Sometimes (every day) I look through pictures of our old life. My photos are organized by the day, so I can see what I did at any given point over the seventeen months we had her.
A year ago,
We took her to the pumpkin patch, where she hated the hay.
She went to California Adventure, her only amusement park, and loved the people watching since she was too little for any rides.
She had several Halloween costumes (we take Halloween seriously around here).
Plans for her first birthday party were in full swing.
Sometimes (every day) I let myself think about what we’d be doing if things were different.
I think she’d run through the pumpkin patch (or at least, run OUT of the pumpkin patch.)
She’d be big enough to go on a carousel.
There would be multiple costumes again (she really loved to dress up).
The invitations for her second birthday would be sent out. The party I started planning the moment her first one ended. It would have an Abby Cadabby theme (everyone would have to wear pink and purple).
And I think about the every days. About waking up together, and eating new foods, and playing on slides in the park. About her putting her hands on my belly and “kissing” her baby sister. About how we’d be gearing up for cold and flu season again, but I wouldn’t have to worry as much because she’d be two, and she’d be bigger and stronger and wouldn’t be so susceptible to colds. And the things she’d be saying, and the thoughts she might have.
And all the other intangibles and things I can’t imagine because we only got 514 days to know her.
Anne Y says:
My thoughts are with you.
Love the Pebbles costume!
.-= Anne Y´s last blog ..The Breast Cancer Research Foundation =-.
pamela says:
I just want to hug you… but that sounds weird coming from a stranger doesnt it? 514 is such a short visit I’m sorry Heather
.-= pamela´s last blog ..My Favorite Mug =-.
jayneoni says:
we love you!
EmmieJ says:
Big hugs, hon.
Kelly says:
Wishing you a lifetime to get to know Binky
.-= Kelly´s last blog ..Bedtime reading for the babies =-.
Alicia @ bethsix says:
I think Kelly has exactly the right sentiment.
.-= Alicia @ bethsix´s last blog ..To Archer Gene, Five Months =-.
Seraphim says:
514 days. A blink of the eye. She is so beautiful. I remembered Maddie especially in Rory’s Garden today, Heather and Mike. Her name will never be forgotten xxxxx
.-= Seraphim´s last blog ..Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day- A special tribute. =-.
lisa wood says:
such a short visit with sweet Maddie.
Love her costumes, she is just gorgeous.
Looking forward to meet Binky when the time is right.
Love sent your way…
Lisa
.-= lisa wood´s last blog ..R.I.P Aisling Symes =-.
Al_Pal says:
And all the other intangibles and things I can’t imagine because we only got 514 days to know her.
Oh god. *sniff*
All the photos are so adorable. & yes, wishing you a lifetime with Binky.
*HUGS*
Maddie says:
But what a 514 days – she is adorable and always will be, just think of the love she is spreading throughout the world. Love the Pebbles costume.
Thinking of you often, m xx
.-= Maddie´s last blog ..Bathurst weekend =-.
Kate @ UpsideBackwards says:
And now we all look a little bit like Maddie in the first picture! (Wipes eyes). Hugs to you all.
.-= Kate @ UpsideBackwards´s last blog ..Toy phones =-.
dysfunctjional mom says:
Sometimes I’m so caught off guard by seeing pictures of her again that it makes me gasp and then I just sort of deflate. I remember that Pebbles costume…I loved it.
catherine lucas says:
514 days is not enough… It’s never enough. It is against all laws and regulations that kids go before the parents. It is not meant to be like that.
The pebbles costume is indeed gorgeous. Well, it’s the kid inside really that is gorgeous. She would have looked good in any costume!
.-= catherine lucas´s last blog ..Woollies galore… =-.
Kristen McD says:
She is such a love. Sigh.
Cinthia says:
I just want to pick her up off the hay. I hate it when babies cry, it makes my heart fall to a million pieces and I pretty much do anything to make them happy again. Makes me a perfect aunt…. *sigh*
Angelique says:
I’m so sorry for your loss. This may sound a bit morbid to some, but I’ve posted a link to a site that sells small pendants to hold some of the ashes of your loved one. Maybe you’ve already heard of it…
My father got one for my mom, my sister and me about a year after the death of my sister. I like that I can wear her close to my heart if I want, and I can either hide the pendant in my shirt or wear it so that people can see it. My mom and I also got small tattoos of a butterfly and my sister’s initials the year after her death-my mom on her wrist and me on my calf. It’s another conversation starter if I choose for it to be.
