As you might imagine, vomiting all the time is really exhausting. I’m almost stunned by how tired I am, constantly. I cope by focusing on one task at a time. It’s difficult because I am used to doing many things at once, but multitasking is just beyond me right now. So, I look at my day’s to-do list, and prioritize things based on importance and the energy level required. I evaluate other things as they come up. Right now, I have to say no to all-day things (Disneyland was worth it for Annie, but I can’t do something like that again – I almost got myself hospitalized), and ask for help with the items that require clear thinking (my brain is so foggy). It’s hard asking for help but I am working on it. I am lucky that everyone is just so understanding. Really incredibly lucky.
Annie is obviously my biggest priority, and whenever I have moments of feeling good I spend them with her. I don’t want her to think the baby is making me sick or anything like that; she’ll have plenty of reasons to resent her sibling as she gets older, amirite? Then there are days with no good moments, and those days are the worst. I miss her, even though she’s often just in the other room. But even on the worst days I try to make it into her room to read her bedtime story. We cuddle in her chair and talk about her day, and eventually we get around to that story.
Last night I was feeling poorly but I was determined to make it to the story. I slumped into her chair as low as I could. I really did not want to run away to throw up (I haven’t had to yet), so I just wanted to be as still as possible. Annie climbed into the chair next to me, put her little hand on my belly and said, “Mama! This is the baby in your belly! I am protecting it!”
I told her that the baby could hear her, and she should tell her brother or sister about her day. My kid never needs an excuse to talk (or an excuse to delay bedtime). She talked to my stomach for twenty straight minutes, telling the baby the minutiae of her day.
I woke up and got out of bed! I had waffles!
I played with fresh playdoh and then I asked daddy to play with me!
I talked to my princesses and showed them my princess tree!
I got tired, so it’s bedtime.
It was so adorable to see her talking to the baby, and also great to hear about the parts of her day that I missed.
I hope she wants to do this every day.
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Lilian says:
This is so precious! I love the way Annie is looking at you in the last photo. Such love !!! I think it’s just terrific the way you are encouraging her to talk to the baby. You are creating the bond between them before he/she is born. I don’t think you will have any problems with jealousy, as you are including Annie all the way along. I think she will adore her sibling. I really think at some point in the future you should write a book at introducing a young child to his/her prospective brother/sister. You certainly have it down!! Good for you for being so loving and proactive! I hope you start to feel a little better soon.
Justine says:
What a cute picture
Amy says:
okay, how many pairs of christmas pjs do you guys have???
Heather says:
HA, just the one! Annie has two (Target sells everything in pairs)!
Angie says:
Hope you get to feeling better SOON!!!!
Halley says:
You are a trooper!!
Shannon junttila says:
I hope you are feeling better for the holidays!
Connie says:
Seriously, too adorable for words. “Mama, this is the baby in your belly. I’m protecting it!”.
My sister was sick the whole nine months with each of her three kiddos. She had an issue with smells too. She could tell from two floors up if something wasn’t right. My poor brother in law! I would walk in to visit and she could tell what I had for lunch that day just by how I smelled. Have you had any of that?
Heather says:
Yes, smells are killer for me. There are foods that cannot be in my house at all, period. Like chicken. I can’t handle it! And perfume is banned from my house right now. When I have to leave my house I keep a small travel-size baby lotion in my purse, and I will rub a tiny bit right under my nose to help me combat the icky smells. Sometimes it works…and sometimes I walk by Abercrombie and the smell of teenager no baby lotion could possibly mask it!
Norma says:
She is precious beyond words! Love those pictures…
Colleen says:
You are amazing! I can’t even fathom trying to play or read when I am feeling sick I know you do what you have to do, but man you are one tough cookie! Congrats on your pregnancy! I love hearing about how Annie is so into this pregnancy! I pray you are feeling better really soon!
Jessi says:
Heather, you should ask Dr. Risky about a drug we have in Canada called diclectin. (You may already know about it). It is wonderful for severe NVP and HG. You can’t get it in the states but I think you can be prescribed the component of the drug separately. Check out the motherrisk website for more details and studies of safety in pregnancy.
Heather says:
I am actually taking all the components of Diclectin – here in the states it’s Unisom (it’s primarily a sleep aid but the active ingredient is what’s in diclectin – and B6 (the active ingredient is pyridoxine, also in diclectin.). I know a lot of people that it’s worked wonders for!
Courtney says:
Annie is the sweetest. She’ll be such a great big sister! This post makes me want to ask my mom how interested I was when my little sister was on her way!
Al says:
Nice and adorable! (as you can see I have nothing clever to say)
Tricia says:
OMG. I love it. That is the sweetest thing ever!
Susan says:
Love it!
Kristin says:
Precious. I hope you have a good day today.
Valerie says:
Awwwwwwww, just LOOK at her face!! They’re best buds ALREADY!!! Much love to the FOUR of you…
Val in Ohiooooooooooo
Kristin says:
Absolutely precious. She’s a great big sister, and little sister! Hang in there mama!
