There are a lot of wonderful things about the holiday season. We can all agree on this, yes? Good. Now that we’ve got that out of the way, I’d like to discuss something about the holiday season that sucks big matzoh balls – the pressure to give the “perfect gift.” This pressure is especially felt by husbands during this time of year. Why? The endless string of commercials where Mr. McDreamy Pants gives his wife the greatest present ever.
The commercial that really drives me nuts is the one for Zales Jewelers where some dreamboat gives his wife a pair of giant diamond earrings. A pair! This jerk wasn’t satisfied with giving just one diamond, he had to give two. I’d love to get Heather a pair of diamond earrings for Christmas, but I, like most regular Joes, have yet to recover from buying the rock I put in her engagement ring. So, instead of selling a kidney on the black market to afford the earrings, I just talk excessively about how morally opposed I am to the blood diamond industry. Yup, the blood diamond industry seems to really offend me in December, February, and around Heather’s birthday.
The worst commercial though is the one where the guy brings his wife outside on Christmas morning to find a brand new BMW with a giant bow on it. I dig the romanticism of bringing Heather outside on Christmas morning to find a present, but something tells me it wouldn’t be quite the same if I brought her outside to find a sweater from the Gap with a giant bow on it.
Sigh. I really want to get Heather something great this holiday season, but am operating on a budget considerably smaller than the Dreamboats in all of these freaking commercials. So here’s where I ask for your help. I’d love to hear about any affordable holiday presents you received that you really loved, or any affordable slash awesome presents on the market right now that you think Heather would like. Heather has promised not to read the comments on this post, so any suggestions you make are just between you and me!
Melanie B says:
This is such a sweet post. My husband and I often don’t end up getting each other anything due to funds. So we, either buy a “family” present or nothing.
Things I think would make great gifts. Something she collects or loves, go to etsy.com and do a search. You may find something adorable and best of all, handmade. Also, you can buy jewelry, shop online for a symbol of both the girls that you think would be appropriate, jewelers mark everything WAY down around Christmas time. Women like men to think with their heart when it comes to gifts, so make it something special between you, or something that she loves in general and she will think it’s awesome!
Elle says:
This probably won’t be helpful or romantic but since I can be picky, the best Christmas present my hubby has gotten for me was a gift card at my favorite store so I can get exactly what I want.
Antonia Aruffo says:
I’m sure you tell Heather all the time how you feel but why not write her a song? I see how much your songs touch all of us and your daughters, so why not thank her in song?
Sae says:
This this this.
My partner always feels pressured to spoil me, but the long letter she wrote me last year is the most treasured gift I’ve ever gotten. You havw a gift – use it!
Lots of women have diamonds, but how many have songs written and sung just for them?
KP says:
Yes yes yes. One of the best gifts my girlfriend ever gave me was a series of post-it notes stuck all over the apartment when she left on business for two months. They were in the freezer, on the laundry detergent, under my pillow… it sounds trivial, but having those tiny little reminders that I am loved popping up all over the place while she was gone was better than anything she could have brought back as a souvenir. Her words always mean more to me than anything she could buy.
(p.s. she brought back souvenirs anyway. Which was lovely. But I still feel mushier about the post-its.)
Mike says:
I wrote a song for Heather as a wedding gift, as well as others throughout the years. As much as she enjoys them I don’t think I can gift her another one this X-mas!
Antonia Aruffo says:
One can never write too many songs!!
Jen says:
One of the most thoughtful gifts my husband ever gave me was from when we were still dating. We had been friends for a long time, but had only been dating for maybe two years — and we were in college so he didn’t have the funds for anything extravagant. So he bought a super cute journal and filled it with memories from our relationship thus far. He’s not super crafty – so it was just his words on the page. Simple, kind of cheesy, but perfect!
Granted, the longer you’re together the longer it may take to pull some of this together – but it also means you have even more memories to pull from! And I promise you, just going back and reading his words (even now) is better than any scrapbook or photo album!
Kathryn says:
An evening or even weekend (if you can) away, just the two of you. A gift certificate to somewhere where she can get pampered, spa day.
Good luck with whatever you get/do/make for her, I’m sure she’ll love it!!
Noelle says:
I agree, you can NEVER go wrong with a vacation or spa time.
Carrie P. says:
You might have already made Heather one, but if not, how about making a video montage dvd of Maddie & Annabel? After watching all of your videos of the Amazing Annabel, I have no doubt you would do an awesome job.
Let’s see… Here are some other ideas: gift card to a day spa & massage (or facial); a necklace with Maddie’s & Annie’s names & birthstones (I like something like this: http://www.blissliving.com/family-birthstone-pendant-necklace.html); shoes or boots she’s been eyeing; or theatre tix.
Hope that helps!
Clare says:
I saw something really lovely at etsy the other day – http://www.etsy.com/listing/38375892/commission-a-love-print
Maybe you could do something similar yourself, or you know someone who could? Good luck!
Tina says:
I love my photo jewelry (www.planetjill.com). There are other sites and Etsy sellers that sell similar items. I treasure my necklace that has a picture of my mom (who I lost 3 years ago) and my son as a newborn. I’m hoping for a bracelet to add a couple of new charms to this Christmas!
The idea of a weekend getaway is great too! As is a song or other sweet written gift. Good luck! And it doesn’t have to be perfect – you two already have two perfect gifts, Maddie and Annie.
britt says:
I am a huge advocate of anything on etsy.com because I love handmade things and supporting artists and crafters. Other than that, the number one thing on my list this year is a kindle haha. I think the spa ideas are awesome, and the song suggestion is amazing. I’m a big fan of anything with thought put into it. It doesn’t have to be a diamond, or anything expensive, just something to show me you thought about me. Good luck!
Mike says:
Hmmm… This is the second time etsy.com has been mentioned. I will have to check them out!
Rachel says:
The best Christmas present my fiancé has ever given me is my pillow from the sleep number store and a pair of Victoria’s Secret pajamas (the baggy comfy kind…not the skimpy kind, hehe). I cannot sleep without the pillow at all! It was expensive as far as pillows go, but much cheaper than a BMW. The pajamas were an awesome touch because they were so cozy and comfy, perfect compliment to my pillow.
Giselle says:
The best gift my husband ever gave me was a romantic night away…that he planned entirely by himself. He set up the babysitting, he made the reservations, he reserved the hotel room, he bought the concert tickets…all unbeknownst to me. Then on Christmas morning, he wrapped the tickets in wrapped nesting gift boxes, basically. So I had a huge gift under the tree, and then it took me like 20 minutes to unwrap through all the gifts to my tickets. (symphony tickets…but that’s what we’re into).
It was a magical magical evening away from my 2 year old. But be careful! That magical evening away resulted in my second child 9 months later! Yikes!
Tamela says:
You could write her a song. That’s free!!!
Being a photography enthusiast myself, my hubby has gotten me some really kickass accessories in past years. A new lens, some converter rings, a new bag. All fun toys. There’s a camera strap I really really want that goes over your shoulder. It’s called a sun sniper.
We’re cutting back on gifts to each other this year. So I made him a photo book online. He has this little toy Buzz Lightyear that he forces me to photograph in different places (yes, my husband, NOT my son.) so I made a book of them. I can’t wait to give it to him!
Jenn says:
No worries Mike, I’m sure whatever you’ll give her, she’ll love!!! You guys are going to Vegas so right there is like an early Christmas gift. You are such a supportive, generous, kind and an excellent daddy to both of your little girls, right there is such an awesome gift in itself. Not everyone is as good as you are Mike. I also lucked out and got the best husband so I understand your need/want to get your spouse something OUT OF THIS WORLD AMAZING, COOL, ETC…but, like yourself, our finances are beyond tight.
I bet if you were to ask her, you and Annie (and Maddie was as well) the best gifts she could ever ask for. After her awesome, amazing family, well…Who could ask for anything more?
Jen Tate says:
My suggestion would be to get her a hope chest. Then you could put something special in it that reminded you of Heather, Maddie, and Annie. The best gifts in my opinion, are the ones that really mean something to both the person giving it, and the person recieving it.
Jodie Brooks says:
I like this idea too!! Very special!
Noelle says:
Wow, that’s a beautiful idea!
Maria says:
The best way to get her something great is to be a savvy shopper!
I’m obsessed with Kate Spade, and if you go to their website and sign up for their newsletter, you get 15% off your next purchase. They have the cutest purses and sweaters. Also, I randomly have a one-day coupon I could give you that is good for tomorrow (Wednesday) only at Banana Republic (40% off! one item! online or in stores) I have 3 of them good for three different days in December and actually don’t need to use it, since I finished my shopping. It’s a great way to get a gorgeous cashmere sweater for a reasonable price.
Happy to help!
Kelly says:
I agree, 0ne of my favorite gifts from my husband was a Kate Spade purse – it was my favorite colors and it was something that I would NEVER have gotten for myself (too much money for a personal splurge that isn’t necessity – so I think that makes it a great gift!).
Purita Fisher says:
My honey bought me a Pandora bracelet when we had our second little one, and I LOVE IT! You can had charms to it for specific special occasions and it’s a constant reminder on my wrist of all that is special to me! They also have earings and rings and necklaces. Pandora offers a wide variety of items to fit any budget. I have some charms/beads that were $25 and I have a few that cost $250. Obviously the latter are super special and have diamonds in them!
Good luck and no matter what you get her she will love it!
Karen says:
I was going to say a Pandora bracelet too. I got one last year with a couple of charms and have been adding to it for various holidays. I love it!
Heather says:
One of the best (and budget conscious) gifts I’ve ever received was a dark blue glass jar. My boyfriend at the time filled it with 365 reasons why he loved me. All hand written, all on little pieces of paper.
365 reasons is a lot, and frankly I’m a little difficult. Clearly there was a tonne of effort on his part.
