When I was a kid (and especially a teen) I hated nothing more than being embarrassed by my parents in public. My hatred for these mortifying moments was nowhere near as strong as that of my sister, however, who found EVERYTHING my parents did embarrassing. In fact, if I close my eyes now I can still see her crossing her arms and yelling “Mom!” or “Dad!”
Since Annie may share her aunt’s intense “parental embarrassment” gene, I’ve decided to preemptively resolve any future tensions by having Annie sign a revolutionary PARENT/CHILD EMBARRASSMENT CONTRACT.
Check it out… you may want to have your kid sign one too!
AGREEMENT
THIS AGREEMENT made and entered into as of October 13, 2011, by and between Michael Spohr, henceforth referred to as Dad (“Dad”) and Annabel Spohr, henceforth referred to as Child (“Child”), pertains to public embarrassment.
WHEREFORE, for good and valuable consideration, the parties agree as follows:
1. Dad will not spit wash Child’s face in public so long as Child agrees to avoid making a mess while eating, playing in the dirt, or engaging in any other messy activity.
In the event that Child’s face becomes soiled (even through no fault of her own) Dad will use best faith efforts to clean Child’s face without saliva. These efforts include, but are not limited to, potentially embarrassing actions such as using a baby wipe or dipping a napkin into a can of Diet Coke.
2. Dad agrees to make good faith effort not to sing in public while in the presence of Child. In return, Child acknowledges there are certain instances in which singing is unavoidable, including but not limited to, when: A) An obscure Paul McCartney song comes on the radio, Another adult sings first and encourages Dad to join in, or C) Dad is in a parking garage where his singing voice sounds really cool with that “parking garage echo.”
In exchange for these concessions Dad agrees never, under any circumstance, to sing in the presence of a boy Child has expressed interest in. Furthermore, should Dad be transporting Child and boy to a movie or similar date-like activity, Dad will only speak when spoken to.
3. Dad will refer to Child exclusively as “Annabel” or “Annie” in public, and not “Honey Bear,” “Monkey Baby,” “Belly” or any derivative of these pet names.
Child acknowledges that there will be times when she does something so adorable that Dad will accidentally call her a forbidden pet name. In these circumstances Child agrees to waive all right to pout or roll her eyes.
4. Child agrees that, when meeting a friend, business associate, or relative of Dad for the first time, she will smile, be polite, and respectful.
If Child upholds this clause Dad agrees not to make Child perform any talent or skill such as piano playing, dancing, poem recitation, etc., for the friend, associate, or relative.
5. Child, when having a meltdown in public, will avoid using statements that cast aspersions on Dad’s parenting such as “I wish you weren’t my Dad!” or “You’ve ruined my life!”
Dad, in return, promises to maintain composure in the face of poor service at a restaurant, store, or theater, and never shout mortifying declarations such as, “Oh, really?!!? That’s how you want to play this, Denny’s? Well, in that case you have seen the last of my business!!! Good day, sir!!!!”
AGREED TO AND ACCEPTED:
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Michael Spohr, Dad
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Annabel Spohr, Child
Jenn says:
Sounds good unless of course when the said child gets into one of her “Special” moods and therefor suddenly doesn’t remember such a contract exists simply because in that exact moment in time such a contract would be (Quote) “LAME” (Unquote). Should this sudden clause happen the said parent should simply “hold tight” until the said child wants to borrow the car and stay out pass her curfew. In such the case the said child will suddenly state how witty and great the previously “LAME” contract is in order to suck up to the said parent to merely get her way….Again.
Sarah says:
You make me laugh, Mike! Your contract is so clever and funny. Also, your last point remined me of this recent article from the Onion http://www.theonion.com/articles/well-i-guess-ill-just-take-my-business-to-another,21357/
Amy Collen says:
This cracks me up because I am a big believer in the saliva finger wash and singing (my 2 year old and 5 year old are already yelling at me to stop singing!). Wait though! Didn’t Heather post once that you didn’t like it when others sang to music (others being Heather). Hmmm….so now the music is takin’ hold of ya huh? The urge to sing is just…overwhelming. Hey, you should have seen me belt out the Pussycat Dolls version of “Jai-Ho” to a very indignant, hard rock and country western crowd at a karaoke bar once. It was epic.
Mike says:
I don’t like it when Heather sings along at concerts, that’s true! But less so outside of concerts. Or maybe the music IS taking hold!
katrina @ They All Call Me Mom says:
Love it! I’d sign it, for sure!
Whenever I have to clean my kids’ faces and I have nothing but a dry napkin… I have them stick out THEIR tongue and wet the napkin themselves. It’s not so gross that way.
Just a tip from a mom whose been-there-done-that many, many times
Lynn from For Love or Funny says:
Oops. I think I should sign this contract for my kid…
Allison says:
Ha! This is hilarious. I was mortified to find myself cleaning my child’s face with saliva last week. I need to sign this contract!
Editdebs says:
You are a funny man.
