On Monday morning I woke up feeling totally uneasy. I was scheduled for a high-def ultrasound and I was worried. I kept telling myself that the ultrasound was going to show everything was OK and I’d finally know the sex, but I just didn’t feel convinced.
Mike and I brought my mom along to the appointment. She didn’t know we planned on inviting her back into the room for the scan, so she was pleasantly surprised when my name was called and I told her to come back with us. The ultrasound tech got me situated on the table, and then adjusted her machine. She was super-tiny, so she had to wheel the machine up close to her, leaving me to look at the BACK of the ultrasound machine. The only thing I could see were the faces of Mike, my mom, and the ultrasound tech. They ALL looked deep in concentration.
The tech told me to get up and go to the bathroom at one point, and even though it felt like I’d been on the table for half a day I was surprised to see it had already been an hour. I started to REALLY get nervous that this point. I didn’t know what could possibly be taking so long, and I started to worry that she told me to go to the bathroom so that she could page Dr. Risky about a problem. I kept telling myself not to panic, but I could feel a giant knot forming in my throat.
The tech looked at Binky for another twenty minutes before she said, “I have tried everything, but this baby doesn’t want to give up the sex.” I was so bummed, but as long as I knew the baby was OK I could deal. So I asked, “well, did everything look OK?” The tech replied, “your doctor will go over it all with you.” That was it. No measurements, no “oh yeah, the baby has a brain,” no nothing.
That pushed me over the edge. I didn’t get either of the two things I needed – reassurance that Binky was OK, or the identity of the little baby growing inside of me.
On the car ride home I started crying. I felt desperate. We haven’t passed the point in this pregnancy where Madeline was born, and until then, I will be terrified and guarded. I explained my feelings to Mike and my mom, and they understood. They knew I was leaving on a trip for the other side of the country, and I NEEDED peace of mind. I needed something to hold onto.
So they devised a plan. They remembered all those ultrasound places that you awesome people suggested a few weeks ago on my blog. Mike looked up one of the local places, and the next thing I knew, we were on our way to the office for another peek at Binky. On the way there, Mike described for me how curled up Binky had been during the ultrasound. Later, he performed a dramatic reenactment:
We stopped to grab some food, and I loaded up on sugar and caffeine. I was DETERMINED to make the baby move so we could get good shots.
When we arrived at the ultrasound place we were met by my cousin Leah. She works close by, so we invited her along. The office was nice and we weren’t kept waiting long before we were brought back into the exam room. There was a HUGE screen where the ultrasound was projected, and there were screens on either side of the table so no matter what direction I looked in, I could see the baby. Already a HUGE improvement from my morning ultrasound.
The technician put the wand on my belly and the FIRST thing I saw was Binky’s little legs spread WIIIIIDE open. I gasped just as the tech said, “I am 100% certain this is a girl.” There was no denying it. This picture doesn’t really do it justice.
The rest of the appointment was spent watching Binky in her natural habitat. We saw her yawn and stretch and wave. We heard her heart beat and watched her cover her face. It was really, really amazing. While we watched Binky move around, the tech took measurements of her head, femur, and abdomen. She pointed out the two hemispheres of Binky’s brain. Everything is measuring exactly on schedule.
I think we all walked out of that office floating. It was so great to not only get the assurance that everything was progressing normally with Binky, but we FINALLY got that confirmation that we’re growing another little girl. I remember when we found out Madeline’s was a girl…I’d been on bed rest for seven weeks at that point and I was so depressed. I felt disconnected from the little baby inside of me. I was so desperate to know WHO it was we were fighting for, and once we knew I felt such renewed purpose. And now, I feel the same way. We are going to have another baby girl. A baby who already has a big smile just like another girl I love with all my heart.
Oh Heather, I am crying here. She is beautiful. You are beautiful. I love Mike’s reenactment. Be safe on your trip. Wish it were to see us out here
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Bobbi Janay says:
Wow, that first tech should be taught some tact. Glad that binky is healthy and happy in her home.
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Redneck Mommy says:
Maddy gets a sister!
Brilliant. I’m so happy for you and Mike.
That is just what I needed to hear tonight.
Amy B says:
I am so excited for you. I am glad you little sweet girl behaved for her scan.
She is beautiful..just like her big sister..
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Can Can (Mom Most Traveled) says:
Phew, I’m so glad you found that second place to go right away! What a relief and good good news!
We are soooo excited for you all! Congrats, Spohrs! Em is particularly excited to meet Binky!
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Congrats on the new baby girl! I am sorry to hear you had to go through stress to find out the baby is okay and us a girl. It is frustrating when docs and techs don’t have bedside manner.
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Congratulations! I’m so happy you got to have a little peace of mind for once….still thinking of you all often.
Yay for a little baby girl!
I love Mike’s pose there by the way…very realistic.
Praying for healthy you and Binky!
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Tracy (@redvu9395) says:
So glad you got your U/S!!! Yeah for girls!!!
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Absolutely amazing. No matter how many ultrasounds I see, I am always mesmerized by them. Congratulations, Heather. She is a very lucky little girl.
I’m glad everything turned out okay for you that day. I am sorry the first tech was such a douche. Hugs.
