke. She had to be kidding…. Right? Wow.
An almost 4 year old who never leaves a parent’s side, even for a second? Lol!! Omg.
I thought it was a joke too. Hopefully she comes back and realizes that people took it seriously and explains that it was sarcasm (sarcasm sometimes gets lost on the Internet) If she wasnt kidding then she must not have EVER been around kids. If she does have kids they are going to wind up going nuts because of the helicopter Mom mentality. LEAVE ME ALONE MOM
No matter what Heather and Mike do as parents, they could never fail as miserably as your parents did Jenny.
I keep reading this comment trying to determine if it’s real or sarcastic… nope, i still don’t know, but i am hoping for sarcastic.
Damita H says:
There is a part of me that thinks that you’re being sarcastic and trying to be funny. But there’s a bigger part of me that thinks that you’re serious. What a jerk you are for that comment. Accidents happen and this was nothing but a freak accident. He did not neglect his daughter and you should be ashamed for even posting this.
This isn’t a serious comment, is it?!?
Can’t be! It’s just too ridiculous to be anything but sarcasm!
But just in case it is a serious comment….it sounds like someone must have kicked Jenny in the head as a child, causing her intelligence to leak out her ear.
Annie would have still slipped and fallen, even if she was tethered to Mike’s side. Standing next to a parent does not shield you from injury, believe it or not.
What’s more, if Mike was standing beside Annie, he could have slipped too, possibly landing on Annie and making the injury much worse.
Wrap her in bubble wrap, if you must. But beware that the tape may give her a skin rash….
What. An. Idiot.
This is either a joke, or Jenny’s sick need to get negative attention. No other option makes sense.
I really hope this is bad joke, because NO ONE should be accused of neglect regarding an accident.
How RIGHT you are. He is the PARENT – not YOU. He did have her by his side – did you not read that they were OUTSIDE TOGETHER? He didn’t go IN the house he was OUT with her.
According to Jenny you must go buy a tether and leash and keep Annie within 12 inches of you at ALL TIMES. This means you are no longer allowed bathroom breaks, sleep, or intimate time alone with your wife.
PS to Dearest Jenny: FUCK OFF!
PS to Dearest Mike: You are doing a fantabulous job with your children. Annie thinks you hung the moon and the stars. Nothing you did was your fault or ANYONE’s fault. She’s fine. Oh, and give that girl some ice cream.
Awww those dang bubbles bubbles! I’
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Parenting IS scary, Mike but you don’t need any of us to tell you and Heather this. You also don’t need anyone judging you.
Sorry about Jenny. Sometimes, in order for some people to feel better about themselves, they need to make others feel bad.
You and Heather rock!
I am a long time reader but first time commenter. I have no kids of my own (yet) but have a nephew and a MUCH younger sister. And I know and have seen how in a split second, kids can get into trouble or get hurt. It certainly doesn’t make you a bad parent, in any way.
I just wanted to say this after reading Jenny’s comment, it’s ridiculous. Since she’s so worried about being neglectful, maybe she shouldn’t have wasted her time leaving such a pointless, hateful comment.
I’m glad Annie is doing better.
Love you guys!
I agree Mike, it is scary, especially when you can’t expect sensible responses when you ask them how they’re feeling.
I was looking after a friends 1 year old once and he slipped and cracked the back of his head HARD on the flagstone floor. Cue 4 hours of crying, total stress and a trip to the doctor. In the car park outside the emergency doctor he let out a massive belch then promptly went to sleep. I always wonder whether we’d have taken him had he not hit his head! We laugh about it now but I still shudder when I think about the sound his little head made.
These things happen, your attitude is perfect for dealing with the more scary moments!
My daughter just turned 3 and recently did the same thing- slipped in bubble mixture on the slick concrete floor of the garage and cracked the back of her head hard on the floor. Thankfully no blood was shed and she only had a goose egg for a day.. But that sound! That horrible cracking sound of her head hitting the concrete was sickening! Blech!
