When I was pregnant with Madeline, I didn’t do anything the traditional way. I didn’t set up a baby registry until she was five weeks old. My family threw me a baby shower the weekend before she came home from the NICU. My friends threw me one the day after she came home. It was different, but it was the situation and we all made the best of it and had a wonderful time.
This time around, I didn’t set up a registry at all. I didn’t want a shower. I didn’t want anyone to feel like they had to do something for my family, again. My friends insisted I have one and put their collective foot down. I hesitantly agreed, but made them wait forever to plan a single detail until I felt like it wouldn’t jinx anything. Then I made them change the date a few times. I had a list of demands (no gifts, donations to Friends of Maddie, etc) that I insisted on. They listened politely, and then they told me to shut up and show up.
I am so lucky to not only have these five amazing women in my life,
but I have so many, many others, who came from near and far.
picture by Yvonne
When I arrived at the shower I was blown away by the details:
the AMAZING cake from Devine Delights by Rose
just some of the yummy desserts (shhh, don’t tell Dr. Risky).
The hostesses passed on that Binky doesn’t want for anything, and that we didn’t need traditional gifts. They asked instead that the guests make a donation to Friends of Maddie, give diapers, or bring an outside the box children’s book. Binky was given some AMAZINGLY thoughtful gifts (not just books & diapers but I can’t get mad because everything was so touching and perfect) and Friends of Maddie received some donations, too:
made with loving hands and passed on from a loving heart
one of the two amazing scrapbooks
something that will be treasured forever.
I don’t normally like pictures of myself, but my friend Yvonne took one that I love. I’m standing off to the side of the shower, looking around at the tables full of people there for my daughter. The last time I had so many loved ones around was to say goodbye to my oldest daughter. This time, they were saying hello to my youngest. I felt so many things looking at the patio full of friends, but mostly I felt love. Theirs and mine.
I LOVED my dress – More of Me Maternity!
I was worried it would be emotional. Sometimes, it was. I was worried I’d be sad. Sometimes, I was. But I was also so happy. I felt so much love for both of my daughters. I know that even though something truly awful happened in my life, I am surrounded by so many people that care about me and my family. Nothing can ever take that away.
Thank you to everyone – especially Brianne, Leah, Leslie, Meghan, and Tara, who were right. I AM glad I had shower.
I’m crying looking at the photos, so I can’t imagine how emotional it was for you. And I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the book “A,B,C’s with Maddie” I am so glad you have such wonderful friends. And I will make a donation to Friends of Maddie today. And I hope lots of us on here will too. x
I can’t imagine how emotional it was for you (as well as everyone else in attendance)!
*sending warm wishes and internet hugs your way!*
Oh, the ABC’s with Maddie book has me in happy tears! What a beautiful way for Binky to know her sister!
Your shower was beautiful! Lovin’ all the pink!!
.-= Sidnie´s last blog ..Catching up… =-.
I have been following your story for months and have been touched daily. Today was such a wonderful example of why I keep coming back. You are an amazing woman with amazing friends. I cannot imagine the rollercoaster you’re on but I know that I’m on it with you.
Oh, that cake! The scrapbook, the clothes! Simply divine. You deserved every moment of it. I had PPROM at 32 weeks with my oldest, and like you, we didn’t have the shower until after she came home. I’m happy that you got to experience having a shower while Binky was safe and sound inside you. I had a shower with baby # 2 (I also told my friends no- they didn’t listen), and now I am so glad I had that “experience”. It will be a memory you treasure forever.
I almost forgot…how gorgeous did you look? Love that dress, blue is a fab color on you!
How wonderful! The ABC book especially was such a fantastic idea – one I might borrow for some friends of ours! I’m really glad you had this day with your friends, you deserve to see the love people have for you.
YAY for your girls, I am so pleased they didn’t listen to you!
I love the photos, love the ABC book, what a simple, wonderful and glorious idea. And above all, in all the horrible shit that you all have gone through, I am glad it was a happy day for you.
.-= Maddie´s last blog ..2010 $10 challenge =-.
Wow, how wonderful! I hope you continue to be showered with love and happiness this year.
Sounds like you had a lovely time. Long time reader, first time commenting. I’m so excited for you and Mike and it’s so wonderful your friends put this all together for you.
And I’m so glad for you! And Mike – it looks like he had a good time, too. … Thanks for sharing this experience with us. Your friends did such a wonderful job…everything is so lovely. Reading this gave me a really happy feeling. And YOU look Fabulous!!!!
I’m so happy that you had a such a beautiful shower and the gifts are beautiful. (Love the little rocker shirt!)
Congratulations Heather – I can’t think of someone or a family who deserves more happiness!
Waiting anxiously on Binky (and her name’s) arrival!
.-= Amanda´s last blog ..God, I am boring… =-.
Lynn from For Love or Funny says:
I don’t know why, but this beautiful gathering of friends for you and Mike and your daughters really made me cry.
I love how you put it: the last time you were surrounded by so many loved ones, they came to say goodbye to your oldest. Now they came to say hello to your youngest.
Such wonderful friends!
.-= Lynn from For Love or Funny´s last blog ..I’m trapped in the pit of despair =-.
SO well said. I had tears reading it as well, esp the ABC book with Maddie’s pic and the Love scrapbook cover/page. The tables and all the arrangements looked so lovely, wow!
Now, bring on Binky! (Well, maybe just a few more weeks..)
.-= Janeen´s last blog ..Four Years and Seven Minutes Ago.. =-.
lisa wood says:
That would have to be the most amazing day…a day to remember sweet little Maddie, and a day to welcome your gorgeous second little girl…..That is what good friends are all about and you are just glowing. Love the photos…love the “different” gifts they gave you. Perfect.
