I am speaking tomorrow at the service for my daughter. The FUNERAL service for MY DAUGHTER. I type the words, and I understand them, but I feel as if I am talking about someone else. I see the emails, the comments, the tweets, the cards, the letters, the donations to the March of Dimes, the articles, the TV stories, and I can’t comprehend that it’s my daughter that’s being talked about. I can’t comprehend.
The people that already know I’m speaking don’t understand how I can. I’ve had several family members and friends offer to go up with me in case I falter and can’t go on. I’ve said thanks, but no thanks.
I can do it. I will channel all the bravery my Maddie had, all the strength and courage she showed in her too-short life, and I will pay my daughter tribute. As her mommy, I owe her this.
If I tell myself enough that I can do it, then maybe I can.
Monica says:
yes, you can do this. because there are thousands of people all across the country (perhaps even the world) who love your sweet family and are praying like mad that you’ll be able to meet every challenge you face in the days ahead. oh how i wish i could help shoulder your burden. oh how every one of us who has been moved by those huge blue eyes wishes we could take a tiny piece of the pain…
god will give you strength tomorrow. and the next day. and the next.
Monica’s last blog post..Mouthwatering Monday Recipe: Italian Sausage Stew
mandy says:
you have been brave every single step of the way on this journey. i don’t doubt for one moment that you will do beautifully tomorrow. wish i could be there to support you, mike and your families, but know that i will be thinking of you all and especially maddie.
Susan says:
I know this will be the most difficult thing you will ever do. Losing a child is the worst pain in the world. We lost our daughter when she was 2 1/2 years old. I wouldn’t have had the courage to do what you are doing, but my thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family, tomorrow and in the upcoming days.
Sincerely,
Susan Rosenbaum
Rachel says:
I don’t know you, but I believe in you.
Nicole says:
You’re an amazing Mom for doing this and I admire your strength and courage. May you find peace in the days ahead and know that your precious Maddie will never be forgotten. xoxo
Jessica says:
I don’t know you..but I heard about you through matt logelin’s blog..
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your daughter. You will be in my prayers.
Melanie says:
You can do it.. my thoughts and prayers are with you.
sam {temptingmama} says:
You can and you will. You’re one of the strongest most wonderful women I know. If anyone can do this, it’s you. Maddie is proud of you. I know she is. It’s all so surreal that this is happening but with your friends and family there – always there – we will help carry you and Mike through this.
I will pray that you have the strength for tomorrow (even though I know it’s there). I wish more than anything I was there at your side. You know that. Even though I am on the other side of the country (and a far bit north) I am always with you.
Big strong hugs for you and your family. (Maybe Meghan can do the squeezing for me?)
Love you tons my friend.
sam {temptingmama}’s last blog post..Gutted
Tina Hosko says:
I believe in you Heather. Your strength is astounding. Katey and I will be there to love and support you. Life is just so.not.fair.
Angela Reifsnyder says:
You are truly an inspiration to me. Only a mother truly knows her child in such an intimate way and what blessing that you have the courage and strength to honor your daughter in such a way that only you can. God bless Maddie and God Bless you and your husband Mike.
Nancy says:
My heart aches for you. Tears stream for the memories that “should have been”. The dreams that have died. The memories live FOREVER. You as her mommy will continue to fight for babies that need you. Is it what you hoped for?, had planned?, F NO! BUT, woman, you can do it……………and I believe it is your calling. Stay Strong. There are soooo many people thinking and praying for you. Maddie will continue to live on…………in YOU. ((((((HUGS))))))) sleep tight. You will be great tomorrow……because that is what Maddie embodied……………strength and GREATNESS! You will change the world darlin’.
Amy says:
I am so sorry for your tremendous loss. I found your website yesterday from a link on Matt’s site and have been captivated by your beautiful daughter and her story. I have read most of your entries today and it is evident that Maddie’s strength, courage and determination are traits she inherited from you and your husband.
I am a fellow preemie mom (to a 28 weeker) and will walk to honor Maddie in our local March of Dimes walk. You and your family will remain in our thoughts and prayers tomorrow and ongoing.
Lynde says:
You can because you are an incredible mother with a love so deep and profound that Maddie will hear every word.
Angela McCoy says:
Heather, you can do this! Your tribute to her will be beautiful. Your words will ring all the way up to Heaven, falling softly on sweet little Maddie’s new wings.
My heart breaks for you and Mike, and I cry each time I read a new story, watch another video . . . I’m in tears, now.
Talk to Maddie directly tomorrow and show her the strong, courageous woman she has inspired.
Please know that we are all with you, now and forever.
{Hugs}
Angela
Angela McCoy’s last blog post..On the Wings of an Angel
Shash says:
You can and you will, and I wish I was there to be there in person for you. Your strength is an inspiration to us all, and Maddie will live on in you, and me and all of us who loved her so.
I love you and Mike and Rigby so much right now. I’ll be there in spirit tomorrow. I believe in you, Heather.
You can do it.
Shash’s last blog post..I Can Haz Weekends Nao? Yes?
Amanda says:
I’m so sorry. I know you will get through it, but I’m so sorry.
Amanda’s last blog post..I don’t even know what to say…
tifRN says:
Oh, heather I am so very sorry. I know as a mama you can do this, because your strength all along taught maddie hers. But I will send you some of mine tomorrow, just in case.
LiteralDan says:
I have no doubt that you can, even if it may be very hard to get through in one pass. Focus on the joy that was her life, rather than the sadness of its end. And I hope the worldwide sympathy spread across the Internet makes its presence felt tomorrow, for whatever help it’s worth. I’m so sorry that you two have to go through this. I wish you luck tomorrow.
LiteralDan’s last blog post..Mano a womano, eggo a eggo
Maternal Mirth says:
My days have been constant prayers for you and your family. I will be there, both tomorrow and on 4/25, to help with the legacy that Maddie’s life brought this world.
I have been forever changed by her sweet face and your courage.
HUGS!
Maternal Mirth’s last blog post..Heaven Has One More Angel
Kirsten says:
I wish I could be there to honor your daughter and to hear your loving words for her tomorrow. I am sending many prayers to you & Mike…my heart will be with you guys. I watched the tribute that Maya made and, my goodness, you made your little girl so incredibly happy. The light in her eyes and just the joy that radiated from her was undeniable. She definitely is gone much too soon but you gave her an amazing life and no doubt she knew she was deeply loved.
Kirsten’s last blog post..Unthinkable
Jan says:
Yes, you can- Peace.
Jan’s last blog post..A Birthday
Sadie says:
You will be amazing, and beautiful, just like your daughter, who is by-the-way one of the most beautiful humans I have ever seen– that face– the shape and color of her eyes, the brows– just the pure joy and personality every picture radiates. It hurts terribly to think she’s no longer physically on this earth, but it’s marvelous that the earth ever got to have her at all.
jessica says:
i don’t know you but read about your loss first on JoyUnexpected. My heart is breaking over and over for you and your husband. My prayers are with you. I have posted a link to your page on my facebook so that the people I know might donate and show thier love as well. i’m so terribly sorry for your loss. no words can express the sorrow that i feel for you.
think of her beautiful smile while you speak to her tomorrow and know that she was the greatest blessing anyone anywhere could have ever had.
Michelle says:
We don’t know each other, but I will be praying for you tomorrow. God bless.
Janeal says:
As you pay tribute to your beautiful daughter tomorrow, my thoughts and prayers will be with you for strength and courage to do this for her, and for you.
Melissa says:
Heather,
I do not know you, but through Tina, have been fortunate enough to hear enough about you to feel as if I know you. I was the other friend of Tina’s who also was on bedrest through my pregnancy at the same time as her. I cannot comprehend the amount of pain you are feeling, along with Mike, but I have to tell you that I am so, so amazed by the strength you have expressed through your writings and experiences with your beautiful, angelic little Maddie. I am sending you all of the strength that I have has used in my past losses (which cannot even compared to what you are experiencing of course, but I know every little piece counts). Maddie is still with you, and she will give you the ability tomorrow to speak of her, because you, as her mommy, are the best person who can truly express and capture what an amazing miracle she truly is. And although I do not personally know you, I have cried many tears for you and your family, and you will all be in my thoughts and prayers not only tomorrow, but for the many months and years ahead.
I am also walking in the March for Babies here in San Diego on April 25th, and will do so in honor and memory of your beautiful Maddie.
God bless you, Mike and your entire family. Sending much love, prayers and strength from San Diego.
Kat says:
I joined up for the walk and just posted it on my blog. I live in Burbank, so I’ll be there for the L.A. walk on the 25th, and I will make it to the service if I can. I don’t know you. You don’t know me. But when I first heard about Maddie and realized that you are in my town, it hit home for me. How much would it mean to me to have random local strangers arrive to show their support? It would mean a lot. Something beautiful has been created by all of these people coming together to show their support, solidarity and to help others in Maddie’s name. I want to be a part of that. I’m a mom. I’m in L.A. It could be me.
Kat’s last blog post..Walk for Maddie
MereCat says:
You. Are. Amazing. Our hearts are breaking over and over again for you. Eastern time it will be 5:30. And Maddie and your family will be in our hearts and prayers.
Sabrina in Philly says:
thinking about tomorrow…my heart breaks! I believe in you and I do not even know you…No words…just hope for you and your husband for tomorrow~
I’m sure it will be hard, but for Maddie, you can do anything for her!
You, your husband and Maddie will be in my thoughts tomorrow…..
((((hugs)))
Sabrina in Philly’s last blog post..It’s not fair…
amy says:
You CAN do this and you will.. If you don’t you will regret it forever. Get out there and give your daughter the send off she so deserves.
Maddie has touched so many people. Myself included. I am so very, very sorry for your incredible loss. Big stranger hugs to you and yours..
Erin Holman says:
I am so sorry for your loss. I can not imagine the pain you are feeling now. I came across your page from Matt Logelin whom I was made aware of on Oprah today. Your family is beautiful, Maddy is beautiful. She’s an angel. I wish you all the best. I am holding you and your family in my prayers now and always. I hope our paths will cross one day, I too am in LA. I just really am touched by your daughter and what she means to the world.
Sara Harris says:
Yes, you can do this. It’s not something that you should have to do, but I know you can. Our family recently lost a little niece to a pedestrian accident and her parents spoke at her services. They faltered at times and we waited for them patiently, but mostly they recalled the good times and the funny things she had done and they were able to get through it by remembering the good, funny, and silly times. I’m so very sorry that you have to go through this. You are in my prayers.
won says:
You certainly can do it, and you will do it well. I am sure. I am one of the few who know exactly what you may be feeling. I understand the pull to do this for your daughter. I felt the same when I did it for my late daughter.
I did it. I found the words, wrote them and spoke them.
