When I was in fifth grade, I was the second-tallest girl in my class. I stood at a staggering five foot three inches, and I was taller than most of the boys – even my twin brother. My physical development is the very definition of peaking early. The only thing that’s changed since then is my weight and bra size (THANK GOD!). If you look at the growth chart penciled on my parents’ pantry door, you’ll notice that I grew a LOT in a short amount of time – about five inches in six months. In hindsight, someone should have seen the most embarrassing day of my life coming. MOM I’m looking at you.
I was hugely into the fashions and trends of the time. I was heavily influenced by 80’s pop singers, with Debbie Gibson at the top of my list. I had a favorite outfit of stonewashed jeans (with perfectly placed knee holes), a black and white striped shirt, and keds with no socks. It looked a lot like this, actually:
I felt like I was the coolest girl in school in this outfit. I probably wore it once a week.
The most embarrassing day of my life started innocently enough. I rode my scooter to school (SHUT IT), and of course, I was rocking my favorite outfit. Halfway through our handwriting lesson, my stomach really started to hurt, but I ignored it as my teacher totally looked down on students going to the nurse (she was one of those teachers). I practiced my penmanship and started feeling a little sweaty from the ache in my stomach. When the class put away our wide-ruled notebooks and dove into our desks for our math books, I pushed back in my chair to peer into my desk…and slid around in it. Perplexed, I looked at the chair between my legs, and gasped.
I had totally gotten my first period, and it had soaked through my practically white stonewashed jeans.
I didn’t know what to do. I couldn’t get up to tell the teacher – the whole class would see my pants. Then I had a flash of inspiration. I carefully tied my jean jacket around my waist, and then I buttoned it up in the front. I then fished into my sack lunch for my napkin and wiped up the seat. I tried to do all this as covertly as possible. The second the teacher turned us loose to work on our own, I ran to her and whispered in her ear, “IthinkIgotmyperiodIneedtogotothenurseRIGHTNOW!” Her eyes widened and she looked at me and said, “Already? Wow, early bloomer!” I was mortified.
I arrived at the nurse’s office hoping for compassion. She took pity on me, even shushing a sixth grade boy who snickered when he heard the nurse repeat the “ailment” written on my hall pass. The nurse realized I needed to go home and change, so she called my house. No answer. She then called my emergency contact. No answer. I started to panic, and begged the nurse to just let me go home and change, since I only lived two blocks away. Then she reached my emergency emergency contact – a neighbor and friend of my mom’s, and the mother of a girl in my class. I was too relieved to care.
She arrived to get me about ten minutes after she was called – ten minutes that felt like ten hours. I climbed into the back of her station wagon, and noticed there was newspaper all over the back. I went to move them and she said, “oh, just go ahead and sit on them!” Like I was an unhousebroken puppy! Then she said, “Oh my goodness! Your period! At ten years old! You’re way too young! I’ve never heard of a girl getting her period at your age! WOW! That’s…almost freaky!” I wanted to die.
When we got to my driveway, I ran into the house ahead of her and sprinted up the stairs to my room. I couldn’t imagine going back to school – everyone would want to know where I’d gone, why I’d changed clothes. Everyone would probably think I’d peed my pants. I couldn’t have that! Plus, my stomach was REALLY hurting. Then my mom’s friend burst into my room, shouting, “WHERE DOES YOUR MOM KEEP HER MAXI PADS?! I’LL SHOW YOU HOW TO USE THEM!” She pulled me into the bathroom…and then I threw up.
I didn’t have to go back to school that day.
I tried to get out of school the next day, but my parents wouldn’t have it. When I walked onto the playground, I noticed that the daughter of my mom’s friend was surrounded in a circle of other girls from my class. If I’d known the F word then, I’m sure I would have thought it to myself. Instead, I took a deep breath and marched up to the pack of girls (I had a lot of guts back then). Just like in a movie, the conversation stopped dead the second I pulled up to the circle. One of the other girls started talking about something else, but I knew they knew. None of them would look me in the eye. For the rest of the school year, my arrival to any group was met with awkward silence, and my departure was celebrated with giggled whispers. I put on a tough face during school, but I cried a lot at night.
