I’ve had today circled on my calendar for a couple months. I woke up this morning so excited. I was going to see my baby, and tell everyone that we were expecting again.
But there was no heartbeat. The growth stopped a week and a half ago.
I don’t feel anything. I thought writing it out would help.
But I don’t feel anything.
Rachael says:
Oh Heather, I’m so, so sorry. If there is anyone in the world I can think of who deserved to share that news, it would have been you. I wish there was something I could say to make it better, but I know there isn’t. So I’ll just say I’m sorry, and send big internet hugs and peace and love your way.
Amelia says:
I am so sorry. Sending light and love to you.
Marianna says:
Heather and Mike, I’m so sorry. It’s not fair. Lots of love and good wishes xxxxxxxxxxx
Gwen says:
Oh Heather, I am so sorry. *hugs*
Dee says:
I am so sorry!
I have been there and my dd 9 just asked me if I had ever lost a baby I just couldn’t speak about it so I “lied”.
I will tell her when I am ready and explain to her that the baby brother she wants so bad will never be.
I was just so fortunate to have her at 44 and healthy.
May you find some comfort and peace in sharing when you are ready.
Megan Burleson says:
I’m so sorry Heather and Mike.
Kelly says:
I wish there was some way to offer comfort Heather. I hope it does help to write about it and to know that so many people love you and your beautiful family.
MeL says:
Heather
I’m so very sorry to hear. I concur that you guys are the most deserved to share great news. Much love and hugs from all the way around the other side of the world
MeL, Australia xxxxxxxx
Elizabeth says:
I am so, so sorry for your loss. I lost a pregnancy at 11 weeks last October. It was a very difficult thing to go through, and I’m still dealing with some sadness around it. I just wanted you to know that I’m so sorry this happened to you, it’s such an awful thing to go through. I thought things would never get better, but I am now 14 1/2 weeks pregnant, with twins as it turns out! It’s easier said than done when this has just happened to you, but try to stay positive and know that these things can just be a fluke, and your next try will bring you a healthy, perfect baby (or maybe 2 – you’re more likely to have twins with being one yourself!!) I almost hesitate to even post this comment, because when I first experienced my loss, while I did appreciate people sending me messages on my blog in response to the news, it was also hard to hear what people were saying without being upset even with the kindest words. If that makes sense? So I hope I haven’t said anything I shouldn’t have. It’s impossible to say the right things, there truly are no words, but even though I don’t actually ‘know’ you, I’m sending hugs your way, and positive vibes that very good things are right around the corner for you. Take care.
Kayt says:
I’m almost in the same boat. I lost my second pregnancy in October, and I’m 18 weeks along. I’m terrified and excited and holding my breath and thrilled all at once.
It’s a hard place to be, but I feel that being silent about it breeds this culture of shame about the sadness that comes with losing a pregnancy. It sucks, and it’s okay to be sad, and you’re probably going to be sad. Even virtual support from strangers helps.
Mary M says:
I lost my second baby in July of ’10 at nine weeks. Same excitement — especially since it was our second so we knew what to expect — when we didn’t hear the heartbeat or see movement, we knew something was wrong Same words, too-our baby just stopped growing at seven weeks. Later that day I had to drive to a meeting I was leading in another state — got a parking ticket and ran a stop sign (luckily it was in the middle of the night and no other cars were around) because I was so distracted — but no one at the meeting knew I was going through the miscarriage.
Last year I got pregnant again and honestly, I didn’t stop worrying that our baby would ‘just stop growing’ until 1:22 PM six weeks ago when Victoria came into the world.
It’s ok to feel “nothing” right now. Hold tight to Annie and Mike and know that others have gone through this and that you are not alone. Even though I don’t know you in person, when I read the words you wrote this morning, it took me right back to that day almost two years ago. I won’t say that it will get better, but you are not alone.
Sidnie says:
Prayers of peace and love coming your way from across the pond. If I could hug y’all tight through the screen, I would. xo
edenland says:
Holding you in my heart.
BIG. My heart is a big, angry heart. It holds a lot.
XXXXXXXX
Amanda @ willful/joyful says:
I’m so sorry for your loss. If I could, I’d totally kick the universe in the nards for you. You and your family will be in my thoughts.
kellye says:
Heather, I am so so sorry to hear this. My heart hurts for you. xxx
Kirsty says:
Some thing in life do not make any sense. Ever. xx
Holly Bracken says:
Oh Heather and Mike. I am so sorry.
Kristina says:
Thinking of you and Mike tonight.
Debyl1 says:
So sorry to hear your sad news.I have been in that same position and it is heartbreaking.May you find comfort in which ever way you feel you need to.I hope the future will be brighter for you xx
InDueTime says:
Damn Heather and Mike, I am so sorry to hear this. I am 8 months post miscarriage myself. It fucking sucks. (((Hugs)))
Lissa says:
*hugs*
Maya says:
*sigh*
LilianCali says:
No words would be enough, so just know that so many of us are thinking about you. xxxx
Alison says:
I’m so sorry.
Katrina @ They All Call Me Mom says:
Oh…
I’m so sorry
Jess says:
You are all in my thoughts. I’m so sorry.
meesh says:
I am so sorry. I’m more sorry than I can properly convey.
Annie Y says:
Hugs.
Jenn says:
Dearest Heather & Mike,
**CRYING** I’m so VERY sorry to hear of your loss. My husband & I have lost 5 babies. I was you…numb, grief stricken, sad, lost… I feel your pain. Your baby was valued, loved and he/she mattered. I’m so, So SORRY for your loss. If you ever need to talk…I’m here for you & Mike.
With Much Sorrow & Love,
xoxo
J in eire says:
Oh Heather I am so so sorry for your loss. One heart should not have to bear so much loss. Sending love and light to you and Mike.
cj says:
i’m so sorry. thinking of and praying for your family.
Sarah says:
As this is a family friendly blog I won’t type the stream of expletives that just burst out of me as I read this post. I’ve thought for a while that you would have an announcement for us all soon…I’m so sorry it’s turned out this way. I’m so sorry Heather, Mike. Crying for you. Love you guys.
-Internet stranger x
Pgoodness says:
Oh my friend. I am sobbing for you. I have no special words, just know that I’m here….late night text or skype session to bitch about how unfair this crazy world can be…a place to hide if you need to run. xoxo
Colleen says:
**HUGS** I’m so sorry. Thinking of you guys.
Leanne says:
My thoughts are with you and your beautiful family xxx
Athina says:
Heather & Mike – I am so so sorry for your loss – thinking of you both xo
Arianne says:
I’m sorry… so sorry…. and I kind of want to punch the universe in the face for you. It’s not fair. It’s more than that, it’s cruel. *sigh*. I’m so sorry.
vic says:
Oh Heather…Oh Mike…. I have nothing to offer you except my love. You are not alone, please know that. We went thru our own loss in 2009 and I still have nothing wise to say, but to send you all my love. Please know we love you guys… The pain… It will come after the numbness, but we love you. I’m sorry, I’m so so sort you have to go through this pain…..
Sally says:
Heather I’m so desperately sorry. From someone else who has had the dreaded “no heartbeat” ultrasound (at full term though) my heart goes out to you. You don’t deserve this, I mean no one does, but the universe needs to cut you a break. Losing a baby at any stage of pregnancy is just awful.
Again, I’m so sorry.
Sending you much love.
xo
just me says:
Oh, Heather, I’m so sorry. I had a missed miscarriage, too, and it was one of the worst experiences of my life. Wishing you continued strength and grace as you and your family move forward from this loss.
Jayme says:
Oh, I wish there was something more to say than I’m sorry. Sometimes it doesn’t seem like enough. Sending love.
sam says:
Oh, coco. I am so very, very sorry. Thinking of you all. xoxoxox
Katie says:
Oh, no. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Jenny says:
I’m sorry for your loss.
TonyaM says:
So very sorry. Love and prayers…..
Nik says:
I am so sorry
Scc6a says:
I came here looking for my daily dose of Annie cuteness and then…this. Heather and Mike, I am so sorry. There is nothing else to say. Life has been so unfair to you and it sucks, it really sucks. I’ve cried for you, I’ve gotten angry for you, my heart goes out to you–and I know hundreds of other people feel the same way. Nothing can make it better, but just know that we are all thinking of you and wishing you the very best.
Jen says:
Delurking…I am so, so sorry. Most of your pain I cannot comprehend, but I do know this kind of loss. From the moment you see that little plus sign on the test, you’re a mommy and that’s your baby. It’s growing inside you but also starts growing in your heart. You start imagining that child’s future laid out before you, making plans, thinking what he or she will be like. It hurts so much to lose that little person you never got to meet, and it’s little consolation that it wasn’t meant to be. You were a good mama to that little stranger and he/she would have been so lucky to land in your family. My second pregnancy was colored by the loss of the first, but right now my little boy is sleeping upstairs in his crib. I like to think, now that I have some distance from my loss, that this is the baby that was meant for me. I will send positive energy your way and hope you’ll soon be expecting a healthy baby. I hesitated even to post anything for fear of saying something that wasn’t helpful, but you write you heart out for your readers and I wanted to tell you I was sharing your pain and thinking of you.
Lindsey says:
Oh my heart. It feels like someone grabbed it with their fist and squeezed.
Hugs to you both.
Vicky says:
I am so very sorry.
Sue says:
Oh,,Heather & Mike,,,,I cannot begin to tell you how sorry I am to hear this,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
Courtney says:
I’m so very sorry. Words are terribly inadequate, but here they are anyway.
Sarah says:
Oh Heather, I am so sorry. I had something similar happen last fall (third pregnancy after losing my first daughter and now having one child at home).
I still don’t feel much… It is very strange. Sometimes I feel like I have already grieved so much that there isn’t any more that can come out.
But mostly I am so sorry!
tracy says:
Oh damn. I am thinking of you and Mike. I’m so sorry.
Chantel says:
I know that words will fall short of the mark at a time like this, but my heart aches for you and Mike. I’m so sorry. Please know that our hearts and thoughts are with you.
