I am a person with a lot of internal conflicts, but none have been as enduring as cheap vs. lazy. My baseline in life is extremely lazy. I actually have friends who LOVE to do stuff. They even want to do stuff when they’re on vacation. Me, I want to sit on my rear and stare at something. It can be the TV, it can be an ocean, whatever. I want to do as little as possible at all times. I could sit and watch TV literally all day, every day. I would never be bored if I had my stories (I was on hospital bed rest during the 2007 Writer’s Strike. The only thing on TV that wasn’t a repeat was the news. Talk about kicking me when I was down.)
You’d think cheap would go well with lazy, but they are often diametrically opposed. For example, a cheap person will make a birthday cake from scratch. A lazy person will go to the bakery and buy a pre-made cake, then go home and watch TV. I’ve touched on this a bit in my DIY posts, but if I come across something I think I can make for less than what it would cost to buy? It’s on like Donkey Kong.
My struggle started around age eleven, when I began babysitting. I made around $2/hour per kid (SLAVE LABOR). I’d play lots of games with the kids, but I’d be thinking things like, “I’m only getting paid fifty cents to referee this game of Trouble (with the pop-o-matic bubble), but if I convinced the kids to watch TV I’d be getting fifty cents to sit on the couch.” This is how games like Coma were invented. I was the best worst babysitter ever.
Another example of cheap vs. lazy is from when I worked for the Dodgers. My desk was about ten steps away from the kitchen that held a coffee maker (free) and a soda machine ($0.25/soda). If I wanted to walk several hundred feet (literally the equivalent of walking from left field to behind home plate) to the press box, I could get free sodas and gourmet coffees. Sometimes there was even free soft-serve. And yet. Walking! So far! Much tired!
I kept a list of the pros and cons for the two drink options that my coworkers thought was hilarious. I wish I still had it, it was something like:
It’s sort of becoming more clear to me why I was laid off.
My coworkers would stop by my desk on their way to get a beverage and they’d always say, “Is it a cheap day, or a lazy day?” Of course, that answer changed by the hour…and it often depended on who was asking.
So far, it seems that Annabel is my polar opposite: she’s expensive and busy. The only way you can get her to sit still is to take her to a movie…and even then, she’s dancing during the credits and begging to buy all the merchandise. I’m glad she’s not lazy. Laziness is one of my worst traits and I’d totally change that about myself except there’s a Friends marathon on TV right now and my couch is so comfy. I do hope she becomes a little cheaper, and by that I mean she stops wanting every single thing she sees on a billboard/magazine ad/TV commercial. I’ve been teaching her about budgets and saving for special things and she thinks it is, hands down, the most boring thing I have ever dared to speak with her about.
On the other hand, James loves to take naps…there’s something to be said about having a partner in couch sitting. Is it being lazy if you’re staring at your baby while he sleeps? I’ll have to look into this further.
Molly says:
Ha ha! I enjoyed that, although you don’t really strike me as somebody who is terribly lazy!
Heather says:
Well, I really WANT to be lazy. I just have too much to do, LOL.
Debbie A-H says:
So, I can go downstairs at work (about a 1/4 mile walk) and get free coffee or drive through Dunkin Donuts and pay $2.45 for an extra large coffee (I need lots of coffee). Guess what I do? Yup, pay for the coffee because I can’t even think about going downstairs in the morning. I get you, sister, about the lazy. I guess I’m not so good about the cheap.
Sue says:
Very funny post, Heather, but I certainly can’t imagine you being lazy. You seem so full of energy with your parties, crafts, and everything else you have going on!
Heather says:
Ha yes well, I try to pick hobbies I can be sitting down for! hahaha
edenland says:
I am so lazy. SO LAZY …. because why do things when you don’t have to, srsly?
Love this post. Love you heaps xxxx
Heather says:
Love YOU heaps, Eden.
Jen says:
“Me, I want to sit on my rear and stare at something.”
We should totally be friends.
Heather says:
Let’s stare at stuff together!
Kathy says:
You are my hero/soul sister. I wish I could hang out and watch some TV with you today.