That was the last time I ever wore my favorite outfit.
When I was in high school, I was at a sleepover playing Truth or Dare, and I was dared to tell my most embarrassing moment. I told this one and one of the girls at the party said, “oh yeah, I remember that. The whole class talked about you for MONTHS! At first we made fun of you…but then we were kind of in awe.” If only I’d known that then.
What’s your most embarrassing moment?
Backpacking Dad says:
Hmmm….
Imagine: me, at six years old. Moved to a new town, out in the country, away from the army base that was the only home I knew. Going to a new school. Winter all around (this was Canada, so winter means something), and a growth spurt.
None of my underwear fit, that winter morning. So, as I had done on occasions prior, I went commando. We were a little rushed getting to the bus, so I hurriedly grabbed a pair of grey courduroy pants from the drawer, slipped them on and ran for the bus.
I took long strides, with my newly lengthened legs in my old pants.
I reached the bus, sat in a seat, and as the bus pulled away from my house I noticed the tear in the inseam of my pants.
Not a little tear. A huge, junk falling out all over the place kind of tear.
I covered it as best I could on the bus ride, and somehow made it into class with no one noticing. I sat in class until recess, still, quiet.
And at recess I went outside with everyone else, and nearly froze my balls off huddling in a corner out of the wind and out of eyesight while the other kids threw snowballs at each other.
Made it back inside after recess, repeated the drill during class, and during the lunch recess, and I thought I was going to make it.
But I forgot about gym class. They were going to make me run around with everyone else, and my boys were doing to dangle everywhere and I’d forever be known as the penis kid.
So, as we were being ushered to the gym I begged off, told the teacher I couldn’t go to gym, and when she asked why I pointed at my pants.
My teacher was not as understanding as yours. I did not receive an assistance call home for more clothes. I received a special place on the stage in our gym, where EVERYONE could see that I wasn’t participating, but that I WAS on a very tall chair with my legs crossed for an hour, shifting around uncomfortably.
Eventually the day ended. But I will never wear courdoroys ever again. That’s a 25 year trauma, that is.
Also, I had a sweater vest that said “Hello” in huge stitching across the front. I’m not sure if I was wearing it that day, but it’s possible.
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hawkfeather says:
wow- I should lurk more often i am finding blogging GOLD tonite.
I can’t think of any childhood trauma humiliation-
-but-
I was recently grabbed by security guards at a large- up scale store accused of an illegal activity..seriously… ( they had also already called the police)
the security guards were awful- yelling and calling me out in front of everyone, accusing me of everything under the sun.. it wasn’t until the police arrived and cleared that i had done nothing that I was *allowed* to leave..the police apologized and let me know as they walked out with me 9still embarrassing) that the security guards wanted me to know I was still welcome to shop at their store.
it was humiliating AND painful.. it still makes me nauseous to think about it actually.
i felt like a teen ager again.. but even than i never had it like this. Sure I have tattoos and stuff.. but I also have five kids and a wonderful life.. and did nothing to deserve the treatment i got.. t’was terrible.
but I am happily realizing that comparatively- in no way did my experience involve my bathing suit area.. yay that.
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Anna Marie says:
So many to choose from! But here is one that really sticks out – my brother and I were enrolled in Catholic school, one with a dress code but no actual uniform. Girls were allowed to wear skirts or dresses, or pants with jackets.
My 6th grade year was the year that culottes came back in fashion. Gah, just thinking about it makes me laugh. Culottes, for Gods Sake! For those of you a little hazy on the details, culottes were a weird sort of hybrid between a skirt and bermuda shorts – loose cut shorts that came to the knees that could be dressed up like a skirt. *sigh* sad that I know so much about them.
So, being the weird mutant fashion that they were, there were no clear, hard rules on wearing them to school. Some girls said you had to wear a jacket because they were like pants. Others said they were like a skirt so no jacket required. And we definitely didn’t want to consult a TEACHER to find out…except, here is where things go so wrong for me. My mom taught there – she was a kindergarten teacher and was a student favorite because she would hand out the little kids’ snacks to my friends when they dropped by her room.
