I have a feeling you would have burst into my room this morning to wake up your daddy and me early. I, of course, wouldn’t have minded because I would have wanted you to open your presents as soon as possible. That’s assuming I hadn’t already given them all to you early. You know I’ve never been able to make it to daddy’s birthday without giving him his presents early. I never would have been able to resist making you smile.
I wish I knew what three year olds played with. But I promise you I would have bought you everything your heart desired. When you were with us, you loved anything that made or played music, so I’m going to think I bought you a bunch of musical instruments – bongos, a tambourine, anything that could add to the beautiful racket in our house.
Your birthday is on a holiday, so your daddy has today off. I’d have a big day planned. Pancakes for breakfast, then a trip to the park, followed by a fun lunch at your favorite restaurant. Then a big family nap, because we all love to snuggle. Annie always resists snuggling at first, but I’d bet anything that she’d immediately snuggle with you.
After our nap we’d color, have a dance party, laugh at Annie, eat dinner, and then we’d bring out your annual creme puff with three candles in it. We’d sing happy birthday and I think this year you’d know how to blow out your candles. I can almost picture your little lips puckered up to blow them out.
As I tucked you into bed at the end of the day, I’d tell you how much I love you, and how special you are. I’d ask you if you had a good birthday, and I hope you’d say yes. I’d give you a million kisses and say goodnight.
I wonder what you’d want to wear. I wonder how long your hair would be. Could I braid it? Would I put it in pigtails? I bet you’d be talking up a storm. You already had so many words. I know Annie would idolize you. When she sees your pictures she claps and smiles and shrieks “BAYBAY” with glee. I know you would be an amazing big sister, so patient and gentle.
I wish I knew more about who you would be. It’s so unfair that you’re not here. You are missing so much. We are an incomplete family without you, but we love you completely. We need you. We miss you.
There isn’t a second of the day that I don’t physically ache from missing you, Maddie. I still wake up every morning in shock that you’re not here. But today, on your third birthday, the ache is stronger, the shock deeper, the pain more intense. The love, though…the love is stronger, deeper, more intense as well.
Happy birthday my sweet Madeline Alice. I love you forever.
Love, Mama
your daddy wrote you a letter, too. It’s here.
CarrieB says:
It’s my girl’s birthday today too. Thinking of you and Maddie x
Gemini-Girl says:
happy birthday moo. you are missed and loved EVERY.SINGLE.DAY.
Love you always,
Auntie Maya
Maura says:
A special day, indeed. Happy birthday, Maddie, you are missed.
Kellee says:
I will never forget how I “met” Maddie – “Hey, look at this baby with a laptop!” That sweet little face captured my interest immediately. In my thoughts, today and always… but especially today.
Marti from Michigan says:
I wish I could wave a magical wand and there Maddie would be! For sure, all that you and Mike have shared with all of us, I personally think Maddie is a beautiful child, and somewhere, she is a beautiful angel. MEGA HUGS from Michigan!
Elle says:
Happy Birthday Maddie! I will be thinking of you and your family. You are forever in my heart and thoughts. Seeing this picture of you and your mama, and the pure happiness on your face, shows me that you brought so much joy to everyone you crossed paths with. That will never change.
marcia says:
That perfectly sums up what I was thinking. Maddie changed my world & I like to think I’m a better person for “knowing” her. Much, much love to you today (and always, but especially today).
Loralee says:
These missed birthday are so bittersweet. Much love to you and Mike and as always, Maddie & Annie. xo
Susan says:
I found your blog from a link someone had on their own blog, almost a year and a half ago. I have read your posts every single day since I found it. I would say that I don’t know what compelled me to return to your blog in particular, but I DO know what it was: it was the story of your daughter.
I was unable to know Maddie before she passed on, but the stories I read about her charmed me. Such a beautiful, strong, happy child, and the strength of you and your loved ones left an impression on me; an impression that will never go away.
Happy Birthday, Maddie.
Sending love to you and your family, Heather. I wish the best for you, as always.
Veronika says:
What a bittersweet day. I wish you were here, Maddie. I wish I could have seen the 3 year old you would have become. I bet you would have been spectacular. Happy Birthday Maddie.
leslie says:
happy birthday, maddie!
you are so missed, but oh so very much loved!
Nadinsche says:
Happy Birthday, dear sweet Maddie! I miss you even though I never met you! But to me it feels as if I know you through your Mamas blog that I am reading daily! Thinking of you, Heather, Mike, Annie & Rigby!
Fiona says:
Happy Birthday Maddie. Thinking of you all – Maddie, Heather and Mike and Annie….not forgetting Rigby….
Today must be very hard for you. For all of you. There is nothing I or anyone else can possibly say that will make any of this better for you….but what I can say is that I think it is so wonderful that you have told us all how you would have spent the day on Madeline’s birthday. It sounds like a wonderful day….how could a 3 year old have had anything but a fantastic time doing all those wonderful things with her lovely family? I think it is wonderful….thank you for sharing this with us on what must be a very difficult day for you…..
Thinking of you every day, but especially today….
Love & hugs….
Fiona
Kris says:
Happy birthday, dear Maddie. I’m sending lots of kisses and hugs to you and your wonderful family. We miss you so much…
Sally says:
My heart hurts for you so very much.
I am so sorry Heather. So sorry that this has happened to your lovely family. So sorry Maddie is not here.
She is loved and remembered today and always. She would have loved the big day you had planned for her, I’m sure of it.
xo
Sam (temptingmama) says:
Happy birthday, sweet Maddie Moo!
Heather and Mike, there’s not a day that goes by that I don’t think of you and your precious Maddie. I love you both!
xo
Alethea Fitzpatrick says:
Happy birthday sweet sweet Maddie. Much love to all
of you today.
AmazingGreis says:
Happy Birthday sweet, sweet Maddie!
You are missed and LOVED more and more each day.
XOXO
Kathleen says:
Thinking of your family today…
Maria says:
Happy birthday Maddy…
Reading about your story through your mommy and daddy has been inspiring to me. I know you’re a beautiful shiny angel.
Love,
Maria E.
Jules says:
Thinking of you and your family today!!!
Michele says:
Happy Birthday, Maddie! Heather, Mike and Annie — I am so sorry that she isn’t here to celebrate with you.
Sue says:
Lots of love & hugs to Maddie’s Mommy, Daddy, little sister Annie, and her best buddy Rigby,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
You are missed so very much Maddie,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
Catherine says:
Wearing purple today, thinking of you all.
Be well…
Smile for those girls!
anotherheatherfromcanada says:
So bittersweet. Happy birthday to Maddie and hugs and prayers for all of you !!
amanda says:
Happy Birthday to Maddie – we love you so much!
Love love love to you, Mike and Annie today – we are holding you up today..xo
Allison says:
I worried about you last night, knowing that you’d wake up to this pain. I’m so sorry that life has been so unfair in taking your sweet girl from you.
I wish there was something I could do to make you hurt less, to still have Maddie here. Just know that you all are in my thoughts today.
Kim says:
Happy Birthday, Maddie! Big hugs to all of you today. I know it will be a tough one.