Susannah says:
Heather, I am so sorry. You are in my prayers.
Lauren says:
So sorry, Heather and Mike. It’s not fair.
sherri says:
Oh No! I am so sorry! I have no words…just lots of prayers coming your way and *hugs*.
Melissa says:
I am sorry for your loss
Leigh Anne says:
Now we have two life/death events in common. We both lost a living born child, and we have both lost a child in pregnancy. I am so very very sorry.
You may not feel it yet, but writing it out did help. It made your loss tangible. For some reason many people do not consider a loss during a pregnancy “real.” By posting you made your little one real to all of us.
Again, I am so very sorry. Maddie now has a brother/sister with her.
Ruth says:
Oh, Heather. I am so sorry.
Michelle says:
Oh Heather, I’m so so sorry.
Suzanne says:
I am so very sorry to hear this Hugs from Maryland
Jess says:
Oh sweet luv. I’m so sorry. My goodness you’re loved here in Virginia. Hugs and prayers from the other side.
Roma says:
I am so very sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts and payers.
Jenni says:
So sorry about your loss, Heather and Mike.
Samantha F in St. Paul says:
Heather and Mike-I am so sorry for your loss!
Cathy K. says:
So very sorry for your loss. Prayers being sent your way.
Amanda says:
I’m so sorry.
Shannon says:
So very sorry as well. Sending up a prayer for you and Mike.
debbie says:
So very sorry for your loss.
Elizabeth says:
So stunned and heartbroken to hear this news. I am so sorry.
Leslie K says:
I cursed aloud at my computer screen when I read your entry.
I am truly sorry that you have more sadness and disappointment to bear.
Mary Ann says:
Oh Heather and Mike, I am so sorry. No one really ever knows why these things happen but I truely believe there is a greater plan ahead for you. But really life, give the Spohrs a break already! Sending hugs your way.
Christa says:
I am so very sorry for yours and Mike’s loss. Sending prayers of comfort to you and your family.
Tina says:
Oh god. Jesus Christ, no. I’m so sorry.
Karen says:
For some reason I will never fathom, the worst things happen to the best people. Fly high, Little Spohr.
Take your time, Heather. When the feelings finally hit, we will be here.
Kristen says:
I am so sorry Heather.
Amanda says:
Heather –
I am so sorry to hear this! Please know I am thinking of you and Mike today.
Jen says:
I am so sorry
Michelle says:
I am so very sorry. Sending you peace and prayers today.
Jenny G says:
Heather, I’m so sorry. Praying for comfort and strength for you and your family.
Ashley Tinius says:
I’m sorry, Heather:( I am sad for you.
J+1 says:
Oh, Heather. I’m so sorry.
Nikki says:
Man oh man oh man. I’m SO sorry.
Sending you an extra dose of Internet love and hugs today.
I hate this so much for you and Mike.
Carol Fisher says:
I am SO sorry. So, so very sorry.
kate says:
Heather and Mike,
I am so deeply sorry. I will never understand why the universe is so random and often astoundingly unfair. Huge hugs from afar.
Kate says:
Heather and Mike, I am so sorry. I hope that reading how much others are thinking and praying for you ease your sadness in some small way. Maddie has a new friend in Heaven. Take Care.
Kate says:
I’m so very sorry for your loss.
Meghan says:
I am so very sorry.
Janell says:
Heather I am so sorry to hear this. Life is so unfair sometimes.
april says:
oh that sucks so bad heather. i too experienced a miscarriage but then 2 months later was preggo with my sweet baby girl and she is now almost 4. it will happen. sending love and hugs to you and mike.
Hannah Hawley says:
hugs!
jacky says:
Oh, so unfair and so so suckky. I am so so so sorry. I concur with everyone else, you should not have had to go through this. I’m sure it doesn’t help much, but there is another angel in heaven, and Maddie is there with them.
Hugs
Jess says:
I am so very sorry.
Alicia says:
Oh, Heather, I am so sorry. I know this isn’t the same, but my husband and I recently went to the hospital for the the birth of “our” baby (adoption). After spending the weekend with baby girl, her mom changed her mind. My husband and I felt completely numb upon returning home from the hospital empty handed.
Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
meg....ct says:
Alicia…what a heartbreak…I hope your baby finds its way home soon.
Jenn says:
I’m very sorry for your loss Alicia!!! How heart breaking!!! I do hope you will find your baby soon.
All the best!!!
jo says:
I am so very sorry for your loss.
Sarah @ { rad: renovations are dirty } says:
Oh no. I’m so very sorry for you and Mike. This is absolutely heartbreaking.
Jenn says:
So very sorry
Zu says:
I am so so sorry.. the same thing happened to me in December. It was my first pregnancy, I was so excited for my dating scan, and then there was no heartbeat. The baby had stopped growing the week before. I am so sorry to hear this happened to you, it’s awful and heartbreaking. But I’m glad you shared… these little ones matter, even if they weren’t with us for too long. Hugs to you.
Brooke says:
I’m so sorry, Heather, Mike, and Annie. Hugs to you.
Nelly says:
So so sorry for you both. I have no other words that sound right or helpful, so I am sending hugs your way. xxxxx
Mary says:
The unfairness of this is breathtaking…I am so sorry.
Jena says:
My thought exactly!
Marnie says:
This is too much. I am so, so sorry for you and your family. Sending lots and lots of love to you.
Lucy says:
Oh Gosh, this is terrible!, I’m so sorry for your loss!!
AmyG says:
Oh Heather, I’ve been waiting for an announcement that you all were expecting again… I’m so so sorry for your loss! Many hugs & prayers!
Erin says:
Heather, Mike, I am so sorry. I wish there was more to say, but there really isn’t. Thinking of you today.
Heather says:
I am so sorry doesn’t even begin to sum up how I feel for you. I have been there, and it is just an awful kind of hurt with an empty feeling. Please just hang in there and give Annie a big hug and kiss. It won’t make the hurt go away but it will make it feel better.
Amber says:
Heather,
I was devastated to read this today. It is so very unfair and my heart aches for you and Mike. Know that Maddie now has a little sibling and another piece of you with her. You and Mike truly do not deserve this loss, but you are two of the strongest people. You are brave to have shared this news with us. I admire you! Lots of love to you, Mike, and Annie!
Amber
Sharyn says:
I’m sorry. You deserve better.
Stacey says:
Ive been reading your blog for a long time now but this is my first time commenting. Im so so sorry for your loss, Heather.:( You are in my thoughts.
Selena says:
I am so so sorry, unfortunatly I know that pain of a miscarriage. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers and I pray for your physical and mental healing and for God to bless you again if that is what you want.
Desera says:
I’m so very sorry! (((((HUGS)))))
Becca says:
shit.
hugs to both you and Mike. Thinking of you both today.
Merrilee says:
I’m so sad for you. So sad.
Melissa says:
((Heather)) So. Not. Fair. Thinking of you today …
Erin says:
My heart is breaking for you and your whole family. I’m so so incredibly sorry to hear this. Love to you, Mike and Annie during this difficult time.
xo Erin
Christina says:
I am very sorry to hear about your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope for you to find a light in the darkness…
cindy w says:
Oh god. I’m just so, so damn sorry.
Mommy Boots says:
Heather and Mike, I’m so sorry. It’s so unfair and my heart aches for you guys. We lost our first to miscarriage almost five years ago. Take care of yourselves and know you’re in my family’s thoughts.
Karen says:
I am so very sorry for your loss.
Tammy M. says:
I’m sorry.
alimartell says:
Well, I feel something. That something is, um, fuuuuuuuuuuuuck.
lauren perry says:
It definitely seems like you’ve had to endure an unfair amount of burden…. I’m very sorry for your loss. I hope the road to any future babies is much smoother than it has been.
Momma Lioness Michele says:
Oh this is so unfair. How much pain can one family endure? My heart is so heavy for you, Heather and Mike.
Sending love and light your way, today and always. But especially today.
Cara says:
Im so so sorry. I lost my first pregnancy in January. There are no words to make it better. Time helps. Take good care of yourself and know you are not alone!
Becky C says:
There is nothing I can say…I’m not sure words exist. This has happened to SO many people I know…all very recently. My heart breaks for you. It’s just not fair. It’s just not right. There are no answers…just know there is an army of us sending love, hugs and prayers!!
colleen says:
I am so very sorry.
Editdebs says:
I’m so sorry. Holding the Spohrs in my heart.
JustAMom says:
To say I’m sorry doesn’t even begin to cover it. Sooo unfair. So, so, so unfair.
Rebecca says:
I don’t think there are proper words to convey how sorry I am for you and your family. You will be in my family’s thoughts and prayers.
Kim says:
Terribly sorry to hear this Heather and Mike.
My thoughts are with you.
Johanna says:
Oh Heather, I am so sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family.
LL says:
I’ve been there and I feel for you. I felt so punished when it happened to me. I definitely know the nothing and the emptiness of that loss. It is awful. I’ll be thinking of you and Mike.
TamaraL says:
I’m so sorry Heather and Mike…
Kayla N. says:
My heart is breaking for you. Sending so much love and good thoughts and positive vibes. I am so so sorry.
Tiffani says:
I am so so sorry. You don’t deserve this, you deserve only happy news. I wish I could say something to help, but I know there’s nothing so just know my thoughts are with you and a huge hug to you both.
Kayleigh says:
It feels kind of wrong to delurk now to comment on something so personal, but I read your blog every day, so I feel like I know you, even though you don’t know me. I’m not even sure what to say, but I felt compelled to tell you that I care about you and your family, and I’m so sorry that this happened. After all you’ve been through, it feels like the universe should just stamp “Free Pass” on your forehead. I hope all the virtual hugs help.
Jill says:
Thinking of you – it’s just not fair.
Jen says:
You’re all in my thoughts…sending extra love into the universe for you.
Jessica says:
I’m so sorry, Heather. So, so sorry. I know this comes at a terrible time for you. I’ll be thinking of you all, I know how much this sucks.
