You know how you put an open box of baking soda in your refrigerator to absorb smells? Well, put me in a place with 3,000 women and I absorb estrogen and retain water. VISIBLY. After one person came up to me and exclaimed “OMG YOU’RE PREGNANT!” and another told me I was glowing (while looking down at my stomach) I realized I’d maybe made some poor food and clothing choices.
Then I thought back…and I realized my period was late and I internally freaked the hell out. To go along with my poor food and clothing choices, I’d also made some bad alcohol decisions. Call me old fashioned, but I don’t drink during pregnancies. So that would have sucked.
I was super relieved yesterday morning when my period arrived. At that point my body was holding onto about ten extra pounds of fluid and I felt like I was going to explode like an over-filled water balloon.
Having a late period forced me to briefly contemplate being pregnant, and it made me realize that I feel ready for another baby. Once we’re settled into the new house and we prove to ourselves that we can actually pay a mortgage, I will start looking into how we’ll pay for a pregnancy. I have health insurance but it doesn’t cover maternity. And since my pregnancies aren’t exactly cheap or easy, it’s going to require sitting down with eight years of bank statements, a certified public accountant, and some Tums.
In the meantime, I have Water Weight Baby to keep me company, along with my toddler who is currently screaming “NO NO NO” from bed.
Maybe I’m NOT ready for another baby…
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Yeah, I’ve had people ask me if I was pregnant when I wasn’t; apparently the topic had been discussed at length around the office. That wasn’t my best Monday. Oh, well, the next day I met my BFF Spanx.
Well….You & Mike DO make pretty cool & BEAUTIFUL babies!!! I don’t know about anyone else, but since I can no longer have ny own baby, I would be super excited to follow your and your pregnancy journeys ! The good news if, even if you aren’t trying right now……….PRACTISING IS ALWAYS FUN!!!! Dontcha think?!?!?!?!?!
HA HA HA HA
Don’t you just love that little voice in your head that you have chats with when you think you are ‘late’. The little OMG moment but then when it arrives and you find out you aren’t you are filled with relief but sometimes a bit of disappointment too.
I wonder if the whole 3000 people though you were pregnant? Maybe you should do a poll lol.
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Erm. I think I would cry if someone mistakenly believed I was pregnant and FELT THE NEED TO TELL ME!
Sorry, I just have to say this…
WTF?!? HEALTH INSURANCE THAT DOESN’T COVER PREGNANCY?! That @&$ shouldn’t even be legal… Best of luck with your move and whatever comes next!
Health ins without pregnancy coverage should be illegal!!
I totally agree. WTF?
Hehehehe, Water Weight Baby has been seen around these parts as well. Sorry your insurance doesn’t cover maternity. That is becoming more and more common as we are able to choose our coverages based on just how many million dollars a month we would like to pay for said insurance.
Seeing as how I too have a baby hollering at me from bed, I’d better get moving. Have an awesome day!
Wow I cant believe how many of your post I havent read. I love the home you guys are looking into buying. Good Luck!!. I also know how it feels like to be ask if your pregnant especially since I had a iner organs removed 23 years ago.. maybe they’ll quit asking as I show my age.
I look forward to when I know you are pregnant again. I love following your sweet family!!
I’ll start praying for a healthy baby and pregnancy today for when the real thing does happen.
A new home, and a new baby would be very exciting! Ditto what Rebecca posted =)
Thinking good thoughts for a fast, safe pregnancy when u do try.
just one thing I thought of. You probably know this but I didn’t. You have to be off your meds for 3 months before you get pregnant. I didn’t know this 4 years ago. Can’t wait for Annie to have a younger sibling. Your kids are the cutest 
Hello Heather! Just wanted to make sure you knew about AIM (Access for Infants and Mothers.) Low cost maternity health care in CA – I’m sure you probably make too much $ to qualify but wanted to throw it out there just in case!
Health insurance with no maternity coverage? And you’re considered complicated?! That’s insane!
I don’t know when women will stop assuming and flat out telling other women “oh my god you’re pregnant?” ladies need to keep their mother shut!
A née house and possibly a new addition to your amazing family!!! Yay!!! Can’t wait to hear and follow that part of your journey!