I asked her if I had to wear a jacket, which would TOTALLY ruin my look, and she said no. Not necessary. And I believed her.
The next day I went to school rockin’ my sage green culottes, white shirt, navy blue knee socks and penny loafers. I accessorized with the uberpopular add-a-bead necklace and some tasteful gold earrings. I looked fabulous. I felt fabulous!
Yup, right up until my English teacher called on me and made me stand up in front of the class to ask me why I didn’t have on a jacket. I stuttered around and started to get teary. She sent me to the headmaster’s office with the words “Your mother teaches here. She should know better!” ringing in my ears.
It was horrible – not only had I been called down, but my mother had too. I’m pretty sure the two had words about it, but my mom would never tell me.
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Maria says:
I’m just now developing social skills.
In sixth grade, I picked boogers. And ate them. In class.
YEAH, I SAID IT.
Most embarrassing memory is heading down the stairwell at the huge crowded middle school I went to and half-listening to a song a bunch of kids were singing until I realized it was about me. Eating boogers.
I can totally still remember all the words and the tune.
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Black Hockey Jesus says:
Home from college. Wacking off in bed. Starts to rain. Mom roams the house like a ghost closing windows.
If it’s not creepy enough that I’m wacking off and don’t know my mom is actually at the foot of my bed trying to get to my window, CUE THE 4 SECOND LIGHTNING FLASH THAT LIGHTS THE ROOM LIKE A HITCHCOCK MOVIE.
The best part about this comment is that my mom loves the Spohr blogs.
Hi Mom. Thanks for acting like nothing happened for the last 16 years.
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Christy says:
Oh My God Heather! The same exact thing happened to me! I’m not even kidding–5th grade, 10 years old, nurses office, the whole thing (except we were poor, didn’t have a phone, and my mother was probably passed out on the couch at home or drunk, or something.) I was mortified! And I have to tell you, after finding out that I was having a girl each time I was pregnant, one of the first thoughts that went through my head was, ‘please don’t let them get their periods at 10 years old, AT SCHOOL, and have to walk all the way to the nurse’s office!
RockyCat says:
I can’t believe that I’m actually going to admit this, but ……… I once peed my pants in the bathroom (all the stalls were taken, and I just ….. couldn’t…. hold it anymore) in junior high. Sheesh. Thanks for letting me re-experience the trauma.
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Andrea says:
I totally got my first period in the 5th grade – 10 years old and in school.
Nowhere close to yours on the mortification table though..
I have 2:
1. 7th grade and I was totally rocking the Debbie Gibson look hat and all on the first day of junior high (which was located in the same building as the high school). I had to venture into high school territory for band and don’t I pick that time to fall down a flight of stairs! In front of senior boys and I lost my hat!
2. Freshman year and I was soooo cool and eating lunch with a bunch of seniors in the very special “senior section” of the cafeteria – how cool! And I choked on my freaking grilled cheese – like needed to heimlich from a teacher choked. yeah, and people wonder why I don’t go to reunions….
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Anissa @ Hope4Peyton says:
Oh, wow, can I tell you that my most embarrassing moment wasn’t as a child, but as an adult…and then sent by email to the rest of the people i know and love, accompanied by a Fergie-ish photo. So why not share it with the rest of the known Internet world as well.
Take this as a WORD OF CAUTION.
Do not drink 5 HUGE alcoholic beverages then wait in line for 2 hours at Halloween Horror Nights for a 2 minute ride. Do not forget how badly you have to pee…..and then get jerked back and forth for that FULL 2 minutes. At least be the first person to realize you’ve peed in your pants during the jarring shakarama that is the Mummy Ride at Universal Studios. And make sure you threaten to maim and torture anyone who sends out those camera phone pictures of your wet ass!
*siiign* I must get better friends
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Jennifer says:
OMG–you poor baby! I feel your pain.
My embarrassing moments are many–so hard to choose one. But a lot of them involve bad morning sickness and lots of throwing up and sometimes throwing up/peeing in pants at the same time. Oh, and once I passed out in a bathroom stall.
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Rock and Roll Mama says:
Jennifer took my throwing up and peeing pants simultaneously one (I feel your pain, sister) so I’ll share my adolescent angst one.