Rachel says:
Thinking of you
Sarah says:
So very, very sorry Heather. Thinking of you and yours.
Julie says:
Heather – I’m so sorry. You are the third person I know who has has this happen to them in the last week. I still don’t know the right words to say except you are in my prayers.
angi says:
heartbroken…sending you love and light.
Kayt says:
I am so so sorry for all of you. I lost my second pregnancy in October, and the numbness eventually breaks, and it sucks, and I’m sorry. I’m keeping you in my thoughts.
Liz T. says:
Words seem so inadequate. So, so sorry. Thinking of your family.
Laney says:
Oh no. Oh no oh no oh no. I’m sorry. And, like the rest, you all are in my thoughts. My heart hurts.
Tricia says:
Love to all of you. Words are inadequate to express the heartache I feel on your behalf. xxx
Patti B. says:
So sorry to hear this news…please take care Heather and Mike.
Susan says:
Oh Heather.
I am so, so sorry, hon.
Thinking of you and your family.
Kristy says:
So very, truly sorry for your loss. Thinking of your family.
Dianne says:
Oh Heather, I am so sorry. This is so not fair. You will be in my prayers.
Becky says:
I’m so sorry, so very sorry. I only know you through your blog, but my heart aches for you and your familly today.
Emily says:
Oh Heather and Mike. I don’t even know what to say. I can’t imagine your devastation. I’m so sorry. Sending prayers your way.
Lisa says:
Oh, Heather, I’m so so incredibly sorry. I have no words, my heart is broken for you. So many hugs and lots and lots of love for all of you.
Ali says:
I am so very sorry for your loss. Sending lots of love your way.
erin says:
Hi Heather — Thinking of you and sending prayers.
monica says:
good grief, my heart aches for you guys! Sending you a big bear hug and will keep you in my prayers.
Krissy says:
I am so so sorry.. sending hugs your way.
Randi says:
Heather – I am so sorry. When I go to the doctors and they ask how many pregnancies I’ve had, I have to say 5. I have 2 children. I know how you feel. I’ve been there. It sucks – that’s the only word for it. SUCKS. Take the time to grieve and mourn for what could have been and know that you are wubbed!!!!
Christina says:
Oh Heather and Mike. I’m tearing up here at my computer. It’s just so horribly unfair. Take care of yourself and know that we’re all thinking of you.
Jo says:
There are no words. All I can say is I’m so sorry.x
Jane says:
I am so sorry. But so hopeful that you will add to your joy again.
designhermomma says:
I’m sorry doesn’t begin to cut it, but know that my heart hurts for you and Mike so very very much.
Thank you for sharing, even when it’s impossibly tough.
Mandy says:
It’s never the same from one person to the next, but this has happened to me, too, and I’m so sorry for your loss.
Kim says:
Oh no! I’m so sorry for your loss. Lots of hugs, thoughts and prayers to you and Mike.
Jessica says:
Love to you. Lots and lots of love.
Lora says:
I’m so sorry. Sending love.
Em says:
I’m so sorry to hear this news
katie says:
I am so very sorry for your loss.
kalen says:
We’ll feel it for you as long you need us to.
Very sorry for your loss, and hoping that in the future there are more days circled.
meg....ct says:
I am so sorry. This is a pain I know…I experienced several miscarrages. They are so very painful. Praying once again for your healing.
Angie says:
I’m so sorry, Heather. I had a miscarriage in November of 2010 and remember feeling that way too at first….nothing. It just leaves you shellschocked. I woke up in the middle of the night to discover what had happened (after having a VERY vivid dream that I had miscarried), and then I went into robot mode. I calmly told my poor husband that our baby had died, got dressed and went to work at 5 am. He begged me to stay home…he was so worried and sad. I got in while it was still dark out, sat down at my desk and just started crying hyterically. When we went in for our ultrasound to confirm later that day, I was just numb again. Almost in self-protection mode. The emotions came pouring out over the next several months…and they still do sometimes, even though we now have a healthy baby boy. I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better. Just know that me and lots of your readers can *truly* empathize, and will be thinking of you and Mike as you work through this sad time. Lots of love…
Allison says:
I’ve never commented before but read your blog regularly. Just wanted you to know that I am sorry and am thinking of you.
christine says:
The world doesn’t make sense. ((hugs))
Laura says:
Oh no. I can’t…it’s just not fair. The ones who deserve the most happiness have been getting anything but. I am so so so sorry.
Nellie says:
I wish my words could soothe, heal and surround you with comfort and love but I am just sitting here with no words and a heavy heart.
Know that you are in my thoughts….always, even if the words aren’t.
Andrea Hayworth says:
Oh Heather and Mike I am so sorry!!!
Lindsay from Boston says:
I am so terribly sorry, Heather, Mike, Annie, and your families.
Barbara says:
I am so sorry for your loss.
Meg says:
I am so, so sorry, Heather and Mike.
Dorkaleena says:
I am so, so sorry. I truly know your pain and wish you weren’t having to go through it. *hugs* to both you and Mike.
Rachel says:
I’m so sorry. I miscarried twice (over 16 years ago), but I am deleting words & retyping because I don’t know what to say. Thinking of you and Mike…….
sara says:
I’m so so so sorry. You all will be in my thoughts.
Jill says:
I am so, so sorry for your loss.
Amy says:
Oh Heather…my heart goes out to you and Mike. I’m so sorry- your family will be in my thoughts.
ColleenMN says:
That happened to me as well. It’s a loss. Give Annie and Mike extra hugs today!
Jessica A says:
Heather I am so very, very sorry. There really are not words enough.
kristin says:
Jesus. I am so sorry.
Jen says:
If there were a person I could kick in the shins or a knee cap I could bust I would totally do it for you.
When you start to feel something we’ll all be here for you. xo
Stephanie says:
Heather and Mike – I’m so very sorry for your loss.
Rebekah says:
I’m so very sorry for your loss.
Ninabi says:
I’m so sorry. Holding you in my heart today.
marslo says:
Heather and Mike, I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts.
phenom1984 says:
I’m so sorry for you guys.
Avitable says:
Well, fuck, Heather.
I’m sorry.
Lots of love.
Stacy says:
Oh Heather…. I’m so sorry. Holding you, Mike and Annie up in prayer today.
Fairly Odd Mother says:
Words seem so inadequate to express this but I’m so, so, so sorry.
Abby says:
I got pregnant two months after my son died. I felt a ray of hope in this dark dark life. I also had a date in mind to tell folks. I miscarried the baby and also felt nothing. Disappointment maybe. “figures” possibly. It made me mad that I had to endure the loss over the much more significant, horrific loss of Max. It was just another punch. But, honestly, I felt next to nothing. That was in October. A week after what would have been Max’s first birthday. I am scared and hopeful and nervous and excited to say we are expecting our second child in July. I’m sorry Heather.
Shelly says:
Words from an internet stranger may seem inadequate right now, but you and Mike are in my thoughts, and I’m sending hugs your way. I’m so sorry.
Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] says:
I’m just so sorry for you all.
Susan says:
I’m sorry for your loss. Peace and comfort to you both.
Just Shireen says:
Thinking of you both today. xo
chantelle says:
Oh Heather, I am so sorry to hear this. Sending peace and love to you, Mike and Annie.
Heather B. says:
Oh God. I am so sorry, Heather. So very sorry.
Jess says:
My heart breaks for you, Mike, Annie and Maddie. Sending you peace and love.
Kristen says:
So incredibly sorry Heather.
AmazingGreis says:
Oh, Heather! I have no words…no words at all. Just know I love you and am here if you need ANYTHING ever!!! XOXO
Beth says:
So many hugs…
Terri says:
Oh Heather I’m SO sorry. I lost my last baby and know how it feels to be wishing that ultrasound to show a little baby in there. I’ve since had a hysterectomy and still feel that emptyness. Wish I could hug you, consider this a cyber hug and know I’m thinking of you both. Lean on your husband, mine didn’t want the baby anyway and I dont think to this day he even knows or cares how much it hurt me to lose it.
Becky Mochaface says:
I wish I had some comforting words to offer you. But all I have is I’m sorry. I am so very sorry.
Leslie says:
One hundred million hugs. I am so so sorry. Thinking of you and Mike today.
Robbie says:
my heart breaks for you.
Chelse says:
I’m so sorry. God speed.
Cupcakekarate says:
I’m so sorry and I love you- sending virtual hugs to you and your clan xoxoxo
Hope says:
Big HUGE hugs! I am so very sorry.
Expat Mom says:
I am so sorry, I was looking forward to hearing that announcement. I’ve had 3 miscarriages and it sucks.
Steph says:
I am so sorry for your loss. Although Maddie and your baby should be here with you, I believe Maddie is now taking care of her little sibling. Much love.
Mrs. Commoner says:
I don’t know what you’re goin through, so all I can say is I’m sorry. Heather, Mike, & Annie – I’m so sorry.
Stephanie says:
I am so so sorry for your loss. I am sick over the unfairness of it all. Sending every good thought your way for hope and healing.
Mrs. Commoner says:
I don’t know what you’re goin through, so all I can say is I’m sorry. Heather, Mike, & Annie – You’re in my thoughts today. Most days actually.
mel says:
I’m so sorry. Many hugs to you and Mike. I’m sorry, Heather
Fridita (Just_a_Grrl) says:
No words… just so, so many hugs and love to you.
Loukia says:
So, so sorry. xo
Brandy says:
Love to you and Mike and Annie. We are all thinking kind thoughts and sending love your way.
Morgan Brasfield says:
Sending you a ton of love today and every day. Be kind to yourself. xoxoxoxoxoxoxox
Desiree says:
I am so sorry to hear this news, my thoughts are with you.
Carole says:
I’m so sorry, Heather and Mike. If there was any fairness, the universe would have reognised that you two had more than paid your dues as far as the loss of children is concerned. But sadly it doesn’t work like that. Wishing you both strength.
Shannon O says:
I’m so sorry for your tremendous loss. Praying for your family.
