After the March of Dimes walk in April, a young woman came up to me and gave me a beautiful drawing she’d done of Madeline:
At the time, I was being pulled in many different directions by March of Dimes dignitaries, and I wasn’t able to get the artist’s name or information. After I wrote about her on my blog and posted the image on flickr, my friends and readers helped me track her (Gabby) down, and I was able to thank her profusely for such a wonderful gift.
At the beginning of last week, Mike and I met up with Gabby, and she gave us another gorgeous creation:
Just like the pencil drawing, this watercolor captures Madeline so perfectly – her happy smile, her twinkling eyes. I’ve been staring at it for days. Thank you so much, Gabby, for using your talent on images of my daughter.
The day after Maddie’s birthday, Mike and I participated in a symposium at UCLA for pediatric doctors and nurses. Before the our session started I stood off to the side of the auditorium talking with some of the nurses I’d come to know and love when I saw someone standing off to my side. I turned and looked, and it was her: the nurse. I walked to her and we hugged and cried. She sat in the front during the symposium, and when I felt uncertain I looked to where she sat and felt comfort. After my session was over, we stood outside the auditorium and we talked and caught up. I told her about Binky and she told me about her engagement. She told me what Maddie meant to her, and that she’d read my post about her. Her name is Sally. Every day when I flash back to those three hours in the hospital, I feel her strong hand holding mine.
We have been sent some amazing things and had some amazing relationships start through the tragedy of losing my daughter. Slowly I will thank everyone personally. But please know how much you all mean to me, to Mike, to our family. We are so thankful for all your kindness.
Anne Y says:
Such beautiful pictures of Maddie. I would love to have Gabby do some work for me if you could share my info with her.
I am happy to hear that your nurse…The Nurse now has a name and that she was and still is able to comfort you.
.-= Anne Y´s last blog ..I Survived Christmas 2009 Part 1 =-.
Kate @ UpsideBackwards says:
Oh, I’m so glad you got to talk to Sally!
Maddie has touched a lot of lives all over the world, thanks to your words Heather and Mike. Thank you for opening her life and yours to us.
.-= Kate @ UpsideBackwards´s last blog ..Iceblock =-.
Mary Jo says:
Wow, what a beautiful image of Maddie. I’m so glad you were able to see her nurse again, and get her name. To Gabby and Sally… God bless you both.
Laura says:
Yes, this!!!!
Sidnie says:
Heather,
I have tears in my eyes. I know finding Sally and knowing her name is such a comfort to you. I hope you can stay connected and in touch with her.
Gabby’s drawings of Maddie are beautiful. I am always drawn to Maddie’s eyes. They’re so vibrant and full of life.
Blessings to you. And prayers.
.-= Sidnie´s last blog ..You know it’s going to be a bad day when… =-.
Erica says:
O Heather I have tears falling down my face reading today’s post. I remember seeing the drawing of Maddie a while ago and being so moved by it and the portrait of Maddie is just stunning, it captures her features and personality so perfectly. What a beautiful gift for you and Mike to treasure. And what a wonderful way for Gabby to share her talent. I am so moved to read how you saw your special nurse again and had the chance to talk to her about your precious girl. You have some very special people in your lives and you are loved by so many people from all over the world, people who have never even met you – its no wonder though, you are an amazing lady. O Heather, I think of you all every day, I am so moved by you all. Your precious Maddie has made such an impact on my life, she really is amazing, just like her parents, just like her grandparents.
Sending you a big hug from afar.
Erica
Maddie says:
I just knew you would find her again to be able to thank her properly. much love, Mads xxx
Seraphim says:
Those portraits are a stunning recapture of Maddie’s charisma. And I am so glad you met your nurse. I am one of many inspired by your beautiful daughter. When I ran in a fun run here in Perth earlier this year I wore a purple t shirt especially in honour of your daughter. She is inspiring so many to do and be better. I know you’d rather have her with you but I hope you find comfort in the great goodness she engenders. Hugs xxx
Cinthia says:
How beautiful! And you found THE nurse, how awesome! You’re wonderful, Nurse Sally!
