Dr. Looove emailed me this morning and told me to bring Annabel into her office (she’s cool like that). Annie’s demeanor had changed overnight, she was hotter and listless and definitely not herself. An exam revealed a fever, red ears and restricted breathing, so Dr. Looove ordered a breathing treatment and chest x-rays.
The nurse came into the room with a nebulizer and a pulse oximeter. I don’t know why, but I wasn’t expecting the pulse ox. While she struggled to put the meter on my sick, wiggly baby, I was transported back to the last time I’d been in that office with Maddie.
The pulse ox (which measures how much oxygen is in the bloodstream) showed that Annie had a number in the 80s. The breathing treatment didn’t much improve things, nor did the weird positions we had to pin her in for her x-rays. At one point her pulse ox spiked to 96, but then it quickly fell back down into the 80s.
After the nurses tried several times to get a better pulse ox reading, Dr. Looove called them off. We went home with an antibiotic, a breathing treatment, and an appointment for a follow-up 24 hours later. So, we still don’t know what is up other than we have a very sick little girl on our hands.
The entire time we were in Dr. Looove’s office, I felt sick to my stomach. I knew Annie would be OK. I just couldn’t stop thinking about being there with Maddie. Both girls were lethargic, crying, and wiggly. Both had low oxygenation that a breathing treatment didn’t improve. Just writing this post has my heart racing and my head pounding. I’m doing a horrible job of describing this.
When we got home, I held Annie while she slept fitfully. I cried and cried. I got to take my Annie home. Why not my Maddie, too?
A says:
I have no words for you tonight – but I send my love and the sincere hope that Annie is better quickly.
*Hugs*
Kate @ UpsideBackwards says:
Oh Heather, what a horrible thing to have to go through. No wonder you felt ill – I was feeling sick for you just reading about it. I hope that Annie feels much much better soon. Lots of love and hugs to you.
Tori says:
Hoping that the antibiotics kick in and Annie has a quick recovery. Thoughts with you all the way from New Zealand
Amy Collen says:
I hope your sweet Annie gets better soon! I hope her wonderful mommy feels better soon too! What a hard thing that must have been for you to go through. Oh yeah, did I tell you that I HATE pulse/ox monitors? I don’t think that there is any NICU mom that likes one. Nothing brings a flashback on faster than that horrible beeping noise.
Big hugs!!
Lisa says:
I hate this for you. I am so sorry that Annie is sick right now, and that you are having to relive the most horrific moments of your life. I hope everything turns out alright. ***HUGS***
Lynnette says:
Sending hugs to you and Annie tonight. Hope the antibiotics kick in quickly and Annie is her busy self again. I wish you had both your girls in your arms tonight.
Elle says:
I’m so sorry you had to experience this. My daughter was in the NICU and whenever they have to do the pulse ox or blood pressure I get into such a panic. I swear it’s the sounds that trigger it. Then I worry (even if it’s just for a check-up) that they’ll find some reason that she has to stay in the hospital so by the time we leave I am such a mess. Hugs to you Heather.
Lisa says:
Oh, Heather, my heart hurts for you. For the fact you had to go through that with Annie today and for the fact that you didn’t get to bring your Maddie home. Sending you much love and many, many hugs. Hope Annie is feeling better soon.
Mrs. Schmitty says:
I hope Annie’s feeling better soon. I am so sorry for the pain you must be feeling. Hugs to you.
Lynn from For Love or Funny says:
Oh, Heather. This appointment must have brought back so many sad memories. Thinking of you…
Meg...CT says:
Oh, you poor sweet girl!
I fear that there will always be days like this…the fear is etched in your mind forever…hold that little girl tight and snuggle her while she is sick…soon she will be bouncing all over your house again. Until then, praying for you to both feel better soon.
Kristine says:
I’m in a panic for you. I’m just so sorry. Sending healing vibes to Annie and she feels better soon.
Anna Marie says:
This post made me feel a little faint – I can’t imagine the anxiety and sadness that you are dealing with. Hugs to you, Mike and Annie and I’m sending good thoughts for a quick recovery for Annie.
anotherheatherfromcanada says:
Oh Heather …. what can I say except I’m so DAMN sorry you didn’t get to bring Maddie home …. nothing but love and prayers for Annie’s speedy recovery.
