Thank you all so much for the abundance of love you’ve shown my family since James was born. We’ve received so many wonderful messages, we are a lucky family.
As Mike mentioned, my recovery has been very slow. It has really knocked me for a loop. This was my third c-section, and I felt completely prepared for what happens post-surgery. I did so well after Annabel’s c-section that I was discharged less than forty-eight hours after her birth, and I felt pretty damn good, too. I was expecting a similar recovery this time, but that wasn’t taking my new drug allergy or heart episode into consideration.
The heart thing is scary in hindsight. At the time, I was confused and mostly worried about James. I remember laying back on the operating table and chatting with the anesthesiologists, and then I told them I felt dizzy. I saw my heart rate on the monitor hit 167, and then I felt an intense pressure in my chest and watched my heart rate drop to 40. I remember telling someone I felt like I was going to be sick, and a vomit bag appeared next to my head. As I dry heaved, I saw the nurses searching for James’ heart beat. After that, I don’t remember much. Someone told me to close my eyes, and I thought that maybe they were putting me under general anesthesia. When I opened my eyes, Mike was there, and not long after that, James was out.
I really only remember bits and pieces of the first day and a half after James was born, which is kind of a bummer. Although Mike tells me I was in a lot of pain, so maybe it’s better that way!! I’m glad that Mike, my mom, and my cousin took lots of pictures and video of those hours because they help fill my memory gaps. The doctors and nurses spent the majority of my hospitalization figuring out a good pain management program that didn’t involve any NSAID drugs – much easier said than done, thanks to some unfavorable reactions to a couple of the different narcotics that were tried. And, the whole thing made Mike and me very, very certain that we are 100% done having kids. Every doctor that came to my room inevitably said, “So um…are you planning on doing this again?” And when we’d say NO the doctor always looked relieved and said, “Oh good.”
My family has been amazing while I’ve been recovering. My mom stayed with us for a week and sat up with me at night to talk to me while I breastfed James (the medications made me really sleepy). They are patient with me when I trail off mid-sentence because I can’t remember what I was going to say. Mike physically helps me up, waits on me, and is a wizard with diaper changes. My dad comes to play with Annie. Even my sweet Annabel comes over to where I’m resting and says, “Mama, can I do anything for you?” I am starting to feel like myself again, and I am so thankful they’ve been so wonderful to me during this whole thing.
But James, oh he was so worth it all. He is so cuddly and sweet and perfect. He’s a good nurser and sleeper and when he’s awake he’s incredibly alert. He had a touch of jaundice so he and I spent some quality time reclining in front of sunny windows where I got to take in his soft baby fuzz and baby blues. For being such a mover and shaker when he was known as The Acrobat, he’s incredibly mellow now. That works out well for me, since I currently have to take it very easy. He’s content in my arms, and I’m content with him there.
(Except when I have to share him with Annabel, that baby hog)
Becca Masters says:
This post makes my heart swell.
I love you Spohrs, you’re all so fabulously awesome!
Annalisa says:
Figures he’s mellow now. Not in a rush to meet you for the first time anymore!;)
Jokes aside, maybe it’s a baby boy thing? I remember my other pregnancy being much mellower than my current one, insofar as being kicked, not just insofar as onset, but also intensity (rounding out six months, and I’m already tired of being kicked around by my own little boy blue).
Nicolette says:
This is beautiful, Heather! I am so thrilled for you all and so relieved. Love reading about all three of your beautiful children. You are a terrific mother as Mike is a terrific father. wishing you all the best and infinite love!
Jenn says:
I’m so HAPPY you have such an incredibly helpful & supportive family!!! Babies bring out the best in people especially when those people love him as much as you do. I’m so sorry your birthing process and recovery are so physically difficult but I am so thankful everything worked out well – as I know EVERYONE is! You just sound so….Content and so Happy you’re actually GLOWING in your pictures! It makes me smile!! Lots of Love and Hugs from here! xo
Lilian says:
So glad to read that you are feeling better. What a scary thing you went through. I am always amazed by your strength. Now you can just enjoy your lovely family! xx
Meg says:
I was four years, two months, thirteen hours, and eighteen minutes old when my brother was born. (I was VERY impatient for a sibling.) He was much bigger than James, and I was smaller than Annabel, but I see so many similarities in the pictures of the newly-met siblings. I was a baby hog, too — although I couldn’t hold him without help because he was so big.
Jill says:
I am so happy for you all. You worked so hard to bring that little guy all the way to OVER the goal line. All of your children are so loved and that is clear to see.
MissyK says:
So happy to hear you are starting to feel better. You have a wonderful family. I love the picture of the 3 of you together. Such a happy big sister & gorgeous baby brother and mama.
amourningmom says:
So happy to hear that you are feeling a better and more like yourself. C-section recovery plus complications must be so difficult – luckily, (as you wrote) baby James is there to cuddle with you. Hoping that your recovery continues quickly and uneventfuly. Annie is adorable as ever (even is she is a baby hog :-)).
Sending you hope and hugs.
Jean says:
Glad you’re coming along. Take it easy and don’t do too much.
AmyG says:
so happy you’re doing better, Heather! Lots of prayers have been going up for you. James is a doll! You can see both Maddie & Annie in him. Maddie is the perfect big sister, just as I imagined she would be. Take it easy & enjoy those little ones!
Terri says:
I’m so happy you are able to enjoy him now and are starting to feel better! I hope your appetite is back and you are able to eat without getting sick. You’ve had such a long road to get here, just sit back and enjoy the cuddles. It’s so great you have family support and an awesome husband, makes all the difference in the world!
Meg says:
Wishing you lots of wellness and healing, Heather — we’re all thinking about you, and so happy James is here!
