My mom comes to our house every Tuesday to spend time with us. Tuesdays, as I’ve mentioned, are bad for me. It marks another week since the worst day of our lives, another week we are going on without Madeline. Mike is always busy on Tuesday nights, so my mom and I make ourselves busy. We do our best not to look at the clock between four and seven pm, and we usually accomplish this by running errands, going to dinner, taking a walk, etc. Today we planned on doing some paperwork for Friends of Maddie, then going by my PO Box.
I was running behind. We’d planned to leave by six, but at 6:30 I was still attempting to return unread emails (I’m at the end of April. Yeah.). Realizing the time, my mom and I grabbed our stuff…and then we were practically knocked to the ground by the sound of two INTENSE fire alarms. We live in a condo complex and for some reason, there are two different alarms: A screeching off and on beep, and a non-stop high-pitched whine. Rigby LOST IT. She started whimpering in a way I’ve never heard.
The first thing I thought was, of course, “crap, there’s a fire.” So I ran through our place and was relieved to see everything was fine. My mom and I then ran outside, partly because that’s what you’re supposed to do when a fire alarm goes off, but mostly because I thought Rigby’s ears might start bleeding.
In front of our building there was chaos – four fire trucks, jillions of fire fighters, and a bunch of irritated neighbors.
One of those neighbors said, “there isn’t a fire, but one of the unit’s sprinkler system went off.” I just knew it was going to be one of the two units above me. And sure enough, it was the unit two floors up. PANIC MODE!
My mom and I ran around the back of the building and went through the fire exit to get inside. We could already hear the water rushing through the walls. We burst into my unit and breathed a sigh of relief. No water. “Thank goodness…” I started to say. And then I was hit on the head by a stream of water. AAAAGH!
The water started pouring through the air conditioning vents in our front entry way. My mom started pushing furniture and other things out of the way of the water while I ran into the kitchen to get some bowls. Except, all my bowls are strewn about the house as insurance against sneak-attack morning sickness. So I did what any normal person who doesn’t ever cook would do – I grabbed my pans. You know, the nice ones that you get as wedding gifts. It was time to put them to good use! My mom did not approve, and ordered me to collect the plastic bowls.
Those five bowls had to be emptied every few minutes. There were a few other clusters of bowls throughout our front entry. I’m making it sound like we have this fancy place, but our front entry is also the kitchen/living room/dining room. It’s just a big room. A big wet room.
I called Mike and said something like, “WATER! FLOOD! HOME! COME NOW!” and then I went to go talk to the fire captain to tell him there was a waterfall in my house. He assured me they’d be down to check out the damage. After telling him I had ice cream (BRIBE), I went back to my place to take pictures of the damage. A group of fire fighters came a few minutes later (with shovels…not sure what they were for), and when they saw the elaborate towel & bowl system we’d devised, one of them said, “Hey, you guys are awesome!” and I said, “I know!” and then I became aware I was only wear a pair of cut off sweat pants and a tank top with an inadequate shelf bra, and I oooooh soooo subtly crossed my arms super breezy-like. And then it was awkward because I was not at all breezy, and the men and the shovels quickly left to help the units above us.
So what happened? The woman two units above us apparently didn’t get the memo that hanging things from fire sprinklers is not smart. A crystal or some such decorative item broke her sprinkler and triggered the fire alarm. I don’t even want to think about the damage in her unit and the unit in between us. I also don’t want to think about the damage we’d have had if I hadn’t been running late. Since we were home, the damage is all behind the walls and in the ceilings. OH and our heating and air conditioning unit is most likely toast. The one we had replaced when I was pregnant with Madeline two years ago. This is why we have home owners insurance. We’ll be calling for estimates on the damage tomorrow. Wheeeeee.
The whole thing did make me realize that I have a lot of things in this house that I would be really, really upset about losing. Maddie’s things. While I have been loathe to move or pack any of it, it would be impossible for me to grab the meaningful items if our house were really on fire or flooding. It’s making me think about what we have to do to preserve her reminders and the things that are most important to us. Obviously her urn would be the first item I took, but what about her favorite dolls, the ones I sleep with every night? Or the last bits of clothing that smell like her, ziplocked in a bag in her room? My need to preserve everything might have prevented my ability to preserve ANYTHING.
That is a thought that, sixteen weeks after the day our lives changed forever, is too much for me to think about.
Bobbi Janay says:
I am so sorry that you had to deal with this today.
.-= Bobbi Janay´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday =-.
Nancy Smego says:
That sucks! And take it from me (who had a fire in 1996 and my house burned down….) things that are valuable (such as Maddie’s thing) PLEASE put in a fireproof box or safety deposit box. I know I am lucky that my son and I got out alive, but I lost many other things that meant a lot. Pictures, baby books, etc. Put them safely where nothing can ever touch it. And if I had it to do over again, and had the technology, I would have everything digitally, too. So sorry you had this experience.
Nancy
Jewels says:
Gaah! What an ordeal! It is so hard to think of the things to grab in those few moments you have to grab them. Last year during the fires, my mom stood in the entryway of the house before grabbing her jewelry, a rocking chair (which I guess belonged to her mother or something?) and a box marked “important.” I guess you gotta get yourself one of those boxes and fill it to the brim with things of Maddie’s. But no matter what you will always always always have her in your heart.
.-= Jewels´s last blog ..quick update =-.
In Due Time says:
Ugh. I was thinking about all of Maddie’s things when you tweeted about it. I hope you get the a/c fixed soon. ((Hugs))
.-= In Due Time´s last blog ..Not As Planned =-.
Anne says:
Glad to hear you didn’t get the worst of it and nothing irreplaceable was destroyed. I agree with Jewels. You may need to get a few dozen of those boxes to fill with your important Maddie things.
.-= Anne´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday =-.
catherine lucas says:
It’s hard to do Heather. You want to preserve, as we all would want to do if we were in your situation. Maybe it is time to think about a way of how to preserve the really important things that you can’t live without. Spread it out. Maybe put some at your mom’s house, or a dear sibling, or a good friend. They would understand. ALthough I can see that you want to be surrounded by those things.