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So happy for you got that piece of mind!! Congrats on a girl
Just gorgeous! Like her sister and Mommy. I’m so happy for you guys. So much love and good thought coming your way!!
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Congratulations! I think we all know that Madeline’s preferred name for her baby sister is Abby Cadabby
Yay for the name Abby!!
She already has a smile to light the world.
So much love in my heart for your family of 4… Still praying for you every day.
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She is totally smiling!!! I guess I would too, if I knew I was going to have such awesome parents
Congratulations. I am so happy for you!
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Oh Heather, I’m CRYING after looking at that beautiful last picture. Beautiful.
I’m so glad you were able to get some relief before you go away …. ummm, that first tech? Does she even know what you are going through?? Sheesh.
Mikes re-enactment was priceless. But I was waiting for the one where his legs were spread-eagled?? No??
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My heart is huge and smiling and bursting for you guys. You deserve every inch of happiness that a great ultrasound can bring. Congratulations on your already-beautiful baby girl. I hope your floating feeling lasts forever!
what an AMAZING smile!! stunning =)))
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shannon b says:
Congrats! How exciting!
Mrs. Wilson says:
Also, so not awesome that the other ultrasound tech wouldn’t even just tell you that all was well with Binky! So not cool.
Have a great trip!!!!!
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Mike’s reenactment is superb! Maybe not academy award worthy, but definitely golden globe. Well.. maybe a SAG. After all, I’m pretty sure Binky wasn’t sporting pants and a shirt. Or arm hair. lol
I’m so happy for you, Heather. I’m sure Binky brings so many mixed emotions. Joy, hope…. and a tinge of sadness for what will never be. But will be is a little girl every bit as vivacious, beautiful and loved as her sister. Can’t wait to see her… in due time (pun!).
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Michelle W says:
I am smiling all over and inside out for you all, even as I am crying
For once I have happy tears here….I hope you have some too. What a sweet husband you have, devising a plan…doing reenactments…Good man! Can’t wait for more pics of your baby girls.
I am too filled with gratitude and happiness to adequately express how happy I am that you have what you need to hold on to. I am sending huge waves of love to you, Mr. Mike, Ms. Rigby and little Miss Binky, who is already so very loved. What a lucky little girl to have you for her Mama.
Love you always, Heather…
So glad that you got a sweet smiling picture like that. I’m so glad you have Mike. I’m so glad you and MIke have Miss Binky.
I’m so thankful for Maddie, who brought me to you guys, since she inspired this blog in the first place.
Like I told Loralee today, I – I can only speak for myself, but I think this is a “we” statement – I don’t ever forget, even when I don’t have anything wise, helpful, or deep to say, even when it’s not time to bring it up, even when I get busy and happy, not ever. Love you.
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Very well said!! We will never forget sweet Maddie! Not EVER.
I am so excited that Binky finally gave up the goods for you guys! Such great news! That second picture is so beautiful!!
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I am so glad that you were able to get the second ultrasound. She’s already so beautiful!
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O WOW Heather what amazing pictures of the extra special Binky Bean. Congratulations again to you all on the wonderful news that Binky Bean is a girl. Thank you so much for sharing these special pictures with your readers and for continuing to share so much of ‘you’ with us. It is such an honour for me to read your posts. I was reading this post and holding my breath until I got to the part where you were actually having your second ultrasound. I could feel just how nervous and scared you were through your words. What an amazing husband and Mum for taking you to the ultrasound place. I’m so pleased that you could leave for your trip with the peace of mind that all is well with the Binky Bean. Have a safe trip, dear sweet Heather. Continue to look after yourself.
Thinking of you always dear sweet lady.
Erica, your friend in Luxembourg
That’s awesome Heather! Congrats on Maddie’s little sister. She certainly does have a beautiful smile, already! It does suck that the first ultrasound tech is so callus. Sorry you experienced that. Have a safe trip!
catherine lucas says:
Thank God for ultra sound places… Glad you finally know what it will be, I bet this girl will give you as much pleasure and fun moments as Madeline. Sending good vibes till you pass the point of no return… Thinking of you all.
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Oh wow, wow, wow!!
Sooooo excited for you guys!
What a beautiful baby girl you have in there!
I am so glad you had a wonderful experience at the second ultrasound place — now, why can’t they ALL be like that? With screens all around for the mom to see at any angle? and techs who obviously love their job?
Mike’s reenactment of Binky’s position is just too funny. And can I say this: that guy deserves the Husband of the Year award — rushing you right over for another ultrasound at another facility because you needed the peace of mind….. that is so completely sweet and so understanding.
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I am so so happy! I feel like my heart is getting bigger and bigger…
Wowie zowie, that is quite the saga! First technician? Thumbs down. Active, immodest (finally) Binky? Thumb way up.
I am so, so happy Binky is healthy and that we have an official gender for Baby Spohr.
Always keeping you, Mike, Maddie, and Binky in my thoughts.
