As many of you know I used to be a high school English teacher before I started working as a copywriter. In fact, some of my most popular posts are about my experiences teaching, like when I found a highly scandalous love note in my classroom or talked about my students’ poor grammar and unconvincing plagiarism. These days I don’t think too often about my teaching days unless something happens to make me think about them, which is exactly what happened tonight. The lead story on the evening news was about the murder of a member of the rap group Cali Swag District (best known for the hit song “Teach Me How To Dougie”), and when they played the group’s video I realized one of my former students was in the group!
Upon hearing the entire story I was glad to see it wasn’t my former student who was murdered (though I was, of course, very sorry to hear about his band mate’s passing). As shocking as the news was about the murder though, I have to admit I was also a little shocked to learn that one of my former students was in a successful music group.
Looking back it does and doesn’t make sense that Corey (or C-Smoove as he is now known) ended up on MTV. On one hand I remember he would DJ after school and had developed a good following among his fellow students. He also would dance at the drop of a hat, and had pretty good moves as I remember it. On the other hand, there were other kids at the school who were much more vocal about their interest in music, and Corey was (like a lot of high school kids) a little lacking in confidence and a bit adrift at times. We had a few battles during the year – Corey didn’t have much interest in English and often seemed pretty unhappy to be there – but he was clearly a good kid at heart.
One thing I started thinking about after hearing about his group’s success was how, from time to time, I would give my students a little lecture about how they needed to focus on their school work. You see, I had far too many students who slacked off in school because they thought they’d become rap stars or NBA basketball players. I’m sure at some point I said something like:
“In case you don’t end up on MTV or in the NBA, you need to take your school work more seriously. Your future depends on it!”
Thinking about that got me thinking about all the Rolling Stone articles I’ve read over the years with artists who talked about how they hated high school, and how they had “thick” teachers who told them they would never make it.
Well, now I very well could be one of those teachers!
You know what though? That’s okay. I’m glad Corey is doing well and wish him further success, but the reality is that the vast majority of kids who blow off school because they are convinced they will make it rich in music, basketball, or some other long-shot fantasy will end up later wishing they had spent more time studying. For every Corey there are thousands who will need their education. That doesn’t mean kids shouldn’t be encouraged to follow their dreams, it just means that they should know they will need to do well in school too.
So maybe I came off a bit square when I made those lectures, but I still gave some good advice. And if that means I might end up being dissed in Rolling Stone one day, well, that’s fine with me.
Elle says:
Way back when I was in High School and heard teachers talk about the importance of education, in my teen mind I thought “whatever” but at the same time it made me want to push harder when it came to my goals in life. So I’m sure you had students that felt the same way.
Audra says:
My favorites are the kids who plan on making it big in the NBA but didn’t even try out for the school team…and yet they don’t see the disconnect.
Lynnette says:
I just read a saying yesterday that goes perfectly with this post. It reads:
“Follow your heart but take your brain with you!”
These kids don’t understand that there is a business side to “making it big”. They need to know how to handle money, read contracts, negotiate with clear speech, etc.
Get an education!
Heather says:
I’m sorry, I can’t let this one go, after the whole “cooki” post and with you being an English teacher and all. Second to the last paragraph. You’re saying that the reality is the vast majority of kids who blow “of” school. I’m sure you mean “off”. I gotta give Heather some ammo to get back at you for the whole cookie incident! I just had to point that out! Hugs and kisses!
Jalene says:
Yea, I was going to say the same thing:-)
Mike says:
Ha! You guys got me. Oh well! I just fixed it.
Rebecca says:
Isn’t it the prose and language and all that wordy stuff what high school English teachers all try to teach anyway? Music is words and you probably did something to give that kid the gift of rhyme. Most rap music rhymes right?
Dixie says:
Spelling aside, your message is so true. A young friend of mine was a pretty good baseball player in highschool. He was so sure he’s make it into the majors. He was always in trouble and didn’t give a hoot about school. Now he sells drugs and spends on and off time in jail because when he has money he lives the life he imagined…..for a day or two now and then.
Shelly says:
Wow! What a relevant post…as I am in the process of grading high school exams right now (taking just a little break to check in on the Spohrs!) I LOVE Lynette’s saying…jotted it down for future reference. Had to call out a student last week who “announced” to the class that “our generation (speaking of his) doesn’t care about an education.” Of course, he is THE ONLY STUDENT who will fail my computer applications class this semester. Really???
Penbleth says:
It is such a difficult balance to get right, encouraging people to aim and strive and follow their dreams and yet be aware that there are very many talented people who will never be known beyond their own circle of family and friends.