I went to a bad kid drug school my sophomore year of high school. Alternative, they called it. There were about 30 of us, and they took us on outdoor stuff all the time, cause we were so spastic. None of us were supposed to date each other, or we got put on 10 foot restrictions. (As in, stay 10 ft away from each other.)
So on one memorable outward bound Chesapeake Bay trip, I got lucky with a boy in a sleeping bag. (or allowed myself to be used, as I had no self-worth, you pick.) I was not alone in this…two other girls got in big trouble on this outing.
So he told all his boys, and we got confronted in “Big Group” back at school. To complicate things, I actually liked this boy.
So in big group, he starts crying. When the teacher asks him what’s wrong, he chokes out, “I can’t believe I did this to her.” I’m thinking, “Ohhh, he cares that I’m about to be expelled, how nice.” But no.
“Who?” she prods.
“Ashley,” he says miserably, and puts his face in his hands. SO there I am, totally dumbfounded and used and humiliated in front of a full jury of my peers, by someone who had a girlfriend. AND she was 21 and really hot and nice. I wish I could say I learned from this and say I did better all the days of my teenager hood. Sigh.
And now I have a girl! She will be in a nunnery.
ali says:
you were taller in fifth grade than i am now…hahaha.
now THAT’S embarrassing
embarrassing things happen to me ALL the time…seriously. i once peed in a mcdonald’s coffee cup at the canadian/us border while my kids laughed and giggled and the men driving behind me got the fullAli assview. i once stuck my ass through the back of someone’s chair…i made an ass of myself while giving a speech at my sister’s wedding…it never ends with me.
Jennifer, Playgroups are no place for children says:
Oh that is SO SAD and so wrong! That nurse and that mom should be ashamed of themselves.
What an awkward age for all of us. Not looking forward to reliving it with my daughter.
My most embarrassing moment was waking myself up during a boring lecture in college by….FARTING ON A VERY ECHO-Y CHAIR.
I’m still mortified.
Danielle says:
holy shit, Heather! That sucks!!
I’ll think and be back…
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Nanette says:
Oh, you poor thing!!!!
This may just inspire an entire post about my most embarrassing moment, but I’ll give you the short version now.
Jr. high band class…got my finger stuck in the valves of my French horn. My fellow French horn players were laughing too hard to help me. So I had to go up in front of the entire class and ask the instructor, who was a bit hard of hearing, to help me. He repeatedly loudly, “WHAT?!?!? YOU GOT YOUR FINGER CAUGHT IN YOUR FRENCH HORN???” Of course, I was mortified as the class burst into laughter.
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cindy w says:
I do have a bunch from junior high & high school, but I think one of the most embarassing ones was more recent. I had gastric bypass surgery about 6 years ago (lost 100 pounds, go me), and for the first several months after the surgery, I had some… er… interesting intestinal pyrotechnics. And my farts (which were frequent) smelled like death.
My job at the time was as sort of a traveling helpdesk type. IT support for small companies that couldn’t afford a full-time IT person on staff. So I go to one of our client’s sites, and I really had to use the restroom. Urgently. It was one of those businesses in a converted house, so the bathroom was literally a bathroom. No stalls or anything like that, opens directly onto what used to be the living room and is now where a bunch of cubicles are.
So I did my business, but I saw that they had some Lysol in there, so I sprayed the hell out of that bathroom, left the fan on, and pulled the door closed as much as possible behind me (I didn’t want to shut it all the way, of course; don’t want other people to think that someone is in there so they can’t use it, right?). Then I get back to work – there was a girl in the office who was having computer issues, and I sat at her desk and started to work on it. She hadn’t closed Outlook, and all of a sudden she had an email pop up from a coworker, “oh my god, I’m dying! We need more air freshener! Open all the windows!”
Yeah. My face still gets red just thinking about it. Sadly, that is not the only time something like that happened when I was recently post-op. Gah. (And I don’t think I’ve ever admitted that story out loud, so you should feel VERY special.)
