This was supposed to be our “easy” delivery day. It didn’t exactly turn out that way.
Our alarm went off at six a.m. so we could get ready, fight through L.A. traffic, and arrive at the hospital by nine a.m. The c-section was scheduled for eleven, and we mice and men had the whole day planned out: Annie and Heather’s family would arrive a few minutes before eleven so they could be there during the surgery, I would come out when it was over to share the good news and show-off some photos, and then Annie and the family would go to lunch while Heather and the baby were in recovery. We estimated we’d be moved into a room in postpartum around three-thirty or four in the afternoon and be able to spend the rest of the day introducing James to his family. Sounded good, right?
Everything appeared to be on-track ten minutes before eleven when we were suddenly told things would be delayed 45 minutes to an hour. It turns out that it’s typical for women in labor to be given a heads-up that the anesthesiologist would be busy in surgery for the next hour or so, and that if they needed an epidural sooner than that they should request one immediately. A couple women did just that, so things were delayed.
Not the end of the world. Heather and I did worry about how Annie would hold up as she was absolutely desperate to meet her baby brother, but we figured it would be fine. I took off my scrubs (they were hot) and Heather and I watched an episode of the new Arrested Development on her phone to pass the time. An hour later we were told it was game on, and I stepped back into my scrubs. We were ready! Excited! Nervous!
But then we heard machines beeping and hurried footsteps outside our door. Our nurse soon came in to tell us that another mom-to-be’s baby was in distress and an emergency c-section needed to be performed immediately.
Well, almost immediately. Ten minutes later our nurse clarified that the doctors weren’t certain the emergency c-section would be necessary, and wanted to monitor the mom in the O.R. for half an hour before deciding whether she should go back to her room or have the surgery. Half an hour later they decided they were indeed going to go through with the emergency c-section, and our c-section was pushed back another ninety minutes at the very least.
Having had a pair of emergency c-sections ourselves in the past, Heather and I were fine with this as we only wanted the mom and baby to be okay. We were, however, worried about Annie – not to mention our family who by this time had been entertaining her for a couple hours (and would have to do so four more, we guessed).
Rather than texting them about such a long delay, we decided to explain the situation to them ourselves. We probably looked a little strange strolling into the waiting with me in scrubs and Heather dragging an IV pole. Thankfully, everyone was very understanding, and we got the chance to give Annie one more hug and kiss before she became a big sister.
Heather and I went back to triage to wait while her family took Annie to grab some lunch to kill time. Finally, around 2:15, the emergency c-section mom and her baby were wheeled into the room with us, both having made it through safely.
It was now our turn!
(Our turn, that is, after the operating room was cleaned and prepped for us for another half hour.)
Finally, at 2:45, it was time for Heather to go to the operating room. She was initially confused they wanted her to walk there until our nurse explained that moms were only wheeled to the O.R. for emergency c-sections. Heather, having only had emergency c-sections, figured it was the norm!
I kissed Heather goodbye, then was told to wait in a chair in the hallway. “We’ll bring you back in just a few minutes,” I was told.
Twenty minutes later I was still in the chair and getting pretty worried. When a nurse hustled a doctor passed me into the O.R., my nerves frayed even more. Thankfully, I was only left in the hall to worry a few more minutes before I was brought back.
When I sat next to Heather’s head as she laid on the operating table, she looked out of it and uneasy. I took her hand as the anesthesiologist explained that after Heather laid down on the table her heart rate spiked alarmingly high, then plummeted (as did James’). There were several frantic minutes as they stabilized things (and I’m pretty glad I was blissfully unaware of what was going on).
Things seemed to proceeded normally from there (we found out after the surgery that Heather’s heart rate had been all over the place the entire time, keeping the doctors busy), and soon someone announced, “It’s a boy!” I stood up and laid eyes upon my little buddy for the first time. He had the same dark hair that his sisters had on their first day (a hair color both girls eventually lost), and when he wailed Heather started to cry. After Maddie’s issues with her lungs, and James’ recent test results showing that his lungs weren’t yet mature, it was such a relief to her (and me) to hear our little guy cry.
