Comments on: Blue Christmas

By: Al_Pal

Al_Pal — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 12:10:24 +0000

Lovely photos. I’m so sorry that your sweet Maddie isn’t here with you. Thinking of you all.

I hope there is some relief that the holidays are now past!

By: Jessica C

Jessica C — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 11:31:17 +0000

It moves me to read your posts. I lost my father on Christmas day when I was 12 and it is an up-hill battle every year to try and enjoy the holidays. As much as that hurt ( I am 30) I can’t imagine losing my child. I thank you for sharing yourselves with me. I wish I had the pleasure of actually meeting you and Maddie. I wish you all the best with Ms. Binky and the making of memories because in the end that is all we have, right? Enjoy making those memories.

By: Nikki

Nikki — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 01:10:11 +0000

I was just thinking of you guys again and wanted to send more love and positive wishes your way. Stay strong, and when you can’t, know that there are people all over the world being strong for you.

XOXO

By: Ray

Ray — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 23:01:32 +0000

This line struck me.

“The world doesn’t stop just because ours did, I understand that.”

^^No (sadly), the world does not stop, but it is TOTALLY OKAY for you and Heather (and those that knew and loved Maddie) to have wanted the world to stop when she passed. And it’s STILL OKAY to want it to stop now, because she is no longer here.

You don’t have to celebrate Christmas this year. Just hold on to each other and you’ll get through this.

By: Elaine

Elaine — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 04:37:18 +0000

Thinking of you all this holiday season. What a beautiful Christmas girl!
.-= Elaine´s last blog ..PSF – The Joy of Pancakes =-.

By: Catherine

Catherine — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 22:28:22 +0000

Grief is not Grinchy. It’s a necessary process. Maddie’s shining light is a beacon.

I shared a link to your post on my blog today to encourage others who might be finding this a less-than-festive season to stop by this site. You and Heather display show much fortitude in sharing your story and feelings – it minimizes the feelings of isolation that can come with grief.

Be well.
.-= Catherine´s last blog ..Inspired Resources (and a Give-Away!) =-.

By: Dee

Dee — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 19:42:55 +0000

I think about ya’ll often and my eyes fill with tears when I think about what you must be going through this holiday season. As always, you and your family are in my prayers!

By: Debby

Debby — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 15:24:36 +0000

Mike, you and Heather are always in my prayers.
I’ve only know Maddie since she passed away through all the pictures that have been shared.
She was your sunshine, your perfect day. I am so sorry for your loss.
.-= Debby´s last blog .. =-.

By: Savannah

Savannah — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 05:21:07 +0000

I came upon your website for the first time today and cried tears as i followed Maddie’s life and passing through your words. I am so deeply sorry for your loss, Maddie was an absolutely beautiful child, and my heart aches knowing she is no longer blessing our world.

That said, there is something so poetically beautiful about Binky’s imminent arrival. I know she will not replace Maddie, but Binky feels like a gift FROM Maddie– to help her parents move forward.

By: Elle

Elle — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 03:35:30 +0000

I understand, Mike. Two years out, the pain is not as raw. It’s more a sense of unfeeling. I exist by doing what makes me feel less bad. Like you, I have a birthday near Christmas. It’s tomorrow. No one will remember, but that’s okay. This year I bought a lot of tree ornaments, but they’re still in shopping bags. Maybe next year. I can’t find the cards I thoughtfully selected in early November. I suppose people will think I’m rude again this year, but I don’t care. One day I’ll stumble on the new boxes of cards, and I’ll stack them on the unused boxes from the last two years if I ever find those.

Just get through it all one day at a time. It will be over exactly one week from tomorrow.

Hugs to you and Heather.