I know this doesn’t make up for my sister’s disappearance from our lives, but at least it helps me to carry pieces of her forever.
http://www.cremationsolutions.com/Cremation-Jewelry-c4.html
Lynn from For Love or Funny says:
Just yesterday, I was wondering when Maddie’s next birthday would be. 514 days with your Maddie just isn’t enough.
.-= Lynn from For Love or Funny´s last blog ..After you see this, you’ll never exercise again =-.
Krissa says:
Heartfelt (((hugs)))
Momcat says:
The tragic expression on her face when she was sitting in the hay really touched my heart.
.-= Momcat´s last blog ..Seen on the streets – Plant Man =-.
Liz says:
That is such a short amount of time to have with your baby. SO unfair.
.-= Liz´s last blog ..Today =-.
charlane says:
514 days is not enough time to spend with someone you love. Infinity is not enough time. Saying a prayer for you.
.-= charlane´s last blog ..Yo Gabba Gabba =-.
Upstatemomof3 says:
I am just so sorry. My heart breaks for you every time I read here. I am usually not able to comment because I am crying to hard but how could I not today? 514 days is so not enough. I am just so sorry.
.-= Upstatemomof3´s last blog ..Dear Heavenly Father =-.
Meg...CT says:
514 days is not long enough…sorry you got cheated out of a lifetime.
J. says:
Too funny about the hay.
514 days. Just thinking about that. What an impact your girl has had on so many people.
I bet she sparkled every single day.
.-= J.´s last blog ..Second Birthday =-.
amanda says:
514 days is a million years too short…xo
Amanda
.-= amanda´s last blog ..a note =-.
Alexandra :) says:
We all love you and Maddie, Heather (and Mike and Binky). Big hugs.
Susan (woo222) says:
Sending you all the love I can. I know that’s not nearly enough. Maddie is so special…the loss is monumentally catastrophic. And even that doesn’t begin to describe it. I’m so sorry, love. The post and pics are beautiful and grabbed my heart..as you do everyday. Susan
.-= Susan (woo222)´s last blog ..Weekend of Petty Crime =-.
Neena says:
That picture of Maddie in the Pebbles costume is my new favorite picture of her!
I send you hugs
xoxo
.-= Neena´s last blog ..If you don’t know Kate Inglis well, shame on you! =-.
Midwest Mommy says:
I love that pumpkin costume.
Hugs.
.-= Midwest Mommy´s last blog ..Not So Wise Guy =-.
Kelly says:
It’s so unfair, you have so many photos and memories, hopefully they will last your lifetime. My eyes teared up over, “kissing” your baby sister…
Anna Marie Hinnant says:
There weren’t enough days. It’s just not fair.
Hugs to you, Mike and Binky.
Christine says:
514 is not enough. You and Mike are so so brave and wonderful. Wishing you a lifetime together with Binky.
Sara says:
Sending you love and hugs.
.-= Sara´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday =-.
Heather says:
love the pebbles costume!! Sending hugs from Indiana.
.-= Heather´s last blog ..woooooo saaaaaah =-.
Jenn says:
OOHh Sweetie…514 days… not nearly enough time, is it? I wish I could have given you more days….many more days!!!
Sending you lots of support, friendship and love.
Thinking of you all…..
Deborah says:
It’s just so unfair.
((((hugs))))
.-= Deborah´s last blog ..A Very Bad Picture of a Very Fast Sketch =-.
Emily E. says:
The flintstones costume is adorable.
I don’t comment much, but I just wanted to say that sometimes when my daughter (20 months) looks up at me, she looks so much like Maddie. It always makes me stop and push back tears to think about what you have gone through. You are so strong, even if there are days that you don’t feel that way. I’m praying for you, your husband, and Binky.
Cam says:
Too little time.
We’re here and we, friends or total strangers, love you.
Melissa says:
I can’t imagine what you must go through every day… Hugs.
.-= Melissa´s last blog ..My Television is Making Me Depressed. No. Seriously. =-.
Jen says:
*sob* I’m a talker, so words don’t fail me often, but they sure are now……
to say “I’m sorry” seems so robotic, but I am. Oh, I am.
.-= Jen´s last blog ..all the pieces =-.
cj says:
not anywhere near long enough to enjoy the amazing Maddie…….i’m so sorry.
Tami says:
The Death of Maddie has always left me so crushed. I have read your blog since she was born and the whole thing isnt fair that she was taken so young. 514 days is no time at all. I cant help but feel your loss and pain. I didnt know Maddie but threw your blog I did feel like I knew her in allot of ways.My heart goes out to you both and know that Maddie will still always be a part of your life in a different way. Hugs,
cjrymommy says:
Hugs to you Heather. I wish you had a million more days with your Maddie.