.-= lisa wood´s last blog ..My Boy Is HomeSick =-.
Oh my God, this whole post wanted to make me cry (in a good way!) – I am so happy your friends didn’t listen to you and threw you this fabulous shower – you deserve it!
.-= amanda´s last blog ..date with myself. =-.
What a beautiful shower! I may have to steal the umbrella table decoration idea if I ever have another chance to plan a shower. You a lucky woman when it comes to your friends. Power to the sisterhood!
Thanks for posting the last picture. You do look great! I’m sure that not a minute goes by that you don’t long for Maddie but it’s so good to see you enjoying the moment, too. I hope the last picture makes it into one of Binky’s scrapbooks as a belly picture.
.-= Jenny´s last blog ..My Favorite Way to Punch the Clock =-.
You looked positively beautiful at the shower, Heather, and I’m glad that it made you happy that it took place.
Binky wears that gorgeous blue dress so perfectly,,,with her Mommy’s help!!!!
Anna Marie says:
What wonderful friends you have – and I love the ABC’s with Maddie. Binky will have the best teacher helping her learn the alphabet!
I’m sobbing – sweet Maddie is missed and loved beyond belief, and there is so much love already for Binky.
.-= Maria´s last blog ..sausages on stick =-.
YOu are indeed blessed! What a wonderful memory for you and Binky. I LOVE the ABCs with Maddie. How beautiful!
.-= Mim´s last blog ..Seeing Red =-.
You look SO so gorgeous in all the pictures!!
They did an AMAZING job planning out every single detail and the ABCs of Maddie book is perfect.
.-= ClassyFabSarah´s last blog ..F21 Jeans =-.
Im glad your friends didn’t listen to you it looks like a beautiful day.
Looks like a perfect day. You deserved it! Aren’t friends great?!
chatty cricket says:
Good friends will save your life.
What an amazing day!! Yay for celebrating Binky (and that cake? WILD!!) You look gorgeous and that ABC’s of Maddie book is the sweetest thing I’ve ever seen.
Jen L. says:
How wonderful! I’m in awe of that cake. Whomever made the ABC’s with Maddie book is an absolute genius. What a perfect, sweet gift for Binky! Glad you had fun at your shower.
.-= Jen L.´s last blog ..Two or The Year Without Pants =-.
nic @mybottlesup says:
wow! i’m typically an anti-shower person… i was one who over did the shower experiences, saying “yes” to everyone who offered to host one when it was my wedding. so when it came time for a baby shower, i said NO and had my mom host a cocktail party instead because all people wanted to do was rub the belly and chit chat. so i requested on the invite that gifts come unwrapped so everyone could see what was what and we just enjoyed each other’s company.
this shower of your’s looks absolutely FANTASTIC, and you are most deserving. what a beautiful preggers lady you are my dear. great dress!!! you look happy, peaceful… content.
may this joy continue through the remainder of your pregnancy with binky. xoxo.
.-= nic @mybottlesup´s last blog ..anxiety angst =-.
What wonderful, thoughtful friends you have. Looks like a great time celebrating BOTH your girls. ((Hugs))
.-= jen´s last blog ..On the menu Monday Tasty Tuesday =-.
Stephanie In Canda says:
You deserved this beautiful shower, because you are an amazing mom and you are probably an awsome friend, they is a lot of love in the photo. The ABC book just precious
.-= Stephanie In Canda´s last blog ..Photo of the day : January 5-9 =-.
You look so beautiful! This post made me happy and sad too.
What a BEAUTIFUL shower!! I can’t get over that cake and how fantastic it looks!!! I hope it tasted as good as it looked. And the ABC’s with Maddie book is so sweet I may start crying. You have so many wonderful friends and I’m so thankful that they threw you such a lovely shower. All of your internet friends are happy for you as well.
.-= Deborah´s last blog ..New Drawing =-.
What an absolutely gorgeous Baby Shower! The tears started rolling with the “ABCs with Maddie” Book – whoever made and gave you that – SPECTACULAR, BEAUTIFUL & VERY LOVING gift!
By the way, so loving your maternitywear! Super sheek and oh soo pretty!
It looks like it was a beautiful shower. What a wonderful gift from your friends. I’m glad you had a good time. Love the dress by the way, you look beautiful.
Love and hugs.
.-= Lisa´s last blog ..Happy Babies =-.
You looked beautiful! And a clear reflection of how you felt. What an amazing day with amazing friends.
.-= Caroline´s last blog ..Keeping Warm =-.
I also had my baby shower while my little girl was still in the NICU. I am so glad you got have a traditional baby shower and do all the fun show-off your belly, indulge in treats, and ooh and aah over cute things stuff. You look great!
.-= Lindsay´s last blog ..Update on Contractions =-.
Ms. Moon says:
And did you feel the presence of many, many unseen fairy godmothers?
I hope so.
.-= Ms. Moon´s last blog ..‘Night, John-Boy =-.
Katie C. says:
I am crying right now… you are so amazing, your friends are awesome, and Binky is going to be such a blessing to you all. Maddie is watching down on you smiling.
Crying tears of Joy for you! (ok it was the Maddie book that did it)
Hugs from MN
It’s so great to have such amazing, thoughtful, friends! You look absolutely STUNNING. I just want to rub all over your Binky belly!!! Be glad I’m all the way in Texas. XOXO
.-= AmazingGreis´s last blog ..HORNS up… =-.
This is awesome, Heather. I was sharing with a friend about your blog & your story (who was thinking I am insane because I am in my early twenties & no where near having a baby so why am I reading mommy blogs? well.. yeeeeah…) and I was telling her how I am elated every day to hear that you & Binky are further along and healthy, because if there is anybody in this world who deserves a break & to have happiness, it is you, lady. For so many reasons. I’m glad you had an amazing (and waaaay cuuute) shower!
