I started babysitting when I was 11 years old. Apparently the neighborhood parents found me trustworthy. And, really, I WAS trustworthy. I didn’t snoop through their stuff or invite my friends over or anything like that. I was a good babysitter, too. The kids loved me because I would play lots of games, let them braid stuff into my hair, and eat as much ice cream as they wanted. You know, typical babysitter stuff.
This isn’t to say I was the perfect babysitter. I would often trick the kids so that I could get a little peace and quiet to do my homework or watch TV.
One time I was sitting for two little boys who were so incredibly rambunctious that they tired me out after the first two hours. I didn’t know HOW I would make it through another four until their parents came home. Luckily, a solution popped into my mind. Immediately after dinner I got the boys ready for bed and herded them into their bedroom. It was 6:45 pm.
“Bedtime!” I chirped.
“But, it’s still light out!” said the four year old.
“Oh, that’s because it’s daylight savings!” I told the four year old.
“What’s daylight savings?” asked the six year old.
“That’s when the time changes and you go to bed when the sun is still up. You’ll learn about it in school this year!”
The rest of the night I watched HBO and ate Doritos. It was glorious.
Another time I was watching a young girl who went to sleep at seven pm. Once I got her down I was desperate for something sweet, but there wasn’t any ice cream, candy, or soda in the house. I opened up the pantry, hoping to find some chocolate chips or something, but I didn’t discover any – not even baking chocolate which I would have gorged on at that point. I DID, however, find some Lucky Charms cereal. I grabbed the box and proceeded to eat every last marshmallow out of it. I hope the parents enjoyed their frosted cereal sans lucky charms.
My biggest challenge though was sitting for this one family of four kids – three boys and a girl. To say they were hellions would give hellions everywhere a bad name. They were the type of siblings who were always trying to one-up each other. If they were eating, it was a competition to finish first, and if they were playing in the backyard… well, everything was a constant contest – and the SHEER VOLUME at which they did all this made my ears bleed.
One night I went over to their house with a borderline migraine and was petrified that it would turn into a full-fledged vomit-inducing headache. As you could imagine, the children were in typical form, so as soon as the parents left I suggested a new game.
“What’s the game?!” the middle boy asked excitedly.
“It’s a contest where the four of you lay down, close your eyes, and have to be completely still and silent. It’s called, ‘Coma.'”
“How do you WIIIIIIIIIIIN?!” whined the girl.
“Well, whoever is quiet and still the longest is the winner. I’ll be the judge, but you’ll all hear if one of you talks or makes a noise.”
“What do we win?” asked the oldest boy.
“The winner….gets the BIGGEST piece of PIZZA!”
The kids were sold. They all laid on the various couches and cushions in the family room.
“Feel free to grab blankets and stuff. Get REALLY comfortable. Coma is a VERY hard game. I don’t know if you four are old enough to be really good at it.”
Well, they all took my challenge as a personal affront. They assumed their positions with renewed vigor, and after I encouraged them to close their eyes…they all fell asleep. It was a trick I pulled out repeatedly, always with success.
Now that I’m a mom, I think the stuff I did as a babysitter is hilarious. When Annie gets older I know I’ll pull the Daylight Savings trick – I’m pretty sure my dad used that on me! And my nephews are going to be EXCELLENT at Coma by the end of the summer.
Eric@I've Become My Parents says:
It’s nice to see some real ingenuity in the babysitting world. Well done. That totally beats whatever I would have tried (had I been even employable as one to care for others’ kids). My best tactic probably would have been the old “Lock-’em-in-the-closet” trick. Maybe if I was really imaginative, I’d have done the “Let’s play hide and seek and I’ll be It” trick, then sat down for a beer while they waited for me to find them.
Thanks for the good read!
Elle says:
I wish my daughter knew what a coma was because I would be playing that game everyday to get her to nap.
The Woman Formerly Known As Beautiful says:
I think the reason I sucked as a sitter was the kids could smell my fear. Like if I’d pulled the Coma trick and they were quiet for too long and fell asleep I would’ve probably woken (waked?) them up, started baby resuscitation. Scared the living crap out of them. Plus whenever the phone rang after the kids were in bed I didn’t answer because I thought it would be that killer who would say he was calling me from inside the house.
I think I babysat four times. Total. Not much of a career really.