Thinking of you, Mike, Maddie and Binky always.
Stranger/friend in the STL
LizardBreath says:
Heather,
I have been reading your blog and occasionally commenting since you had Maddie. I wish you could have all of those other memories you wish for.
Not sure if tihs helps or not, but while I never considered taking my daughter’s presence for granted, you remind me regularly to stop and smell the roses, to take those every days and cherish them. For this, I thank you.
I am thinking kind, heathly and loving thoughts for you and your entire family.
Elizabeth
.-= LizardBreath´s last blog ..Our first haircut! =-.
Mary says:
Everything I can think to say seems silly. I’m sorry it was only 514 days, but I’m glad you got as many as 514 days. Keeping you all in my thoughts.
Lisa says:
My heart and thoughts with you today and everyday. 514 days is no where near long enough with that sweet little darling. I’m glad you have so many pictures and videos to look at and remember with.
Love and hugs.
.-= Lisa´s last blog ..Baby Denied Health Insurance For Being “Too Fat” =-.
Jen @ lifelove'n'wine says:
She’s adorable and lovely and just looking at her pictures makes me smile. I wish she was still here sharing in adventures with you and Mike. I wish your pain could go away. I can’t even begin to imagine. We (your readers) love her and you.
.-= Jen @ lifelove’n’wine´s last blog ..Pin the Pfft! on the Old Fart and other Maine Tales =-.
Lindsay from Florida says:
The time we get with people we love … it’s never enough. And 514 days doesn’t even scratch the surface. I’m so sorry, Heather. You painted such beautiful pictures of what Maddie would be up to, and I wish with all my heart that she were doing them with her trademark smile.
Shannon Kieta says:
Heather…
Love to you! I know you can’t wait until Binky get’s here to tell her all about her big sis! I know it’s hard for you. When Binky get’s here, you will have a ball with her too. Hang in there! Shannon
Karen says:
I’m still going to wear pink and purple for Maddie’s birthday this year. November 11th is Remberance Day in Canada and in my province it’s a holiday. I’ll be thinking of your family, especially Maddie.
.-= Karen´s last blog ..I Wasn’t Raped Once. =-.
deb@talk at the table says:
your story, those eyes, the reality of how much we cannot control.. it slays me, leaves me wondering how you and others in such living can do it with grace and dignity and beauty.
prayers for all of it, for your family, for Maddie
.-= deb@talk at the table´s last blog ..1000 Gifts,The Three Sisters: A Modified Version =-.
Erin says:
I read your blog everyday. The days that you don’t write, I get so worried about you; what might have happened? Are you feeling so sick today that you can’t bear to have your fingers move.
We’ve never met, probably never will, but your family is never far from my mind.
I pray for you, Mike, Binky and Maddy each day. Your loss is immeasurable. The excitement and joy that will be given to you in Binky will just show that God knows how to take care of us.
Michele says:
Your words go straight to my Momma Heart, which Maddie will always have a piece of. The hay picture just squeezes that heart of mine, and your post just about broke my heart for you. I’m thankful for you to have so many photos and memories with Maddie, but 514 days of them is not nearly enough. Thinking of you everyday, but especially today, and sending good thoughts your way,
Michele in Staten Island, NY
Momma Uncensored says:
chokes you up to actually see a number. so sorry. so painful.
.-= Momma Uncensored´s last blog ..media project =-.
Eunice says:
Pebbles! Too cute!
Molly says:
She’s the cutest Pebbles I’ve ever seen!
What a poignant post. I’m so sorry you guys have to go through this.
Alissa says:
Heather,
Today on Infant and Pregnancy Loss Awareness Day, I can’t hardly breathe after reading your post. I’m so sorry that you got such a short time with Maddie. I didn’t even find your blog until a couple of months ago and Maddie has touched my life so much. I know Binky will be such a lucky little girl to have parents like you and Mike, I’m just so sorry she will only know her sister through pictures and videos. She was a doll.
Beth says:
Everytime I read a post, the first thing I think to myself is to take more photos of my kids. I am so happy for you that you documented everything with the gorgeous pictures. My heart is broken for you. xoxoxo
.-= Beth´s last blog ..The Pumpkin Patch =-.
Megan says:
(((HUGS)))
I believe that Binky already knows Maddie. Maddie is giving Binky kisses now and waiting to send her down to you…
.-= Megan´s last blog ..Aubryn’s unique name. =-.
maya says:
Although Maddie Moo isnt here… I am so so glad you have the pictures. So glad that you bought that camera.
I love you and miss you and wish I could just be there for you. Maddie is with us every single day.