I’m glad Annie recovered quickly!!!
You certainly can’t be with your kids at all times. When my son was 2 we were at the small playground at our library and he peeked through the rails and he toppled through. It was horrible to watch it happen as he flipped and it really looked like he landed on his head and I thought for sure he had broken his neck. He was stunned but fine. Now he is just 6 and he was recently piling pillows on the arm of the couch and fell backwards. Ouch! I still remember that thud (he landed on an area rug) and seemed fine. A few hours later he said he was tired, which never happens. I laid down with him at bedtime and after an hour I roused him. He woke with such violent puking. At his physical his doctor said they would have liked to have seem him since it was most likely a concussion. Just let her doctor know so it is documented for when she is older and playing sports. I am glad to hear she is feeling back. Luckily they usually seem to bounce back quickly!
Yes, we all know that horrible sick feeling in your stomach. Things happen so fast and all you can do is respond just like you guys did – with love and attention and taking it seriously. You guys handled it like rockstars.
We too have been victim to the concrete/bubble slickness! Thankfully toddler heads seem to be so sturdy. Glad Annie is feeling better!
Anyone who has been a parent to a child that crawls or walks know that it is not possible to watch them every second. And even if you are watching them you still can’t prevent all mishaps. Heck, I was actually holding onto my then 2 year old and she managed to wedge her head between a handrail and the wall. It scared us but we managed to get her free. I’m sorry Annie was hurt but so glad she is better.
might be a good idea to have her head checked anyway, because- not to scare you- sometimes bleeds don’t show a lot of symptoms until days later. she’s probably fine, though, but never hurts just to make sure and have that relief.
sidenote to jenny: annie would grow up having no freedom if they treated her that way. i experienced that as a child.
Yup, so so scary.
I had a scare earlier this summer that I still haven’t recovered from. At the lake, with my friend who also has a 4 year old. The two girls were playing in the shallow water very nicely, about ten feet from where we were standing. I looked at my friend while talking for literally 10 second, and when I looked back up, I couldn’t find my little one ANYWHERE.
I was shouting her name – no response. Frantically looking — didn’t see her. Then I see some splashing about 10 feet out. I was CONVINCED that was her, struggling to get to the surface. I threw my sunglasses and ran into the water with my clothes on…..
And then it turned out my daughter was just standing 5 feet away from me the whole time! Too engrossed in digging in the sand to respond to my shouting her name. And the splashing was from some kids throwing rocks into the lake from the shore. But I was shaking and my heart did not stop pounding for HOURS. GAH!
Thanks for the post. I’m so glad that Annie’s ok. Parenting is very scary. I was just talking to my Dad about it recently and he said, “You still worry when they’re older.” Oh, great! My daughter is 4 and fell down our stairs in April. I’m still recovering from her accident, but she’s fine! I think that’s funny. We’re usually very good at making sure the gate is closed, but it got left open on accident and she got out of bed unexpectedly and fell. We think she thought the gate was locked and tried to lean on it, so we have a new rule, don’t touch the gate! The incident was further complicated by her heart defect and the heart surgery she had 9 months earlier and the fact that she was on blood thinners. She had 2 days in the hospital and 3 CT’s, but thankfully she had no injuries, just a few bruises. We got very, very lucky. It was the scariest moment of my life and I still hear the sound of her falling when I think about it. It was awful. Anyway, accidents happen even when we’re the most careful parents and with a child with a serious heart defect, we’re pretty careful! Who would have thought the water would mix with the bubbles and make Annie fall? What a fluke!
I too thought that comment had to be sarcasm. Who is able to get their 3 year-old to stand still, let alone without arms reach. Even when they are within reach – something like that happens so fast. I have really quick reflexes but even I have missed catching the kiddos a time or two.
Last night – the two year-old ran for the road as soon as I took him from his carseat. He had never done that before. I outran him and scooped him up just in time (quiet street but you never know) but my heart still goes into my throat when I think about it.