After cutting James’ umbilical cord and taking some photos of the nurses cleaning him up, I was able to introduce Heather to her son for the first time.
It was love at first sight. I soon made my way to the lobby to tell everyone the good news.
Heather and I hadn’t told anyone James’ name yet (having only recently decided upon it), so I’d told Annie the night before that she would be able to make the big announcement. Excited to see me, she ran into my arms and I whispered what to say into her ear.
“My baby brother is here,” Annie proudly announced. “His name is James Asher!”
Everyone clapped and it was a cool, special moment. I then pulled out my camera and everyone crowded around to get a glimpse at their newest family member.
Things may have been way behind schedule at that point, but we still were looking forward to being transferred to a room in postpartum so we could celebrate with our families. We soon learned, though, that we weren’t going to be getting out of Recovery for several hours as the doctors wanted to give Heather an EKG and monitor her heart to make sure nothing was seriously the matter. Thankfully, it wasn’t, but we still weren’t going to our own room because… all of the rooms in postpartum were filled.
We were stuck in a shared, cramped room in recovery, and Annie and the rest of our family had been waiting for almost ten hours at that point to see the baby. Though it wasn’t how we wanted to do it, we brought back family members two at a time to quietly meet James. The last person we brought back was Annie, and she was pretty much jumping out of her skin with excitement. I put her in bed with her mommy and brother, and it was a beautiful, beautiful scene.
Our “easy” delivery day may not have been easy or gone as we’d hoped, but in the end all that matters is that our little guy made it safely into our arms.
Welcome, James. We love you already.
Kim says:
Congratulations, so very happy for y’all : )
Tracy says:
A beautiful story! I love that you let Annie announce his name! Your post has me crying. I remember that exact same feeling hearing my preemie cry for the first time after my c-section, as we had been worried about her lungs too. She too was – and is – fine. Thank you for sharing your lives with us!
AlisonC says:
That picture of Heather, Annie and James is precious.
Welcome to James Asher xx
Auntie_M says:
So very grateful that mama & baby are both safe & sound!!! Bless little Annie’s heart: what a very long day for a 3 year old big sister to suffer through!
The picture of you bringing James to Heather and the picture of Heather, Annie, and James brought tears to my eyes! So very special indeed!!!
Welcome, James Asher! You were born into one of the best families EVER!!!!
kelly says:
Yay! Welcome littlest Spohr. So happy to hear that Mama and Baby are doing well. What a beautiful family.
Sarah says:
Wonderful.
Annalisa says:
Yay! So very glad Heather was okay! I’ve been reading birth stories where things don’t go too smoothly after a delivery when it comes to heart problems (why do I do this to myself when pregnant? That’s a good question), so I’m glad it only took a few hours for the doctors to stabilize her, rather than days. :[
Enjoy the new bundle, and of course Annie did okay! Young kids have a knack of surprising you with awesome behavior when you least expect it!
amourningmom says:
Welcome to the world baby James! Thank you for sharing his birth story – the births do not always go as planned but they sure are worth the wait. The pictures are priceless. So glad everyone is healthy and hopefully Heather is recovering ok. Sending hugs and hope to you all.
Jen S. says:
So happy for you guys! The picture of Heather, Annie and baby James brought tears to my eyes.
Lilian says:
Oh my, I’m such a sap. This post had me in tears. However, I feel better after reading other responses, to know that I’m not the only sap who reads your awesome blog! I’m so relieved that both Heather and James are now healthy and happy, and that Annie is so delighted with her brother. Love to you all! xx
Annie says:
Welcome Baby James! I love the pictures – he is beautiful and you all look so happy! I have to say I chuckled a few weeks ago when you posted your ‘plan’ about the day he would be born – it never goes as planned! I didn’t even have my family plan to come until hours after the birth. So glad everyone is healthy!