AmazingGreis says:
Oh, Heather…hugs to you friend!! XOXO
Anne says:
Oh Heather I am SO SO sorry! I can’t even to begin to feel your pain and sadness… but the tears in my eyes come so easily reading your stories and being a mom and imagining what you must be feeling. I pray for sweet Annies healthy recovery. Know you are so cared about… and have been such an inspiration to so many! Annie is a lucky girl to have such wonderful parents. Amen!!
Nikki says:
Awwww, Heather. This makes me sad. Thinking of you certainly today and always…praying for a speedy recovery for Annie and thinking of Maddie, too.
XOXO from GA,
Nikki
Jenn says:
I know sweetheart….I know.
Sending a big, warm hug, lots of love and friendship.
Jenn
Gale @ Ten Dollar Thoughts says:
Heather – I’m so sorry about all this. I can’t imagine what kind of pain that must have been. For what it’s worth, while you associate it with Maddie and all of her more serious health problems, please rest assured that pediatricians bust out the pulse ox machine all the time. Every time my son has had croup they strap it on. So to you it feels very dire, but I think they probably use it on healthy kids all the time. I guess what I’m trying to say is, just because the treatments looked/felt the same to you doesn’t mean that Annie’s condition is anywhere close to Maddie’s. I know you know this, but perhaps it helps to hear it?
I hope that today is better than yesterday and that Annie starts acting like her normal, mischievous self again soon. In the meantime, I’ll be thinking of you both.
vickie says:
((hugs))
Jenn says:
Heather, I am so sorry. It’s so hard and so unfair. Thinking of Maddie, Annie and you and Mike.
Deborah says:
**endless hugs**
Barnmaven says:
Oooooh, mama. Thinking of all of you and sending prayers for Annabel to get better.
PB and Jazz says:
I am sorry. I so wish it were different for you. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Tamara says:
I’m so sorry Heather…it’s just not fair…
Lora says:
Oh Heather, what a bad day! I hope little Annie feels better super quickly, so that you can feel better too.
Rachel says:
I’m sorry, that is a hard day. Hang in there! I hope Annie feels better soon.
Katie says:
I am so sorry. That sounds like a nightmare. I am sending good thoughts for a very quick recovery for Annie. And, as always, I am thinking of Maddie.
Sarah R says:
I’m sorry! How scary. I pray for a quick recovery for Annie.
Jennifer says:
{{{hugs}}}
Lizard Breath says:
Wish there was something we could do or say other than we’re so sorry. Hoping Annie is feeling better and you all as well.
Jessica says:
Hugs to you & Annie!
Elizabeth says:
My love goes out to you. I’m not really sure what else to say but I hope Annie feels better soon.
Kelly says:
I am wishing Annie a speedy recovery.
I can only begin to imagine how difficult that appointment was.
Allison says:
Oh, Heather, I don’ know you, but I just want to hug you and hug you some more. Annie is going to be ok. Much love to the whole family.
Shawnel says:
Hope she’s feeling better soon. Pulse ox is pretty common. They use it on my kids every time they’re sick. I know it must bring back some hard memories but it doesn’t always mean something is seriously wrong. It’s just an easy way to check their status. Kind of like taking the temp.
Bella says:
I am so sorry Heather. So sorry. There are no words.
Susan A says:
Throwing my arms around you and weeping with you. There are no words, no answers….so so sorry.
LisaJ says:
How absolutely horrible for you, Heather. I cannot begin to imagine.
I am sending healing thoughts for Annie and prayers your way, and letting you know, again, how sorry I am that you have to feel this way at all.
Megan@TrueDaughter says:
Oh Heather, I hope Annie gets better fast. I can only imagine how scary that must be for you. Prayers for you and your family, as that is all I can offer –
Rebecca says:
I’m so sorry Heather. I know it’s not enough and it doesn’t bring your baby back and it doesn’t make Annie back to her normal self right this very second, but I’m sorry. ((hugs))
Becca says:
(((((HUGS))))))
And prayers and happy thoughts coming your way!
Tina says:
I can only imagine how impossible life must feel for you some days. Keep on going friend, one step at a time. xoxo
Nicole says:
So sorry you’re dealing with this, Heather. I’ll be sending all good thoughts your way.
Ania says:
I so wish I could turn back time for you.
Elizabeth says:
I’m sorry. It’s not fair. Squeeze that little girl tight. That will help a little bit.
amanda says:
Oh honey. I am so sorry. Having a sick kid is stressful enough; I hate that it has to be heartbreaking for you too. Love to Annie as well, poor kid!