I pray you and Heather never have another tear shed in your lives for all you have been through but that just is not possible…
God bless your family!
Jacquie Holley says:
WTF..what a dumb ass! Jenny why even post on here? You obviously do not have children and thank god!!!
Glad she (and you!) are okay! This reminded me of when my (now 13) newborn son rolled off the couch when he was just a 4 days old. This was the days before we had google and I remember calling everyone I knew to see what to do. We both cried and cried but he was ok. I felt awful because I was sitting right next to him but newborns aren’t supposed to roll!!He’s been shocking me by doing the unexpected for the last 13 years.
Annie is a tough girl! So sorry she got hurt. I’m glad you are able to separate what happened to Maddie with all accidents that may happen with Annie and James.
My brother once cracked his head open (and got 10 stitches) from flipping out of a rocking chair and hitting his head on the coffee table. My mom had put him in time-out for rough housing.
I identify with this so completely, I HATE when people tell me not to worry so much about my kids because, after losing my daughter in my arms the unimaginable did happen and I can’t help but go there in my mind when things happen with my living children. Glad she is okay.
Ugh. When my daughter was 3 months old, I was folding laundry and had the brilliant idea of propping her up on pillows so she could watch me. I sat her up on the couch and then I sat down on the opposite side…… which promptly catapulted her into the air (seriously what the HELL was I thinking, I blame lack of sleep!) and onto the hardwood floor. Same thing – I’ll NEVER forget the noise, followed by the screaming. A huge goose egg followed, just starting at me, taunting me – BAD MOTHER, BAD MOTHER!!! I called my pediatrician, hysterical, who assured me she would be fine, and no, he was not going to call child protective services, and yes, it happens to everyone…… you did absolutely everything right. Glad your little princess is feeling better!
I cringed reading this. I’ve never felt the pain of a child passing, but I’m just as paranoid. My youngest once cut her forehead & when her Daddy came around the corner & all I saw was blood running down her face, it scared me to death!
I’m so glad Annie is doing ok!
My now 10year old daughter has fallen on her head. I know exactly the sound you are referring to. Its sickening. The first time she was trying to kick a ball at about 3. It was as if in a cartoon. Both feet went up over her head and she slammed down hard. Stood up wobbly. I took her to the e.r. she was fine. Then when she was 5 and I had a newborn she fell off her tricycle backwards. That one wasn’t nearly as hard as the first and it won her 2staples. bot h times I was less than a foot away watching her. It happens. Kids get hurt. Its no ones fault. It does not make you a bad parent. I am so glad she is feeling better. I even imagined she sang the I feel better song..I know my 5year old would.
I think almost every single parent has heard the sickening thud of at least one of their kids’ heads smacking hard against something during a fall. Childhood is full of accidents, and that doesn’t stop until they are at least 11 years old. My almost 10 year old daughter has bruises upon bruises because she is extremely clumsy and trips over her own two feet all the time. I certainly never dreamed of holding her hand every single second of the day; I just remind her not to run everywhere she goes. It is hard, especially once you’ve lost a child like we both have, to not be over-protective. You and Heather are amazing in that department. Don’t worry about Jenny’s comment, even though after reading your posts for so long I know that you will. As proved here by the remaining comments, you have a loyal following that loves hearing your funny and awesome stories of Annie and James. Keep up the good words (yes I meant to type “words”) and the fantastic parenting!
Expat Mom says:
Ouch! Poor Annie and poor you! It’s so terrifying to deal with injuries that kids go through. I used to be a first aid attendant at a construction site, so I saw some pretty gruesome stuff. But it never affected me the way one of my boys hurting themselves did.