Casey says:
Yes, this is a FANTASTIC idea! Something like this, or the idea of writing her a song, those would mean so much more than anything you could buy. Whether you spend $50 or $500, nothing could top 365 reasons why you love her, or a special song written from the heart. I think homemade is the way to go…and maybe a new sweater from the Gap too!
Terra says:
Every year on my husband’s birthday I sent him a list of things I love about him, and it’s a HUGE hit every year. It goes up by one every year. Next year I’ve got to come up with 40 things! Oh my!
Mike says:
I like the idea of doing something thoughtful like these ideas here. Maybe in addition to a more traditional gift? Hmmm. Great suggestions so far!
Susan says:
My husband and I don’t exchange expensive gifts, but I walk away every Christmas (last year excluded*) feeling like the most beautiful woman in the world. The best gift? A pair of $50 earrings from James Avery with a handwritten note: “a simple gift for an extraordinary woman.” Who wouldn’t love that?
*Just remember to WRAP the presents! Presentation is important. I literally dug mine out of one big bag last year, one at a time. He never got them wrapped.
Mike says:
I definitely agree presentation is important! I always wrap my gifts…it is a certain adult woman I live with who is famous for the “Close your eyes, Mike, and I will place an unwrapped present in your hand” technique. It stinks!
Heather says:
I also have to wonder why you aren’t doing the obvious.
Big box
$200 worth of peanut butter
large ribbon
legal looking document promising to not eat any of that peanut butter.
Suzanne says:
I have to agree, a gift from the heart is always the best to receive. The gifts I remember the most, were the ones my husband put time and heart into.
If you can afford a get away, even just for a night, what busy mom wouldn’t love for her husband to plan everything so all she has to do is worry about what clothes to pack! As a busy mom myself, anything that is taken off my plate is truly a gift! It’s worth more than anything you can buy!! Good luck! I know you will do great!
Rhea says:
I second the hope chest idea. She’ll have it forever and you can give it to Annie’s kids someday
The birthstones necklace/ring is another good one. My mimi ADORED her birthstone rings and was buried with them on a necklace around her neck.
Yeah, um, no pressure.
Seriously though? She will love whatever you get her. Plus, you gave her the gift that will keep on giving- an Annie!
Mary Ann says:
Ditto on that special night out together where YOU plan every detail and she doesn’t have to think of a thing. My favorite gift was a surprise romantic dinner on the living room floor surrounded by candles, flowers, music, and my favorite foods. Spending time together is the best gift you could give her. If you can swing it – a special night away is also a great idea.
Elizabeth says:
I’m loving the necklaces on this website:
simplybeen.com
Good luck; but I’m sure you’ll do great!
Nellie says:
Great post and I think we all feel the pressure with all those crazy commercials.
I don’t know what she’s into but do know that she has great hair and has great hair styling posts. What about a kick-ass hair dryer or some styling gadget with hair accessories (headbands from Urban Outfitters are really neat) and a funky hat? Maybe put something dainty/meaningful to her about her girls inside the hat as a surprise?
Nellie says:
Sorry, thought I’d add this site for you to check out for “Key to a Mother’s Heart” Necklace from Bradford Exchange:
http://www.bradfordexchange.com/products/111617001_the-key-to-a-mothers-heart.html
Robin says:
There’s this personalized jewellery company too. I wish my husband was as thoughtful as you!
http://tinasteinberg.com/
Julia says:
Heather loves her photography….maybe add something related….like a new lens, a cute new camera bag, camera strap (on etsy.com) or a photography class.
Mommy of 4! says:
I absolutely agree on the spa gift certificate, you can never go wrong with those. Some of the best gifts Ive ever gotten from my husband include a hand written letter about how much he loves me, favorite memories, what our future holds, etc. He also got me a charm bracelet one year for my birthday and on every birthday, Christmas, Mother’s Day, special holiday since he gives me a charm that holds meaning (ie- kids birthstones, an angel in remembrance of my father, 4 leaf clover, etc) and I looooove my bracelet and all the comments it gets. I cant wait to one day to have it overflowing with charms that describe our life. Any gift that comes from the heart, or is at least semi homemade means so much more to me than over priced goods marketed to the masses. Im sure that you’ll do great with whatever you decide ps- hair accessories make great stocking stuffers
Gina says:
My sister’s friend makes these beautiful Sterling Silver charms that have a picture of your little one on it. You just email her a jpeg and pick out the style you want. She is local and can put the charm(s) on a bracelet, necklace, key chain, etc… You could do a bracelet with a charm of Maddie and a charm of Annie! My sisters got me a charm bracelet the Christmas after I had my daughter- I wear it all the time! http://www.kith-kin.com. Good luck!
LAH says:
The VERY BEST gift I ever received from my husband on Christmas was the year he found a picture of us from when we were dating, had it enlarged and picked out a frame for it… ALL BY HIMSELF. We’ve been married almost 26 years and that is the gift that means the most to me. That gift was about 8 years ago and I still treasure it (and always will).
Dawn says:
Mike,
When my daughter was about 8 months old, for Christmas my husband got me Ralph Lauren- Romance perfume with a note that said “Here’s to feeling girlie, even on days you don’t get the chance to shower.” I loved it.
Vica says:
If heather has a favorite classic book like pride and prejudice or Jane Eyre. The Penguin Hardcover Classic collection has a new older style pretty collection of all the classics. Here’s a link.
http://productsearch.barnesandnoble.com/search/results.aspx?store=book&SID=669518
Also, I know someone suggested etsy. That is a great place. They even have some holiday lists for different kinds of people already made up to make shopping on it easier.
Here’s a link to those.
http://www.etsy.com/treasury/tags/gift+guide,her?sort=creation_date&order=desc&ref=fp_banner_Treasuries_Her_113010
Good Luck! I am sure she will love anything you get her.
Julie says:
How about a framed photo of a special place? Her childhoood home? A special vacation spot? Annie might be a little young, but you could take her to one of those unfinished pottery stores and buy a cute picture frame or bowl and let Annie splash some paint on it. Heather would love a keepsake like that.
Paige says:
Look at me, delurking just to help Heather get a good Christmas present.
Here’s the thing about gifts. There’s no ‘size fits most.’ The whole point of giving at Christmas is that we give something that symbolizes how much we care about each other. That does mean searching for the Perfect Gift, but it’s also probably not a car or diamonds. Being broke isn’t a good way to show someone you care!
My close family members always tell me that I pick the best Christmas gifts. The secret is to listen. I go shopping with my husband, or to the mall with my sister, or help my mother with her internet shopping. Starting in about October, I pay particular attention to sentences starting with ‘I wish I could have…’ or ‘I need a…’ They are all on tight budgets, so I know they won’t buy themselves these things. When I get home, I write it down. By the end of November, I have a decent idea of what each would like to receive under the tree.
MS says:
Good luck Mike! I completely agree the holidays are kind of a pain in the rear end with the “perfect gift” thing. Don’t think Heather has mentioned anything specific lately on the blog, but it seems like she is a bit goofy, very fun and still having some rough days. I know that as I get older I often don’t need more “stuff” in the house from gifts, but LOVE when someone takes a chore or task I’ve been avoiding off my hands. Is there a little repair or change she’s been wanting to make around the house? If you just took care of it without even involving her, that would be awesome for me. Basically a “check something off my worry list” kinda gift. Practical, most likely economical and thoughtful!
Lisa says:
All the stuff needed for a great night out for the two of you. A cute new outfit, dinner plans at her favorite restaurant and tickets for a show or concert or something she wants to see. My husband did this one year for my birthday and it was awesome, we had a great time and it was gift that really made me feel special.
Robyn says:
Wow. That is spectacular. Wow.
Deborah says:
I’ve always liked this idea: make some “coupons” that Heather can give to you and use when she feels like it for things like watching Annie, cleaning the kitchen, taking Rigby out for a walk….little things like that for when she is feeling tired or not up for a certain task or chore. It’s free and thoughtful at the same time!
Monica says:
Not a present idea but the funniest video on a husband buying the wrong gift for his wife and what happens!!
http://link.brightcove.com/services/player/bcpid1543292789?bctid=3130509001
Don’t let this happen to you!
Inna says:
This video is the best!!!! Should be watched by all husbands!
Tracy says:
When we first got engaged, I always took my engagement ring off and put it on a plate when I had to wash dishes, etc. That year, my husband got me a beautiful, very small sterling silver box from Tiffany’s that I could put it in when I did those things. It was so thoughtful and sweet and I loved it and that is still my favorite gift. Its the things from the heart that matter to most women. Not something flashy or big. If all else fails, a spa gift certificate with a cozy n.a.p. blanket from Brookstone would be good!
Jen says:
There is this website
http://tinasteinberg.com/
Where you can get really nice inexpensive custom/ personalized jewelry. One of their collects called the love touch collection, you can actually have a charm made with your child or loved ones finger print!! How adorable would that be! No it’s not a diamond necklace but any mom would LOVE something personal like that and you don’t have to spend a lot! They also have other personalized things if that’s not something you think she would like!
Good luck let us all know how it goes!
Yvonne says:
Does she like to read? My favorite thing is my Nook e-reader from Barnes and Noble (recently came down in price!!) The coolest thing is you can “loan” books to your friends that also have Nooks, and you can “borrow” books from your local library for free!!! You never have to leave the confines of your living room! it’s pretty cool – check it out! http://www.barnesandnoble.com/nook/index.asp?PID=35699
Pssst…..there’s also a color version – and you can get kids books too! And Annie won’t be able to rip and eat the pages!
Bella says:
Best gift I ever received? A Kindle. Hands down. I rarely get time to myself with my two kiddos, but I always have my Kindle with me to read for a few minutes when I do. It’s wonderful.
Jen says:
I second the Kindle. My husband got one for me last Christmas and it was a complete and total surprise. I love it.
Lisa P. says:
I posted about my Kindle before I read this. Let me add that I love it and brag about it so much that my younger daughter and my mom bought their own. My older daughter, my niece, and my dad have requested a Kindle for Christmas (and will be getting them).