Absolutely amazing Heather! That is definitely the meaning of true friendship!
You look beautiful too… best wishes to you and your family! xxx
Patti McKenna says:
This is long and I’m sorry – but it is important!!!!!
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NO ILLNESSES HAVE BEEN REPORTED TO DATE IN CONNECTION WITH THIS PROBLEM.
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~~~16 OUNCE PEANUT BUTTER IN SQUARE PLASTIC CONTAINERS (TUB WITH SNAP ON LID), VARIETIES ARE CREAMY, CRUNCHY, HONEY CREAMY AND HONEY CRUNCHY WITH SELL BY DATES BETWEEN 11/14/2010 AND 12/31/2010**.
~~~34 OUNCE PEANUT BUTTER IN ROUND PLASTIC CONTAINERS (TUB WITH SNAP ON LID), VARIETIES ARE CREAMY AND CRUNCHY WITH SELL BY DATES BETWEEN 8/11/2010 AND 9/30/2010**.
~~~7 OUNCE BAGEL SPREADS IN WHITE PLASTIC CONTAINERS (TUB WITH SNAP ON LID), VARIETIES ARE GARDEN VEGGIE, WILD BERRY, STRAWBERRY, APPLE CINNAMON AND HONEY WALNUT) WITH SELL BY DATES BETWEEN 5/13/2010 AND 6/30/2010**.
~~~14 OUNCE DIPS & SPREADS IN SQUARE PLASTIC CONTAINERS (TUB WITH SNAP ON LID), VARITIES ARE JALAPENO NACHO, PIMENTO AND SALSA CON QUESO WITH SELL BY DATES BETWEEN 8/11/2010 AND 9/30/2010**.
~~~8 OUNCE, 12 OUNCE AND 16 OUNCE COLD PACK CHEESE IN ROUND OR SQUARE PLASTIC CONTAINERS (TUB WITH SNAP ON LID), VARIETIES ARE SHARP CHEDDAR, BACON, ONION, SMOKED CHEDDAR, SWISS ALMOND, HORSERADISH, GARLIC, PORT WINE, AND SWISS & CHEDDAR WITH SELL BY DATES BETWEEN 11/14/2010 AND 12/31/2010**.
~~~16 OUNCE SALSA IN SQUARE PLASTIC CONTAINERS (TUB WITH SNAP ON LID), VARIETIES ARE HOT, MILD, GARLIC, BLACK BEAN AND FIRE ROASTED WITH SELL BY DATES BETWEEN 3/14/2010 AND 4/30/2010**.
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~~~16 OUNCE HAPPY FARMS COLD PACK CHEESE IN ROUND PLASTIC CONTAINERS (TUB WITH SNAP ON LID), VARIETIES ARE SHARP CHEDDAR, PORT WINE AND SWISS ALMOND WITH SELL BY DATES BETWEEN 11/24/2010 AND 12/10/2010**.
~~~8 OUNCE KROGER COLD PACK CHEESE IN ROUND PLASTIC CONTAINERS (TUB WITH SNAP ON LID), VARIETIES ARE SHARP CHEDDAR, PORT WINE AND SWISS ALMOND WITH SELL BY DATES BETWEEN 11/18/2010 THRU 12/15/2010**
~~~8 OUNCE CENTRAL MARKETS COLD PACK CHEESE IN ROUND PLASTIC CONTAINERS (TUB WITH SNAP ON LID), VARIETIES ARE SHARP CHEDDAR, PORT WINE, SWISS ALMOND, HORSERADISH WITH SELL BY DATES OF 12/9/2010**
~~~14 OZ. CENTRAL MARKETS SALSA CON QUESO IN ROUND PLASTIC CONTAINERS (TUB WITH SNAP ON LID) WITH SELL BY DATES OF 8/16/2010**.
~~~16 OZ. CENTRAL MARKETS SALSA IN ROUND PLASTIC CONTAINERS (TUB WITH SNAP ON LID), VARIETIES ARE SHARP CHEDDAR, PORT WINE, SWISS ALMOND, HORSERADISH WITH SELL BY DATED OF 3/17/2010 THRU 3/24/2010**.
~~~8 OZ. DUTCH FARMS COLD PACK CHEESE IN ROUND PLASTIC CONTAINERS (TUB WITH SNAP ON LID), VARIETIES ARE SHARP CHEDDAR, PORT WINE, SWISS ALMOND, HORSERADISH, AND SWISS & CHEDDAR WITH SELL BY DATES OF 11/16/2010 THRU 11/18/2010**.
**NOTE: SELL BY DATED ARE CLEARLY PRINTED ON CONTAINER ½ INCH FROM TOP
EXAMPLE: Sell By 10/21/10
Patti McKenna says:
Please note that these foods can also be fatal if eaten by young children, elderly….
.-= Patti McKenna´s last blog ..RECALL! IMPORTANT TO ALL! =-.
The shower looks beautiful! Must have been emotional, God Bless.
DesignHER Momma says:
I believe my prayer is finally starting to be answered for you. That happiness and joy is starting to creep back into your life. Slowly and surely, the sun is coming out again. And in the midst of the rain, it’s refreshing. Love you!
.-= DesignHER Momma´s last blog ..My Pudge in the Puj Tub *GIVEAWAY* =-.
Absolutely, positively, 100% well said. I couldn’t agree more.
Lisa from WV says:
This comment is beautiful, and it is my hope for you also. Amazing shower. You looked beautiful.