With three little boys, I’ve gone through a few head thunking scenarios, including one where I was convinced my son had popped a hole in his skull. The worst injury though was when my oldest, then 5, was running at the soccer field, fell down and caught his hand on a piece of rusted wire. It ripped his hand wide open. I wasn’t there, but my husband came home with the kids and said, “I think you should take a look at Dorian’s hand. Don’t let him see.” Dorian was bopping along with a sock wrapped around his hand and when I unwrapped it, it shocked me and that’s saying something. He looked up at me and said, “Can you fix it, Mama?” and I had to say that this was one thing I couldn’t fix. It turned my stomach. In the end, he was perfectly fine, just missed every nerve and muscle in his hand, thank goodness. It’s terrifying being a parent though!
Ignore the rude, disrespectful comments like that of Jenny’s. Obviously she’s never had an accident of any kind happen to her or a child, even though I doubt that’s possible
I don’t have kiddos yet, but I have been an avid babysitter for quite some time. I am seriously accident prone myself, so I watch my kiddos like a HAWK when I’m babysitting. I was watching some kids I regularly babysit while their parents were doing some work at our church. We were outside in the church parking lot, and the boys (around 5 y/o) were playing games while I was hanging out with the older girl (about 7 y/o). I was watching the boys and they decided to ride one of the boys’ bikes around. Well, our church’s parking lot has a part where it declines, and the boys thought it would be fun to ride down it as fast as they could and see who rode it the fastest. B was riding and couldn’t control the bike, and ended up hitting a bump in the road and falling. I heard a blood curdling scream I’ll never get out of my head. He didn’t hurt himself too bad (thank goodness), but it terrified me. I blamed myself for not being a helicopter and letting the boys ride around where they’d get hurt, and was beyond frustrated with myself for it. The parents of course knew I couldn’t have controlled it and didn’t blame me for a second.
Point of my long-winded story: Accidents happen. Hell, accidents happen even when we aren’t kids. We can do our best to control our situation, but we can’t control everything, so things can always go awry without our noticing.
We do the best we can, and it is all we can do. Y’all do a great job, don’t let one little accident impede that.
Christina Bathan says:
My eldest son was always slipping and falling for one reason or another, and many times he looked like he had a unicorn horn, Be glad to know, he out grew his bumbling feet, is very musically inclined playing 10 instruments fluently, and had marched in the rose parade through High School with the the LA all city marching band, he is now in the Navy, and doing well…… So just know, a slip and fall once in a while isnt going to completely herm her, more ouchies then any thing, you and Heather did the right thing. As long as the ‘bump’ site doesnt dip inward you should be OK and as long as she is not doing any of the other things listed above……
Be fore warned, boys play way harder then girls at times lol
Bah, Jenny. I was watching my daughter play with my exercise ball the entire time, less than a foot away, and she slipped and fell from it and thud! Head hit the floor! I saw the entire thing, and it happened in a microsecond, such that I couldn’t catch her even though I tried. If Mike was neglectful, so was I.
And Mike, do give yourself kudos for JUST scooping her up and frantically googling “concussions”. In your shoes, I would have been driving to the hospital while my husband was home pondering where we had gotten off to. So, good job on keeping your cool.
I now have an 18-year-old who was sitting in the stroller on the front porch while I was sweeping it and fell out onto her head at about a year or so. That WAS my fault, and I felt terrible! This accident was not your fault. Bottom line is that accident happens. My daughter is no worse for the wear, and is heading to college next week!
My 2-year-old son (my daredevil) has smacked his head twice in the last month in rather dramatic, traumatizing fashions. (Once he fell out of a kiddie pool onto my in-laws’ deck, resulting in a smashed face and a rush to the doctor to make sure he didn’t break his nose. Once he tumbled through the air after leaping off his toddler bed. I walked in the room as it happened and screamed a horror movie scream as I watched the way his head hit the floor.) Kids are scary. Head injuries are scary. You did great, Mike!
Abby Leviss says:
I have to wonder if “Jenny” has visited my blog. There are so many idiots trolling the internet looking to make parents feel bad – especially parents who’ve lost children. What a dummy!
Things like that happen to kids all of the time. They just do and they aren’t anyone’s fault but they SURE ARE scary!