Monica says:
I cannot stand those Zales commercials. I’m not one for grand gifts. I much prefer something that was made with love, care and passion and that is why everything on my wish list this year is on Etsy.
You can find some wonderfully unique items at affordable prices. Here are a few shops I’ve bought gifts from (for others) already….
http://www.etsy.com/shop/BethanyOgle – Nature paintings
http://www.etsy.com/shop/whimsyandspice – Awesome
confectioners
http://www.etsy.com/shop/onegarnetgirl – Amazing high quality jewelry at affordable prices.
Julia says:
A day at the spa is a GREAT idea – something women always want, but never want to spend the money on.
I think it should be accompanied by a song for sure! That would be the best gift EVER and it’s free
Keri says:
Mike, have you heard about the etsy shop paloma’s nest? She makes bracelets that you can have your kids (or sometimes any saying on it)
I think heather would love to get one that has Madeline and Annabel’s names on it.
Good luck shopping!
http://www.etsy.com/search_results.php?search_query=Palomas+nest&filter%5B0%5D=handmade&filter%5B1%5D=jewelry
EmilyInCocktailLand says:
I was going to suggest Paloma’s nest as well…i love their stuff! Also The Vintage Pearl or Lisa Leonard make beautiful one of a kind jewelry that is personalized.
Professional photography session for the 3 of you. Massage(s). A mothers helper.
Nicole says:
3 ideas for you:
1- the new kindle is $139. Awesome if she likes to read – or wants to start.
2- Ugg Dakota Slipper $99 at Nordstroms. Comfy even if you dont like ‘Uggs’ and cute.
3- Michael Kors watch. Fancy Smancy without costing the same as a Rolex. Michael Kors Runway $250 but there are others cheaper (and more expensive).
Good Luck.
Oh and you should look at the Plasma Car for Annie. Best toy my kids got last Christmas. She is a little young but she might like scooting on it soon.
Jamie says:
UGG Slippers are GREAT!!!
Erin says:
Presents from the heart mean so much more than big flashy presents..
What about a nice bag (http://www.epiphaniebags.com/) for her camera…and all of its stuff…and I saw a bunch of cute camera straps on the gypsy rose handbag etsy site (http://www.etsy.com/shop/gypsyrosehandbags)
I also really love the idea of the hope chest and a song…both so sweet..
Another favourite of mine is going to shutterfly.com and making photo books, calendars, or other photo things…you guys love to take photos..and this way you can print some off into special, beautiful books or other things that you can use around the house If you are interested in this option…shoot me an email and I have some freebie coupon (10% off, etc.) that Im not going to use and I can send you the codes for…there is also free shipping if you spend $50 or more right now…:)
Lisa P. says:
My favorite sentimental gift was a gold locket. It probably cost around $100. On the back, he had engraved “You still hold the key to my heart” and the date. (He had sent roses to me the day he asked my dad for my hand in marriage and the card read “To the one who holds the key to my heart.”) Inside the locket, he put photos of our 2 daughters. This was about 15 years ago and I still love my locket with the pics of my 2 babies!
On a less sentimental note, I’m a huge bookworm and last year he surprised me with a Kindle. I use it every single day!
jen says:
Get her a mother’s ring. Not very expensive and something every mother loves
Ali says:
Hi Mike,
Here are a couple of suggestions:
1. How about a “Staycation” where you let the Grandparents watch Annie for a night and book a hotel room for you and Heather? Then take her to explore your city. Go to a really cool restaurant she’s been dying to try and then do some activity that tourists do (not something cheesy, but something cool) that you two have always wanted to check out… like a show in a really cool venue… a museum… or a tour of some sort. You know… play tourist in your own town and see things you two have never gotten around to experiencing.
2. You could get a really nice quilt made out of some of Maddie and Annie’s old shirts/onsies. You can find all sorts of people who make these “tshirt quilts” on places like etsy, etc. I have one with really meaningful old tshirts of mine that I adore. That way anytime Heather wants to feel close to your girls, she can snuggle up in her quilt!
3. Some sort of photography class for Heather? Maybe a local college has a weekend workshop, weekly classes, etc. ?
jenny says:
My favorite present in the last 10 years is my Iphone. It’s such a toy. I love it.
My next favorites are family pictures (think Olan Mills circa 1970 with all matchy outfits and everyone smiling and posing the way I want) and vintage wine glasses from a flea market.
My best SURPRISE present was concert tickets for a show that I didn’t even know was coming to St. Louis, complete with the dinner package and babysitting arrangements. That one went in the super-duper thoughtful column, and I loved it!
cindy w says:
For our first anniversary, Dave booked us an overnight stay at the fancy-pants hotel where we stayed the night we got married. That was awesome. (And it’s quite possibly where we made Catie, but you know, that’s up to y’all as far as whether or not you want to conceive another child.)
And for my 30th birthday, he gave me a bracelet covered in garnets (my birthstone). Which we didn’t know at the time, but it ended up being Catie’s birthstone as well. (And I think it’s Annie’s too, yes? January?) And believe me, semi-precious stones like garnets are WAAAAY cheaper than diamonds.
If you’re going the jewelry route, something that incorporates both Annie’s and Maddie’s birthstone would probably be a really beautiful, touching gift. (And just to save you some time on Google, November’s birthstone is citrine, which is kind of an orange-y color, and could look really beautiful when combined with the brownish-red of a garnet.)
I’m trying to think if Dave ever got me a Christmas gift that really knocked my socks off… I’m thinking no. We’re usually so broke from buying gifts for everyone else that we shrug it off and make it up to each other on our birthdays.
Amy J says:
I got a necklace from the vintage pearl with both of my kids names on it. She does beautiful work and there is a huge selection of styles. They are reasonably priced and are nice quality- I wear mine every day!
Courtney says:
A locket- with picture of those I love in it. A photo collage of much-loved people and places.
Babbalou says:
Where I live it is possible to buy a package of 6 theater tickets, and then you just choose the theatre and the dates later. We both love going to plays but never seem to get around to it, so this forces us to have a date night out. My husband got them for me a couple of years ago, and I loved it so much I look forward to it each year. If there’s no similar deal where you live, I would still suggest tickets to a play or concert or something you enjoy. A date night shows that you want to be with Heather, just the two of you, and that feels romantic to me and I assume also to Heather. Of course you can add dinner and maybe a pair of earrings or a necklace (I also recommend Etsy). Or a gift certificate to her favorite store, given at Christmas and then tickets to an event after Christmas. It’s always fun to shop for something pretty when you’ve got someplace special to go.
Cara Johnson-Blystone says:
My husband buys us every year a Swarovski Crystal Christmas Tree ornament. It makes us both smile and only our tree has to wear it. Nice thing is they have a really great breakage/repair policy.
Mary Tyler S. says:
A date night is almost always my favorite gift. One night that I don’t have to worry about kids and planning a night out. I also second a hope chest. My best friend gave me a beautiful big box when my daughter was born. Now every time I want to save something that is special to me, I go to that box. It’s filled with tiny little treasures and reminders of our family.
Charlene says:
Mike,
I am not sure if there is time to get Heather something from here since they are custom (but affordable) but you may be interested. This guy makes jewelry from fingerprints. I have 3 kids and had 3 sterling beads made a few years ago with each of their fingerprints as the design. I wear them on colored leather cord necklaces and sometimes I put Pandora type beads in between for color (my husband & my birthstones). I decided these are more precious than diamonds to me and I usually really LOVE diamonds! Check out his website. He does beautiful work and is wonderful to work with. I never even went to his studio, I did it all by email/mail.
http://preciousprintsjewelry.com/
Good Luck!
Charlene
stacy says:
mike –
this is the sweetest post! i think jewelry is always a great gift because it’s not something she “needs” and she probably doesn’t often buy it herself. that said, there are lots of affordable options on etsy that i think any girl would love (trust me – my husband didn’t buy me gifts for a full YEAR after we got engaged)! check these out (i have no affiliation to any of these etsy sellers):
http://www.etsy.com/listing/62415650/on-sale-wire-ball-post-earrings-gold
http://www.etsy.com/listing/59479595/back-to-basics-triangle-earrings-in
http://www.etsy.com/listing/53788566/dainty-beaded-necklace-garnet-gold
and you could pair it with something else – like a uniquely-scented candle:
http://shopterrain.com/merchant.mvc?Screen=PROD&Store_Code=ST&Product_Code=WELL-AROM-45-001001&Category_Code=WELL-AROM
you’ll do great! don’t sweat it! generally, it’s just nice to get a gift that someone put some thought into and it doesn’t even matter what the gift is also, you could get her an “experience” like a cooking or knitting class.
stacy
Dale says:
My favorite gift is a gift card to my favorite kitchen store (think Wm Sonoma but local). I love kitchen gadgets but generally don’t spend money on them, but once a year I go all by myself, no kids, no hubby, and armed with a gift card (even if it’s just $20), I spend an hour or two browsing and then buy myself a zester or an overpriced beautiful wooden spoon or a mixing bowl, whatever. It’s a splurge and I love it.
Colleen says:
This year I scanned and archived all of our family pictures and made everyone their own book on my Apple. Last year, I took our old tapes and made them in to DVDs. It was a huge hit and not too expensive. I think the books will be a hit, the only hard part is editing…….sigh. If you do a book, it takes about a week from when they get the order to when it comes. Good luck! Also, one year my husbancd gave me the Trifecta and I really loved it: Makeup (BIG kit from Estee Lauder), perfume, and chocolate. Get her something she will feel pretty in, NOT LINGERE. Replace something that is wearing out, a cool app for her phone, if she is a reader, an electronic reader. I have a Kindle (and love it) but I am kind of longing for a Nook.
Elizabeth says:
Here’s a GREAT site that cuts their prices in half (or more) and have nice stuff…..
http://www.1saleaday.com/
They always have a jewelry piece. Also here’s another site that has beautiful jewelery for a low low price….
http://shadora.com/
Hope this helps….