Lisa F. says:
Hello from Lazy Camp!
Annabel should (I think) grow out of that “I want” stage. My godson was the same way around her age. Every commercial (“Can I get that?”) was a nightmare. He’s still like that a little bit at 12, but not nearly as bad.
Heather says:
Every time I just tell her, “well, ask for it for your birthday!” I figure if she remembers by then, it’s something she really wants!
Aubrey says:
Friends marathon is totally worth being lazy for! I need to get in on this. I think I will do just that when I get home from the Dr. I am totally lazy too. I get that list completely.
Ally says:
Well, based on the amount of hours I spent sitting on my ass in your backyard while I was there you KNOW I’m on the same lazy page that you are! I knew there was a reason we get along so damn well
REK981 says:
Watching a baby sleep is totally an activity and not lazy! I will sit and watch other babies!! I am with you on the Cheap VS. Lazy. I can be either and both!
Kristin says:
It seems these days that more and more people are “oh, TV is the devil, lets to crossfit while learning a new language and skydiving” um, ya,… no thanks. So I applaud you for keeping it real. Friends marathon? I’m all in. For me, I don’t think its necessarily laziness, its just that I need a lot of down time. Some people are go, go, go and that’s great for them. I can be active and crafty and social but in order to really function I need that down time, usually on the couch watching Real Housewives or Mad Men.
Heather says:
I like your thinking. From now on, I’m going to say, “I’m not lazy, I’m RECHARGING!” All joking aside, I think that’s really important, and something I definitely don’t do nearly enough.
Allison says:
I so get you. I am eternally cheap… but also hugely lazy. I don’t like being hassled. A friend of mine wanted to go on a trip a few years ago and was all “what kind of activities do you want to do?” I was like… “uhhhh… nap?” If I have too many things to do in a weekend (read: more than one social engagement) I tend to meltdown a little bit. I need down time. LOTS OF DOWNTIME.
Heather says:
Clearly we need to go on vacation together.
Amber_S says:
Watching your baby sleep is never lazy! I consider it a very important element of parenting. Unfortunately I don’t do enough of it. My 12 month old takes 2 naps a day, approximately 45 minutes each.
Mary says:
Ha! After seeing your ‘typical day’ that you posted, I think of you as about as far from lazy as you can get!
Heather says:
True! Well, I’d be lazier if I had the time!
Jess says:
I’m lazy. My fiancé is busy. It can get a Annoying. I can nap all day. We’re finding a happy medium. Lol
Leah says:
Word. Cheap: ironing. Lazy: dry cleaners. Lately I’ve been feeling cheap so my husband is going around with weird creases in his shirts.
Jackie says:
“Walking. So far. Much tired!” I laughed again just typing that! I want to be BFF’s with you just because of this post. When I was younger I was busy+cheap; in my late (late) 30’s I changed to lazy+expensive. It’s crazy but it’s my life! I’m content and that’s all that matters! You just keep on being you.
Heather says:
I strive to be lazy and expensive. Someday!!!
Jackie says:
Don’t be fooled. “Expensive” just means I am too lazy to put in the effort to find/wait for what I want to go on clearance. I’m too lazy so I just pay whatever price it’s marked. I’ve also adopted the motto “time is money” to justify this.
Heather says:
Mike likes to remind me “time is money” all the time, especially when I’m in the middle of one of my crazy projects!
Meg says:
Yes to everything here! My problem with the lazy is that I am extremely introverted, so I DO really need to sit at home and do absolutely nothing at all. For hours. Which has become a problem with this full-time job because I get home and theoretically have hours with which to accomplish Adult Functional Things, but every. single. night. all I manage to do is walk the dog, read with her in my lap on the couch, eat dinner while poking at the internet, and maaaaaybe take a shower. I need time to do laundry and cook and bake so I stop spending so much money on prepackaged food. If you discover a way to fix the lazy for the introverted, I am very eager to hear.
Does Rigby hang out with you? Rosalind likes walks and playtime but loves nothing more than napping with me.
Heather says:
Oh yeah, Rigby is sooooooo lazy. She’s a total enabler!