Other than my family, the thing I value the most in my life are my friendships. I never anticipated how hard it would be to maintain my friendships as I got older. But, it makes sense – we’ve all moved farther away from each other, and have families, careers, and other commitments that make it hard to find the time to spend with each other. It takes work, and we have to plan things far in advance.
Months ago, my friend Brianne emailed all of us to schedule a day together. After much emailing, we finally found a date two months in advance that worked for the majority of us. That day was yesterday, and it came at the perfect time. I’ve been feeling a bit listless and shut-in. I really needed some time with my friends, most of whom I haven’t physically seen since before James was born.
My friends have held me up a LOT over the last six years. We have all been through so much together. I like being around the people who knew the Old Me. And even though we text, talk, and email and do all those other things to stay up-to-date with each other, there’s no substitute for face-to-face interaction. I wanted to hug them, and see their eyes when they were laughing.
Brianne arranged for us to spend the day on a gorgeous sailboat (thank you, Brianne!), and even though the weather was absolute crap (solid fog), we didn’t care. We were together, and we were celebrating sixteen-plus years of friendship.
There was also food made to look like animals, and who doesn’t like that?
We talked about life…babies…boyfriends…Jackie…we laughed a lot and we were together, and it was exactly what I needed. I feel ten pounds lighter (which I am not, because HELLO food shaped like animals!) and a million times more centered and patient.
I don’t know what I would be without all of my friends.