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What a roller coaster…reading this post was like a roller coaster for me and you’re living all this! First I felt mad again that the people at Dr. Risky’s office don’t communicate with you better. I am sure they are not allowed to say anything that sounds like medical advice/knowledge, but GEEZ. To leave you feeling terrified again and the way the ultrasound was conducted. Not to be mean, but it does not take a rocket scientist to realize that you would be upset by the silence and the long time and the lack of communication. A simple, “I see nothing to worry about, but Dr. Risky will have to discuss the results with you, please understand I am not allowed to” might not make you stop worrying entirely, but it sure would help. … The photo of Mike is hilarious! At that point I was laughing. That is just too funny! … I have to be honest, I can’t see the details in the first ultrasound photo. But I sure see them in the one at the bottom. That was when I cried a little. She’s amazing! … (((Hugs)))
Kate in NZ says:
Oh wow, you can really see that smile! That is amazing. I’m so happy that you got the reassurance you needed. And I hope you save that photo of Mike in the album along with the ultrasound photos! Love and hugs to the whole family.
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How Amazing! Congratulations to you all. I know it’s hard, but don’t be too hard on the first poor tech. When I had my first scan with my girls, the tech hooked me up and after a few moments said, “Here’s Baby A’s head . . . and here’s Baby B’s head”. You could have heard a pin drop. My husband not-so-calmly said, “WHAT?” and the poor tech turned to us in a panic and asked, “you didn’t know?” For the next twenty minutes we heard her get chewed out by the Dr. right outside our door – he threatened to fire her! Apparently they are not allowed to say anything – even the good stuff!
Again, congratulations. She’s beautiful.
Look at that smile!! Wow, modern technology is so amazing.
Scary Mommy says:
Best ultrasound story EVER. I just want to hug that tech. And you. Congratulations!!!
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It’s so great when you receive care that is compassionate and supportive, rather than textbook and cold. I’m so glad you went in for another look and got some answers and some relief. What a stressful time this is for you! Why aren’t your practitioners aware of that? Thank you for sharing your wonderful news. I hope the rest of your encounters with the medical establishment improve from here on out. You deserve only the best.
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Congratulations again! I am so happy you got to see what you needed so understandably to see!
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I don’t know what my favorite is… all those GORGEOUS pics of Miss Binky or Mike’s reenactment of Binky’s pose.
It’s a tough call.
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Oh Heather I’m so glad you were able to see Binky and find out she is a girl! I had a miscarriage before I got pregnant for my son. I know that is NOTHING compared to what you have been through, but hearing you talk about being scared and guarded reminded me of being pregnant for him. It took me a long time to get attached to the baby growing inside of me. I was afraid if I got attached, something bad was going to happen. I was constantly convinced something was wrong. Thankfully everything turned out fine in the end and I have a healthy, spunky little redhead. I know that in the end, you will have your adorable little Binky…
I am not trying to say I know how you feel, because I don’t… but I can kind of relate. I hope you are able to enjoy your pregnancy. Good luck!!
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jessica b says:
I’m crying with joy for the relief you must have felt walking out of the second office! I’m so happy for the opportunity that you had to eally view your baby.
i’m continuing to send prayers your way.
Shannon Kieta says:
Awwww that is a beautiful picture of Bink!!!! I LOVE it! Now, get cracking on a name, Binky doesn’t do her justice! She is too beautiful to be a Binky! Get some much needed stress-free rest before your trip. DON’T OVER DUE IT GIRL!!!! You still have a ways to go, can’t be too cautious with Bink! Note to Bink: Stay put! Auntie Shannon
It amazes me (not sure why) how some people just don’t “get it.” I’m sorry you were so panicked and to live that experience, but your photos are amazing! Congratulations on becoming a mom for the second time – she’s beautiful! You are constantly in my thoughts and prayers.
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heather and mike,
sharing tears of joy for you. congrats.
and to maddie and binky, a tune me and my sisters love to sing to each other: “sisters, sisters, there were never such devoted sisters…” (from the movie White Christmas)
So glad that you finally got a chance to see Binky and spend time with her! And I’m so glad that your fears were relieved and now you can rest and relax!
Sending hugs of happiness!
Love the re-enactment!! LOL I’m so glad you were able to find out that binky is a girl!! YAY! Be safe on your trip!
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*dancing, throwing confetti*
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WOW!!! Look at her Heather! She is perfect and that HUGE grin reminds me so much of Maddie. It’s like they’re already telling funny stories to eachother….these little sisters.
What an amazing husband and mama you have! Was your mom at the ultra sound too? What a gift that would be to see!
She really is perfect Heather….you can tell just by looking at her!!! I so wonder if she’ll look like Maddie….I can tell you one thing I know for sure….she certainly seems to have Maddie’s sunny and happy desposition!!! How much fun she will be to share your life with!
No words can express how happy and relieved I feel for you and Mike. Another little perfect girl! How beautiful she is….and how lucky she is to call you and Mike her Mommy and Daddy!
Have a great day Heather and Mike….after seeing that perfect little girl….I know, I sure will!
Sending you many Blessings!!!!
With Friendship, Appreciation and Love,
What a happy baby girl already!!!! Look at that smile! She is beautiful!
S-O-N-O spells RELIEF! She’s a beauty already!