.-= maya´s last blog ..You have to see to believe =-.
Aimee says:
What a beautiful and moving post about your daughter. I’m so sorry for your loss and so touched by your story.
.-= Aimee´s last blog ..Big Brother (Part I) =-.
Leena says:
514 days isn’t enough time. I wish you were experiencing all of it with maddie,-all the things you hoped for and all the things you can’t even imagine.
But you know what Heather- you and Mike filled her 514 days with joy and laughter- you made her days here on earth really good ones. All the pictures and videos show a little face with great joy all over it.
I’ve fallen in love with your little girl and her big heart. Thank you for taking such good care of her while she was here. I am so glad that you two were the parents God made for her. I’m sure Maddie was so proud to have you as her parents.
He will wipe all tears from their eyes, and there will be no more death, suffering, crying, or pain. These things of the past are gone forever.
( Revelations 21:4)
Kristel says:
Heather… I think of you each and every day. And of Maddie every moment of each and every day. I wish things could be different for you. I wish you could have your every days.
*hugs*!
.-= Kristel´s last blog ..Everyone deserves a little chai =-.
Andrea says:
I just don’t have the rite words to say to you. Nothing I could say will make it better but my heart aches for you guys. I am so sorry :(. I love the pics. She looks sooo adorable in the pebbles costume! (well she’s adorable in all of them, but that’s my favorite). She is such a special person. It’s amazing how in such a short time she has touched so many peoples lives.
Andrea
.-= Andrea´s last blog ..Come on already!!!!! =-.
Marnie says:
Thinking of you today & everyday.
Alexandra says:
Oh..the pain of reading “514 days to know her.” You have so many, many ways of measuring out and feeling all the love you had for her.
Ginger says:
I wish I could hug you today. Heather, you are very strong, and you can do this. You can.
.-= Ginger´s last blog ..Teeny tiny update and attack of the Blue Meanies =-.
Heather says:
Oh Heather…it never gets easier, does it? I am SO sorry, SO SO SO very sorry. Thinking of your family always.
.-= Heather´s last blog ..Hope squared =-.
Lisa from WV says:
Love, hugs, prayers, tears….all for you.
Lisa
Dawn says:
I was not prepared for the 514.
Tara says:
I think of you, Mike and Maddie often. I read all of your posts and Mike’s too but I rarely leave comments. My words are so tiny compared to the grief and I don’t know what to say. I just want you to know that I’m here reading and praying for you all. I am in awe of your strength and grace. Your children are so lucky to have you as their mother.
Katrina says:
We can still have an Abby Cadabby Day on her birthday. We will all wear pink and purple and then blog our photos. Everyone can title their blog as Happy Birthday Maddie so then we will know in the comments who participated and can take a look at each other’s blogs to see all the pinks and purples…
::::sigh::::
Not nearly good enough, I know
.-= Katrina´s last blog ..# 7 and #8 =-.
Jenn says:
I LOVE this idea! I’m in! Me and the kids will be in purple!
.-= Jenn´s last blog ..I was meant to do something else =-.
Dana Zap says:
This is the best idea! I will also be doing it with my daughter and will take lots of pics!
.-= Dana Zap´s last blog ..Tue, Oct 13, 2009 =-.
Laurie says:
I am totally in, too, and so is my daughter Lydia. Lydia is going as a sock monkey for Halloween this year, and I didn’t remember that was Maddie’s costume.
I still don’t totally “get” how I can miss the daughter of someone I have never met, but I miss Maddie.
.-= Laurie´s last blog ..Closing Time =-.
chatty cricket says:
I believe Maddie had the world’s best meltdown face. And is it a problem that I find meltdown faces to be totally adorable?
Life was surely better for those 514 days, but I wish you had so many more.
Jill says:
You say it so well.
.-= Jill´s last blog ..Idea for a new blog =-.
Michelle W says:
Brutally unfair…….Hugs
Aunt Becky says:
I remember seeing those pictures last year. I’m so sorry, Heather and Mike. It’s so just not right.
.-= Aunt Becky´s last blog ..(Insert Holier Than Thou Platitude Here) =-.
Trisha Vargas says:
Not nearly enough time but what an amazing 514 days she had with you and Mike and all of your family.
You all filled her short life with such amazing adventures and such love that although it was short, God how she lived!!!!
She lived and thrived and enjoyed every minute of those 514 days with you.
Her remarkable life of 514 days was more living than some do in decades.
You should be proud of the life you offered to Maddie because I know she is proud of you.
(((HUGS))) from Florida
Courtney says:
Hugs to you! No words…just prayers! God Bless.
