The Spohrs Are Multiplying…
At the beginning of this year, Mike and I sat down and really talked about when we wanted, ideally, to give Madeline a sibling. Maddie was thriving, getting bigger and stronger every day, and we felt confident that her occasional health concerns would be minor or even a non-issue by the time her sibling arrived. We wanted them to be two years apart – enough of an age difference to not compete with each other, but close enough to be the best of friends. We started casually trying, excited by the possibility that each month might bring us closer to expanding our family.
Then April came, and instead of our family multiplying, we lost our little Maddie. We didn’t know what we had to live for.
And then we found out I was pregnant.
Our feelings are all over the place. Obviously, we are cautiously happy that there might be another baby in our family. We don’t take for granted how hard it is to conceive a baby and have a healthy pregnancy and birth. But it’s hard to be completely joyful when we know that Madeline won’t ever know her sibling. Our family will always be incomplete, and it’s terribly sad. Our greatest fear is that people will think we’re “better” or “over Maddie” because we’re hopefully having another baby. And that couldn’t be farther from the truth.
I have a perinatologist (Dr. Risky) that is seeing me weekly. My hematologist (Dr. Blood) is also following me closely. My general practitioner (Dr. Looove) is checking in constantly to make sure the other doctors are doing their jobs. I am on blood thinners to keep my clotting disorder under control, which have to be administered daily via an injection into my stomach. The whole thing is very high risk, but my doctors are watching me like hawks and checking for EVERYTHING. They’re watching my blood sugar and blood pressure, drawing lots of blood, and viewing the baby through weekly ultrasounds. It’s nuts.
Should everything go the way we hope, Maddie’s little brother or sister (Binky) will be arriving at the end of January/beginning of February.
We so appreciate all the love and support we’ve received from you all, and we hope it will continue throughout the course of the pregnancy. We can’t do this without you.
And please don’t forget about the non-profit we started in memory of Binky’s big sister, Friends of Maddie!
Backpacking Dad says:
Wow, Heather. Wow.
Love you guys.
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Rachel Reply:
July 20th, 2009 at 7:06 am
Heather– I am so happy for you guys. I know you must have many mixed emotions at this time- and I’m sure that will only continue. I think of you and Mike all the time and I’m sending good wishes your way for a HEALTHY pregnancy.
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Kelly Reply:
July 20th, 2009 at 7:14 am
Couldn’t have said it better, myself!
Congrats. Sending so many sticky vibes your way. Can’t wait to hear more on your little Spohr-In-Progress (SIP)
Big hugs, and all the best.
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Nancy Smego Reply:
July 20th, 2009 at 8:40 pm
The new baby will always have Maddie as a sister and she will be the angel that keeps your family whole. That’s such GREAT news!!!!!
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molly Reply:
July 24th, 2009 at 6:34 pm
I just came back here after not following for awhile. I kept crying at work while reading your blog and my new coworkers thought I might be crazy.
I just came back here tonight and I was so so so glad to read this. I am so happy for your entire family. That includes Maddie.
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Noelle says:
Oh my gosh…wow…a little miracle. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers every day, as I have for many months.
Big hugs and lots of love being sent your way!
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Kate in NZ says:
How amazingly wonderful! Hugs of congratulations all around! Of course this is a scary time, and a difficult one, and confusing as great joy is tempered with great sadness. But it’s so wonderful! I am so happy for you. (Even though I’m not making much sense…)
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Pamela says:
Wow. Amazing. I’m very happy for you and your Husband. I’m sure Maddie is grinning from ear to ear smiling at you and Mike.
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Megan says:
That is so wonderful! I’m sure Maddie is watching over him or her…what a lucky baby, to be born with an angel by it’s side!
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tiff says:
Congratulations.
Amazing how these little beings touch our lives.
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kristeneileen says:
I don’t expect you to believe me, but I dreamt of this happening last night – specifically, of you calling me and telling me and me sitting and us talking for a long time about whether or not you were OK about it. And when I saw your twitter post just now, I knew what it would say.
I am filled with many of the emotions you describe above – but more than anything, I am so grateful that there is something in the future for you to look forward to in a positive – if not completely – way. I know that by the time Binky comes. Madeline will have been showing the Spohr ropes for a while, and there will be spunk and joy and the sweet smell of baby skin where it belongs, with you, once more.
With so much love…
K
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Amy says:
Wow. Just wow.
I am so happy for you but at the same time I understand how bittersweet this must be for you. It IS possible to be happy for this new little miracle while at the same time grieving your breathtaking loss. So allow yourself that and take care. All my best.
Amy
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laura says:
first i will say i understand the whole concern that others might think you are all better. we went through the same thing when we got pg with our zoë 2 years after our stillborn twins. it was exciting but bittersweet all the same. i will be praying for y’all: for your health and Maddie’s baby brother’s or sister’s. i pray that in the midst of missing and mourning Maddie you will find and enjoy the joy of anticipating this new member of the family. hugs to you and love!