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PB and Jazz says:
I am sorry the doctors office was so sterile. A little more feeling would be nice. Your sweet baby girl is beautiful! What an awesome idea! It is amazing everything you can see and do now outside of the doctors office. Congrats! Have a wonderful conference.
I had a 4-d ultrasound appt for the middle of october when I was pg with the girls. Of course, as we know- i ended up in the hospital in the beginning of oct so no 4-d for me.
I am so glad you went. To see the little face you are fighting for makes all the diff. You should def go back 2 months or so when she has some fat on her cheeks so you can see her more clearly.
I love mike for that picture alone.
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I’m glad Mike and your Mom decided to take you to one of those ultrasound places. I can’t imagine how much better that must have made you feel. Techs in doctors office are often so vague with their responses that they make things worse, I wish sometimes they would just say one good thing so the mom doesn’t have to leave not knowing what is going on.
Enjoy your trip!
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Oh Heather, that smile is just like Maddie’s! So beautiful!!! Congratulations on another baby girl.
I had a terrible ultrasound with my daughter. The tech never let me see her, couldn’t determine the sex and never said if everything looked ok. I also left crying.
You are so lucky to have a wonderful husband and mom who knew just what you needed. I hope this helps you relax, even if it’s just a little bit more.
Thinking of you, Mike, Maddie and Binky always.
Stranger/friend in the STL
Congrats! It’s a girl! So glad everything is going well. I’m dying to know what you are planning on naming her.
Corinne Cooper says:
so awsome….she really does look like Maddie. A star already
I have GOT to remember to NOT read your posts at work. Whether you’re happy or sad, soaring or struggling, your words bring me to tears. Your little family is so near and dear to my heart. You have an amazing support group in your family. Congratulations to all of you!!!
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Omg. The last ultrasound picture is amazing…she already has a beautiful smile just like Maddie! I am soo happy for you guys. And so glad everything is going well! I am also anxious to hear the name of this smiley girl.
Momma Uncensored says:
glad to see you took care of yourself and went to that other ultrasound office. keeping your noggin’ sane is pretty important right now.
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Domestic Extraordinaire says:
I am so glad that things are going well-I wonder why the 1st ultrasound tech was all closed off-didn’t she realize she freaked you out?
That last smile is the best. Congrats Mike & Heather
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I am so happy for you. I love the last picture. She really is smiling. Once again you have me crying. xo
Crying happy tears!
Oh, I am so, so glad you went in for that second U/S!
I would do that every time my anxiety was too much to bear. Here in Brazil things are very different, you can get a screen for around 100, 150 dollars at a top-notch office. Seriously. When I read you saying that a sonogram can cost up to 1500 dollars for your insurance company I almost fell off my chair. This is so unfair to high-risk women I can even begin to describe it.
Very happy that all is well with little girl Binky!
Michele Wallace says:
AMAZING shot – love the smile on her! She is beautiful already! Congrats again – no more wondering! So happy all is well with her.
Congratulations!!! I’m so very excited for you! Your family is in my prayers and I can’t wait to see pictures of the baby
I am so very happy for you guys! It is amazing that these Doctors KNOW that you are on pins and needles wanting to know if your baby is doing ok and they do nothing to calm your fears! Now I hope you guys can rest a little and try to enjoy this wonderful and painful time in your lives!Congrats again!!!
I’m so glad you got all the relief you were looking for. Congrats on the news of another girl!!!
She’s exquisite! What a beautiful family!
Praying for you every day,
“I’m so excited and I just can’t hide it
I’m about to lose control
and I think I like it
I’m so excited and I just can’t hide it!”
So excited for you! She is so beautiful just like her older sister. Have a fun trip!
That is so awesome! Mike and your mom are great too! I’m so excited that you found our that Binky is a baby girl!
cindy w says:
Oh hooray for little girls! YAY! So, so happy for you guys.
P.S. I saw the picture of Mike before I read the text and I thought maybe that’s his defense pose for when you freak out on him.
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Jen H says:
The upper left on the sonogram picture makes it look like someone is cradling that sweet baby girl!
SO EXCITED for you guys!
Heather, I am so happy for you Mike and Binky of course now that we know she is a princess….
I am glad you got piece of mind that all is well
What a lovely baby girl! I am so happy for you both!
Not that you asked for baby names, but if you DID ask me, I’d say to name that little beauty Hope. She is lovely!
YAY!! So happy you were finally able to find out! All Binky needed was someone nice to talk her into showing the goods!!
Oh, and I love Mike’s reenactment! Classic!
Sarah B says:
Wow- what a beautiful smile!!
Heather and Mike, that’s so very wonderful that you finally got some confirmation of the gender (and some reassurance as well). Binky looks fantastic!
All the best,
Trisha Vargas says:
So glad you finally got the reassurance you needed and you finally know your Binky is a girl.
(((HUGS))) from Florida
So glad that you feel some relief. Congrats on the new baby girl, now its time to start picking names for this beautiful bundle of joy. xoxo
Lindsay from Florida says:
Gorgeous. Breath-taking. Are you thinking names now that you know the gender?? I second the commenter above who said that Maddie has already put in her vote for Abigail (Abby). At least as a middle name???
