When Heather and I found out she was pregnant, we played a lot of guessing games. Would we be like my sister, Monica, who had two boys and then a girl? Or would we be like our friend, Meghan, who had three boys in a row?
It was fun imagining the possibilities, but in the end we truly would have been just as happy either way. Still, when we found out we had a boy on the way it was very exciting, and not just for us but the whole family. My Dad, for example, proclaimed, “The Spohr name shall live on!” He doesn’t really care about that kind of thing (and it isn’t actually an issue anyway since my uncle has a son), but it was nice to see his reaction, nonetheless. Yay for weird last names surviving another generation!
Of all the things people have said to me since hearing the news, the one thing that I hear the most is, “Hey, you won’t be outnumbered anymore!” It’s true that our home has been pretty estrogen packed over the years, considering that Heather, Maddie, Annie and even Rigby are all girls, but I’ve never felt in desperate need of some male energy. Of course, something tells me that when Annie hits her teenage years I’ll be very happy to have another dude in the house.
If I’m being honest with you, though, I’m still wrapping my head around the idea of having a son. As the daddy of two beautiful little girls, I feel like I have an idea of how to parent a girl. But a boy? I’m pretty clueless there, and have a lot of questions that I’m afraid to ask because I’m sure most people would think they’re pretty dumb. How dumb? Check it out:
“Do little boys like to cuddle with their parents as much as little girls?
(I know. Dumb, right?)
(But, um, do they?)
The thing I worry about the most is having to be my son’s model of how to be a man. With Annie, I know that she will look to Heather for guidance on how to be a woman, so all I have to be is the best daddy possible and leave the “how to be a woman” stuff to Heather. But the boy will be looking up to me to show him how to be a man, and I hope I’m up to the task. He’ll be in trouble if he looks to me to learn how to turn the eye of Junior High girls (I failed pretty miserably at that), and he’s also out of luck if he looks to me for advice on how to be Mr. Popular in high school (though if he wants to join the drama club and learn how to bowl I’m his man). I want my son to be better than I ever was, but if he’s going to be looking to me to learn how to be a man, how can he do that? (This is another one of my dumb questions, isn’t it?) Don’t get me wrong – I think I’m a good guy with lots of admirable qualities to pass on – but I’m nonetheless feeling a bit of pressure I haven’t felt before.
Luckily, I’ve got a fair amount of time to deal with these things before our little guy arrives. I can’t wait to meet him and start this whole new adventure!