A good thing indeed that you were home! Your need to preserve everything has not prevented saving anything, so don’t think about it. Hope you get the place gets dried out without further damage!
.-= catherine lucas´s last blog ..With love from Russia… =-.
Maria @BOREDmommy says:
I’m so grateful to be able to read your blog, in the wee hours when I’m having my insomnia issues. You are a great writer. And I have to admit that reading about Maddie’s clothes that you have ziplocked in a bag to preserve that memory, made my heart hurt for you. I’m so sorry.
.-= Maria @BOREDmommy´s last blog ..You are SO going to love me – The finale =-.
Mary says:
Bless your heart. How stressful. I hope the process with the insurance agency goes as smoothly as possible.
.-= Mary´s last blog ..Quick Summer Hair Care Tips =-.
Brittanie says:
I’m sorry for dumbass neighbors (seriously…if you’re old enough to live alone you ought to be old enough to know freaking better! When I did my WDWCP internship they reminded us not to do it…but the thought had never crossed my then 20 year old mind!) I’m so glad the damage wasn’t as devastating as it had the potential to be-though I still understand it’s more than you should have to be dealing with now…or ever! I’m also sorry it made you face even more difficult questions and whatnot. Bastards. Sorry…this was probably a completely pointlwss comment. Just sending you some love and a curse on stupid neighbors
Danes says:
Srsly – what’s with plumbing crap lately?! We have three holes in our wall right now from a leak that happened while on vacay..apparently the insides need to ‘dry out’. My sis had a FLOOD in her place two weeks ago and now this….HRM…. apparently CA’s water shortage is hiding in the walls of all of our condos/apts. And the poopiest part is….I can’t even buy you a drink!
Hugggggs
Al_Pal says:
Oh goodness!!!
I’m so glad you were there to deal with it, and so sorry that you had such painful thoughts brought up…
particularly on a Tuesday.
*HUGS*
Karishma says:
when it rains, it pours. ahem. but oh man, i am sorry! that sort of thing sucks, thank god for insurance. hopefully they cover everything, this wasn’t your fault in the least bit. i’m so glad nothing truly important was destroyed. i can’t even quite wrap my head around the magnitude of trying to save Maddie’s belongings…. i can totally understand why you would want to keep them with you, not put them in other places for safekeeping. maybe get a fireproof/floodproof box for her things, and take them out as you want? maybe keep everything together so that if you really have to, you can just grab an armload of everything? i’m sorry, i’m not much help, but hopefully something will work.
Sally says:
Tuesday is my day, too. The day we said hello and goodbye to our little girl all in one breath. Your post really got me thinking, and made me realise I need to keep all my special memories of Hope in a much safer, central place. Her stuff is everywhere here.
Mostly Heather, just glad you’re all ok and that you didn’t lose any of Maddie’s precious things.
Big hugs.
.-= Sally´s last blog ..All babies are miracles, even the ones who aren’t =-.
LiteralDan says:
Wow, what an ordeal! And what luck you were able to so efficiently handle the effects of your neighbor’s idiocy.
Good luck with the cleanup/salvage efforts, and hopefully the insurance company doesn’t make it too much more of a pain than it is.
And good luck figuring out what to do with all Maddie’s things– I know what you mean about having trouble keeping track of anything while trying to keep track of everything, so I certainly sympathize even more with that dimension of the effort.
.-= LiteralDan´s last blog ..Classic quotes, Vol. 18 =-.
bessie.viola says:
Ugh. That really, really sucks, but a good lesson I guess. Hope that you find the solution that works best for you all.
.-= bessie.viola´s last blog ..grammy =-.
Kate in NZ says:
How lucky you were running late! And that your Mom was with you to help out. Although, maybe now those good pans will never get used for *anything*?! At least the firefighters know awesomeness when they meet it.
I really hope you can figure out a way to keep the things you need close at hand but safe as well. And I hope everything dries out ok.
.-= Kate in NZ´s last blog ..Or (d) none of the above =-.
Seraphim says:
what a crappy thing to happen. I am so glad you were able to stop it from being any worse than it was. I’m also sorry that it created so many questions for you. Can you tell Mike I loved his post and the only reason I haven’t commented is because I have no answer or suggestions at all. But I haven’t stopped thinking about what he wrote all day. It got me “right here.” (I am pointing to my heart)
xxxx
.-= Seraphim´s last blog ..Say it with Flowers =-.
amanda says:
I am sorry you had such a sucky night. I hope you are able to find a way to preserve Maddie’s things in a way that feels comfortable for you guys – and here’s hoping you don’t ever have a situation where you have to run out of the house with everything at once!
xo from CT,
Amanda
.-= amanda´s last blog ..ants in the pants =-.
Mary C says:
How scary! Glad it wasn’t a fire. Hope today goes a little better for you and the insurence company doesn’t give you to hard of a time.
Amanda says:
Oh my gosh – Heather! Like you guys need one MORE thing to worry about.
I can only offer one practical advice thing.
After Addison (look I can say his NAME now in a post rather than just my son!) passed I gathered up his blanket, clothes, his lovey, the few pics I had, you get the point and I got a fire safe ( yes, maybe a little overdone but nevertheless) and put those things in and its where they are today. For some reason knowing they were SAFE against everything was more calming for me than the saddness that they weren’t right at my hands any longer.
Anyay, just a suggestion along with a big hug and a shout at the sky of “YO! What’s up? Let’s give the chick here a break!! PLEASE???”
Joe @ Irrational Dad says:
If I was a fireman, and you offered me ice cream, I’d have brought a shovel too! I’m not sure I’d have brought my firefighter friends though. I bet one of them mentioned something about a hot chick who was practically falling out of her bra and ice cream, and all the others tagged along.
.-= Joe @ Irrational Dad´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday v. Too hard to turn =-.