Nicole says:
Go bargain shopping with her and SQUEAL LIKE A GIRL when you spend $200 but have saved $150. You know you lost that battle and a girl really loves a bargain….
tela says:
I have a feeling Heather would really like one of these:
http://www.etsy.com/listing/63698570/purple-locket-round-brass-resin-filigree?ref=sr_gallery_2&ga_search_query=amethyst+locket&ga_search_type=handmade&ga_page=&order=&includes%5B0%5D=tags&includes%5B1%5D=title&filter%5B0%5D=handmade
with a special picture or two inside.
LisaJ says:
I have a TON of ideas!
First, a great big shout out to Etsy.com. I freaking LOVE Etsy. The handstamped jewelry is THE BEST, but you may have to beg or pay a rush order at this point…still well worth it. You can customize almost anything, almost any phrase, and you can create something truly unique with both girls on it–and you could incorporate Rigby, too! I think Heather would love it. If jewelry isn’t your/her thing, you can still find almost ANYTHING on Etsy. Seriously-put it in a search and see! And I love the idea of supporting work at home parents. I particularly like Birth Designs, but I am not sure you are within their holiday window.
Heather obviously loves photography, so another option would be a new Canon lens. I LOVE my 50mm 1.4 USM. A little pricey, but not ridiculous and WELL worth it. Seriously, it is my go-to lens for my 1 year old. I use it DAILY on my Rebel. It is wonderful for candids AND portraits. My favorite…hands down. If you join Amazon Mom, you can get three months of free Prime Membership, which entitles you to FREE two day shipping. Plus, no tax! Yay!!!
Continuing with the photography theme, I LOVE Lightroom. It is a photo editing program, and it simply rocks. I know many pros who use it, but it is so very user friendly for budding enthusiasts! Also, a good digital Scrapbooking program to organize pictures and create photobooks was a favorite of mine. You can edit in Lightroom, drop into a scrapbook page maker like Memory Mixer, and upload each page as a Jpeg to Shutterfly, etc. I have given the books as gifts, and they are truly appreciated.
In the heartfelt category, a home made music disc was one of my husband’s favorites. I made a 3 disc set that I entitled “Story of Us”, and it encompassed our journey as a couple. I put songs that were important to us at all our major stages together. He treasures it.
The best gift the hubby gave me, hands down, was a perfectly planned date night. He thought of everything, from the theater tickets, to the restaurant, to the dress. He even bought shoes–it was incredible, and I will never forget it. We drove from Florida to Charlotte, NC to see Phantom last year, because they weren’t coming to our area until after I was due to have the baby. It was incredible, and our last “real” getaway as a couple…kind of a babymoon.
Sorry if I got a wee bit out of control! LOL…
Hope you find the perfect gift.
LisaJ says:
Mike, I wanted to add that if you go the photography route, you can use your educator’s credentials to get Lightroom for a really great price…it was retailing for $299 when I bought it–and I paid $99 because I am in education.
Mike says:
Great suggestions! The photography angle has been mentioned by others here and is one I will definitely think about. Also, good point about the education discounts! That’s a great deal!
Mary says:
My favorites are always the ones that show he really thought about who I am, what I like, and what I want.
For myself, let me give my favorite example. The first Valentine’s Day we were married, we were pretty broke. A newly blended family in a new city…yeah. It was a rough year.
That February morning, I woke up not expecting much more than a sweet card. Instead, my husband had set two chairs blocking the kitchen (where he knew I would go for my coffee). On each chair was a huge teddy bear with three smaller bears. One of the chairs had two boxes of chocolates and two cards with my name on them. The other had a small box of chocolates and a card for my daughter, then 11.
That he would take the time to go purchase stuffed animals, candy and cards not just for me, but for his step-daughter as well, touched me in ways you can’t imagine. That has stayed with me more than any expensive gift he could have bought.
In Heather’s case, that might be something for her photography or a quiet weekend away somewhere you both cherish. But, of course, you know her best.
Sarah S says:
The best present my hubby gave to me is a picture that an artist drew of my first son and I. It was actually a photo that was taken from my chin down with my son as the focus who was leaning on my chest. It’s a beautiful photo, and I get so many compliments on the artist’s drawing.
Good luck! I’m sure whatever you get her, she will love! Merry Christmas!
Carissa says:
You can’t go wrong with birthstone jewelry. Its very personal and special. The hubby has a hard time on all special occasions too. But the best thing he has ever given me was a gift certificate to the spa to get a massage. I LOVED that! Or you could get a couples massage and a night away.
Erin says:
Couple of ideas….would she wear one of the Pandora bracelets? The initial bracelet is only about $50, and you can get just a couple beads for it (one for each of the girls, for example). Bonus….for birthdays, anniversaries, other gift-giving holidays for the next few years, you can just get her another bead or two – just make sure they have some deep meaning, and she’ll love it (at least I would).
I also like the idea of a hope chest, but if she already has a bunch of Maddie’s stuff stored away, I don’t know if having her go through it again to put it in a hope chest would be a happy occasion or a sad occasion, so I’ll leave it up to you.
Massage gift certificates are always nice, as is camera equipment. And check some of the online places mentioned above for discounted jewelry. Good luck! And make sure to let us know (after Christmas) what you decided and how she liked it!
Melissa says:
Love this post! Not sure if this is what you’re looking for, but one of the best gifts my husband has given to me is a ceramic penguin.
In the summer of that year, I had seen these ceramic penguins. They were ridiculously expensive so I didn’t get them, but I must have talked about them enough that he went looking for them at Christmas time. He couldn’t find them anywhere so he looked up ceramic shops in the phone book and found one that had a penguin. When he got there, he was surprised to learn it was a paint-your-own pottery place. Anyway, he painted a ceramic penguin for me. He’s significantly smaller than the ones I had drooled over for so many months, and he’s certainly not perfect, but he’s one of my most favorite gift ever because he made the effort to make him for me!
Good luck in your quest for the “perfect” gift!
Carolyn says:
3 months of a housecleaning service (or 6 months or a year, whatever you can afford). Every mom’s favorite gift!
susan says:
yes!! christmas gifts don’t have to be romantic. practical works too!!
Kelly says:
I totally agree that all these commercials that try to push you into buying the “perfect” gift are ridiculous!! If I walked outside to a BMW with a big red bow on top, I’d be pissed that my husband made such a big purchase without discussing it with me first!
We are a family on a limited budget, and the things I usually want are of the practical variety. We know we love each other, and don’t need expensive gifts or flashy diamonds to prove it. One year, my husband got me a pot rack. Romantic? Not at all. Practical? Absolutely. And I loved it! (Still do!)
My favorite 2 gifts I’ve ever gotten from him are:
1) A handmade (not by him – he bought it.) mother’s bracelet with the names of our sons and their birthstones. It also included our birthstones. He gave it to me the day before our 2nd son was born, and I’ve worn it every day since.
2) A few years ago, he gave me a crystal box with 52 slips of paper inside (one for every week of the year). On each slip of paper, he had written a reason that he loved me. It was amazing and beautiful.
Teal says:
Hey,
Go to a local bead shop and ask the ladies there to help you make a bracelet for her. They can help you make the whole thing and you can give it to her and tell her proudly you made it yourself. She’ll love it, I guarantee.
Teal
Rachel says:
Heather has mentioned that Anthropologie is her favorite store, so maybe you could pick out (with her Mom’s help!) a dress, top, or fun piece of jewelry for her to wear when you surprise her with a night out on the town
Also, you could maybe get her a magazine subscription to one you always see her pick up in the grocery store, etc. My mom got me 2 last year to InStyle and Vogue and I LOVE coming home to find a new mag in the mailbox every month! Pair that with a cozy robe and some bubble bath things and that’s a great gift!
Good luck and Merry Christmas Spohr Family!
Katy says:
I haven’t looked at the other comments, so what I’m going to say is probably already there…but you just CAN’T go wrong with a massage. EVERY MOM needs time to herself, to take care of and refresh herself! If you really want to make it good, make arrangements for a friend to meet her for lunch afterward or something like that too. I would kill for some time to take care of myself!
susan says:
my husband and i rarely gift each other these days (after 20 years of marriage and 23 years total being together). if we do purchase something it is usually something we both have been wanting, so we’ll just call it “the gift”. sometimes when we are feeling really cheap we’ll go to the local card shop, browse through the cards and each of us will show the other the card we would pick for the other if we were so inclined.
we really are deeply in love. however, we’ve come to realize there are so many other ways to show you care than emptying your wallet several times per year.
what ever you decide to buy for heather, i’m sure it will reflect your love for her. just listen to your heart….
Suki says:
I don’t have any ideas, but I just had to share that I also loathe the holiday car commercials. My husband and I joke about it all the time: honey, for Christmas I got you…a car payment!. Though in an ironic twist of fate, we are now in the market to purchase a car right around Christmas. I told him that if we end up getting it right around then I want to recreate the car commercial moment
Nanette says:
I remember Heather gushing about wanting one of these bags recently — http://www.epiphaniebags.com/ (Camera bag that looks like a gorgeous purse) I remember ‘cuz now I want one, too!
I also really like the idea above about writing a song for her. Very sweet!
Rebecca says:
Pick up diaper duty for a month. Give Annie her bath for a month. Start a Daddy/Annie day where you take Annie out of the house and let Heather do whatever she wants. Sleep?!
Hire a maid to come over to the house to do some light cleaning once a week through out the winter months. Every other week for 6 months? How about once a month to do a deep cleaning for a year?
Sign yourselves (you and Heather…see if Grandma and Grandpa can watch Annie) up for cooking classes. You can sign up for three. Do one for appetizers and one for main dish and one for dessert.