That has been my prayer as well, so glad to see a bit of sunshine for you and Mike. BTW, you look just beautiful in your dress! Love the ABC book, what an awesome connection that Binky will have with her sister through that book. I’ll make my donation to Friends of Maddie and glad that your friends could give you some special shower gifts…you deserve to enjoy something new and special for Binky!
On another note, and I hesitated posting this back when you originally wrote about Maddie and Binky never getting to meet each other, but it has been on my heart and mind ever since….
I cannot begin to imagine the loss you and Mike have experienced, but I do know that through believing that Jesus died on the cross for all of us, to save us from our sins, that we are promised to live with him for eternity in heaven. The HOPE that salvation brings, the knowledge that you will see Maddie again in heaven someday and that Binky will finally get to meet her sister, is what I hope might help get you and Mike through this difficult time of loss, which, I know, will never end until you see her again in heaven. Lots and lots of love to you all. You are truly awesome, devoted parents!
Such a beautiful event! The cake blew me away. What wonderful friends you have…
Hi Sweet Heather!
I think one of the most valuable lessons I learned after being diagnosed with a devastating disease, was just how much my close friends wanted to share my experience with me and how they wanted to be there to celebrate my joys and hold my hand during the times I struggle and in my own sorrows.
Although I’m sure having the shower was such an overwhelming blessing to you, I suspect the people who were the most touched by your shower were the friends who threw for you. By allowing them to be apart of your joy, anticipation and yes, even your sorrow, you gave them all such a profound gift and I’m sure they are incredibly thankful to you. .
I’m so happy and proud of you for having the courage to so gracefully go to your shower and not only celebrate your new baby but to also celebrate and remember your oldest daughter as well. I’m sure at times you felt completely overwhelmed but I’m so glad you went and have no regrets in doing so!
I hope you absorbed the many Blessings that day held for both you and Mike. You both deserve every bit of joy and happiness!!! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and pictures of your special day. It looked like a perfect day!!
I love this comment!! So powerful and wise!
Hugs and prayers all around!!!!
You have amazing friends. It looks like such a gorgeous and wonderful event. I, too, love the cake and the ABCs book. I’m so glad your friends insisted.
Heather you look AMAZING! The dress, the smile, the obvious emotion of the day all becomes you!
The shower looks beautiful. What an amazing group of sister/friends to do something so thoughtful.
Binky is an extremely blessed little girl. I know that she’ll know and be so lucky for all the love that surrounds her, both here and in heaven.
XOXO from GA!
tears!! what a beautiful shower! and you look absolutely gorgeous, what a beautiful picture!
Sitting here bawling my eyes. Wishing your family much happiness.
oh, this brought tears to my eyes… so wonderful and touching
.-= Beth´s last blog ..DIS.NEYLAND — California Adventure, Part 1 =-.
The tables and decorations are just beautiful. I don’t think I’ve ever seen any so pretty. You have some wonderful and very creative friends! You and Binky are blessed!
Mary @ Holy Mackerel says:
You have wonderful friends. And that cake was beyond amazing! So glad your friends did this for you.
The best for me is the book of Maddie doing the ABCs. What a treasure.
.-= Mary @ Holy Mackerel´s last blog ..The Weakened =-.
What a beautiful an amazing and blessed day it must have been!!!! Soooooo happy for you all!!!
My warmest wishes to you and Mike on the anticipation ob Baby Binky! What beautiful pictures. I went on your flickr acct and looked at each one and I can see the outpouring of love your friends have for you and your family. You are truly blessed. Can’t wait for Binky to make her debut! Best of luck! Jenn
cindy w says:
I didn’t have a baby shower with Catie either, mainly because I haaate showers. (I spent most of my bridal shower in a state of twitchy anxiety. Not a fan of being the center of attention like that.) But damn, I wish I’d have been there for yours. The whole thing looks beautiful, you look AMAZING, and that cake? OMFG that is incredible.
.-= cindy w´s last blog ..my expert phone interview tips =-.
And now I have to fix my makeup! That scrapbook of ABC’s with Maddie sent me over the edge!:) How wonderful that you have such caring people in your life! Glad you had the shower and you shared with us!:) Thank you!
awesome decorations!!! love the dress!! you look great!
.-= Heather´s last blog ..Truthful Tuesdays =-.
Heather, your glowing, a special glow you only show. Mix emotions and all your radiant! The shower decorations stunning as you are with your Binky baby bump! All the best always!
What a wonderful, wonderful day. Glad you were able to enjoy it, and glad that you’re blessed with such wonderful friends.
(And that cake is faaaabulous.)
.-= J´s last blog ..I got the fever =-.
Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] says:
Intensely and awesomely amazing.
You are loved.
.-= Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing]´s last blog ..You people are my Gayle. (I’m sorry it’s long, but read it anyway, dammit. It’s about YOU.) =-.
Lovely. And that cake is AMAZING!!
.-= Danny´s last blog ..Family Exposure =-.
That is just about the coolest cake I have ever seen. Glad you were able to enjoy your shower- it looks beautiful! And you look stunning!
What fabulous photos..and I agree, girlfriends play such an important part of our lives. Love the shower, looks like you had a blast.
Heather, what a gorgeous party! And you looked gorgeous as well. So glad you got this day of fun and celebration!
.-= mandie´s last blog ..34 weeks =-.
The ABCs with Maddie just blew me away. What an incredibly special gift. Wow!
.-= Kristin´s last blog ..Blog You Very Much, Some Overdue Thanks, and Other Housekeeping =-.
Congrats! You look radiant! Am so, so happy for you guys.
I didn’t get to comment on yesterday’s post but I would say bring FOOD for Mike to the hospital (unless they have a really excellent cafeteria) so he’s not relying on vending machines and fast food. Healthy, yummy snacks and any prepared foods that you can bring with you. You’ll want them after the baby’s born too!
