My parents moved into the house they currently live in back in 1981, after my second birthday. They lived in a couple houses before that one, but the current house is the only one I remember. My grandmother and great grandmother lived in the house with us. I was such a lucky kid – thank goodness I knew it.
The street was overflowing with kids. The oldest kid was four years older than my brother and me, the youngest were three years below. At one point, over twenty kids on the street went to our elementary school. On our street, being bored was not an option. Luckily, with a street full of kids, we never were.
I don’t remember meeting Tara, she just was there. She’s always been there. I remember when her sister was born, when we were three. It’s probably one of my first memories. But really, as far as my brain is concerned, Tara has always been there, and that’s how it should be. We didn’t always get along, either. We were both very headstrong, bossy little girls who had to have their way. One of us grew out of it (spoiler alert: not me (spoiler’s spoiler: Tara is still headstrong, she’s just way nicer about it)), but luckily for both of us we figured out how to get along.
When we went to separate colleges I thought my life was over. HOW were we supposed to still be friends? This was right when this crazy little thing called email was just starting. It was a passing fad! Somehow, we managed to overcome the Twenty! Whole! Miles! between us. It might as well have been twenty thousand miles – any distance seemed impossible after spending sixteen years with only two houses between us.
The moving van comes today with our furniture, and that is going to be the big signal to our new neighbors that someone has finally bought the house that stood vacant for a year. I wonder if one of the houses around us holds Annie’s future BFF? While I don’t think my parents met Tara and thought, “hey, this little ankle biter is going to be Heather’s maid of honor!” I will silently be judging all the kids on this new street as potential besties for Annie. Annie’s future friends have to meet a high standard.
(With this move, Tara and I now live only five minutes apart. It’s more than two houses, but it’s still pretty awesome.)
MelissaG says:
The most important question is…what are those pants made out of? I think you should bring those back on alternate days of the caftans! Kidding kidding…I couldn’t resist though!
Julia says:
Good Luck with the move ! Hope it goes smoothly for you all : )
E.B. Cummings says:
A year ago we moved to Texas, to a neighborhood much like the one you describe. Before now, I didn’t know places like this existed anywhere other than the realm of television.
The subdivision has six short streets, and over 50 kids waiting for the bus. And every weekend, the adults congregate in driveways while the kids run up and down the street, sometimes traveling from one home to another for a sleepover, sometimes with waterballoons.
I hope my children get to grow up as close to the kids here as you are to your friend.
heather says:
My best friend and I have only known each other for 14 years (15, come this February)
People think it’s funny we celebrate our friendiversary, but hey… wouldn’t you do it if you knew the exact date you met? We’ve been through everything, our weddings in 2001 were 2 months apart, our pregnancies were 2 months apart, we joked that if one of us died the other would have a good 2 months to make the most of what was left in this world.
Living far apart sucked, now she is 100 wine impaired stumbles from my house and we’re loving it.
Best of luck with the move and the new memories with the bestie and the new house. You all deserve such happiness, I hope you find a slice of it here.
Jessika says:
Everytime we meet/see a neighborhood kid I think the same thing – is that the kid Griffin is going to ride around the block on his bike with? Will those guys be on the same football team in high school? There are a lot of boys in our neighborhood…should I start stockpiling the food now!?!?
Aubrey says:
I met some of my best friends I still have and my future (ex)husband when I was in 5th grade. My son just started 5th grade last week. I keep thinking he could be meeting his WIFE this year! That is just crazy for me to think about. I am trying really hard to nurture his friendships because I know they may last a life time.
Johanna says:
I grew up on a block like that. I pretty much knew everyone on our street, we played hide & seek with all the neighbor kids and we utilized all the backyards on the block. There were block parties and BBQ’s, it was great. Plus, I went to school and rode the bus with at least half the kids on the block.
Enjoy your new neighborhood. I hope Annie finds her Tara equivalent!
Laura says:
Are those pleather pants, Heather??
Joy says:
I love this post…you and Tara are so blessed to have each other! :0)
Penbleth says:
It’s lovely to be getting back close to your friend. All of my childhood friends live in a different country (I’m the one who moved, they didn’t all flee to get away from me. At least I think that’s how it worked.)
Rebecca says:
I know what you mean about best friends and reminiscing and thinking about how your daughter might be meeting her best friend.
I met one of my best friends in kindergarten and another in 1st grade. Every single kid that Isabella talked about last year and now this year, I keep thinking is this her Angie, is this her Tina? Will they be BFF when they are 40 and having kids?
Trisha says:
Is that a red leather skirt you are wearing?
Good luck with the big move today. I’m sure Annie will be the most popular kid on the block.
Glenda says:
That’s great!
Good luck with the move!
Is your BFF married w/ children too?
Molly says:
I love that you + Tara will be so close to one another again. And I really love that you will be eyeballin’ all of Annie’s potentials.
“So little Jane, what qualities do you value most in a best friend forever? Please tell us three adjectives that best describe your personality.”
Kim says:
When we bought our house in Utah, we were thrilled to find out there was a family around the corner from us with kids exactly the same ages as our kids.
It broke all of our hearts when we had to move and leave best friends.
Our neighborhood now doesn’t have as many kids and the parents are a bit more reluctant to let their kids come out and play. So, sadly my kids haven’t made any neighbor friends yet.
BUT, since we’re only renting this house, I know we won’t be here forever and our next house will be in a neighborhood with LOTS of kids. That is a requirement for me.
Also, I love that you are now only 5 minutes from your bff growing up. Mine lives in PA, so it’s a lot more than 5 minutes
Darcie says:
I’m sure this post was all sweet and BFF-like…but all I can think is “Is she wearing a red pleather skirt?”
Holley says:
Fabulous.
I do the same thing evaluating girls for my daughters potential life long buddy.
My best friend was born five months after me and lived next door until we we six. One of the worst days of my life was when she died unexpectedly just a few months short of her 31st birthday. I named my daughter after my friend. You are totally lucky to be so close to your friend. Enjoy!
RookieMom Whitney says:
This is a very superficial comment to your very sweet post, but I wanted to exclaim that I had the shirt that Tara is wearing (back in the day). It was from Old Navy when Old Navy was quite new on the scene.
Allison Y. says:
I hope there are kids in your neighborhood! I grew up with a best friend across the street. We moved into our Riverside home a year and a half ago, but alas, the neighborhood is full of my high school friends parents. Almost zero young kids in the neighborhood. Still hoping some will move in at some point so my kids can have best friends on the block.
AmazingGreis says:
Yay Tara!
*sigh*
Also, Annie’s BFF lives in Texas. But I’m willing to move.
Elizabeth says:
I met my best friend when I was 3 and we went through similar stuff you and Tara did. I remember moving and we used to write letters because we thought calling each other would be “long distance” 25 years later we are still best of friends. I hope Annie finds someone and I’m sure she will!