Susan says:
Happy Birthday to beautiful Maddie! In her honor, I will wear purple today. I will carry her smile in my mind – I do every day. I imagine that she’s spending her birthday with Aunt Kathy, walking beside her in heaven, with her little hand grasping your aunt’s hand.
I’m sorry that she’s not here to spend her birthday with you, Mike, Annie, and the rest of your amazing family. It’s not fair, and it will never be fair. But she knows she’s loved and missed. And we all know the world is a better place for her being here for that short time.
Jess says:
I read your blog everyday but rarely comment. I just never know what I could possibly say!! But I am sitting here with tears running down my face, so I just wanted to say SOMETHING. I wish I could give you and Mike a hug. Lots and lots of hugs to Annie today too.
And to sweet sweet Maddie, happy birthday big girl!
Nikki says:
Happy Happy Happy 3rd Birthday Maddie Moo! We all love and miss you so much!! I love that your birthday is Remembrance Day… SO fitting for a special girl like you!
Saying some extra prayers for you and your family and sending so much LOVE and HUGS to Mike and Heather.
I’ll also be wearing purple and hunting down a cream puff and be thinking of you all!!
XOXO from GA,
Nikki
JoAnn says:
If I could I would reach my hand across all of these miles between us, from East to West, and squeeze yours.
I’d reach both my arms across the continent to hug you. Know that many hearts across the world today are all leaning in toward California, toward your family to will all of their warmth and support in your direction.
You and Mike and your beautiful family, your beautiful hearts, are loved.
Jen says:
Happy Birthday to the truest angel there is!
Will be thinking of you and your family today!
mary c says:
Happy Birthday Maddie! Sending you all lots of hugs with love.
Kristen says:
Happy birthday to Maddie. I am sorry you are aching so much today. I hope the three of you have a celebratory cream puff in her honor. I am glad Mike is home with you today.
Allison Zapata says:
Sending you so much love today. SO MUCH!!!! XOXOXOXO
Nellie says:
Today my daughter Ainsley and I honor Madeline by wearing purple. We never met your family but the Spohrs have greatly impacted our lives and I pray that Madeline’s beautiful and amazing spirit live on in all of us.
It is because of you Heather that I go “all out” on Birthdays for my daughter. Thank you for sharing your personally painful and heartwarming journey with us and for being a constant inspiration.
Mary Ann says:
After reading your posts, I sit here with tears streaming down my face – I cannot possibly imagine how you must be feeling today. I have no words except Happy Birthday Sweetheart. Thinking of you today.
Christine says:
Happy birthday sweet Maddie! You are so missed, and so so so loved.
(Heather, Mike, Annie and Rigby – you are all in my thoughts!)
Jen @ lifelove'n'wine says:
Happy birthday to sweet Madeline. Thinking of you all today.
Mary says:
Thinking of all of you today…
CM says:
Happy Birthday Maddie
Alison says:
Holding all of you in my thoughts today.
Julie says:
Happy 3rd birthday, Maddie. Wish you were here today…
Holding you all in my thoughts today…no words.
Heather ross says:
Happy bday beautiful Maddie!
You are all in my thoughts.
Tamara says:
Happy 3rd Birthday, Maddie! You are loved…
Jenn says:
HAPPY BIRTHDAY MADDIE!! YOU ARE AS LOVED AS MUCH AS YOU ARE MISSED!!! I HOPE GOD IS THROWING YOU A HUGE BIRTHDAY IN HEAVEN AND I HOPE YOU CAN FEEL ALL THE LOVE THAT IS BEING SENT UP TO YOU!!!
WE LOVE YOU VERY MUCH LITTLE GIRL. YOU MAY BE GONE BUT I PROMISE YOU THIS MADDIE….YOU WILL NEVER EVER BE FORGOTTEN!!!
LOTS AND LOTS OF LOVE,
FROM ONE OF MANY WHO SIMPLY LOVE & ADORE YOU AND YOUR FAMILY,,,AND WHO ALWAYS WILL!!!! XOXO
Nicole says:
Happy Birthday Maddie! You are missed. Hoping that Mommy, Daddy and Annie celebrate your life today and know that you are with them every moment of every day.
Lisa says:
I wish so hard I could bring sweet Maddie back to you..
Happy Birthday Maddie!
Laura says:
Happy Birthday Maddie! Sweet dreams, little girl.
KimPossible says:
Happy Birthday Maddie
Lora says:
You were the first thing I thought of this morning. I just want to say happy birthday to Maddie, and that I’m thinking of your family.
Jamie says:
I’m sure at this time you know this about your readers, Heather, but I’m crying along with you in frosty Ohio. Maddie has touched my heart as have you and Mike and Annie.
Happy Birthday, Maddie!
LisaJ says:
Happy Birthday, precious little one.
My heart and thought are with you and your family today, Heather.
Thank you for sharing her with all of us. You have forever changed me…and so has Madeline.
Alexandra says:
OK, I just saw your last three posts and I’m going to respond to them all here.
Photo: I LOVE this pic of Maddie! It’s one of my faves ever!
Mike: I love the way that he talks about her life. It’s beautiful.
Heather: I’m just so sorry, to you and Mike and Annabel too. I wish I could bring back Madeline to your family. I think it’s really sweet how Annie looks up to her big sister even though she isn’t here (and I also think it’s cute when she plays with Maddie’s friends).
Michelle H. says:
Happy Birthday Maddie! I’m wearing purple today and thinking of you every minute.
Lisa says:
Happy Birthday, Maddie!!
I love that picture of you and Maddie, Heather. She was and is one of the most beautiful little girls I’ve ever seen.
So much love and so many hugs for all of you today and always.
carrie says:
Thinking of you and your beautiful girl today.
Kim says:
Happy birthday dear sweet Maddie!
Nothing but love and hugs to you, Mike and your family Heather.
Gale @ Ten Dollar Thoughts says:
Forever, indeed, is the only way we know how to love our children. Maddie is loved by so many of us. And so are you, Mike, and Annie. Happy birthday to your sweet, sweet girl.
Kelly says:
And can it be that in a world so full and busy, the loss of one weak creature makes a void in any heart, so wide and deep that nothing but the width and depth of eternity can fill it up.
-Charles Dickens
Happy Birthday, sweet Madeline.
Diane says:
The unfairness of this strikes me every time I read or think about your beautiful Maddie. Happy birthday, Maddie. I hope your day is filled with cream puffs.
Liz says:
Celebrating Maddie today.
Happy Birthday, sweet girl.
Staci says:
I’m so sorry, Heather. My words can’t take away even an ounce of your pain but I’ll be praying that something does.
Claire says:
Happy birthday sweet little one.
Jenny says:
Happy birthday, Maddie Moo. You would be awesome today.
Jen L. says:
I woke up thinking of your family today. Sending you loving thoughts. Surround yourself with happy memories and try to take comfort in each other today. Happy birthday, beautiful Maddie.
Liz says:
I’m thinking of you and your beautiful family today. Happy birthday, beautiful girl.
Rumour Miller says:
Happy Birthday, Sweet Angel.
