I was reading through my old blog about the days and weeks after we adopted our dog, Rigby. I read this line and laughed out loud:
At the vet, I made Mike hold Rigby when she got her shot. I hid behind him so I didn’t have to watch. She did really well with the shot until it was almost over. Then she started yipping and crying. It made me feel so bad! It brought a few tears to my eyes. Then we brought her home and she slept ALL DAY.
So funny to me now. Rigby ALWAYS sleeps all day. But mostly funny because I was all maternal with my cute little dog. I also took about 100 bazillion pictures of her. And I did crazy things like this IN PUBLIC:
Mike and I were talking to our friend Lissa this past weekend about dog ownership. We said that having a dog was the BEST thing we ever did before we had kids*. Rigby was good baby training wheels for us.
She** forced us to stop living like idiots – if we had to go to the store to buy the dog food, we realized we could buy ourselves food, too. Fresh food, not take out, what a concept! We also had to be so much more responsible. We could no longer spontaneously take off for days at a time. We couldn’t even take off for hours at a time! We had to make sure someone was there to feed the dog, love on her, and of course, take her to the bathroom.
When it was just her, I did love rubbing in my parent friends’ faces that I was legally allowed to leave my “baby” home alone. And I’m pretty sure using a Squirt Bottle of Discipline is looked down upon by Child Protective Services, but it works great on my dog. Although don’t think I haven’t daydreamed about using it on Annie during one of her ToddlerDramaMeltdowns TM.
It took Rigby some time to adjust to sharing us with our babies. She felt protective of Madeline and often barked at people if they came near her. But once Maddie started moving, Rigby was much more wary because Maddie wasn’t gentle. I’m pretty sure Rigby remembered that because she ALWAYS kept her distance from a roaming Annabel.
Until yesterday. We arrived back in LA after being out of town for a few days. Rigby stayed behind with my cousin Leah. When we walked into the house, Rigby’s head exploded from happiness. Usually she makes a beeline for me (I’m her favorite) but this time she went straight for Annie. She jumped up on Annie several times, knocking Annie onto her butt. We all waited for a ToddlerDramaMeltdown TM, but instead Annie squealed with delight and ran after Rigby, desperate for more affection.
It was awesome. And if we hadn’t broken in our nurturing skills on Rigby, it might never have happened.
Neither would have this:
VOLUNTARY SNUGGLING! It’s like siblings learning to love each other, but with less “stop touching me!” and more growling.
*I suppose this could also be true for cats, except I wouldn’t know. I am hideously allergic to cats – cat fur makes me feel like I’m dying. Obviously all cats are out to kill me, and therefore they are evil. Plus I’m pretty sure if a cat succeeded in killing me, it would figure out how to gloat in a very aloof, non-committal way.
**This is where I remind you all again that Rigby is a GIRL DOG. FEMALE.
Jayne says:
cats are sadists. i really think so.
Megan@TrueDaughter says:
I’m with ya- they are the spawn of the devil. Plus, I too am allergic, and that makes my opinion of them even lower.
Mommy says:
Some cats are awesome- the ones that act like dogs!
Lynn from For Love or Funny says:
Dogs = Unconditional Love
Jenn says:
Dogs are pretty Great!!! We have 3 and I must say, our 3rd little baby (pure shih tzu) has been such a saving grace for our oldests who suffers (and I mean SUFFERS) fr0m severe anxiety.
It’s so easy to see how you love your girl and how much she has touched you lives. That’s soo nice!!!
I Couldn’t imagine my life without a dog in life! They bring us such joy on the simplest level…even when life is overwhelming. What a blessing they are!!!
Jen says:
We have 3 dogs AND 2 cats! I love my babies like crazy. We weren’t able to have kids, and I’m sure subconsciously the large number of pets has something to do with overcompensating, but I love having lots of pets around. It makes our house happy.
And I tease my parent friends all the time that my babies will never break curfew, try drugs, talk back, etc, and I won’t have to pay for their college tuition! Of course, they also won’t take care of me when I’m old…. Oh well, pluses and minuses for everything!
Heather says:
We tried to get cats once, they randomly attacked youngest child. She’s now afraid of them.
Our dog is awesome and has never attacked anyone. So I guess that choice was made for us.
Candy says:
We have one dog and we hope to add a 2nd one to the mix. Not going to have kids. But I must say, having our dog for the past two years really has brought out the maternal instincts and made us a bit more responsible. Its also made me incredibly paranoid about his welfare, but what can you do?
Becca says:
Puppies ARE baby training wheels. I think it should be a rule – before baby, you MUST survive puppy-hood.
monica says:
I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE my dog! SHe was my first baby and I treat her like one as well. Rigby is adorable!
