Comments on: Moments And Miles

By: Becky

Becky — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 04:13:51 +0000

I actually missed my brother’s wedding when my son was born at 32 weeks the Wednesday before the wedding (which was Saturday)!
I had spent about a month on bedrest due to preterm labor, prior to his birth, but really really hated to miss the wedding and wanted to find a doctor that would let me go. It’s probably a good thing my son was born, because I probably would have found a way to go to the wedding anyway.
My husband had been sooo paranoid that, if we went to the wedding, I would have delivered the baby in the “mountains of Virginia” while making the 10-hour drive to South Carolina for the wedding.
As it worked out, our son was born at the exact time we planned to be in the mountains of Virginia!
So, while I hated missing my brother’s wedding (and to this day, hate the fact that I will never have any memories of his special day!), I was very thankful that I delivered in a hospital with a Level III NICU, rather than along I-95 somewhere!
Like you, I hate having to miss out on the travel, but wow, as hard as it is, it’s sooo worth it for the baby!
My sister is getting married next spring, and she was hoping for a March wedding but postponed their plans till May, since our next baby is due March 6th. If all goes well w the baby & pregnancy, we hope to be there for her wedding!
.-= Becky´s last blog ..Halloween PJs =-.

By: Kim

Kim — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 02:02:37 +0000

I’m 24 weeks also and I also have been banned from travel as well. We were suppose to go out to AZ for thanksgiving. But the dr doesn’t want me doing a 7 hour car ride. Also to a city with no NICU. I can’t say i really disagree with him. I had my son at 26 weeks and I don’t want to risk being in a bad location if heaven forbid something like that happens again. I just REALLY want to be past 26 weeks…. I’ve never made it that far before. =-(

Kim

By: Karen

Karen — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 17:00:06 +0000

Please help us to remember to wish Maddie a big Happy Birthday, because I know so very many will want to do so.

By: Alicia @ bethsix

Alicia @ bethsix — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 06:02:06 +0000

“Basically, grief and pregnancy (either separate or intertwined) are marathons, and you have to get through each mile however you can.”

You’re exactly right. Don’t know why I’ve never thought of it this way. It’s a great analogy.
.-= Alicia @ bethsix´s last blog ..Groundhog =-.

By: Al_Pal

Al_Pal — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 00:08:10 +0000

Hello dear Heather, I’m so sorry that you weren’t allowed to go on your trip!!!

The marathon comparison sounds apt.

*HUGS*

By: christine

christine — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 04:04:32 +0000

Oh, and one last thing! When you mentioned traveling it reminded me of the baby that was just born last week on an Asian airline. Born at 27 weeks at 7lbs. What the? Could her calculations been off?

By: christine

christine — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 03:59:55 +0000

Heather, I feel like I mentioned to you in a comment months ago about the marathon. I think I said something about training for it and how you have to approach the pain with an “inch by inch it’s a sinch” attitude. Anyway, I was just praying for you tonight knowing that Maddie’s birthday would be here next month.

As my daughter is in her 16th month of life and will be 17 months next month, I have been thinking for the last several months about how you lost Maddie in her 17th month. I have tried to put myself in your shoes and imagine what it would feel like if I were to lose my beloved daughter in a few weeks from now. Gosh, how my world would come to a hault,. Frankly, it would be more like an end! And as I am about to try to expand my family soon, I don’t know that I’d have the courage to do so after losing my child. So, I really give you a salute for being able to do that. As wonderful as it will be to bring Binky into this world, it will still be a reminder of the other love of your life, Maddie. Thank you again for sharing your amazing story for all the world to see!

You’re so courageous and brave and I’m continuing to think of you and Mike. I would love to send something to Binky, please tell me where I can send it! God Bless you now and always!

XOXO

By: Alex

Alex — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 03:31:12 +0000

Hi, you’ve been in my thoughts a lot.

It’s hard when us control freaks feel helpless isn’t it? Not long to go now though….good luck with everything.
.-= Alex´s last blog ..Oh well, here goes… =-.

By: Tina

Tina — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 03:04:29 +0000

Sorry you are grounded Heather, that really sucks. The good news is that you are still mobile with the fabulous Binky flipping about in plenty of amniotic fluid. I am glad you have such a caring Dr.

I think of you constantly and I am praying for your strength. I hope your contractions are better. Love you Wheels.

By: Tara.

Tara. — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 01:28:55 +0000

Well, dang it! I wish you were able to travel, but I know Dr. Risky cares deeply for you and Binky, so I’m sure it’s for the best. Maybe you and your Mom can drive somewhere that last week? I getaway at a hotel not too far with cute shops and some good food? Or with Mike? Maybe with another friend?
I’m sorry your plans were foiled. Hang in there, sweet Heather. ((hugs))
.-= Tara.´s last blog ..Chicago. =-.