A lot of you have asked me for updates on my friend Jackie! because I haven’t written about her since her surgery in January. I have a hard time writing about her. First, because I get really emotional; second (and most importantly), it’s not my place to tell certain parts of her story.
I went up to visit her in San Francisco the weekend before April 7th. I needed to see her. We spent the weekend together, had a few good meals and a walk on the beach, and did a lot of lounging and talking and just being together. It almost sounds like we had a romantic weekend! And we did share a bed, hee. But it was perfect, watching movies, enjoying each other’s company and easy silences.
After Jackie!’s surgery in January, the doctors discovered her brain tumor had progressed to Stage IV (I’m really simplifying all of this). She entered a drug trial in San Francisco and we all hoped it would do its job and prolong her life.
A couple days after I returned to LA, we found out that Jackie!’s tumor was back. And, it is bigger than it was before her last craniotomy. She decided to enroll in a different drug trial that will require another brain surgery that is currently scheduled at 12:45 PDT today. I say scheduled, because as she was waiting for her pre-surgery MRI, she had a seizure. No one knows how this will impact her surgery schedule, but we’re all hoping it will still go off as planned.
In typical Jackie! fashion, she jokingly updated her facebook status that she had her seizure to “keep things interesting.” I’m not going to talk about her strength or positivity because she’ll read this in a few days and punch me in the face for writing it. I know she says she’s putting on a brave face. But you have to have some inner strength for that, and Jackie! has it.
I am really a nervous wreck about her surgery, even though I have this warped feeling like I shouldn’t be so amped up about it. But I am, I am consumed with thoughts of her and have been for a week now. I just cannot bear thinking of her recovering from another painful surgery, starting another drug trial, dealing with side effects. I just want her to catch a break. I want her parents and siblings and her approximately 18 million nieces and nephews to all breathe a little easier.
Every time I ask you all to keep Jackie! in your thoughts, hopes, and prayers, you all come through for me in a big way. And I’m going to ask again. For Jackie!, the one that has supported me since the day my OB told me all those years ago that my pregnancy with Maddie wouldn’t last. Please lift her in your hearts and minds, pray if that’s what you do, send positive energy, everything you can, to Jackie! and her family today.
Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.
Alison says:
Jackie! has many thoughts and prayers coming from me. And many for you as well, as you are such a great friend to her. Please keep us updated, if she is okay with it.
Again, lots of thoughts and prayers for Jackie! and her team of doctors.
Ms. A says:
Thoughts and prayers for Jackie!
Debra @ A Frugal Friend says:
Prayers and thoughts sent her way……..
Kate @ UpsideBackwards says:
I’m sending lots of love, hugs & best wishes to Jackie! and all her friends and family. Holding you all in my heart.
Alison says:
Sending love and all the positive vibes in the world to Jackie!. What a beautiful friendship you two have.
foni says:
i hope that evrything goes OK with her surgery. all our hopes are with her. nice recovery
Tam says:
Sending Love, Healing and Kicking Brain Tumor’s ass vibes to Jackie. I can’t imagine what she is going through right now, or what you are going through as you see a loved one fighting such a hard battle – again.
Prayers to all of you.
Jenn says:
You’re right Heather….LIFE IS NOT FAIR!!! It wasn’t fair to Maddie or your family and it’s not fair to Jackie or her family. I’m so sorry for that.
OF COURSE you’ve been upset and consumed by this Sweetheart!! Jackie is one of your closest friends! You two have been through so much together and have been there for one another through good times and bad. I wouldn’t except you to be taking this well.
Too be honest, I’ve been getting Jackie’s updates for over a year now. I have been thinking about her a lot lately as well and have been praying for her every day since she told everyone about the 2nd tumour. I wish, hope, pray she will not only weather this latest surgery with ease but this new treatment as well. She is such a good person – she doesn’t deserve any of this….no one does.