Darla says:
The best gift I ever got was a necklace with my kids names as well as their birthstones. I wear it everyday. Check out the website https://www.thevintagepearl.com. Another thing I got was a framed sketched picture of my son and I. It was my favorite photo. One other good idea would be a gift certificate to get family photos done by a professional photographer. That is what I am getting this year and I am beyond excited!! Good luck!!
Barbi Brickley Emel says:
I think you should buy her something related to photography. Maybe a new lens. I know Heather has a Canon similar to mine, does she have the 50 mm lens, it runs around $100 and it’s a great portrait lens? It’s cool that you care to ask everyone. I usually do my own Christmas shopping & show my husband what he bought me. Happy Holidays to you all!!!
Jennifer says:
what about a “mother necklace” from vintage pearl or similar sights with Maddie & Annie’s names…she would love that (if she doesn’t already have one.
http://www.vintagepearl.com
http://www.blissliving.com
Tara. says:
Well. You have one think going for you. Heather thinks you’re a total dreamboat! So, you can check that off your list.
My suggestion would be to take her somewhere nice overnight. See if her parents can stay with Annie, or maybe your parents can come down. Surprise her though. Don’t tell her ahead of time.
I think you should write something up telling her that her gift is a surprise she will flip over and is soon to come. Put it in a Gap box with a bow on it.
Or maybe a picnic under the stars? Or a picnic on the beach under the stars?
Anything that yo put thought and effort in to with her in mind is going to make her so happy. You’re such a great husband to want to go out of your way to make her smile. I can’t wait to see what you decide to do!
Megan says:
Ooh! This lady does custom hand-painted necklaces for around $30. I had one made for my mom. You just email her a photo and she paints it. So if there’s any photo or image or…really, anything that’s special or meaningful to her, you could have it replicated in necklace form. If my husband did that for me, he would get SO laid.
http://www.etsy.com/shop/heatherkent
You are an awesome, thoughtful husband just for making this post!
(And you sound exactly like my husband…he complains about those same commercials: “Sure, it’s easy to be romantic when you’re a rich douchebag!” )
Tara. says:
Forgot I meant to add… I really awesome vase with the promise to fill it with a different flower each month!
michelle in MO says:
Well, I have to say she already got the two best gifts you could give her, Madeline and Annabel. I think she would agree, but if you still want to give her a token of your affection, I would go with a gallon jar of peanut butter from Sam’s or Costco.
Or something along this line would be nice, if she doesn’t already having something similar. I know it comes in either silver or gold and you can add charms so she could have one for each girl (and Rigby!).
http://www.becomingjewelry.com/loyoufogo.html
Kirsten says:
I’m making all my presents this year. I have NO MONEY at ALL.
Jessica says:
My husband once sent me a message in a bottle. It came in this beautiful old box with a bottle inside. Then the message portion has burned edges. It was so sweet that I cried. He is not romantic at all, so this was a complete shock and I loved it!
Sara says:
Just make sure that if you DO buy her a brand new BMW or Lexus, you park it in the living room, right by the tree. Cause, you know, that would make any woman happy…
1coolmom says:
Mike,
I’m pretty sure you’re not alone on this. It’s sweet of you to reach out looking for help! I haven’t read through the other comments, so I don’t know if anyone has already said it…..but personalized gifts that I get with my kid’s names, pictures, etc. mean the most to me. There are tons of great sites that will personalize just about anything. Why not have a throw blanket or pillow made with a picture of Maddie and Annie? Or maybe take a picture of their footprints from when they were born and send that in to be put on a coffee mug (or something that Heather uses alot and would see daily). I think any of these would be a touching gift that she would treasure more than any Gap sweater! LOL Good Luck!
Amy Jones says:
Hey!! I think you should get her a canvas of your beautiful daughters. Go to http://www.canvasondemand.com and check them out. U upload any pic you want and they turn it into a canvas. An even better deal is if you sign up as a member (it’s free) at http://www.babycenter.com, they will give you one free 8×10 canvas valued at $59.95. They are absolutely beautiful and make great gifts……. I think as much as she likes photos that she would love it……. u could do one of you, Heather and Maddie and then one of you, Heather and Annie.
chrissie says:
Im not sure what your budget is….but I asked for an IPAD this year. I know her laptop got stolen, not sure if you replaced it yet or not. Our laptop recently broke, so this is something that I want that we would have bought anyway, well maybe not an ipad, but we would have at least bought a laptop. Its a 2 in 1 kind of deal if you guys haven’t already replaced Heathers laptop. Its still kind of pricey, but definitley less than diamonds or cars.
Heleen says:
Try this site: they have affordable stuff you can put kids names on etc etc etc…
http://www.lifetimemothers.com/
Amy says:
If its jewelery she wants try anything from
http://www.lisaleonardonline.com/
Really nice stuff with a lot of sayings and such on them, plus lots have a little pearl on them, so thats fancy!
I also like the night away suggestion!
If all else fails Mike – don’t think Fake Diamond… Think Real Cubic Zirconia!!!!
Good Luck, I know you’ll do great!
Kristin Wear says:
I didn’t feel like reading through all 69 comments prior (call me Lazy) but what about a nice piece of customizable hand stamped jewley from ETSY? I’m thinking specifically something with both Maddie and Annie’s names on them.
Kristie McNealy says:
I agree that some sort of custom jewelry from Etsy would be great. Something with the girls’ names or birthstones (or both!).
I’m totally with you on those commercials. Every year I ask my husband exactly how much money someone has to make before they can just go off and secretly buy a brand new luxury car as a gift!?!
Sandra says:
One year, my husband gave me a glass jar that was covered at the top and had a slit. Each year, he writes a letter to me. Then we sit down together and make a list of things that happened that year that we want to always remember…big or small. We say that after fifty years, we will break the jar and read them:)
I also received a necklace one year with my kids names and birthstones. LOVE IT! They sell them on Etsy, but the one that I know that lasts the longest (the first one I bought the names wore off) is from a store called HOT MAMA!
I also second the date night gift….a night or two that you have planned entirely.
Christina says:
I’m with everyone on the etsy suggestions. Great stuff on there! Especially jewelery and hair accessories. Do you think she’d be into shoe clips? Shoe clips are awesome… little flowers or bead or any kind of design, really that come ready to be clipped onto any shoe.
Also, a trip. She could unwrap the tickets or brochure printout or receipts for a weekend away that you scheduled for you guys.
Books, maybe. I love books. I have the goal to read all of the Jane Austen novels so getting that as a gift would be grand! Especially if they were leather bound and pretty. Has she ever mentioned anything like that?
Is she still doing those photography courses? Some photographers I follow on flickr offer workshops and they seem really amazing. These people are artists and they teach about the art form and their vision. It would be really fascinating to hear about how they work, watch them and work with them, especially if you know of a photographer she loves. Paying for something like that for myself, I would never do. But I would love it as a gift!
And always appreciated – a spa day!
Jenny says:
I love making photogifts for people, but don’t ever get any, and I’d love to receive a mouse pad or a collage photo mug. It sounds simple, but I just never do that for myself. It takes a lot of time to make a calendar or whatever and I do it for others but not for us. One of my favorite gifts is from Ceramic Cafe, it is a travel coffee mug with my daughter’s handprints and names on it. IF Heather makes these for others, but never receives, that would be a cool gift for her. Is there another gift that she is always spending a lot of time doing for others but not for herself.
Has she been eying any photography software or equipment?
Two weekends in a row of getting to sleep in is worth more than diamonds to me. Like sleep until you are done, and then shower, get ready, and THEN come out. I’ll take care of everything until then. FOUR MORNINGS!
A weekend trip away with all details figured out for her.
Oh, and the BMW commercial pisses me off! Do you know why? The reality of that is, honey, look, I picked you out a car (without your input), it is a $60K car, so we’ll also need to find an extra $600 in the monthly budget for the payments we’ll be making on your Christmas present for the next 5 years! I’d like a gift that doesn’t put us in debt, call me a scrooge!
Neeroc says:
I received a piece of artwork from a local artist and I love it. It has a great deal of meaning to our family and knowing that my husband went to the effort to understand my tastes in art (something he has very different tastes in) track down the artist and find something beautiful and with meaning…means the world to me.
Or, I think if you plan to do something which means a lot to her, but you aren’t really that into, it would mean a tonne.
Craze says:
Cater to a hobby. My husband knows I live, breathe and dream Music, so one year he bought me an acoustic guitar.
Heather likes to take pictures, so find her some cool editing software, that doesn’t cost a million dollars like Photoshop.
Of course, you can never go wrong with a gift certificate to a nail salon or hair dresser, or even just for a facial and/or massage. A lot of places run specials around the holidays, so you won’t spend as much as normally.
mags says:
I love everyone’s ideas – especially the hope chest. I’m sure she will love whatever you give her! Good Luck – and let us know how it turns out
Janet says:
THE best gifts I’ve ever been given by my husband are the one’s I ASK FOR! I love it!! Seriously, I love knowing that something I really want he will be getting and then not knowing which thing it is makes it a surprise…
Last year I asked for a few different things and then also 2 sound machines.
Well Chris knew how much i really wanted those and that’s what I got, I couldn’t have been happier….
Megan says:
The best gift my husband got me was a necklace from http://www.myvintagepearl.com It has both our kids names on it. It’s gorgeous and I wear it every day!
GreenInOC says:
I love the idea of experiences as gifts.
Why do something over the top and totally memorable, ala a guerilla dance or choir stunt like Mitch gave to Cam on Modern Family?
You would just be having a romantic stroll sipping hot cider and then all of the sudden dancing would break out, you’d give her a kiss on the cheek, hand her your drink, drop her hand and dance your booty off!!
http://www.meetup.com/MobHits/
http://losangeles.craigslist.org/lac/com/2087575389.html
Carrie says:
Jewerly with Annie’s fingerprint on it. I got this for mother’s day last year and love it!!!
http://www.starfieldbay.com/home.html
Hsw says:
Making your own silhouettes(sp?) is sweet and sentimental, or a locket, or go online and have Annie choose from several choices of necklaces (I pulled up http://www.peggyli.com and had my daughter pick a necklace for my sister in law, even though they’re little they can choose just by pointing. Or mommy/daughter pjs? I remember redenvelope having some last year.