No doubt, you will too. Not only will you find the words and speak them, you will do so from a place of love, compassion and grace. I have no doubt. I believe in you.
I will be sending your courage and grace across the miles.
I understand, and I am sorry.
won’s last blog post..Fear Full
Heidi Lee says:
It is for your sweet girl. What you can or can not say will not matter. She knows the love you have. I can only imagine how proud of you she is. I will be praying for you and your husband tomorrow.
Sarah says:
Maddie got her strength from someone … from her Mama. I have faith that tomorrow your daughter will be proud of you.
You are a strong and amazing woman, Heather, and we will all be with you in spirit tomorrow no matter how far away we physically are.
Much love from Oregon.
Sarah’s last blog post..Adrift
Mrs. Flinger says:
I’m not able to be there in person to offer to stand up with you, but you know we’re all there with you. So many people loving and lifting you up. You won’t falter. We’ll be there. XOXO
Mrs. Flinger’s last blog post..Today And everyday
anymommy says:
I believe it. Love. I’ll be there tomorrow in thought and in spirit.
anymommy’s last blog post..Roses for Maddie
Trish says:
you can do it. No one can do a better job than you because no one on earth could know her like her mom. many prayers for you and your family. i am so sorry.
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bethany actually says:
I’ll be thinking of you and praying for you, along with many, many others.
bethany actually’s last blog post..Easter fun, Easter sorrow
Noelle says:
Heather, I’m so sorry for your devastating loss, and awed by your grace and courage. There are no words, only prayers, and we are all praying for you and your husband.
Noelle’s last blog post..Condolences
Rachel says:
You can do it. You will not be alone, even if it feels that way.
You and your husband will be in my thoughts and prayers. God bless.
Geri says:
I learned about you through matt Logelin’s blog. You are in my thoughts and prayers. You seem like an amazing woman. You can do this for your daughter. God Bless.
Carrie says:
I will be praying for you tomorrow. I only started reading your blog a few months ago and I was captivated by your Maddie’s beauty… It was ange like… that they best was to describe it. I could sit and look at pictures for hours of her. You could not have been more right when you wrote about her eyes … when you look into them it was like you were looking right into Heaven. I have never donated to MOD before but because of you precious baby I will donate on a regular basis. I love reading your blog. I love reading of you Maddie…You are a wonderful mother.
Randa Perry says:
You can do this. I saw you on the news yesterday and you are a strong person. The money that is being raised in your daughters honor is amazing. God Bless you and your husband. My thoughts and prayers go out to you!
Randa (carepage- babyjamesrobert)
Karishma says:
oh, heather. there just aren’t words. this is nothing less than the worst kind of tragedy, maddie should be in your arms right now. I am so, very, very sorry. maddie’s spirit and light will be with you, and i hope that knowing that will give you the strength you need, at least for tomorrow. all of us who can’t be there physically will be there in spirit, thinking of your beautiful baby.
Jamie says:
You are an incredibly strong woman and mother. I too, am awed by your courage, grace and strength! Maddie was so beautiful and angelic. She truly captivated so many lives with her remarkable smile. We pray for your strength. You are nothing shy of amazing!
Kristan says:
I read of your story today, and visited the site. I found myself completely backtracking and reading your entire blog. I read half of it this morning before I went to work and classes, and just finished the rest after my day was over. I smiled, laughed, and even cried throughout the entire thing. You and Mike created a wonderful, beautiful, strong baby. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers throughout the day tomorrow.
You are an amazing mother and person.
m/p says:
you are an amazing and strong mother, wife, woman.
there is no logic to loss and tragedy, no rationalizing it, but at the end of the day, there is a mystery.
your daughter left a legacy at such a young age.
i have thought of you and your family since i read about this last week. my heart has been broken. but my spirit has once again reason to hope.
your courage and the love you have…im very touched.
m/p’s last blog post..
A Free Man says:
I have heard this devastating news through the grapevine and I don’t even know what to say. I can’t imagine the pain that you’re in and the loss that you’re feeling. I can only wish the best to you and Mike at this time. I’m not a religious man, but I am a spiritual one and you’ll be in my thoughts and in my heart.
A Free Man’s last blog post..Is that nauseating stream of words really dripping from your tongue?
Wendy says:
I’m so sorry. I will be thinking of you, Mike and Maddie tomorrow.
Rikki says:
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. My heart and my mind can’t comprend the amount of pain and heartache you are feeling at this moment.
Yes you CAN speak at your daughters funeral, but you shouldn’t even have to think about this subject. It is so unfair. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Kristin says:
I just had to respond to this post because I have been through the same thing. Your description is so true….you really hit the nail on the head.
My mom passed away two years ago in a horribly tragic accident. I organized her funeral, stood up and spoke about her, and people were shocked that I was able to do it. First of all, I think you are just numb. Your words about feeling like it is all for someone else are so remarkably true! Second, about getting up and speaking….I really felt like it was my honor to be able to do so. I felt like these were the last things I would be able to do for her, the last things I could do to try to make her proud. It was theraputic, comforting to do it.
I feel confident that if I had the strength to do it, you will too. I pray you will find some comfort in it like I did.
Diane Farlow says:
Heather, if anyone can do it, you can. We are all there supporting you and Mike tomorrow, but I know Maddie will give you all the strength you need. I love you so much.
Janis says:
I’m so very sorry for the loss of your beloved daughter.
I lost my daughter a little over 6 years ago. I know the shock and horror you are feeling now. How you keep waiting to wake from the nightmare. How food and drink sits in your throat like a lump of cement. How you have to remind yourself to breathe…
I’ve found some wonderful resources for parents who have lost a child, please email me if you’d like more information. I don’t want to bombard you with information right now when you really aren’t able to process it.
Be gentle with yourself.
Again, my deepest sympathies.
Ms. Adventurous says:
Heather, you are SO brave. No one else can do Maddie’s life justice but you. You’ll do a great job, anything and everything that you say will be complete perfection. You, Mike, and Maddie are in my thoughts and prayers.
Ms. Adventurous’s last blog post..Stupid and retarded
Casey says:
I will be thinking of you tomorrow
Casey’s last blog post..heartbreaking.
JOy says:
You are so brave and strong. So many would do anything to help you; yet you are the one inspiring us! All my love to you and your family tomorrow. I know that it will be beautiful and I know that you will be amazing! You are an example to mothers everywhere and we all believe in you! XOXO
Jessica says:
I did not know maddie, you or your husband…but one thing I do know is that little girl sure knew love. I looked through some of your flickr photos, and she looks like one of the most radiant, joyful, and loved children I’ve ever seen.
The picture of being loved is priceless, you gave that little girl all the love any human could during her short time with you. And I know you’ll keep on loving her.
You standing up there tomorrow in front of all those people is just another token of your love for her. She would be so proud.
Thinking of you and your family.
Brooke says:
R.I.P Maddie, and take care of each other Heather and Mike………. i’m so sorry to hear of your loss, my heart goes out to you both and your families…
Megan says:
Even though I met you, reading has made me feel your pain. which I am sure everyone can say to you, and that’s not going to make your pain any less. because you are the only one who is maddie’s mommy. not was-is. you will always and forever be her mom. you can hear love in your voice, your strength. you have made it so far, but she is your baby. she has always had unconditional love for you, and as you have always had it for your baby girl. it’s so surreal, you know it’s happening in your head but it hasn’t hit your heart yet. tommorrow is a celebration of maddie’s life, of all the beauty, good times and bad it held up until now. it’s not an ending, because through you maddie’s love and life can live on forever. no words can make this easier, only love.
Heidi says:
Sending you love and hugs.
I haven’t stopped thinking of you and Maddie since I heard the news. We’re strangers, but from one mom to another I really wanted to tell you this, though I don’t exactly know how to word it: many children are loved, but it is so obvious that what you had for Maddie was just so much more. The videos, the pictures, your words…in your case the word love just doesn’t it justice. And I know that everyone can see it, that you had so much more than love for Maddie, and that she knew it and flourished in it and that even at such a young age she was an amazing human being. What a happy, beautiful little girl! And when I think about it all I hurt for you even more, because you did everything right and she was your world and you appreaciated her for all that she was and now your arms are empty. It’s so cruel and unfair. I am so sorry. No parent deserves it, but especially you. Not you.
Heidi’s last blog post..Q & A with Heidi II
ExtraordinaryMommy - Danielle says:
I am amazed by you. I know you can do this. We don’t know each other, but I am confident you will be possessed by the same grace you have exhibited this week – the very same spirit and grace your sweet girl had deep inside her.
You are an incredible mother. You are an incredible woman. I would offer to stand with you if I could be there. I will be thinking about you and praying for you and Mike.
No one could share Maddie’s story and soul the way you can and will.
Sending you hugs.
ExtraordinaryMommy – Danielle’s last blog post..The tears keep falling
Special K says:
You don’t know me but please know my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family as you say goodbye to your beautiful daughter tomorrow! Your words in blog are only part of the testament to how much you loved your little girl! I have no doubts you will find that inner strength to find the right words tomorrow!
Janice (5 Minutes for Mom) says:
You CAN do it!!!! You are strong and brave and wonderful, just like your Maddie!!!
Even those of us who can’t be there, will be with you, praying, weeping and wishing.
{{{HUGS}}}
Janice (5 Minutes for Mom)’s last blog post..Ciaran Blumenfeld (aka Momfluential) Video Interview
Kirsten says:
My deepest sympathies to you for having to make this tribute. Your Maddie was a beautiful girl and her beauty will live on. Know that you and your family have been added to my prayers.
Blessed says:
My heart breaks for you. My prayers are with you. And I believe that you can do it, for Maddie, your beautiful daughter.
Blessed’s last blog post..Jealousy, Envy and Suspicion Oh My!
Priya says:
Heather, I am very sorry for your loss, words just cant express this tragedy, its so unfortunate that i got to know Maddie in such a way, but I am shocked, numb. Went through all your blog, pics, videos at first i cried but as i went backwards seeing her so happy and screaming made me laugh and i just cant believe she is no more.I am still wondering why this should happen, Heather please be strong, though i know its easy to say, plaese try to remember her sweet memories, her beautiful smile and eyes…. she was so beautiful and happy.
XOXO
Beth B. says:
You are so brave we know you can do it. The strength you have already shown is a tribute to her.. Those of us who can’t be there will be sending hugs and prayers from afar.
Michelle says:
Heather There are no words to say that will help you in your pain.I have Maddie’s smiling face in my mind.We’re sending you and Mike hugs and prayers.
Michelle’s last blog post..{Remembering Maddie }
Katrina says:
You don’t know me, but I just wanted you to know that when I look at Maddie’s photos all I can see is true happiness behind those brilliant blue eyes. It shows, it really really shows, that your little girl was loved and cherished by you and your husband, and she knew it and felt it every single day of her life. That is what shines through in her eyes. Every photo spells that out clear as day. All she knew is love. How blessed she was to have you as her earthly parents!