Today, I will continue to pray for Jackie and her health and although I am not a religious person, I will also pray for peace and wellness for you too my friend. Afterall… on days like these, we can use ALL the help we can get!! Sending you my support, friendship….love. I’m here if you need another friend – ANYTIME!!!!
Take Care Heather.
Love,
Jenn
Jenn says:
I just reread my post & I thought I should clarify…when I wrote about a “Second tumour”, I actually meant, “I’ve been praying since she wrote to say things had progressed”. Sorry…just realized I wrote that totally that wrong (sorry middle of the night here & I’m tired).
Jackie S. says:
Sending much prayer and many healing vibes Jackie’s way.
InDueTime says:
Praying for Jackie!
Lisa says:
Sending a much love and a ton of positive energy Jackie!’s way. I’ll be thinking of her and her family and you today, hoping that everything goes off with out a hitch. From what you have shared about Jackie! there are a few things I know about her, she is an incredible, supportive friend, has incredible strength, and doesn’t let anything kick her while she is down.
Holding you all in my heart and praying for the wonderful Jackie!
Lynn from For Love or Funny says:
We are definitely praying for Jackie! today…
mamanean says:
Thoughts and prayers are with you and your friend, from a stranger in Australia who finds laughter and inspiration in your blog
Vic says:
Heather, you and everyone in your life are always in my thoughts and prayers. Jackie! is in my thoughts. Sending u love, and hope and my warmest wishes.
Heather says:
Thinking of her, you and all of her friends and family.
sherri says:
Praying for Jackie! Thinking of you all. Hugs, Heather.
Neeroc says:
Oh I hope they are able to proceed today so that she can get on with kicking that tumour’s butt.
Katie says:
Definitely praying for and thinking about Jackie! today. And her wonderful friend Heather.
cj says:
definitely praying here.
Mijke says:
I will…
Angela says:
PRAYING FOR JACKIE!!!!!!!!!!!!
Claire says:
Sending Jackie lots of positive and healthy vibes! Sending you a hug too!
carrie says:
Sending love to Jackie, her family and you today!
Elizabeth says:
Praying for Jackie! And keeping you and the rest of her loved ones in my prayers too
Lisa says:
Father God I ask that you wrap your mighty arms around Jackie as she walks this path again. Lord you know what her needs are we ask that you bless and annoint everyone that is involved with Jackie that she may get the best care ever. We ask for a peace that surpasses our understanding. You are a mighty God an amazing God you can do everything and we ask that YOUR will be done.
AmazingGreis says:
Thinking of Jackie! today!! Thinking of you too! XOXO
Chris says:
Praying for Jackie! and all of her friends and family. She will draw from your strength and courage today, Heather!
Nellie says:
Sending lots of love, prayers and hopes for a beautiful miracle for your amazing friend!
Janette says:
I’ll be sending Jackie! lots of love and positive thoughts today. We would all be so lucky to have a friendship like the one you two share.
vickie says:
Sending love & good vibes!
Penbleth says:
Sending love and prayers for Jackie! and the trial. I really do hope all goes well for her.
Margie says:
Knee-mail coming right up!!
Lisa W. says:
Sending tons of prayers and love..
5lbs10oz says:
Jackie! Firmly in my thoughts (with you too).
Daisy says:
Sending Jackie! much love and prayers.
Rachel says:
Sending lots of thoughts and prayers to Jackie and her family. She sounds like one strong woman!!!
Jess says:
You and Jackie! Have my thoughts and prayers. We all need a Jackie! in our lives.
Stephanie says:
Sending prayers and love to Jackie!.
Kate says:
Sending positive thoughts and vibes to the beautiful Jackie! today and forever. And to you Spohrs also.
