I saw my perinatologist today. It’s not Dr. Risky – unfortunately, UCLA and Blue Shield have not worked out their differences. So I have a new peri who shall now be known as Dr. Hirisk. He is great, we really like him. He and an ultrasound tech confirmed what my OB saw yesterday. It’s called a “Missed AB,” or Missed Abortion. It’s where the baby stops developing, but your body has no idea. That explains why I have still been sick, had headaches, and started to show.

Originally the plan was to have a D&C on Monday, in order to give my medications time to leave my system (two different blood thinners). But then I started to spot in the afternoon, so the D&C was moved to tomorrow, Thursday, at 1. If my spotting turns into full-on bleeding, I am to go to the ER for an emergency D&C. Hopefully it doesn’t come to that.Β Dr. Hirisk and my OB don’t want me to bleed at home – the blood thinners make that dangerous – and they want to run chromosomal tests. At this point, we don’t know if this is a “typical” miscarriage or one caused by Antiphospholipid Antibody Syndrome. The tests will give us the answer.

There is more, so much more, to say, but for now I am wrapping it up so I can deal with these cramps. Annie is my nurse, covering me with a blanket, and she just offered me her Wobble. I am in good hands.

Thank you for all of your amazing comments, emails, tweets, and texts. I’ve said it before, but having all of you support us through the tough times makes things less bleak and lonely. We love you all back.