Annie is still very into asking questions, but she’s stepped up her game. Instead of endlessly asking the same question over and over, i.e. “what’s dat sound?” she’s started asking follow-up questions. It’s so hilarious because she’s trying to have a conversation, and I can often see her mind working hard to think of another question so she can keep talking.
She really likes to know what’s happening at all times. She’ll follow me from room to room, questioning every move I make.
“Mama, what you doing?”
“Why you takin’ your clothes off?”
“Are you taking a shower ’cause you’re stinky?”
“Mama, are you clean now?”
“You gonna put on a diaper?”
“I’m gonna wear underwears when I go pee-pee in da potty, right?”
“Is dat a new bra?”
“You gonna put it on your boobies?”
When I read her books now, she has to know the name of every single character on the page. Even the ones in the background that don’t have names. She will stop me every time I turn the page and said, “Who’s dat? Who’s dat?” while she points her finger at different characters. And, just to really up the difficulty level, she remembers the names I make up off the top of my head. So if one day I say that random fairy in the background is named Lucinda, you’d better believe that if I call her Dolly the next time I read the story Annie will protest vehemently.
To combat this, I’ve started naming things what they are. “Who’s dat?” “That’s Dog, honey. That’s Birdie. That’s Bumble Bee.” I can’t remember the names of people I met two minutes ago, so there’s no way I am going to remember made-up character names. A few nights ago, I decided to start playing her game, and as we read a book I started asking her to tell me who everyone was.
On the page above, she moved her finger around randomly and said, “Dat’s a witch. She’s a girl. Dat’s a ghost. He’s…a boy. Dat doggie is a superhero.” Then she pointed to Spiderman. “Dat’s a fireman.” Her finger moved to the right, “Dat’s a bampire. He is a mean Bampa. He has black hair like daddy. He has popcorns! Daddy doesn’t have popcorns.”
I was laughing to myself, and then she said, “Mama, can I have popcorns?” “No honey.” “Why?” “Because it’s time for bed.” “Why?” “Because it’s bed time…”
And that was when Annie quickly moved into the dreaded “why” phase. Please tell me it’s a quick one.
Ok, I hate to tell you this, but the ‘why’ stage never ends. At 14 she’ll be asking you why she has to have a curfew on a school night, when her friends don’t have one (get used to the ‘my friends do or don’t…’) At 16 she’ll be asking why she can’t have a car (and even if she already has one, she’ll want to know why she can’t have a BMW like her friend has). At 17, she’ll want to know why she can’t stay out all night on Saturday with her boyfriend, like her friends do … and so on …. and so on ….
I flip the “Why”s on my daughter, also, and it usually works like a charm. “Why are we driving on the highway?” “Why do YOU think we’re driving on the highway?” “Why do we have to wash our face?” “Why do YOU think we have to wash our face?”
Your night time reads/questions are so great for Annie’s verbal comprehenion AND her expressive language. She is a head of the game! I love hearing your stories…..Annie is so cute & you & Mike are so creative!!!
I love this phase! Do you like Mel Torme? Listen up : http://youtu.be/q9aeIjmaxOg
Sorry, but it’s not a quick phase:). My four year old is still in it. For a long time I got soooo tired of answering all of her “why” questions I started telling her that I didn’t know why. It didn’t work. Now when I tell her I don’t know she says “just tell me one question”. Which means just give me one possible explanation to why. Smart girl!
I wish we were neighbors! LOL Jaxon is going through the exact same phase. Reading books at night is so fun. He used to just listen…. now he comprehends things and asks all the right questions. Has Annie started reading her books to her animals yet? Jax lines his animals up on a pillow and reads them the stories. It is the cutest thing EVER!
My daughter is almost 5 now, so instead of just the “why” stage, we’re learning about back-talk. It’s not just “why?” to ask a question now, it’s “Whyyyyyyyyy????” To whine and sass. In addition to that, my sister in law recently moved in with us for a short amount of time and she has twin 2-1/2 year old boys. EVERYYTHING is “Why?” or “Whass dad sound Aunnie Huddah?” Fun times around my house!
hahaha Bampire! Too funny! And the why phase… um ya.. good luck. My 6 yr old will still ask me “why” and usually its to the really hard to answer questions. Have fun!
For a while my daughter just said “Why?” to everything, then she became sophisticated enough to incorporate what we’d just said into the question. “OK, Maggie, get your shoes on!” “Why do I need to get my shoes on?” “Because we’re going to the store.” “Why are we going to the store?” “Because we need milk.” “Why do we need milk?” “Because you like to drink it.” “Why do I like to drink it?” …. on and on and on, until finally I found myself trying to explain molecular biology or the origin of life.
OMG. Save yourself. No, it isn’t quick. My almost 3 year old has been asking why for about 2 months now. It’s painful.
OMG, I love the “Mean Bampa!” Fantastic! I was laughing so hard!
Heck my almost 11 year old still asks Why…..she rolls her eyes when she does it now though!!
“Why?” is followed with “why is that funny?” “Why is that funny” lasts forever and corresponds directly with the parental lying phase.
“Why?” lasts forever. It can be combatted with whying back to them, except when they think that is funny, then you are screwed.
My 4 yr old asks “why?” to EVERYTHING. This has been going on for 2 years. Now my 2 yr old is doing it too. I try to answer as best I can because I want them to be interested and inquisitive and curious. Sometimes, though, I just want to scream.
“A bampire is a mean Bampa”<3
I hope she never stops asking why.