Amanda says:
Many good thoughts for Jackie! and her family today. Heather, some good thoughts for you too…
maggie says:
LIFE IS NOT FAIR! that is how i feel when i read about all the heartbreak for you and your friend. i am also reading Two Kisses for Maddy by Matt Logelin. I found your blog from following his, what you have all been through is not fair. Your family needs to catch a break! thinking and praying for your family and Jackie
Rachel says:
lots and lots and lots of good vibes for Jackie! today
Jessica says:
Keeping Jackie in my thoughts & prayers!!!
Jenni says:
Thank you for updating on Jackie! I’ve often wondered how she is doing, but knew you would update at the appropriate time since it is her story. I’m praying for her as I wipe tears from my eyes. You write so beautifully about your friendship, it takes my breath away.
Jenni
Susan Beurskens says:
Thinking and praying for Jackie as well as for you!
susanmig says:
you’ve got it! loads of positive vibes coming jackie’s way (and yours!) from colorado.
xo,
susan
maile says:
Thank you for this post. You’ve given me some much-needed perspective this morning. I’m praying. xo
Lamb says:
I’m summoning up all my happy thoughts and well wishes and sending them out into the world, straight to Jackie!! That photo above just blows my mind. She looks so young, like there’s no way she could have a problem like this. I hope, hope, hope everything is better soon.
Annie says:
Our thoughts and hopes are with Jackie! today!
Tami says:
Thanks for the update. I too have been wondering how she is doing. She is a beautiful person and yes life is so unfair!!. My thoughts and prayers are with her and her family!!
Elizabeth says:
Jackie will be in my thoughts and prayers all day, and the days to follow. I hope she has a successful surgery and a speedy recovery! By the way LOVE that picture of you two.
Samantha says:
Oh no! sending positive thought!! (but have her check into the Gerson Institute, they have cured cancer in HUNDREDS of people, they have a center just across the border in mexico, and they do it all with all natural foods, and juice.)
Lisa_in_WI says:
You got it. She will be in my thoughts, and I pray that her surgery goes well.
Tricia says:
Sending so much love and all my positive thoughts for Jackie! xoxoxo
Kate says:
Praying!
Eric's Mommy says:
Sending positive vibes and love for Jackie!
Jamie says:
Sending all sorts of positive energy for Jackie!
Sonja says:
I am a long time lurker. Your family is constantly in my prayers. I will be praying for Jackie! today and I have put her on my prayer chain.
monica says:
praying for you and your dear friend Jackie. BTW, she is stunningly beautiful!
Minnyc says:
Beautiful picture. Love that green dress. Sending lots of good thoughts to Jackie! & her family.
cindy w says:
So sorry to hear this. Definitely keeping Jackie! and all of you guys in my prayers.
Dawn says:
Sending as many positive thoughts as I can
Staci says:
Will do, Heather.
I have a second cousin with CF in major surgery this very second so I can second the heavy-heartedness today.
Hugs.
Jen L. says:
Sending many, many healing thoughts and prayers to Jackie! Anyone whose name ends with an exclamation point is pretty amazing in my book. Do keep us posted. xoxo
Gale says:
Sending Jackie! many prayers. What a lovely picture of you two.
Ashley says:
We will keep Jackie in our thoughts and prayers! I think I mentioned it the first time you posted about her long journey, we have a very dear friend who has battled a brain tumour for years. The doctors gave her a matter of months over and over. Through a whole bunch of different trial drugs and life changes (I can’t really list them because I don’t really know them all) she was able to beat it. It went from the size of a grapefruit down to the size of the tiniest lego block! 10 years later her doctors are still baffled at how it happened.
Even when you all are scared (and you so are allowed to be) we will hold hope for you because we know, just like Angels in the Outfield – “Hey! It can happen!”
She’s so blessed Heather that you’re her friend and you love her so very much
Sabrina says:
Jackie! is in my thoughts!!
Tammy says:
Prayers and positive thoughts sent!
mp says:
I can tell from that picture that she is the type of person to light up a room. Best wishes to Jackie, her family and yours.