Lindsey says:
You are all in my thoughts and prayers today. I wish this day could be different.
weezie says:
Heartbreaking. I visit your website every day
The picture of the two of you makes me smile but my heart breaks for you. I never have met you or Maddie but she has made an impact on my life
Anna Marie says:
Oh, my heart aches for you all. Happy birthday to dear, sweet Maddie.
Kayla N. says:
Beautiful post. I will be thinking of you, Mike, Annie, Rigby and all your family today, and of course, wearing purple. Happy Birthday, Maddie
Tamela says:
Happy birthday Maddie. You are all in my thoughts and prayers today.
Lucy says:
I braced myself before opening my reader this morning. I knew that today was going to be a tough one for you and for Mike. Maddie was such a gorgeous girl – inside and out. I have no doubt that her beauty would have intensified as she grew older.
She lives on in the hearts and minds of people around the world. We love her because you loved her. We know her because you took the time to tell us. We saw her because you shared her with us. I can’t thank you enough for that. While I was never a part of Maddie’s life, she is a part of mine. Happy birthday Madeline.
Heather says:
Happy birthday, Maddie! I’m thinking of you all today, Heather, with an aching heart.
Jessie says:
There really are no words to say to you today, but you and Mike are in my thoughts. Your daughters are both breathtakingly beautiful and I wish Maddie that happiest third birthday!
Zandi says:
HAPPY BIRTHDAY MADDIE!!!!! You are, and always will be loved by so many people , you are, and always will be a miracle and a blessing to us all. Thank you for your smile .
suzanne says:
Happy Birthday Maddie!!! I got up and got dressed for today, and thought of you….I am wearing Purple today in honor of your Birthday. I have thought about this day all week and today is the day…..hugs to Heather and Mike…..Maddie is NEVER far from my mind, she always is there. I wish I had something more to offer to ease the pain, but that is impossible. Just know, we celebrate and remember Maddie today and pray for comfort as you start your day.
designHer Momma says:
Happy Birthday Babygirl! Heather, I woke up this morning, and my mind went immediately to you family. Much love and peace,
~emily
Liz says:
Happy Birthday Maddie.
Heather, Mike and Annie… I am sorry that your beautiful girl isn’t here anymore, It’s not fair. I am sure Maddie is having a party with her Aunt and watching over you all
Mindy says:
Happy Birthday sweet, sweet girl!!! You are thought of and loved by so many!
AmyG says:
Happy 3rd Birthday Maddie! You’re missed & loved by many!
J+1 says:
Happy birthday, Maddie. You are, and always will be, missed.
Barnmaven says:
It would have been the best birthday ever. It sounds so trite sometimes to say “you’re in my prayers,” but you are. Sincerely so.
Mer says:
Thinking of Maddie, and all of you, on her 3rd birthday, and wishing right along with you that she was still here. Happy Birthday Maddie!
mel says:
Maddie is always in my heart. Much love to all of you, Heather. She is so missed. Hugs.
Jannette says:
Happy Birthday Sweet Maddie.
Thank you for sharing Maddie with me. I will pray for strength for you, Mike and your extended family.
Rebecca says:
Happy Birthday Maddie.
Heather, Mike, Annabel and Rigby . . . thinking of you today. I am glad Mike gets the day off and you can all be together.
Anna says:
Thinking of you all today. Wishing you peace and some happiness however you can find it.
Gillian says:
Happy birthday to the beautiful Madeline.
Tammy says:
Happy Birthday Angel Maddie! Your momma’s post made me cry at work. You are soooo loved.
Rachel says:
Maddie was the first person on my mind when I turned over this morning and I am sure she will be the last one I think of before I go to sleep. Happy third birthday, sweet girl.
And all my love to the entire Spohr family. You are always in my thoughts, today more than usual.
Meg says:
Happy Birthday Maddie!!! You would have been the coolest 3 year old little girl – and it is not fair that you are not down here celebrating with your Mom, Daddy and little sis today, I am certain you are dancing up a storm up there in heaven having a huge bash with lots of cake and icecream!
rkmama says:
Happy Birthday, Maddie!
Love love love to the Spohr’s.
Momma Uncensored says:
happy day sweet baby girl.
Deborah says:
Happy birthday, Maddie! I miss you and I never even knew you!
(((Hugs to you and Mike today. Hugs and love, love, love to you both.)))
Jennifer Choate says:
Happy Birthday Maddie!!! You haved done so much for so many people and babies in the last three years…more than most people accomplish in a lifetime. Heather, Mike, Annie, and Rigby…you are in my prayers today.
cindy w says:
No words that anyone can say could possibly be sufficient. So I’ll just say that I’m thinking about you today, and Catie & I are both wearing purple for Maddie today. So much love to all of you guys.
Leslie says:
I saw the title and burst into tears…and sobbed through the post. I wish it didn’t have to be that way. Prayers for you guys.
moosh in indy. says:
Happy birthday moo, there will be a lot of cream puffs eaten and purple worn today in honor of your birthday. I miss you so much. I promise you I’m doing the best I can to take care of your mom and dad. xx
JustAMom says:
I don’t know what to say, but I can’t not comment. Tears stream down my face as I read your posts today, and I am so sad and I don’t even know you guys. I can’t imagine how the two of you must feel. God Bless you both.
Jana says:
Happy Birthday to your beautiful girl!
Thinking of all of you today…
Nicci says:
That was a beautiful letter and I am sure she knows just how you feel. I love that picture. She was so silly!
Sara says:
Happy Birthday, Maddie. You are so loved by so many people and I pray that you continue to shine your bright light into so many of our lives. It’s clear how much your parents (and Rigby and Annie) adore you! I find myself hugging my daughters just a little bit longer and a little bit tighter because of you. Blessings and prayers to you, Heather and Mike on what is a very difficult day. I don’t have the words to take away your pain, but remember how many lives Maddie touched and how many people think of you and her daily.
amy says:
Happy Birthday to precious little Madeline! You are soooo loved and missed!
Sarah Wegener says:
Happy Birthday Maddie!!! Mike and Heather you are in my thoughts today. I too have lost a daughter and know what you are feeling on her special day! Just know many people are praying for you and have Maddie on their mind and hearts today!
Page says:
Happy Birthday, Maddie!
My love to you all.
Lora says:
A beautiful letter to your beautiful daughter.
Know that many thoughts and prayers are with you all today as you struggle through another milestone without your precious Maddie.
Barb in Michigan says:
Maddie and you , Mike , Annie and the rest of your families are in my thoughts every day.
We will always celebrate the wonderful Maddie even on days that aren’t her birthday. I look at the Stars and wonder which lovely star she is , watching over all of us with those huge , loving eyes.
Love to you all on every day , but even more today. hang in there , Heather and Mike and enjoy your day doing Maddie’s favorite things with Annie.
Jessica says:
Happy Birthday Maddie!!
Heather, I continue to be amazed at your bravery in continuing to post on such hard days. This post made me ache; I can’t even begin to imagine what you are feeling today. You are an amazing mom to two beautiful girls (and a precious dog). I’m glad that Mike is able to be with you today.