The ABC’s with Maddie book is such an amazingly thoughtful book! Do you have pictures of all the pages? Whoever thought of that and made that book for you just won Gift Giver of the Century Award! I love it.
It was an awesome day! Your friends know how to put on a great shin dig and are creative as hell! So glad we were able to make it! You are a beautiful mommy! xoxo
.-= jeffra´s last blog ..Odds and Ends =-.
i am so glad FOR you; to be able to celebrate at all in the face of what you have endured in 2009 is a testiment to You, your Stength, Life, and your new Life in 2010. What a reminder: there will always be some sadness, but there is also so much joy to come. I am so happy for you, for Mike, genuinely. Love is kind too, remember that!
What a beautiful shower! I bet the ABC book is phenomenal – what a great gift for your family.
Oh…and your dress is gorgeous!!! Maybe you could auction it for Friends of Maddie after Binky is born!
.-= Jenny´s last blog ..Happy New Year! =-.
Or….she might want to keep the dress in case she has more kids!!! Afterall, Heather and Mike DO make amazing babies!!! LMAO…Just a thought…..
HEATHER- when are you going to realize that we are ALWAYS right?
The shower was great, but I’m glad it’s over. Now we can get ready for Binky’s arrival! That is what will be REALLY awesome.
.-= AMomTwoBoys´s last blog ..Dear 2010 =-.
Jenny @ http://motherlawyercrazywoman.blogspot.com/ says:
What a beautiful post and wonderful shower! All the details are incredible and that cake is amazing.
I am so happy for you that your friends and family gave you such a special day! The photo of you in the blue dress is a framer – you are glowing and look so pretty!
.-= Jenny @ http://motherlawyercrazywoman.blogspot.com/´s last blog ..In Case There Was Any Doubt That I Am Neurotic … =-.
Megan @ Mama Bub says:
I burst into happy tears seeing that cake. SO much love at that shower, it’s obvious.
.-= Megan @ Mama Bub´s last blog ..Bows! =-.
Lesley O says:
I am so pleased that you have such a wonderful bunch of friends who threw you the most beautiful shower! I absolutely love the ABC’s with Maddie book…what an awesome book to read with Binky! You are totally rocking that beautiful dress with that totally hawt belly of yours!!! (I really don’t have some stalkerish fetish with your belly….i’m just so excited for you!).
Karen Chatters says:
What a beautiful shower and the pictures are so fabulous. And the details – LOVE them!! It’s so wonderful that you had so many people come from near and far to celebrate you and Binky (and Mike). It looks like it was a beautiful day.
.-= Karen Chatters´s last blog ..Where does the time go? =-.
Miss Grace says:
You look beautiful. The shower looks beautiful. Beautiful beautiful beautiful.
.-= Miss Grace´s last blog ..Pikchures =-.
catherine Lucas says:
I totally understand the jinxing thing… Glad you had a nice shower, and I gasped at the ABC book of Madeline. Being surrounded by love can not be bettered…
.-= catherine Lucas´s last blog ..Cloud walking… =-.
So happy for you! I’m glad you had a wonderful shower given by beautiful friends. Sometimes it’s very hard to let people take care of you, but I’m learning not to rob people of the blessing they receive by giving to me. Looking so forward to seeing the new little bundle of joy.
.-= Christy´s last blog ..Dedication and Blessings =-.
Looks like a beautiful time for a beautiful woman. I wish I could come and rub that cute belly of yours. Instead I plan on smothering that baby in snuggles in June.
.-= Kim´s last blog ..Living in the Land of Make Believe =-.
Heather you look beautiful! Love, love the cake! So happy you had a great shower and love the ABC book of Madeline! What a great group of friends and amazing how they honored Maddie too! XXX
Sarah @ BecomingSarah.com says:
I’m glad you had a good time. It looks like your friends really threw you a lovely shower. What a lucky woman you are =)
Lindsay from Florida says:
That shower is incredible, breath-taking, and phenomenal in every single way, from the tables to the cake to the genius and loving idea of the ABC Maddie book to (especially) the gorgeous, beaming mother at the center of it all.
Thank you for sharing this. It is so good to see you smiling and hopeful at your shower.
I feel soo much emotion from this post and don’t have the adequate words to describe it.
I am so happy that your friends insisted and you were able to enjoy such a beautiful day surronded by soo many people that love you.
The ABC book is wonderful beyond words!
It looks like it was a beautiful party. The books were so sweet. I can’t believe that our little ones could be here any time now. Good luck, and I’ll be thinking of you!
Stephanie Padilla Salgado says:
Heather, I am so glad to see that you had a wonderful time surrounded by friends and family that truly love you, Maddie, Mike & Binky. You looked beautiful…The ABC book did bring tears to my eyes though….good thing I haven’t put on any mascara yet…That is something I have learned not to do until after I read your blog entries….Please know that this gal here in Texas is praying for you….XOXO Stephanie
You are such a beautiful pregnant, little lady
The shower pics are just amazing!! I am so happy you have so many people in your life who would do ANYTHING for you You deserve it and so does Mike and Binky. Enjoy every moment!!!
I wanted to add that you take great pics. You said you don’t normally like your picture taken I have yet to see one that doesn’t make me smile (or envy you a little)
Also, I forgot to add that I LOVE the scrap books.
Andrea's Sweet Life says:
Gorgeous – every last thing.
I’m so happy you had an amazing day, and I love seeing a smile on your face!
.-= Andrea’s Sweet Life´s last blog ..Title? What Title? =-.
Amy in Oregon says:
What a wonderful day surrounded by such wonderful, beautiful friends. You are very, very lucky. I am so excited for this next chapter in your life Heather!
