You know that 50 Cent line, “I love you like a fat kid love cake?” Well, if Fiddy was rapping about seniors he might have said, “I love you like a senior love to forward crazy emails.” That line might not have made for quite as successful a song, but it definitely would have described a percentage of older Americans (just a percentage, thank goodness!). A few years ago I somehow ended up on the email list of my nearly eighty year old uncle, and ever since I’ve received 3-4 emails a week unlike any I get from anyone else.
What makes my uncle’s emails “weird,” exactly? For starters, their subject lines almost always start with “FWD: fw: fw: fw: fw:” But it’s not just that these emails have gotten around more than photos from Prince Harry’s trip to Vegas. They also almost always feature gigantic, oversized text (which is easy on senior eyes), cutesy fonts like “handwriting” or “herculanum,” and messages written entirely in bold with lots of exclamation marks!!!!!!!!! That’s just the form of the emails though. What about the content?
Let’s start with the subject lines. I’ve noticed that a disturbingly large amount of them start with a desperate plea of “PLEASE DO NOT DELETE!!!” Of course, after reading enough of these, that’s exactly what I started to do. Here are the subject lines of a few that I deleted as fast as I could:
“Islamic Gay Bar – Funny!”
“Wake Up America!!!!!!!!!!!!”
“Important! Don’t Delete: Starbucks Hates our Troops!”
“FWD: FW: THIS IS 100% REAL! PLEASE READ!”
Before I started deleting these things sight unseen, however, I did read enough of them to understand that they fell into one of a handful of basic categories. There were the mildly misogynist jokes of the “Take my wife, please!” variety, the conspiracy theories easily proven false on Snopes.com, the urgent warnings about allegedly imminent computer viruses that have been emailed around for years and years, and the rants about how today’s generation pails in comparison to The Greatest Generation.
That’s not all, though. There were emails that began, “If you could only email this to twenty other people…,” emails with endless photos of guys showing off giant fish they just caught, and emails about how “Obama is a Muslim/Socialist/Hates Freedom.” There was even an email that time hasn’t treated too kindly, as it talked passionately (in oversized font and bold letters, of course) about how there was only one man fit to be our next president: Rick Perry.
The craziest thing is that these are all forwards! Literally, in three years I have received hundreds of emails from my uncle, but only a couple of which he wrote in his own words. I always complain to Heather about these wacky things, and she jokes that I should just reply with one word: “Unsubscribe.” I can’t do it, though. In a strange way I find these emails almost comforting because they’re a weekly reminder that my crazy uncle is still alive and well. I like to picture him sitting at his computer in his home in Florida, guffawing or shaking his fist in anger, then thinking, “This email… This is an email that I must send to EVERY PERSON I KNOW!”
Becca_Masters says:
I get those from my gran, she’s 84.
Not every week though, but they make me laugh.
Normally they’re about god and Jesus, but once it was rather a rude graphic joke that had the F word in it. I almost died laughing.
Also? She also sends them to my work email!
I love my nanna. She’s so fab.
Abigail says:
Does everyone have an uncle like this? I used to get so many of these and my reactions ranged from moderate bemusement to annoyance. Now that my uncle has passed away I weirdly miss those emails.
Well, maybe it’s not weird that I miss them because really I just miss him. Stupid cancer.
Kathygee1 says:
I get them from my mother-in-law. I hope she never sends me something important because I delete them immediately. My husband told her to take him off of her “forwarding list”, but I don’t have the heart to. “Delete, delete, delete”.
Barbara says:
I just started responding to all of them with the links to snopes that proved that particular email false. I got removed from so many mass emailing lists that way..
Megan says:
Oh my god, I get between 3-6 of these A DAY from my grandfather! It’s exhausting!
Lauren says:
My Dad sends these types of forwards to me and my brothers. I honestly love it! I generally don’t enjoy the actual content (who does?) but I love that he liked it enough to forward it, and that he is even part of a community that thinks of him enough to send it to him in the first place. I love also that it means he is using the internet, and he probably does actually read the emails that I write knowing that my Mum is the one who is going to actually reply.
Kimberly K says:
Oh, I forgot about those emails! My mother in law would clog my inbox with them, all exactly as you describe. Unfortunately. She died last year and was sick before that. As a matter of fact, that is how I figured out something was seriously wrong with her (she lived many states away), the emails stopped and she quit posting on Facebook. Yup, she had cancer and didn’t want to worry us.
Heather says:
I usually correct the sender on the whole “BCC” issue that often accompanies those emails. Other than that it takes almost nothing to delete them.
Kris says:
The ones that bug me are the ones claiming some new scientific scare that is always wrong. I’m a scientist with a graduate degree, and yet, I usually cannot convince my mother that the emails are bogus. Fun times.