Daisy says:
B and I got a dog because we love animals but we fully admit he is our training wheels as well. Of course we are not having kids right away, so now I want a SECOND dog, to which B shakes his head no and won’t discuss it with me (jerk). Also, cats are evil unless they are Katie’s and then I accept them in their awesomeness and not typical-catness.
Lora says:
AHHH!!! CUTEST PICTURE EVER!!!
I’m glad Rigby was so happy to see Annie.
And personally, I always forget she’s a girl because Mike does her voiceover in the videos, lol!
Emily says:
I was going to say this too! I think the confusion on Rigby’s gender is because Mike does her voice.
Super cute pic of Annie and Rigby together. That’s just so sweet!
Deborah says:
I love my cats. I mean, I LOVE LOVE LOOOOOOVE my cats. They are as awesome as your dog! I’ve never owned a cat who was not affectionate and who did not like to curl up in your lap for a good belly rub. There’s nothing better than coming home and having my two little furballs run to the door to greet me. If I ever do have children, I hope they love cats (and other animals) as much as I do.
I love the picture of Annie and Rigby sleeping together! Adorable.
Megan says:
Well, technically, Rigby is an it Seriously though…how come girl dog Rigby’s voice sounds so masculine in your videos? Kinda like Mike’s voice…hmm…
I love cats. I have two of them. I’ll try not to let your comments about my highly intelligent babies affect my love of you, Heather! By the way, one of my all-time favorite posts from you is the one about Rigby having some fun with your stuffed animal. I think you need to update us on that situation!
Gladus says:
Is she still drinking from a bottle?
Mommy says:
Yes, you really should have Rigby off the bottle by now.
Interesting that this comment came the day after the “I’m the mom” post from yesterday. Who cares if she is still drinking from a bottle- she is 1!
Lisa_in_WI says:
I have had a cat (“Ginger”) for the last three years, and everyone who meets her loves her. She’s very sweet and friendly, never hisses, and has turned a few non-cat lovers (my Dad included) into puddles of jello because they think she’s so cute. :p
While she’s definitely not as high maintenance as a dog (meaning that when I go out of town, someone just needs to come every other day to feed and water her, and clean her litter), it is a bit like training to be a mom to a human, particularly when she head butts me at 4 a.m., meowing to be fed. :p
Kristin says:
This is so true – dogs are GREAT starter kids! We got a miniature dachshund two years before we had our son, and he definitely taught us a thing or two about responsibility, and, in his favor, he was infinitely easier to train when it came to going potty… The dog was wary of our son once he became mobile, but we quickly taught our son “gentle touches,” and they were great friends. Sadly, we lost our dog back in December, and are currently in search of a new four-legged family member – I’m a little nervous about how it will be doing this whole thing in reverse, but I dream of the day when I can see a dog snuggled up at the foot of my son’s bed!
Rebecca says:
Rigby is a girl~ Gaahh, I think I’ve just assumed she’s a boy because the voice she has in the video’s is kinda boyish.
Also, I had a teacup yorkshire terrier and I carried her around on the inside pocket of my coat with her little head poking out the front of my coat.
Nanette says:
Your footnotes crack me up because 1) I’m also crazy allergic to cats and therefore am naturally inclined to think they’re LAME and 2) I KNOW Rigby is a girl and yet I always second-guess myself, like I did the last time I was at your place. “He? SHE? It’s ‘SHE,’ right???”
Kelly says:
Our dog and our girl are best of friends, too. They snuggle, and sleep together all the time. Winston is Mea’s little protector.
Skye says:
I love my cat! I totally agree about pets being training for kids- but I think dogs are a little better for that purpose than cats are. you don’t have to worry about coming home every x number of hours to make sure cats go out to pee or feel guilty for leaving them at home when you go to work, and you can leave them alone for a night. a friend of a friend said “dogs are like children; cats are like roommates.” I agree! I’m not ready for kids and a cat is a wonderful, lower-maintenance companion. they are cuddly and sweet, but they like their alone time too.
Kristin (MamaKK922) says:
SO Sweet. We were crazy and had a newborn and 3 puppies. I don’t recommend it . But they are like siblings.
Trisha Vargas says:
My 100 lb black lab, Tank and our 2 year old, Dannica are the best of friends. We have similar pictures of her all nuzzled up with him as a baby. She just adores him and he adores her. He paces on the occasional sleepover nights she has at Gramma’s house, wondering where his best bud is all night long.
I have used puppies as birth control for my older teenage daughters, hopefully they will remember those 2am and 4am puppy potty training moments later in life
Rumour Miller says:
Dogs also catch on quickly that toddlers = food… what is not to love about that. We had a Lab when our oldest was a toddler and they were awesome together. He passed away in 2008 but we are now considering another dog… heaven help us.