Love from Michigan
Natali Del Conte-Morris says:
I didn’t know about your daughter until today. What a touching story. I’m so sorry that you lost your little girl. Thank you for sharing it with all of us.
I’m grateful to have found this blog. I’m RSS’ing it. God bless.
Tracey says:
Happy Birthday Maddie! Have fun dancing on the clouds with all of your angel friends.
Heather, I wish she was here dancing with you, Mike, and Annie:(
C @ Kid Things says:
Thinking of you all. Happy Birthday, Maddie.
MommyNamedApril says:
happy birthday gorgeous. you live in our hearts forever.
Ashley says:
Happy Birthday Maddie and Mommy and Daddy (and Annie too)! I hope somewhere in today you find something that helps soothe a teeny tiny part of a giagantic ache and pain I can’t imagine!
MinNYC says:
HAPPY BIRTHDAY MADDIE!!
heather, i thought of you at midnight (NY time). see today is also my husband’s 29th birthday. as the clock struck midnight i called him at work to say happy birthday. the second i hung up i thought of you. i always think about how some person’s happiest days are on others’ saddest days. i am thinking of you today & your family. i can’t imagine how hard today must be. ((HUGS))
Karen says:
Happy Birthday to Maddie today. Remembering her and keeping you, Mike and Annie in my thoughts.
Elizabeth says:
Your all in my thoughts today. Once again Happy Birthday Maddie.
Mimi says:
My heart is with the Spohr family today. Happy birthday to Maddie.
Krissy says:
Happy Happy Birthday Sweet baby girl. You are missed by so many people that only know you through here.
Heather, Mike and Annie.. thinking of you today.. and sending hugs.
michele Wallace says:
My heart is heavy reading your post – thinking of you all today.
(((hugs)))
Michele
Meli says:
Happy Birthday, sweet Maddie!
Heather, I wish I had magic words. I do not. Go out and spend today as you would have if Maddie were still here with you. Continue to honor her as you do every day. That is your greatest gift to her and I feel so lucky to share a tiny bit of it through your blog.
1coolmom says:
**tear** My heart aches for you all and I will remember Madeline with you today….and always. Happy 3rd Birthday sweet girl! You are SO loved!
SuZ says:
I am thinking of you on this day and your special little girls.
susan says:
one of the first things i did this morning was to come here and check on you….
what a beautiful note to your maddie…
thinking about you all today.
Kathleen says:
My heart is with you today.
Laurie says:
To quote the words of a great father:
“Today is to celebrate you
My sweet, perfect, wonderful Moo
Your head on my shoulder
Your beautiful smile
The good in your heart
The pride in mine
The love we share
Deeper than any distance.”
Happy birthday, Maddie. You will forever be the girl who, along with her parents, taught me to cherish each day with my daughter, just as your mom and dad did with you.
I know that nothing can ease the pain of the brutal way in which Maddie’s days were cut short, but I hope you truly understand how, because of her and you, thousands of parents love their children more fiercely than before. She has changed lives, and so have you. I’m sure that you would trade it all to have a beautiful three-year-old snuggled up to you today, but Maddie has made me a better mom.
Glenda says:
Heather, what a beautiful post! You need to write a book. Love your ways with words and how you capture the reader! Happy 3rd Birthday Maddie!! I’m wearing purple today to honor you and purple was my mommy’s fav color so it honors her too (she passed in 2004)
Sending you, Mike, Annie & Rigby hugs!XO
Molly says:
I am so very sorry. Always so sorry.
Happy birthday sweet Maddie. We all wish you were still here.
Melissa says:
happy birthday Maddie. (((hugs)))
Katrina says:
I’ll be thinking of Maddie all day today, wearing the new purple sweatshirt that I bought yesterday
Happy Birthday to your sweet girl.
xoxo
Kristi says:
Happy birthday, sweet Maddie! Your life illuminated the world and that light still shines today. You made the world a brighter, sunnier place. I know your radiant smile is lighting up Heaven now. That’s what brings me comfort. Even though you are not hear on Earth, your soul still lives on, your flame can never be extinguished.
Right now, I’m picturing your beautiful face with a smile so big and eyes that sparkle. I can see you dancing and clapping and celebrating your special day.
Kristi says:
Hugs and love to you, Mike, Annie and Rigby. I’m so sorry that your precious, amazing daughter is not here with you today. And I’m sorry you have so much heartache. If I could change that for you, I would. I’d bring her back.
Kristi says:
One more comment! This sounds like the perfect birthday! I could picture the whole day in my mind as I read your beautiful post. Today would have been an amazing day for Maddie. You would have made it so special for her because you are an incredible mom. Thanks for sharing Maddie with all of us.
Trisha Vargas says:
Happy Birthday Sweet Maddie Moo!
Lots of HUGS to you Heather and Mike!
Sending love from Florida
Caroline says:
Up here in Canada we don’t call Nov 11th Veteran’s Day. We call it Remembrance Day. I can’t think of a better name. As I remember our soldiers and veterans I have another brave little person to remember each year. I think of you and little Maddie often but always on this day. Your story has touched my heart and my life and I am so grateful that you shared Maddie with the world for the short time you had her. Sending hugs and wishes – your little girl is not forgotten.
Adrianne says:
Happy birthday, sweet girl! Your mommy and daddy miss and love you more than you could ever know.
Heather, I can’t imagine what a difficult day this is for you and your family. Know that we are all thinking of you and Maddie today and wishing more than anything that she were here to celebrate with you. I know she’d be absolutely gorgeous as a 3 year old!
Kristin says:
Love and hugs today. I have my purple on and my kids and I will be sending Maddie 3 purple balloons for her 3rd birthday. Happy Birthday Maddie, you are still loved and thought about by everyone.
TripleZmom says:
Happy birthday, Maddie. Thinking of your loving family today.
Jessica Harrison says:
I think of you everyday, but today even more. Hugs to you all..and Happy Birthday Maddie!
Thank you for sharing with us, Heather! Much love to you!
LaurieSL says:
Maddie is truly the most beautiful baby in the world (hard thing to say since I have a daughter too!). Happy Birthday, Maddie. So many people love and miss you, including me.
Chris says:
Lots of birthday wishes thinking about what a perfect 3 year old birthday Maddie would have. All I can do is send lots of good thoughts to you, Mike, Annie and Rigby, knowing what a very difficult day this
Oh, and a cream puff as her birthday dessert of choice? My kind of girl! For many years my mom made those for my birthday dessert (I’m not a big cake eater) and I’ve really missed them in her absence, and thinking of Maddie enjoying a cream puff, remembering the story of when she first had one, made me smile. Know that so many of us are thinking of you today and always.
stephanie says:
Happy Birthday, sweet little Madeline!
Karen says:
Happy birthday Maddie! And lots of love to Heather, Mike, Annie and Rigby. How lucky to be in a family with such love.
