Living in Los Angeles comes with the prerequisite that you know everything that’s going on with celebrities. I am nothing if not serious about my duties, and I do what I can to stay up to date on my chosen celebrity major: their babies. Victoria Beckham and Kate Hudson had babies this past week. As I did my research, I read an article in the LA Times that spoke less about the celeb offspring and more about how they were born.

To boil it down, Beckham had a repeat C-section, while Hudson had a vaginal birth. Hudson’s first pregnancy was a C-section. The article then goes on to discuss the risks and rewards of VBAC (vaginal birth after C-section), and how many women want at least the chance to deliver naturally but aren’t offered one.

My C-section with Madeline was an emergency surgery that required a “classical” cut on my uterus instead of the common low transverse scar. The doctor that delivered Madeline told me I would never be able to give birth vaginally for subsequent pregnancies. At the time I didn’t give it a second thought, as I was totally wrapped up in Madeline’s NICU stay.

Dr. Risky, my OB for Annabel, was different. At our first appointment, she didn’t tell me a vaginal delivery would be impossible. Instead, she went over my risks for a VBAC, carefully explaining everything to us. She told us she was strongly against it, but in the end the decision was left to Mike and me. After listening carefully and weighing the risks of a VBAC on top of my other risk factors, we chose a repeat C-section. And honestly, after losing Maddie we weren’t willing to take any chances.

That being said, I’m curious why some women do make the choice (when they are allowed) to have a VBAC. I am obviously super-sensitive to anything that will put the baby at risk (and I know C-sections come with risks), so I have a bit of a colored view that I’m trying to rectify. I hate when I hear women say things like, “A C-section isn’t real birth” because I gave birth to two babies that way and I think that’s so insulting. And I hate when other women say that having a C-section is a failure. If the baby is born alive and healthy, isn’t that a success? Isn’t that the POINT?

OK seriously though, I want to understand. Illuminate me, mamas!