Molly says:
Tears everywhere! Congratulations to your lovely family.
Jenn Wild says:
Soooo very happy for you all!! Love, love the picture of Heather, Annie and Sweet Baby James. Just precious.
TamaraL says:
What a beautiful, yet harrowing story! So glad Baby James is here safely and that Heather is okay too!
Molly says:
So very happy for you, Spohrs! The picture of Heather, Annie & James gave me tears. James is so loved, indeed.
Jess Z. says:
I love this. Happy birthday James
nicol says:
Thanks so much for sharing with us!!!! Very happy for you all!
Heather G says:
Thank you for once again sharing your family and your moments with us!
Kate says:
Beautiful. Welcome James. Geez Heather, it is never easy for you. Best wishes for smooth sailing from here on out!
Molly says:
Thank you for sharing this story with us! What an eventful day, but it’s so great to hear that nothing serious went awry, and Heather and James are both healthy and Annie is proud!
Nicole says:
Gah! Tears!!! Such a sweet sweet moment when you described Annie and James in Heather’s arms. :*)
Thank you for sharing!!
Michelle says:
I am so happy everyone is doing well now. The tears began streaming when you brought Annie back to meet little James and the picture of your three beauties did me in! Happy Birthday, James!
Jana Frerichs says:
OH MY!! TEARS are flowing. What a beautiful post. Welcome to the world baby James! You have a wonderful family!!!!
LeeAnne says:
I am so glad that every one is fine and doing well. The waterworks started as soon as I saw the picture of you, Heather and Annie prior to surgery. James is a doll and you must all be so proud. Congratulations!!
MG says:
Congratulations again!! Glad everyone is okay now! I think the oddest thing about bringing an older sibling to meet the new baby is….how did they get SO big?!? Didn’t the older one seem so small and like a baby before the new one was born? Now they seem gigantic? That’s how it was for me anyway. Thanks for sharing.
Trisha says:
Lump in my throat with the picture of Annie meeting James. Such a sweet story and I’m so very happy that Heather’s EKG was normal and everyone is home and hopefully getting some rest.
Tami says:
What a beautiful post.It brought tears to my eyes!!
Lisa says:
Congrats guys, he is gorgeous! That picture of Heather, Annie and James is perfect. So much love and many hugs to all of you as you spend these first precious days with Mr. James.
Skye says:
I am glad everything turned out well. It is so wonderful to see Baby James on the outside with his family! So happy for you!
Martha says:
Beautifully told; I’ve a lump in my throat. I’m so happy for you all.
Jessica Stringer says:
Congratulations! What a beautiful little guy and what a beautiful post! I’m sitting at my desk at work crying! Brings back the memories of my son’s birth 5 short months ago! So happy for you all!
Jeannine says:
Holy moly, James is so beautiful… you guys make the cutest family ever Congratulations again! So glad Heather is ok, soaking up some of those sweet newborn snuggles from James has to help!
Stephanie says:
Congrats!
Steph says:
Welcome to the world, Annie’s baby brother James! So thanksful that he safely arrived. Wishing Heather a speedy and full recovery (and much rest:). Congratulations to you all! p.s. Thanks for posting, Mike, you know we were anxiously awaiting the news.
PattyB says:
That’s quite a story! At least Heather only had minimal issues with this delivery and most of the delays were out of your complete control. The pictures with Annie are so sweet! She is going to be a great big sister. Congratulations, again! You have a beautiful family.
Kathryn M says:
I’m so happy everything turned out alright in the end. Whew, what an exciting day! Can’t wait to read about more adventures and keep those delicious pictures coming! Such a beautiful family!!!!!!
Cristy says:
Though hectic, it sounds like a beautiful day. Mom is fine, and baby James is here and well! Hooray! Congrats, he’s lovely.