As for speaking at her services tomorrow, I know that you can do it. I would love to be at the services — it no doubt will be a wonderful celebration of your daughter’s life — but I live too far away.
Praying for you….
Katrina
*****************************************************
So I am glad not that my loved one has gone,
But that the earth she laughed and lived on
was my earth, too.
That I had known and loved her,
And that my loved I shown.
Tears over her departure?
Nay, a smile —
That I had walked with her a little while.
Lotus Carroll says:
I know you can do it.
And, by damn, this is why God blessed YOU with that angel. Because you are worthy.
You amaze me.
The Carrolls lift up The Spohrs in their hearts. We’ll be with you in spirit.
Lotus Carroll’s last blog post..Walk For Maddie
Katrina says:
So I am glad not that my loved one has gone,
But that the earth she laughed and lived on
was my earth, too.
That I had known and loved her,
And that my love I’d shown.
Tears over her departure?
Nay, a smile —
That I had walked with her a little while.
Jan says:
You are a brave woman. May God be with you tomorrow and during this difficult time.
moosh in indy. says:
THANKS FOR THAT. Wha. You may even be braver than that little kid. All her bravery she learned from you.
moosh in indy.’s last blog post..purple, ham and a fluttery lashes.
Karyn says:
My heart has been hurting all week for you… You are incredibly brave and strong for getting up there tomorrow, there is nobody better to talk about how wonderful Maddie was, I know you will do great.
You and Mike will be in my thoughts tomorrow.
tanyetta says:
You can do it.
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Mama West says:
I am so sorry. I am so very sorry. I know nothing about God or if you believe in God, but last year I read “When Bad Things Happen To Good People,” and now I think maybe there is a God who is also stunned and grief stricken by this tragedy. I wish your daughter were with us in this world and that you did not have to do what you will do tomorrow. I wish someone could help you and your husband, that there was something someone could do for the two of you. This community is here for you. We are here to help you bear it and to comfort you if we can. But there is no explaining it or making it sensible to you. I am so sorry.
Monica @ DailyDwelling says:
I will be praying for you as you take this very brave step. God will be with you and he will give you the strength to carry you through.
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Ray says:
Hello, Heather:
I just found your site now (someone recommended it to this lady’s site whom I read and I decided to stop by myself), and I just only now read your story about your precious Maddie. I just now looked at her first birthday photos and couldn’t help but cry. She was so beautiful, so precious. I am so, so sorry for your loss. May GOD bring you, your husband, family and friends the strength to get through this. The strength to endure this. I cannot imagine the pain you’re going through (for I’ve never lost anyone) but you’ll be in my prayers!!
May GOD be with you all!
Lilla says:
I know you can, Heather, because Maddie inherited her strength from you and Mike. She was her parent’s daughter, and I know how brave and loving you both are. My heart is with you!
Dana says:
You CAN do it! I came over from Matt Logelin’s blog, read your blog, and cried. I am so very sorry. She is so very beautiful. Those eyes! She is such a little doll. You don’t know me but over here in NJ I am praying for you.
Connie says:
Dear Heather and Mike,
You’ve shared Maddie with us and I for one, am so thankful. I’ve loved reading about your daily life and delighted in finding the similarities between your family and mine.
I thank you for sharing with us now as well, during some of the toughest days of your lives. As for tomorrow, I will be thinking of you and wishing you strength.
Connie
Connie’s last blog post..In Memory of Maddie – Make a Purchase to Benefit Her Family
jane says:
I know you can do it and I will be praying for you all day to send you love and strength. Jane
jane’s last blog post..TWO WEEKS AGO…
Eileen says:
I believe in you.
jkewilliams says:
You can do it, and you’ll do Maddie proud. Even though we can’t be with you today, please know you, Mike and Maddie are in our thoughts and prayers. Wishing you lots of strength, peace and hope.
Kathryn in Berlin says:
Coming to you via Matt’s blog-
I’m so sorry for this awful pain you are going through. No one should have to lose a child so young…so beautiful. My heart is with you every step of the way. Lean on your family and friends and let them help you however they can.
Christa says:
I am so sorry for your loss. Maddie was a beautiful little girl.
Christa’s last blog post..Extreme Night Owl
Dawn says:
Yes, you can do it. Take in the energy, strength and love from Maddie, your family, friends and from those that you have never met but are praying for you too and you can do it.
Amy says:
You CAN do it and you will make Maddie proud. You, Mike and your entire family will be in my thoughts tomorrow.
maya says:
love you. Maddie was strong like her mommy. See you soon.
Rebecca (Ramblings by Reba) says:
You CAN do it! Much love…
Rebecca (Ramblings by Reba)’s last blog post..Happy Easter
eden says:
Sending you so much love and peace from Australia. So much. I’ve thought of you every day.
xoxox
Heather, Queen of Shake Shake says:
So much courage, Heather. You are amazing, just like Maddie.
Bridget says:
I have no doubt that you can do it, Heather. When I saw the picture of you and Mike they had with the Times article, I was amazed at the obvious strength you guys have. But I’ll still be sending up special prayers today.
Bridget’s last blog post..Maddie Mosaic
jen says:
You can do it. Maddie will be with you..
I will be thinking of your family today. I have been thinking of you everyday..
jen’s last blog post..chicks, man.
ali says:
Heather, you are one of the strongest women i know. i envy your strength. you can do this. for Maddie. my god, i wish i were with you today. love from toronto.
ali’s last blog post..find my ilana a thing
Overflowing Brain (Katie) says:
You are more brave than any person I’ve ever had the pleasure of knowing. My heart breaks for you today and I wish, more than anything else, that you didn’t have to do this. Not today, not ever.
I’m so painfully sorry for your loss. I had hoped to be able to come to Maddie’s service, but we won’t be in LA until Friday. So, I will celebrate her today, 2000 miles away, wearing my purple shirt and sending my thoughts and prayers to your family.
I’m just so sorry.
Overflowing Brain (Katie)’s last blog post..Finding God
TerryG says:
I am so sorry for your loss. I started following Mike’s blog and when he switched jobs, I started reading your blog. I have enjoyed it immensely. I know you have the strength and courage to speak today at the memorial service. You can do it! I’m wearing purple today and I’ll be thinking about you and Mike and Maddie today…and always.
Love,
TerryG
Callie says:
Such courage – throughout Maddie’s beautiful life and in this remembrance of her. You and Mike are in my thoughts and prayers.
Maria says:
You are a beautiful, brave, inspiring Mommy. I am honored to know you.
My heart is with you today, Heather.
Maria’s last blog post..weekly winners – apr 4-11
Lesha says:
Yes, you are very courageous, just like your beautiful daughter. I will be thinking about you and Mike even more today. You and my family are in my heart.
Micky says:
My heart hurts for you. There is no words that can be said to easy your pain.
You are in my thoughs and my prayers.
dysfunctional mom says:
You are amazing. I do believe you can do it though! My thoughts will be with you all day.
dysfunctional mom’s last blog post..Not Me Monday!
iMommy says:
You can do it, for her. You are a strong mama. You have a strength that I can only imagine.
Wearing purple today for Maddie, you and Mike. My thoughts and prayers are definitely with you this week.
iMommy’s last blog post..Madeline Alice Spohr: These Words Are Not Enough
Amy in OHio says:
You are one of the bravest people I know. You can do it. I’m right there with you in spirit, listening to every word.
Love you,
Amy
Kristine says:
You will do it! I have no doubts. Even if you shed tears you are still the most amazing person I know.
I can’t even begin to imagine what you and Mike are going through. No parents should have to go through this.
You have been in my thoughts all week, and will be even more so today, as I wear purple in honor of Maddie and in support of you and Mike.
I wish I could be there to be one more mother there to support you, but I know you will be surrounded by people that love you and Maddie. I’m there in spirit.
Kristine’s last blog post..It’s an honor to be nominated! But hell yeah, I’d like to win!
DesignHER Momma says:
Heather – I know you can do it. You will have the heart, soul and strength of the whole church behind you. I think it’s awesome that you are going to speak. As Maddies mom, you knew her best. Out of all the people that will be there today, you knew her best.
I pray for you today my friend.
DesignHER Momma’s last blog post..Easter defined
Carrie says:
You can do it! I am new to your blog and you have blown me away with your strength and courage all with a touch of humor! I know that I am one of thousands that has commented, but I just want you to know that everytime your little Madeline’s face pops into my mind (which has been several times a day), I say a little prayer for her and know that she is in heaven…happy and perfectly healthy. I am sure that she has been embraced by all of the children and Matt’s Liz (where I found you) and I’m sure that your beloved Grandma is thrilled to have her in her arms. I am sending my donation today in honor of your sweet angel. I will continue to pray for your family. Much love and hope!
Miranda says:
I will be praying for you.
Your story has reached not only the USA, but has reached Europe also.
I am a military spouse in Europe– and am heartbroken by your loss.
Tara R. says:
My heart breaks for you and your husband. I am so very sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you.
Tara R.’s last blog post..Maxx update
Robin says:
You can do this because you will have God, your family, friends and Maddie in spirit……..and the world….there beside you. Find your strength in knowing your precious Maddie is so loved and that her short time on Earth has made such an impact on so many, has brought so many together to rally in her name for a cause so great, and that her love, her name, her spirit will live on for ever.
And take peace knowing we pray beside you.
I do so hope today is a most beautiful day for you and yours.
Robin’s last blog post..Wishing You and Yours a Most Beautiful Easter
MommyNamedApril says:
our hearts are with you. as is maddie’s.
MommyNamedApril’s last blog post..Sorry Kiddo, Blame the Economy.
natalie says:
Heather, I am so proud of you. You’re right…you can do this. Thank you for having the courage to share your journey with us. It has made us all better moms, dads, aunts, uncles, grandparents, people. Thank you.
natalie’s last blog post..an idea
Lucy says:
You taught Maddie that love is the greatest gift, bouying us and giving us strength when we need it. Maddie taught us that even the smallest being can exude a fierce spirit and an innocent love that blossoms more beautifully than we could ever imagine.
She was one heck of an amazing girl. And you are one heck of an amazing mum. Rejoice in all of the special moments you had together and all of the infinite wisdom she imparted in her too short life. Keeping those memories close to heart will give you the strength you need to honour her with your words. The words that have already touched so many. Sending love and prayers from Canada.
Lucy’s last blog post..Now I lay me down to sleep…
Jennifer, Playgroups are no place for children says:
I’ll be thinking of you and your family today, as I have been for the past week.
Hugs to you.
Jennifer, Playgroups are no place for children’s last blog post..I’m sorry
Tamara says:
Your daughter’s amazing life touched so many people through your blog. You will be in my prayers tomorrow.