.-= Courtney´s last blog ..Stand Still =-.
JAR says:
I always think Maddie looks incredibly happy in her pictures. She was loved as much as possible every day during her too-short time. Her smile and twinkly eyes radiate that happiness and love in every picture (except for the pumpkin patch picture – every kid should have a moment like that captured for eternity).
I wish you were living the experiences instead of wondering.
.-= JAR´s last blog ..Road Trip =-.
Laura says:
Oh, that Pebbles costume!!! That has to be one of the cutest pictures I have EVER seen!! Those eyes! Just full of glee and as if she knows how freaking adorable she looks!!! PRECIOUS.
514 days is far too short. I wish I could times that by 100 for you. I really do.
Not that this takes away the heartbreak, but when I read today’s post, I couldn’t help but think back to when you were pregnant with Maddie and they told you she probably wouldn’t make it. And how the doctors even suggested terminating when you were very early on. What a tragedy that would have been- because then you wouldn’t have even had those 514 wonderful, joy-filled days with your angel baby Maddie Moo. Had you not been so brave and fought so hard for your daughter, the world would not have been graced with such a truly beautiful little soul like hers.
Although I am full of sorrow that you did not have so, so much more time with her, I am also grateful that God blessed you with the time that you did get.
It is so unfair that you don’t have her anymore. She was wonderful and full of love and so, so special. It is no wonder she picked you as her Mommy and Daddy.
Hugs to you today and always.
xoxoxo
tara says:
it’s so unfair heather, so unfair. my heart aches for you every day, and i am always thinking of you. an extra big hug today, and always…xoxo
Erin says:
I think of you and Maddie every day —
Christina says:
I know you hear it often, but you are so incredibly strong, such an inspiration. As much as your story hurts the hearts of everyone who hears it, you have brought so much good to the world.
Laura says:
Very well said.
Ditto!
Jenn says:
This is just so unfair and it makes me so mad that she isn’t here anymore.
The world has been robbed of an awesome kid! Maddie should be here running out of the pumpkin patch!
I’m speechless right now. On one hand I LOVE looking at her pictures (and can [and have] look at them all day) but on the other, it just destroys my heart. It’s just f-ing unfair that she isn’t here anymore.
I’m so sorry Heather. I really wish there was something I could do to help carry this pain for you.
Big Hugs to you today.
Love, Jenn in CA
.-= Jenn´s last blog ..I was meant to do something else =-.
Mrs. Wilson says:
Even in the crying photo of her, she’s STILL beautiful.
I agree with the previous commenters. 514 days IS too short. By a long shot. But, was a pretty spectacular girl to make the impact that she did in only 514 days.
.-= Mrs. Wilson´s last blog ..the best sound in the world =-.
Kelly says:
Love, prayers, tears, hugs, hopes to you & Mike & Binky.. every day.
Maddie.. you beautiful darlin’, you are so missed.
.-= Kelly´s last blog ..Miranda’s day of beauty =-.
becky @therealbecks says:
heather, this whole post just brought tears to my eyes. i know you’ve heard it a thousand times but i honestly can’t imagine the pain and suffering y’all are going through. i know that Binky will be a great joy in your life and i’m happy that you’re going to have her now. i also know that maddie will always be missed and you’ll always wonder what she would be doing now if she was still with us. i think about all of you often. ((HUGS))
.-= becky @therealbecks´s last blog ..My Mom =-.
Badass Geek says:
Not nearly long enough. I’m sorry.
.-= Badass Geek´s last blog ..In Which I Am Observant, Part Eight =-.
Glenda says:
Heather, what a beautiful post in honour of a beautiful angel. 514 days was too short but you enjoyed every minute of everyday. Your life was Maddie and you gave her the best life and love that some will never know in their lifetime. Soon you will have joy and Binky to make memories with and share stories and memories of Maddie. God is good. He’s sending Binky to give you your life again. Maddie will always live on and never be forgotten. Sending you hugs xxx love the pic of pebbles. Adorably gorgeous!!
ali (adil320) says:
Heather mama,
I am just so sorry.
That’s about all there is to say.
But Heather? You, Mike and Maddie rocked that 514 days to the fullest.
Love you lady,
xoxox
ali
.-= ali (adil320)´s last blog ..Go =-.
Amanda says:
What a blessing to be able relive each and every one of those 514 days. Not the same I know but still, something to treasure.
I miss Maddie today. I miss her for you and Mike.