Kate says:
Sharing in your sadness for you today. Love to you all.
Jana says:
OH NO!!! I don’t know what to say, except I’m very sad for you. I’m so sorry for all that you and Mike have had to endure. I have nothing to write that will bring you any comfort and I WISH I did. Just know lots of people care including me.
Lyndsey says:
So unbelievably sorry
Chrisor says:
It’s hard to know the right thing to say when you know words won’t help right now. Only time will help. I’m so sorry for the loss you & your family suffered. You are living proof that life’s not fair. After everything you went through with Maddie, you deserve some happiness. The Universe needs its ass kicked! One minute you have so many dreams, the next they are dashed. I am truly sorry, Heather.
evsmarie says:
So very, very sorry. Thinking about you and sending love and prayers your way.
Charlene says:
I am so sorry…..words can’t express the deep sympathy I have for you at this time…..
Kate says:
I am heartbroken for you. The unfairness of this is just devastating. All I can say is that I am sending you prayers and love from afar. Hugs.
Nicole says:
That sucks. I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through so much heartbreak. I hope some crazy wonderful things come your way soon.
Jana Duresky says:
I am so sorry – no other words seem adequate…
Becca H. says:
I am so sorry Heather. Words aren’t enough sometimes.
Shana says:
I’m so sorry. Sending love, light, and prayers your way.
Jen says:
Heather and Mike,
There are just no words to convey how sorry I am or how much I wish things could be different for you. Please know you’re held in my thoughts and prayers. Sending you light and love and a hope for kinder tomorrows.
Kristen @ The Chronicles of Dutch says:
I’m so sorry for you all. Wish there was something else to do or say.
Mary C. says:
I am so, so sorry.
Meli says:
I’m so sorry, Heather. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Bridget says:
Oh no, I am so, so sorry.
Catherine says:
I am so very, very sorry.
Amy@Binkytowne says:
Saying I’m sorry just doesn’t seem like enough. I’ve been through this too, go easy on yourself. Eat as much ice cream as you can and take a nap with Annie and remember that tomorrow will be a new day and a new beginning.
Gillian says:
XXXXXXXXXXXXX.
Lamb says:
I’m so sorry, Heather and Mike. Everyone writing here, we all love you and your family very much. I wish there was something I could do or say to help. We’re all thinking of you today.
Mary says:
My heart just breaks for you. You and your family will be in my prayers.
Skye says:
I am so, so sorry you guys are going through this. You are constantly in my thoughts. As others have said, we will be here when you start to feel this loss. It’s not much to offer, but I hope sharing with your readers relieves even a tiny bit of the burden on you.
abbie says:
Deeply sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts.
Lisa F. says:
I can’t do anything but echo what everyone else is saying. I’m so, so sorry.
Lesley says:
Oh, Heather, I’m so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family today.
Melli says:
Truly truly sorry heather & mike. Big hugs xo
Amy says:
Oh no! Not fair!! You guys have had more than your share of bad sh*t and deserve far better from the universe. Hope that knowing how much you are loved by all of us here on the interwebs is at least a small morsel of comfort. Sending love and cyberhugs.
Mary says:
I’m so sorry.
Liz says:
I’m so sorry that you are sharing this news instead of the happy news. Wish I had some amazing words for you…just sending hugs your way.
Glenda says:
Thinking of you and Mike
Xxoo
Megan says:
I’m so sorry, Heather. xo
Sara says:
I’m so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and Mike today…the world just isn’t fair…
Heather says:
I am so, so sorry! Thinking of you guys!
Nanette says:
My heart is broken for you and your beautiful family, Heather. Sending you all the love in the universe.
xoxo
Kate says:
Oh, Heather, I am so, so sorry for your loss.
Amy says:
Heather and Mike, I am so incredibly sorry!
Julie Cole says:
So sorry……an experience too many of us have gone through. xo
Jennifer Dawn says:
Oh my goodness. My heart goes out to you all.
I miscarried before my current pregnancy and I know how hard it is. Please know it’s nothing that you did and that it just wasn’t meant to be. You will hold another beautiful little one in your arms again someday soon. *hugs*
Marinka says:
I’m so, so sorry, Heather. Thinking of you. xo
Angela says:
I’m so sorry! My thoughts and prayers are with you and Mike.
Laura says:
Oh Heather, my heart just sunk when I read this. You, Mike and Annie deserve so much happiness and this is just unfair. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
Catherine says:
Oh mama, I am so so so sorry.
Jenna says:
I’m so sorry, Heather. There are no words. You’re in our thoughts.
Dawn says:
I’m so sorry for the both of you.
Kelly says:
I’m so sorry to hear this. I know words can’t make it better, but there are people who are holding you in their hearts right now.
Heather says:
So incredibly sorry for your loss! Sending big hugs your way!
Jamie says:
Heather, I am so so so sorry. I am with the others who are angry that this has happened. You and your family have been through so much. I wish that there was more that I could do or say. Please know that you and Mike make me more grateful and blessed for the two beautiful children that we’ve been blessed with. And every time I donate to the March of Dimes at the grocery store, I write “In Memory of Maddie”. Such a tiny, tiny thing but I truly hope it brings you a tiny measure of comfort. The day is gloomy and rainy here today. Please know that we’ll be mourning along with you today.
Valerie says:
I hope it’s okay for me to say this but I’m so pissed off about this. I absolutely hate this for you. Words cannot even begin to describe how brokenhearted I am for you. Y’all didn’t deserve this. I hope you are able to heal and go from here. Again, I am so sorry for your loss.
Rachel W. says:
Valerie said it perfectly. I am so incredibly sorry. Why is life so unfair?
Catherine says:
I’m so sorry Heather. I have had two miscarriages and it is so tough. Everyone wants to hear or not to hear different things after something like this happens. I found comfort in knowing that I was not alone and that this happens to so many women – many more than the statistics state. Hopefully that comforts you.
Gerry says:
So deeply saddened by your news. Hugs.
Lea says:
I’m so very sorry, Heather. This should have been an awesome day for you, and I’m sorry it’s brought you heartache instead. You deserve all the happiness in the world.
Stephanie says:
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Veronika says:
I’m so, so sorry. hugs
Melissa says:
My heart goes out to you and your family. Sending comforting thoughts, hugs, and most of all, Hope.
red pen mama says:
Oh, Heather, I am so sorry for your and your family’s loss!
LaurieSL says:
I’m so so sorry, Heather. I wish I could do something to help or comfort you, but know that you are loved very much by your online community.
Heidi says:
Heather and Mike, I am so sorry. I had a missed miscarriage at 11 weeks myself – going for the ultrasound expecting happy news and then having them tell you there is no heartbeat absolutely breaks your heart. Sending hugs and thoughts your way.
Diane says:
I am so sorry for your devestating loss. I have suffered 6 pregnancy losses and it’s completely and utterly heartbreaking. Please know that you are not alone and that there are people who are thinking about you and praying for you.
noe says:
I’m so sorry for your loss, Heather and Mike…
Susan A says:
I am so sorry. You are not alone. I recently went thru a miscarriage. Talk about going from the highest of highs to the lowest of lows in a split second. Sending lots of love and hugs on this day and all days.
Tricia says:
Sorry doesn’t seem adequate for such a loss but I am deeply sorry. Sending so much love to you guys. Xoxo
jersey girl says:
I am so sorry, Heather!
Liz B says:
I’m so sorry.
Karen says:
I’m so, so sorry for your loss. Sending you warm thoughts and hope you may find some peace.
ldoo says:
I have nothing but “I’m sorry.” You are being thought of.
Krystal says:
I’m so sorry. My heart breaks for you and the losses that you’ve had to go through.
Jen says:
I’m so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you all.
Ali says:
I know nothing is going to help right now. But know people all across the globe are praying for you. Maddie will take care of your sweet baby in heaven!
Terra says:
I never thought I would feel so devastated for somone I’ve never “met”. I am so, so very sorry for you, Heather and Mike.
Stacy says:
Heather and Mike, I’ve edited my comment several times. The thing is, there are no words to adequately say how sorry and pissed off I am for you. I miscarried my first, but I can’t truly say I know what you’re going through since you’ve lost so much more to begin with. All I know is in my experience I was numb at first, and then overwhelmingly sad, and then angry. I ended up pregnant a few months later with my daughter, who is now a healthy 8 yr old and my heart. The thing is when I was pregnant with her I’d get angry because the joy of being naive to a loss was gone and replaced with worry. It didn’t seem fair. Then I felt guilt, because I loved my daughter so much, and wished I had never miscarried. Yet, I couldn’t have both of my children. I don’t wish even an ounce of that pain, sadness, anger on you and I fear because of already losing a child it won’t even touch the surface of your true emotions when they decide to surface. I wish even though we’ve never met there was someway I could help…give you a hug, bring you a meal, get drunk off our asses and just try to forget for a moment. Whatever you would need. Instead please know you are in my thoughts and prayers and I’m wishing you comfort and all good things. I don’t “know” two wonderful patents who deserve it more.
pdxhadey says:
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. Sending love to you and Mike.
Marnie* says:
I am so sorry.
Jacqueline says:
I know that nothing anyone says will heal your hurt, but I wanted to tell you how sorry I am to hear of your loss. I lost 2 babies in a row and it was absolutely devastating. I took a week off work, stayed home with my husband and son and just grieved. Of course a week wasn’t enough to grieve the baby I’d never hold, but it was enough so that I could make it through the day when I went back to work. Take your time to heal in your own way, and know that people all over the world are praying for you and sending their love your way.
Michelle Larralde says:
I am so very sorry. As a mom who lost a baby in the second trimester of one of my pregnancies, I understand how tough it can be to feel excited about seeing your baby on that screen, and then the shock of finding out that baby no longer has a beating heart. If it’s any comfort, we were pregnant again 1 month after my miscarriage, and I honestly could not imagine life without my littlest, who would not have been here at all had the pregnancy before his not ended in miscarriage. I’m not an “everything happens for a reason” kind of girl at all, because there are no valid reasons for the loss of Maddie, or any of the other unfair, horrific things that happen, but just wanted to you to know that I’m another mama who’s lost a pregnancy, and then went on to (immediately) have an amazing, healthy, full term pregnancy which resulted in a healthy 7 lb boy (which was huge, since this was all after his premature big brother) who has brought so much love and light to our family. I’m grieving for you over this loss, and hoping that a sweet little sibling for Maddie and Annabel is in your very near future!