Lynn from For Love or Funny says:
Oh, Heather, this is the last thing you guys needed now. I’m so sorry to hear that now, on top of everything else, you have to deal with insurance and water damage.
Not fun.
.-= Lynn from For Love or Funny´s last blog ..Take my diet. Please, TAKE it. =-.
MBKimmy says:
Oh my .. I often think what if we have a fire or a flood how would I get ALL my stuff … I can not even imagine the panic mode you were in to make sure nothing was harmed?! So glad it wasn’t a fire and that no HUGE damage was caused! Good luck with the insurance I will be praying for you!
.-= MBKimmy´s last blog ..I’m Praying … are YOU?! =-.
Middle-Aged-Woman says:
You need a plan, and something to carry stuff in. A tote bag by the door or something. You’d never forgive yourself if you lost some of those things…
.-= Middle-Aged-Woman´s last blog ..RTT: Encore! =-.
Kristen McD says:
Kudos to you on the quick thinking. And (((HUGS))) otherwise.
Alexandra says:
You SO didn’t deserve to have to deal with that. Especially not on a Tuesday. I worry about fires a lot, too, especially with a kid, puppy, bunny, ferret, frog, and two parakeets I would never be able to save all of if I were alone in the house. If it makes you feel better, why don’t you put some of Maddie’s things in an easy-to-reach spot so that in the unlikely event that your house DOES burn down you’ll still have some things (or ask someone to do it for you, if you can’t)?
Shannon Kieta says:
Wowww Heather, Binky was probably wondering what the HELL was going on? Do you think that was a sign from Maddie? I ALWAYS take these little turbulence’s as “sign’s” from above. Lately, I have been “talking” to my sister (you know, the one I lost in Jan.), everytime something wierd happens. I always ask her… Laurie, did you do this to give me a sign, girlfriend?? Maybe Maddie was trying to tell you, Hey Mama…put that stuff in safe keeping so it don’t get destroyed and start making room for Binky. He/She will be here before you know it! Luv Ya!~ SHannon
Amanda says:
written beautifully
moosh in indy. says:
Sucks that we have LEAKY WALLS AND CEILING FANS IN COMMON.
Why can’t we have millions of dollars and perfect boobs is common (okay so you totally have perfect boobs at the moment, but whatever THEIR DAYS ARE NUMBERED.)
.-= moosh in indy.´s last blog ..getting pregnant may not be an American right, but feeling better is. =-.
Deborah says:
Blargh. What a yucky night. Don’t you just love brown water? Ew. How fortunate that you were home when it happened!! Sometimes I think about what I would grab were I to have a fire or some other issue in my house. Maybe a fire-proof/water-proof safe would be a good idea for those of us who have mementos we couldn’t part with.
.-= Deborah´s last blog ..New Etsy Listings =-.
AmazingGreis says:
Oh sweetie, the flood in your apartment really SUCKS! Glad you were home to keep the damage to a minimum, but it still is one big crazy mess I’m sure. Good luck with the insurance and to a speedy clean up.
XOXO
.-= AmazingGreis´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday – The BlogHer ’09 Edition =-.
sherry pyle says:
Wow, stress just happens doesn’t it!!!
So glad you are ok.
The times in our lives that are the very worst days ever expected are so hard to go through.
I think about you every day and pray for strength and peace for you.
I know that your love for Maddie will endure forever.
Soo happy about the new baby!!!
I hope everyone does understand that no child could ever take anothers place!!
What is good is that each child creates its own place. With that you can always carry Maddie’s special ways with you always.Her new brother or sister will also learn to love her
Take care, many hearts go with you!!!.
Lorrin Wagner says:
I may be the only one who automatically goes this route, but make sure you contact the person who broke the sprinkler’s insurance company. Although your insurance may cover the loss, you may be able to get back your deductible through subrogation (a lawsuit from your insurance to their insurance). Try to call your agent before the insurance company directly so if a claim isn’t necessary they can tell you. Most likely the person who caused the problem will pay for everything and if not, the building’s insurance may cover it as it was outside of your condo’s “four walls”. Good luck!
Also, when my cousin passed away they did a beautiful shadow-box with pictures, a poem and her most-loved dolls/clothes. It was really beautiful and always made me think of her happiest times. It also preserves everything in such a beautiful way that will last for so much longer than if the clothes are just out.
Jen says:
Oh my god, what a boneheaded thing for your neighbor to do. I’m sorry.
.-= Jen´s last blog ..The good, and the not-so-good =-.
Megan says:
You should contact your Condo association or your neighbor to see if you can, at least, get your deductible back. The one good thing about having your insurance company pay for the repairs is that you can have professionals do things – like paint – that you would never want to do yourself! (At least I wouldn’t) What a crappy thing to happen to you. At least you were there to mitigate the damage some!
.-= Megan´s last blog ..The same? =-.
kristen says:
hi heather,
not much to add except to say that you are such a great writer! i totally related to the part about the inappropriate dress for the firemen – you described my evening outfit of choice!
as for your precious, priceless things of maddie’s…i’ll throw up a prayer to join the countless others that they shall always stay safe with you.
much love,
kristen
Jennifer says:
OMG–what an ordeal! I’m glad you were running late and that your mom was there to help. I hope it won’t be too much trouble to get the a/c, etc. fixed.
A crystal on a sprinkler!?!
.-= Jennifer´s last blog ..Things Suck Again =-.
Amber McN says:
You freaking rock woman! I would have been the girl screaming and running in circles. “WATER! WATER!”
.-= Amber McN´s last blog ..But do Bitches really get Stitches? =-.
Susan says:
I have backups of all the pictures of my son in a safe deposit box and I burn DVDs of recent family pictures and take them with me on trips as an off-site backup! Those I would be devastated to lose. Before a recent trip I had a minor panic attack about our house burning down and losing all of his things. Most of his things are in a cedar chest in our living room and some in the room he and my daughter shared. I had to let myself be OK with the thought so I could go on my trip, but I was hard. It is so hard to hold on to them, now that they are not with us.