Erica says:
Dear sweet Heather,
I have tears in my eyes reading today’s words and wondering along with you what your darling girl would be doing now. What precious photos, what precious memories, thank you for sharing them with your readers. Heather, you and Mike made the most of every second with your darling girl and you have such a beautiful record of your precious time together. Its just so unfair that your time together was cut so short, so very unfair. Your precious World Famous Maddie continues to be missed every day by so many of us all over the world. We all think of her every day. Your precious daughter has changed our lives forever.
Thinking of you today, as every day.
Sending you a big hug and holding your hand from afar.
With love
Erica in Luxembourg
Jen says:
514 days was just not enough.
Hopefully this doesn’t sound too stalkerish or creepy. But I often flip through your pictures and videos of Maddie and stare in wonder at how beautiful she was and always will be. Sometimes I stumble upon pictures I didn’t know were there and I get excited, short lived because of the reality but excited none the less.
I have been thinking of you and your family a lot lately, again not in a creepy stalker way. But because of a potential medical strike occuring where I live. A strike that would prevent non-emergency ultrasounds. When I heard that, I immediately thought of you and Maddie and Binky.
I hope you are feeling a little bit better.
sam {temptingmama} says:
I think having a party for Maddie on her birthday would still be a wonderful thing. A bright, colorful Abby Cadabby party would be a great way to celebrate such a special little girl.
XOXOX
.-= sam {temptingmama}´s last blog ..Cure JM =-.
Manda says:
I have not seen the pumpkin pictures before! Her blue eyes are absolutely breathtaking. (thinking about the Seinfeld episode when Elaine said that a baby cannot be breathtaking – Maddie blows that theory right out of the water)
514 days is also breathtaking….
You are so strong Heather, even if you don’t feel like it every day – and that is okay too.
Hugs from Minnesota
Tracy I says:
I’m so sorry Heather.
J says:
She is so dear. I love the transition from the utter WOE of the hay to the joy of the other pictures.
514 days couldn’t possibly be enough.
missy says:
My grandson made that very same face when we sat him in the grass, it took the longest time for him to get used to the prickly feeling.
Keep hanging in there.
Becky says:
Oh I am in love with that pumpkin patch picture! Priceless……..Thinking of you lots, esp. today. Di dyou know it was Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remeberance Day? Hugs!!!
Rebecca says:
(((hugs))) That’s all I can offer you. Binky has a LOT of people praying behind her (and you guys) for her safe entry into the world and a long, healthy life while she’s here. Including me.
I just want to scoop you all up into my arms and cradle you from all of the pain and anguish you have felt. I’ll echo what others have said… it’s not fair.
Beth says:
Even though I don’t know you, I read your blog every day. You can tell that Maddie was just the happiest, sweetest, most lovely little girl. I just love all the photos. I think the Bam Bam one is my new favorite one. To say I’m just so sorry and devastated for your loss would be a huge understatement. Just know that someone in the Washington D.C. area is thinking of you all and sending lots of xoxo.
Maile says:
I once wrote to a woman I’d read about who’d lost her 5 year old son to E. Coli and had started a foundation. I said I wished there was more I could do than make the small donation I was making, and that sometimes I didn’t know how to live in a world where things like this could happen.
If you can believe it, this woman, who had been through this monumental loss, wrote back to me actually comforting ME. She said that although these horrific, shocking things do occur, that the humbling generosity and warmth of people could provide so many good surprises. Not that they make up for the tragedies, but that was her answer to how and why it’s somehow possible to keep going.
I hope and trust that you get something out of sharing with all your readers, in return for the very important thing you give them – like the lady I mentioned, you’re an example of continuing to live with dignity and honor in the midst of such extraordinary pain.
I never get tired of looking at Madeline’s face.
.-= Maile´s last blog ..A Little Jersey-inspired prayer =-.
Restless Mama says:
Those are some very cute costumes.
She is such a precious gem.
Thank you for making me appreciate the time I have with my son or anyone in my life.
Sending you aloha!
.-= Restless Mama´s last blog ..AMBER ALERT =-.
Sara Joy says:
Love you. Love Maddie.
Still with you, still know exactly what you mean.
And I still know that doesn’t make a darn moment easier.
.-= Sara Joy´s last blog ..Soundtrack =-.
Amy in Oregon says:
514 days…such a short time…but such a HUGE impact she made in this world. She lived her life to the fullest and you and Mike made sure of it!
Thank you for her!
Andrea's Sweet Life says:
I so wish you were able to live the life on the other side of the looking glass, where Maddie is doing all those things and more. Thinking of you guys, every day. xoxo.
.-= Andrea’s Sweet Life´s last blog ..Findings and Failures =-.
