At my appointment yesterday with Dr. Risky, she opened up my patient chart and said, “We have more information on you right now than I do on a lot of my full-term patients.” Better a medical file than a disciplinary file, I guess!
The whole appointment was pretty uneventful, although it was the first time I didn’t throw up in her bathroom before my exam. Progress! Her nurse found The Acrobat’s heartbeat with her doppler and it was strong. I’m always nervous in those few moments before I hear the woosh, woosh, woosh of his heart, but luckily I didn’t have to wait long to hear it. My fundal height was right on track, which wasn’t surprising because HELLO I am looking pregnant now:
Dr. Risky gave me a fetal fibronectin test. Fetal fibronectin is a protein that’s attached to the amniotic sac, and if it is detected in the cervical canal at this stage in pregnancy it can mean that you’re at an increased risk of going into labor in the next one to three weeks. I’ve had this test performed lots of times during my pregnancies, but this was the first time I’ve had it done during this one. It’s very simple – just a swab from my cervical canal – and the results are ready in a few hours. Mine came back negative, thank goodness. But it’s only accurate for about a week, so I’ll be back in Dr. Risky’s office next week for another FFN test. I’m not sure if this will be a weekly thing until delivery, or if it’s just going to happen until I’m far enough along to go back on anti-contraction medications. I’ll find out next week.
The rest of the appointment was mostly just me unloading on Dr. Risky about how crappy I feel. When she said, “How are you doing?” I’m sure she didn’t expect me to really tell her. I opened my mouth and all these complaints came tumbling out, but then I said, “I’m so sorry! I don’t mean to complain! I’m so grateful to be pregnant and that the baby is doing so well but I just can’t WAIT until it’s over because I’m so exhausted and I feel like I’m falling apart!!!” To her credit, she only laughed at me a little bit before she reminded me that I am exhausted not only because I have a three-year-old at home, but also because I have spent the last six months under-nourished and there’s only so much a body can take. I felt a lot better after she said that.
I’ve really tried my hardest to be positive during this pregnancy, but I’m not going to lie – it felt good to drop that for a minute and let it out. The medicines, the shots, the headaches, the barfing and never-ending nausea, the stress…it’s freaking hard. I really am so grateful but I am also really, really tired.
So, as usual, I am keeping my eye on the prize…even if sometimes, the prize is just making it to bed at the end of another long day.
DefendUSA says:
Heather…not gonna lie…couldn’t sleep with the moon shining through and even though we don’t know each other in person, I was thinking of you. They say you can only appreciate how good you’ve got it because you pay attention to those who have it rougher…and you’ve still got it better! Once “Jack the acrobat” is here all the trials are going to seem small. And with each day you watch him grow, they’ll get farther and farther away…life IS good!
Sara says:
Did you just give away their baby name? That’s kind of rude.
DefendUSA says:
Sara…you must not read here often. There have been all kinds of suggestions to Heather. I put it in quotes because that was my version of a subliminal message. Heather has not revealed what the name of “Jack The Acrobat” is. I was not being rude.
Sara says:
Sorry, I don’t always get to the comments. I must have been projecting, since that’s the sort of thing my mother does. “Oh, well, she told me she was pregnant, she must have wanted me to announce it on facebook!” I get a little touchy about that sort of thing. Again, I apologize.
DefendUSA says:
Sara, no worries…And I get that. My mother in law did the same when I was preggers with my third. She saw the prenatal vitamins and told the world! I still like her, however…:)
kandi ann says:
Subliminal means your thinking they would take your suggestion? Because I love the name Jack too and I cringed when I saw your comment. No one wants the internet using their babies name before the actual parents get to. (And if you are the exception, I would like to hear about it nicely.)
DefendUSA says:
Heather noted that it’s not the baby’s name and it seems to me, you are the one being un-nice. My comment made you cringe? Sigh. I wouldn’t want to be you, kandi-ann.
My post was meant to be sincere, a little endearing and funny because I like this blog and feel a tiny bit familially friendly as I read it every morning. Did you miss my smiley face to indicate cheer?
Heather says:
It’s okay everyone. The baby’s name is not going to be Jack.
needsatimeout says:
how about Ryan ? You don’t have to say yes or no but I had a dream the other night that you named him Ryan. =)
It was so clear that I thought maybe I had a missed a blog post.
Heather says:
That’s not it, although I do love that name!
needsatimeout says:
=) Try a 6 letter name that way you can sing his name to the tune of the Mickey Mouse theme song.
Don’t ask just Don’t ask =)
alimartell says:
…well now I feel like you almost NEED to change the baby’s name to Jack. Heh.
Bria says:
You are not alone, Heather. I too am very grateful to have a healthy baby growing inside me but boy do I complain to my midwife when I see her!! Hang in there. xx
Allie says:
Heather, you deserve a vacation!!! Wish I had the money or I’d send you to a relaxing spot!