Laurie SL says:
Sending love and prayers to Jackie, her family and you today. She will make it through!
amanda says:
Thinking the best for Jackie! She is a lucky lady to have a friend like you!
Jen says:
I’m sending tons of positive thoughts to Jackie today! She sounds like an amazing woman and a beautiful friend.
Magda says:
All my love , good thoughts and prayers to Jackie!
Nanette says:
Sending lots of healing thoughts Jackie!’s way!
Christine says:
Life is unfair. Hoping that you and Jackie! catch a big break. Sending prayers, positive thoughts and hugs!
Jennifer says:
My thoughts and prayers are going to you and Jackie! at this very moment and all other moments forever to come.
pdxhadey says:
Thoughts, prayers and love vibes to Jackie! today.
Janeen says:
What a beautiful photo! She will remain in my thoughts and prayers!
Jen says:
Prayers for Jackie!
PinkieBling says:
Brave, beautiful Jackie! is in my heart today, as are you.
Trisha Vargas says:
You got it!!
(((HUGS))) from Florida
Anna says:
Jackie! is beautiful, inside and out. Sending prayers her (and your) way!
Rylee says:
All kinds of love and prayers for Jackie! today. Hang in there.
karen says:
Prayers for Jackie and for you.
daisybv2 says:
Sending prayers and thoughts your way! Keep us updated
Jenn says:
Jackie! is absolutely in my prayers!! Big hugs to Jackie! and all today!
Givette says:
Just said a prayer for her!!!! Sending tons of positive thoughts her way Please keep us posted on her progress
Skye says:
Sending lots of positive thoughts to Jackie! and to her support network, including you. You guys are lucky to have each other.
Kelsey says:
Will definitely be saying extra prayers for ALL of you today!
Michelle says:
Praying for your sweet friend !!
Laney says:
Sending lots of love to the beautiful Jackie!
Beverly says:
Sending tons of positive energy and prayers to all of you especially Jackie.
Brandi says:
saying a prayer for this beautiful woman….please keep us updated
Susan A says:
In Japanese culture, cranes are a powerful symbol of health and well-wishes. I will make Jackie! origami cranes, lots of cranes!!
My thoughts and prayers are with Jackie! and all her family and loved ones.
Andee says:
Sending love, positive energy, & good healthy thoughts
Rebecca says:
You two look so beautiful in the photo…lost of prayers for the return of her health and a speedy recovery.
leel says:
my thoughts today are going to you for peace and to jackie! for strength and healing. xo. deep breaths.
Rachel says:
Go Jackie! Kick Turk’s ass!
Lots of prayers for Jackie!
XOXO
Glenda says:
I’ve been following Jackie at CaringBridge since you first told us about her.
I pray for Jackie every night but especially today… praying for a speedy surgery… speedy recovery and that this trial works for her and no more re-growth.
Positive thoughts go out to you too Heather. Stay strong! and postive thoughts for Jackie’s family too. Breathe! and Believe that she will heal!
XX
Heather K. says:
Prayers for your wonderful friend & her family.
Prayers for you too, while you nervously wait.
Tracy says:
Sending good vibes to Jackie! and peaceful, calming thoughts to you!
Life is unfair…true – perfect title for this post.
Thank you for the update….I’ve been waiting and wondering….and was so hopeful that no news was good news.
Amy says:
I just said a prayer for your friend Jackie.
Sandra says:
Sending lots of good healthy vibes to Jackie!
Kim says:
Sending up prayers and tons of positive enery for all of you guys!!
Kelly says:
I hope she kicks that brain tumor’s ass. I have a vendetta against them, and I need someone to score.
Thoughts, well wishes and prayers to her.
suzanne says:
I can only hope my positive thoughts and good wishes give Jackie! 1/100 of the lift that her amazing example of strength & character gives me. Thanks for writing about your wonderful friend.
Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] says:
Sending positive, healthy thoughts to you and Jackie! today.