Aliesha says:
This is funny. I remember when my friend and I were Freshman in HS, she got invited to Homecoming and her dad wrote up this long contract about her all the terms and conditions of her being allowed to go…”Dad will purchase a reasonably priced dress…$100 is a starting point (I was SHOCKED that anyone would spend that much on a dress!)…Daughter will abide by curfew and behave herself, etc…” At the time I thought it was bizarre, but now I just think it was genius!
Susan says:
You and Heather make me smile. My weekday morning just isn’t complete until I’ve had my witty Spohrisms with my coffee!! Thank you!
Jennifer Dawn says:
This is hilarious!! Especially the singing to an “obscure Paul McCartney song” – LOL, so true!
PattyB says:
Genius!
Jackie says:
Seriously Mike, this is GREAT! I think it is quite possible the best thing you’ve ever written. (ok, I’m sure there are other good ones out there, but this is in the top 5 for sure).
ACG says:
I just had to comment on this because my name is Annabelle, I’m 22 years old and my mom and stepdad STILL call me “Belly.” I am shocked that this is not an isolated incident!
Karen says:
This is awesome. I am reminded of my freshman year in high school, when I made a (rare) great play on the soccer field, and all I could hear from clear down at the other end of the field was my dad yelling “WAY TO GO, PUNKIN!!!!!” I wanted to melt into the field…
I don’t know, though, now that I’m a parent I think a little parental humiliation can be character building…
hdj says:
Good luck with that Mike!
I remember having friends who were embarrassed by the existence of their parents. I never got that I don’t really remember my parents being embarrassing, but I also didn’t really care and figured they were just embarassing themselves. Even though I get guilt by association, it didn’t bother me.
I’m learning that one of the greatest perks of parenthood is the potential to embarass your child. Just wait – mine is 10 and EVERYTHING is potentially embarassing and will lead to her social doom if it’s witnessed by anyone. For example-my husband and I constantly threaten to drop her off at school with the windows down, blaring Justin Beiber and singing “Baby, baby, baby OH!” – it’s a mortifying thought for her.
I’ve already been told I’m the worst mother/human being on the face of the planet – in a joking way – for minor infractions that aren’t even witnessed by people – mainly because I expect things like completed homework and won’t buy her whatever she wants whenever she asks.
I figure that just means I’m probably doing my job about right.
This is adorable and you should help her sign it so you can show it to her when she’s 10 and crosses her arms in abject horror and screams “DAD!”
Amy says:
Oh yeah, as teens the singing in public thing is EXCRUCIATING! I sometimes use it as payback
Tara says:
That’s hilarious!
Jenb says:
We have our “contract” on video. When our boys were going through the NO! stage, where everything was “no”, we videotaped them and asked questions. “Will your parents ever embarass you? -NO!” “Will you ever roll your eyes at your parents – NO!” “Will you every talk back to your parents when you are a teenager? -NO!” Now that they are teens we joke about this a lot. It difuses the tension when they start acting like teens to tell them we are going to bring the video back out and we end up laughing.
Kelly says:
Your post brought back to me the memory of this Dave Barry article I read years ago …
“‘Rob,’ I said to my 13-year-old son, who was — this being a school morning
— sleeping face-down in his breakfast. “How would you like it if I picked
you up at school in the Oscar Mayer Wienermobile?”
“DAD!” he said, coming violently to life, horrified. “NO!”
So right away I knew it was a good idea. Your most important responsibility,
as the parent of an adolescent, is to be a hideous embarrassment to your
child. Fortunately, most of us parents have a natural flair for this.”
You and Dave are both hilarious! :o)
Julie says:
You might want to consider an appropriate fashion choices paragraph, as well. Child promises to wear nothing too revealing/suggestive, Dad promises to wear nothing humiliating.
I still have vivid flashbacks to my dad arriving to pick me up after ice skating (THE place to be seen on a wintry Friday night in my hometown) in front of roughly half the people I went to school with, wearing a combination of sweat pants that were a tad too short and tube socks that definitely overcompensated for the sweat pants. It was truly horrifying.
Trisha says:
You might want to consider adding a clause that the contract be modified and renewed annually as said child gets older.
My teenage daughters need stipulations that would read something like this: “I will not party boy Mom in the grocery store parking lot in an effort to video tape her reaction and post it on You Tube to see how many hits I can get” and “I will not talk about watching my baby sister being born and how I can never scrub those images of my mom from my memory to random strangers at Disney while waiting to ride Splash Mountain” Seriously, it’s like they have been waiting 16 & 17 years for payback, so prepare now and modify the paperwork yearly and for goodness sakes, save the contracts in a safe somewhere so you have proof!! Teenagers are hard work yo!!!
Ray says:
This is awesome. I hope Annie signed (scribbled) her signature in purple crayon.
Number 6 should be: “Dad agrees not to remark loudly (with gusto) when something’s on sale at a store.
Child will not ask dad for the most expensive jeans on the planet.”
=P