Tricia (irishsamom) says:
Heather and Mike and Annie,
There are no words. Except that Maddie’s spirit lives on in other people, she has been a huge part of change and compassion in other people’s worlds. But that’s not enough. She should be here. I like to think she’s around you, feeling loved, feeling three, feeling joy. I’d like to think you’d have the same joy. I am so, so hurting for you all today that she’s not here to bound into your room, like a big three year old would do. But I know that you will honour her together and find joy in her memory. My heart aches for you all, aches for you Heather, her momma, whom she knew loved her more than the world, for Mike, her beloved Daddy and for her baby sister Annie, who never got to play with her.
I can’t change that and I wish I could. But know, that she has touched so many lives, including me and my family and has brought a sense of perspective, joy and learning how to take nothing for granted. For even a moment. I send love, light, hugs and kisses from my two children, who adore Maddie, even though they never met her. We will celebrate her tonight too, as will so many people who have been touched by her amazing light.
Love, love and love,
Tricia xx
Another Heather says:
Thinking of your whole family today, Heather, and sending light.
Cristy says:
happy 3rd birthday Madeline! I hope you’re having the a wonderful celebration with your grandma, great aunt, and all of your angel friends today.
heather, mike, Annie, and rigby, we’re all thinking of you. we’re all celebrating maddie today- some by commenting, some donating, some wearing purple. maddie is everywhere, especially today. thank you for continuing to share her with us.
Chrysalis says:
My heart hurts for you. I light a candle for Maddie and your family. I will wear my special purple striped tights and dance with my little boy for Maddie. And then we will have a special Maddie cream puff!
Much love to your whole family!
Becky @winobecks says:
Thinking of you, Mike, and Annie today as we remember Maddie’s 3rd birthday. Sending you all the love in the world. Maddie is missed immensely.
Amber says:
I’ve read your blog every day since Maddie’s passing and have never commented. I just don’t know what to say to someone who has gone through what you guys have gone through. I’ve never lost a child…how could I possible comfort? What if I say something that hurts your heart even MORE? What if, in my inadequacies I make it worse? But, my fingers are drawn to the keyboard this morning….
I canNOT imagine what you’re going through, especially on days like this, and I’m SO sorry that you have to. I don’t even now you, but feel as if you, Mike and Annie are some of my closest friends. Weird, I know. But your writing is so captivating and brings me back day after day. The love I see that you have for sweet Maddie and Annie is just unbelievable.
I hope that you can find peace today. Somehow. Somewhere. I don’t know how, but it is my hope. You guys are amazing. Even in the midst of your pain, you are able to bring so much joy and encouragement to others. Thank you.
I’m so sorry.
Ali says:
I agree with every word of this post. From another “stranger” who reads your blog daily, I’m so sorry that you have to live with this sort of pain. I cannot imagine. And I’m astonished that through all of this, you still make a point to bring happiness and hope to others. Your Maddie will never be forgotten, ever. I can truly say that she has changed my life, and I never even met her. Happy Birthday to your sweet angel.
Claire says:
Thinking of you, Mike and Annie today. This is a beautiful letter to your beautiful Maddie.
Ashley says:
Happy Birthday Maddie. Crying for your mama and daddy and thinking & praying for you all today. Much love.
Michelle Pixie says:
Happy Birthday, Sweet Maddie!
Holding you all near and dear to my heart today and always. xxoo
Brigid says:
Happy 3rd Birthday beautiful Maddie!!!
Angie M. says:
I woke up this morning a little after midnite, looked at the clock and wished Maddie a Happy Birthday. She, as well as you, mike, & annie will definitely be in my thoughts all day today. Hugs
Jamie M says:
Happy Birthday Maddie! I can’t wait to meet you in heaven someday! Heather, Mike, and Annabel, I am thinking of you today . Positive vibes your way….
Brooke says:
Happy Birthday Maddie!!! You are thought of all the time by so many… On your birthday we all come together and celebrate all that you were!
Heather,
You are thought of, prayed for, close at heart all the time… On a day like today that will be 100 times over…
There are no other words, just holding your family close right now!
Brooke
Overflowing Brain says:
Love to you Heather, today and always.
krystal says:
Thinking of you and your family today and buying my Annie DVD in honor of Maddie. Love and hugs.
Elizabeth says:
My heart aches for your loss. I wish you, Mike and Annie every bit of love in the world today.
Laney says:
Happy birthday, Maddie. There are so many of us here who love you, even though we never met you. You are such a special little girl who was has touched many, many lives. Thinking of your wonderful family today.
mythoughtsonthat says:
Faith….Hope….Love….Peace.
Erin says:
Happy birthday, Maddie. I think about you every day. Peace to you and your loving family.
VDog says:
Happy Birthday, Maddie. Happy Birth of your first Day, Heather & Mike!
Love you all.
xoxoxo
REDNECK MOMMY says:
My heart is with you and Mike and Annie today.
My son, surely, is with your Maddie.
Our tears entwine.
xo
Tara. says:
Maddie is such a lucky little girl to have so much love around her. She hears you and sees you and still knows that you love her so very much. My heart aches for you, although I can’t imagine the depth of your pain. You are so strong and I hope that you celebrate her life today, even if it’s through the pain and the tears. She touched so many lives and she is so special.
Qin says:
Happy Birthday, dear Maddie. You are dearly missed… Sending lots of love and well wishes to your family today.
Lotus / Sarcastic Mom says:
Love you. xo
Jaime says:
Happy Birthday Maddie! Hope you are having a fabulous birthday where ever you are.
Tami says:
Happy Birthday Maddie!! I already had tears in my eyes before I read this post now they are running down my face and my heart is hurting for the loss of sweet Maddie. It is sooo unfair that she is not here. Why did God take her ??.. Why didnt he take someone that abused their body? It is so unfair!!. I know it will be a hrad day for all of you Heather , but I know you will celebrate Maddies Birthday as special as you can.
She is loved and missed by so many people .
My thoughts and prayers are with you all!!
Hugs,
Eric's Mommy says:
Happy Birthday sweet Maddie.
Suzie says:
My llife is forever changed because you shared Maddie with us! Thank you for bringing all of us IN!! Much love today and always! Happy, Happy Birthday Miss Maddie!
Mr Lady says:
There is nothing I can say that will mean more than I love you all, so much. So I’ll just say that.
Happy birthday to Maddie and to the Spohr family, which has brought so much to so many, and always will.
Lisa says:
I ache for your loss. I rejoyce in your love and memories of her. Happy birthday Maddie.
XOXO
Kristin says:
Oh Heather, my heart is breaking for you all over again. Happy Birthday Maddie. You will never be forgotten.
Melissa says:
Happy birthday Maddie!
Thinking of all of you today.
katherine says:
Happy Birthday, sweet, sweet Maddie.
And many hugs to you, sweet, sweet Mama and Dada.
My heart also aches stronger for you all, today….
Michelle says:
Dear Heather, Mike and Annie –
I thought of you instantly this morning as I woke up, although as you know – we have never met. I want you to know, you’re in my thoughts, prayers and heart today….like everyday. I hope your day is a good as it can be and that you find some comfort in knowing your Maddie is loved around the world.
Sending hugs and love to you!
Happy Birthday sweet, beautiful Maddie!