Tamara’s last blog post..I guess the economy is bad for obstetricians too…
Scary Mommy says:
No wonder where Maddie got her amazing strength. You’ll do her proud, I’m sure. And I’ll be there in spirit…
emmay says:
First, my heart goes out to you. I cannot imagine the grief you are feeling. both of ,my daughters were premature (28 weeks and 30 weeks) and I cannot imagine losing one of them after that long fight to get them home.
I think speaking at your daughter’s funeral is a wonderufl, amazing gift for her, for you, and for everyone in attendance. for the last four years, since my older daughter, was about 9 mos. old, I have volunteered in the NICU where they received their care. I have, sadly, been to far too many services for babies who have died. The most memorable service is one where the father spoke about his daughter, at length. He talked about all he learned from her in her short life. And I was so touched by his grace, his poise and his honesty. Most of all his faith. And I knew he would be okay. Not to say it hasn’t been a long painful road for him and his wife, but they are, in the big picture, okay. I don’t think you’ll have a second of regret for speaking at Maddie’s funeral. I don’t know you, and I’ve only found this blog since sweet Maddie’s death, but from what I’ve read so for, it certainly seems to me like you can do it.
emmay’s last blog post..From Poltergeist to Dateline
Stacey says:
My heart goes out to you and your husband. There are simply no words.
Debbie says:
I am praying for you all and wearing purple today
Babybloomr says:
You’ll be able to do because no one else on the face of the earth can speak about your baby the way you can. No one else knew the part of her you did. Your body literally gave her life and you will be able to bear witness to her spirit, to honor her and lay her to rest. It is almost unthinkable that your voice WOULDN’T be raised for her. Godspeed.
Babybloomr’s last blog post..Motivational Monday
Jen says:
Heather–
First of all, I am sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter Madeline. I am not sure where I read it first, but every blog I read seemed to have something about your daughter and you and your husband which to me shows just what a special family you have. As I sit here in St. Louis, MO I am praying for you. I know you will do Madeline proud with your words today. Heather, again, I am so sorry. Jen
Bethany says:
I believe in you. You can do it. People all across the world are thinking of you and your beautiful daughter today.
Megan (mommyesquire) says:
Madeline is so proud of her mommy today. This is a wonderful gift that only you can give to her. You knew her better than anyone and who better to show the world her beautiful spirit. I am praying for you – especially today.
uppervalleymom @ Kids Meal Crowd says:
Words can not express the feelings right now. My thoughts and prayers are with you and Mike. I’ll be wearing purple today to honor your precious angel.
uppervalleymom @ Kids Meal Crowd’s last blog post..Ever have that feeling?
catnip says:
I believe you can do it. It may be one of the hardest things you ever do in your life, but you’ll do it for her. I’ll be thinking about you all day today.
catnip’s last blog post..37
Adventures In Babywearing says:
Oh, sweet Heather. You can do it. Bless your heart.
Steph
Robin says:
I have no doubt Maddie will be proud of you no matter how it turns out. All that strength and courage she showed she got from her parents. You can never take that away.
Robin’s last blog post..What Really Matters In Life?
Nena and Reese says:
I am so sorry to hear about your sweet Maddie. Losing a child is devastating. She is a beautiful girl. Sending you peace, light and strength, Nena and Reese
Managed Chaos says:
I’m in awe at your strength and courage during this painfully difficult time. Sending many prayers for you and your family.
Managed Chaos’s last blog post..A heavy heart
Rikki says:
You are so brave and strong. Maddie will be proud. My thoughts will be with you today.
Hugs from a stranger,
Rikki
Rikki’s last blog post..Easter (without the killer bunny)
Colleen says:
I have never commented here before I have always been a lurker. I have been crying since I heard the news. You are an inspiration to me. Your daughter has touched the hearts of so many people!!!! I know you can speak at her funeral because she is your daughter. And you are the best person for the job!!!! It will be hard but you will be Great!! Please know you are in the thoughts and prayers of lots and lots of people
S says:
Thinking of you and your family.
S’s last blog post..A Little Bit of Spring……
Amazing Greis says:
Yes, you can do this! Maddie will be there watching over you and giving you the strength to continue. She is your FOREVER guardian angel.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family today. I’m wearing purple for Maddie and for you. Hugs to you all. (If I wasn’t so far I’d be there to hug you in person!)
XOXO
Amazing Greis’s last blog post..We Shall March on for Maddie…
Kristen says:
She will be so proud, watching you.
Flicka says:
My thoughts and prayers are with you today. I’m wearing purple and my husband and I have been thinking of you constantly. Two internet strangers send their love from rainy Delaware.
xo
Flicka
Flicka’s last blog post..In Memoriam
Laurie says:
You CAN and you WILL do it because you are her mother and she is your child. Think of it as one of your final gifts to her on this earthly plain, an act of Love until you meet again on the other side of this thin veil that temporarily separates you.
Families are Forever – God Bless You
Colleen - Mommy Always Wins says:
I didn’t have the chance to meet you or know you, but my heart and prayers go out to you and your family. I will channel you all of my Mom strength today…
Colleen – Mommy Always Wins’s last blog post..As good as a walk-off home run
Carrie says:
My prayers and thoughts are with you and your husband during this rough time. Maddie is your Gaurdian Angel and will be by your side and in your heart from this day on. Know that you have a lot of support and love from a LOT of people. May God bless you and your family and help you get through this rough time. **hugs**
PB and Jazz says:
You are very brave Heather. I am so sorry for you and your husband. I am sitting at home with my sick child. I have on the only purple shirt I own in honor of your Maddie. You will be in my thoughts and prayers today and in the up coming weeks. I have no doubt you will brilliantly honor your daughter today. If you cry, its okay, you deserve that too. However it turns out, it will be great because it is out of you deep everlasting love for your beautiful daughter. Peace and love from a stranger friend in Blogland.
Dawn says:
we are all here to catch you if you falter.
you can speak about Maddie Moo and we all will hear you.
you can stand there and sob for your Maddie Moo and we all will hand you kleenex.
whatever you do is the perfect tribute to your perfect daughter.
tomorrow, when you get up and keep going. that is a perfect tribute to your perfect daughter, from your perfect self.
we are all here.
(I see you lookin at me, swan.)
Dogwood Girl says:
Thousands of mothers’ hearts break for you and your family and your sweet girl today.
Kerry says:
Sending you and your entire circle of family and friends love today. Speaking at your daughter’s funeral wil be a source of comfort one day. She’d be so proud of you.
Dawn says:
Heather, you will do it, and you will not be alone. I suspect every Angel in heaven this morning is dressed in purple, doing it at the request of an insistent Maddie who says “do it for my mom.” May you feel her beside you.
Dawn’s last blog post..Stuck on Saturday
Amy @ Milk Breath & Margaritas says:
You can, and you’ll be happy that you did. I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers today. I’m so deeply sorry.
Amy @ Milk Breath & Margaritas’s last blog post..Bunny Tails and Bird Nests
*pixie* says:
Sending hugs and words of encouragement during this difficult time. I may not know you, but your story has really touched me as it has so many people in the past week.
*pixie*’s last blog post..I guess Jesus really liked rabbits
Delenn says:
You can do this, you shouldn’t have to. I am so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your family today. We all wear purple.
Delenn’s last blog post..Random Photos from this Weekend.
Malia says:
I’ve often wondered how parents are ever able to speak at their own child’s funeral. You answered that so eloquently, it makes sense, of course you can, you’re doing it for her.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and Mike today.
Malia’s last blog post..My Lent: Part Four
Amanda says:
Thinking of you as I wear a purple shirt 3,000 miles away. You will do it in your way as only Maddie’s mom can do.
Amanda’s last blog post..Walk of Shame
Sammanthia says:
We’ve never met, but I just want you to know I’m thinking of you and your family will be in my thoughts.
Sammanthia’s last blog post..Random Tuesday Thoughts: I’ll Bet Eddie Vedder Could Totally Kick Bono’s Ass
Karen says:
I hope the supportive energy reaches you today. The support and love of vast legions of people touched and moved by your sweet Maddie. May we all reach you today in some way and hold you up as you give your tribute.
Wearing purple today in Nova Scotia. For Maddie. For you. God bless you, your husband and your families.
Karen’s last blog post..agentninety9: from across the continent, my deepest sympathies to #maddie’s parents and family. May you feel the love of the world today. RIP Maddie xo
jen says:
as parents … we give so much for our children. you can do this … and she will be so happy to see you doing it.
here … go ahead … take my strength for the day too … you need it so much more than i do.
jen’s last blog post..because …
Danielle says:
Yes. You can do it. I know you can. She will be smiling and be proud.
We all are proud of you.
Be brave.
Danielle’s last blog post..GIVEAWAY – Autographed CD
ryanandjoesmom says:
You can do it. With all the love and support holding you up, you can do it for Maddie. Sending you huge hugs from MN as I sit in my cube wearing purple.
ryanandjoesmom’s last blog post..Plans
Julie says:
I’ll be praying for you a BUNCH today. Your family has been on my mind since she got sick. Sending prayers up for you today to grant you strength and courage to get through this. I know He can give you those things for your precious Maddie.
I can only imagine that she is up in Heaven…looking down at her parents…feeling so proud and blessed to have been given parents like you.
xoxoxo
Julie
Julie’s last blog post..Baby Kiddos
Deb - Mom of 3 Girls says:
Oh I can’t even imagine – can’t even begin to comprehend what you are going through right now, but I am awed and inspired by your strength. I will be thinking of you and your family today and wishing that you weren’t having to do what you will be doing today in saying goodbye to your sweet little girl. She touched so many hearts in just such a little amount of time, I’m so very sorry.
Deb – Mom of 3 Girls’s last blog post..I ? ‘Easter/Spring’ Faces
Drew G says:
You are an amazing and strong women. We all keep Maddie in our thoughts. Your family has moved us and I am honored. Stay strong and know you have hundreds of people to help hold you up if you stumble.
christy_la says:
My heart goes out to you for your loss of beautiful Maddie. I’m sure you will make her proud (once again!) as you speak of her today. May God be with you and your family during this time of sorrow. Blessings.
Tami says:
As I wear my purple shirt today in memory of maddie. I will think of you and Mike as you get threw this hard day. I dont know you but I think its great that you want to speak on behalf of your daughter.. Know that she will be looking down on you with her cute smile and those big beautful eyes, and that you also have a ton of people that will have you in their thoughts and prayers. My heart aches for you both.
Hugs to you and your family.