Jewlee says:
Mike,
Check out our website. You could design a “Spohr” or “Annabel”. They are lots of fun and our quality is second to none. There will never be another one like it…and I’d give you guys a great deal cuz you’re just good people
http://www.fourcheesephotography.com
Mindi says:
Mike,
Great post. I do have a great suggestion…perhaps you have already heard. Planet Jill is awesome company that makes jewelry out of photographs. All you need to do is upload picture, they can even be scanned and the quality is exceptional. I have purchaed two bracelets from this company. One for my best friend who lost their little man to cancer and one for my mommy. My mom’s has pictures of all us kids, including the brother we lost to leukemia in 1968…the quality of his scannned, very old picture is excellent. So just a suggestion, but a rollo link sterling bracelet with Maddie and Annie’s pictures might just be the the ticket…check it out at http://www.planet jill.com
Good luck on your quest. Heather, Maddie and Annie are lucky girls indeed!
Merry Holidays
Pat says:
When I was a young wife many years ago, my husband did the most romantic thing at Christmas. He bought me a beautiful red sweater and asked me to try it on and he then pulled out a “45” record (yes, I am showing my age) and put my then favourite song “Lady in Red” on the record player and danced me around the room. “The lady in red is dancing with me cheek to cheek
There’s nobody here, it’s just you and me, It’s where I wanna be”
I have never forgotten it.
I had just had our second daughter a few months before (we went on to have 4 daughters) so it was a hectic year and money was tight but just knowing that he actually gone to the store and made those purchases to turn a simple red sweater into a lasting memory made it perhaps the most special gift I have ever received from him.
If you can pick something that Heather loves and find a gift to “go with” it, I think she would love that you put so much thought into it.
melissa says:
My husband and I don’t usually exchange gifts, so I don’t usually expect anything from him. Sometimes he will get me something small or even just a card and they really mean a lot because he didn’t have to. Of course it makes me feel like a jerk because I didn’t get him anything.
If you really want to get her jewelry you can go to this website (http://www.silverjewelryclub.com/default.aspx) it has a bunch of free sterling silver jewelry… that’s right it is free, you just have to pay for shipping and I am pretty sure they are based in LA so that should be cheap. The only down side is that you have to wait for the perfect item to come up, they do have a section for upcoming items so you can see what will be up next.
Miriam says:
too lazy to read all the comments, but did anyone suggest “mom” jewelry? Not sure what the exact name is, but it would be a piece of jewelry that includes maddie and annabel. I know Heather has the tattoo, not sure if she has a necklace. The jewelry is affordable.
Another option is an Anthropologie gift card, we know she loves that store!
FWIW, my husband and I almost never exchange presents for Hannukah – but i know Christmas is a bigger holiday.
miriam says:
p.s. whatever gift you get for Heather deserves a follow up post!
Erin says:
How about something really weird, like a toothbrush subscription?!?
http://www.preserveproducts.com/products/personalcare/toothbrush-subscription.html
Cost: $13
The look on her face when she unwraps the gift on Christmas morning: Priceless!
catherine lucas says:
I would have to say Apple-Mac… Has she gotten another computer already? I know I don’t care for diamonds, but let me go to the apple store and I am a happy camper… (All the jewelry stuff seems pretty boring to me…)
skatesandscars says:
I’m sure that Heather will love whatever you get her…however I would suggest a new camera accessory – maybe a new lens, an external flash for those indoor photos, a cute bag with a few additional memory cards and an extra battery – so she never again runs out of juice when shooting those great memories?!
Good luck- and have a Merry Christmas!
Lisa says:
No anniversary, birthday or xmas gifts-we travel to New Orleans for Mardi Gras and then buy things we want there (booze-yum) and food and more. Did I mention the food?????
Expat Mom says:
My husband doesn’t get me gifts anymore, but he used to give me jeans and a pair of shoes every Christmas. How romantic! I did appreciate them, but I would suggest you stay away from that kind of gift.
Diamonds aren’t the only kind of jewelry out there. What about a locket with a photo of each girl inside? It could be engraved with their initials.
I heartily agree with the spa idea, too. Every mom needs to be pampered!
Another good idea, if she doesn’t have one yet is a Kindle . . . those things are awesome and she can read while following Annie around the house without carrying a stack of books.
Marie says:
Mike,
No diamond is going to take the place of something you lovingly thought of for your wife. Trust me on this one. Pay attention when you are out and about together. Do this the whole year and then tuck that info away. If she sees a quilt that she loves, a sweater that would fit her beautifully, keep those in mind. My suggestion would be a locket with both of your girls inside. If she already has one, there is also the necklace with the little people hanging from it. Birthstones in the shape of a boy or girl. I have one from my grandchildren. Two little girls on that necklace would be a great gift. Kmart sells those I believe. And a beautiful card means so much with the gift.
And speaking of Grinchy!
Victoria’s Secret has their Christmas ad on tv. The first time I saw it, I watched the whole thing. The 2nd time I changed the channel. What is there about 6 skinny models in skimpy undies that says “Happy Birthday Jesus”? Good grief!
Good luck and happy shopping
Hugs
Marie
Morgan says:
I love these stackable rings. Very trendy yet classic. Plus, not too expensive for what you’re getting.
You can do one ring with Heather’s birthstone, one with yours, one with Madeline’s, and one with Annabel’s.
http://www.lunaandstella.com/products/ring
liz says:
not sure if you’ve ever heard of the 5 love languages, but when i’m trying to find a really good present, i ask/recall how they best feel loved, and do something in that category. there are 5 main categories that most people call into (receiving which one of these makes them feel loved/cared for by the giver?): gifts, acts of service, quality time, physical touch, and words of affirmation. if there is 1 or 2 of those that Heather most gravitates towards, then even better, you can combine or have a 2-part gift!
Carrie says:
My friend has this necklace…charms with her kids’ names on them (you can get Maddie and Annie on them)…very stylish too! She’ll love! Good luck!
http://www.shinyfinesilver.com/Shiny_Fine_Silver/Personalized_Jewelry.html
Jenifer says:
I am going to be the millionth person to say Etsy! I got some freshwater pearl earrings from my husband off of Etsy last Valentines Day and they are still my favorite earrings. I love that they are handmade and unique. And… I know for a fact that they were very reasonably priced.
QueenFrigid says:
Everyone has such great ideas.
How about an ipad?
Tammy says:
My husband bought me a sign for our bedroom last year that said “Always kiss me goodnight”. We’ve been married 20+ years and neither of us are particularly romantic (we’ve both forgotten our anniversary – different years). But I thought it was a wonderful gift.
Not expensive either.
Tammy says:
Oooooo – I just read this one from above and I think it is the best!!!
“Two weekends in a row of getting to sleep in is worth more than diamonds to me. Like sleep until you are done, and then shower, get ready, and THEN come out. I’ll take care of everything until then. FOUR MORNINGS! :)”
Molly says:
What about a necklace with both Maddie’s and Annie’s birth stones on it? Does she already have something like this? Or a locket with a pic of each girl in it. That would be so very special. Not cost a fortune but surely mean alot to her.
Kellie says:
Okay, don’t bash my hubby, because I love him dearly…but I was once the woman with the brand new BMW in the driveway. BUT! No bow because it was raining and the thought of the bow running on the convertible top (yea, it was a convertible too!) was not a good one. Okay, all that said, the best gift (including the car) was a framed picture of me and my daughter and a mug that says I’m a great wife. Seriously, it IS the thought that counts and when you do anything with the kids and us, it makes it special. So when you see all the sappy commercials you now know the inside scoop – although the woman might be gasping, her heart is not melting! Diamonds are not our best friend…our husbands are!
Tamara says:
I think someone also suggested this but I’d look on etsy for some vendors that sell hand stamped jewelry… and then have a necklace made with two charms that have Maddie and Annie’s names on it, you could also have their birthstones put on it. I think she’d be all over something like that! Check out etsy for sure if you get a minute.
Heather says:
Mike,
I am a big fan of anything Etsy (and love the idea) but I think if I sent my husband on Etsy to find jewelry he would be lost. My suggestion is, like many said, do something personal and a nice gift. I do not like to make a fuss about jewelry but I do like something nice from time to time. While most equate Tiffany & Co with the words “overly expensive” they have some great silver bracelets, necklaces, earrings and rings, some for around $125, which is pretty reasonable. Online they have an under $250 section. I think every girl would enjoy the surprise of the little blue box! Hope this helps!
Janet says:
http://www.jamesavery.com
Just as nice and definitely not as as expensive as Tiffany
Crystal says:
I love the idea of MAKING A GIFT! Every year my husband takes the kids to the Pottery painting place and they make me something. They have made me serving platters, coffee mugs, vase, pictures frame. Its so much fun to see how they progress artistically year after year. And it something they make just for me.
He had the baby put his foot prints on a plate for me, and I cherish it.
Kristy says:
This is a sweet post. As far as ideas, I’m not sure what kind of things Heather is into, but my husband got me a birthstone ring when our first daughter was born. It had his, mine and our daughter’s birthstones in it. I loved that ring. It wasn’t very expensive and it meant so much to me. It was from a department store and the stones in it weren’t big. But, to be honest, I’m not a very materialistic person> My all-time favorite gift was for this past birthday he got me a Nook eReader. I love it. But books are my passion. I love reading. Normally he gets me a gift card for Half Price Books so I can shop for my own books. It’s normally $25 and I typically get 2-3 books. I’m also hopelessly frugal. If my husband was one of those schmucks in the jewelry commercials or car commercials, I’d kill him. I think the holidays are about so much more than the biggest, most expensive gifts. I love just getting together with family, watching my daughters open their presents, and having some cookies. From reading the blog, it seems Heather is a down-to-earth woman who is just so happy to have you and Annie healthy. I’m sure whatever you come up with will be absolutely wonderful. The thought really is what counts. Good luck, Mike! Sorry I couldn’t be more helpful.
