After Maddie’s visit with Dr. Love on Tuesday, my mom brought Maddie, Rigby, and me home with her. Monday and Tuesday nights were the nights I felt the worst, so I I very much welcomed the help with Madeline. Mike is obviously available to help, but he’s less than a month into his new job and the last thing we need is for him to get sick. I’d rather he get a full night’s sleep in a germ-free zone. We miss him, though.
I don’t know why, but Maddie’s illness is MUCH worse at night. When the lights are out, every cough leads to a whimper or a scream. Her throat is raw, so her cries remind me of when she was a little baby. That soft, weak little mewing that newborns make. It’s so sad. When I try to comfort her, I’m very much reminded that she is still not much bigger than a newborn – she’s still just a shade under fifteen pounds. My little baby.
Maddie is a very active sleeper (when she actually sleeps). She is the reason bumpers were invents for cribs. But when she’s sick, the tossing and rolling is even worse than usual. The ONLY way she’ll fall asleep this time around is if she’s snuggled up against someone. Which is fine, I would normally just bring her into bed with me – ANYTHING to get her to sleep. But with the tossing and turning it’s just not safe. So my mom and I came up with a solution – we’re camping in the living room.
It’s the kind of thing I imagined doing with Maddie when she was older, and not sick. We spread out some fluffy comforters on the floor, grabbed every unused pillow, cushion and blankey, and cuddled up in our new fort. Our pillows are the walls, the blankets are the roof, and the ceiling above looks like stars (thanks to the glow of the TV!). We’ve spent the majority of our time here in the fort. It’s cozy, warm, and safe – I don’t have to worry about Maddie rolling off the bed, and she gets to snuggle with whoever she wants. Even Rigby!
I remember when my brother and I were sick, my parents would always set us up on the fold-out couch. Somehow, the excitement of sleeping in the living room in front of the TV (only steps! away! from the kitchen!) took the edge off our illnesses. Maybe we have a new tradition here for Maddie. Although, if this is going to become a regular occurrence, we’re going to have to invest in some padding. My old bones can’t sleep on the floor anymore!
If Maddie is going to spend a good portion of her childhood fighting lung infections, I’m going to need some ideas on how to make being sick a little easier. All suggestions are appreciated!
iMommy says:
Camping out all day in the living room was one of my favorites, too.
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Bec says:
You and your poor little woman I’m sorry she’s so ill, I hope it passes quickly.
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Ms. Moon says:
You have a smart and loving mother and I love the camping out idea. Perhaps you should invest in several king-sized air mattresses to make the experience less crunchy on the bones. Even if Maddie fell off the side of one of those it probably wouldn’t hurt her, especially if you kept all the edges padded. Or- foam mats.
But really, I just hope she gets better soon and life can get back to whatever normal is.
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Amy says:
Poor thing. Maybe get some sleeping pads that people use for camping. Comfy, but not to high up.
my son has been teething (molars coming in) so he has had to come sleep with us as well. We just put him in the middle of the bed so he cant roll off. He moves around a lot as well.
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patois says:
My kids have loved “camping out” in the living room for years and years. Can’t say enough about the value of some good sleeping pads.
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ali says:
you are the best mom. seriously. please don’t tell my kids you are camping out with Maddie
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Susan says:
You and your mom are the best. What a great idea! I know the congestion is not in her sinuses but we always seem to feel better when we sleep propped up a bit. Can she still fit in one of those bouncy seats or, if not, can she tolerate sleeping propped up on some pillows? Not completely sitting but you know…
My best to you. Enjoy your camp!
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Andrea's Sweet Life says:
We recently started Blythe on Bovine Colostrum to boost her immune system. Every time she is exposed to a food allergen, her system gets knocked to the floor and she catches every virus/cold/whatever in a 10 mile radius, and it’s HELL getting through it and over it, only to catch a new one.
Anyway… the colostrum has really helped! We have chewable tablets for her, which might not be the best option for Maddie but look into it – we’ve seen such an improvement with Blythe that the rest of us are now taking it, too!