Molly says:
Heather and Mike,
You are both in my thoughts today and will be in the days/weeks approaching. As a mother my heart just breaks for you. You WILL have the strength to speak today and I’m sure it will be a beautiful tribute to your precious daughter. So many people around the world are praying for you today who have never even met you (including me), hopefully you feel covered today. My daughters and I are totally rockin’ the purple for sweet Maddie today =)
xoxo
~Molly
Molly’s last blog post..Not Me Monday
Lisa says:
Heather, I don’t know anyone stronger or braver than you and Mike. I can’t begin to imagine what you two are going through, but I know that Maddie is with you and she will help you through, every day. Even though we can’t be with you today, we are always thinking of you, praying for you and sending our love & support.
Anna says:
You are brave and we believe in you.
Anna’s last blog post..Taking for granted
jen says:
I feel like there are no words that a stranger from across the country can say to be of any use, but I wanted to be part of the chorus. your daughter is simply beautiful. you will be in my thoughts.
Laurie says:
I am so very sorry for your loss. Maddie’s story has touched me and so many others. I am sending prayers for you and your family today, and for the difficult days ahead.
Laurie’s last blog post..Happy Easter, Peeps!
Cute~Ella says:
You can do this Heather. I know you can.
Cute~Ella’s last blog post..Grace in Small Things (#14)
Krystle | Snarky Kisses says:
You are an amazing mother, and Mike and amazing father – sending ALL of my thoughts your way from Wisconsin. Maddie is so proud of her mama.
Hugs.
mrs.chicken says:
Yes, you can, and she will hear you, with all the love in both your hearts.
Kristy says:
Dear Heather and Mike,
As so many on here have said, you don’t know me. I followed your loving and fun life with Maddie through Mr.Lady. Her hilarious blog was my source of sanity and strength when we lost our youngest son last summer. I hope you will just DO and BE. Do whatever you feel is best for you during this time. And BE however you need to be. You have both been in our thoughts. I wish I could be there today to support you but I can promise you that I am and will be thinking about you and supporting you from a distance. I have my purple on! I wish you and your family love and comfort today!!
Hugs,love and prayers from afar,
Kristy
michelle syverson says:
The strength of a mother is like no other…from one mother to another I will hope and pray the Lord’s grace is upon you today. There are no words to express the heart ache I feel for you and your family. Your story and courage has touched many and you will survive from the strenght of those around you today. From this day forward…Blessings to you of comfort and peace.
michelle syverson’s last blog post..Easter
Maggie's Mind says:
You’ll have half the blogosphere standing by you in spirit, wearing purple, thinking of your Maddie and wishing none of this sadness was happening.
Maggie’s Mind’s last blog post..Answers and a Question
RACHEL CORTEST says:
Heather,
I thought about Maddie all night long and knowing how you are feeling as much as any bereaved mother can know. Today I am in a bright purple shirt with purple rings and I will teach my Spanish classes at The University of Oklahoma and tell them about your beautiful Maddie. I know that you can talk about her because my husband got up and talked about our son. He could not do it now, three years later (on May15th) but he could do it then because it was so surreal. I will be praying and sending love to you across the country. Maddie has touched so many people. When I read your post, as I am getting ready to walk into class, i had tears running down my face. I wish that this had never ever ever ever happened to you and Mike-and to Maddie of course. Rachel Cortest
Kesler Crew says:
“I don’t think of all the misery, but of all the beauty that still remains.”
~ Anne Frank
My family is thinking of you and yours today. We know that you can do this for her, and for you. We send our love from Mississippi.
~Hope
Kesler Crew’s last blog post..Join the Kesler Crew in support of the March of Dimes
wn says:
Heather, I don’t know you either (although I feel like I know a small part of you through reading along here).
But I do believe in you…and somehow feel like you CAN do this…and you WILL do this.
Best of luck today, I’ll be thinking of you and your family as I make my way through the day.
wn’s last blog post..Easter 2009
Jen says:
its no mystery where Maddie got her spunk and spark – it comes straight from you. I’m holding you and Mike in my heart all day. We all luff you to bits and pieces!
Jen’s last blog post..Random Tuesday – The Short Edition
Jamie says:
You CAN do it. I’m sure you can. We can do ANYTHING for our children, I’m just so sorry that you HAVE to. I know I won’t be the only one sending my strength to you today.
Jamie’s last blog post..13 weeks.
leigh in the sav says:
i will be thinking of you, your family and friends as well as your precious daughter today. i am so sorry for your loss. i hope the world continues to lift you up and send you strength.
natalie says:
You can do it. And every mom in the world who knows your story, and knows and loves Maddie even if we never met her, is behind you.
You can do it.
natalie’s last blog post..And on the day before Easter…
Marcia says:
Heather…although I don’t know you “IRL”, I’ve read your blog from (almost) Day One. I haven’t commented often, but checked in every single day. Through the wonders of modern technology, you, Mike, Maddie and the rest of your families have become part of my life, too and I am absolutely aching for you. I’m in Maine, so I can’t be with you physically today, but please know I am there in spirit (and, like so many others across the world, I’m wearing purple in Maddie’s honor). Take some small comfort in knowing the thoughts, love & prayers of so, so many are with you and your precious little angel…not just today, but always. Many hugs…..
kb says:
I’ll cry your tears for you while you’re up there so you can get through it, ok? Bless you and Mike.
rachel-asouthernfairytale says:
You can do it because you are her mother, because you are strong and full of love and you have the prayers of thousands bolstering you up.
You are loved. My heart and our day to you.
rachel-asouthernfairytale’s last blog post..Purple Things and Angel’s Wings
Meagan Francis says:
You can do it. I wish you didn’t have to, but I know you can.
Meagan Francis’s last blog post..picture love
Connie says:
My thoughts and prayers are with you and Mike today. I will be thinking of you and praying that you have all the strength you need.
Dee says:
I am praying for you. You are such a brave, amazing woman. It breaks my heart that you are having to go through this.
bejewell says:
So much love and admiration for you right now, I can’t even put it into words. My heart aches for you. Will be sending you every positive thought and feeling I can muster this afternoon. You’ll be strong for your Maddie, and I’m sure it will be beautiful.
Gena says:
My prayers are with you and your family. Hold your head high and raise her up! We never know what life holds in store for us and though we may not understand why, know that GOD has a purpose for us and he is using you.
Gena
melanie says:
just wanted to add to the pile of people: we are praying for you and your family today.
Chantel says:
Heather you are a very courageous woman! You will have the whole world up there right next to you in spirit, prayers and love for Maddie. I can’t begin to imagine what you are going through right now, just now that we are all here from you. You may not “know” us but we feel like we know you and your family.
May God continue to give you courage, grace, mercy and peace today and every day.
Love,
Chantel Wright
Chantel’s last blog post..Operation Purple Balloon to Honor Maddie
Jenny from Mommin' It Up! says:
I know you can do it, and I know Maddie will be so proud.
Jenny from Mommin’ It Up!’s last blog post..Enjoying Today.
Abigail says:
My heart breaks for you. I’m so sorry for your loss, and admire how you’ve kept a brave face on through the last two years. You, Mike and Maddie are in my prayers.
Backpacking Dad says:
You amaze me. A-maze. You cast me into a labyrinth of confusion; you hypnotize me in wonder. You will be human enough to do it.
Backpacking Dad’s last blog post..Because I’m a good dad…
Rachel Kramer Bussel says:
My heart goes out to you and your husband. I’m so sorry for your loss. You can definitely do it.
Denise says:
Heather you are an amazing woman, may the strength of the community that is surrounding you support you & Mike today. Our thoughts are with your family.
Jennifer says:
I could say the words “I am sorry for your loss”, but they are in fact just words. I know you have a hole that is deep in your stomach, and cannot be filled. I also know well the tasks of dealing with a very ill child http://cjengo.blogspot.com/. I can tell though that you are an incredible and strong person who knows your child was such a blessing. I know a day didn’t go by that you found inspiration in all she accomplished. Please know there will be many people with you in spirit while you speak at her funeral. My heart break for you, and I am crying while I write this. I hope someday you can find peace, and comfort again
Suebob says:
The thoughts of thousands of well-wishers are lifting you up. No matter if you can speak or if you can’t, no one will fault you. You just do what you need to to get through this day in any way you can, and all the ones that will follow. I believe that you will be together with Maddie again some day, and when that day comes, it will be as if only the blink of an eye had separated you.
Lisa says:
You and Mike are in my thoughts today. My daughter Maya and I are wearing purple in Maddie’s honor today. Maddie will be with you today in spirit sharing her strength with you.
Lisa’s last blog post..Marching for Maddie
Cathy B says:
Oh Lord, we don’t know how to comfort our prescious new friends, but You do Lord. PLEASE, as we weep together for and with them, especially, especially, today and tomorrow, we ask that You Lord hold them as only YOU can Father. Wrap Your loving arms around them and gently whisper to them… assure them that their prescious One, Maddie, is with you in your arms and not suffering. She is crying out the them, “Mommy, Daddy, I am not hurting any more..”thank you for taking care of me the best that anyone on earth could do, and loving me with all of your lives. Thank you for your days of laughter and hugs…” What a privilege that you chose them, Lord, out of so many, to have little Maddie for this perfect time on earth, as you shared her with them and all of us. Bear them up Lord,…We cannot , but You can. Give them strength and purpose and meaning. Draw them closer to Yourself and to each other in the days ahead. thank you Lord for their lives, and their incredible testimonies here on earth!
We ask these things because of Your GREAT LOVE! Amen.
cathy b
projecthope7 at gmail dot com
Jennifer says:
You are so brave, Heather, and I know you will be able to do it to honor Maddie. Wishing you lots of strength today. I’m sure it will be a beautiful ceremony to celebrate your sweet girl. We are thinking of you today and wearing our purple.
Jennifer’s last blog post..For Maddie
Christine says:
I can’t begin to tell you how moved I am by your beautiful baby Maddie. There are no words.
I wish you and your family all of the strength and love this world has to offer. Maddie has forever changed my heart.
You are an inspiration.
Linda in Canada says:
Yes, Heather, you can definitely do it. You will receive help from above. You will be amazed. And all those listening will be touched to tears.
I wish I could be there.
Please keep posting afterwards, to help with the grief. Many, many people are cheering for you and Mike. You two need to lean on each other for support and strength.
And may all your family and friends reach out to you in the days to come.
You can do this.
Hugs forever.
Anna Marie Hinnant says:
Oh Heather, I can’t even begin to understand the pain you and Mike are in. I am so saddened by Maddie’s death and I am in awe of your strength and determination. My thoughts and prayers are with you today.
Anna Marie Hinnant’s last blog post..For Maddie
Beth says:
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers today (and many more days to come). I just “met” Maddie yesterday and she has already touched and changed my life. I’m wearing purple today, as are my two girls. And I even let my 4 year old paint my fingernails purple this morning. ((HUGS))
Maria Delgado says:
I am praying for you and Mike today. My Gods Peace & Grace shower over you both.