Michelle – Herculaneum, MO
Sarah says:
Happy Birthday, Maddie! Tears streaming down my face, as expected. But I know you will see your mommy and daddy again! So many people who never met you love you and your family so much!
Stephanie Morgenstern says:
I hope you do something fun today with Annie. Your Maddie is missed very much and remembered by many. I hope you are able to keep busy today and keep your mind in a positive place.
Laura says:
Sending hugs, love and prayers. Prayers for continued strength. Prayers for comfort.
As a mom, my heart crys for you. No mother should have to experience the loss of her child.
As a premie myself, I know that nothing you did or didn’t do caused this situation.
As a human, I wish that everyone could approach life with the love, the laughter, the commitment and the overall appreciation of the value of family and friends that you demonstrate in your blog. This world would be amazing.
As a sister of an older sibling that died, I know you are doing an amazing job of sharing Madeleine with Annie. Madeleine lives on in the hearts of all that knew her, all that read your amazing blog and all that benefit from Friends of Maddie.
We all wish we could bring her back to you but know that her spirit surrounds you and is always with you. Happy Birthday Madeleine!
Marnie * says:
Thinking of you all, today and everyday.
Denise says:
You are all in my heart today (and everyday). Thank you for blessing us with the Maddie’s beauty.
Elizabeth says:
Happy birthday sweet Madeline. Extra thoughts and prayers today. My heart aches for you today and always.
Amy Hillis says:
I’d like to say it gets easier, but we all know it never does. It’s been 9 years since I lost my little one and I wonder everyday what he would have been like. Lovely post. Thank you for sharing. Take care~XO~Amy
eva says:
A very very Happy 3rd Birthday Maddie!
I made sure to hop on today as I was thinking about the 4 (5 including rigby)
Mar in the mn says:
I hope your day is filled with smiles and laughter instead of tears as you remember Maddie. What beautiful girls you have!!!
Chantel says:
Happy Birthday sweet Madeline. You are forever loved and missed! Heather & Mike, sending you lots of love and support today. xoxo
Heather Havins says:
Such a special day, yet so painful to read. I’m always thinking of your family. My baby cousin was killed in a car accident about a year ago, she was 3. I like to think her and Maddie are skipping around celebrating M’s bday. Hugs to you.
Sarah says:
My heart breaks for you today. Happy Birthday sweet Madeline! I pray that you find comfort today filled with her beautiful smiles and kisses….
Hugs from Pittsburgh
Zakary says:
Thinking of you all today.
Happy Birthday sweet girl.
Paula says:
Heather: I really wish there was a way that I could give you your daughter back. I wish Maddie could be starring in those videos with Rigby and Annie. So many wishes, not enough wishing dust to sprinkle around. So I wish you peace today. Peace to celebrate your Madeline with Mike, Annie, and Rigby. Peace to know that if Maddie were here she’d want peace for you – more than any other gift.
Kyla says:
Weeping a little weep at my desk – will do something special with my 2 and 3/4 daughter today and give her an extra big hug in Maddie’s memory.
Lauren says:
Mike & Heather, My heart aches for you and your family. I want to thank you for sharing your family and each step of this intensley personnal journey with your readers. You remind me everyday to slow down and enjoy every precious moment with my family. Happy Birthday Maddie Girl!
Rachel says:
You made me cry! This is exactly the kind of thing that went through my head when my son’s third birthday dawned bright and sunny this July. I wish he and Maddie could both have seen their birthday cakes–and their younger siblings trying to knock them over :).
Mindy says:
Happy Birthday beautiful girl. So unfair that you are not here….
Christina says:
I’m ashamed to admit that I’ve never donated to Friends of Maddie. Not that I didn’t want to support it. It’s just that I have a few charities that are close to my heart and I am hesitant before I add a new one. I have hesitated long enough. I made a donation today. Sorry it took so long.
It’s because of you guys that your daughter lives on and brings light to the world. I, for one, will never forget her or you. Keep it up! And Happy Birthday to Maddie! This is a great excuse for me to have a creme puff!
Rachel says:
Love you, my darling friend.
hugs and kisses and my deepest love and prayers to you and mike and annie
Krissa says:
Thinking of you and your family today. (((hugs)))
carrielu says:
Long time reader that rarely comments delurking to let you know I’m thinking of you. Thank you for inviting the world into your life. Thank you for allowing me to love my kids a little bit more by reading about your joys and sorrows. Thank you for sharing the sunshine that both Maddie and Annabel bring. I am so sorry for your pain, and I wish there was something I could say or do to ease it, but I do send love to you. Happy Birthday to your sweet Maddie Moo.
BMom says:
I should copy what Susan wrote way above ~ she said it so well.
Thinking of you with thoughts, love, and prayers today and all days with Maddie in your heart.
Katie in WI says:
Thinking of you today, thinking of Maddie.
Melanie @ Mel, A Dramatic Mommy says:
Happy Birthday Maddie. You are missed.
Amanda says:
Happy Birthday, Miss Maddie. Hugs & Kisses.
Molly says:
Happy birthday Maddie! The special day you planned sounds like so much fun! I’m sure Maddie would love those bongos!
Kristin says:
Thinking about you all today. Happy birthday, sweet Maddie.
Kathryn says:
You all are in my thoughts and prayers. Happy Birthday sweet girl!!!
Sherry Lane says:
Happy Birthday Maddie! The whole world misses you!!
Jenny says:
YOu might have already seen this – it’s on MIghty Girl’s blog. I thought of you when I read it. I hope you’re doing OK.
The Thing Is
to love life, to love it even
when you have no stomach for it
and everything you’ve held dear
crumbles like burnt paper in your hands,
your throat filled with the silt of it.
When grief sits with you, its tropical heat
thickening the air, heavy as water
more fit for gills than lungs;
when grief weights you like your own flesh
only more of it, an obesity of grief,
you think, How can a body withstand this?
Then you hold life like a face
between your palms, a plain face,
no charming smile, no violet eyes,
and you say, yes, I will take you
I will love you, again.
(From Mules of Love, via The Writer’s Almanac.)
Cara from NC says:
“Every Mother has the breathtaking privilege of sharing with God the creation of a new life. She helps bring into existence a soul that will endure for all eternity.”
-James Keller
Maddie is a soul that truly endures. She has touched and is touching so many people’s lives. Happy Birthday Sweet Girl.
Erica says:
A very Happy 3rd Birthday to the World Famous Maddie Moo.
The world has become a better place for having you in it darling girl and you have changed the lives of so many people all over the world. We are all better people for having known you. Its such an honour to read about you in the words of your wonderful Mum and Dad. Sweet Maddie you have taught us all so much about life and we continue to learn so much from your wonderful Mum and Dad. Here in Luxembourg we think of you and remember you every, single day.
Sending lots and lots of love to you all from afar
Erica
Meg...CT says:
Happy Birthday, sweet, angel girl!
Fairly Odd Mother says:
Happy Birthday sweet beautiful Maddie.
Yolanda says:
Maddie –
Happy Birthday. Sending you hugs and kisses.