Pattie says:
Oh, Heather. I’m so, so sorry. My heart is broken for you. Sending much love to you and Mike.
ememby says:
So, so very sorry.
Mommy says:
Love to you all. I’m so sorry, sweet Mama Spohr.
Jess says:
Oh Heather, I’m so sorry.
Rebecca says:
So sorry Heather
michele wallace says:
So sorry Heather – thinking of you guys. (((HUGS))) to you three.
Love,
Michele Wallace
AD says:
I am so very sorry. Your baby mattered.
Nicole says:
Oh, Heather. Where is the justice in the world??? I am so sorry. So sorry.
Laura says:
Dammit. So so so sorry – words seem so inadequate. Wish there was something more profound to say. Sending you lots of love.
1coolmom says:
Heather, I am so, so sorry! This is not fair….it sucks. Please know you are not alone. I too suffered a miscarriage, it was when we were trying for our second child. We tried for a few months and it finally worked! The day I went in for the ultrasound, I was just numb. I couldn’t understand or believe it was happening to me. We let things happen naturally and the doctors gave us the spiel about waiting several months blah, blah, blah. God had a different plan. Within 6 weeks, I still didn’t have a cycle, I was feeling crummy, pregnant crummy. Could it be? Yes, I was pregnant. Eight months later, my tiny preemie girl was born. Yes, God has a plan for you. Have faith! You’re in my prayers! (((HUGS)))
Kate C. says:
I’m so sorry, Heather. Sending healing thoughts your way…
jaime Maynard says:
I am SO SO SO devastated for you. So unfair, seriously. Dear Universe, please find a new family to pick on.
Mary says:
So very sorry Heather, keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
gorillabuns says:
motherfucker. fuck!
Sarah says:
I’m so sorry.
Elizabeth says:
Oh, Heather (and Mike)- sigh. My heart is with you.
Dianne says:
So very sorry for your new sadness. I can’t even imagine what you and Mike are going through! May you find comfort somehow.
Sam says:
Thinking of you all xxxx
Tamela says:
I am so very sorry.
Holly says:
Sad. And I can’t explain it, but as I was waiting for your blog to load, I briefly thought “I think she’s going to talk about being pregnant today”. Heartbreak.
Kat says:
Heartbreaking and unfair. I’m so sorry and I hope you are OK over the next couple of days
K xx
Mary Moore says:
Oh, I’m so sorry. Such a heartbreak. Wishing you some peace, soon.
Gwen says:
Oh shit, Heather. I am so sorry. I wish I had something to say that would make this even a tiny bit better, but I don’t. Sorry is all I have, and it’s not enough. I’ll be thinking of you.
punkinmama says:
I am so sorry. I wish there were words that could comfort, but I know there aren’t. Much love to you. xox
Lydia says:
Quoting Karen above, “For some reason I will never fathom, the worst things happen to the best people…” I agree so much with this statement. I know words aren’t going to help but I am just so, so sorry. It is unfair.
Kate says:
Heather and Mike,
I have been a reader for many years and have maybe commented once or twice.
I’ll be honest, my first reaction to your post today was anger. I’m not sure at what but I don’t understand why two parents who have had such a great loss would have to suffer another one.
I am so sorry. There is nothing comforting to say in this situation that will actually make a difference so I won’t. This sucks.
Kate
erica L says:
I am so sorry Heather, Mike, and Annabelle. This is just awful news. Many hugs to you all.
Erin W says:
Oh Heather! I read this and my heart absolutely broke for you! No one has the answers for any of this, but God has a lot of explaining to do! I’m so sorry. You’re in my thoughts and prayers.
Kayla says:
Oh Heather, I’m so so so sorry. Sending love and hugs to you, Mike and Annie.
Cristy says:
I seriously had to read this twice to be sure I read it correctly. I’m so sorry. you’ve had way more than your share of heartbreak. :o( thinking of you and your family.
Erin says:
I’m so very, very sorry.
Kelly says:
I am so, so sorry. I just had my third (and last) child, but what most people don’t know is that there were four miscarriages endured on the way to complete our family. The reason was just “bad luck”, but that didn’t make it feel any better. Thinking of you.
Rita from the Chicago says:
Oh Heather, I’m so sorry! Hugs and love coming your way through the inter-webs. Hang in there.
Shannon says:
Oh no, I’m so, so sorry for your loss. It’s just not fair.
Wendy says:
So sorry! I found out about my miscarriages the same way. Thinking of you.
Stacey says:
Oh I’m so, so sorry.
Mandy says:
I’m so very sorry Heather and Mike. Sending prayers and positive thoughts to you all. *hugs*
NYCrystal says:
(((Hugs))) and **Prayers** from my family to yours.
jess says:
I am so sorry Heather and Mike. (and Annie). My love and prayers and hugs to you and everyone.
christine says:
Oh No – I am so sorry – sending you love and prayers.
Jenifer says:
I’m so sorry. (((HUGS)))
Jeannine says:
Heather,
Feeling heartbroken for you both. Even though I don’t know you personally and seldom comment, I’m sending lots of love your way.
Melissa says:
I am so, so sorry Spohr family. You are in my prayers.
Barbara says:
Been there and it hurts so bad that you’re numb. I am so very sorry. Fly high little Sphor.
Katie says:
Heather, I am so, so sorry for what you’re going through. My thoughts are with you and your family right now, there are no words…
Daisy says:
I’m just keeping you guys in my heart right now.
Zoë says:
I am so, so sorry you joined (yet another) club that no-one wants to be a member of. I joined after my third pregnancy ended very early. I was lucky enough to fall pregnant with my third child a few months later. She is my sweet Violet (her name is inspired, in part, by Annie’s middle name) and she is the light of our lives.
Hugs, hope and love to you and Mike. Again, I am so sorry.
Tia says:
This makes my heart hurt. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Heather says:
You of all people do not deserve this. I am so sorry.
rc says:
Hugs to you and your beautiful family.
Christina says:
Nothing but fist shakes and curses to a universe that sometimes makes absolutley no sense.
And wishes for quiets heads and hearts for you and Mike.
nicol says:
Agreed. This. (((((hugs))))))
MelIssa says:
I’m so sorry to hear this. You are in my thoughts.
Kat says:
I am so very sorry you joined me (and a whole lot of other women) in this group! A group that no one ever wants to be a part of, yet, here we are! I lost twins 2 days before Mothers day a few years ago, and it still hurts when Mothers day comes around, even though I have 2 wonderful, healthy kids! I feel doubly sad because of the timing for you as well! I just wanted you to know what I didn’t at the time… there ARE people who understand just where you are and what you are feeling and you aren’t alone (though I know it feels like that). Sending long distance virtual hugs for all 3 of you!!!
AngieM. says:
oh heather!!! i’m so sorry. life is so freaken unfair
Liz says:
Oh, Heather. I’m so sorry. How terribly unfair and sad.
Melissa says:
Heather, my heart aches for you and Mike. I have posted only a few times on your site in the past, but I have suffered through a total of 5 pregnancy losses. Fortunately, I am now blessed with two beautiful sons. But I understand your feeling of nothing. I suffered in silence for 2 years prior to the birth of my first son, after enduring 4 miscarriages, two of which were also lost heartbeats. I wanted to crawl into a hole and disappear. Adding to your loss of Maddie already, I cannot begin to comprehend how you are feeling, but you will get through this. Maddie will welcome her little brother or sister into heaven’s gates, and they will be together. As you for you and Mike, you will endure, you will feel pain, loss, grief all over again, but looking at Annie, hugging and holding her, will pull you both through. And if you want it enough, you will find the strength to do it again, and take the chance to open your heart and feel again. Sending hugs your way.
Kim says:
Heather,
I am so, so sorry. My heart breaks with you and for you. Much love and light to you, your husband, and that extraordinary little girl of yours.
Peace,
Kim
Sally says:
I’m so sorry, and I’m thinking of you and sending love and prayers to you. I wish I could say something or do something else.
jeb203 says:
I am so. so sorry for your loss. I hope you’ll find some comfort in all these people who love you.
Kim says:
My heart is absolutely broken for you and Mike. This is awful, unfair, and I am crying with you.
I love you and am holding you tight in my heart.
xoxo
Kristine says:
So sorry for your loss!
Heather G says:
I’m so sorry.
Monica says:
I’m so sorry Heather. You and Mike will be in my thoughts.
Brie says:
I am so sorry.
Lisa says:
In tears for you. We have lost multiple babies. I know how hard it is, no matter how far along you are. Sending you love and hugs.
Kirsten says:
I JUST went through this very same thing at the end of March. I was 10 weeks and we had already told everyone. I understand that nothing feeling…I really do.
You are not alone. Many hugs and prayerful thoughts
Krystal says:
I’m so sorry for your loss. Your family is in my thoughts.
Bree says:
I’m so sorry to hear that, but I’m sure Maddie will love having her little sibling with her.
amanda says:
So, so, so sorry. So much love to you guys.
Lisa Ash says:
Oh no! I am so sorry!
Celi says:
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Kristin says:
In tears for you. Praying for your comfort and strength. This isn’t fair at all.
Kathy says:
It sounds so worthless, but I am so sorry for your loss. Maybe you have heard it so many times that the words no longer hold any meaning, but please know so many people love you and your family. Sending prayers and hugs for all of you…and hopes for a better tomorrow.
Amy K says:
I’m so sorry.
Anne says:
I am so sorry for you and your family Heather
Kristin says:
I’m so, so sorry Heather & Mike. There are no words. Just sending lots of love and hugs your way. xoxo
Candice says:
I am so sorry to hear this. I know there are no words that can make you feel better, so I will just say that I am thinking of you all and sending a big virtual hug. So sorry.