Maggie May says:
I am so very sorry you are having to go through traumatic flashbacks and anxiety like this. I have only the tiniest piece of the experience you describe and cannot imagine how hard it is to keep yourself together and take care of Annie. Post traumatic stress brought on by reminders of a horrible situation is incredibly acute and can make you feel like it’s happening all over again. That is very hard, and I hope you have a lot of emotional support.
Did your doctor mention RSV to you, or take a swab? My baby had it two months ago. It’s a viral infection of the lungs and shows up as restricted breathing and slight fever and snotty nose. I’m sure you doctor showed you what things to look for in Annabel in case she worsens and you need to take her to Urgent Care? Like retractions and too rapid breathing?
If you had any questions about RSV feel free to ask me.
beezus74@hotmail.com
Hang in there, I am saying a prayer for you.
MrsP says:
awww Heather, thank you for being so strong and sharing this with us. I can imagine how hard it must be. I’m always praying for you and your family.
Nanette says:
I can only imagine how scary that must be, Heather.
Lots and lots of hugs to you and yours.
Christy says:
{{{{{hugs}}}}}
Glenda says:
Hoping Annie is feeling better soon! Big hugs to you!
Kristin (MamaKK922) says:
OH I am so sorry I can’t even imagine the panic. Tears are flowing for you and Annie. I hope the next appointment shows she is doing better. HUGS and Much love is coming your way.
Alexandra :) says:
I’m so sorry, Heather! I hope that Annie feels better (and you and Mike too)!
Erica says:
Nothing I say will comfort you Heather… I can only say my heart aches everytime I read a post that is sad and anxious, heartbroken and missing your Maddie. Just know that even though a lot of your readers, including myself, don’t personally know you…we are all here. We were here then and we are here now. Lots of love.
Mandy says:
hang in there momma. you’ve got THOUSANDS OF PRAYERS in your favor. I can’t imagine how much fear you’re fighting right now. hang in there.
Pattie says:
Oh, Heather. Praying for Annie’s speedy recovery.
Marsha says:
The pic of Annie in the waiting room is adorable!!! For real…so cute! She’ll be better in no time…she’s a fiesty little gal! I saw a little boy at gymboree today that looked like maddie in the face…he was beautiful, just like Madeline.
twingles says:
There’s no need to try to describe it – we can only try to understand anyway. I feel terrible for you and I hope Annie is on the mend quickly – as I am sure she will be.
jen says:
I’m so sorry. I hope Annie is feeling better sooner than soon and that you can step down from threat level 11. You must be beyond frantic. May it pass soon.
katrina @ They All Call Me Mom says:
I’m sorry you are going through this. While a typical cold, or the normal treatment for chest congestion/fever would be okay for any other mom to deal with, for you it brings back awful memories, sad memories. It’s totally understandable. Why you were able to bring Annie home but yet not Maddie…there’s no real answer to that except that Maddie’s lungs could not handle it, where Annie’s can. It wasn’t fair. I’m so sorry
Momma Uncensored says:
just hugs.. big hugs to you.
Gwen says:
I am so sorry that you are going through this. Of course the situation, the respiratory symptoms, treating her with breathing treatments, check her puls/ox. of course it’s bringing up all the trauma you live with daily. I hope that Annie feels better very soon, to let you get back to feeling better too. Day to day triggers are awful enough, without this added fear.
Stephanie says:
I’m crying here along with you. I’m so sorry. I hope Annie starts feeling better soon.
Monica says:
I know I cannot express any combo of words to make your pain lessen or disappear… you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Annie, get better soon!
Does she have any molars yet? My daughter born 2/1/10 goes through some feverish, sinus, head stuff on/off and it’s getting tiresome. I wonder so many times if it’s teething related. DD has 8 teeth…. nothing popping up and out yet but man, what pain they must be enduring for those pearly whites
Jeanie says:
Praying that Annie’s well by morning. I’m so sorry for your pain.
Kristi says:
I hope Annie feels right as rain again very soon!
Amanda says:
I’m so sorry you have to feel this way. Not to use medical jargon to talk about your real life , because sometimes that just sounds cold, but I am guessing the post traumatic stress you have after what you have seen and lost will always be a problem for you when Annie is sick.
I’m so thankful that Dr. Looove is so good to you. She gets it.