Now, it has been 2 years today since he died and believe me, his things were not put in that chest right away. Only after my little one scribbled on one of his drawings did I realize I had to put his things away to protect them that I did it. Currently my mother-in-law is making a quilt of some of his clothes. These things were slow processes.
I am glad her things were safe today and you too, of course.
.-= Susan´s last blog ..Rachel =-.
Megan says:
Ugh, what a pain. I read this a day after reading a story about how my state (Virginia) is considering a law that would require all newly constructed homes to have sprinkler systems. Your experience is part of the reason why I think it’s an extremely bad idea. The first apartment that I lived in that was modern enough to have a sprinkler system, the alarms all went off one night. Turns out someone who lived one building over (they were all attached) had had a minor kitchen fire, which triggered the sprinkler system, and because the firefighters couldn’t find whatever code or something they needed to switch it off, it stayed on for about an hour. I remember standing my parking lot watching the residents (who were probably students) throw gallon after gallon of water off their balcony, thinking about how much damage they must’ve sustained and how devastating it would be to lose everything.
I’m sorry this happened to you guys, and what terrible timing. I’m glad, though, that it wasn’t worse and that Maddie’s things are all fine. I hope you can get your AC unit replaced quickly. Does this mean no AC until then? Ewww.
Rachel says:
Eww, that is so horrible! What kind of nit hangs stuff from fire sprinklers. When I lived in the dorm, I was always astonished when we made it a whole year without some twit hanging something from one. Glad nothing of Maddie’s was hurt.
And I lol’d when I read about your puke bowls strewn about the house.
Here’s to hoping everything gets cleaned up as fast as possible!
.-= Rachel´s last blog ..Got Milk? =-.
kristin says:
Heather, you are a FANTASTIC writer. Your blogs are the very first thing I read every single morning when I get to work.
On another note: I think you and I are pretty close to the same point in our pregnancy–I’m due Jan 24. I hope you’re feeling good–sorry you’re still dealing with the “morning” sickness.
leena says:
i have nothing really to sya today except that even though i have never met you- i like you a whole lot !!! and you are awesome!
Rachel says:
OY. What craziness! Best of luck getting this sorted out, Heather, and I hope your house is nice and dry by now!
So very glad nothing of Maddie’s was damaged, as well.
Dawn says:
I have been sorting my Dad’s stuff that is FILL.ING. my garage, ever since about the moment I walked back in the house from BH.
There are plenty of things that smell like dirt and must. But then there was a single box of clothes in the midst of the THIRTY years worth of OTHER clothes that smelled like my Dad. I sniffed and sniffed like an addict who found cocaine flavored shirts.
.-= Dawn´s last blog ..seventeen hundred dollar week =-.
angeline says:
Soooo sorry you had to deal with that! My goodness I hope someone talks some common sense into your neighbor! Thankfully nothing valuable was damaged!
Patty says:
Oh what a terrible day! I am happy for you that you were there though, I thought of all of this when you tweeted about it! I thought I so hope that nothing of Maddies was damaged! I know Tuesdays are awful for you, hopefully only better ones to come!!!
.-= Patty´s last blog ..Little Sweeties! =-.
Terri says:
I was holding my breath while reading that hoping none of Maddie’s things were ruined or damaged. I’m so glad nothing like that happened. I wouldn’t want to pack away or move anything either but you’re right in that it would be impossible to grab everything to get it out if you had to. Maybe if you can find some big purple containers with lids when you are ready you could put some things in there. At least they would be easily grabbed at a moment’s notice.
nic @mybottlesup says:
oy… can i selfishly say i’m kinda glad you had a distraction (though a pretty major one) from looking at the clock? can i say that please?
ok, that being said, i hope the water has evaporated miraculously and there was no serious damage done.
i would preserve the preciousness too…
.-= nic @mybottlesup´s last blog ..thoughts for the day… =-.
AMomTwoBoys says:
Sigh. Freaking Tuesday.
DJ suggests you call a disaster clean up company like ServPro. Especially if there was water in your walls, you don’t want mold to start growing. Ask them if there’s anything they can do about your HVAC system before you call an HVAC contractor.
.-= AMomTwoBoys´s last blog ..BlogHer: The Good, The Bad & The Ugly =-.
Alexandra says:
Oh,you are SO RIGHT!!! Last week, we had a housefire in our town (pop. 10,000) and the house burned to the ground. It was only 7 yrs old, and it began inside the dryer vent on the 2nd floor.
ANYWAY, the sad, sad thing is that this family had lost their oldest son (17 yrs old) to meningitis about 2 yrs ago.
You can shudder at the rest of this story: THEY LOST ALL MOMENTOS/MEMORIES OF HIM IN THIS FIRE!! EVERYTHING!!
The mom is inconsolable. Nothing was saved of her son, and she cannot get over this. Who cares about the house, it was her son’s things that are gone forever.
You’re so right: this is a great time to carefully place Maddies’ things somewhere safe.
Trisha says:
I am so glad you were running late, it could have been much worse.
I would take as many precautions as possible to preserve as much of Maddie’s memories in seal tight containers and ziploc bags as possible.
You mentioned water in the ceilings and walls, and with that will come moisture and mildew. You know how insurance companies can delay things. I just worry that with your heating/ac unit being toast, you have nothing to help draw the moisture out at the moment.
Living in Florida and surviving many hurricanes and tropical events, I tell you this from hard knock experience. My carpet and half my clothes were lost because of moisture I couldn’t see as well as precious news clippings of my belated father. Water is sneaky.
I would be so heart broken for you if you lost any of those Maddie cherishables.
(((HUGS))) from Deltona,Florida
amy d says:
What a hassle!!! But you’re right, it could have been worse had it been the unit directly above yours!
It’s funny your mom wouldn’t let you use the pans.
Glad everything is ok and Maddie’s things are still safe.
.-= amy d´s last blog ..Because Sometimes…Life Is Crap… =-.