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Sarah says:
That’s amazing. I like to think Maddie does know Binky… I like to think she got to know her little sibling before sending Binky your way… I will add Binky’s well-being to list of prayers! Much love, and congratulations, and crazy amounts of hope to you all!
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Karen (miscmum) says:
My congratulations to you both and I am wishing you a very safe, healthy pregnancy xx
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Calla says:
Congratulations to you and Mike. Your family is in my thoughts.
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Krystal says:
WOW! Such great news Heather!!!
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jess marie says:
this is a beautiful, yet bittersweet, thing.
i pray for your family every day.
i know i keep saying it, but i want you to know you’re my hero.
xoxo
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Shelli says:
Wow congrats our thoughts are with you
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Amy says:
Congratulations, Heather! I sincerely wish that wonderful things continue to happen to you. Much love coming your family’s way
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Stefanie says:
Truly this is a gift from above. I simply wish the best for you and your family. congrats!
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Seraphim says:
I’d guessed this was the case (and no I’m not even slightly psychic) and I know the joy and sorrow this must bring for you. So whilst I’m doing a tiny dance around my study here in Perth, Western Australia for you both, I’m a bit teary that this baby’s beautiful big sister won’t be here in person to share the journey. Lots and lots of love to you. xxxx
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Stacie says:
Congratulations! I can only begin to imagine all the feelings you are going through. Maddie will always be a huge part of your family. Her future sibling(s) will know her well from videos and pictures. Take care of yourself and stay strong!
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Kristin says:
I hope that no one wishes you anything but love and support and blessings. You deserve to be happy and to have something to look forward to in your lives. You’ll never stop grieving for Maddie, I’m sure, but Maddie is watching over you and I’m sure is shedding her beautiful light on you and Mike,and the baby. You have a guardian angel that you will meet again someday. Maddie will always be a part of your family, and she will always live on through you, Mike and the memories she left us all with. I hope that when you see the smile of your new baby for the first time that you feel Maddie’ s love and support, and guidance. I am so happy for both of you, cherish this bittersweet moment forever.
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Ashley says:
Heather I wish I could give you a hug. I got pregnant unplanned a year after I lost my 2. I knew I would feel guilty doing things with the baby while my first 2 were in urns in my living room. I told my babies that I loved them and that no one else could ever replace them. I told them the new baby would always know she has a big brother and sister. I asked them to interview babies in heaven and send us the one they think we need the most. Ellie looks exactly like her sister but has the heart and personality of her brother. It helps to think that they sent a little of themselves back to me. As cheesy as that might be…it is a great comfort.
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Kathryn says:
Oh my goodness! How bittersweet for you, but mostly sweet I hope! Actually I have been hoping this would happen for you. Not to replace Madeline in any way….she is irreplaceable, that is a given, but to give you some hope and joy in your future and to share your love with another little one. I hope this is not all coming out wrong…but I think your heart will start to heal a little bit more when it is allowed to unconditionally love another again. Babies have a way of doing that, they just do.
I’ll be keeping you in my thoughts (well I already do) but even more so now to protect this little one to grow and stay healthy inside of you.
All the best wishes to you and I know Maddie must be tickled purple to know that she’s going to be a big sister.
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ZDub says:
So happy for you, I hope with all my heart you have great pregnancy.
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catherine lucas says:
This is the best news ever to start my new week… I had wondered about it, if you ever were going to be ready for a second baby, but yes… You guys have so much love to give that this is the best thing you could happen. It will be confusing and scary, but hey, this baby will be wanted so much! Congrats, thousand times congrats…
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Ben says:
A huge congratulations. Always thinking of you guys.
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Geri says:
So thrilled for you. Sending healthy baby vibes and healing ones too.
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Lise says:
Congratulations. I think of you and Mike every day, and now whenever I think of you I’ll send up a prayer for the safe arrival of Binky.
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Brittanie says:
Oh Heather! Congratulations!! Congratulations to Mike too and to Maddie! She may not be with you physically as you walk this precious and bittersweet time but I have no doubt that she is with you in spirit ever smiling & happy! I am excited to add your new addition to my prayers!! What a beautiful thing. I just shared the news with my Mom who has been following yours & Maddie’s story with me and she immediately said-okay so everyday at noon we’ll pray for them (or midnight since she is a pediatric nurse who works nights & has a chronically messed up sleep schedule). I cannot imagine the bountiful emotions you must be experiencing! Don’t forget that if ever you are weary or need a pickmeup or anything at all, you can lean on us! Congratulations again! Your newest addition is so blessed to be coming into such a wonderful home full of love and laughter and life and incredible parents and stories, pictures, & videos of the best big sister ever. I know baby to be will love Maddie & be just as proud of her & of you as we are. All my love.
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Melodee says:
Wow, fingers crossed and hoping for the best.