Iowamom says:
Prayers for Jackie! today and the recovering days to come. That’s a beautiful picture of you two~it’s obvious that you have such a special bond!
punkinmama says:
Thinking of and praying for Jackie!
Pattie says:
Sending positive thoughts and praying for Jackie! and her family and friends.
Catherine says:
Sending lots of prayers, good wishes and positive thoughts. We’re all pulling for you Jackie!
Amanda M. says:
Someone find this woman a Dr. McDreamy to swoop in and make everything okay! Real life really sucks sometimes.
Fingers crossed that she catches a break! And toes! You have thousands of people pulling for you, Jackie!
Nancy Smego says:
I’m with you all the way. I’m one of Jackie’s biggest fans and I couldn’t cheer louder for her.
Nikki says:
Wrapping you and Jackie! in good thoughts, prayers, crossed fingers, good vibes and comfort.
XOXO from GA,
Nikki
Catherine says:
Lots of prayers being sent Jackie’s! way.. thanks for the update Heather. :>
Amanda says:
Thinking of Jackie! and thinking of you
Krystle says:
I’m sending lots of love, prayers, thoughts, and positive energy to Jackie!, her family, and friends.
Kathy Kumpe says:
Praying for Jackie! in Arkansas.
Jen R. says:
Absolutely sending all the love, positive thoughts, and hope I can hold in my heart for Jackie! and everyone who loves her.
Colleen says:
So much love for Jackie!.
alimartell says:
I’m thinking of you both today. HARD.
xoxoxo
Jeanie says:
Praying for Jackie! And I’m sure Jackie! is very proud to call you her friend.
brigid says:
Parayers of healing for Jackie! and prayers for some much deserved for peace of mind and heart for all of you. A longtime lurker in the OC!
amourningmom says:
Sending prayers, good thoughts and peace to Jackie! (and you). Take care.
Tricia says:
Jackie is certainly an example of courage and grace. My thoughts and prayers are with her and with you today.
Tina says:
Saying a prayer for Jackie! Hoping for a successful surgery and healing. She sounds amazing.
Ray says:
Of course this made me emotional to read.
Jackie!, in my PRAYERS you WILL be!
I’m so sorry to hear this Heather. Hoping for the best. As we all are.
Mommy says:
Life really is unfair! Prayers for your great friend!!
Jill says:
What a lovely friendship you and Jackie! have. I am praying for you both.
Katherine says:
Heather, sending your friend Jackie! lots of prayers and good luck with her surgery today. Hope to see good news about her posted here soon.
Katherine says:
Heather, sending your friend Jackie! lots of prayers and good luck with her surgery today. I love your blog and you sound like a wonderful mommy and friend. Annie is a lucky girl!
Katherine says:
haha can you tell that I was struggling with what to write? oh well both comments are true!
amy says:
Best wishes, healing vibes, and GO JACKIE! coming from Vancouver BC.
Keep kicking butt girl! (And could she BE any more gorgeous?!)
Sarah M. says:
Sending lots of prayers Jackie’s way. I know she can kick that cancer’s butt!
Tamela says:
Jackie! has been in my thoughts all day. I will keep her in my prayers.
Rebecca says:
Praying for Jackie.
Inna says:
Thinking of Jakie! and sending positive vibes her way!! Also thinking of you.
hugs
Amanda says:
Praying for Jackie.
Dana says:
I will include Jackie! in my prayers starting tonight. Also sending some positive energy her way!
JAS says:
Heather,
I am not much of a commenter, but I read through his with a sinking feeling in my stomach, and wanted you to know I was thinking of your friend. I am sorry for all that Jackie is growing through. I know from personal experience the brain tumor story is a rough road (my 3-yr MRI for mine is April 21st). I really hope Jackie does well with her surgery and the drug trial is a success. I hope the two of you have many more moments to laugh and spent time together.
All my best and prayers,
J