My 18 year old would love to be a musician, I am always trying to get this right, making sure he knows that I’m not trying to keep him from following his dreams while at the same time not wanting to see him throw away his present educational opportunities.
Shell says:
Penbleth,
You are where I was 4 years ago with my son. He was a senior in HS and had been accepted to a rather elite and expensive music school in Orlando to major in Recording Arts and Music Production. I went the extra mile and moved down there with him because the school offered no student housing and the cost of two households was silly since I traveled 90% for my job. The rules were pretty basic, so it was more like having a roommate named mom who paid all the bills and was never around.
I encouraged and funded his dream. It was a 2 year Bachelor’s degree with a REALLY tough schedule. Classes and labs at all hours and attendance was 1/3 of the grade – there was no way he could work even part time. He finished the Associate Degree in one year, and had three weeks off before starting on the 10 month program for his Bachelor’s. We had financial aid all worked out with me writing checks for the balance.
He decided he was done. We argued. I yelled. He stopped going to class. I told him to go get a job. He refused. I locked out the cable TV in the family room and his cell phone except calls from his father or I.
I’d bought him a relatively nice car contingent on obtaining his degree. He thought he should be able to keep it without finishing school. It wound up being a major blowout with me telling him to pack his stuff and go run to his daddy’s house (1200 miles away), but park the car at Grandma’s (my mom’s) house within 72 hours. He did.
One of my less-than-stellar moments was when I said, “You think you’re going to be a millionaire rock star? There are as many garage bands playing for beer as there are garages. Grow the F’k up.”
He’s still not speaking with me and that was in 2008. He’ll be 21 at the end of the month. I hope that he’s learned a bit about the real world since. I believe he has, since I often see him signing in and out of AIM at 6-7 in the morning and not again until after 6-7 at night. $60K education to run the deli at Kroger. :::Boggles:::
Kristin says:
You’re right, most kids don’t end up on MTV or in the MBA or in some other “celebrity rich” career. And you’re right they in that case, they really need to take their school seriously. But at the same time, taking school seriously just in case you don’t become rich isn’t the point. The point is to me a smart, well-rounded individual. I wish more of these “celebrities” took their school work a lot more seriously so that when they spoke to the public or are quoted in magazines they don’t sound like total idiots. Its great when some kid makes it big from their singing, or acting or sports talents, but its even better when there is a brain behind all that!
nil zed says:
I think the key for teachers and parents, is to find some of the many examples of artists and athletes who got screwed over by management because they hadn’t educated themselves enough to understand what they were signing and to understand they were the boss of those people they hired to manage their money, careers, property. There is a continuing supply of these, you do have to stay up to date as the argument falls completely flat if the celebrity in question is past their sell by date. Conversely, keep up with who has done it right.
With my own kids, I avoided requiring to toe the usual line of perfecting their HS resume and getting perfect SATs and applying to only a certain set of schools. I kind of failed as, in the end, neither had an interest in dream jobs. One is an accounting major, the other is content to let her hospitality work into a career and is pursuing training in the industry rather than college.
But, I tried to put forth the idea that I didn’t think pursuing wild dreams was a waste of time,so long as they had a PLAN, and were actively pursuing it: studying it, studying the business of it, seeking out work at whatever level they can in the field. Being ProActive, even over something some may pronounce silly, is better than being passive and accepting the usual path. If Plan A succeeds, they are in a better position to maintain that career. If Plan A fails, they will have created an interesting time of life to recall in later years. And there is a wide area in between of related careers that may prove more satisfying than the respectable jobs to be gained by the usual college majors.
Abby says:
I’ve been following Heather’s blog for 2 years, and I’ve also read your blog, too, Mike. I have to disagree with you on this post. I see where you’re coming from as an educator. Yes, it’s important that kids today learn as much as they can in school and accept the fact that not all of them will become the next Madonna or Michael Jordan.
However, parents today also need to accept the fact that a college degree isn’t going to make their kids the next Bill Gates either. I worked very hard in high school. I graduated in 2005 with a 3.9 gpa. I attended a top tier college and graduated in 2009 with a b.a. in communications and $66,000 of student loan debt.
In today’s society, most high school kids don’t get full rides to college unless they play a sport or excel at some talent like singing.
I went to college believing that I would have gainful employment upon graduation. Two years later, I’m still working for minimum wage. I’m living proof that an education does not guarantee success. Please check out http://www.forgivestudentloandebt.com to hear other people’s stories, too.
PADI Instructor says:
I really believe on what kids can do. I think it is our job to support them as they are trying to reach what they are dreaming of.
April says:
This post inspired my latest Parentella post:
http://blog.parentella.com/2011/to-be-and-not-to-be/