What a great celebration. xo
(& a GORGEOUS picture!)
.-= Kelly´s last blog ..Lasagna & Weight Watchers =-.
Mr Lady says:
I have NO idea how I didn’t hear about your shower, but I’m there in spirit. Bring on the Binky!
.-= Mr Lady´s last blog ..What Goes Around Comes Around. Twice. =-.
In the words of little Maddie Moo…
(I love that video of her when she says that!)
Heather, you truly have wonderful friends. I am so glad that you were able to enjoy this special day. What a great celebration!
And you in that blue dress? With that huge smile on your face?
.-= Katrina´s last blog ..Cell Phone VS The Bible =-.
Lex - @laprimera says:
You look absolutely stunning! Thank you for sharing as always. I’m so excited for you and Mike to meet little girl Binky. You are both such wonderful parents. I think of Maddie often. Her purple ribbon is still attached to my visor in my car. Sending much love to you both! xoxo
Michelle Pixie says:
I love that shot of you! You look gorgeous (as always)! What a beautiful day!
.-= Michelle Pixie´s last blog ..The Devil Made Me Do It =-.
Angela G. says:
One look at the ABC’s of Maddie book brought me to tears. There isn’t a day that goes by that doesn’t include thoughts of you and your family. I’m so glad you have such wonderful friends and family members to help celebrate you and your daughters.
I’m so very glad you had fun! I wish I could have been there to help you celebrate; my family will be thinking of yours as you await Binky
.-= Miche´s last blog ..Grocery Shopping =-.
Crying more tears! I need to stop reading this at work. I’m glad your friends didn’t listen and gave you a wonderful shower. I’m even more glad you loved it. Such special friends. Love the Maddie ABCs book!
Wow. I saw the photos on Fliker and was so impressed with how beautiful everything was……even the guests. Congratulations, and you’re still in my prayers!
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Stephanie Stearns Dulli says:
ABC’s With Maddie is just….that’s AWESOME!!! What a great idea. Binky will love that and Maddie will get to teach her little sister the ABC’s. I just love it. That’s what made me cry in this post. Perfect gift.
.-= Stephanie Stearns Dulli´s last blog ..MacGuyver or: I apologize for this blog post =-.
I just want to let you know that I’ve read for a long time and I’ve always felt like I couldn’t find the words to say. But here I am, and all I can say is there is someone in Tennessee that gets on her knees every single night and at the end, I make sure to say an extra special prayer for you and your family, and to say hello to sweet little Maddie Moo. And when I see a purple sunset, I close my eyes hard and if people knew they would think I was crazy – but all I think is “Hi, Maddie! Thank you for being so beautiful!”
O Heather today’s post is so touching and I am moved to tears by your beautiful words. I am so delighted to read what a special baby shower your wonderful friends arranged. You are indeed surrounded by wonderful people and we can feel the love that you all share through your words and the stunning photos. O Heather today’s tears are tears of joy for your and Mike that you experienced such joy and happiness at your baby shower for the Binky Bean. What thoughtful gifts and I just love the ABC’s with Maddie, one to treasure forever. You are such a wonderful and loving person, its really no wonder you are surrounded by such wonderful and loving people. Thanks you for sharing with us. You look amazing too!!
Thinking of you all always
Sara K. says:
WOW! The decorations were BEAUTIFUL!! And as a cake decorator, I am in awe of that beautiful cake!! I love the ABC’s with Maddie book, how wonderful!!
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im glad your friends made sure you had a beautiful love filled day
ABCs with Maddie looks like a best seller
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I have been reading your site for the last several weeks. I am sorry you lost your daughter. I can not imagine the loss you feel. I pray I never have to experience that. I was listening to this song today and thought you might like it.
Praying and thinking of you
How wonderful!!! What awesome people.
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Oh wow. What an amazing shower… You deserve it Heather! I’m so glad that it was a celebration of both your girls… Thanks for sharing the photos, they are truly wonderful.
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Kerri F says:
Oh my gosh you have amazing friends. That cake was gorgeous and what an amazing “ABC’s with Maddie” book. I’m so glad you enjoyed your shower. You deserve to be spoiled and loved like that.
Heather… you look absolutly RADIANT!
Im so glad you got to celebrate this, you deserve it!
You look smashing, dahling.
So glad you were showered.
First of all, you are so precious! Your hair looked so beautiful and your dress was so cute! You just glow.
Secondly, what an amazing shower with friends. You are loved by so many. So is Mike and Maddie and Binky. You’re an inspiration and so many people just want to make sure you’re loved and cared for. I’m glad you had a great time at the shower.
.-= Tara.´s last blog ..i ? faces: best face =-.
oh my it looks perfect!!!
so glad things went well, and the ABC book is precious
(another) karen says:
you look absolutely beautiful.
Heather, how beautiful! I am happy that you had a shower. What great friends you have. LOVE LOVE LOVE the ABCs with Maddie book. What a treasure. Someday you’ll have to make a companion book — Maybe 123s with Binky….You’re a beautiful mommy with beautiful friendships. I am happy that all’s well with Miss B. So looking forward to the happy news that she has arrived safely into your arms. Take good care of yourself, Heather. : )
Sarah R says:
I think that is just awesome. You have some great friends.
.-= Sarah R´s last blog ..Nothing new to report! =-.
It’s wonderful to see a smile on your face. You deserve these joyful moments. Praying that you have an easy delivery and healthy little girl!
Beautiful and wonderful way to welcome Binky.
.-= Bridget´s last blog ..The Job =-.
Every baby and mommy deserves a shower! You have great friends who know and understand that. Good for them!!