Lauren P. says:
AMAZING!!!!
.-= Lauren P.´s last blog ..elliottsmommy: SERIOUSLY?! Okay, now I’m pissed. =-.
catherine lucas says:
So glad the nurse found you, grin… It must mean a lot to meet up again after sharing that horrid experience. Glad you two got the chance.
The paintings are wonderful, Gabby really has a gift for drawing, and she also has a gift sharing with you.
Been through a couple of more pics today, and this one
http://www.flickr.com/photos/plasticcandy/3613278466/in/set-72157603209551757/
really tugs at my heart. It shows how tiny Madeline really was…
So glad that you have all those photographs of her… And the paintings must be a wonderful addition!
.-= catherine lucas´s last blog ..Post Christmas Pictures… =-.
Laura says:
Thank goodness for Sally. I am s glad you found her!! I am also so glad she read your post! I am so in awe of you and the fact that you are able to honor so many people that have touched your life and the life of your angel baby.
Thank goodness for Gabby, too. She was able to capture the beauty and joy of that amazing and stunning daughter of yours.
Hugs and prayers for you and your entire family, today and always.
xoxo
Laura says:
Oops- I meant to say that I am SO glad that you found her. I guess I need some sleep- and so do you, Mama Spohr!!!!
J in eire says:
Wow, Gabby is so very talented, that is truly a gift to be able to bring such comfort to you in your loss. In this world where all around us we hear stories and see news pictures of how cruel and inhumane people treat each other, where the basic goodness in people goes unreported, by sharing these stories, it’s a pebble on the water – the ripple effect – reminding us all, look for the good, and you will find it, look how you did this, even through the loss of Maddie….So glad you and your nurse found each other again, you’ve shared an experience that no one outside of it can truly know, so glad she was there for you.
Scary Mommy says:
I remember when you posted the first one. The second is even more beautiful and amazing and really does capture your girl.
Krissa says:
I am SO happy that you found Gabby and Sally. About a month ago I remembered the drawing and wondered if you’d ever found Gabby, although I didn’t remember her name at the time. Reading this brought tears to my eyes especially the part about when you were speaking and looked to Sally. The enormous love that Madeline brought with her to this world lives on and will always live on. Her time here physically was too-brief, but her essence and the love she brought with her will always be here in so many hearts and minds. Thank you and Mike for sharing her with all of us. She makes a difference in many lives and in many ways.
Krissa says:
Even though it is so obvious that it goes without saying, I did want to say (and forgot when I commented before) that the watercolor by Gabby is absolutely beautiful. She sure did capture Maddie’s inner and outer beauty. Totally, wonderfully beautiful.
amanda says:
One thing your blog does is illuminate the fact that there ARE good, even GREAT people in this world – it’s wonderful that you got to meet these two wonderful people that have helped you along the way. Beautiful artwork, by the way.
xo from CT,
Amanda
.-= amanda´s last blog ..time for some pics. =-.
Lynn from For Love or Funny says:
Wow, Gabby is gifted. What beautiful portraits of Maddie.
.-= Lynn from For Love or Funny´s last blog ..I kept a 190 pound male from his true love =-.
Sue says:
Oh my word,,how perfectly Gabby has captured the beauty of precious, little, Maddie! Those portraits are absolutely priceless; I’m sure. Thank you to both Gabby & Sally for making this world a better place. We all definitely need a Gabby & a Sally in our lives. I can only imagine what you have come to mean to Heather & Mike.You are two very, very, special angels.
Kelly says:
How amazing to have found Sally! Gabby’s painting is beautiful, what a wonderful gift.
.-= Kelly´s last blog ..But He Forgot My E-Pod… =-.
Amanda M. says:
I can’t believe how lively the eyes are in that painting! I was first drawn to this blog because of Maddie’s eyes. Wow!
I’m so happy you got to see your nurse again and find out her name!
ClassyFabSarah says:
I think God sends angels like Gabby and Sally around just when we need to find them – don’t you think?
.-= ClassyFabSarah´s last blog ..Christmas Goodies, Christmas Blues =-.
mary c says:
I’m glad you found them both. And I hope you continue to run into the people that helped you and mean so much to you.