Liz says:
I have not suggestions, but just so you know, you are awesome, just for asking!
Marin D says:
I would say something sentimental. These are the things I wish my husband would get the hint for: a photobook he put together; a canvas print of him and my girls; a necklace with my girls’ names on it (vintage pearl has some great stuff); a digital frame loaded with pictures; and you get the idea. I don’t need something expensive or fancy. Just something that reminds me of them every time I see it. Stuff just doesn’t matter.
monica says:
first of all, let me say you Rock for asking for suggestions! You clearly are thoughtful and want to get her something really special. I agree that anything from the heart, such as framed photos, letters, a planned date night, she will love. My hubby waits until last minute and I get the typical lotion, candles, etc, etc. The fact that you are putting your heart into this means a lot! Oh, and obviously no appliances.
Julie says:
I’m not married, but for mysister and her spouse I am giving them “A Year of Dates”. So basically 12 envelopes and an “itinerary” and any necessary giftcards, tickets, etc…that they might need. And every month doesn’t have to cost any money either! Could be omething like a hike or even walking around Target oh, and don’t forget a babysitter voucher, either put cash in an envelope or get family/friend to volunteer! It’s simple, but I think it’s a good way to make sure you take time out for one another.
giselle says:
You’re just awesome. I don’t have any good suggestions, I just wanted you to know that I think y0u’re an awesome husband and dad.
Paula says:
My favorite gifts from my spouse are the ones from his heart and not some over – priced crap. I like when he *listens* to my needs/wants and chooses from that to get me something. I am not hard to buy for though – chocolate works. Oops, that didn’t help did it?
giselle says:
I just thought of something. How about booking a class that you can do together that she would really enjoy and get the grandparents to watch Annie during that time? Like a cooking class, knitting class, cake decorating, sewing, anything like that. You would have so much fun spending that quality time together.
Becky Mochaface says:
I’m a big fan of either something I can use for a little me time (spa gift certificate) or a date night with my husband (tickets to a show).
Anne says:
Mike, not sure if anyone else mentioned it, but I wanted to make sure you are aware of Heather’s most recent hair video. Go watch! she really wants you to buy her earrings!
Janet says:
http://www.jamesavery.com
Charm bracelets are a very big deal here in Texas. I’m a teacher and almost everyone of the Moms in my class has one. You can buy charms that would carry a special meaning like a camera or laptop. They also have children’s silhouettes which can be engraved with someones name. There are birthstones and initials…I could go on and on.
Take a look at their website….I definitely think that it would be a very unique gift for someone in California and then ALL of her friends will want one too!
Good Luck!
Jess says:
I make my my parents and his parents photo calendars on snapfish.com. I add everyone’s birthdays and fill it with tons of pictures from the past year. My husband and I are both teachers so our Christmas budget is very limited especially for each other. I would melt if my husband would take the time and make one for me because it would mean that he would actually have put thought into my gift. From reading Heather’s blog I can tell she LOVES to take picture, so you would have lots and lots to chose from.
Stacy says:
Mike,
I think Heather would LOVE one of these personalized necklaces to represent Maddie and Annie. I have one for my kids, and I also ordered one for a friend who’s son passed away. The lady who makes them is FABULOUS. She will work with you, and personalize exactly how you want it. She will find some sort of charm that fits what you want even if it isn’t listed. I only know her from ordering, but she was a pleasure to work with, and came up with a handful of different designs until we found the perfect one. Very reasonable, and personalized. I get tons of compliments on my necklace, and my friend that I made it for loves hers and wears it all the time. http://www.etsy.com/shop/indigosignature?page=1
Hope that helps!
Liz S. says:
I vote a necklace with the birthstones of Heather, Maddie, Annie, and you. They are not too expensive and I think it would be something personal. We can’t wait to hear what you end up getting her!
Kim says:
Heather seems to love pictures of her family. Why not take some of the best ones and make a book out of it? You can do this on Snapfish, Shutterfly, Kodak, etc… It is very easy to do and doesn’t cost a lot of money.
Annie says:
I have a necklace that has a finger print pendant of each of my boys. It’s this cool little kit that comes with a clay mold and you press a finger against it, put it back in the mail, and in about a week you receive a silver or gold charm of the print.
Sunny says:
My hubby bought me a giant 2 1/2 foot stocking a few years ago. I was horribly embarrassed by it the first few years. It’s become his tradition to fill that sucker to the top. He doesn’t buy a lot of expensive stuff, but he does by stuff that I usually won’ t by myself. stuff like hair dye, my favorite chips, hair jewelry, hair salon products that I usually deem too expensive to buy, nail polish, biore strips, lipstick…are you sensing a theme here? Girly stuff that I’m too cheap (usually) to buy for myself.
Laura says:
Mike-
this is the perfect thing:
http://www.etsy.com/listing/62660915/the-original-family-tree-initial?ref=sr_gallery_15&ga_search_query=tree+name&ga_search_type=&ga_page=&order=&includes%5B0%5D=tags&includes%5B1%5D=title&filter%5B0%5D=handmade&filter%5B1%5D=jewelry
Mel says:
Mike,
Check this out. The site is Red Envelope and it’s called the Loving Arms necklace. Item #7377296. My husband got it for me last year and it’s perfect. I have wanted something to symbolize my 3 kids for a long time, but didn’t want something obvious with their names or birthstones. I wanted something simple and elegant, that I could wear with everything. It has a beautiful poem that comes with it and it can be gift oxed and wrapped.
anonymous says:
Two tickets to a concert that she would love and you would hate. And you have to let her sing
Charlane says:
My husband made me a scrap book of the year. BEST GIFT EVER! It was not a fancy shutterfly professional type book, but a real scrapbook with ticket stubs, pictures, a little leaf from apple picking, a bobby-pin from my super fancy hair-do (that I just had to get in order to go to a wedding) , photos napkin drawings we did at a dinner party we went to…a scrapbook. In there he also wrote me some pretty touching little notes talking about how awesome the year was, and how not awesome the year was but how cool I can make ‘not awesome’. It was really PERFECT for the sentimental type. It wasn’t expensive but oh my gosh the time and thought he put into this is worth more than any stupid pair of earrings any day! Oh I love that book so much…Maybe Heather would feel the same way?
GreenInOC says:
Oh Carlane, that made me cry!
The forethought and time he had to put into that is melting my heart!
Mike, THIS is the gift you give her next year, start working on it today!!
Jenny says:
I wish your hubby would call my hubby… this gift made my mouth water with envy. I love it!
Kim L says:
I am a HUGE fan of Lisa Leonard Designs. GREAT gift idea, If you sign up for her newsletter you’ll receive a 15% off coupon. FYI – orders take about 2 weeks, http://www.lisaleonardonline.com/
rian says:
I was just gonna tell him about Lisa Leonard. I LOVE her stuff. I have 2 necklaces from her that I love and have my son’s name on them. I have also bought her stuff for friends.
Mike definately check her stuff out. You could get her something beautiful with Maddie and Annie’s names on it.
Zu says:
I was going to say Lisa Leonard too! I can’t believe it took this long to have her mentioned. I kind of can’t wait to be a mom just to get one of her necklaces with kids names on in
I think she’ll loooooove this!
Zu says:
Sorry for the double comment, but just remembered this necklace specifically:
http://www.lisaleonardonline.com/through-my-lens-necklace-P66C8.aspx
combines love of photography and the kids!
Lucy says:
Ok, Mike. I have your back on this one. I have one beautiful daughter and lost my other beautiful baby girl three years ago. Without a doubt, the best gift I have received since then was the necklace my husband gave me on the first Mothers Day after our baby died. It was two silver charms on a siver necklace, each one was the first initial of our girls names. It all came from http://www.waxingpoetic.com – HeAther would love the sentiment behind it and the cool, funky look of their stuff. Plus, silver is MUCH less expensive than gold.
Sara says:
Here is an idea…and yes, it’s my own etsy shop…but, still…
It’s a great one of a kind present, for mommies that love to show off their babies!
http://www.etsy.com/listing/63044529/12-months-of-love?ref=sr_list_6&ga_search_query=12+months+of+love&ga_search_type=handmade&ga_page=&order=&includes%5B0%5D=tags&includes%5B1%5D=title&filter%5B0%5D=handmade
Jen says:
One thing my husband did for me years ago that is still my favorite–he gave me 6 bottles of wine in a neat container and each one had a homemade tag on it with a gold ribbon. They had milestones on them like when our last daughter was potty trained, when our son goes to kindergarten, etc. He chose important milestones that were significant to us and every time we achieve one we go and open that bottle–and I saved all of the tags. He did it again for my birthday last year bc we were almost out of bottles and needed new milestones!! LOVE it.
amandaP says:
I am not a big poster, but I totally have an awesome idea. there is a website called photojojo, and just about everything there would make a great present. however, there is this one chalkboard speech bubble that she could use…
jeannine says:
i think you should get her a flip video cam if you dont have one.
I too take a bazillion pics of my kids. But the flip is great for video. I wish i’d taken more video when my oldest ones were younger…and i wish more were in HD.
The flip is nice cause it fits in your pocket.
maybe you already have one.
well, just my suggestion.
oorrrr maybe a new lens for her camera.
<3!!
Sara says:
Did you know on iTunes there is the COMPLETE glee music?!? It’s 100 songs!
Angela says:
Is she into theater? Wicked is coming to the Orange County Performing Arts Center next year.
Toms shoes are pretty awesome, and they have a neat message behind them.
There’s a book i saw at Urban Outfitters called “All About Us”-you answer questions about each other and write them in the book. Youre both so hilarious, I’m sure you’d enjoy reading each others answers!
Paint her a picture.