That cake is undescribably amazing! Where the Wild Binkies Are is my fave!
You look happy. You deserve that.
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Barb Hansen says:
You look absolutely RADIANT ! It’s great to be happy and you deserve happy time ! Mike , too !
Enjoy those nudges from Binky because pretty soon , she’ll be in your arms. February 14th is just around the corner ! SOOO happy for you all ! Just think how happy Rigby , your families and everyone in the World who knows Maddie will be ! How exciting !! We all love you guys to pieces.
How wonderful your Dr. Risky is . What would we ever do witjout great Docs? They’re hard to find , but there are some wonderful ones out there .
You do have a huge and wonderful support system and amazing friends. You all looked beautiful and like you were happy. Your daughters are lucky girls to have such a family!
You are a beautiful pregnant woman!
.-= Danielle´s last blog ..*Notice* Wine and hair color don’t mix and cost me too much money! =-.
Trisha Vargas says:
What awesome friends and what a beautiful day.
((((HUGS)))) from Florida
You look radiant, and I am in tears over the ABC’s with Maddie book. What wonderful and thoughtful friends. Binky will cherish that book, and so will you.
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What fantastic friends you have. I’m so happy you had a great day.
hugs and love!
.-= Kristin´s last blog ..There are days =-.
I must concur with your other readers that the ABC book was the most touching gift I’ve ever seen. I shed a few tears over it in the corner by the mints (which is where I spent an inordinate amount of time -in case you were wondering why there weren’t a lot of leftovers).
I love you and I’m glad that I was able to share in that day. Binky is going to be surrounded by L-O-V-E if I have anything to do with it.
Pam Gesswein says:
Heather & Mike: I’m glad the shower turned out so well. I felt like I was there when Meghan would talk about it. Can’t wait for your little one to come into this world and hopefully I will be able to meet her. Grandma Pam(Meghans MIL)
Baking Mad Mama says:
What a beautiful baby shower, you have some amazing friends. Your post is so positive and full of love for Binky and for Maddie. The ABC book brought tears to my eyes. Also, if I had looked anywhere near as fabulous as you do in that last photo when heavily pregnant I would have been the smuggest pregnant lady in town!
.-= Baking Mad Mama´s last blog ..Favourite Photo Meme =-.
Mary Ann says:
Looking at those pictures I could feel the love around you. The Maddie’s ABC scrapbook is precious, what a wonderful treasure for you to share with Binky. I’m so glad you had a baby shower and shared your day with us. You looked radiant, glowing, and so happy. Congratulations Heather and Mike you are in the home stretch!
What a beautiful shower…and it’s so amazing when joy meets sorrow, isn’t it? There is no explaining it, how one can be full of joy and pain at once, but there it is. I’m glad you have so many wonderful friends and family surrounding you, Mike and Binky.
Alicia @bethsix says:
You are looking absolutely gorgeous, lady! Just a few short weeks…
.-= Alicia @bethsix´s last blog ..Things I Love Thursday: Upcycled Security Envelope Ring =-.
Wonderful. Absolutely wonderful. And that cake looks SO YUMMY! I was I were that creative!
I’m glad they insisted on a shower. I’m glad you got thoughtful gifts and most of all I am SO glad you had a wonderful day and are happy. I loved the pictures and the decorations were so cool.
Mrs. Money says:
You look so great! I wish I could have been there with everyone. ((HUGS)) to you!
.-= Mrs. Money´s last blog ..Is This Stealing? =-.
You looks absolutely amazing!!
.-= jackie´s last blog ..Introducing ………….. =-.
You look fantastic!
I’m so glad you’ve got such wonderful friends to celebrate with.
You look absolutely gorgeous – you’re glowing!
The “Learn the ABC’s with Maddie” simultaneously made me tear up and made me smile. What a thoughtful gift.
It looks like it was absolutely wonderful. I’m so glad you had a shower, too.
is there an address your loyal readers could send a present for Binky to? like a virtual baby shower?
.-= damaris´s last blog ..He’s a Sunbeam and I’m a hair dresser =-.
The “Learn the ABC’s with Maddie” book – that was such a wonderful gift that I’m sure Binky will treasure forever and pass down to her children.
Any chance that we can see some of the pages inside the book?
Miz Mayhew likes the picture of you in your pretty dress
how wonderful! You have some amazing friends, but you deserve so much and are such a wonderful person that I’m not surprised by this at all. It looks like it was a great day. You looked absolutely beautiful!!
.-= Lisa´s last blog ..Tag =-.
Aimee Greeblemonkey says:
Awwww. Love all of this. So happy for you.
Love the pics! Looks like a beautiful day for a baby shower. And you are right to love that pic, you look like one hot mama!
You are obviously well loved
And you are rocking the pregnancy! You look gorgeous girl!
Heather it all looks so gorgeous! I’m glad you were happy, even if you were sad at times! xoxoxo
.-= Sarcastica´s last blog ..Is it time for a change, or is it not? =-.
Kelly Maguire says:
You look wonderful, the shower sounds fabulous, and I love, love, love the book, A B C’s with Maddie. You have special friends, for sure.
.-= Kelly Maguire´s last blog ..He’s parenting ME =-.
I know people always say that pregnant women glow…but you REALLY do!
What wonderful pictures!
.-= Dawn´s last blog ..Thinking of visiting Wisconsin?? =-.
Robin Amerise says:
Dearest Heather and Mike,
I also have read your blog for awhile and am so happy the sun is shining in your lives. Maddie is so loved and never forgotten such a special little girl, so beautiful! She will be busy watching over not only her mommy and daddy but now Binky too! Your friends are awesome and all of us in Cyberville are praying for God’s many blessings to you and all of your family! I know your parents are happy to see you are having sunny days! Your friend in NYC, Robin
Kim ~ CraftyMamaof4 says:
You look beautiful and happy Sending love from the east coast and wishing you peace and happiness
.-= Kim ~ CraftyMamaof4´s last blog ..Motorola Droid from Verizon ~ My Thoughts =-.