Gabby, you are a great artist.
Sally, you are a great nurse.
charlane says:
Isn’t it wonderful to find someone, when things, for once, come together and you are able to tell them just what they meant to you in person. Saying Thank You provides such a good feeling and has such a powerful effect.
.-= charlane´s last blog ..YAY CHRISTMAS! =-.
Christine says:
How wonderful that you found them both.
What beautiful images of your girl. She was/is such a gift.
Julie says:
Absolutely beautiful. I am moved to tears…your daughter is beautiful.
Andria says:
She’s so beautiful…
.-= Andria´s last blog ..One Wanting Another =-.
jen says:
Those drawings are amazing! What a wonderful gift for both of you.
.-= jen´s last blog ..what on earth do we do now? =-.
Midwest mommy says:
Wow, that is amazing.
.-= Midwest mommy´s last blog ..I now know Victoria’s Secret. =-.
Karen Chatters says:
Those pictures of Maddie are so beautiful!!
I’m so glad that you found Sally. I’m sure it meant a great deal to both of you to meet again and be able to talk.
Small blessings that you certainly deserve many of.
.-= Karen Chatters´s last blog ..The Post-Christmas Blahs =-.
Laura says:
I am so glad you saw her again.
Mary says:
Maddie gave and got more love in her short life than some people get in decades of living. She sounds like she was such a blessing for everyone she touched in life and shes been a blessing for many more people since that horrible day. What a wonderful thing to have seen Sally again on the day after Maddie’s birthday; I’m glad that brought you comfort. Gabby’s work is lovely.
AmazingGreis says:
What amazing art work!!! Gabby is definitely talented. We love you, Mike, Maddie & Binky. Just know I’m here if you ever need anything!!
.-= AmazingGreis´s last blog ..Merry Christmas to all… =-.
Deborah says:
That painting is absolutely GORGEOUS! What a gift to treasure!
.-= Deborah´s last blog ..New Drawing =-.
Gemini-Girl says:
wow. just wow.
.-= Gemini-Girl´s last blog ..Tai =-.
kbreints says:
Wow. Gabbie is very talented. Those are just gorgeous pictures!
.-= kbreints´s last blog ..Real Cowboy =-.
Rebecca says:
I can’t get over how absolutely perfect that new painting of maddie is. it takes your breath away. so beautiful.
.-= Rebecca´s last blog ..Crazy? Best thing ever? =-.
Andrea says:
Absolutely amazing!! So beautiful!!!!! I hope you have a great rest of the week
Andrea
Jamie says:
The best thing about Maddie, I think, is that her spirit is so HUGE that she continues to be a part in your life. Through all kinds of means.
.-= Jamie´s last blog ..This reads like beat poetry =-.
FPIESmommy says:
Wow. Those are both stunning. What a beautiful thing to be given. I am so so glad that you found Sally.
xo
Lindsay says:
So glad the artist and nurse now have names! Thank you to Gabby and Sally from everyone for being so wonderful to the Spohrs!
.-= Lindsay´s last blog ..Birthday Presents & A Big Shopping List =-.
punkinmama says:
Wow, such great talent! What a wonderful gift for you and Mike.
Rebecca says:
What a talented artist. And I remember reading the post about the nurse. She’s a talented nurse. You are just as talented. You’re an amazing writer that connects with every reader in a different way.
.-= Rebecca´s last blog ..Crazies on Craigslist =-.
Carrie Montag says:
Wow… Gabby has a wonderful gift, and I am so happy for you two that she was able to capture Maddie so perfectly. It is like you can see right thru into her soul.
All the Best,
Carrie
Kristin says:
Capturing the energy and spirit of someone like Maddie can be so difficult but Gabby did an amazing job. She is so talented. Wow
.-= Kristin´s last blog ..Coming out of the literary closet =-.
Kate says:
what a gift to be able to see both of them. It’s mazing whatbeing on the internet can do, thanks again for sharing your story
Sarah R says:
Very beautiful depictions of Maddie. How touching that she felt inspired to create those. Lots of love your way…
.-= Sarah R´s last blog ..Happy holidays! =-.