I have four daughters and believe me this is the just one of the many bumps and bruises. You actually did better than most parents would have. My two year old was playing in the back yard as I watched… she ran and couldn’t stop. She hit her head on the brick wall and immediatley received a HUGE knot on her forehead. I was not as calm and didnt google. I took her to the ER where they did EXACTLY what you did.. just watch over and have her drink from a cup and watch her walk. SOOO you deserve a gold star. Happy Parenting!! As for the comment.. Please dont even feel like you need to address it. Parents know this happens.
Poor Annie! When my son was Annie’s age he flipped over the back of a chair and hit his forehead on the fireplace. That thud…ugh…worst sound ever. As far as the bubbles go, I hate accidents that you can’t foresee! Who would have ever thought that would happen?? Such a freaky thing. Glad you are ALL okay!!
I have to commend you as parents for doing everything you possible could for your daughter. Accidents do happened. Thanks for sharing this posts. I’m glad she is okay!
So scary. My heart went out to you and Heather. I think after reading your blog and so many others where beautiful children have gone to Heaven too soon, I am so paranoid and think just like you. It’s unfortunate that this is where my mind goes but I can’t help it…so I can only imagine how you feel with Annie and James. Funny…I would’ve called my mom immediately too and I just learned from you by reading this that the whole not falling asleep after a head injury is not true! SO happy that sweet Annie is ok and feeling better…ah, holding her little brother made it all better. Thank God for him
You can’t possible be there at all times. I watched my kids climb up the stairs and go head first into the molding (split face open above eyebrow), trip and fall and break her frenulum, trip and take a header into a wooden Ikea footstool (busted face open). You can’t allow a child to grow up constantly at arms length without them being neurotic. I want to foster some independance into my two. Accidents happen, that’s why they are called accidents.
Debbie A-H (editdebs) says:
Oh, this just made me want to give you such a big hug, Mike. Glad Annie’s okay, and glad you are so smart about this stuff. So sorry you had to learn in the very worst, most painful way. You are a great dad.
Hi! My name is Jacquie and I too have neglected my children.
Keaton was playing outside and fell into the Dora trampoline resulting in a black eye. Karmyn was hit shmucked in the eye with something that gave her a black eye. Jillian had a tooth fall out when she hit a rock riding her scooter while we were walking. Morgyn got kicked in the finger playing soccer and broke her pinkie.
Um just a small list of kids being kids while they were not “attached” to my side as hello we dont live in that kind of world.
Unless I am missing something Jenny?? Accidents happen…. To all of us parents out there. it is life.
Glad Annie is ok and I seriously hope Jenny failed at sarcasm with her comment…
If you were to look up overprotected mother, you would see my smiling face. Give Mike a break, things happen.
When I was 6 my brother and I were sitting on the arms of a big lazy boy chair. I watched him slip off and fall backwards from it. Couldn’t catch him. He broke his arm. Scared the hell out of me, ran to get my mom and dad who were in the kitchen. Right before that happened we were just watching Fraggle Rock. Two seconds.
I’m glad she’s okay. And it is so cute she told James. My brother shared his popsicle with me when he got home with his red cast.
Luckily, kids are DESIGNED to take hits to the head. Their skull, besides not being fully formed so it can grow, also is designed to take some pretty serious knocks. A major warning sign in kids her age is her NOT crying when she hit the floor. Actually anyone who is really quiet after a serious injury (car accident, fall etc) at any age, may be in shock or have head trauma.
Glad she seems to be ok. Keep an eye on her for a few days, some head trauma is sneaky, but I bet she’s just fine
Jenny C says:
Not the Jenny above lol. Scary but those things happen but that sound! When my oldest was 3 she ran ahead of me on the first day of swim lessons at the Y because she was so excited. I couldn’t stop it, right through the showers, her feet flew up, head cracked, I picked her up and her eyes seemed wobbly, but a minute later she was fine and laughing. I was still worried and that night she threw up after eating spinach. In a spectacular moment of over parenting, I made my husband take us to the ER even after talking to our ped who said basically we had nothing to worry about and we were there all night because we couldn’t get her to go through the CAT scan so we kept trying. Finally, the neurologist was basically saying she’s fine and finally he convinced me. Guess she really didn’t like spinach.