Well, would ya look at that baby girl! :^) And, a smile that lights up the world. Wow. Just wow.
chatty cricket says:
HOLY SMOKES! Binky’s smile is AMAZING, she made me break into a huge grin!!! What a sweet picture, Yay!
So are you keeping the name Binky now that we are having a girl? You mentioned before that it was just kind of in the meantime. I can’t wait to see her beautiful smile.
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I am so glad you were able to get piece of mind! Binky is beautiful! God Bless.
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Oh!!! That smile! She is SO cute! How wonderful to know for sure who this baby is, and to have seen her beautiful face. I am sorry that the ultrasound at the doctors office didn’t go so well but what a great idea to go to the keepsake ultrasound place! How wonderful. I am in tears because she is so cute, and I am so happy for this little blessing in your life.
Wow, that was traumatic. I’m so glad that your awesome husband and mom quickly devised a Plan B! I was starting to worry when you didn’t post Monday morning but so glad to hear the happy news. Congrats congrats congrats!
Amanda of Shamelessly Sassy says:
Please know that I searched the internet high and low for a painted pregnant belly that had something to do with ‘It’s a Girl!’ But I didn’t find one. Congratulations!
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A great big smile and a…porcupine? Apparently? I’m sure those are some Heather-parts in front of Miss Binky. Or a weapon of some kind.
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I love that she is in there smilin’ away, like this xoxoxoxo
mosey along says:
Do those ultrasound techs not get any tact training, for crying out loud? Geez, man.
That husband of yours is a talented fella. And glad to see/hear the results finally. What a blessing!
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When I was pregnant with my second child – I had the same experience with the ultrasound tech. She poked, proded, looked at the baby for over an hour and when I asked if all was ok she simply said I would have to wait and discuss it with my doctor. No indication that the baby was well and progressing nicely. Nada. I left in tears thinking something was horribly wrong. I understand that the techs are not supposed to say a whole lot , but come on! I understand your frustration!
I am glad little Binky is doing so well! I know every baby is a blessing but I am truly overjoyed that another wee baby girl is on the way!
Rita from the Chicago says:
So glad you went to the other place! And congrats on finally knowing that Binky is a girl!
Michelle Pixie says:
So So Cute!!! I am so happy for you!
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That first ultrasound sounds awful! How could that tech expect to complete an ultrasound without letting you see the images, or without any bedside manner? That’s insane, and clearly that tech has not been taught to understand the anxiety that we feel on that table. So glad you guys found an alternative and that things are lookin’ good with the Bink.
maggie, dammit says:
A girl! A girl! A girl!
Oh my god. Oh my god. Oh my god. Yay for the awesome ultra sound and for the awesome idea of going and doing this on your own. Don’t you fel empowered? I bet you guys were all bawling and laughing. That tech probably had the time of her life getting to show you that ultra sound. AWESOME
Congratulations! She is just beautiful, and those 3-D ultrasounds are amazing. (I really wish I could have had one of those with my kids. I could never make out heads or tails on the b&w ultrasounds.)
I’m so glad that you were able to go for the 2nd ultrasound. what a blessing peace of mind can be.
Prayers for you and Binky.
That is wonderful news! She a beautiful girl. Congrats!
Miracle, miracle, miracle.
Somehow I just feel everything is going to be ok.
What a gorgeous smile she already has! Glad you were able to get some relief.
.-= Amanda´s last blog ..Yowzers! =-.
Your husband gets an “A” for his fetal interpretation. When I first saw it, before I read the post, I thought you must have gone over the edge and were just off camera, weilding a cast iron skillet lol.
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Aunt Becky says:
SHUT UP, I HAVE ALLERGIES. I AM NOT CRYING.
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Heather & family-
Gongrats on the little misses.
But Mike totally gave me my morning laugh- that doubled over laughing your ass off laugh! He looks styling in those blue pants and black shirt!!! It just looks like he could fit right in your tummy HA!
That smile brought me to tears. I’m so happy for you!
As with so many of your posts, this one moved me to tears.
Congratulations, Heather and Mike. Somewhere, Maddie is smiling that same big smile for you and her sister.
Yeah!! Congrats on another beautiful baby girl!
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so many congratulations to you. amazing news. xoxo
Oh this post was amazing. I am so glad you went to the place I suggested too! I loved it there, we went several times and each time I left feeling so much more at ease. That place is great.
I am so happy that you had a pleasant ultrasound experience and you got to see HER! beautiful smile. Binky is beautiful!
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Amy in Oregon says:
BEAUTIFUL little girl….just like her sister. I am glad you got to see her and get to know her just a little better before your trip! Travel safely!
So so so so so so SOOOOO happy for you guys!!!
SOOOO amazing! SO happy that everything looks good and that you have peace of mind before you go on your trip! Keep your head up and I a praying for you and your wonderful family!
Amazing and beautiful!
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She’s absolutely beautiful Heather. I’m so glad you went and got some peace of mind. I know (well as much as I can know) that you won’t believe it fully until she is born and is okay. However, you have made it this far and she has made it this far. You aren’t on bed rest, you are on a trip right now and that is proof that Binky is doing okay. great even. Now if she’d let you not be sick all the time. Some babies.