Mommy says:
Soo true! Our doggie was a little unsure once our oldest started walking- but then she found out that he usually dropped crumbs, so she was his new BFF. Dogs and babies- nothing cuter than those two!!
Angela says:
I thought so! Dogs are totally preparation for babies. I knew the Captain would have a practical application some day!
Lisa says:
I have dogs, cat, birds and turtles. Don’t think I will catch the turtles snuggling…they are actually quite mean and bite each other and toads that come in their cage and pee in self defense when picked up!!!
Love that Rigby had to spend a few nights away to learn to snuggle…:). Adorable as usual.
(I really want to ignore the bottle comment but did that really come the day after your last post-“I’m the mom”-sheesh).
Lynnette says:
We owned cats before having babies and it isn’t quite the same for baby training wheels. You don’t have to take them on walks or let them out to go to the bathroom. Aside from the occasional turkey leftovers, they don’t get many table scraps so they didn’t train us to eat more at home and they certainly didn’t/don’t like to be babied and carried around as much as it looks like Rigby enjoyed.
That being said, I have pictures of my oldest when she was a baby sleeping back to back with our then oldest cat. Very cute. We had the 4 cats before the first baby was born. We’ve lost the oldest two cats and the youngest of the lot is now 7 years old so not quite a baby. She tolerates the human girls (now 6 yo and 1 yo) the best. She often is found sleeping with the 6 yo daughter before we go to bed, but spends the overnight sleeping in our bed. The youngest cat has scratched the youngest daughter a few times lately so she is helping us to train our youngest daughter that she needs to be gentle with pets.
I think it is better to have dogs for young kids than cats, ultimately.
I LOVE the picture of Rigby and Annie!
Lisa says:
I’m a cat person, so I used my two kitties to prepare me for babies. They worked just as well, especially since one is diabetic and can’t be left alone for more than a few hours because she needs insulin shots.
My mother-in-law, who has raised 3 children and doesn’t need any baby training, actually went out and purchased a baby bjorn for her dog. She carries her dog around in it all the time
Kelly says:
My husband and I had a puppy before we had our son (who is now 3). We routinely joke that we failed our parenting training with our dog – because he is only abou 90% potty trained and barks viciously at anyone that isn’t us. Hopefully we’ll do better with our kid!
katrina @ They All Call Me Mom says:
How did Rigby get her name? From the Beatles’ song, Eleanor Rigby?
Mike says:
That’s right! We’re big Beatles’ fans!
amourningmom says:
Such a sweet picture of Annie and Rigby. We had our 2 dogs before having children. I feel bad that they don’t get very much attention these days. I was so happy when our twins were old enough to start playing with them.
Meghan says:
Did you just call cats aloof?
POT, MEET KETTLE.
Ahahahahaaaaa. I crack myself up.
Elizabeth says:
I love it!!! You guys are such amazing parents to both humans and canines
Mommy says:
I am so glad that you said that having a puppy was good practice for having a baby- not THE SAME as having one. Don’t get me wrong, our little yorkie was absolutely our “baby”- that is, until the real ones came along. I completely realize that doggies (not cats, jk) are part of the family. However, like you said- when your baby is a four-legged, furry one, you get to leave them at home for a few hours, and you can leash them in public without judgey eyes! So yes, it is good practice- but a far cry from actual parenting/ taking care of a newborn. My childless SIL truly believes that having a dog is just as much work as having an infant. HA HA HA HA HA HA HA. She is in for SUCH a rude awakening if they ever have a baby.
I love the picture of Rigby and Annie snuggling!!
ps. I can’t believe anyone thinks she is a boy dog. Look at those lashes! She is all girl!
Mommy says:
ps. That picture of you and Rigby is so super cute!! You are both adorable!!!!
Tracie says:
Cats are evil…and just thinking about them too much will make me sneeze.
Love that voluntary cuddling. So cute!
Claire says:
I love my cats, they put up with the baby patting them, albeit roughly but still love the extra snuggles, they do get jealous though and run from the baby as soon as they hey him babble “diddy” But i wouldnt have it any other way.
Go cats! meow. If I could share my life with a dog I would, it just isnt in the cards right now *sad panda*
The Mommy Therapy says:
I adore our dog and I think I’ve loved him even more since having our kids because watching them interact is the cutest thing on Earth. Our baby is not gentle at all with him, lots of pulling the hair and smacking his head.
Love the photo of the Annie and Rigby, too cute!
Penbleth says:
I cannot agree about the cats. They are to be worshipped and adored at all times. I’m coming back as one next time.
Ray says:
That photo of Annie & Rigby snuggling is one of the sweetest things. =o) Makes me think of the photos with Maddie & Rigby doing the same thing.
The girls LOVE Rigby. That's for sure!