Connie says:
OMG, this is my Father exactly! He sends about 6-10 EVERY SINGLE DAY. EVERY DAY! He is almost 70. It is like he just discovered email. Every time I see him he makes me give a tutorial on how to get on Facebook. It is painful. He never writes anything either and if you respond he doesn’t answer. But, by God, he forwards them all the time. And then he asks us if we saw the email he sent. If I say no, I deleted it, he brings me to his computer and makes me read it anyway. Oy vey.
Tracy says:
I get those two – mainly from two racist aunts.
Susan C. says:
My dad doesn’t forward many emails, but my mom does. I taught her the value of Snopes so that cut back on quite a few. She knows how much I hate those cutesy-lovey-furry-kitten-rainbows emails so she forwards them to me on purpose! Nothing worse than a mom on a mission to spread internet evil. BTW, she doesn’t like them either.
Marie says:
All of my parents and grandparents are gone to their great reward, including my in-laws. So none of them ever e-mailed anything to me.
But……I do have a supplier.
His name is my naked neighbor. Now I call him that because he used to be my next door neighbor when my husband was still alive and the kids were home. I was over visiting with his wife one day and he did not know I was there. He came prancing into the kitchen naked as a jaybird having just gotten out of the shower. His wife calmly said “Put some pants on man”. From then on I refer to him as my naked neighbor. He’s in his 80’s now and I am 59. I love them both. But that was the funniest thing I had ever encountered. It’s lucky I lived to tell about it I laughed so hard.
So anything I get from him I read lol. It’s important.
Well I scan it quickly.
Hugs from Minnesota,
Marie
p.s. it’s snowing here this morning, October 4. God almighty!!
Shelly says:
I love this story!
Auntie_M says:
That’s an awesome story!!!
Stephanie says:
My grandmother sends me those as well. She loves to forward the urban legend ones about not smelling perfume samples cause it’s actually chloroform and someone will steal my car….I decided to show her snopes.com so she can research it before she sends it around. Almost 100% of what she sends has been debunked by snopes already.
Skye says:
Mike, I’m concerned that you are being deprived of one more important category: adorable, fluffy baby animal photos. Does your uncle have something against kittens?!
Annalisa says:
This! Forwards of baby kitten pictures are the best!
Priya says:
Yes this!!!! My in-laws do this allll the time, a lot of them are offensive. I just delete, delete, delete hoping they will get the hint bc i dont aknowledge the fwd., but occasionally when it’s really obnoxious I send them the snopes link. Snopes!
Adria says:
You have just described my e-mail life perfectly. Glad it’s not just me!
Jessica Makuh says:
Oh, my gosh! I get the exact same emails from my 80 year old Grandma. I won’t tell her to stop either. She is just so sweet and won’t be here someday and I will miss her. I made a folder for all of the forwards and I try to look at them before deleting them. Every once in a while, she sends one I like. I think the folder has 1000 emails. I get behind checking them!
Megan @ Mama Bub says:
This is my husband’s aunt, exactly! She has never once sent me an email written by herself, but she sure can forward Obama rumors like a champ.
Shannon says:
I get these same e-mails from my mother in law. Sigh. We have her ONLY grandchildren…yet she can’t type up a quick note to ask about how they are doing. Delete.
nys says:
Hahahaha this was hilarious. Definitely cheered me up after writing a massive essay about professionalism in the legal field.
Angela says:
My mom sends the “Good luck if you forward this to 10 people!!!!!!” ones.
Uncle Fred used to send worse ones. I learned that when he sends something titled “FW: Fw: Snake vs Kangaroo”, delete ASAP. (The snake won).
jennifer says:
my mom and aunt send me these emails, too! The first few I received really pissed me off with their racist/political agendas and I would call my mom back and actually get into arguments about them! Then I learned there is no end to these emails and there was no point getting upset, so now I just delete before even open them!! Important life lesson learned! LOL!
Mary says:
Both of my parents used to do this. Then Mom finally got the Snopes message and mostly quit. My Dad, otoh, has continued. Mostly it’s religious feel-good junk, but a lot is Obama bashing. I send him debunk links where applicable, which has stemmed the flow of political stuff he sends.
S says:
Love it!
My offenders: My mom, my mother-in-law, my father (his are regularly of the “Why are you a democrat, S? Can’t you see how awesome Republicans are, and more beloved by God?” variety), and occasionally my aunts. They usually just make me smile though.
Rebecca says:
I get those from my dad every other day. He’s 80. I like you, find it a comfort when I see them come through. The only bad part is his friend since before I was born now has my email and forwards the emails my dad had forwarded to him! So I get them twice! YEAH me!!!
Christina says:
My mother in law does this too. She sends some cool street/chalk art photos sometimes but often there are the “Obama is an alien here to destroy planet earth” emails. Luckily she doesn’t vote. (Did I just say that out loud?) I think that one day I’ll start emailing back with snopes articles.