We considered doing something with Alex (for my peace of mind) but didn’t, that I think you should do in another month or so. Get the 3-D shots. Is the coolest thing ever. My cousin did it and they are amazing shots. Worth every cent.
Tons of hugs to you. I hope you have a blast on your trip. Hug Anissa for me, okay?
ps. Love the pic of Mike. Too funny.
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Heather & Mike: Congrats! So happy for the both of you and Binky! I love the pic of Mike all curled up like Binky! LOL :o) Have a fun trip back East! Sending you hugs XX
i hate to be a downer and you will think i am a wench and will probably get flack from your “posse” for saying this but is it possible to get too many ultrasounds? what are the risks from that? i know it eases your mind and anxiety which is over all for the best, but are there after effects of too many ultrasounds? despite the relief it brings?
just a thought, i really don’t know which is why i am asking.
Trisha Vargas says:
Ultrasounds are a perfectly safe way of monitoring a baby’s growth, development and health. Ultrasound technology has been around for over 25 years and there is no link to any health risks regarding the frequency of them. There are some high risk mothers who often times have to have weekly ultrasounds to monitor amniotic fluid levels. I’ve heard of some Mom’s having in the upwards of 10 or more throughout their high risk pregnancies and having beautifully healthy babies.
I am so glad you all finally have some peace of mind! And I am so happy Miss Binky is doing so well in her habitat. She looks happy to stay camped out where she is, good for her! Love to all of you from DE.
You poor thing. You have PTSD to the worst degree and I don’t blame you. To make it worse I think that your OB’s office isn’t helping the situation out by being so damned closed mouthed about your ultrasounds and appointments. Kudos to you for going to one of those places and getting the reassurance you needed. It ticks me off in the worst way when ultrasound techs don’t give something, anything. Even hearing bad news is better than no news because at least the demons in one’s head don’t get free reign to start acting up.
Hugs to you.
Love that huge smile!
Good for you, I’m glad she is perfect.
Love the reinactment.
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am i crazy? or does she already look just like her big sister? what a beautiful baby! i heart binky, already!
Susan A says:
Congratulations! I am very happy that your pregnancy is progressing well. Big hugs all around!
Kristen McD says:
Oh, my word. I have never, ever seen a baby smiling on a sonogram at all – much less that big, bright, happy smile… Oh, that makes me catch my breath! WOW.
Congratulations on your girl! I’m glad you went to another place and got peace of mind. She has a beautiful smile.
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Congratulations! What a little ray of sunshine she is already.
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What a great story! I will have to schedule one of those “private” ultrasounds if we get pregnanct again. We have been through so many miscarriages that I know my next pregnancy will be laced with so much anxiety.
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I am so happy for all of you! This is great news and it sounds like your spirits have been lifted a little bit, which is wonderful! Thinking of you always!
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i would be a total pain in the ass. lately, i’ve decided that, in order to get what i need from people who seem to be reluctant to do their damn job, i will make their lives hell. i either impress them with my initiative or become their worst nightmare, constantly emailing, calling, and asking questions. so far, i’ve not only gotten what i wanted, but i’ve also given the impression that i have initiative. which is a lie, but i really don’t want to correct them after i’ve already gone through all that trouble to piss them off.
i’d pretty much tell the techs, “look at my face. see how serious i look? that’s because i am. you see how my hand is shaking? that’s either because i’m nervous or i’m pissed. neither is good. either i see my baby and you tell me exactly what is on your little screen or i will cry and/or scream. both will make you look bad.” because honestly, it’s past being nice. you don’t go in for an ultrasound OF YOUR CHILD and have them just not tell you anything. at no point in a pregnancy is it okay to just leave you out of the loop.
but i’m glad the second place was so kind. binky looks kind of evil… like she has an evil smirk. kind of like she KNEW you wanted to find her little lady parts and she seems pleased that she kept them hidden for so long.
I remember when i was pregnant with my youngest son.. He was born at 35 weeks but did very well never required assistance with breathing. I remember the ultrasound place I was sent to and it was the most horrible experiance of my life. The told me first off that my baby was a girl and didnt have but one leg and one arm and some severe birth defects and recommended abortion.. I raised cain with them.. I told them where they could go and reported thier behavior and recomendations to my doctor.She sent me to have another one at another office to get the second opinion and it came back the baby was a boy and was developing normally. Well a few months later my baby was born.. HE was not a girl but all boy.. He had both arms and both legs and no birth defects… Imagine that… I understand the importance of having a ultra sound.. You just have to make sure everything is ok..Congratz on Binky..
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Oh my gosh….LOVE the pic with her smiling! Precious!
I’m glad that Binky finally cooperated
She is beautiful and she seems quite content in there!
We had to go to an independent ultrasound place too when I was pregnant with the twins. My son was more than happy to show us his goods, but not his sister! Which is why we went to the independent place and he was able to tell right away she was a girl!
Love, Jenn in CA
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I have to add….
Sure looks like Binky inherited her sister’s beautiful smile!
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I am so happy for you. I love her smiley little face.