Megan says:
Oh no. I am so sorry. Hugs to you and Mike and Annie.
Mrs. Wilson says:
I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending love your way.
anotherheatherfromcanada says:
Oh Heather … I’m so incredibly heartbroken for all of you. You SO did not deserve this ! So sorry … thinking of & praying for you all.
Halyn says:
Dammit. This really blows.
I’m so sorry, Heather.
Michelle H says:
I am so so sorry Heather. Praying for you and Mike.
Anne DiNapoli says:
Sending you lots of love and prayers. I am so so sorry.
Tracy says:
I am so crushed for you all. I am terribly sorry.
Diane B. says:
I’m just so very, very sorry. Truly sorry.
Sarah says:
I am so sorry to hear this news, Heather. You and Mike will be in my thoughts.
Sarah says:
My heart is broken for your family. Please accept my condolences for your loss.
Casey A says:
So very sorry and sad to hear this. Your family is in my prayers.
Danielle says:
This lurker just wants to hug you tight. Take care
Meghan says:
Thinking of your family. There really are no words to describe how unfair life can be.
TracyKM says:
I’m so sorry for you and your family. I went through a miscarriage with my second pregnancy, at 13 weeks. We had told everyone at 6 weeks. It sucked, there’s no other way to say it. I wish someone had told me though that the emotional aftermath would be just the same as having give birth….going from pregnant to not-pregnant is rough, no matter if you’re 3 months or full term, it’s a hormonal stewpot. So, you can be excused from anything unusual you say or do for the next 6 weeks or so Rest and recover the best you can.
Wendy says:
This is my first time commenting, but I have been reading your blog for years and feel like I know you even though we’ve never met . I found your blog accidentally while searching for information on micro preemies. I am the mother of a former 28 week preemie who was basically written off by doctors before she was even born. She is now a thriving 9 year old. There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t think of your Maddie. Thank you for opening your lives up to us and inviting us along on your journey.
I wanted to let you know how very sorry I am to hear about your loss. It isn’t fair! I hope you and Mike will be able to find some peace as you grieve. My heart breaks for you!
Debbie B. says:
My heart is hurting for you. I’m so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and sending hugs to you and your family.
Courtney says:
It breaks my heart to read this. I’m so, so sorry for your loss.
Lanie says:
I am so so sorry Heather. I just recently miscarried and I have not had even been able to write about it (well I guess I am now). To be honest I thought after burying 2 sons I can handle a miscarriage but i was just not expecting this – any of this loss. I wish I had the right words. I don’t do I will just write again how sorry I am and send you hugs.
lisa says:
I am so so sorry. I love you and am sending you a hug. I’m so sorry.
MG says:
Sorry surely doesn’t seem like enough, but I truly am.
Emily says:
Oh Heather, I’m so sorry. I read daily, never comment, and I was crushed when I read your post today…can’t imagine what you’re feeling. Sending prayers.
Rachel R. says:
It’s not like anything written here is going to change anything. Or make you feel better. But know there are people out in the world who are praying for you. Who wish they could help. Who are rooting for you and your adorable family. I am one of them.
Lots of love
dina says:
First of all, so sorry for the loss. It’s real and it hurts, I know. One thing that helped me when I had a miscarriage is to learn how very common they are. In fact, a huge percentage of women have experienced a loss. And miscarriages have no impact on getting pregnant again, when you’re ready, of course. My very best wishes to you. I’ve been reading your blog for a long time and “check in” every morning.
Em says:
love to you , so much love.
Amy Stone says:
Just wanted to send my love and hugs….I am so sorry.
Kim says:
No words. Only tears. You are loved.
Erin says:
I am so sorry for your loss. It is absolutely heartbreaking to go in for the ultrasound and see the lack of heartbeat. It is so unfair that this happened to your family.
April says:
Oh, Heather, I just can’t believe it. It’s so unfair. My heart goes out to you and Mike.
Brittany says:
This is so terribly, terribly unfair. I’m so sorry. Thinking of you today and sending so much love.
Kristina says:
I am truly sorry for your loss. Nobody should ever have to go through this pain. My thoughts and prayers are for you today.
Jessica says:
Oh heather. I’m so terribly sorry to hear this. I wish I had some brilliant words that would lighten the heartache, but as someone who has also miscarried more than once I know there’s nothing I can say.
Just know that I’m sending all of my love to you and Mike.
Caroline says:
I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I read this post very early this morning and my initial words were WTF?!? It’s so wrong and so unfair! Hugs and love to you. I wish there was something more I could say or do to make you feel better, but of course there isn’t……sending love your way.
nicole says:
(((HUGS)))
Melissa says:
I am so incredibly sorry. Nobody deserves this, but you especially. i wish life could be a little more fair in doling out this crap.
Michell DuBose says:
This is just so wrong, so unfair. I am so sorry for your loss.
Molly says:
I’m so sorry, you guys. Sucks. I want to throw a temper tantrum on your behalf.
Elaine H says:
So very, very sorry for your loss, Heather & Mike. You are such extraordinary parents. I desperately wish you weren’t facing this painful news. I suffered a miscarriage four years ago at 7 weeks. I was so stunned by the loss, it took me a long time to realize how much it impacted me. My husband and I had already calculated our due date and started picking out names. The loss stays with me, as I expect it always will. We were nervous but anxious to try again, and we greeted our second daughter 3 years ago. Thinking of you and your family.
Dana says:
Oh, Heather… I have been hoping for news of a pregnancy from you guys, and I am so, so sorry for where you are right now. I am sending you love and wishes for comfort.
Many blessings.
Kay says:
Heather and Mike – no one deserves good news more than you. I am thinking of the whole family and so sorry to hear this.
Bridget says:
I’m so sorry to hear this. I’ve been there – twice. The best condolances I received were from the ultrasound tech in my Dr.’s office after my second miscarriage (successful pregnancy in between). She didn’t try to come up with something comforting to say but rather validated the extreme diapointment and said what I believe to be true: “The only thing that makes the sadness of a miscarriage go away is a successful pregnancy.” She’s exactly right. Seeing that positive test a few months later moved all my focus (and paranoia) on to the new peanut. Best wishes to you getting that positive test again soon. So sorry for your loss.
lisa d says:
Sorry isn’t nearly enough, but I’m sending you the best wishes possible :O(
Liz says:
It seems so pointless to say I’m so sorry. But I am. So very sorry.
amy d says:
I realize being the 426th person to say “I’m sorry” doesn’t change or help anything.
But, I am…I am so, so sorry Heather.
You’re in my thoughts and prayers.
Suzanne L. says:
So sorry Heather.
Stephanie says:
I read that, and just thought “no, no, no, no, that cannot be, not Heather”.
Jill says:
I am so, so sorry. It is utterly unfair. You and Mike are in my thoughts.
Christine says:
Oh, Heather, I am so sorry. I know that Annie will have a baby brother or sister soon enough.
amy says:
Sending lots of love. XOXO
Leah says:
I am so sorry. Praying for you.
Karen says:
I’m so sorry, Heather. You deserve better. Sometimes I wonder how much one person is supposed to withstand in this life. Hugs.
Shauna says:
I was going to write there are no words, but there ARE words, they just might not be appropriate for the blog. I’m SO angry and sad for you guys. I know nothing I or anyone else says can help, but if there was anything I could do I would do it for you. I just wish there was a way to help you guys feel better.
Elizabeth says:
I am so sorry for your loss. From personal experience I know that words bring little comfort. Please take care of yourself. Huge (((hugs)))
emily k. says:
I’m so sorry to hear this.
Thinking of you all.
Anna says:
I’m so sorry. You don’t deserve any of this.
Cara says:
cot dammit! so unfair…I’m so sorry.
Lesa says:
So sorry!
nicolette says:
I am so very sorry for your loss, Heather and Mike. Words will not adequately express how much I feel for you both. Thinking about you and your family and sending positive, loving vibes and energy to all of you.
Elinor says:
Oh Heather,
there are no words, but I am so very sorry to read this…
hugs
giselle says:
I’m so sorry Heather =( If you believe in heaven, then try to picture Maddie taking care of this baby for you up there. If you don’t, then all I have is I’m sorry
Megan@TrueDaughter says:
Heather and Mike, I am so very sorry this has happened. I will keep you in my prayers. This happened to us in October, we lost our twin boys at 16 weeks. It’ll hit you, and then there will be more grief, but you will move through. Blessings and Love, Megan
Nicole E. says:
Awww Heather, im so sorry to be reading this
My heart goes out to you and your family.
Praying for you, Mike and Annie, always!
Sara Mc. says:
Well this fucking sucks. I’m truly saddened by this news and so sorry for your loss. (sorry for the language.) Many hugs to you and yours.
Nicole Singleton says:
Heather I’m so so so sorry to ‘hear’ this sad news. I’m so sorry to you and to Mike. Hugs to you both!
Christina says:
I also had “nothing” – in January. The lady who did my ultrasound was awful. She told me that she has 6 daughters and she got pregnant again 2 years ago but lost the baby. Then she said, “But it was another girl and a Downs baby… so it wasn’t so sad.” I can’t even remember how I responded. The world can be a cruel place.
Jacquie says:
Damn it. I am so incredibly sorry. So, so, heartbroken for all of you. You’re in my prayers.
Maggie says:
Oh Heather. My heart aches for you & Mike. It’s not fair. I’m so sorry. *hugs*
Lauren says:
I’m so very sorry. This !@#$ing blows.
Lindsey Cote says:
Prayers that you are somehow able to find some peace.
HeatherMarie says:
keeping you and your family in my thoughts today. sending love your way.
Brandy says:
I realize nothing I have to say can make this any better, so I will simply say I’m so sorry. May you be blessed with peace and light – you’ve had more than your fair share of heartache.