MBKimmy says:
I am so glad you found her – Sally! That name is perfect for the great nurse and friend she was!
The (both) pictures are amazing – what a talented girl! Love them! THanks for sharing!
.-= MBKimmy´s last blog ..SnowBE’s =-.
thebonmama says:
I’ve always loved that first drawing, but that painting absolutely embodies Maddie! It captures her spirit, her light, her life. What an amazing blessing that is!
So glad you found Sally, too. I know what the right nurse can mean during the most difficult hours of your life. Mine is named Renay, and she will never know how much she meant to me and my husband.
.-= thebonmama´s last blog ..Merry Christmas, One and All =-.
Ms. Moon says:
I think maybe angels attract angels.
.-= Ms. Moon´s last blog ..The Pipes Didn’t Freeze And The Chickens Are Alive =-.
Jen L. says:
Beautiful. I am so glad you found Sally!
.-= Jen L.´s last blog ..What did YOU get for Christmas? =-.
Danielle says:
Absolutely beautiful pictures. Of course with that face, how could you go wrong! ?
Marti from Michigan says:
WOW, a very talented lady Gabby is! Those are beautiful, fantastic pictures of Maddie, I love both of them.
God bless you and your whole family. Keep cooking Binky!!!
Kristen McD says:
Oh, how amazing to have found both of those women… Wonderful.
missy says:
The world works in mysterious ways sometimes huh? I am so happy you found both of those women, I’d like to think Maddie had a hand in it, working her magic from above. I am sure she is most pleased. Love to you all.
Haley says:
How wonderful that you finally caught up with Sally!
I love those portraits! So beautiful just like sweet Maddie!
.-= Haley´s last blog ..Jackson Speak =-.
Dawn says:
I’m SO glad you found both women! They are both VERY talented people in their own respects.
Love to you all!
.-= Dawn´s last blog ..keeping it clean =-.
Glenda says:
Wow Heather, these paintings are beautiful…but of course… Maddie is beautiful! I’m SOOOO happy for you that you found THE nurse SALLY Here’s hoping for more great things coming your way…and a NEW YEAR filled w/ much JOY, LOVE, HEALTH AND HAPPINESS! you and Mike oh so deserve it! XXX
Leslie says:
Wow…the watercolor of Maddie is unbelievable! I am impressed with Gabby’s talent.
Also, so glad you met Sally.
Love to all of you.
Aunt Becky says:
I’m so happy for you. Gabby is incredible and I knew Sally must have been watching out for you. I would have been.
.-= Aunt Becky´s last blog ..Things That I Will Ban When I Rule The World. =-.
cj says:
beautiful people (Gabby and Sally) doing beautiful things for a beautiful family.
Michelle Pixie says:
Takes my breath away!
.-= Michelle Pixie´s last blog ..Outtakes =-.
Candice says:
Madeline is so gorgeous…it’s unbelievable.
Gabby is so talented and I’m so glad you know Sally’s name.
I’m so thankful you have so many caring people to lift you guys up.
.-= Candice´s last blog ..Christmas Eve =-.
Jenn says:
What a beautiful picture of Maddie. I can’t keep my eyes of it!!! She used such amazing colours!
I’m so glad you found Sally!! She sounds like an amazing person!!! How lucky she is to have gotten the opportunity to meet, play, care, love Maddie and get to know her awesome family as well.
I am very glad out of this profound tragedy you have found some blessings!
Thinking of you and your family always,
Jenn
Andrea's Sweet Life says:
That painting gives me CHILLS. There’s Maddie, gorgeous and full of zest. Gabby is truly talented.
I’m so glad you got to see Sally and catch up with her. And that you are able to be surrounded by people who love you so very much – and that you are able to be comforted, even if only a little bit.
I love you guys so, so much.
.-= Andrea’s Sweet Life´s last blog ..The Journey… =-.
amy2boys says:
I saw your post about Sally – I’m SO glad you found her. And the art work is stunning, and so special. I’m so glad you found the artist!!