Leita Reyna says:
I haven’t commented in a while b/c I don’t really know what to say. My heart aches for you. Maddie is such a beauty and a light in this world. The world is a better place because of Maddie, because of you and because of MIke. Thank you for sharing your gift with the world.
Shauna says:
I’ve never seen so much personality in someone so small. Seriously, your girl is just bursting with it, in every picture or video you’ve posted.
Also, I love the Pebbles costume and her adorable pink jacket.
Alison says:
514 days. So unfair.
xoxo to you, Mike, Maddie, and Binky.
.-= Alison´s last blog ..Numbers =-.
mythoughtsonthat says:
Your girl, she is a doll.
Faith….Hope….Love….Peace.
.-= mythoughtsonthat´s last blog ..What I Wanted To Say/What I Said Instead =-.
robin says:
that first picture absolutely cracks me up. She is so beautiful and I can tell she had such spunk. I never knew her but I miss her every day. Love to you, Mike, Maddie and Binky.
.-= robin´s last blog ..parenting…going well these days =-.
avasmommy says:
Oh how my heart aches and how I weep for what should have been.
514 days…too. damn. few.
xoxo
.-= avasmommy´s last blog ..Thank You =-.
Melanie B says:
that sock monkey rocks! Hay is scratchy and no fun mama…Blessed memories, thankful that we all get to keep them.
.-= Melanie B´s last blog ..Greeting Card Winner! =-.
Danny says:
That smile is absolutely intoxicating and joyful. I can only imagine the pain you feel in not seeing it every day.
.-= Danny´s last blog ..If You’re Ever in a Jam, Here I Am =-.
anymommy says:
Such a short time. The number made me catch my breath. She’s adorable in that pebbles costume.
.-= anymommy´s last blog ..Wanna Bet? =-.
Overflowing Brain (Katie) says:
Love you guys.
Always.
Leslie says:
Not nearly enough time with that sweetheart. It’s not fair.
Thinking of you always.
Marti from Michigan says:
I can’t thank you and Mike enough for sharing Maddie with all of us. I’m so sorry you only had 514 days with her. It shatters my heart, I have tears in my eyes now. It still hurts.
I am so sorry, so very, very sorry.
**HUGS** from Michigan.
Tina says:
You must miss her with every ounce of you. Beautiful photos as always.
Kim says:
I know sweetie, I know. xoxoxo
.-= Kim´s last blog ..Psycho Kim =-.
Jamie says:
514 days. That math. It is hard to believe–it doesn’t seem possible that you only got to hug that sweet little baby girl for 514 days. I am so, so sorry.
ali says:
Heather…I remember that pumpkin shirt of Maddie’s. I remember leaving a comment that she was probably crying because her mommy made her wear a pumpkin shirt. hahah. I really wish I could see her in a pumpkin shirt this year. HUGS!!!!
.-= ali´s last blog ..I guess preschoolers don’t notice laugh lines or crow’s feet. =-.
edenland says:
Heather. You could still have a party … a big internet party for Maddie. We could all have ballooons, colourful clothes, all around the world.
Love, love, love to you and Mike
XOXOXOX
Kim says:
Heather,
My heart breaks for you and your family. I’m so, so sorry. There is nothing else anyone can say. I’ll continue to keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Love,
Kim
gina says:
My baby girl is 17 months and thinking this is all the time you had with Maddie breaks my heart. She is adorable in the costumes even in the pumpkin patch, she has this face you want to squeeze, kiss and love. WIshing you a lifetime of happiness with your new bundle of joy.
Debby says:
My heart is always heavy when I think of you and your sorrow. She is so adorable and was taken to quickly from this earth. I want you to know that I care about you both. My prayers are with you. ((HUGS))
.-= Debby´s last blog ..WAVE OF LIGHT =-.
Erica says:
thank you for sharing those photos – such a beautiful girl. i especially love the halloween costumes. it just isn’t fair. i am so very sorry. nothing about it makes sense.
XOXO
.-= Erica´s last blog ..Baby Jaguar… or Batman?? =-.
mangopuppy says:
God, Heather. Those eyebrows, those lashes. That huge smile. How is it possible to love, miss, and hurt for a little girl I’ve never met?
I wish you a lifetime of happiness with her baby sister, whom I know she would have loved so, so much.
Taryn says:
Hi Spohr family – You don’t know me, and technically I don’t know you, although I feel like I do just from following your blog for the past few weeks.
I enjoy reading your posts and continue to keep your family in my thoughts and prayers. Maddie has touched so many peoples lives and that is because of you.
Just wanted to let you know that I nominated you guys for a Lemonade Award. Please visit my blog to read more about it: http://www.theskeesfamily.com. It may be for amateur bloggers, which, clearly you are not, but I still felt compelled to offer you this award nonetheless.