Sorry for the random responses-I’m typing as I think of them lol
Amanda M. says:
My favorite present from my husband was the year he painted a computer keyboard my favorite color.
mtobin says:
Is there a project around the house that she really wants done?
For example, my hubby has a pile of stuff in his corner of the bedroom and a closet overflowing. If I cam home to find that it was all cleaned up and organized.. it would be awesome… just a thought.
freda says:
A family portrait since someone is always taking the photo, so there’s no pictures with everyone in them.
Buy a nice frame & put the gift certificate inside.
AmyP says:
I think that if you could do something with Maddie’s fingerprint (or feet print) if you had this done when she was little and could take a photo or scan of it, you can turn it into art or even jewelry. Check out etsy. I found this with a simple search:
http://www.etsy.com/listing/54799481/fingerprint-heart-bracelet?ref=sr_gallery_17&ga_search_query=fingerprint+art&ga_search_type=handmade&ga_page=4&order=&includes%5B0%5D=tags&includes%5B1%5D=title&filter%5B0%5D=handmade
Dawn says:
The Dude and I were watching football and got assaulted by a Kay Jeweler commercial. I was mocking the HORRIBLE acting and making retching noises about it. I said, “I’m pretty sure we could make a better commercial about Mac n cheese and Diet Coke” and he says, “Well THATS what people are passionate about anyway!”
Heidi says:
“Yup, the blood diamond industry seems to really offend me in December, February, and around Heather’s birthday.”
HA! This made me choke on my coffee. You’re too funny Mike.
I second the etsy.com suggestions… that’s where I direct my husband for all occasions these days… I’ve got my eye on a few mama necklaces (the ones with your kids’ names on them, they’re definitely not as cheesy as they used to be, and there’s some really lovely ones on etsy!), but just start typing stuff into the search bar there and you’ll find tons of gorgeous handmade things!
Kaleena says:
Mike,
I love giving photo books to my family and I know that I would love to receive one. You can make them at shutterfly.com and put pics from both of your girls over the years. It is a great way to keep up with the different holidays and special occasions.
Cristy says:
hey there- I’m probably late to the fun here and it may have been mentioned but how about something made of her photography? maybe have an art book made of some of her best shots or a canvas print done to hang in your house? my husband and I had one done at costco last year and it was $80 versus the $500 our professional photographer wanted.
or how about a giants t-shirt? :o) just kidding!
Teresa says:
I am a big scrapbooking fan and while that may sound overwhelming, (especially if it isn’t something that you typically do) use Shutterfly or another online photo place that does it for you. Those books always turn out so great and they are about $30 for an 8×8 book. You just drag and drop your photos right into the premade layouts. I love the idea of making one of the family, but on the other hand, if you took (used) photos of the things that you loved about Heather, and then wrote why you love those things about her, that would be an amazing gift! Very meaningful! Melts my heart just thinking about it! (I’m pretty sure you’d rack up a fairly hefty amount of brownie points too!) Good luck, Mike! Just putting this out here is huge in my book!
MrsP says:
My bf now husband gave me a gift card for a spa on my birthday. The giftcard was for two and he did it thinking I could take my mom or a girlfriend. It has been one of the greatest gifts I have ever received. My mom and I got spoiled for a whole day, with massages, facials, foot rubs, and all the works. It was great and not too expensive for the bf.
Good Luck!
Lori says:
Mike!
You must check out http://www.TinaSteinberg.com
I have two of her necklaces and i wear them daily! Very affordable and something for everyone!
Becky says:
Get her a charm necklace. The charms would have the first initial of Maddie’s and Annie’s names. My siter-in-law and i are getting one for our mother-in-law with the initials of her grandbabies on it.
Kelly says:
Has anyone mentioned personalized jewelry? Just kidding.
There are tons of great ideas here, but I have a couple more:
Create your own Top 10 List (a la Letterman) of why you and Annie love Heather. You could do it in a photobook format or make one of your awesome videos. Both of you have a great sense of humor, so you could incorporate some funny entries on the list, too. While the idea of writing 365 reasons you love her on tiny scraps of paper was really touching, somehow 10 seemed much more reasonable at this late date.
I love the idea of a date night completely planned by you. This is something my husband did for me once many moons ago before he was my husband, and I will never forget it. He took me to see Alanis and sat cheerfully for two hours amongst throngs of angry women and gay men. What sacrifice! West Side Story is currently playing at the Pantages … a classic! Could make for a fun date night.
I’m sure Heather will love whatever you choose. It would be gift enough for me if my husband even wrote something like you’ve written here asking for advice. That alone already shows how much you love her.
Becca says:
Why do the earrings have to be expensive diamonds? If you are wanting to do the pretty jewelry gift why not check out local antique shops?
The other day my kids and I were killing some time meandering around an antique store. I enjoy imagining the history of the items in there and I’m glad my kids seem to too. In this particular antique store they had cases of jewelry that was all sparkly and dangly and there was a giant rock on engagement style ring that was marked at only $30. No way that sucker was a real diamond. There were many other rings with different stones of different shapes, as well as necklaces and earrings and even matching sets.
All the pretty sparkle and the bonus of a history. Someone else might have gotten it as a gift, or given it. Someone else loved that ring/necklace/earring/broch.
Nicole Singleton says:
http://tinasteinberg.com/love_touch_collection.html
Annie’s fingerprint on a necklace! I bet Heather would love it more than earrings!
Vera says:
I haven’t read the 200 comments so far… but two things came to mind. (1) Give her a date night, BUT that means YOU pick the place, you make reservations, you arrange for a babysitter, you plan the whole thing and just take her along for the ride. And make it a nice, grown up night – no burgers! (2) This is me-specific, but might give you an idea of something similar. I lost my keys this year, and have been borrowing my husband’s house/car key and have my office key on a lone key ring. So I told my husband all I really want for Christmas this year is a new key ring, and have him to to the dealership to get a new set of car keys, and then go have copies of all of our keys (back/front door, garage, etc.) made and put on the ring for me. It’s simply and totally cheap, but would make my life so happy right now – not having to mess with taking care of all that and just having my keys replaced. This was a sweet post, by the way!
Diane says:
Hi Mike!
I think Heather would LOVE an Anthropologie gift card and some ME time to use it! She has posted before about shopping there but I think one time Annie spit up on a pair of pants she tried on, so you could write something clever (easy for you!) about how you’ll be on Dad duty while she shops to her heart’s content! xo
Jamie says:
The best gift my hubby ever gave me was a guitar. I had mentioned a few times that I’d like to learn to play and he remembered. I cried on Christmas morning because the gift was a lot more than a guitar.
Grainne says:
Hi Mike! Sorry if I have missed the deadline, but I have an idea that you might like. I think it would be really lovely to have an artist draw up a portrait of your two girls together. If you provide an artist with two photographs of Annie and Maddie they will be able to work from these and it’s not something that will cost too much though you should spend a bit on a nice frame. A good idea would be to put up a notice in a local art school as I’m sure there are a lot of talented students who would really appreciate the extra money for the holidays and this would probably be more affordable too. I would ask to see some examples of their previous work to get an idea of what you would like.
Hohohope whatever present you buy for Heather that it works out well!
@Adelas says:
I was told once: Do not invest in things; invest in experiences.
I think that is sage advice.
MinNYC says:
My husband just told me what he wants me to buy him for Xmas (we don’t really do surprises). It’s this thing called 23andme (23andme.com is the site). It was on oprah & we always wanted it but thought it was too expensive to get “just ’cause”. It is on sale through Xmas. $100 down from $450. You swab your DNA & it tells you what diseases you are prone to as well as things like if you are more likely to go bald etc…there is also an ancestry component as well. The site is above if you want to check it out. It may not sound romantic but when he said due to the sale price I could order myself one too, I must say I was pretty excited. Otherwise, I would say get Heather an ipad. I’m using mine now, my husband’s brother also gave him one for his 29th birthday. Oh, I got some cute junk food brand Ts for my bday that I love with all old movie or characters on them that are cheap. They’re $30. Just some thoughts. Good luck:)
Lissa says:
Ok, i didn’t read all 200+ comments so forgive me if this has been mentioned already….
One of my most treasured possessions is a picture of myself and someone I love at the same age: 3 years old. I met this friend as an adult and we are not actually the same age by several years. But I have a beautiful side by side picture of us at 3 years old, a blink in time of us at a similiar stage in life, along with a inspirational quote that another friend wrote about this person. I think creating something similar with pictures of Maddie and Annie at equal ages (whatever age chosen) would be beautiful, heartfelt, and supremely touching and treasured by Heather. And by you. And someday, by Annie too.
With love this Christmas,
Lissa
Lori Rhodes says:
Mike,
So sorry if this is coming too late for a suggestion, but you need to watch your wife’s hair demo’s. Heather always says that when the ears are showing it is good to wear those holiday earrings, “hint, hint”. So I think a pair of earrings will make her happy, if you know the kind she will like to wear by just looking at them. If not a pair that can be echanged for her favorite kind or a gift cert to the jewelry store with a promise to take her there to pick out a pair. Unless she would want to go before xmas to pick a pair so she can wear them on the holiday. Don’t know how you guys feel on surprises. I know this was long-winded, sorry but thought it would help.
Lori R
Liss says:
more etsy, but i think you should contact one (or both) of these artists and get a family “portrait” done with maddie AND annie. it would be priceless and maybe bring happy tears to heather’s eyes?
http://www.etsy.com/listing/64400152/custom-mamazakka-mama-and-papa-nesting
http://www.etsy.com/listing/63249698/family-portrait-ornament
Kristie says:
O.k. A couple of suggestions…
Make arrangements to renew your wedding vows. Something even in Vegas. Small yet so special. Just a thought…
Or
There is a way you can name a star. You can find out how online. You get documents like a certificate with the actual location of the star, and how to find it in the sky. You could decide what you would like to name it. It could be in memory of Maddie or you could name it after Heather… Whatever you want to name it.
Hope this helps.