She is gorgeous just like her big sis! I’m glad you got reassurance, sometimes these doctor’s and techs just don’t understand the mental wellness of their patients can be just as important as the physical. I’m so excited for you!
Congratulations on another beautiful baby girl. That smile is already lighting up the world.
Heidi Lee says:
Have a great trip. I am crying at the computer, and so thankful for the “do it yourself ultrasound” people! Congratulations on another little girl. You are right, her smile is BEAUTIFUL just like her sisters.
Marti from Michigan says:
Wow, Mike is really good at being a baby in utero, lol!!
Glad you got peace of mind. Girls are awesome, the apples of daddy’s eye!
Congratulations. Maddie had something to do with this, I know she did!
The Crazy Baby Mama says:
hooray for the ‘bun-burger-bun’ markings of a LABIA!
very very very exciting news…
your family is so loved and supported, and i hope that is able to give you a degree of comfort.
At My old Dr’s office the techs wouldn’t tell you ANYTHING. And you had to come back another day for the results. It was awful. Same deal at the hospital the first time they sent me since the office machine was broken. But at my current office, the tech is much more helpful. She doesn’t give a lot of details, but she talks and says vaguely positive things. And then the Dr. comes immediately afterward.
Binky does have a nice smile! So excited for you!
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I spend a creepy amount of time happycrying about your pregnancy, dude.
Even Binky is flipping me the bird for it.
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Seriously, I have never seen a baby smiling on an ultrasound until now. The two of you make smiley, smiley babies. Beautiful too.
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She’s so beautiful! And happy!
Hugs to you both.
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I’ve followed your story for some time, but have never posted before, because I never really know what to say, but I just have to tell you how thrilled I am for you that you will have another beautiful baby girl. I know Maddie is smiling down at you and will always watch over Binky.
A girl?!?! Oh congrats!! I hope that u are feeling a little better with some of the anxiety of not knowing lifted!!
Your ultrasound photo of smiling Binky is stunning – and I second the comment above that said it looked as if your baby was being cradled by someone in the photo. That smile and the idea of this baby being lovingly held in-utero confirms to me that Binky is heaven-sent by your always loved, never forgotten angel girl Maddie.
I think your family is incredible. Your husband seems to be hilarious and super-supportive, which is a fantastic combo!
Wishing you a safe trip, and sending good thoughts your way…
Michele in Staten Island, NY
Marti from Michigan says:
A second thought here……..Binky was hiding and when she was finally discovered in her hide-and-seek game, she gave you a huge smile! Already showing signs of being spunky.
Just a fan says:
i simply love that smile. i’ve been by for a while now and the roller coaster ride on this end has been wild. i cannot even begin to imagine how it feels to sit in the seats you & mike hold, but admire, adore, hope, pray, love, good Zen-Chi goodness doesn’t come close to all of the emotions i experience and send to you both when i happen upon this space.
grow well, baby Binki. you’re loved. so loved.
Thank GOD for the most wonderful family in the world! I’m so glad they saved you and brought you this wonderful, wonderful moment. Congratulations to you!! She’s beautiful!
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Spohrs…you sure make some beautiful girls! That smile is priceless.
I think all of us that have experienced a pregnancy after a loss should get together and do a wonderful training DVD that is required viewing for all US techs.
There are wonderful ones out there (I’ve had between 30 to 40, so I do consider myself an expert ) but boyyyyyyyyy, those bad ones sure suck. Not a nicer way to put it.
Hooray Princess Binky!
I love the visual aid provided by your husband. It’s very helpful.
I’m glad to hear that Baby Binky is looking good on the big screen. It’s not a bad thing for a girl to be private with her parts.
My oh MY!!! Where to begin?
Oh, first CONGRATS on another beautiful daughter! So glad you finally have evidence. I so agree with you on the bonding it forms early on. Binky was like, Okay Lady! I’ll spread them for you, just no more ultrasounds for the day LOL I think that was why she was laughing in there! Wow what a great 3d photo! I’ve seen so many US photos and NEVER, ever have I seen one where a baby is smiling, and my dear, Binky is clearly smiling…..as if to say, “Don’t worry Momma, I’m behaving in here”.
So, I’m sure you will get many weird comments, so mine will fit right in. I’ve always had this sixth sense that freaks me out sometimes….and the other day when I saw Rigby on the rug, I was looking at it and got the feeling that Maddie was in the photo somehow. My eyes kept being drawn to a frame or mirror that is to the right of Rigby….but I thought, okay crazy girl….don’t go there. However, today when I saw Binky’s photo and that smile, again I felt like I was looking at Maddie and in my head and heart I heard, second chance, she wanted a do-over. I know that sounds all sorts of crazy, probably is very improper to say to you, but hopefully you will appreciate my “honesty” because you are that type of open….Logically, I know that this baby is a seperate baby and is not Maddie….but if we toss logic aside, maybe just maybe a sweet soul who was too powerful for a sick body was determined to be back with her family. Call me crazy, but I do believe that when a person passes, that spirit goes somewhere….some people say heaven or something else…but who has the proof? I, for one think it is plausable that it could go right into a new body when it is ready….and if you ever want to see a few pics of my son who is so oddly identical in looks of my grandfather who we lost weeks before I conceived him, I will be happy to share. When I was pregnant I had the strange feeling that my son would look like him, which would mean he would not look like my other children…..I was right…down to the cleft chin and round head…and his personality…lets just say it is familiar Don’t be surprised if Binky turns out to have some of her sweet sissies traits. I know it will be bittersweet for you and I wish with all my heart that you would have only happy tears to cry….but maybe you will find peace in things that you can only imagine. You are in my daily thoughts even though you don’t know me. You have made me a better mother in a way that you couldn’t have tried to do…HUGS and congrats on Binky….oh and I totally vote for Abbey!!!!