Julie says:
I’m really sorry to hear Annie is sick. Whenever a pulse ox comes out, be it for me or for my 3 children, I internally panic. All 3 of my kids were in the NICU, one also in the PICU. It’s hard to undo old associations, and in your case I would think it would be that much harder. Just so you know, all 3 of my kids, as well as many of my friends’ kids, have been in the hospital at various times for colds, croup, and difficult breathing, and they all came back home. I know that does not make your fears any easier to deal with, but if Annie at some has to go to the hospital, please keep that in mind to help you through. I am so, so sorry that Maddie did not come back home and that you have to feel this way. (((hugs)))
When my twins were about 1.3, they began to have difficulty breathing with the common cold, and if they had a fever it would be even worse. They started using a nebulizer, albuterol, and sometime prednisolone steroids. It eventually passed. By the time they were 3, the breathing difficulty with colds was gone. It still is hard for one of them if he gets croup, however. Thinking of you, Heather!
Trisha Vargas says:
Thank goodness for the good doctor . I hope Annie feels better soon.
I’m so sorry you had to be transported back to those memories of Maddie’s last visit with Dr. Looove. My heart hurts for you.
Sending you all lots of (((HUGS))) from Florida
Kim~craftymamaof4 says:
Crying with you
Hope Annie is feeling better soon, she will be fine, she is a strong girl!
molly says:
Oh, how my heart aches for you…it hurts so much and I wish so much your Maddie got to be with you, too. It’s not fair…it’s just not.
C Ramirez says:
Oh, Heather, I pray for your family and speedy recovery for Annabel!! I am thinking of all of you tonight!!
Leigh Elliott says:
I don’t know how we find the strength to do what we have to do even when the hardest and most painful obstacles are in our faces and in our memories. I can only begin to imagine how hard it is to have the flashbacks, and be literally in the same physical places….it makes my heart sting.
Many good thoughts and get well wishes coming your way
{{HUGS}}}
Leigh
Amy S. says:
Oh, how difficult today must have been. Seeing your child is pain is the absolute worse. Watching what happened to Maddie…unimaginable to me… I don’t know how you make it through the day sometimes. The only difference here is that Annie was term, born with healthy lungs and has been sick like what, once or twice? She’s totally got this and will be fine once the antibiotics take affect. I’ve seen this happen before where a child has been playing at the dinner table, running around the living room, then came down with high grade fever later that night, gone to ER and BAM! I know she’s had a cold but none of that would forworn you as to what was coming. Kids do get sick and she’s going to be okay. You however is who I worry about. You have been through what no mother should never have to go through and today was a horrid reminder of that. I am so sorry. Just hold your baby close (heat stroke and all) and try to get through yet another night. You and Mike are amazing!
Sherry says:
I am sad, sad, sad that you are feeling this way. I know Annie will be just fine and back to her silly self in a few short days, and I’m sorry you will always have to feel this way when she’s not feeling well. Please know I’m thinking of your family (along with what seems like a million other readers!).
Mommy says:
I wish I knew why not your Maddie too…. actually I wish you could have taken your Maddie home too. It’s just not fair.
I hope Annie feels better very soon.
Love to you all!
Scottish Lass says:
My heart is hurting for you.
I will hope and pray for a speedy recovery for Annie and some relief for you.
tricia says:
i’m praying for you and for annie. i’m so sorry you had to bring annie there under similar circumstances. but annie is going to be FINE. but i can’t imagine how difficult it was to be there, with the breathing treatment and pulse ox, and not lose your mind. you are such an amazing mama, heather. annie and maddie are so lucky you’re their mama.
Ally says:
Rsv ?? My kids had it at that age. For non preemies it’s ok.
sherene says:
Hugs.
Veronika says:
Oh sweetie. {{ hugs }} I can’t imagine how scary this must be. I’m thinking of you all and I hope Annie is back to herself soon. {{ hugs }}
Dawn @ What's Around the Next Bend? says:
My head swirls just reading this post… I can’t imagine how you are even typing. Just know that there are lots of us out there thinking and praying for you and Annie tonight.
*HUGS*
Kathy C. says:
Baby Girl better this A.M.? I dreamed about her last night and am holding all of you in my prayers. I love her!
Penbleth says:
No, it’s not fair, not at all.
Rachael says:
The tiny sliver of grief and pain I feel by reading this must be a million times smaller than what you’re feeling. I’m so sorry.
Snickrsnack Katie says:
I feel sick to my stomach just reading this… I cannot even imagine what you were feeling. Hope Annabel is feeling better… And you too…