In Him,
Maria
Janeen says:
I’m so far away, but will be with you today in spirit. My Twitter avatar is purple for Maddie today. Filled with love for you and your husband.
Janeen
Janeen’s last blog post..test giveaway post
Jodee says:
Oh my thoughts and prayers are so with you today… I cry when ever I think of dear little Maddie… my prayers are with you… I am so sorry… you can do this…
Jodee’s last blog post..Maddie Spohr
FireMom says:
We are sending our strength, our prayers and our hearts to you and yours today.
FireMom’s last blog post..Just a Few More Moments: A Gift for Maddie
DAP says:
I have not read any comments but I know you will do this. It is something that you have to do, you will get through this. It is amazing how much strength you have that God gives you just when you need it. No question your a tough cookie and you can totally speak to Maddie.
Jamie says:
God Bless you and your family!!!! I will be thinking about you all today!
Jamie’s last blog post..The Good. The Bad. The Facebook.
Jes says:
You can do it. You are an amazing woman and an amazing Mom to a beautiful little girl. She will give you the strength to honor her today.
We are all in our purple in tribute to Maddie. Sending love from Northern CA.
lemonologie says:
I know that you can do this. Your lives have touched so many people. My thoughts and prayers are with you this day.
lemonologie’s last blog post..5 Days
Heather says:
Wearing my purple, thinking of Maddie, and praying for you and your husband.
Heather’s last blog post..~ 8 Things ~
Issa says:
You can do it Heather. We all know you can. I wont be there in person, but you guys have my whole heart today.
Issa’s last blog post..Madeline Alice
Secret Agent Mama says:
You and Mike are in my thoughts and prayers. I’ll be wearing purple for Maddie today, too. ((HUGS))
Secret Agent Mama’s last blog post..Weekly Winners LXXIII
Shana says:
I know you can do it. I am thinking and praying for you and your family.
Arkansas Mom…long time reader.
Lins says:
You absolutely can do it! Maddie is an inspiration to us all and the love you have for her will shine through when you share. You and your family are in this internet stranger friend’s prayers.
Lins @ http://goodbyemartha.blogspot.com
Lins’s last blog post..OHF – 04/13/09
Shannon says:
You and your family are in my prayers.
Nicole Bateman says:
You can do it…and you’ll be so glad you did. Praying today for your family.
Vanessa says:
Heather,
As I imagine so many people did, I first heard about your story a few days ago from a friend of a friend. I have spent the past 3 days immersing myself in yours and Maddie’s story. I don’t know you, but my heart is absolutely broken for you and Mike. There are no words that will make this okay…but I want to add one more voice telling you what an inspiration you and Maddie are and will continue to be. I’ve never seen a child go through as much as she has, yet retain such a sparkling smile and personality…she’s truly an angel. Reading her story has changed me.
Blessings to you, Mike and Maddie, and all of your family that is hurting so much right now. I’m thinking of you and wishing you strength today (and typing with fingers wearing purple nail polish:)
Insta-Mom says:
I hope as you look ot on the sea of faces, both familiar and unfamiliar, honoring your daughter that you know that ever last bit of our strength is there to lift you up. But I’m certain you won’t need it. Because Maddie was strong because you and Mike showed her how to be.
Sending you love.
Insta-Mom’s last blog post..It’s a giveaway!
pgoodness says:
Heather, I’m thinking of you and Mike today, praying that Maddie’s spirit gets you through this day and all the days to come. You are amazing and strong, and while I’m sure it means little coming from someone you’ve never met, I am so PROUD of you for getting up there. Maddie will be smiling down on you, loving the sea of purple she has inspired. Much love from me and my Mike today and always.
Dawn says:
Heather, you can do it. I am just so, so sorry that you have to. I am thinking of your family today, as I have been all week. I am wearing my purple for Maddie, but with a heavy heart that another mother has to endure anything like this. There is no way to make sense of it.
Sending you all of my love, and prayers for peace.
Dawn
Dawn’s last blog post..In Memory
Tammy K says:
You will not be alone when you speak. God will be right beside you holding your hand. Many prayers are being said for you and your family!
Kate says:
Prayers for you and your family today and every day after, Heather. I’m so, SO sorry.
“If you’re going through hell, keep going.” ~ Sir Winston Churchill
Kate’s last blog post..Motherhood
Stefanie says:
I cannot even imagine what you are going through. I looked at my 18month old daughter this morning and wondered, what would I do with out her?
Thank you for being the strongest mother that I know.
Kirsten says:
My thoughts are with you and Mike today. I’m sure Maddie will be listening to your every word and smiling her gorgeous smile.
Kirsten’s last blog post..Every Little Bit Helps
Wendy Bonzo says:
My thoughts and prayers will be with you today. May a loving Heavenly Father hold you in his hand and love you today and all the days ahead. You have touched my heart with your accounts of your family. We will all love Maddie forever! Bless you today especially.
Wendy Bonzo’s last blog post..Speaking of Blogs
Karen Sugarpants says:
Huge hugs to you and Mike. xoxo
Karen Sugarpants’s last blog post..The Things I Wish I Could Say To You
Jessi says:
Maddie got her strength from you and Mike, Heather. She will hear you and she will be proud of you. My thoughts and prayers are with you all today.
Jessi’s last blog post..Madeline Alice Spohr 11/11/07-04/07/09
maggie, dammit says:
We’re all with you today, whispering your names. We’re here.
Amy says:
You don’t know me, but I’m in Indiana wearing purple today to remember Maddie and to support you and your husband.
Amber says:
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your loved ones today. My boys and I are wearing purple in honor of your Madeline. My husband, who cannot wear purple at work, is carrying a slip of purple paper with Maddie’s name on it in the pocket over his heart. I know that you will do beautifully today. I wish that there was some way that I could take some of your burden. The least I can do is let you know that I am keeping your family close to my heart. *BIG HUGS* from an internet stranger in Florida.
XoXo
Amber
Kaylyn says:
I spoke at my mother’s funeral in January. I didn’t think I was going to be able to do it, but I told myself that I would regret the decision not to. I forced myself to walk up in front of everyone that I loved and poor my heart out. I did it, and I am SO glad.
It will be the most difficult thing that you will EVER have to do in your life, but I can assure you that you will not regret it.
I admire your strength greatly.
Jamie says:
My family and I
Jamie says:
My family and I are wearing purple for Maddie today. My heart is with you today, even though I am not there in person.
I have no doubt that you will be an amazing speaker at Maddie’s service. You are an amazing woman and a phenomenal mother. Maddie will be looking down on you with a smile and sending all of her bravery to you today.
*hugs*
Jamie’s last blog post..For Maddie
Karen says:
My prayers are with you! (((hugs)))
Karen’s last blog post..PLEASE HELP ME PRAY
Nicole Bateman says:
You can do it…and you’ll be so glad you did. Praying for you and your family.
Michelle Williamson says:
I am from the Uk, again another internet stranger my thoughts and prays are with you on this sad day.
Susan says:
I have no words, but I give you a little of my strength and a whole lot of prayers. Blessings.
Sue Belrose says:
When God calls our children
to dwell with Him above,
We mortals sometimes question
the wisdom of His love.
For no heartache compares with,
the death of one small child.
Who does so much to make our world,
seem so wonderful and mild.
Perhaps God tires of calling
the aged to His fold.
So He picks a rosebud
before it can grow old.
God knows how much we need them,
and so He takes but few.
To make the land of heaven
more beautiful to view.
Believing this is difficult
still somehow we must try.
The saddest word mankind knows
will always be Good-bye.
So when a little child departs,
we who are left behind,
Must realize God loves children.
Angels are hard to find!
I found this poem and am sending it to you with hopes of strength and perseverance for you and Mike.
Love,
M (elismsue)
Somewhat Ordinary says:
I’ve been following you silently over the past few months. I’m thinking of you today and know that you will have the strength because Maddie will help you through.
Miss Grace says:
You are about to do something that NO ONE should EVER have to do. I wish you and your family strength. I send you love.
Miss Grace’s last blog post..This truly has nothing to do with anything.
Michelle says:
You and Mike are in our thoughts and prayers!
Michelle’s last blog post..Feeding the Soul 4
Amy says:
I am so sorry for your loss. The thought of losing my daughter terrifies me every day. I think it’s wonderful that you will speak at her service…you are so brave. It’s a lovely way to tribute your daughter. My thoughts and prayers and with you and your family.
I’m not sure if you’re interested but I thought I’d leave a link to another blog of a woman who lost her daughter a year ago…she was close to Maddie’s age at the time of her death. It’s adailyscoop.blogspot.com
Bettina says:
What an unfathomable thing to have to face. But your daughter was a strong soul and she must have gotten that from you. You have been strong for her since the beginning and will continue to find strength from her. I wish I could say/do more, Maddie was a treasure and will remain one in so many people’s hearts.
Allyson/HBMomof2 says:
Heather,
You will be as brave as Maddie today. Many are standing behind you to lift you up, both at the chapel and across the country. No mother should have to do this, but you will never regret doing it. We are wearing purple in our household today and thinking and praying for both you and Mike.
Allyson
Rachel says:
I don’t know you. But it’s clear you were the best mother this your little girl could have ever had. Hold your head up high and be brave.
I’m wearing purple for Maddie today.
Sending love from London x
Michelle W says:
Although I never had the pleasure of meeting your beautiful family, and although I did not learn of your blog until after Maddie passed away, my heart has truly been aching for you and aching at the thought of that smile and those eyes no longer lighting up everything around her. I have cried many tears for you, your family and everyone who loves Maddie. Although I am a stranger, I nevertheless grieve at this tremendous loss.
WM says:
Heather, I’ve been praying so hard for you and Mike and your little angel!
WM’s last blog post..In memory of Maddie
Angie says:
I read your story today and know your grief. The death of our children is something that changes us forever. You will find strength you never imagined you had. Maddie will be holding your hand. As you travel on your journey with grief know that there are others of us traveling with you and that we are always willing to listen. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Angie
Megan’s Mama 2/29/02 – 5/16/02
Angie’s last blog post..Eye Surgery
Joe @ IrrationalDad says:
I agree that it should be you and/or Mike that speaks. And if (when) you cry, it won’t matter. Everyone there will listen to every word, every hitch of breath, and every sob from the person who has just suffered the worst loss imaginable. You will eventually get through it.
We love you and Mike and Maddie up here in Indiana. Our deepest sympathies and thoughts are with you.
Liz@VioletPosy says:
No mother should have to do what you are going to tomorrow, there are no words. You are as brave as your beautiful daughter x
Liz@VioletPosy’s last blog post..Small Space Entertaining
Kelly says:
You are incredible. I am never at a loss for words, but that is what keeps goig through my mind. You are just an amazing Mom, strong and loving. I never knew you before but I was brought into your world from another blog and I have thought about you and your family non-stop. I will be thinking of you for some time to come. The videos, the pictures, your baby Madeline melts my heart and reminds me of what a person who truly lives in the moment is like. That smile and those eyes will live in my memory! I just wish I can give my kids a fraction of the happiness you brought Madeline.