TamaraL says:
I sure hope the rest of your (full-term!) pregnancy flies by for you! You can do it!!
Erin Christine says:
Hugs!! One day at a time, you can do this. You are so strong! It is great to read your posts every day and hear about your progress.
Connie says:
I have more respect for you (and people like my sister) who have been sick throughout the whole pregnancy. I am coming up on 10 weeks and my “morning” sickness started at about 8 weeks in. I don’t even puke every time I feel sick, but just the feeling of nausea is enough to make me want to stay in bed ALL day. And the emotional swings of happy/sad, nervous/excited, mad/glad…oh man, it’s really tough. I do NOT know how my Mother had 6 kids. I always wanted a big family, but we’ll have to see about that. It’s just the weirdest/most amazing thing. This is one of those times where my tired mind thinks that God MUST be a man because no woman/all powerful being would make other women go through this, lol.
Okay, sorry for the rambling. Best of luck for the rest of your pregnancy. I honestly can’t wait to see pics of Annie with the Acrobat.
Adrianne says:
Heather, I have been so amazed at how positive you have remained throughout all of the difficulties of this pregnancy! But really, NO ONE could be expected to be positive all of the time, especially under the circumstances that you find yourself. I hardly vomited at all during my pregnancy but I was sooo nauseous all the time and must have been miserable to be around because of all my complaining! Now when I read what you’ve been going through, I feel like a huge, ungrateful, wimp.
You are doing great and it’s okay to complain every now and again. No one here will judge you for it:) One day at a time….I hope today is a good one!
Becki says:
And what a wonderful prize you are going to be receiving!!
Unload here whenever you want to if it makes you feel better. It helps.
Kate says:
I echo the other comments by saying that it’s impossible to be happy all the time. Venting helps keep us sane – or at least it does me Hugs to you and wishing the rest of your (FULL TERM!) pregnancy goes well. xoxo
Lisa says:
Wow, you sure have “popped!” You look beautiful!
Hang in there… I hope the rest of your pregnancy flies!
Stacey says:
I don’t know you, but am glad you vented! I would be more worried about you if you didn’t. Everyone deserves to be heard.
linn says:
I had normal morning sickness for the first three months of my pregnancies, where I just felt nauseated all day and could only eat a few items, and I was miserable. I never even threw up but I would come home from work and get right into bed. So I think you are incredibly tough to have done anything at all with what you’re coping with, let alone Christmas, birthday party, Disneyland trips. You deserve all the complaining you want.
Lenora says:
You know, I think your doctor is the one person who really wants to know when they ask how you are :-). We all know how grateful you are for this baby but we also know how hard pregnancy is for you physically; you have a right to complain sometimes!
Courtney says:
Being pregnant with a toddler/preschooler to take care of is exhausting! I was completely worn out the whole time, and I didn’t have HG to deal with on top of that. It’s only natural you’re feeling this way, and you should feel okay saying that! It doesn’t mean you’re not grateful for the baby growing inside you.
Lanie says:
You definitely can be grateful and also vent. I hope it is ok but I want to add to Dr. Risky’s list the fact that you are also pregnant after loss. Pregnancy alone is filled with anxiety and exhaustion but grief brings it to another level. Sending you hope and hugs. Take care. xo
Michelle says:
I hope that the next few months move quickly and that the little acrobat arrives safely and healthy. Though I will admit–I’m not pregnant, but have two small children at home, and sometimes my “prize” is thinking about going to bed at the end of the day–and that thought sometimes enters my mind before I even get out of bed in the morning!
Christina says:
Heather, you’re a champ! Everytime I read your posts about how you’re feeling, that’s what I think. Totally rooting for you over here. -LA longtime reader
Jeanie says:
I wish I could take all your ailments away, but I’m glad you had a good visit with your doctor. You are indeed looking pregnant. How much longer do you have to go?
Heather says:
I will deliver at the end of May at the latest, so 11 or 12 more weeks.
Amy B. says:
I thought that you had an allergic reaction to the anti-contraction meds. Will they try a different one, or are they all in the same family.
Amy B. says:
Man, I think I was half asleep when I wrote that- I forgot question marks! And I pushed send before I was done. Long day!
Anyways- You have every right to complain, and it doesn’t make you sound at all ungrateful. You’ve had a rough go of it on all fronts. Just a migraine kicks my butt!
Heather says:
I am allergic to the one that is normally used at this point in pregnancy. Once I am in the third trimester, I can start a different one (it’s not safe at this point). I believe they are in different drug families so I hopefully won’t have an allergic reaction to that one!
Mommy says:
Do NOT apologize for venting!!! It’s good for you and you have every right to complain a little- no one would ever think that meant that you weren’t sooo grateful for that little acrobat that you’re growing!!!
Sidebar, you have the cutest preggers belly ever!!
xoxo
Amelia says:
You are doing AWESOME about not complaining. We know how grateful you are, and what you’re going through is ridiculously hard. Sending light and love.