Heather, you’re gorgeous! Definitely have that beautiful pregnant glow.
.-= Jess´s last blog ..#12/#365 =-.
Oh, I’m tearing up. What wonderful friends! And the ABCs with Maddie book? So. Precious.
.-= Alison´s last blog ..New Year, Part Deux =-.
You look so beautiful in your pictures–happy and glowing. I know every day is still a challenge, but you really do look so stunning.
Love to you and your family.
Kudos to your man for attending the shower with you. Good for both of you!
.-= Jenny´s last blog ..My Favorite Way to Punch the Clock =-.
You looked stunning! I’m so glad your friends pushed you to have a shower. Thanks for sharing it with us. You always make me emotional in all kind of ways. Enjoy this last few weeks! We’ll be here waiting to met Binky
What a beautiful tribute to a new life. I’m so glad you agreed to have the shower. Sometimes we just need physical reminders of the love in our lives. You look absolutely stunning (love the dress!). I hope you’ll consider sharing more of the ABCs with Maddie book (you know, because you don’t already share enough
Michelle W says:
Of course you know the saying “The best way to make a friend is to be one” and clearly from the people who surround you, you are an amazing friend! Not taking anything away from those amazing ladies though, and I am so happy you have them in your life
mom, again says:
ABC’s with Maddie!!! I wanna see the inside pages! What a fantastic idea!
Everyday I open up the reader and find you still posting from home, I am grateful and say a little prayer for the next day.
I’d like a copy of ABC’s with Maddie…..
I would very much enjoy reading it to my little ones. What a sweet, sweet book that must be!
.-= Katrina´s last blog ..Cell Phone VS The Bible =-.
OMG that cake! Beautiful, thoughtful, creative and scrumptious! I LOVE IT! I am so glad that you have so many people in your life who love you enough to know what is best for you, even when you disagree. ;o) Looks like such a beautiful baby shower.
PLEASE, PLEASE make a P.O. BOX so I can send Binky a gift!!
P.S. You looked great in that dress! =D
Kim Tracy Prince says:
It was a lovely party, and an occasion to share joy and hope. Everyone there was so friendly and nice. Also, the cookies. Nuff said, right?
.-= Kim Tracy Prince´s last blog ..I Like To Call Her "The Lens" =-.
It’s so funny how you keep saying how lucky you are when we are clearly the lucky one’s. I mean, we got to eat all that good food.
Oh and we get to have you, Mike, Maddie, and Binky in our lives too.
(AND I totally got to love on Rigby! )
.-= Miss´s last blog ..Things I’m already sick of in 2010 =-.
you deserve those wonderful friends of yours!
So much beauty!
You in that dress with the Binkster Belly, (can I say Binkster? It sounds pretty rockin’ to me); the food and cake, the decor, the gifts, the loving friends.
I bet ABCs with Maddie is a fantastic book, full of love, and will be so treasured!
Congrats on having an awesome shower, put on by such wonderful friends; I am so glad you and Mike got to have that experience.
Sending thoughts of comfort and peace in this home stretch!
You were rocking that dress mama! Thank you for inviting me to be a part of your special day. I’m so glad I met you and Maddie and got lost so you had to help me find my way to the freeway It was a beautiful day, filled with amazing people (not me lol) and that ABC book had me teary eyed (still does, a treasure for sure!) and I too am glad your awesome friends put their foot down. Can’t wait to meet Binky. Love you all very much.
Wow! How amazing and creative.. Your shower looked like fun and a great inclusion and rememberance of Maddie.. How sweet and beautiful!
I can’t wait to meet Binky!
Love your dress..
Yvonne has an incredible eye…everything is so beautiful, people included. I’m glad you had the shower, too.
Expat Mom says:
That’ ABC’s with Maddie is so perfect! What better way for Binkie to meet her sister?
You do deserve a shower and I’m so glad your friends saw fit to throw you one and to give you gifts even though you thought you didn’t need them. Binkie is special and everyone should celebrate her, too . . . and she deserves some little gifts, for staying put so nice and long and making you smile again.
Gorgeous party for a gorgeous momma. I love how Maddie’s presence shines in everything you do. And in the shower pics, I saw Binky’s energy coming through, too…so exciting! Mazel tov.
Marti from Michigan says:
You look wonderful in that picture (by yourself), and your belly is beautiful! YOU are beautiful Heather!! You and Mike are going to make wonderful parents to Binky, because you already are wonderful parents to Maddie.
May God continue to bless you!!
Miss E says:
What a very special day. What special friends you have. What a great celebration of Binky’s arrival. You deserve it! xoxo
.-= Miss E´s last blog ..25 years ago today =-.
I’m glad that you are so lucky to have such wonderful friends. Can you do a post on what the “ABC’s with Maddie” book is? It looks amazing, and I was hoping to get a glimpse of the inside.
.-= Sarah´s last blog ..12 or 13, who’s counting? =-.
You look beautiful! Sounds like you had a great time, and it’s so nice to be loved on by friends.
Can’t wait to see Binky!
.-= Scatteredmom´s last blog ..Momma Bear Mantra =-.
Wow. If I ever have a baby and a baby shower. I want it to be just like yours, full of LOVE!
Ohhhhh, it all looked so lovely! And I’m glad Mike was there with you!! What special friends you have.
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What a beautiful story. I love the scrapbooking idea. I think that is a great way to keep all those special memories!