Issa says:
Huge hugs to all of you today.
Happy birthday Maddie Moo.
Christine says:
Happy Birthday sweet little Madeline.
Skye says:
Happy Birthday Maddie! I painted my fingernails purple today… I think Maddie would like them. I’m so sorry this day is tinged with sadness. Wishing you peace and comfort and hoping that you can still celebrate the happiness of the day that brought Maddie into your lives.
P.S. I just made my first donation to Friends of Maddie. You guys are amazing for giving back to families in need!
Becca says:
I’ve been reading your blog since may of ’09 .. and even though i read it everyday i’ve never taken the time to write a comment only because I have never been able to find the “right” words, you were an amazing mother to Madeline she seemed like the happiest little girl and it kills me to see how unfair life can be, she was BEAUTIFUL, I know nothing can make you feel better but i just hope that you know that wherever she is I’m sure she’s very proud of you, her baby sister & daddy. I wish you all the best, & Happy 3rd Birthday to Maddie Moo!
Lisa_in_WI says:
Hugs to you, Mike and Annie. Happy birthday, sweet Madeline.
Michelle W says:
I’m bawling for both of you…and more than that I just don’t know what to say today
Mishi says:
Happy Birthday, Sweet Maddie!
XOXO
Rachel says:
I thought of you & Maddie this morning.
Happy birthday Maddie!
Lise says:
Thinking of you and Mike today.
Kelly says:
Happy Birthday sweet Angel Maddie. Please stay by your familys side as they honor you today on your third birthday!!!!
caroline says:
happy third birthday, maddie! so many miss you today and everyday.
Nicole says:
Happy birthday Maddie Moo! Thank you Heather for sharing with all of us. My heart hurts fro you all today. Praying and sending BIG hugs. XOXO
Laurin says:
This was beautiful, just like Maddie. Thinking of you and your entire family today and wishing this day could be different.
Amanda says:
Happy Birthday Sweet Girl! You have forever changed the life of so many.
Bridget says:
Happy Birthday Maddie. Thinking of you today.
Missy says:
Happy Birthday sweet girl.
Hugs to you, Heather, and Mike, Annie & Rigby.
Praying for all of you today.
Melissa says:
Ohh. Sending love to all of you today.
Happy 3rd Birthday Maddie. You will always be remembered.
Caroline says:
Happy Birthday Maddie girl.
Posted about it here: http://sparkledays.tumblr.com/post/1546516438/for-maddie
habanerogal says:
Happy Birthday Maddie . Love and hugs to Mommy Daddy Annabel and of course Rigby
Vic says:
Heather and Mike…
I’m so sorry….I cannot say much more…. I’m sorry…..
Maddie Moo…. Happy birthday angel. You are in our thought sweetheart and you are loved beyond all measure.
once a mother says:
happy birthday Maddie. You are remembered in the hearts of so many.
Heather I am so sorry. My heart aches reading this because I know how difficult my daughter’s birthday was for me this year, and last, and always will be. Sending lots of support your way today and everyday.
Sherri says:
Thinking of the whole family today. Your post gave me chills and tears. Happy Birthday Maddie.
Thais says:
Happy Birthday Maddie. You are such an inspiration for people all around the world…you are really missed baby girl. Sending lots of hugs for your entire family.
Laura says:
Happy Birthday, Maddie! You will always be remembered!
Jenni Williams says:
Happy Birthday Maddie. I think of you almost everyday. You remind me to treasure the chaos and enjoy every moment with my children. Your life has effected so many people all over the world. You are loved and so deeply missed.
Mike and Heather, my thoughts, prayers, and heart is with you.
Lori says:
Happy Birthday Beautiful Maddie! You will always be loved and remembered. How could anyone forget your beautiful face.
Heather, Mike, Annie and of course Rigby: Thinking of you!
rachel says:
What beautiful birthday tributes for a beautiful girl. I think it’s amazing how you are getting through day by day and finding ways to honor her. But it still totally stinks that it’s just not her 3rd birthday party. Sending you prayers of strength, today, and every time I see Annie’s cute cheeks in your pictures!
Emma says:
I’m so sorry that Maddie isn’t here for you to celebrate with! I read every day but can never find the words to comment. Sending you all hugs xxx
Poppy says:
Happy birthday, Maddie.
Hugs to your mom and dad.
Megan says:
From the moment I found your blog and saw Maddie’s face, I knew she was one of those rare people who have a light inside of them. It was clear she was radiant, vibrant, charismatic–the kind of person other people are drawn to without even knowing why. There’s just something about them. I’ve only known a few in my life. I wish I could’ve known Maddie.
Thank you for sharing her with us. She has changed my life.
Timolyn says:
Happy Birthday Maddie. Heather, Mike and Annie today is a special day and it is your very own Holiday. I am thinking of all of you.
Karen says:
Reading your beautiful letters to your daughter makes me hurt for her and for you. It was such a gift and a great joy to get to know Maddie through your heart and through your eyes from the start of her fight in your tummy all the way through the horrid and shocking news when I read she was gone.
I wish so much she was still here full force to live her days with joy and to be with you and in your arms.
Hugs, hugs, hugs and love to you and a Happy, Happy Birthday to Mommy and Daddy’s Maddie-Moo.
Diane says:
Happy Birthday sweet Maddie. I am so sorry this is the letter you have to write to her today. Sending you great big hugs.
Diane
Alabama
Carrie says:
Your family has been in my mind and prayers all day today. Happy birthday, Maddie. Even though I never met you, I think of you often. Hugs to your family.
Dina says:
I read your blog daily, but rarely comment. Your beautiful, loving letter and Mike’s letter to Maddie have stayed in my mind throughout the day.
I was especially touched by the line “when you were with us…”
It is so sad and so wrong that she is not with you today and everyday. But especially today, on the day that is hers.
Happy, happy birthday to your beautiful, luminous, sparkling Maddie.
May you, Mike, Annie, and your family enjoy cream puffs and happy memories today.
Dina
Emily says:
…And at the park you would’ve played in, Maddie would’ve wrapped her arms around you and Mike and told you she loved you , and that you are the best Mommy and Daddy in the world..
Jess says:
Happy birthday pretty girl.
And Heather? As the sister in Annie’s position, I can tell you that Annie will grow up loving and talking to Maddie every day. I never got to meet my brother Jerry. He also died before I was born. He would’ve been 32 now. His birthday is March 12 and mine is March 23. I always wonder if we would’ve shared a birthday, shared a cake. And I can tell you I wish I had more than 1 baby picture to look at. I wish I had the videos, the pictures, the memories, that Annie has to grow up with. Jerry died 2 days after he was born.
But I thought of you all day today. I tell my coworkers about Maddie and Annie and you guys and the work you have done for the NICU and how also you are. And how much I respect you and how you are my hero. Sending you love and hugs today.
Courtney in Boston says:
There is nothing anybody can say today, or any day, to ease the pain of missing your sweet Maddie. But just know that so many of us are thinking of you and your precious girl, celebrating her short but spectacular life every single day. So many hugs and smiles to you today, Heather, because Maddie was truly a gem.