Kristen says:
You are amazing, an inspiration. My thoughts and prayers are you with you, Maddie, Mike and all your family.
Amy says:
My girls are wearing purple in honor of your sweet, brave Maddie. Another distant stranger sends their strength and peace to you and your family.
Jess says:
I don’t know you and just read about this via another site today. But here I sit in my office, bawling. Your daughter is and always has been an angel. I’m so sorry for your loss. My heart is with you and your beautiful family. No one knew her better than you and I think it’s heroic that you’re speaking. You’re in my prayers. Much love,
A stranger in VA
Emily in Michigan says:
I know you can do it! You are amazing not just for what you are going through now but for the Mommy you have always been for Maddie. I have followed your blog for awhile but never had the words to comment until now. My thoughts are with you more than you could imagine. All the best to you and your family as you put one foor in front of the other. You are truly an inspiration.
Emily in Michigan’s last blog post..Happy Easter!
Robin says:
I am praying for you and your husband. I just wanted you to know that Maddie touched me, and I have been thinking of her everyday. I am wearing purple today.
tara says:
i only learned of your story after maddie passed and my heart has been aching since then. i am wearing purple today in honor of maddie and my heart will be with you today and from now on. maddie touched something in me that i didn’t know was there. you and your family are amazing – words cannot express how sorry i am for your loss of your amazing, beautiful daughter.
Kelly Burton says:
We just ‘found’ you today. We are praying, donating, and spreading the word. Sweet Maddie was blessed, blessed, blessed to have you as her Mama. I cannot imagine your grief or strength, but am calling your name to God. She is safe in His arms, and so are you.
Suzanne says:
I am another stranger who recently found your blog by way of Alexa’s tribute at Flotsam. As I poured over your hilarious and moving posts, and viewed every video and nearly every picture of your daughter, it became apparant that your family is very special. Maddie’s other-worldly beauty, her spunk, and her incandescent smile are utterly captivating. The emotional outpouring from thousands of strangers reflects what you already know — there was just something about her.
I am so sorry and devastated for your loss. I hope these hundreds of posts are a palliative, however weak. We all want to take away your pain and help you on your journey through grief. We believe in you. We believe that you will honor Maddie in the best possible way when you speak today. And we hope, and believe, that you will honor her in all the days that follow by living well despite losing a part — the most precious part — of yourself. You are a wonderful mother and a beautiful person. Peace and love from Washington DC.
Melanie @ Mel, A Dramatic Mommy says:
You can and you will, and you will do it with all the strength and grace you’ve shown on this blog. I am praying for you, Mike and Maddie.
Melanie
Melanie @ Mel, A Dramatic Mommy’s last blog post..Walking for Maddie Spohr
Kirsten says:
You’ve got thousands of people standing behind you. From America, to Australia, and even down here in South Africa, we’re all giving you strength. You don’t have to do this alone. Maddie would be very proud of her brave, brave mom.
Kirsten’s last blog post..Yay, technology! (not.)
Amy Stone says:
Maddie is the epitomy of bravery and strength and that will live on through you and Mike. I know you can do it Heather, let Maddie lead the way. She’ll be with you every second.
Amy in Oregon
Cinthia says:
I am currently sitting in Starbucks, reading this and trying not to cry. I am so heartbroken about Maddie and amazed at your strength. You are an amazing woman. I am not wearing purple (because I don’t own any purple clothing), but my heart is purple today. Maddie will never be forgotten.
Marni Greenberg says:
You are an inspiration, Heather. My thoughts and prayers go out to you, Mike and your entire family. I’m proudly wearing purple today in honor of Maddie and know you will not falter today. All my love.
candy hunter says:
When you have time and are able read A Daily Scoop blogspot, my heart cries with yours . May our Heavenly Father bless you
Aimee Greeblemonkey says:
You can do it, lady. Yes you can.
We’re all thinking of you and Maddie is too.
Aimee Greeblemonkey’s last blog post..Life With Bryan
amanda says:
you can. and you will. and little miss will be smiling down, her mega watt smile ever so proud. thinking of you today….
amanda’s last blog post..rainy day artist
badassdad05/michael says:
We’ll hold you up as best we can. You can do it.
badassdad05/michael’s last blog post..badassdad05: @SarcasticMomLC Jealous. Our walk registration is at 7 effing AM! Why?
TC says:
Yes, you can.
I’m nobody you know (though I’m in LA, too), and I didn’t know you before your story was everywhere, and it feels somehow wrong to speak up only in the midst of tragedy…but at the same time, it feel more wrong NOT to let you know that even total strangers are thinking of you today as you something unfathomably brave and even more unfathomably sad.
You can. I know you can.
TC’s last blog post..Step Away
Rachel says:
I know you can do it! Maddie got her strength from you and Mike. I’ll be wearing purple for Maddie today and thinking of you and your family. Sending love and support your way…
Cindy says:
You are such an inspiration to moms everywhere. Thank you for sharing Maddie with all of us. Praying, wearing purple and shedding tears for you today in rainy Illinois.
Kristin says:
Sending you and Mike so much love. My girls and I are wearing purple in honor of Maddie.
Kristin’s last blog post..Thinking
merlotmom says:
You can do it. You are strong and brave and Maddie will hear you. My love to you and Mike today and everyday.
merlotmom’s last blog post..Give Me The Grateful Life – Monday
Mandy G. says:
You have a strength and a courage that I’m not sure I would possess in your stead.
My heart is with your family at this time.
Mandy G.’s last blog post..Brotherly Love
Penny says:
praying here today that Maddie and God will be glorified. My heart breaks for you, my arms are aching for you, I know that you gave the perfect tribute to your babies life. My heart soars with the vounter for the March of Dimes….. so many people were touchd by Maddie.
Wearing purple here in Ohio….
Penny’s last blog post..Boy, am I in a funk????
Penny says:
praying here today that Maddie and God will be glorified. My heart breaks for you, my arms are aching for you, I know that you gave the perfect tribute to your babies life. My heart soars with the vounter for the March of Dimes….. so many people were touchd by Maddie.
Wearing purple here in Ohio….
Mandy G. says:
I’m having trouble publishing the comment… I hope this goes through.
You have a strength and a courage that I’m not sure I would possess in your stead.
My heart is with your family at this time.
Mandy G.’s last blog post..Brotherly Love
Karen says:
You are an amazing mother. You and your family are in my families thoughts and prayers.
Karen’s last blog post..The only thing I have to say
Nydia says:
I don’t know what to say except I’m ever so sorry …. There are no words that exist in our language to describe this kind of pain and this kind of sorrow and condolences …
Nydia’s last blog post..Life is but a Dream …
Beth at I Should Be Folding Laundry says:
You are SO brave. I hope you’ll be able to feel her giving you the strength that you’ll need, not just while you speak but always.
Keep writing. We’ll be listening.
Beth at I Should Be Folding Laundry’s last blog post..Easterly
Kristin says:
You and your family are in my prayers. I will be sending all the strength vibes I can your way today. Love and hugs from Indianapolis.
Kristin’s last blog post..We Are All Connected
Kris says:
You ma’am are amazing. breathtakingly, unbelievably amazing. I’m not sure that I could be as brave and strong as you’ve been. My heart is with you & Mike and all your family and friends today! Myself and all my daughters are wearing purple today in honor of your beautiful angel!
* TONYA * says:
I’m so very sorry for your loss. I have seen so much love and outpouring of support from around the blogging community over the past couple of days. You can do this. It will be the hardest thing you have to do, but lean on all of those around you. They will hold you up during this difficult time.
* TONYA *’s last blog post..EASTER SUNDAY
Jodi says:
I pray you will find the strength and the words to share and honor your Maddie.
I pray that you find comfort in your family and your friends.
I pray that every time the sunshines, you know that is your Maddie…for you.
I am sorry for your loss. I couldn’t begin to imagine the sadness. I am just sorry.
melody says:
Love, support and a prayer from an unknown friend.
melody’s last blog post..SOOC Saturday Morning
Leslie says:
Yes, you can do this. I have done the same thing and it is the hardest thing but it can be a loving thing as well. One final gift.
We have never met, I have never posted here, but my heart is with you today and my prayers were mightily with your Maddie on Easter Sunday and today. My sweater is purple today in her honor. I am so very sorry.
califmom says:
You can do it because it’s what we do. We just do it.
califmom’s last blog post..How Do You Do It? You Just Do
JustShireen says:
Absolutely you can. And Maddie will hear you and be so proud. Love to you all.
Kari (heartatpreschool) says:
You can do it, because Maddie will be there, holding you up.
Kari (heartatpreschool) says:
You can do it, because Maddie will be there, holding you up.
Kari (heartatpreschool)’s last blog post..Hoppy Easter
Elizabeth says:
I am praying for you today. You are a mom, you are strong. You can do this. You have already done it here in your blog. I am truly sorry and wish I could offer you more.
sierra says:
YOU are strong. Maddie was courageous, yes, but she drew on your strength and beauty as well. Between all the love surrounding you and Mike and Maddie right now, and the courage within you that you know must be there…you will do a beautiful, perfect job. One that Maddie can be proud of. She was, no IS, lucky to have you for a mama (and Mike for her papa), and she will never ever be forgotten.
Thank you for sharing so much of your heart and your sweet girl with us.
We love you, Spohrs.
igmom says:
Like so many who have written before me, you and I have never met. I only found out about Maddie yesterday, and wish I had found your blog sooner.
No words can express how sorry I am for your loss. Nothing I can do or say may make a difference, but please know your, Mike’s and Maddie’s story has made a profound impact on not just my life, but many who have written.
We all know that you can do this. You have the love of your family and friends and most of all, Maddie. She may no longer be here on Earth in person, but she will always be with you in spirit. Watching over you and Mike.
My heart and prayers go out to you both. She was a beautiful little girl with big blue eyes that will always have a place in your heart.
You are an amazing woman. You can do this!!
Charlsie says:
Today my family is wearing Purple for Maddie. (Atlanta, GA)
anna says:
You will be able to do this for Maddie, and she will be watching down over you and Mike. You have the love and support of thousands and hopefully that will help you both get through a heartwrenching time. I’ll be thinking of you today, as will many others whose lives you have touched through your blog. Thank you for sharing Maddie with us – she will be missed by many.
anna’s last blog post..No time for flickr mom, this will have to do.
Susan says:
I spent hours reading your blog last night both laughing and crying and feel as if I know you and Maddie. I’m so sorry for your loss and know she is in a better place now!