Jenn says:
It was great from a babysitter perceptive but after putting the kids to be at 6:00 & 7:00 p.m. – did you ever find out what time they were up in the morning? Could you imagine if you put them down at say 6:30 pm….then they’re up at 5:00 a.m. for the morning?!?! Now THAT would be sooooo funny!!! High 5 for the sitter….sucks to be the parents!!! ha ha Too funny!!!!
Penbleth says:
Well done Heather, I think these are pretty good tricks of the trade. I remember trying something like Coma with my kids but they didn’t go for it. I do remember telling them the ice cream van only played the song that meant it was empty.
Audra says:
My girls have not learned of the ice cream truck. They are, however, aware that in the summer a MUSIC TRUCK moves very slowly through the neighborhood on a daily basis. It doesn’t stop, it just plays songs for all of us to enjoy. That, and that chocolate milk is so special that it is only available in restaurants.
neeroc says:
Love it! I’d so totally try it but my husband would be bowling kids out of the way and screaming ‘ice cream truck!’ so it has very little chance of success *g*
Tricia says:
Are we married to the same man?? Just the other night the ice cream truck went by and my husband came running through the living room yelling “I’m going for it babe!”
ps. Coma? Heather, I tip my hat to you.
Anna says:
Bahahahahaha!
Karin` says:
Now that is hilarious!!!
Audra says:
Good work Heather! I can’t believe that, as a young teen, you single-handedly were responsible for FOUR rowdy kids. The families I babysat for usually had three. At my very first job in 1986 I made a whopping $2 an hour.
Chris says:
My first babysitting jobs were at 50 cents an hour. That was a long time ago!!! the kids always like me, I always got asked back. I would clean the parents house and play with the kids. I’m patient that way. I think when I stopped sitting it was probably $2.00 an hour.
Neeroc says:
LOL love the story about the Lucky Charms, however now as the parent I would be totally worried about who I’d let in my house *g*
I can’t wait to try Coma on V the non-sleeping destroyer.
Chris says:
the mom probably blamed one of the kids for eating all the marshmellows and they were grounded for a week. Way to go!
Marsha says:
After some yucky weather here in Texas, our power went out. The clocks were all messed up when it came back on. Just by sheer luck, they all read 7:34…..all the kiddos know that means bedtime. I started baths and even gave them a snack bc I’m such a cool mom to let them stay up late!! In bed at 5:55. It was an exhausting day and I was wayyyyy impressed with my ingenious ways. Early bedtime and being super cool in their eyes—-SCORE!!
Lynn from For Love or Funny says:
In all seriousness, I think being a babysitter is one of the toughest jobs, especially if you’re looking after kids who are rambunctious! Babysitters are a parent’s best friend!!!
Jen says:
Totally going to play the Coma game with my kids this summer. You are a freaking genius!
Daisy says:
Interesting…we had a game like Coma growing up except my parents called it Dead Lions which isn’t remotely weird and creepy now is it?
Leslie says:
Coma is the best idea ever. I wonder if it would work on my 13-year-old?
Mitzi says:
My 5 year old would sit still for about 5 minutes and then say “I lose, so what” and be done with the game! That’s what she does when we play “the silent game”. It’s funny.
Carolyn says:
I have to admit that sometimes I would CHANGE the clocks and move them forward to make it appear later to get the kids to go to bed when I babysat….
Lisa says:
I pulled a few of those tricks myself back in my babysitting days. I think we babysit so we can learn tricks like that to use on our own kids later
Barefeet In The Kitchen says:
Oh my gosh, Heather. I am laughing so hard at your coma game. Why didn’t I think of that?!
monica says:
you are too funny, truly a gem!
Lora says:
COMA. IS. GENIUS!
Elaine says:
My friend’s dad used to play this game when he had to take his three kids to work with him. He called it ‘sardines’. They would pack underneath his desk and lie very silently and when they fell asleep he could get some work done. My friend still remembers it as her very favorite game.
Rumour Miller says:
I am so going use COMA and soon! Thanks for the tip (even though I intend to use it on my own kids).
Kristin (MamaKK922) says:
YOU are a GENIUS!!! I had never heard of Coma, we shall be playing that at my house this summer when mommy needs a break.