Melissa says:
I told my mother that I will instantly delete anything that has the FWD FWD FWD thing in the subject line, because usually the e-mails have those dancing smileys (which are malware). So now she deletes the FWD’s in the subject line.. Sigh
Meg says:
Aww — judging by the rest of the comments here, we can all relate! I have an acquaintance who falls in this category, though hers are more of the “IF YOU REALLY LOVE JESUS (AND AREN’T JUST PRETENDING, YOU SINNER) THEN YOU’LL FORWARD THIS TO 47 PEOPLE NOW” variety. I used to feel bad deleting them, but now I think — eh, not enough hours in the day to worry about this.
Em says:
My dad used to send me these type of emails all the time – I made a conscious decision to save them and since he died in January I’m glad I did because now? opening my email is heartbreaking because he’ll never send me another one…and I thank God I had the foresight to save those forwards and the few emails that were personal especially the one that had no content but the title ” YOU LEFT THE BUCKET EMPTYHEAD” I had indeed left a bucket ….
Yvette says:
OMG!! i get the same emails from my best friend’s mom – some i have read and the content has made me blush!!! LOL i also got on the email list of one of my mother’s friends – mixed in w the bad jokes, false scares are also AARP seminars and senior trips – lol
– i had to politely ask her to remove me from the list
Lindsey says:
We have an 84 year old friend who sends those type of emails and before I asked her to stop sending them (due to viruses and time issues) my daughter would occasionally open them. I remember laughing so hard at her very observant comment that you never knew when you opened this particular friend’s emails if it was going to be about Jesus or a picture of a naked man!!! She is a colorful old lady, as you can imagine!!! Glad she has this outlet and sometimes they were downright interesting forwards.
Carrie says:
Oh, this is SO my grandmother. She complains about other people sending her forwards and then she forwards every one of them on. I get two or three per day. She asks occasionally if I read them and I tell her no, but she sends them on anyway. And you nailed the content just right- especially the senior-friendly large font
steph says:
My dear sweet stepdad sends me outlandish forwards. I send him snopes debunking it and he says he doesn’t have time to research (he’s retired). But apparently even thogh I work and have kids I have time to read! DELETE! But I do love him.
Anna says:
I get these from my mother-in-law. But I’m lucky that she only sends me the “very best” ones. My mom isn’t so lucky and usually gets every one that is passed along to my MIL from her brother.
Jenn says:
When all the little old ladies at my church got email at the same time I would check my email and received the same forwarded email from all of them everyday. I eventually had to create a church account email because of the number of forwarded emails they would send daily.
Linda says:
My aunt sends these, too. If I want to read them, (big IF) I have to scroll past the email addresses of the hundreds of previous lucky recipients.
KaraB says:
Thank God for Snopes!
MissyK says:
Oh my gosh! My mom does this ALL. THE. TIME! My brother & I used to just delete them & not even look at them. My mom is almost 70 and she still insists on using AOL & refuses to email us at any other email addy other than our ancient AOL emails. So if you know anything about AOL, you know that you can check the status of an email you sent. We got busted, BAD! She yelled at us both for almost an hour for deleting the emails instead of reading them. I didn’t even know that she knew that you could do that! So now I click on them so the status changes to read, then I delete. Lord help me if she ever decides to ask me to tell her what the content was on any of those things. LOL!
MissyK says:
Oh & worse…she sends the cutsey kitty & puppy picture emails directly to my blackberry & those she expects a reply. LOL
Audra says:
And this cohort is slowly making its way onto Facebook and other social media with posts such as “for every ‘like’ this (insert sad photo here) gets, (insert philanthropic organization with a gabillion dollars here ) will donate seven cents to charity. When pressed, NONE of these oldsters can explain why the philanthropists cannot just write a check and end world hunger/puppy mills right now…why do they need to dole out their millions in picayune amounts contingent on the validation of strangers?
Auntie_M says:
I’ve always wondered the same thing myself!!! Which of course leads me to leave a comment such as that…which probably leads to me being very unpopular on those feeds–I wouldn’t know as I unsubscribe from them quickly!
Auntie_M says:
Y’all are making me feel rather nostalgic! I don’t have any grandparents or great aunts/uncles left to forward me such emails! Makes me sad: now that they’re gone, there’s nothing I wouldn’t give to get a silly forwarded email from one them!
I was on the list of my step-father’s aunt’s husband who send all sorts of forwards of the most boring variety ever!!! Nothing fun, nothing to rile you…just horribly boring. Actually, I think he wrote most of them himself. *sigh* And he apparently was friends with a whole bunch of people who liked to hit “reply all” to each & every email sent out as well as to every response….as I didn’t really know him & couldn’t figure out how I’d ended up on his mail list to begin with, I did have to write & ask him to remove me from his emailings!
Lenora says:
I’m a computer tech so I’m always trying to break people of this habit. I had a coworker who believed all of these emails and would forward them to everyone. I finally convinced her to send them just to me so that I could tell her if they were true. Such fun!