Nicole says:
I am so glad you found your nurse. I sent the link of that post to all of my nurse friends, to remind them what a difference thay could make in someones life. Beautiful painting, what a lovely little girl.
Molly says:
Merry (belated) Christmas, Heather and Mike. I hope they all get easier from here. You guys are amazing.
Tina says:
Such beautiful pictures!!!!
I love the color one; Maddie’s eye lashes, little teeth, and smile. What a great Christmas gift
SO happy you found Sally. I bet she is glad too!!
Thanks for sharing the pictures made of Maddie, they are just perfect.
Alison says:
That painting is amazing. There aren’t words to describe how precious these gifts from Gabby are. And thanks for sharing them with us! And I’m so glad you found Nurse Sally!
xoxo
.-= Alison´s last blog ..Sunny and 60 is NOT Conducive for Sleigh Rides =-.
Rita from the Chicago says:
Wow! That painting of Maddie is absolutely beautiful! It gave me chills when I scrolled down and saw it. Gabby did an amazing job capturing Maddie! And I’m so thrilled that you found Sally!!! What a wonderful gift for you to reconnect with her.
Hope you guys made it through Christmas without an unbearable amount of tears. And here’s to a happier new year!
Nanette says:
This post made me all teary! So glad you found them both! Love the drawing and the painting.
.-= Nanette´s last blog ..‘Tis the season =-.
Kellee says:
I’m so glad that you have such a network of love around you. I’m glad you found them both.
.-= Kellee´s last blog ..Checks Wrap =-.
Kim Jones says:
That portrait of Maddie is AMAZING! What a priceless gift. I am so happy for you that you took so many photos of that beautiful girl. So glad you found Sally.
Rebecca (Ramblings by Reba) says:
I am SO glad you and Sally found each other. Yay!
.-= Rebecca (Ramblings by Reba)´s last blog ..Peppermint bark: reason #7654 I love my husband =-.
Karen says:
What a beautiful rendering of a beautiful smile.
.-= Karen´s last blog ..2010 =-.
Mary Ann says:
I’m so happy you met Gabby and the Sally, what a wonderful gift.
Jess says:
Oh my god those pictures Gabby did are beautiful. They capture everything that Maddie had in her. So beautiful.
I’m so happy you found Sally too.
Ray says:
Those two portraits of, “The FAMOUS Madeline” in black & white and color are two of the most BEAUTIFUL pieces of artwork that I’ll probably EVER see!!!!! What a beautiful gift you have been given and I’m so glad Gabby could give it to you. And I am also so happy that you got to meet Sally again. I am thankful that others are reaching out to you in this time. You so rightly deserve it.
(GOD, such beauty in those pieces of artwork. I must repeat myself again. But I can’t help myself. Your baby girl is precious. <3)
Allyson says:
I’m so glad you found Sally–for both of you.
And the picture is stunning. Just like Maddie.
Amanda says:
These are beautiful pictures.
This woman has a great heart!
I’m glad you reunited with Sally!
.-= Amanda´s last blog ..It’s a! =-.
Deb says:
What beautiful pictures of Maddie…my words cannot possibly do them justice.
Wishing you, Mike, Binky & Rigby much peace and happiness in the new year.
amy says:
What a fabulous artist and such a gift she has given you. Twice!
kathryn says:
Just like Madeline, a true treasure.
Elizabeth says:
The watercolor of Maddie took my breath away. Gabby is a talent! I’m so glad you were able to find Sally. I just sorry we all can’t be there to hold your hand.
Deidre says:
What a gift, I would hang that in Binkie’s room.
.-= Deidre´s last blog ..End The Funeral With A Wedding =-.
Erica says:
The artwork is stunning.
.-= Erica´s last blog ..New To Me =-.
Kymmi says:
I love that! Maybe you could use the image on note cards (with a note on the back on why raising money for research in preventing premature births is so important) or even the NICU bags? She truly is the most expressive baby I’ve ever seen, and her smile never ceases to warm my heart.