I saw you IRL from afar at BlogHer, so I know what you were wearing. (Yellow belted dress, right?) I think that style of dress just looks a bit maternity-ish, so it’s NOT THAT YOU ARE FAT. (Although I will say that after 3 days of food and drink at BlogHer, I myself am a bit fatter.)
I was hoping to get close enough to you to ask you why you weren’t rocking the caftan, though.
I *did* wear an outfit like that, but not when i was approached about being pregnant.
Another outfit to burn. SAD TROMBONE.
You should have come u to me! I can tell you that I will only leave the house in caftans, now.
I’ve talked to several people who went to BlogHer and they all told me that you did NOT look like you were pregnant.
I just can’t believe people asked you that. Don’t they know better…..
but I kinda laughed because, you were double fisting it with the beer bottles some times and if people thought you were pregnant, wow!
My kids ask me all the time if I’m pregnant…while they rub my belly with a curious look that says, “You have to be, right? That’s the only thing that could possibly explain…that.”
Yay for another Spohr baby!
Never, ever underestimate the power of my upper lip sweat.
Bottle that magic.
Aw
I’ve been secretly hoping someone I know is pregnant, perhaps because I wish I were!
It stinks that your insurance doesn’t cover pregnancy….(wtf..)
I’m in the same 2nd baby boat. Totally ready for #2, but our finances are not
Let me interrupt our regularly scheduled programming to state how F***ED UP!!!! it is that we live in a country where it’s possible for a woman to be insured WITHOUT MATERNITY COVERAGE.
I know there’s nothing you can do about this, it’s just unjust, unjust I tell you. People like you should most definitely bring more beautiful children into this world.
Doesn’t everybody know the rule that you never ever ask a women if they are pregnant unless their is a baby coming out of their vagina.
Shame on them.
Exactly. Even if she looks about ready to give birth, you still ask another coworker or friend first, good grief.
I went through the same insane water retention period last week and took it as a sign NOT to have another baby and get an IUD back in ASAP.
I’m pretty sure I still look 7 months pregnant even thought my “baby” is almost 4.
Maybe this will make you feel better: I am about 18 weeks pregnant and I mentioned that I was expecting to a neighbor yesterday. His response was one of relief AND the comment “OH! Ha, ha, I just thought you had gotten fat!” When someone tells you they are pregnant, never mention the word fat. Isn’t that common sense???
You mean there are really still people – women especially – out there who ask someone if they’re pregnant when there’s not a small heading protruding from their vagina??? Stupid, stupid, stupid.
I have a rule for that: never ask a women if she is pregnant unless she is physically giving birth before your eyes, and even then, it’s probably better to just ask her if you should call 911.
Or she is wearing a ‘Baby on Board” t-shirt or it’s equivalent!
Is maternity not covered for you because of the complications during your last two pregnancies, hence you are considered to have a preexisting condition?
There is a way around this, but you may not like it. Find a regular 20 to 40 hour a week job, at a larger company with a group benefit plan where you get benefits without regard to preexisting condition. Pick the best plan offered that you can afford. When you get pregnant go out on FMLA, take maternity leave or quit and use COBRA while pregnant and after for up to 18 months. While you may be committed to being a work at home mother going back to work (assuming a job with benefits can be found) for a short time may be an alternative to not having another child because the family budget cannot support the cost of a high risk pregnancy or going so deep into debt that you bankrupt your family.
YAY for Spohr Baby #3!!! I. can’t. wait!!
i head people off by telling them when they first meet me, no i’m not pregnant. i’m just fat. it relieves my anxiety to have an actual conversation.
I DO hope your family is blessed with another baby. When you are ready
I have three. (singleton, miscarriage and twins
Hubby put a stop at 3. So I have three dogs. Kids getting older and not needing Mom so much. The dog kids worship me 
You look great! people are dumb to ask that crap. I don’t have anyone think I look pregnant but I always have them ask when I am going to gave kids. After having lost a baby, that sucks to hear since I have now struggled with infertility. People have no clue.
Ouch! I have people think I’m pregnant all the time, but now that I actually AM . . . they all act super surprised to find out! :S
A toddler screaming, “NO! NO! NO!” is one of the world’s best, and oldest, birth control methods. Worked for us!