I imagine given what has happened with you all, fear sits right there all the time in the background. You should be proud of how you handled it.
Oh poor Annie! I hope she’s recovered from the shock of it all (I think that’s the worst part).
I’m not a parent, but I work with children…worst thing ever was when I heard a SMACK! and a 3 year old looked up at me, face bleeding. He had bonked heads with another kid, cut his lip with his own tooth, and was bleeding everywhere. But I didn’t know that right away! I didn’t see what happened, so I didn’t know! It was awful, trying to calm him down while stopping the blood
But after an ice pack and some gauze, he was fine. No stitches, no missing teethe, barely a bruise. We all learned from it, and got back outside to play.
Mike, you’re right. You just can’t live every second paranoid.
Mike, You and Heather handled it beautifully. Kids fall down while sitting on their parents laps or walking holding their parents hands. Accidents happen. We can’t very well dress them in head to toe armor and helmets.
Ugh! People like Jenny. SO obnoxious. Grrrr. Anyways, I’m glad she seems better! I’m not a parent yet (soon hopefully!) but I nannied for two young boys for awhile (a two and three year old) and there is NO way they can “never leave your side”. Hah! You did everything right!
That comment by Jenny made my blood boil a little because you did nothing wrong. Also, because when our kids get hurt, the first thing we ask ourselves as parents is could we have prevented it. It’s the worst thing ever to see your child in pain or sick and no parent should be accused of neglecting their child for simply stepping away from them for a split second. It is impossible to be by their sides 100% of the time, and even it was, that’s not healthy for the child or parent, nor would it prevent boo-boo’s, slips, or injuries. One of the most loving and attentive mommies I know was sitting right next to her 6 month old baby and playing with a kid-friendly dog that they knew well. Before she knew what happened, the dog got spooked by something and bit her child. There was nothing she could have done to prevent it, even being right there. Of course she beat herself up about it, but she did nothing wrong! There was no way of knowing that would happen and no amount of helicopter-parenting would have stopped it from happening. The “Jenny”s of the world need to stop blaming and guilt-tripping other people to make themselves feel superior. We beat ourselves up enough for what we do and don’t do as parents, and on one needs someone like that chiming in with negativity. You and Heather seem like truly amazing parents. The end.
*sigh* this made my palms sweat. when my now 5 year old daughter was 14 months old we were over at a friends house playing with her littles. I went to scoop my daughter up to take her home for dinner and before I could reach her she flipped backwards out of a kiddie chair and smacked the back of her head on the driveway. I scooped her up only to discover she was not breathing and completely lifeless. Called 911. She was breathing by the time they got there. Maybe 30 seconds she was out. Thankfully after a trip to the hospital and ct scans, she was deemed perfectly fine with a minor concussion. Me on the other hand..scarred me for life. Fastforward a few years and my 6 month old son and I were walking down a flight a hard wood stairs and I lost my footing and fell..with my son in my arms. We were both fine with nothing more than some bruises and bumps.
Shit happens Dude. Nothing you can do to prevent it. I still to this day beat myself up over what happened to both of my kids. But we will survive and so will you guys. Good luck and God Bless.
Thick Americans. I think that was sarcasm. All children bang their heads, I am just surprised she took so long!
I know that sound of a head hitting something hard. Along with the worry about your child. I think almost all parents have been there. We even took our daughter to Children’s Hospital at 10:00pm because we thought one of her pupils was more dilated than the other. My husband took her in and then got the 3rd degree because they were making sure that she wasn’t being abused! He was SO upset. I know they are just doing their jobs, but it was more traumatic for both of them than the bonk to the head.