Colleen says:
Oh Heather, your daughter’s eyes cut deep to my soul. She was so very beautiful and this is a wonderful gift. Gabby is so thoughtful.
I should comment more here, so you know that I always think of you, Mike, Maddie and Binky. You are in my heart, always.
.-= Colleen´s last blog ..Merry Christmas =-.
pgoodness says:
Gorgeous art!
And I am SO glad you found Sally.
Patty says:
Heather, I am so very happy that you were able to see Sally again! And that watercolor that Gabby made for you? Absolutely beautiful, just like your sweet angel, Maddie!
.-= Patty´s last blog ..I Am =-.
Michele Wallace says:
I bet it felt so good to see Sally again – I am glad you got to meet with her and hug her. I love the painting Gabby made, gosh that is touching I bet you love starring it at daily.
Wishing you a Happy New Years Heather – may 2010 bring you much happiness and love.
Love,
Michele Wallace
Kristine says:
Beautiful photos.
Your line about meeting some amazing people through tragedy is so true. It took my personal tragedy to learn that people really are good. The world really is good.
mythoughtsonthat says:
Faith….Hope….Love….Peace.
.-= mythoughtsonthat´s last blog ..Christmas Morning =-.
Sher says:
Just beautiful. She captured Maddie’s spirit and light.
I can’t wait until I sign on and see the “I’m giving birth” post! (I expect no less than a twitter at least!)
We are all there with you and Mike floating around you in cyber space, sending love and positive vibes your way.
There will be happiness again.
Kim says:
Those pictures are amazing. I have one that a good friend of my Mom’s did for me of Emma. It is just so special and hangs in my living room. To know that someone was able to capture her in that way just touches me to no end.
.-= Kim´s last blog ..Another Life =-.
Debby says:
What wonderful drawings, they are amazing. How sweet of her to make them for you. I love what you had with the nurse, God gives us angels here on earth when we need them.
.-= Debby´s last blog ..SAYING GOODBYE TO 2009 =-.
Michelle W says:
Your beautiful daughter and the love that your family radiates is changing lives and leaving an indelible mark. I’m so glad you can say her name now and that you both had the chance to let the other know what you have come to mean to one another. The pictures are just amazing, it is all so bittersweet. Leaves a lump in my throat, tears in my eyes, but also a smile on my face because the world is really made up of mostly good..no great, people.
dysfunctional mom says:
That picture is amazing. It gave me chills, then the story about seeing the nurse gave me chills again.
Sending love.
Ashley Hast says:
I’ve thought about your family quite often over the last few days, more than usual (which is at least daily). I’ve still been praying for you guys, and for Baby Binky on the way. The artwork of your girl is just beautiful! It looks *just* like her pictures, to me. I’m also glad to hear you met up with Sally. Again, just wanted to say I’m thinking of you. Love from Texas.
.-= Ashley Hast´s last blog ..A gummy…what?! =-.
Tricia says:
Looking at the picture gave me chills, it is so beautiful and so Maddie. Love you guys.
Michele says:
How gorgeous. Just gorgeous…
.-= Michele´s last blog ..I really miss them tonight… =-.
Kelly says:
Wow! Those are beautiful!
Lisa says:
That painting is just beautiful. What a wonderful gift.
I’m so glad to hear that you were able to reconnect with that nurse. It must have meant so much to you just to be able to hold her.
Love and hugs
.-= Lisa´s last blog ..Pregnant Over the Holidays =-.
Sara K. says:
WOW! Gabby has got amazing talent!
xoxox~
.-= Sara K.´s last blog ..It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas… =-.
Elaine says:
These are absolutely gorgeous – just like your Maddie! : )
Al_Pal says:
So gorgeous! Gabby’s art pieces are amazing. Especially the watercolor, I would’ve thought it was an oil painting with the depth of color!
So glad that you were able to re-connect with Sally.
Such beauty coming out of tragedy. Gosh.
Please know I’m thinking of you.
Becky says:
What amazing pictures. She has some incredible talent.
I’m so glad you have so much support. I don’t comment a lot but I’m here reading.
.-= Becky´s last blog ..status quo for now =-.