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sam says:
Oh Heather, I had a similar moment. I was wearing like coloured leggings and a long sweatshirt one day when IT came. I made my mom come get me and – THANKFULLY no one knew about it though…
I used to suck my thumb – until I was 12. In. School. Nuff said.
CaraBee says:
Truly, there are so many embarrassing moments in my repertoire. Here’s a gem from college: I lived in an all girls dorm that had a communal bathroom on each floor that included a row of stalls. Now, I’m a very private pooper, so this scenario is like water torture but what can I do? One day as I’m finishing up my business, I hear a girl come in to the bathroom. I can hear her as she moves down the row of stalls. As she passes mine, she yells, YELLS, “OH MY GOD, IT SMELLS LIKE SHIT IN HERE!” Well what could I do, hide out in there forever? So I pulled up my pants and walked out to a small crowd of girls from my floor. All staring at me. For the next month and fairly regularly until we moved out at the end of the school year, conversations would stop when I walked by and giggles would erupt after I turned around. The word mortified doesn’t really do justice to how I felt.
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Cat says:
How cathartic! OK, I’ll bite. My most embarrassing moment was in adulthood. In graduate school. I taught aerobics at the University in the student rec-fitness program, so nearly all my participants were perky perfect undergrad co-eds. I wasn’t much older, just 2-3 years, but I taught some of them outside the gym for regular academic classes, so I had an air of grown-upedness.
One morning I was teaching an advanced step class, and it was laundry day so I wore an old pair of red plaid spandex shorts (it was 1997, shut up) to teach that day. Everything was great, the class was pumped, the music was hot, we all got very sweaty. At the end of class, we went though the usual hamstring, quad, gluteal and adductor stretches, in front of full-length mirrors, of course.
After class, one student, I’ll never forget her– she was a 30-something nontraditional student from India– pulled me aside to tell me that I should consider throwing away that pair of shorts. I had taught the entire class with a BIG hole. Right there. And yeah, I really needed a wax at the time. It was like something from a truck stop motel.
I learned to check my gussets and inseams REAL carefully after that.
Z says:
So, my initial getting my period story is pretty much the same as yours, except I was wearing black jeans and it happened at the end of the day, so I just crawled onto the bus home and then agonized over telling my mother (I tried to tell her I “was sick” at first because I was so embarrassed). Oh, and I was 12, not 10.
So, due to the lateness of the day and the darker color of my jeans, I don’t have you beat yet. However (!!!), the horrifying part comes because I was a gymnast. I had practice that night. Which I got out of, after my mom figured out what I meant when I said I “was sick” … But the next day? Um, no respite. Also? I *thought* I knew how to use a tampon, but what 12 year old girl really does? Not me, apparently.
So: gymnastics. leotard. first period. tampon.
As you might have guessed, it fell out. YUCK. Not on the floor or anything, but I *did* have a nice bloody stain on my leotard that my male coach was the first to notice (as I was practicing a move that he was spotting that essentially had me flipping upside down in a split, so my crotch was right there near his face…)
Remember, 12 years old. Embarrassing much? Yes. Actually, I think that still would be today. I cringe remembering…
And then? Then the MALE coach yells across the entire gym – “Hey! Girls! Z had an accident, anyone have a pair of spare shorts she can borrow?”
Yes. Really.
Someone did, and I borrowed them (and they were black) and got another tampon (inserted correctly this time)… And had to finish the remaining 2-3 hours of practice. I think I was blushing the entire rest of the night. And the next night. And the next… And for *quite* awhile afterwards, until another girl had an even more embarrassing accident (her pad – and no, I don’t know why she was using a pad and a leotard – fell out on the floor, during a meet, in the corner at which her boyfriend was sitting and cheering her on. Oh, yes. Really)
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Kela says:
My most embarrassing moment is also a “First Period” story. It began the summer after 5th grade. I was at sleep away camp for 2 weeks and it was maybe the second or third day and several friends and I were having ‘chicken fights’ in the lake. (Chicken fights are where you have two person teams with one riding on the others shoulders and you try to knock the other people off the shoulders) I had just unseated my best friend and was climbing off the shoulders of this guy I had a little crush on (he was a little older – about to start 7th grade) and everyone noticed red stuff running down his back. He freaked out and I had no idea what was happening because I had no cramps or any other sign. We both rushed to the nurse and after examining both of us she said “Oh, you just got the curse dear” Having never heard this phase describing it before I thought that she was referring to something else and that I was going to die or something. I ran back to my cabin and stayed there for 2 days and then convinced my parents to pick me up early.