MommyGeekology says:
That is a very difficult thing to contemplate, Heather. I can understand the desire to take everything – and the conflict you have about possibly losing everything because of it.
I’m not sure what you can do to ensure that your memories of Maddie are preserved and accessible to you at the same time… I hope that some of your friends and family have suggestions.
Keeping you, and Maddie, and Mike, in our prayers, always.
.-= MommyGeekology´s last blog ..Firm but Gentle =-.
Lisa says:
Oh that totally sucks. I used to work in insurance so if you have questions about things feel free to email me.
I’m not sure how you decide what to save and preserve since it is all so important. I don’t know what I would do.
Thinking about you.
.-= Lisa´s last blog ..Creative Tooth Fairy =-.
Sandy says:
It makes me so sad that you should have to deal with anything like this. There should be a protective bubble around you and Maddie’s things forever. You’ve had enough pain and loss to last a lifetime.
Hang in there. Many people are thinking of you and holding you and Maddie in their hearts.
.-= Sandy´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday–Joy =-.
Jamie says:
I’m glad there wasn’t much damage. That happened at our apartment once. Just in the bathroom. The people above us over ran their tub and the water ran in through the exhaust fan.
I think the fact that you hit on the things you mentioned says the most about what of Maddie’s is important to you. Maybe buy a few fireproof boxes for some of the rest?
.-= Jamie´s last blog ..Waiting is the hardest part =-.
Bellamomma says:
I’ve run into this once before with a claimant who has had several (major) sewer backups in her home. She lost her son several years ago & after the first backup she lost several precious items. She got a cedar chest on wheels (the kind that you put at the end of a bed for blankets) & put his favorite toys, animals, photo albums in there, anything that she wanted to keep of his. It’s on wheels & can be removed from the house quickly if need be, and everything is still there for her to touch and smell whenever she needs to. I know you are no where near ready to put anything of her’s away, but if/when that time comes – maybe having it close & easily moved would be an option.
But yes, many cleaning and restoration companies can clean those precious dolls and clothes with smoke/sewer/water damage if that need ever was to arise.
I’m so glad you didn’t loose anything of Maddie’s!!
.-= Bellamomma´s last blog ..I lost that round =-.
Lisa says:
I think most of the fire-proof safes you can buy are reasonably waterproof. If you kept one of those a bit off the ground with Maddie’s things in there, it would be accessible to you, and safe from fire, burglarly, many natural disasters and low-grade flooding.
It’s amazing how much comfort (and yet how little, sometimes) the treasures of our loved ones who have passed can bring.
Jenn says:
Well that was some distraction! I’m happy to hear non of your personal items, especially Maddie’s were not ruined. I agree, that would be heart breaking. I did enjoy seeing pictures of your block. I love it when people show where they live (especially with you since I have always wanted to go to LA).
I’m so happy your mom spends every Tuesday with you. I can imagine it would be difficult to go back to those last awful hours. It’s so nice you and your mom have such a loving relationship.
I must say before I end this….you have the BEST sense of humour!!! Even in times of extreme stress. You make me smile Heather….even during some of my darker days…you make me smile. I guess that’s why I keep coming back and why I am so very grateful I do!!!
WIshing you a wonderful day!
My Best,
Jenn
AnnD says:
I’m sorry that happened. Especially since it totally could have been prevented by someone using common sense. But, on the other hand, it could have been much worse too.
I don’t know about how to preserve those special things of Maddie’s….I’m sure you want them out to see them and cuddle them. I like the idea of the safe. Also, have you thought about taking photos of them? I know they wouldn’t replace the actual items if something happened to them but you are a fabulous photographer and those photos are something you might want anyway.
molly says:
So sorry you had to deal with such a stressful situation! With Maddie’s special clothes or outfits, perhaps you could get a quilt made…that way you could snuggle with it each night and God forbid you had another disaster in the house, you could grab the quilt! You could use her socks, clothes, pillow case, parts of her blankets, etc…
Sending you warm thoughts and hugs!!!!
Jess says:
I’m SOOO sorry you had to go thru this! I’ve had a similar experience… The people in the apartment above ours decided it was OK to leave their toilet running for hours and hours and hours, so it was hours and hours and hours of toilet water running down the walls, into our carpet, into our lives.. ew. I said screw it, i wasn’t going to deal with living below someone ever again, we moved immediately and i had some choice parting words for the idiots that lived above us… And about the things you would take with you in an emergency… We moved to Florida last year, and I have a plastic storage box with our stuff in it, the things I know I wouldn’t be able to find in a rush emergency evacuation because of a hurricane… So… As much as you don’t want to put things away, you may want to, as an insurance for yourself.
Much love.
Colleen says:
Oooooh, I love the photo idea. Take photos and make a cool collage, then you can pack the actual items away to safety. The quilt idea is genius as well. Maybe take a quilting class….Ha! Just kidding about that….although there might be one that meets on Tuesdays……Hope the damage will not be great and I hope dealing with the insurance company goes smoothly (but I doubt it).
Domestic Extraordinaire says:
this totally stinks. I hope that everything gets fixed quickly as you don’t need to be without air in LA in the summer. Glad that there wasn’t more damage done.
.-= Domestic Extraordinaire´s last blog ..Leaving the Bright Lights & Big City to Play Amish =-.
a fan says:
Maddie’s photos and videos are online so you couldn’t lose them.
Paula says:
I’ve read your blog for a while, but this is the first time I’ve felt like I have something meaningful to share… I also live in a condo and had a similar experience. I’m not sure if your condo is set up like mine, but any damage should be paid for by your condo association and/or condo association’s insurance. My association chose to repair the damage w/o going through insurance. Just as an FYI (I didn’t know this before it happened to me) you can file a claim against the association insurance policy even if they refuse to do so if they don’t cover everything (just like in a car accident when you’re not at fault). If you have to have furniture or anything like that dealt with you should probably go through the individual condo insurance policy of your lovely neighbor who caused the flood (same thing, you can file a claim against her policy). Anyway, good luck with all of this, I know its a pain… but I took it as an opportunity to get my entire condo re-painted and get new tile laid in my kitchen!