Jill says:
That’s awesome. Sounds like a plan for as many nights as possible. You and Annie get time together, you get to hear about her day, and she bonds with the baby. Thinking about you all and especially that baby every day.
TamaraL says:
That is so precious! So glad you two can spend that time together. I was horribly sick with my last baby (my son was 5) and I felt so guilty about sleeping all the time. He doesn’t remember being ignored – I DO, vividly – but he doesn’t! Just one of the many things we mom can feel guilty about.
Melissa says:
That is too cute! I can’t wait to give my daughter a sibling and I hope she is as excited about it as Annie.
Allison says:
She is so sweet. What a cute story! Love the pj’s.
Amy G says:
Just a tip…unfortunately coming from experience…choose the bedtime story carefully. A purple banana in a book once led to me dumping my little guy on the floor and vomiting in his trash can. I am happy to tell you he is definitely not scarred for life!
Heather says:
UGH! Good to know!!
Patt says:
Heather, all along I have been so amazed with your diligence in keeping up with your blog posting. My best friend had very severe hyperemesis throughout all three of her pregnancies (she was hospitalized for the first half of all of them). I realize how much strength and focus it takes just to accomplish the smallest of tasks! I admit that I have become dependent on my “morning dose of Annie” along with my morning cup of coffee. It has been so much fun watching your family grow so a big thank you for hanging in there and continuing to share with us.
Heather says:
I confess that it sometimes takes me hours and hours to write just simple sentences! But writing is one of my daily goals so I just do my best to make it work.
Jenn says:
She is so sweet and I must say, even though I know you don’t feel well, you look good! Can you feel the baby kick yet? How about Annie & Mike? Seeing Annie’s face once the baby kicks her is going to be priceless. My kids LOVED it when they felt their baby kicking!! You’re doing the best that you can Mama….I know it’s hard but Annie will love you for it.
Take Care,
xo
Heather says:
Can’t feel the baby yet, probably in a week or two!
Lisa says:
Your girls have the most wonderful, loving parents. That new baby has an amazing life to look forward to!
Lauriesl says:
You’re doing great, Heather! You’re such a good mom! I have trouble finding the energy to spend time with my little ones and I’m not going through anything near what you are! I can only imagine what you’re going through with your nausea but I wish you all the best and pray that this nausea part passes soon!
Kim says:
Motherhood is such a balancing act for sure. You are doing great and Maddie, Annie and this new little acrobat are so lucky to have you.
xoxo
Anna says:
Those pictures are so sweet! The middle one brought tears to my eyes.
Kathi says:
I want an Annabel.
Ella says:
1. Annie’s fingernails are the cutest! I know you are probably stressed that Annie isn’t getting her usual attention, but if the kid has such pretty painted nails, she clearly is doing fine
2. Your belly! Eep!
3. When you find out the gender, will you tell us? And at how many weeks can you find out the gender?
Sebrina says:
That is one of the sweetest stories as of yet. It’s so nice to see her taking such an interest in her new sibling already. I can’t wait to see what she thinks when it’s on the outside!
Jess says:
My mom said when she was pregnant with my brother I would talk to her belly all the time. Then she said the day after she had him my dad took my in to see him. She was in the bed and my brother was lying on her chest. Dad was holding my hand and we walked in the room and I go “is that my Tony?!” and mom said he heard me and his head popped right up off her chest towards my voice.
Darn right they can hear us in there. And that is her baby. Oh and my Tony lives across the US now, I’m in PA and he is in CO. We text often
Tina says:
Hang in there mama. I’m thinking of you.
Christian says:
Hang in there!!! Hope you feel better. Love Annie for taking to the baby! Love It
Mommy says:
You are so, so lucky that she is so excited!!! My boys are only 2 years apart and my older was not that thrilled about the baby in Mommy’s belly. He was kind of into it when we brought his brother home from the hospital, but once the baby was mobile and getting into his toys, the novelty had worn off. Now they are 2 and 4, and while they have their moments where they laugh and have such a great time together, we definitely have a lot of sibling rivalry most days. I’m hoping it gets better soon!
So happy for you guys!!!
Expat Mom says:
When I was sick with my last one, my boys would bring their Lego and superheroes into my room and play on the floor by the bed or even ON the bed. It let us hang out together without my having to move. I still felt guilty, but it was something.
Maybe you could color together, lying in bed? Or cut out snowflakes, etc. I love the idea of her telling the baby about her day. SO cute!
Christine says:
Awww! She is so adorable!
I was sick for my ENTIRE pregnancy. It wasn’t morning sickness, but ALL DAY sickness. I was only pregnant for 6 months. Little One arrived 12 weeks early.
Love your Christmas pjs, btw!!
Auntie_M says:
Absolutely precious!!! Loved seeing her talk to her baby!! I’m sorry you are so sick (sick seems to be a understatement) but at least you are “rewarded” with special times like these. And think of the future when you’re showing these pictures to this baby as a child….how big-sister Annie always loved him/her.
XO