All I have to say is, I was so glad I went to a different school than all the people I met at camp
good&crazy says:
Oh geez. You win. I’m not even going to add to it.
Tara says:
OK Heather, I just have to say that I never knew any of that stuff was going on. Who were those mean girls anyway? Well, I know one of them…
holli says:
I wouldn’t put mine in print. I’ll just say nobody told me what a period was and I fainted dead away at the country club because I thought I was dying.
btw – that outfit doesn’t hold a candle to my cyndi lauper, giant hair, men’s necktie with women’s clothes and chucks phase. (that isn’t the embarrassing moment though.. I think that moment could put me in jail).
I hate mean girls. I pray we are equipped to help our girls deal with them when the time comes. Perhaps we should start them in baby/toddler tae kwan do
Jenna BHJ says:
This totally happened top me too, complete with stomachache, and new white izod shorts that I thought were the coolest shorts ever. I was in 6th grade art class. The bell rang, didn’t know why my stomache hurt, stood up to change classes and a boy named Mark Jackson said: “hey, you sat in red paint… hey that’s not paint…OH GROSS”.. I hid in the bathroom until the bell rang to go home than ran to the bus with my backpack tied around my waist (which looked a bit odd). Couldn’t look at Mark until mid high school when I was too punk to care about blood (yeah right). Humiliatind. And now I am married to a man with a way worse story than mine.
Amy says:
No embarassing period story for me but here’s mine:
In 6th grade the whole class went to overnight camp during the school year. I think it last 3-4 days. We went with another school, so in our cabin was 3 or 4 of us from each school. One night, we’d all gone to bed, but no one was sleeping. I started to feel very sick. I went into the bathroom to go potty. I stood up, pants half down still, to turn around and throw up in the toilet. Suddenly, a girl from the other school opens the bathroom door, sees me standing up and yells out “OH MY GOD SHE’S REALLY A BOY IT STANDS UP TO PEE”
It took me a LONG time to come out of the bathroom, I waited until they all fell asleep……it was hours. I am not sure I have ever spoken that outloud or not!!!
Aunt Becky says:
Oh sister, I cannot even begin to tell you. I’ve had so many.
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Rachel says:
I was a freshman in high school, talking to a “totally hunky junior” on the steps after school. I had hayfever or something because I kept rubbing my nose. I knew all my freshman friends were jealous because most of them had huge crushes on this guy. I was very nervous but playing it cool, of course. Then my best friend appeared behind the guy with her eyes wide open and frantically rubbing her nose. I took her cue and rubbed my nose to find the biggest booger I have ever seen. To say I was mortified is an understatement. Shockingly, the guy still hung around me for the rest of the year.
moosh in indy. says:
Same thing, but in high school, and it wasn’t my first period. Left a fargin’ puddle on the chair in class. The end. No more talkie.
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Kim says:
This makes me almost cry. Seriously. HOW SAD. Kids can be SO mean. I was an early bloomer too. Periods suck butt. Loved reading your story..and love the photo you chose to go along with it. CLASSIC.
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dana says:
O.M.Gosh! To all these stories! I almost peed myself trying not to laugh out loud at Backpacking Dad’s story. Twice. Why? Because I’m reading this at work and shouldn’t be.
I embarass easily. A moment that immediately came to mind isn’t really that exciting. Grade 12 Government class. I had just moved to the US, new town, new high school. We were doing our legal system unit and were going to roleplay a murder mystery and then enact a court session. A real lawyer was going to come in as judge. I’m quiet and shy yet decided to get myself and my mystery-solving skills out there. I volunteered to be prosecutor. I was vaporized by the defense who put ME on trial instead of the suspect. I was mortified and had the hardest time keeping myself from crying. Thank goodness the year was almost over. That shut me up for years.
I’m embarassed about pretty much everything I look back on.