Michelle Pixie says:
Oh my, what a day! I am so glad that you were able to somewhat contain the water. I have to say I did laugh when you mentioned there where shovels. Shovels?! And don’t get me started on bras. How I long for the day where I can run out of my house and not worry about what if any support I have…Grrrr. Hopefully the repairs won’t cause too much of an uproar for you. But then again maybe your insurance will cover you going to stay at a spa while they are getting done…We can dream anyway!
.-= Michelle Pixie´s last blog ..I Met Him In A Convent =-.
Rita from the Chicago says:
I love that you used the phrase “breezy”…it reminds me of the Friends episode when Monica is being crazy and leaves a message for Richard and says, “I’m breezy…” and someone else says, “you can’t say you’re breezy…then that negates the breezy!”…anyway, it’s funny…hope you’re a Friends fan and it makes you smile, cause you telling about realizing what you were wearing made me smile!
More seriously, when my mother-in-law passed away two years ago, my father-in-law and sister-in-law picked out some of her favorite clothes and sent them to someone (I believe in Florida) who made three different quilts out of them, one big one for dad, and two baby blankets for my husband and I (and the baby we don’t yet have) and his sister and husband (and the baby they just had in March). My husband and I weren’t too sure about the idea…we thought it would look weird and really obvious, but the quilt is actually really subtle and nice. The person who does them does wash the clothes, so any smells are gone, but it’s a nice visual reminder of my husband’s mom.
Hang in there Heather!
Rita from the Chicago says:
PS If you want the name of the quilt person, let me know.
Lindsay from Florida says:
The powers-that-be (whoever those actually are) really aren’t giving you any break, Heather, are they?! I love your writing: it’s so tongue-in-cheek and somehow humorous even when describing a crisis. I send love and thoughts as you think about how best to preserve all the beautiful pieces of Maddie’s memory.
J says:
I’m sorry, but who in the WORLD hangs things from sprinklers? Really.
Glad you’re OK, hope repairs go well, I love your pink bowl, and I’m glad your mom was there to help.
.-= J´s last blog ..Mmm, spicy =-.
Glenda says:
Sorry you had to go through that. Luckily you were running late, and your mother was there to help! I’d definitely buy some storage boxes to preserve Maddie’s meaningful things. Sending you hugs! XX
Heidi says:
Can’t help myself, I’m a worry wart. MOLD! When you said in the walls it was the first thing that came to mind. That and the fact that I’ve watched way too many house flipping shows.
So glad you’re safe and Maddie’s things are too. Good luck with getting things back together. People can be sooo stupid.
.-= Heidi´s last blog ..Drowning in Bad Memories =-.
Erin says:
oh Heather, how annoying!!! Who does that!?!?! Ugh….i dont have any suggestions on how to preserve, i am sure you want them close to you but safe all at the same time. Maybe plastic bins? Keep the most treasured close to you so you can grab all at the same time? Oh, i dont know im so sorry i wish i had a better answer. Just happy you are alright, and that all of sweet Maddies things are ok.
.-= Erin´s last blog ..Sleep Tight =-.
Andrea's Sweet Life says:
I hope that decorative crystal was REALLY, REALLY NICE.
I’m so sorry this happened – on a Tuesday, no less. Love you EVERYday. xoxo
.-= Andrea’s Sweet Life´s last blog ..The Comfort Zone =-.
Darcy says:
A dear friend of mine passed away (I hate that term) as a result of a high speed chase. She was an innocent bystander. Her family put all of her special belongings in a beautiful glass box that was elevated on a large pedestal. They placed her urn, rings, personal items, ect. in it. I know it brought them peace to have her always with them physically and spiritually.
Emese says:
Oh the stupidity of people… I am sorry you had to deal with that especially on a Tuesday.
I love the quilt idea! Maybe take some of Maddie’s things, not all, but some, and make it into a quilt for Binky (in due time). That would be a great thing for Binky to have forever from his/her sister.
Taking pictures is also a great idea, maybe a collage of pictures of all her things and then put her actual stuff away in a plastic bin. They have those real flat ones that fit under your bed, so it’s close by.
Thinking of you all, everyday. ((((hugs))))
.-= Emese´s last blog ..Kinda Creepy =-.
Joleine says:
Yuck, that sounds awful.. Very glad you were there to help clean up the mess rather than come home to a very flooded place. I’m sure someone else may have mentioned this, but shouldn’t the neighbors homeowners insurance cover this so you don’t have to take the hit/pay a deductible? I’d ask your agent for sure!
Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] says:
Holy crap in a bottle, that sucks. But like you said, glad you were home!
.-= Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing]´s last blog ..Stuff I learned at BlogHer 09 about myself & more & stuff =-.
Sara Joy says:
Craptacular! Yuck, what a mess, but it really is a good thing you were there and not out for the day.
To be honest the same thought you had about Maddie’s things crossed my mind about Joel’s. Rob has a few of his things in our safe, but I would be a crazy person running all over trying to get the rest ***shudder*** I can’t stand the thought.
And seriously, who in the poo hangs things from a sprinker? Fo realz. Lame.
.-= Sara Joy´s last blog ..S-I-C-K =-.
Sandra says:
I’m glad you were home and able to do what you could. I had an apartment leak bad from rain while we were on our honeymoon. That was fun to come home to. Then 2 months after we moved into our first house the toilet flex hose in our hall bathroom ruptured and poured 1500 gallons of water into my house while we were at work. Water loves us too. =0)
There are lots of great ideas in the comments about how to store Maddie’s things. You’ll figure it out when you’re ready.
Hugs and good luck w/the insurance thing.
.-= Sandra´s last blog ..Save a Broken Heart =-.
Christina says:
Who says preggo ladies can’t move fast! Glad everything turned out the best way it could.
xoxo
.-= Christina´s last blog ..Christina B.C. *(before children) =-.