Sarah says:
Heather and Mike – Sorry to hear of the loss of your newest baby. The hopes, dreams, and excitement you had for this little one validate the precious life that lived within your body and hearts. You have a tiny angel in the soul of your family now, and always will.
Great big hugs from *over here*
Erica says:
Oh, Heather! I have read your blog for a long time and never commented, but my heart hurts too much at this post to not tell you that I am thinking and praying for you.
Susan says:
I am so sorry Heather. It is cruel and unfair. Wishing you, Mike and Annie peace and comfort.
Jeanie says:
Oh, for gosh sake. I’m so sorry, Heather, and Mike, too. What terrible news. I’m practically speechless. Love and blessings to you.
J from Ireland says:
I am so sorry, I don’t know what else to say. You both are in my thoughts and prayers.
Jean says:
So so sorry, Heather and Mike. Sending lots of love…..
Lindsay from Boston says:
I’ve already commented, but I can’t stop thinking about you today. This post is heavy on my mind and heart in all that I’m doing. Even while I was working out, every time I had to do a punching movement, I swear I was picturing myself aiming at whatever “It” is (the universe, a higher power, just plain inexplicable and inexcusable chance???) that has thrown this latest heartache at your family. It is so unfair, and we all hurt for and with you.
Heather and Mike, I have to believe that Maddie and her brother/sister are together. I do believe (I KNOW) that they are always a part of your family. And I believe that Annie will one day have a brother/sister here with her too: you both are such amazing parents (the kind of parents I aspire to be) that I can’t imagine you not having the gift of another baby. But that doesn’t (and isn’t meant to) lessen the pain and how wretchedly unfair it all is. Maddie and Annie should be together HERE, waiting for their new sibling together. I hate this for you both. I hate it so much. I’m a total stranger, and I wish there was something more to say or do.
ALL the love, prayers, strength, peace, and light that I have … they are yours.
Paula says:
I’m so sorry…
Lynnette says:
I am adding my words of how sorry I am for you both. Not too many things readily bring a tear to my eye, but this post did. I can’t even imagine how much this loss must hurt. Sending internet love to both of you.
Rebecca (Ramblings by Reba) says:
I read this first thing this morning, and I’ve been thinking about you all day as I waited to be able to write a comment.
I am so sorry. This totally sucks.
Molly says:
I am so sorry Heather–I am so sad for this horrible disappointment when you’d expected to be so happy. You’re not alone in this.
marcilyn says:
Heather, I have been here and it is heartbreaking. I am so very sorry. You have had enough heartbreak and to deal with more is unimaginable. *hugs*
Nicole says:
Oh my gosh. My heart just dropped.
I’m so sorry. Just so sorry.
Jackie says:
I am so terribly sorry for your loss.
Cassie says:
I’m so sorry, this sucks.
Kay says:
I’m so sorry to hear this. It breaks my heart that you have to go through something like this. ((Hugs)) to you, Mike and Annie.
Jessica V. says:
I’m so sorry Heather. This blows.
Hugs to you all.
Trisha says:
I’m so sorry Heather! ((HUGS)) to you all. The universe is so stinking cruel and awful sometimes, this post broke my heart and I’m sorry you’re having to endure so much heartache.
Jessica says:
Oh Heather I am so so sorry. Don’t you sometimes feel like it’s just been enough already? I wish the road would get easier for you. Sending a million hugs.
Catherine says:
No words, but wishing you both some peace. If cyberspace caring could help….you have a world of friends sending caring and love.
Kristina F. says:
I can’t imagine what you must be feeling, and I so wish you didn’t have to be going through this. I am one of hundreds of strangers who checks your blog first thing in the morning and hopes everyday that you have found some measure of happiness. This is a punch in the gut and I am so very very sorry.
Sherry says:
Oh dear Heather, I’m sorry. Much love to you.
Kristen says:
This is such awful, heartbreaking news. I am so very sorry, my heart is breaking and I have nothing but love for you all.
KaraB says:
My heart is breaking for you and your family. I am so sorry.
RzDrms says:
It freaking sucks that we’re saying this to you again, but I’m one of the hundreds (thousands) who are so so sorry for the loss of your precious baby. You and Mike have been on my mind and in my heart all day, just little ole me thinking about y’all from across the country, with an ache that many of us reading are feeling for you.
Katie B. says:
I screamed out “what the hell? ” when I read this. Why in God’s name do you guys have to suffer any more? I don’t understand. I’m so sorry.
I’ve had a miscarriage and ectopic pregnancy. I was completely numb with my second loss, which was almost better that way (save it for later psychologists). We will deal with it when we are ready.
I hope you are ok sweetie. I’m always available if you want to email me anytime. I’m a mom whose had two losses and works as a NICU RN. I’m familiar with loss and being damn angry about it and with all the associated feelings that go along with it.
So so sorry Heather and Mike.
Momma Lioness Michele says:
Thought I posted this already…please forgive me if this is my 2nd comment here. Just could not let this go by without posting. I am truly sorry for your loss. The unfairness of this blows my mind. My heart is heavy for you.
Wishing you love and light today and everyday. But especially today.
Keri says:
I am so sorry.
Wallydraigle says:
Oh, I am so sorry. What an awful thing for you. For anybody, but especially for you. I’m so sorry.
Sarah G says:
Mike and Heather,
I am at a loss of things to say other than that I am SO sorry you have to go through this and just know that there are alot of people around the world who have you in their thoughs and prayers and are wishing for some relief and healing to come your way.
Amy says:
I am so sorry for you guys.
Tracy says:
I’m so sorry. You’re in my prayers.
Jessica says:
Thinking of you and sending internet hugs your way
Jennifer says:
I am so sorry for your loss. I will be thinking about you, Mike, and Annie!
Jacquie Holley says:
This is just not fair and I am so sorry Heather!
Sarah G says:
So very sorry for you all
Elisabeth says:
My thoughts and prayers are with you and Mike during this time. I’m in the same boat, still trying to recover emotionally and physically from a miscarriage in March. It’s a horrible experience that I would wish on no one.
SJL22783 says:
Mike and Heather-
I don’t even know if these words are good enough, but I am so sorry to hear this.
sending any love that can help
Zoe says:
so sorry to hear this news. you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Sky says:
you and mike and annie are in my thoughts. so very sorry to read this.
Janie says:
I am so sorry to hear this =(
jill says:
i’m so, so sorry heather. we’re all devastated WITH you. we’re here for you.
Jenn says:
I read this this morning and tried to think of what to say all day. I can’t think of anything to express how sorry I am to hear this, but I didn’t want to NOT say anything. A lesson I learned from reading your blogs for so long. You are in my thoughts.
mccgoods says:
I have been there twice and it sucks. I wish I had a private jet I would pick up all these supporters along the way and we arrive at your house giving you big big big hugs. Many Many Many hugs.
I too felt nothing at first so I understand feeling empty it’s an okay feeling to have. Not that you need my permission!
Kelly says:
So sorry for your loss, Heather and Mike.
Stefanie says:
Heather & Mike,
I’ve been reading your blog for a couple of years now but I’ve never commented – I just wanted you both to know you have one more person out there thinking of you. My heart breaks for you and your entire family. I am truly sorry for your loss.
Lesley @Avalea says:
Oh Heather and Mike… I’m sending you warm hugs and sending you loving light. I’m so sorry.
Amanda says:
So sorry to hear…thoughts and hugs sent your way.
Virginia says:
I’m so sorry Heather & Mike. Words just don’t fill the sadness.
Alison says:
I am so very sorry!
Linda says:
So very, very sorry for your loss.
Andrea says:
I am so so sorry, praying for you and your family…
LIbby says:
I am so sorry. I too saw this first thing today and my heart hit the floor. I wish you peace.
Natalie says:
I am so sorry Heather. My heart aches for your loss.
Breanna says:
It is so hard to experience this. Every life is precious, and knowing someone you were excited to meet is gone is incredibly difficult. I lost a baby between my first and second, and at the time I was devastated. As time went on, I feel sad, but know my little girl is here as an indirect result. I am so sorry for your loss. I hope your beautiful little girl brings you both joy and comfort in the coming weeks.
Lora says:
I am so incredibly sad to read this. I wish it wasn’t so! Like many others here, I just don’t have words but know that I hate that this is happening to you and Mike.
Barbara says:
I am so, so sorry.
MommyNamedApril says:
desperately sorry for you.
Jodi says:
Heather, I am so sorry. There are no words. I had the same thing happen to me in February. I went in for my 12 week appointment and I was thinking that everything was going to be great and we’d announce to everyone after my appointment. When the doctor tried finding the heartbeat and couldn’t my heart sank. After the u/s it looked like the baby stopped growoing at 10w3d. I feel terrible for you and reading your post brought me right back to that day. It looks like Maddie must have wanted someone in heaven with her, and she probably welcomed the baby with open arms. I hope you and Mike find peace and strength to get through this. I will keep your family in my thoughts and prayers. Take care!
Jamie says:
Oh, Heather. So very sorry.
Audrey McClelland says:
Heather,
I’m so sorry. I’ve been in those shoes before and it’s a very empty feeling. If you need anything, please know you’re in my heart and my prayers. xo
Audrey
Jodee says:
Oh Heather, I am so sorry. My heart sunk when I read this. Praying for you.
Paula says:
Our first baby was ectopic. With the second I knew for two weeks I would miscarry, the agony of waiting. Miraculously, with only a 1 percent chance of conceiving again, we did and the result is Grace, just a few days before Annie. My heart aches for you but never give up. Grieve for the loss of this little one as you need, then try again. Much love from New Zealand to you all xxx
818Mom says:
Dear Universe,
Are you freakn’ serious????
Signed,
Pretty much everyone who has ever read this blog
Karen M says:
There are no words I can say to express how sorry I am for the awful news. You, Mike, and Annie are in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. *hugs*
Sasha says:
Oh Jesus. I’m so sorry. So sorry.
Janette says:
Oh Heather, I’m so sorry. Sending you hugs and love.
Kayla says:
Words are failing me, Heather and Mike. Just failing me.
