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By: | The Spohrs Are Multiplying… | » Bottled Up

| The Spohrs Are Multiplying… | » Bottled Up — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 08:27:57 +0000

[...] the meantime, my mental health was precarious. I started a very low dose of anxiety medication after Annabel was born, but it didn’t [...]

By: Al_Pal

Al_Pal — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:06:32 +0000

*HUGS*
I’m so glad you’ve got a great team watching over you.
You all deserve to be healthy and as happy as possible.

By: Bec

Bec — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 21:31:22 +0000

All of you absolutely do. I’m so glad you’ve found some people to help you. Lots of love
Bec´s last blog ..Blogging Peeves

By: TracyKM

TracyKM — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 20:48:40 +0000

I don’t have time to read all 200 comments, but have you tried block feeding? Or perhaps you could give an elimination diet a try. The first to go would be casein protein. I know it’s hard, but so many babies benefit when their mommies go dairy free (or gluten, or soy, or caffiene).
I think every (new) mom should have a therapist to talk to
TracyKM´s last blog ..Hoot!

By: Laura

Laura — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 03:25:09 +0000

I know this was for Heather (duh), but I have to say that your comment was very powerful, Jess. Supportive, empathetic, thoughtful, and it is so interesting to hear your perspective, being a grown-up that is in Annabel’s position. It seems like you have great parents, just as Annie does. It is so great that Heather and Mike have so much support from readers like you!!!

By: Lisa

Lisa — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 20:20:16 +0000

I’m a little slow on my blog reading this week and am late to this one. It is a wonderful thing that you have found people that you’re able to talk to. I am glad to hear that even though it’s hard, that it does help you.
Lisa´s last blog ..Where is the Sun?

By: (another) karen

(another) karen — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 19:15:00 +0000

thinking of you…..

karen

By: Katherine from Postpartum Progress

Katherine from Postpartum Progress — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 19:11:44 +0000

There are a lot of people who know exactly how you are feeling. I had postpartum anxiety in the form of postpartum OCD after the birth of my first child (which is why I started Postpartum Progress). It’s a very tough thing to get through.

After everything that has happened to you, by the way, it would have been a miracle for you not to suffer again after Annabel. So please don’t feel bad to be in this spot again.

Do you go to a support group in your area? I’d be happy to connect you. I find that moms who are suffering like being in an intimate group with other moms who are going through the same thing. They get it. They don’t make you work like therapy (though that is important). They just lean on each other in a way they may not be able to with others. I think you live in LA, right? There are SO many resources there and I know many of them personally and would be happy to make suggestions.

Either way, you made it through this before with Maddie and you know you’ll do it again. You are doing ALL the right things, and Annabel will only benefit from that.
Katherine from Postpartum Progress´s last blog ..How Do You Feel On the "Anniversary" of Your Postpartum Depression?

By: marslo

marslo — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 15:00:12 +0000

Heather, your capacity for hope and love in the face of what you’ve gone through is incredibly inspiring. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings with us. I think of you and your family often. I hope today is better.

By: Kristin

Kristin — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 14:38:27 +0000

Oh, Heather. I wish I could take your pain away. The other day I heard a quote that made me think of you. There was a discussion between two people on TV about how many who go through the grieving process are baffled when people say, “The pain will get better with time.” Someone who’s dealing with loss responded with, “The pain doesn’t get better with time – it will always be there. But it’s what you do with that time during the grieving process that helps you heal.” With such a competent team watching you so closely, you’re doing everything you can with time to try to heal. I know the pain won’t go away, but I’m hoping that with their help, it will become even a little easier for you to breathe as time goes on.

It’s hard not to become overwhelmed when you have days like today, but remember you’re only human and still hurting – it’s part of your healing, and you’re more than allowed to have days like this. You’re a truly amazing momma to Maddie and Annie, and a phenomenal woman. Stay strong and stay positive, but let yourself have those days of just being enveloped with memories of Maddie. It doesn’t detract from your love for Annie – it just shows what an amazing momma you really are.

Sending you lots of love – we’re all here when you need us.