Beth says:
When my mom died, I put together a box of her things that I wanted to keep (her perfume, her robe etc). Someone recently mentioned this website to me: http://www.holdamemory.com. You can send in the clothes of a loved one and have it made into a “memory bear.” I am going to have one made for my son and my nephew.
Jenn says:
Crap! Just another thing to pile on a Tuesday. Sorry you had to deal with someone else’s stupidity. However…sooo glad that none of Maddie’s momento’s were harmed! Whew!
Much love, Jenn in CA
Creepy Mommy says:
When I saw your tweets last nigh, I immediately thought of Maddie’s things. I’m so glad nothing wa damaged and you still have those things that mean so much to you.
And since when do people attempt to decorate sprinklers?
.-= Creepy Mommy´s last blog ..BlogHer@Home, The Perfect Storm, anxiety and mah baby =-.
ali (adil320) says:
When my brother and his wife lost their little boy when he was 23 months old it took them along time to be ready to put his things away as well. 3 years later, some of them are still around.
In a similar situation, she became pregnant very soon after losing Drake. She ended up making a hope chest that she kept in her room, that had all the super special things in it. She also put things in there that reminded her of special stories of Drake, things to help her pass on his life to his little brother.
She also got a great deal of happiness out of seeing some of his things used again, and not being put away in a sad manner, but in a happy way when little Trace was done using them. Of course there were things that she didn’t pass on to her younger son, but much of it was.
I’m so glad that you didn’t lose anything important in this could-be-disaster, but I’m sorry you are faced with this reality of what to do now. Take your time, feel your way through..it something feels right, DO it. If it doesn’t, back off for a bit. This is about you and Mike and your families, so do what works for you.
I love you guys and I’m sending hugs your way.
xoxox ali
.-= ali (adil320)´s last blog ..I’m Going…For Me. =-.
Becky says:
i just sympathy barfed thinking of it.
.-= Becky´s last blog ..When “He’s My Father” Makes Everyone Feel Awkward =-.
Kristin says:
That is crazy! First, I’m sure you know this, but I just wanted to make sure… any damage to the sticks and bricks would be covered by your condo association’s insurance. Also, because the damage was caused by another unit, her insurance may be responsible for your damage and keep you from paying a deductible. I’m an asset manager and I have a few fractured condo deals, so unfortunately, I’ve dealt with similar things in units my clients own. Second, what a pain in the butt!!!!
.-= Kristin´s last blog ..Natural Taupe =-.
Kellee says:
Holy Hell I’m glad you were home a little later than you had planned. Sometimes those set backs ends up being the best of luck. I’m glad you’re all okay!
.-= Kellee´s last blog ..Itsy Bitsy Spider: Part 2 =-.
Karen says:
I’m pretty grossed out at the color of that water. I assume those are the same vents that the air you breathe comes from. I don’t ever want to know what our 30 year old vents look like.
That’s great that you were running late yesterday! Sometimes the best plans are those that don’t work out at all.
.-= Karen´s last blog ..Take that ‘Roids =-.
tara says:
oh, man. what a hassle. so sorry you had to deal with this! i saw the picture of binky on twitter…what a beautiful sight to see. always sending you hugs and more hugs. xo
melissa/bostonmama79 says:
i’m so glad nothing was damaged
I’ve had 4 floods in the past 6 years living in a townhouse /condo complex. it’s a nightmare. I feel for you .
Marian says:
OMG Heather!
Craziness!!!! You soooo didn’t need all of this drama!!! Just when your told to “hey be sure to take it easy”, the shit will surely hit the fan! I’ve had the experience of trying to pick the most meaningful things to take when evacuating for a hurricane. It’s hard and your words…”My need to preserve everything might have prevented my ability to preserve ANYTHING” really hit home. I had so much I wanted to keep to remember, but it was impossible to take it all. I closed my front door, said a prayer & turned and walked away in tears. When all was said and done..I had my babies urn, a drawing from my deceased brother & my fathers flag that was layed on his coffin. You quickly decide what you could never be without and let the rest go. But it’s much harder than it sounds. I was very, very lucky & blessed to have all of my things waiting for me when it was all over. I’m so glad things are not as bad as they could have been! Fire terrifies me!!!
Nicole in LV says:
I’ve been reading your blog for awhile – I found you via Matt Logelin’s blog – but this is the first time I’ve commented.
I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through this stupid ordeal, but am glad that there wasn’t a real fire and that you and your mom are ok.
As for Maddie’s things, have you thought about putting some of your favorite outfits/dolls in sealed shadow boxes? That way you can still look at them – better than just packing everything up in rubbermaid containers, you know? – but in the event of water or smoke in your home they won’t be damaged. Just a thought, it’s what my brother did to some of his wife’s things after she passed.
Again, I’m so sorry this happened, and sorry that now you’re super stressed/worried about the “what-if”s re; Maddies things.
Your family is in my prayers.
Cathy ~ Tadpoles and Teacups says:
I spent a while reading your blog today. I smiled and I wiped a tear or two. What a precious little girl, your Maddie.
Cathy
.-= Cathy ~ Tadpoles and Teacups´s last blog ..Time Out. . . =-.
amy h says:
Maddie must have known that something was going to happen and kept you at home long enough to save from a worse flood. A beautiful reminder that you have an angel looking out for you.
.-= amy h´s last blog ..This Post Is Probably Rated PG-13. Or Just Awkward. =-.
A Frugal Friend says:
I always think about what I’d grab. When I lost my mom unexpectedly 3 years ago, I never really preserved anything …still. I have stuff in every room of the house. Not good……..the fire dept came out not too long ago (not a fire) and I thought about what I would grab. I have too much stuff that means the world to me. Things of my mom’s I want to hand down. The hat she wore during chemo treatments.
I think I at least need to move them all together. I’ve put a few things in our fire-proof box. That might be a good place to start. Grab a fire proof box and put a few things in it……not the things you need to see and hold each day, but one or two things that would be safe “just in case”.