I was so stunned when I saw this post, and now I’ve just been crying and crying for five minutes. I’ve been a supporter and reader for years, since you lost your Maddie, and now this. . .I’m so sorry. So, so sorry for your loss.
This is all wrong.
Colleen - @amadisonmom says:
Heartbroken for you. There are really no words. Sending you strength and hope. Go give Annie extra hugs and smooches.
Nancy Raine Smego says:
There are no words. Just know you are loved.
Miranda says:
I am so sorry.
Victoria at Figuring Out the Details says:
Miscarriages suck. I’m so sorry. I found out I was having a miscarriage a few days after Mother’s Day two years ago. I wish I knew what to say other than I’m sorry, and I’m thinking of you.
adrianne says:
heather and mike,
i’m so sorry for your loss. my heart is breaking for you three right now. my husband and i just experienced a missed miscarriage with our first pregnancy back in february – we found out at our first ultrasound, too. i don’t know what to say other than you are not alone and that there is some relief to be on the other side.
thinking of you,
adrianne
kristen says:
I’m so so sorry.
Nicole says:
I read this first thing this morning, have been thinking about you all day and am trying to come up with the right words. I read your blog every day. I hardly ever comment because I never feel like I have something funny, witty or thoughtful to add. I feel like you are my friend and that we “chat” when I read your words. As crazy as it may sound you are a daily part of my life. I was devastated when I read this post. It hurt me and my heart so very much. I ache for you. I wish I could hug you and make it all go away. I wish I had words to make it even just a little bit better. I wish that things would stop not making sense. Why do bad things happen to good people? I’m rambling . . . I want you to know that I have love for you and your family. I hope and pray for you every day. All my love – Nicole
marta says:
I’m so sorry, Heather and Mike!
Carolyn says:
I first read this at 5am in a sleepy haze, and when i woke up at 8am i hoped and prayed it was an awful dream i had about a total stranger, but it wasn’t. and i haven’t stopped thinking about you and your family all day. i am so sorry that you are dealing with even more heartbreak, you have certainly been dealt your fair share and then some. much love from a total stranger in chicago xoxoxoxo
Snarky Mommy says:
Oh, Heather, I am so sorry. I am thinking about you guys.
aubrey says:
Devastating. I am very sorry for your loss.
Jenn says:
I wish there was something that could be said to heal all the pain that your heart holds. Just know that your family is in the prayers of so many, tonight and every other night.
Ryan says:
I am so saddened for you guys.
LibraryGirl62 says:
Oh Heather….love…
Susan/toastgal says:
I’m very sorry to hear the news Heather. My condolences to you and your family.
Krista says:
My sincerest condolences; I’m so sorry for your loss, and so sorry you’ve had so many difficult burdens to carry these past few years. You are wonderful parents and amazing people, and I hope you will have more joy in your lives soon.
RzDrms says:
I’m still so sad about this. May that circle on your calendar be just a tiny reminder of the beautiful life that you were able to celebrate, even for such a very short time.
In fact, I’m going to circle today’s date on my big wall calendar at work tomorrow with a pink heart. For the rest of the year, these next seven months, I’ll see that heart every day.
Heidi says:
I’m so sorry. I have been there too. After a year of infertility treatments we were finally pregnant, only to have that same dreaded ultrasound. It took surgery, another year of trying and a failed IVF before we ever got pg again. I was scared the whole time and was high risk for various reasons (autoimmune issues, blood clotting issues, etc). Those were hard, hard times. You’ve been through even worse, I know. I’m just so very sorry you have to deal with this too. *hugs* to you, Mike and Annie.
Omar G. says:
I’m so sorry, Heather. Thinking of your family tonight and sending hopeful thoughts your way.
fran b. says:
I’m so sorry for both of you. I know exactly how you feel. If it helps at all, I got pregnant with Josh one month after that happened to me. I wish the same for you.
Suebob says:
I’m so sorry. I wish it could have been different.
Erin says:
I am so, so incredibly sorry for your loss. I have been there 3 times. The joy of the ultrasound turning into the heartbreak of loss in an instant is something no one should have to bear. So much love to you and your family.
Vanessa says:
I am so sorry for your loss. Life just truly sucks sometimes.
Amanda says:
Thinking of you – so very sorry. There really are no words. (Long time reader, first comment).
Amanda
Sarah says:
I am so so sorry. I hate that you have to go through this. My heart sank when I read your post. There are no words that can make the loss of a precious baby better. Please know that there are so many people who love and care about your family, we are all holding your family in our hearts. Big Hugs
A-Team says:
Long-time reader, first comment. Prayers and love for your family always, but especially today. My heart breaks for the sorrow you feel now, but remains hopeful for the day you welcome a new addition to your amazing family. Hugs, hugs, and more hugs. Wish I could offer more, say more, DO more to help make the heartache hurt less. I don’t know that it ever actually goes away, just dulls over time.
Love, light, and every good thing is wished for; for Mama, Daddy, Annie, and Rigby.
HeatherJ. says:
So. Fucking. Unfair.
I am so, so sorry you are having to endure such grief.
HeatherJ. says:
So. Fucking. Unfair.
I am so, so sorry you & Mike are having to endure such grief.
May you both & Annie & your families be surrounded by much comfort, kindness & love.
Dee says:
I am so sorry… Having also experienced a missed miscarriage a year ago, I understand and hope you find comfort in the arms of those who love you. Sending internet hugs and positive thoughts your way.
Mary says:
Holding you all in my thoughts as you go through this. Big hugs and much love.
Andrea says:
I am so sorry Heather.
adrienne says:
oh dear. i’m so sorry…my thoughts are with you all right now…
Elaine A. says:
I’m so, SO sorry.
Kat says:
Heather Spohr you have been dealt a shitty shitty hand and I will never understand why some people repeatedly suffer loss while others dance through life unscathed. I don’t get it.
Laurie says:
Heather and Mike, I am so sorry for your loss.
Michelle says:
Heather –
I really don’t know what to say except, I’m very sorry. I will keep you, Mike and Annie in my prayers. Hugs to you and your family.
Michelle – Herculaneum, MO
AJ says:
I am so so sorry to for your loss. Thinking about you guys and sending lots of love.
Kelly Rae says:
“Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is a half sorrow.” ~Swedish Proverb
Please know that I am sharing in your sorrow. I’m so very sorry for your loss.
LisaJ says:
I am so, so sorry. Between this and Jenepper’s loss, I am just floored. My heart breaks for you, and I know how horrible this is; I lost my honeymoon baby in the same manner. Went in to see our baby, and…blighted ovum. The wait is horrible, and my heart breaks for you.
Cayenne says:
My thoughts are always with you and your family.
Tor says:
Thinking of you and Mike during this time.
Auntie_M says:
Oh Heather!!!! ((Hugs)) Tears & Love to you & Mike
Cathy says:
I’m so sorry Heather and Mike for your loss. So, very sorry
Heather says:
I’m so very sorry to hear your sad news, Heather. You and Mike and Annie are in my thoughts and prayers..
Amanda says:
Longtime reader, rarely comment…I am sorry. Just so very sorry.
Be gentle with yourself.
Kelly says:
Oh, Heather. I am so very sorry to hear about your loss. We’ve been there ourselves, and it’s just terrible. And of all the people in the world, I am so sorry this happened to you.
Know that I’ll be thinking of you and your beautiful family…
Arin says:
Heather, I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing you life with us. Your honesty is inspiring. You touch so many lives, and I hope that knowing you are in our thoughts helps lift your spirits.
Meegs says:
I’m so sorry Heather and Mike. I’ve been there. Its a horrible place to be.
Heidi says:
Heather, I am so sorry for your loss. I know that this baby was so very loved and wanted. (((Giant hugs.)))
Manapan says:
I’m sorry for your loss. You are all in my thoughts and I will hope that loss never, ever darkens your door again.
Allison Zapata says:
I just love you so much. xoxo
Ashlea says:
Heather,
I’m so sorry. I too had a “missed abortion”. I just hate that term. It was my birthday & the nurses had gotten me so excited. “You’re going to see your baby today!” Then there was nothing. They gave me the abortion pill & when that didn’t work I had to schedule a D&C. It’s been three years & every once in awhile I wonder what might have been. Wishing you all the best & love during this time.
Jen says:
I’m so very sorry for your loss. As a multiple missed miscarriage vetern myself, I wish there was more that I could say. I’m glad the D&C went well. I hope you heal physically quickly. I know I miss all of my babies, even the microscopic ones. I wish you peace and healing.
Meg says:
Love and lots of hugs.
kim moldofsky says:
Total suckage. I’m so sorry for your loss. No two people more the same way. Take the time and space you need to process this sad loss in your own way.
{hugs}
VDog says:
Hugs & love
Karen says:
Oh, I am so sorry to hear this. I just found out the same thing, on Thursday, although I’d started to have cramps and bleeding on Wed. so I pretty well expected the news.
It sucks either way. I am so sorry.
Jess says:
I’m so sorry Keeping you guys in my thoughts and prayers.
Amy A. says:
Heather,
I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s been 2 years since I lost my twins. I was 17 weeks along when they became tangled in their cords and died. It was December 18th, I had to wait for my D&C until after Christmas- so painfully sad for me. I was able to find comfort in my other children. Keeping you in my thoughts.
Kim says:
Hug your Annabelle. I have been pregnant 4 times with no children. Be blessed that you have her and I hope the best for you!
Molly says:
Been a longtime reader and I came back to this post in your archives today because this week, the same thing happened to me. The silence of the machine followed by the doctor’s “I have bad news” just keeps running through my head. Anyway, I just wanted to say thank you for having shared this. I am reminded that some people indeed understand this loss.
mccgoods says:
Hugs to you Molly ! I hope you get this reply nobody should have to feel alone while they grieve this loss . I have miscarried twice and it is heartbreaking. My heart is with you
Heather says:
Oh Molly, I am so, SO sorry to hear this. I hate that you have to go through this pain and loss. Please let me know if there is anything I can do. I’m just so sorry. xoxo