PattyB says:
You have THE BEST stories EVER! That was hysterical. I will be sharing that with my 11 year old if she gets any babysitting gigs in the next couple of years. Thank you!
deanna says:
when i was little i had a wide variety of babysitters, all of whom i loved, because my parents were out relatively often for dinners and things related to my dads job. when i started babysitting, i was always so thankful to have such good experiences with those babysitters because i had a wealth of “tips” to draw from. my favorite was always turning everything (well not everything, but within reason) into a race: who can pick up their toys the fastest? who can wash their face, brush their teeth and put on their pjs the fastest? its like mary poppins… “you find the fun and snap! the jobs a game!” i cant say i ever used the coma game, but that sounds like something to file in the back of my head for when i have kids.
Jen says:
That is brilliant. Coma. Oh my god. LOVE IT.
Kim says:
COMA!!! I love it!! How come I’ve never thought of that?? You should seriously put a patent on that game. It’s GENIUS!!
When I was a camp counselor for 6-7 year-olds in a really expensive, hoity-toity neighborhood, I taught them two games, one called “Hitchhiker” and the other called “Murderer.” You may have heard of them. Anyway, the kids LOVED the games and we played them all summer. Many of them had never even heard of a hitchhiker. I, of course, was happy to enlighten them! The parents, however, were absolutely horrified that their innocent children’s minds had been tainted by the introduction of these new terms (yes, apparently “Murderer” was a poor choice). They practically chased me off their turf by the end of the summer. I have since renamed the games “Carpool” and “Culprit.” So you can see “Coma” is right up my alley!!
FlyingNinja says:
I came up with a similar “coma” game, only I was wrangling 5 children in an airport in Puerto Rico while their parents got the luggage. Those kids were really good at statue! They liked it so much that they played it during any “boring” times on that trip.
Jen says:
BAhahaha! I did that once with my cousin’s kids – it was a game my fifth grade teacher used to “play” with us called “Quaker Meeting.” Whoever stayed the quietest longest won. I believe she wanted me to move in with them after that….
Fête Foreign says:
I used to babysit for a nice couple when I was 15. One day my mother was at a lunch function and the mom decided to mention how babysitters were like cheap slave labor as they also did dishes etc. I didn’t “feel the love” for babysitting after that . . . my parents didn’t either.
tina says:
I cannot tell you how many trips we took to New Hampshire with toddlers 14 months apart with an entire silent ride, how playing the quiet game! It took years for them to catch on oh how I miss the quiet game.
Michelle Pixie says:
Brilliant!! My girls will be pros at Coma by the end of summer as well…thanks for the tip. Hee Hee
Walkingborder (Karen) says:
So to my defense it’s been a REALLY long day. Much longer than usual, with the primary caretaker, their father, being out of the house for much of it. And I’m 27 weeks pregnant, tired, and have had a massive headache for weeks now that I can’t do anything about. With all that in mind, and having read this post this morning, I decided it was time to teach my kids “coma”. Only it didn’t work. I guess the 3yo is just too young. But it was worth a shot.
melissa says:
I wonder if the 4 siblings are old enough now to realize you were BRILLIANT. I’d have nothing but awe and respect for you if I were one of them realizing you got them to fall for that!
sensibly Sassy says:
I started babysitting around that age too. now when I look at 11 year olds I am SHOCKED that people trusted me with their children at that age!
B in Oz says:
I have tried Coma with my 4 year old son all morning but with no success, could you please include the appropriate ages for this fantasic game so I know when to pull it out again
AmazingGreis says:
I love the COMA game. It doesn’t always work for me though. *sigh*
Kristin says:
Those babysitting games are absolutely brilliant…LOVE them!
Ray says:
Lmao! Love this entry. I especially loved the “Coma” and “Lucky Charms” story. Babysitting at eleven years old? Wow.
Elizabeth says:
OMG Coma sounds like FUN!! lol
Jessica Makuh says:
You’re a genius! I once babysat two kids who were fighting a lot. I decided if they were going to fight, they should be forced to be in a room together, where I couldn’t hear them. I made them play in the bathroom by themselves, brought in toys and everything. It got them to stop fighting.
Duncan Faber says:
Great article. And here’s a babysitting trick I use. I download audiobooks and play them in the background while we play. It keeps them occupied and calm. There’s lots of sites to download them, but I get some for free at this one. http://www.twirlygirlshop.com/stories-for-kids