Oh, and what my kids want and need most when they are sick is to snuggle up on mom and read some books or watch some movies. I’ve slept more than a a few nights propped up with them asleep on top of me : ).
cindy w says:
Investing in an air mattress might not be a bad idea – very comfy for you to sleep on, and only a few inches between you & the floor, so it should be safe.
As for the colds, I’ve heard that for babies older than a year, a spoonful of honey can help with sore throats. That is, if your kid will eat honey off a spoon. (Mine won’t touch the stuff.) I’ve found that when Catie has a sore throat, she likes popsicles. Otter Pops are a big hit because she can feed them to herself. I just cut them in half so they’re a little easier for her to handle.
Hope y’all get healthy fast! Nothing worse than a sick baby. Poor thing.
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Kate says:
Poor Maddie and poor you! Sick kiddos are never fun. Has the doctor ever mentioned anything about Maddie possibly having asthma? It is, historically, always worse at night. Here’s something from WebMD….
Many children have symptoms that become worse at night (nocturnal asthma). In all people, lung function changes throughout the day and night. In children with asthma, this often is very noticeable, especially at night, and nighttime cough and shortness of breath occur frequently. In general, waking at night because of shortness of breath or cough indicates poorly controlled asthma
My son would cough and cough and cough at night anytime he had anysort of chest congestion. I would give him cough meds and nothing would work. I explained the syptoms to a friend of mine (a ped) and she guessed immediately that it was actually asthma symptoms that needed to be treated.
I don’t know Maddie’s history in depth and this is obviously something her doctors would address with the lung issues, but I would definitely mention to the doctor how severe her symptoms are at night in comparison to the day.
Hope everyone is feeling better and getting some sleep soon!
preTzel says:
I love your mother. I think it’s great that she has the time to do this for you and your daughter when it is most needed. I’m jealous.
I hope you both get to feeling better soon. I don’t have any solutions because I was a mess when my boys got sick as babies. I cried right along with them. All I can offer is (((HUGS)))!
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Lisa says:
Hope everyone feels better soon. Poor little Maddie. Enjoy the living room campout though, sounds like fun.
I second the idea of camping pads. They are fairly comfortable and you still don’t have to worry about Maddie rolling off.
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Sharon says:
I hope everyone feels better soon! Your mom sounds awesome. Right before I read your post I was looking into ordering some interlocking rubber mats to put over our wood floors so my little guy doesn’t get so many bumps and bruises while he learns how to walk. Maybe those will make a good base for your fort?
Also, to Cindy…I’ve heard that for kids that are too young/don’t like honey to give them the syrup from canned peaches or pears. Has the same effect
natalie says:
aw…poor maddie. i hope she feels better soon.
i love that she snuggles with the dog!
Kate says:
Hi Again! As for the asthma, I think they gave him an albuteral inhaler and another inhaler that was more preventative. He was 4 at the time and he’s now 12 so I’m a little rusty! Thankfully, he’s mostly grown out of the asthma so it’s pretty much a non-issue unless he’s trying to exercise (soccer) with a bad cold. And, really, who wants to do that?! My four and a half year old also had nocturnal asthma, as more of a baby though, and has grown out of it. His was much more severe, we cancelled two plane trips due to wheezing. He still gets bad eczema, but I’d take that over the wheezing and day!
Hoping today’s a better day for you!
Sarah says:
I’ve read several suggestions that you invest in an air mattress. Good ideas, but make sure to open up a sleeping bag and put it down on top of the air mattress before you go to sleep. It helps to deaden the “sloshing” feeling you can get from sleeping on an inflatable mattress. It also stops you from feeling the other person’s every movement.
My other suggestion would be to get side rails for your own bed. Think hospital side rails meets the mesh sides of a pack-n-play. My sister co-sleeps with her daughter and swears by them. Here’s one example: http://www.onestepahead.com/catalog/product.jsp?productId=534602&cmSource=Search
I know that this solution isn’t as fun as camping out, but at least you’d get an awesome night’s sleep by sleeping in your own bed!
Hugs for Maddie & a back massage for you!