I’m so very sorry for your loss.
Taryn Skees
Take care,
Taryn
Kathleen says:
Only 514 days here on this earth, and she made the world a better place.
Thank you for continuing to share your journey with us.
Claudia says:
In our sleep, pain which cannot forget
Falls drop by drop upon the heart until,
In our own despair, against our will,
Comes wisdom through the awful grace of God.
Peace to the Spohr family: Heather, Mike, Maddie and Binky.
AMomTwoBoys says:
514 glorious days that were not enough.
Not nearly enough.
.-= AMomTwoBoys´s last blog ..Party Girl =-.
Amyinbc says:
514 glorious days … I agree, NOT ENOUGH. Such a sweet daughter, of course you miss and grieve her. Will take time to get away from the daily reminders and pain, if ever.
My parents have done it though so there is a tidbit of hope. Never would have thought they would have it in them to continue living after my brother died at 20 through suicide. But they have, and I am so thankful.
Funsize says:
Today is October 15th, pregnancy and infant loss awareness day. I had my husband light a candle at 7 PM for your daughter today.
xo
.-= Funsize´s last blog ..Wave of Light 2009 =-.
Chrissie says:
Its not fair, and its so wrong, only 514 days. (((HUGS)))
Lucy's Mom says:
I just had this strange experience of laughing and crying simultaneously at the sight of the pumpkin patch picture (I feel like crying when I sit on hay too).
I know this is so tough for you, Mike and your family. I am joining with others in thinking of you all today ( a little late) – and I love the pictures of Maddie, she is such a sweetie.
Jenn says:
I just love her sock monkey outfit, hugs
.-= Jenn´s last blog ..A walk and a giveaway =-.
Ann says:
I looked at this entry with my 7 yr old son tonight. His heart broke when he saw Maddie crying at the pumpkin patch. He said, “momma, I just wanna pick that little girl up and hug her. Maybe she will like the pumpkin patch better this year.” I explained that Maddie was in Heaven now and that she was born early with weak lungs. I am a NICU nurse so he knows about preemies. “I just don’t believe she to died momma. I have 2 good lungs. I could have gave her one of mine. I don’t need them both”, he said. I scooped him up as I held back my tears. If only it were that simple. Your Maddie has touched so many people. People you will never even meet. Bless you all.
Adventure Club Carrie says:
Hi Heather…
still reading, still here, still sending prayers and supportive thoughts.
Thank you for letting us take this journey with you…
Tina says:
Tears for you again. Maddie will always be missed, even by total strangers, she was that special.
xoxo
Kim says:
I actually just came across your blog tonight, and I lost count of how many tissues I’ve gone through in the last 2 hours of reading through it. Words cannot express how deeply sorry I am for your loss. You have a beautiful, precious girl watching down on you from Heaven. Congratulations on your newest addition-to-be. I can only imagine how difficult and terrifying this time must be for you. I’m also due around valentine’s day with a precious girl, and reading your story has me praying harder than I’ve ever prayed in my life. I wish you and your family the best…Maddie will always be in our hearts.
Sarcastica says:
Oh Heather, *hugs* I wish I could say something more. Those pictures made me smile; she was such a gorgeous girl.
.-= Sarcastica´s last blog ..When You’re Just Not A Fashionista =-.
Betty Sue HannaPep says:
To Maddie’s Mom & Dad…Heather and Mike:
I first saw Maddie (online via the internet) ibon a photo posted re: Maddie Loves Matt Lauer…I fell completely in love with this BEAUTIFUL & AMAZING CHILD!! She has been an “ANGEL” all of her short little life. I’ve not ever, ever, ever, ever, seen a more precious and beautiful face, smile, or eyes of a baby or young child in my life. (I have one daughter; she is 40 years old….and two sons younger than my girl – and my!, OH MY! Your Maddie has ANGEL written all over her from..
no doubt her conception until infinity!! I am sorry and sad for the loss of your beautiful Angel, Maddie. I am happy that you have been blessed with Binky….these are some special children of yours…..Thank you for sharing Maddie with the world. I am looking forward to getting to know Binky…..You both, I’ve no doubt, are wonderful parents; and so deserve this blessing of another baby. It is sad that some cannot find it in their heart of hearts to be happy for you, too… (…I’m so grateful that I’m not the judge)
Love to you both,
Betty Sue
Betty Sue HannaPep says:
Ditto Tina..XOXO
amy says:
Maddie is probably one of the most beautiful babies I have ever seen! Thank you for sharing Maddie with us all.