Comments on: From Bampa

By: Melanie B

Melanie B — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 21:52:26 +0000

I’m sure it’s already been said but, I new life is a reminder of just that…LIFE.

Human beings live and pass on. As for me, I believe the soul has a forever but, even so, people don’t live forever and don’t have a certain time frame. We make the most of what we have.

I think it’s wonderful that you have chosen to “live” even in your darkest days. Please try to avoid the ugliness of ignorance and do what you’re doing.
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By: sirena

sirena — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 15:11:19 +0000

I’m so sorry you guys have to deal with such ugliness on top of the terrible pain. I hope that the beautiful, supportive and loving comments people leave here help counter that kind of hate and remind you that the vast majority of people are supporting you and pulling for you every step of the way, and thanks for sharing your journey here! I can’t visit this site without tearing up, but lately there are more smiles as you prepare for Maddie’s little sibling to arrive You guys are in my thoughts!
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By: Sue Mills

Sue Mills — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 20:42:16 +0000

Well written Bampa. Binky is going to be a lucky little girl to have a grandpa like you.
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By: Mandy

Mandy — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 23:07:06 +0000

I LOVE this post and cannot believe how mean spirited people can be. From losing many friends and having friends lose parents/siblings, I’ve learned how important it is to keep the person’s memory alive. And while people may go through the stages of loss – no one ever “gets over” losing someone they love. It just takes a different shape that allows people to move on.

By: Maile

Maile — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 22:46:11 +0000

Two words: sick people. Not to mention inarticulate. Your response is in such a different world of class to the original post that the comparison is laughable.

I have to admire Heather for not leaving all that stuff up there, knowing how many would rush to her defense. I guess it’s kind of silly to let people like that run your site, though. Enough attention going to them and more would come to get their hate fix and moment in the sun.

Good for all of you keeping your dignity, not that you were ever in any danger of losing it!
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By: Laura

Laura — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 20:59:24 +0000

ahhh- I mean ABOUT!! I hate typos!!!!

By: Laura

Laura — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 20:58:59 +0000

Well said, Katrina! Such a good point abouit baby #2- it is so wonderful how somehow, our hearts just double in size when the new ones get here!

By: Anne

Anne — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 20:14:31 +0000

You’re a sweet Bampa, and as excellent a writer as your daughter.

By: Kelly Maguire

Kelly Maguire — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 01:45:36 +0000

This is an excellent post and so many parts of it have really struck a chord with me….the way we weave losses into our lives, but they never go away; staying true to ourselves and not someone else’s expectations, and then your amazing support for Heather and Mike. You seem like an amazing person with an amazing family that has suffered more than most do in a lifetime.
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By: mom, again

mom, again — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 23:41:26 +0000

planned or not, I think it’s beautiful and a testament to Heather and Mike’s love and committment to each other.

Perhaps that mean commenter’s experience mourning involves debilitating depression and being unable to go about their daily life, unable to seek comfort from their partner. Or perhaps they are just expanding from some notion from Victorian novels presentation of mourning. Hmph! We’ll never know for sure.

But I do know that should I ever face such a loss as Heather and Mike have, I hope my husband and I don’t lose each other too, temporarily or otherwise.