Nellie says:
Oh, what a sweet picture! Sending you lots of well wishes and continued speedy and painfree (or at least, manageable) recovery.
You & Mike make such beautiful babies!!!!
Jessica Stringer says:
Dropping heart rates are a scary thing! My son’s dropped a few times before we ended up having an emercency c-section 5 months ago today. It was very scary but all worked out in the end! I know what you mean about the first few days having several blank spots. I didn’t sleep for almost 48 hours before my son was born (terrible, painful back labor) and the night after he was born, I would find myself waking up talking total random things to no one! I was beyond exhausted but it was totally worth it. Thank goodness I also had good help! So happy for you all! What a true blessing to your family! Much love!!
Margie says:
Oh man. I have an allergy to NSAIDs so I feel your pain, so to speak. It’s one of the reasons I’m on the fence about having another baby. OUCH! Sending lots of love and hugs. James is perfect.
Jess Z. says:
I’m so glad you’re starting to feel better. I miss that soft baby smell, cuddling and sweet soft baby kisses and wimpers. Makes me want another one Enjoy this precious baby time, though I know you will.
Stefanie says:
You look so happy!
I remember after having my daughter and a second c-section how great I felt! I was walking around just a few hours after surgery. Then I went home and at around day 6 it hit me when I was at a Target store and I was like, NOPE, not okay. It felt like I had been hit by a ton of bricks. And I don’t have any allergies, so I can’t imagine what you’re feeling. But I’m glad to hear that you are getting to rest. That’s the best thing for you!
Meg says:
This makes me so happy to read! So glad Annie is consenting to share James with you.
Lisa Gleeson says:
Aww, that’s a beautiful picture of the 3 of you. Enjoy your children
Lisa
Susan says:
How can someone love a family so much having never met them? I’m like all of your other “fans”…so very thankful that you have such a beautiful baby boy to love and raise! Your blog is like my favorite soap opera in that I tune in each morning to see what happens next in the world of the Spohrs! What makes it better is that it is real life! What an amazing big sister Annie already is! Congrats and YAY!!!!!
Lisa says:
So glad you are starting to feel better. What a crazy and scary experience that must have been. Sending much love to all of you. James is adorable!
Jennifer Dawn says:
I can’t await to read about all the new joys that James brings your family!
Rach says:
I am so glad it all ended perfectly! My third baby was my third c-section as well, and not long after she was delivered I was in the fight for my life. Emergency hysterectomy and all I could think when they were working on me was, “Dear God, please let me live.”
No more babies is great. Your arms are full.
So happy for you, Heather!
samatwitch says:
I’m so glad you’re feeling better and have such a supportive and loving family. What a lovely picture of you, James and Annie.
Debbie B. says:
Glad to hear you are starting to feel better. I love the picture of the three of you. James looks adorable, Annie is gorgeous, and you look like a very happy and proud Mommy. Enjoy!
Caroline says:
Love love love to you all!!! Love sweet baby James!:)
miriam says:
So happy to hear from the mommy! Take it easy, it’s all downhill from here.
Also, I hope you will share a bit about his name. I’m guessing his first name is a way to honor Jackie!, but I’m stumped on the middle name
kakali says:
Heather,
You, Annie and James look so comfortable together. I can see the strong bonding already! He is always going to be very sweet and mellow and you will enjoy him so much! You look very good!
Alice says:
So lovely! Congratulations to you all and thoughts for continued healing.
Auntie_M says:
You may have been out of it for the first couple of days, but you sure look beautiful in every picture I’ve seen!!! Wish I looked even half as good when I’m out of it and in pain!!
So grateful that many videos and pictures were taken during this time to help as a memory aid to you and as a simple joy to to look at for all of us!
And grateful your little indoor Acrobat is a mellow baby on the outside…and I can’t blame Annie for being a baby hog! He is such a cutie!!! I know for kids her age waiting for a baby can seem like an eternity–but I’m sure it felt like this for you too with all the illnesses and complications! Right up to the last minutes/seconds!!! That whole heart thing was very scary for your friends/readers–can’t imagine how it felt for you!!!
Glad you are recovering nicely at home now with your baby boy by your side and your many helpers at hand–not the least of all your Annabel!
Glenda says:
Heather,
So happy for you that you’re feeling better and coming along. You look AH-Mazing! I’m so glad you have such a tight knit family (mom & dad) that come over to help with Annie and James, and Mike for being your rock.
Take care!
Expat Mom says:
He’s SO worth it! Just look at that sweet little face and the beaming Annie next to him. I’m so glad you are recovering, even if it’s slow . . . in 6 months, you’ll be watching that not-so-mellow little boy (I swear, all three of my boys had me fooled up to the 3 month mark) scoot around and this will be a distant memory.
Sara says:
Glad you are feeling better and that James is such a chill baby! I’m just so happy for you and your family!
Libby says:
Wonderful news and beautiful family. Keep taking it easy!!
Paula says:
Oh Heather – that all sounds so frightening and so “oh my gawd I don’t have control”ish for someone like me who MUST control EVERYTHING. How scary for you and for Mike. Wow. I’m so, so glad you are on the mend and doing better. James is such a love and I love hearing that Annie is doing so well adjusting to the new baby and sharing her mama with her brother. Now if she will just learn to share her brother with her mama.
edenland says:
Oh my lord it’s impossible to love you more. Teared up at your mum talking to you in the night, at Annie asking if she can help …. what a beautiful, dear little baby guy you have there, Heather.
All my love and special thoughts to you all.
XXXXX
Lora says:
Just sheer perfection, that little boy! Annabel could not look prouder or happier if she tried! Sorry to hear things were a bit tough for you at the beginning, but glad to hear you are on the mend!!!
Kelly says:
Sooo good to hear from you, honey! Take it slow & keep drinking in the love. James is beautiful..and so are you!