MaNiC MoMMy says:
I don’t like that first technician you saw. Blah to them, and yay for going to the other place! I think it’s wonderful that you’re having another girl, and she’ll be so sooooo sooooo very lucky to know how much everyone in the world loves her big sister. And she’s a lucky little baby to get you guys for parents. xo
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Ashley Hast says:
AWWWWW!!! She’s gorgeous! I’m so glad you finally got a little peace of mind.
THis post made me cry… tears of laughter at Mike and then tears of happiness that you got to see Binky’s beautiful face.
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10:42pm and I am crying…
I spent the afternoon with a new friend/client who lost his baby girl 10 days after she was born last November. They are on their 3rd try of IVF and congenital testing because of a disorder he never knew ran in his family.
Him and his wife are going through so much as you unfortunately know as well and I told him about you and Mike in hopes that he and his wife could find strength along with you and Mike through your writing.
Seeing Binkette with that smile broke me. I so hope that everyone’s heart can heal just a tiny bit to find the happiness in an ultrasound image.
Mama Cas says:
The pic of Mike on the floor had me cracking up. I’m glad to hear everything is going well. Congrats on your little girl!
Congrats on a beautiful little girl! I know she will give you great joy in life and she’ll have a wonderful angel watching over her always.
I’m very dismayed to hear about your first ultrasound. Are you telling them beforehand your concerns and that you need them to provide information to you during the appointment? It’s one thing to have a quiet appointment for a normal pregnancy, but with your history they should understand that you need more reassurance and/or commentary than the average mom-to-be might get. That’s the least they can do.
That said, I know critical feedback isn’t looked upon well here (and I totally believe in your right to feel and say anything you want to, it’s your blog and your life), but I’m sure the second ultrasound cost you some money that could have gone toward helping cover your insurance or doctor visits, which you have complained you can’t get enough coverage for. Perhaps you can talk to your doctor to get your normal visits to satisfy your concerns (like getting the tech to practice some reasonable bedside manner) and then money can go to their work instead of the “for fun” ultrasound.
Tara in The Fort says:
That’s SO exciting! I’m so glad that, finally, you know who is growing in there! I’m so glad you got that answer before you left for your trip.
OMG—–I know I’m new to this blog and all but—– Binky LOOKS like MADDIE in that 3D ultrasound photo!!!! I mean, I know it’s only an ulrasound but, “Wow!” =D And OMG you got her to SMILE & YAWN?! So awesome!
So happy for you that you went to another place to get the confirmation that you needed. ;o)
P.S. LOL, on Mike’s reenactment photo. You gotta show that to Binky one day.
I nearly died on Friday from a ruptured ectopic pregnancy. They had to remove the embryo and also the tube, and I suppose I am a little emotional, but this sent me over the edge.
I am a’grinnin’ from ear to ear over here.
I’m so glad you guys got the good news you needed to hear! I just love Binky’s picture and her huge smile! She must know she has the BEST parents waiting for her future arrival.
I was just going to say the same thing – but, Elise says it best here!
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FIRST of all, I am SO MAD at that first place for keeping you in the dark about Binky’s okayness. WTF?! They should know that’s beyond stressful.
Second of all, CONGRATS on the girl!! I just found out I’m having a lil lady, too, and can’t stop smiling about it.
Teressa Dixon says:
I am so happy for you guys. I will be praying the remainder of your pregnancy goes well. I read this with tears in my eyes. So thankful this gave you some peace.
Heather, I am so glad you and Mike got the peace of mind you needed. I wish you all the luck and love with Maddie’s little sister.
Happy tears for you!!!!!!!!!!
I love Mike’s reenactment, by the way. LOL!
PS – Thanks for adding me on Flickr this morning
Two Makes Four says:
I am SO thrilled for you guys!!! What wonderful news!
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That smile is so freaking cute! It made me smile so big that my nose crinkled up
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Sara @heartmychloe says:
what a beautifully happy post. yay to another girl, and an even bigger yay to piece of mind.
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Wow. A saga indeed!!
The photo of Mike is hilarious, and the U/S pictures are so wonderfully reassuring! [Even though I’m not very familiar with interpreting them, LOL.]
So exciting to see happily moving Binky! ;D
Ely Cruz says:
You know, the bottom one caught my eye and I really cannot stop looking at it. If you really look, it looks as if someone is holding Binky lovingly in their hands, like they are saying “its okay, i’ve got her. She’s going to be fine.” Amazing!