Thrifty Living Mom says:
I know you can do it Heather. I’m certain Maddie is already proud of you. My prayers continue for you and your husband. May God provide you with comfort.
Thrifty Living Mom’s last blog post..The Best Freebie You Should Get
Tiffany says:
You can do it! My prayers are still with you both. God bless you.
Kay says:
You CAN do it. It may not be amazingly eloquent, but whatever you say will convey your love, your devotion, and the depth of your pain.
Maddie was well loved for the short time she was here, the look of pure joy on her face in the photos shows that. As for her strength and courage, she was blessed to have inherited that from her parents.
My thoughts and prayers are with you today, as they have been since I first heard. Know that there will be thousands of “unknown” friends silently supporting you as you do this today.
Kay’s last blog post..The basis of optimism is sheer terror
April says:
I believe in you. I live in Kentucky and I hope you can feel the support, even from across the country.
cindy w says:
You can do it. I’m sure that whatever comes out of your mouth when you get up there, it’ll be genuine and heartfelt, and that’s all that matters.
And, you know, if you decide beforehand that you need a handful of prescription-strength sedatives to get you through it, I’m sure there are going to be at least several dozen of your blogger friends there who can hook you up.
We love you guys, and we’re sending lots of prayers and happy thoughts from the east coast.
cindy w’s last blog post..feeling purple
Kristabella says:
I know you can do it sweetie. I believe in you. You will have hundreds and thousands of people supporting you, even if they aren’t there in person.
Love you guys and thinking about you and Mike today and every day.
Kristabella’s last blog post..Sadness
Anne says:
I’m so very sorry for your loss. Words cannot express how sorry I am. I lost one of my twins to SIDS 3 years ago. If there is anything you need or if you just want to vent or talk to someone, please feel free to email me at advidal@texaschildrens.org
Maddie says:
From one Madeline to another – you know you will find a huge amount of strength from somewhere. Dig deep, be strong, so many people are thinking of you all.
Much love, from Australia
ash says:
you are amazing and strong!
ash’s last blog post..Sickness Of The Century!
Catherine Lucas says:
I was driving this afternoon (tuesday) around in the North yorkshire Dales, in the North of England. All the trees are in bloom now, and the sheep have lambs. I looked at them and thought about this day for you… I thought about your family, and I wonder what happened… She was so well on her way. Yes, a little sorrow baby, that needed lots of care, but she got it and she was florishing…
I looked at the lambs today and my heart cried for you…
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Kate says:
Thinking of you today, and delurking to tell you that I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet Maddie. I can only imagine the pain that you are going through, and wish I could take that pain away. Lots of love, hugs, and prayers are being sent your way today, and everyday.
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Bellamomma says:
I don’t know how you’ll do this, but I have faith that God will hold your hand through it. I wish to God you didn’t have to do this … I wish there was a way to take it all back & hit the reset button, start over and just not have this happen.
Just know that everyone there will be supporting you & many, many of us who can’t be there will be supporting you as well.
Jennifer says:
You have been in my thoughts so much over the last week, and especially today.
Please know that a million thoughts and prayers and wishes of love for your beautiful family are with you.
LizzieKate in MN says:
Please know that there are many people that will be standing with you in spirit through your very difficult day today. My baby boy is up there with green wings (according to his little sister) and I know your darling has her purple wings! Thoughts and prayers for you and your beautiful family.
Amy says:
I live on the other coast, but I’m thinking and praying for you and you’re family. I’m wearing my purple today in honor of Maddie.
Alice says:
You and your family have been in my thoughts and prays especially today. May God bless you and your family and help all of you to find peace.
Carrie says:
I’m praying for you today especially.
Elaine C. says:
I’ve only recently found your site, because several of the blogs I read have mentioned Maddie and your family. I know there is an entire community behind you right now, and I’m praying for you all. I’m sorry I can’t be there to physically show my support, but I wore purple today anyway.
Kelly says:
I pray that God carried you through this day and gave you the strength to do this for your daughter. She is a beautiful little girl.
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Midwest Mommy says:
Right now at this very moment you may be speaking. I wish I could have been there to show my support for you and Mike. My heart is breaking for you. You are a brave and wonderful mother. Maddie will be smiling down on you and Mike today as you speak.
Ever since I heard the news a week ago today I have not wanted to believe it, part of me still doesn’t. I am with you in prayers today and Maddie will forever hold a piece of my heart.
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Amy says:
Those of us who can’t be there today will be with you in spirit to honor your beautiful daughter.
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Mrslala says:
Thinking of you, your family and Maddie today. ((hugs))
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Mary in AZ says:
I’ve been praying for you all day today and each day since I heard the sad news last week. You will be in my thoughts and prayers with each new day. May God comfort you as only He can right now. I can’t even type this past the tears, but I am praying comfort to surround you…
Stacey says:
A family in Vermilion, OH is wearing purple in honor of your beautiful daughter. Thank you for sharing Maddie with all of us. Her powerful life has taught me more than I can express at a time where most words must seem empty. Her brief life has made an everlasting impression on my heart, and I am so very sorry for your unimaginable loss.
Amanda says:
Think of you and your family right now….you are all in my prayers. God Bless sweet Maddie.
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Sarah says:
You will … you might BE, right now… you and Mike will be strengthened and emboldened by the love of Maddie, by God who put her in your arms and hearts to hold, and the desire and need we all feel to honor her precious and short life. No one could do it like the two of you can. All my strength, all my love.
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Kimmie says:
Love you sweet Heather. And love to Mike too. Big huge hugs. I know that the service is starting right at this time and oh how I wish and longed to have been there. Please know that my heart is with you and my prayers are strengthening you. I would want to speak too, she would want you to speak for her, you are her Momma…now and forever. Loves, loves, loves, loves. –Kimmie
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Jenni says:
As I write this on the East Coast, on the West Coast, you are participating in the service in celebration of Maddie’s life. I have only just “met” Maddie today–what a vibrant light she was, and is and will continue to be.
Look how many people she brought together in her short, bright life–I know that you will speak from your heart and do your daughter proud. I wish you and your whole family love and peace.
From my heart,
Jenni
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Kelly Olonoh says:
The whole situation is unreal to me as well, and I never knew sweet Madeline except through your blog. I can’t imagine what it is like for you. I know you can summon the strength, courage and peace to pay tribute to your daughter. And from here on out, I know you will never understand why this tragedy has happened but I hope you can find a way to bring good out of it. Blessings to you and Mike.
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Sarah Abernathy says:
My heart breaks for your loss of your beautiful child. I’m sure her service will be beautiful and that your tribute to her will be moving beyond words.
My deepest condolences,
Sarah A.
Louise says:
I don’t know you either, but I ran across your blog a few days ago via another. You have all been on my mind ever since. Your courageous is tremendous. God bless all of you.
Kari (heartatpreschool) says:
SO MANY people are thinking about you right now, at this very moment, and at so many other moments every day. I just know that you were able to speak the words you needed to speak for Maddie.
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Mom24@4evermom says:
You and Mike have been in my heart ever since I heard last week. I’m so, so sorry.
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Ana says:
I have thought about your family all day today. I believe Maddie’s service is going on right now, and, in tribute, I am watching beautiful video of her on youtube – laughing, smiling, “singing.” Gorgeous! You are a courageous mother, and I admire you. With deepest sympathy to you and your husband.
melanie says:
HUGS!!! Once again I am soooo sorry for your loss. *hugs*
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jodifur says:
All my thoughts are with. I am so, so sorry.
becky says:
I am so sorry for your loss. I stumbled across your blog via Matt Logelin’s. Your daughter was a miracle.
Your family is in my thoughts and prayers
Leita says:
Light and Love to you and your family today and every day. You all have been in my thoughts and prayers all day today.
Tracy says:
You were amazing. Such bravery from both you and Mike. We know were Maddie got it from. I also stumbled to your blog via Matt Logelin’s. I am very blessed to be able to feel all the love that was in the chapel today. You, Mike and Maddie are special people. The three of you will always be in my thoughts and prayers.
Mermanda says:
Heather,
I wish I could have been there to celebrate Maddie’s life with you and Mike. You and your family are on my mind constantly. The dedications you both wrote were some of the most touching words I ever read. You did Maddie proud, I’m sure.
Love,
Amanda
Kim Wencl says:
Mike & Heather – you have my deepest sympathies in the loss of your beloved Maddie. I know your pain, I lost my daughter Elizabeth (Liz) on 9-20-03. I was privileged to have her physical presence in my life for 20 yrs. But what I want to say to you today is that I know that Maddie will continue to reach out to you now, to let you know that she lives on. She is your angel and will still play a very special role in your lives. If you would like to learn more about my journey with Liz please check out my blog. Always remember – love never dies – and the bond we all share with those we love is never broken … not even by death. http://kimwencl.wordpress.com
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Christine says:
My heart breaks for you, I am deeply sorry for your loss. It may not be much comfort but she is now at peace with God and all her angels. Remember the good memories, they will live in your heart forever.
Amanda says:
So many times over the past week, I have tried to think about what it must be like to be in your shoes. I honestly cannot fathom it. You are so brave and so strong just like your sweet baby girl.
You and your husband were the first thought on my mind yesterday morning. I have been praying so much for you. You are loved by so many. Maddie is loved by so many.
Amanda says:
PS – Brooklyn and I wore our purple for Maddie yesterday. You’re in our thoughts and prayers in Texas.
Eunice Sarmet says:
YES, YOU CAN DO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO. I’M SURE. A BIG HUG FROM RIO DE JANEIRO, BRAZIL
Peggy says:
You are the strongest person ever. Even if you do not feel it. Maddie must be so proud to have you as her mommy.
God Bless You. I am so sorry for your loss.
Stacey says:
You and Mike and Maddie are in my heart and in my prayers every day! She is a blessing and has touched so many peoples’ lives…..
iceehot says:
I’m so very sorry for your tremendous loss. Lots of love to you …
Farah says:
You can and you will. May God grant you peace, strength and patience.
Glo says:
Blessings to you both for giving your daughter a Life Well-Lived!
Wishing you all the love and peace you can hold! Glo
kgirl says:
My heart is broken for you. I am so very, very sorry to hear of the loss of your beautiful daughter.
It has taken days to be able to log on to tell you that – that is how much this community rallies, and offers love and support. You have mine as well.
feefifoto says:
You are a brave and loving woman and you should not have been given this burden. May you find peace and tranquility.
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Al_Pal says:
Oh god. *sniff*
You’re amazing. My thoughts are with you.
MelissaQ says:
I dont know what to say. I pray for your baby and for your strength. Im so sorry for your unimaginable loss.
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the RaMbLeR says:
I’m so sorry for your loss! My heart goes out to you all and was thinking of you … for you to make it through the services for Maddie.
It is amazing how many people Maddie has brought together…and the strength you and Mike have shown.
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