A big hug sent your way AND headache medicine to deal with the insurance claim!
.-= A Frugal Friend ´s last blog ..Amazon Magazine Deals Expiring Friday =-.
Ginny says:
This is my first time to post something, although we’ve communicated via email before. You must definitely start thinking about putting stuff away, especially those of Maddie. My brother is a fire safety engineer, and I cannot tell you the stories I hear that are the worse…. It’s either loss from a fire or water damage (namely sprinkler systems that are now installed in homes and sometimes flood homes). Who cares about furniture, clothes, etc—it’s the pictures, mementos, etc. that can never be replaced. So yes…you definitely want to take the next step and start putting things away in a safe place.
And damn those people upstairs! It irritates the hell out of me when they do not READ that you don’t use fire sprinklers as a hanger rod. Idiots. And give Rigby some love for me… poor thing!
Congrats on the baby! I’m very excited for you, and I just know that Maddie IS beside herself that she gets to have a baby brother or sister to watch over!
Hugs to you!
Barb says:
The only advice I have is with pictures, I have put them on CDs and put them in a fire safe box. I don’t know what it is, I’m not big on keeping objects but I can’t stand not having pictures. I did this with my wedding pictures and all my daugher’s preemie pictures but now I have included all the pictures I have for the last 4 years because I’m terrified something will happen and they mean so much to me.
I can only imagine how poor Rigby was feeling because dog’s ears are so much more sensitive then ours. I’m glad everything worked out yesterday.
.-= Barb´s last blog ..Fair 2009 =-.
Lisa says:
I am just going to echo everyone else. Definitely look into some fireboxes. Make sure you have a backup somewhere other than your house of her videos and pictures.
Having lived in a condo myself in the past, the association is liable for the drywall out. And like others said, either you can (or your insurance will) go after the lady who started this all.
.-= Lisa´s last blog ..BlogHer ‘09 Recap & My Thoughts On The PR Blackout =-.
Midwest Mommy says:
Oh no!
.-= Midwest Mommy´s last blog ..Thoughts =-.
JAR says:
The backup plan, such as storing a few things at your parents house, seems like a great idea.
What a mess! I’m glad nothing of Maddie’s was lost.
.-= JAR´s last blog ..A Different Kind of Romance =-.
lisa wood says:
Gosh so glad none of Maddie’s gorgeous memories was damaged.
I like the idea that was suggested of a purple box with a lid to store your most precious Maddie’s items so that they can be taken easily to be kept safe. Maybe taking photos of everything and keeping photos at your Mums house?
So good to hear that you were ok and that you, your Mum and blinky were fine.
Take care…looking forward to hearing how your baby to be is going.
Keep that gorgeous smile…..at least you will always have your Maddie memories…no one can take how beautiful she was.
Sending my life to you, Mike, baby number 2 and your family
Lisa
.-= lisa wood´s last blog ..Bindi Irwin Birthday At Australia Zoo =-.
Krista says:
Congratulations on your pregnancy! I’m glad to hear you are being so closely monitored, and I wish you all the best. A friend’s sister was diagnosed with a different clotting disorder after a miscarriage, and she took lovenox throughout her pregnancy and delivered a beautiful, healthy baby. My fingers are crossed for you and Binky to have a good outcome as well. Binky will be lucky to have such parents as you and Mike. I can’t imagine how complex your emotions are right now — such joy in a time of such grief. I hope it is some comfort that you have so many people out there sending you loving vibes and good wishes.
Alison says:
I’m so glad you, your mom, and Maddie’s precious things are OK. Poor Rigby! That sound is not pleasant for OUR ears, and dog hearing… Dang.
I think when the time comes and you’re ready, making a plan for Maddie’s stuff in case of emergency is a fantastic idea. Whatever works for you and Mike.
xoxo
.-= Alison´s last blog ..Gred and Forge =-.
Haley says:
Wow. That is a whole lot to handle.
I’m glad you are ok and that Maddie’s things are too.
Sorry to hear about A/C though.
.-= Haley´s last blog ..Sleep Wars Episode 1: Battle for Return of the Crib =-.
Marti from Michigan says:
I’m sorry you had to go through this Heather! You guys have had enough stress to last a lifetime, now this.
I hope you don’t have trouble with your insurance company, sounds like it was another neighbor’s fault. I believe her insurance should pay for everyone’s damage, but I’m not real sure how that would work. Maybe your insurance company will get reimbursed from her insurance company.
Maybe you can stay with your mom for awhile until the condo dries out. I pray there will be no mold behind the walls either!
Tiff says:
Heather,
I thought I was the only one who ziplocked clothing! That was the first thing I did after my Ethan passed away. I wanted to do my very best to preserve his scent. My family members probably thought I was a lunatic, but I didn’t care. As you know, scent memory is the strongest memory there is. Those gallon bags did the job well. It’s been one year and I can STILL smell his sweet baby scent.
Thank you for sharing such a simple, yet meaningful thing. Made me feel so much better for the “craziness” I was exhibiting when my own child left this world.
Wishing you the best, always.
.-= Tiff´s last blog ..Clay… =-.
Amy says:
Heather,
I’ve been reading your blog for a while- found it through Matt’s… What an incredibly strong woman you are. I just wanted to comment on the migraine thing because I went through something very similar with my second pregnancy- got HORRIBLE migraines. My neurologist actually suggested Topamax- you take it daily to prevent them. It’s a class C drug… My neurologist said he had treated many pregnant women with it and seen no side effects other than tingling in your feet and it may make carbonated beverages taste funny. But for me, I had a toddler and was pregnant with twins and having these horrible migraines daily, so I had to try it. Anyways- I was on the lowest dose possible, and it made them completely go away. I only had the side effects that he mentioned, no problem whatsoever with the babies. So anyways- if you haven’t tried it- maybe ask your Dr about it. I never had another headache the rest of my pregnancy.
Maria Delgado says:
I am so glad that you didn’t have to deal with anything being destroyed.
*Maria E. Delgado*