Lynnette says:
Happy Birthday Maddie! Heather, I love the picture of you and Maddie at the end. You can see just how much she loves you. She still does, you know. You, Mike, Maddie, and Annie are especially in my thoughts today.
Iowamom says:
Happy Birthday to your sweet Maddie! Many blessing to you and your family.
Stephanie says:
Happy Birthday, Maddie! Sending love and hugs to your family.
Kristin says:
Came by today (like many days) to check in on you. Even though you don’t know me, I love your honesty and your blog and wish you all the comfort in the world. Happy birthday to your most beautiful Maddie. Even us “strangers” miss her too.
Nancy says:
Just another person whose life was touched by your sweet Maddie…she will be remembered by so many of us out here. We hold you all in our hearts today, and every day.
Much love…
Candy says:
I’ve thought about the 4 of you all week, but more so today.
Shalini says:
I have no words, only tears. I am so saddened that your angel was taken away, and I can only imagine how heartbreaking it must be to think of who she would have been had she still been on earth.
Her time was short, but the impact of her presence immense. She will never be forgotten.
kellye says:
happy birthday, maddie. you are in a lot of people’s thoughts today, and every day.
take care, heather and mike.
Amanda says:
For Maddie and family, wishing you music and peace.
Capital Mom says:
Happy Birthday to Maddie.
Kayla says:
Happy third birthday, kid. I hope you’re having a great one, wherever you are.
Funsize says:
Wishing you a happy birthday Maddie. We miss you.
Joanna says:
Happy birthday, Maddie. Wish you were celebrating in your parents’ arms.
sarah says:
Heather, you don’t know me – but I read your blog everyday! I’m so sorry for how hard today is… I can’t even begin to imagine. My mom always told me that I would never know love until I gave birth, and I’m still a selfish twenty-something, so I guess I don’t know love yet.
I wish there was something I could do to heal you and Mike. You guys are clearly awesome parents and I give you much credit for continuing to live life after losing precious Maddie. You are a survivor and Maddie would be SO proud.
Happy Birthday Maddie!
Karen says:
Lots of love to you today. Happy Birthday Maddie.
Erin W says:
Happy 3rd Birthday, Madeline…wherever you are beautiful girl! xoxo
Katie says:
Happy Birthday Maddie!! What a beautiful day. I can picture the whole thing.
Sarah M. says:
Happy 3rd Birthday, Maddie. Sending lots of love, hugs & kisses to you & your mommy & daddy.
DawnV says:
What an achingly beautiful letter to your precious girl… sending lots of love to your and your family.
Amie says:
I don’t know your beliefs bout this kind of thing, but thought I would pass on my experience to you for whatever ‘comfort’ you might get from it. I took my parents to see a medium this year as a gift. It’s something that we are very interested in, having friends & family who have gone before us. The medium was wonderful – kind & gentle – and connected with our loved ones. Even more than the individual messages we received were the repeated comments of how our loved ones aren’t missing anything. They are there with us every single day. They walk beside you, they experience the things you experience & even more — they are there!
When I heard these comments come up repeatedly it really began to bring me comfort. I know it doesn’t ease the pain of Maddie not being her with you physically, but just know she really is WITH you always. There is still a connection — there will always be a connection. Talk to her and she will answer.She knows your love & she’s still a big sister to Annie.
Angelene Bryan says:
Hi Maddie and Annie’s Mommy and Daddy. You don’t know me but I just wanted you to know….
I’ve had your blog open in my browser for 3 days
I’ve been trying to learn more about Maddie and your family
I can’t even read a sentence without sobbing
My heart aches for you
I don’t know exactly what you’re feeling but I what I’m feeling from reading your posts (since Wed) makes me know that your pain is deep and hard and so unfair
I know life isn’t fair
I know bad things happen to good people
I know that GOD has plans that we cannot even fathom
I know that GOD is Good
But I don’t know why a precious little family and a beautiful little girl must suffer any of the things you have and are…
I feel sorry for myself for ever having taken advantage of a single moment with my daughter
My heart is broken
I am so sorry that Maddie is no longer with you but I am certain that she is never far and that she is ALWAYS alive in your hearts
Her beautiful little smile is now forever a part of mine
Thank you for having the courage to share your pain and your love with all of us
Lifting you all up and praying GOD’s arms comfort you now and always
HAPPY BIRTHDAY MADDIE
A
melissa says:
Happy Belated Birthday Maddie, With much love to your Mom Dad and sister.
punkinmama says:
Oh how I wish life *were* fair. Hugs & love to you all!
Mommy Boots says:
Happy birthday, a day late, to your beautiful, beautiful Madeline.
lisa says:
I can’t imagine how hard it was to write this. Even though I’m a day late, I wish Maddie a very happy (belated) birthday. Sending lots of love and hugs your way. And to your mom, dad and sis too.
Jessica Makuh says:
I cried for you today. A complete stranger and I cried at the desk in my living room…just for you. Happy Birthday, Maddie.
Amy says:
Happy Birthday Maddie- Moo.
You are missed deeply and loved forever.
Stephanie says:
I’ve said this so many times, but I really can’t imagine what you are going through and I thank you for sharing your feelings with us.
Happy birthday Maddie.
Kathryn in Berlin says:
Hi,
I’m an American living in Berlin, Germany and Nov. 11th is a special day over here too. It’s a day for love, sharing, singing, remembering and beauty and it’s a special day for kids. We celebrate St. Martin’s Day over here (just google to get the scoop on him). But basically he was a man who helped a beggar in the Wintertime by cutting his cloak in two and giving half to him so he wouldn’t freeze to death. Here, all the kids make lanterns lit up by a candle in them. We learn all sorts of songs associated with this holiday. We share bread together and everyone goes on a parade at night so all the pretty lanterns can be seen while everyone sings. At the end of the parade, sometimes there is a knight (ST. Martin) who rides on a horse and there’s a bonfire. It’s a beautiful holiday. It’s a special holiday for children and I know Maddie would have loved something like this. Maybe, you could bring this tradition to your area and pre-schools and start it there as well. It’s always on November 11th too ! This year I taught the kids in my pre-school class to sing Twinkle Twinkle Little Star, This Little Light of Mine and to recite the poem Starlight, Starbright…..just seems all so perfect and fitting for Maddie as well.
Thinking of you!
Kathryn
suzanne says:
Madeline, happy belated birthday sweetie-pie. I’m sorry I did not write this on your actual birthday, but I was thinking about you. You are so loved, and so missed.
MidLyfeMama says:
My son, Cooper, turned 4 on the 11th. I cannot for the life of me imagine my world without him. I didn’t come to know your blog until Maddie passed, and all these other blogs I read regularly were plastered in purple in support of you. Your story, your courage in sharing your experiences, is amazing. Thank you for continuing to do so.
Ray says:
“It’s so unfair that you’re not here. You are missing so much. We are an incomplete family without you, but we love you completely. We need you. We miss you.”
;o(
Happy 3rd (Belated) Birthday, Maddie Moo! The WORLD loves you too! And wishes you were here.