Sonya says:
Wonderful story Mike! I love that you let Annie announce the name. I also love the name and hope you or Heather will write about your reasons for choosing it at some later date. James Asher is beautiful!! Best wishes to you all!
JMH says:
That picture of Heather, Annie and James is beautiful!! It brought tears to my eyes…you can *see* the love!! Congrats to you all
Lenora says:
Such a sweet picture of Annie with Heather and James. He’s lucky to have such a great big sister (and parents!) I’m so glad everything came out alright. I hope Heather is getting some rest and maybe even some food that she can keep down now.
Pattie says:
Crying happy tears on my lunch break as I read this. I’m so happy that your newest family member is here safe and sound, and I can’t wait to read about Annie’s adventures being a big sister.
Karen says:
Welcome James Asher. Such wonderful pictures, thank you for continuing to share these moments with us. So happy for you, Heather, Annie and James
Lesley says:
Your story of Annie doing the big reveal made me tear up! So, so sweet! I’m so happy your little boy is hear safely and that both he and Heather are already out of the hospital!
Beth says:
Oh!!! Happy, happy! Beautiful son! The picture with Annie is so lovely — what a great big sister she already is! Blessings.
Rebecca says:
What is it about birth stories that make me weep like a baby myself? Congratulations you guys!
Paola says:
Wow! Thank you for sharing your experience with us. It made me laugh because it reminded me of my last c-section and it went a lot like yours. It made me cry cause I always cry with baby stories, they’re such a tender moment. Congrats on the little one, he is beautiful.
Hilary says:
So happy for you and your family. Congratulations!!
Kat says:
SO so happy for you guys!!!
kakali says:
The most precious moment and the most beautiful picture you took when you put Annie and baby James on Heather’s chest. Just a priceless picture of three of them.Heather looks amazing!
Jeanie says:
Great story and photos!
Jane says:
Oh I am over-the-moon for you guys! I am so glad he is here safely. And he is absolutely beautiful! You are going to LOVE having a boy — (we had two girls and then a boy also). PLEASE tell me that hyperemesis goes away immediately after the baby is born. Oh my gosh, I felt so terrible for you having that. Welcome, baby James!
Kylene says:
Such a beautiful birth story! Thank you for sharing your journey with all of us! Best wishes for a speedy recovery Heather – you look amazing in these photos.
Welcome to the world sweet baby James!!
Expat Mom says:
Wow, what a day! I’m seriously impressed with Annie for not being a melted down mess by the end of all that waiting. That’s really awesome for a 3 year old (and kudos to your families for keeping her busy!).
At least James now has an interesting birth story, just like his sisters! You wouldn’t want him to be left out.
When I had my first two boys, the maternity wards were all full and I ended up lying on a gurney in the hall for hours until the previous day’s mothers were released.
Norma says:
Beautifully told, as always! Congratulations to all of you.
Janey says:
Congrats! Thanks for sharing the birth story with us so quick Great idea having Annie share the news, we did similar when our twins were born. Big brother got to share the news that he had SISTERS! Gave him a very exciting and important moment in the day
James is beautiful. So very happy for you all.
Brie says:
Congratulations!
kris (lowercase) says:
hope you guys get to go home soon.. glad everyone made it through everything in one piece!
Anna says:
Oh, that picture of Annie with mama and baby is so sweet! Congrats again!
Lisa says:
Perfection!!!! The story, the pictures, the baby. Congratulations!!!
monica says:
So happy for you all! Cannot wait to watch James grow up and see him star in your awesome videos!
Sandra says:
Seeing the picture of Heather, James and Annie made me lose it (I broke into the ugly cry). Congrats to the Spohr family
Michelle H. says:
SO happy for you all! Tears of joy for you!
Me says:
Congratulations! I have tears of joy for your family!
Greis says:
So glad all is well. Love the picture of Heather with Annie and James! LOVE YOU ALL!