Congratulations.
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PunkRockChic says:
I’ve followed your blog for a while now, and was completely heartbroken for you when Maddie passed. I can’t tell you how excited I am for you about your pregnancy =)
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Bec says:
You know, I had a feeling.
Congratulations
I’m so happy for you both. So, pregnancy wise, everything’s going okay?
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Cinthia says:
OMG!!!!!!!!!!
God bless you, and Mike and the new baby so much. I am sure Maddie is so happy up in heaven, too!
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Childwoman says:
I teared up…
Dont know what to say more…other than..we are here…
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Dawn says:
This one is hand-picked by Maddie, I bet. Congratulations on your blessing, they do tend to come at the oddest of moments. I will continue to keep your family in my prayers!
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Karen Reply:
July 20th, 2009 at 4:43 am
Wow Dawn, I was *just* thinking the same thing as I was reading the comments. This baby is surely hand picked by Maddie.
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Colleen Reply:
July 20th, 2009 at 5:54 am
This is exactly what I was thinking. Maddie had a little part in this. Congratulations to you and to Mike. I am sure that Maddie is thrilled.
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Arturo says:
Congratulations!! The Spohrs are multiplying! You and your husband have so much love to give, this was meant to happen. Your family is already in my prayers.
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Karla says:
Heather and Mike!!
Congratulations! You’ll all be in my prayers and I sincerely hope everything goes well.
<3
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Kersty says:
Dear Heather
I am so so so thrilled for you. Your words about Maddie have had me in tears on pretty much a daily basis (and today is no exception!), I would have loved to have known your beautiful smiling little angel – and it’s just so great that Maddie’s brother or sister will have such a positive role model to look up to through your stories, photos and films of darling Maddie.
Keeping all fingers, toes, legs and arms tightly crossed that baby remains safe and well! xx
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Christine says:
I am so happy for you guys. Boy this must have been even more emotionally taxing than we imagined…. And your little has hung in there! He or she will know Maddie – you will make sure of it! Congratulations!
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Cheryl says:
For some reason, I was thinking of you and your family alot today and yesterday…even thinking of when the time would be right for you to have another child. when I read the blog title….I just knew! How wonderful, scary, sad and awesome for you! My prayers are with you always…
Cheryl
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Antonia says:
I wish you guys the best and i can’t wait to read more about Binky ;o) I know Maddie is watching over all three of you. I was thinking, if people ever ask you if you have any children, just tell them Madeline is playing with her great grandparents? I dunno, my mom used to say it…
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Becky says:
I am sure this is a bittersweet time for your family. Just know that Maddie is watching over you and her new brother/sister. I will be praiying for you and your family.
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AmazingGreis says:
Wow, congratulations! I think of you and Mike daily and hope of brighter days ahead. Maddie will NEVER be forgotten an I’m sure she will live on through her little brother or sister. Babies are true little miracles an I will continue to keep you in my thoughts through out the journey. I’m here if you need anything!
XOXO
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Elaina says:
You both are in my thoughts and prayers. I will be praying that your pregnancy will be uneventful. I can only imagine the mix of emotions you’re feeling right now. But hearing about Maddie’s sweet personality and watching the videos you’ve posted, I am certain she is delighted. I hope that you both will allow yourselves to feel whatever you must — whether it be the joy or the sorrow.
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Viera Aarts says:
Congratulations, I wish you all the best.
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Veronika says:
Dear Heather and Mike,
Coincidentally I have a little girl who will be 2 years old in December, roughly a month after Maddie’s birthday. I bet they would have had a blast together.
You don’t know me. I loaded a blog I occasionally read a couple of months ago and saw a photo of a baby and the name Maddie. I was curious and followed all the links until I found your blog. It was two days after Maddie died. I am so very sorry for your loss and so very sad that I never got to know Maddie before she was gone. Through your posts I’ve learned that she was an incredible little girl. Congratulations on your pregnancy. I pray that you will deliver a beautiful, healthy baby in January/February. I’m due in February with my fourth, so I hope to see you there.
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Kymberli says:
Many congratulations to you. You will be in my thoughts for continued healing and of course for a healthy pregnancy and sibling for Maddie.
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Kylie says:
Yippee! Congratulations to the Spohrs! This has topped my day!!!
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Erica says:
Dear sweet Heather,
I am so delighted to read this wonderful news today, my heartfelt congratulations to you and Mike. Thank-you so much for sharing this very special news with your readers. I think of you and Mike, your families and of course your precious World Famous Maddie every, single day. I think of you all throughout my whole day and am always wondering how you especially are doing. I hold my daughter and always have you in my thoughts, sending positive thoughts and thoughts of love to you. The colour purple has taking on a new meaning for me and I see purple everywhere these days – and of course I automatically think of your precious Maddie. I shall now also think of your precious Maddie’s little brother or sister, Binky, every day too. I hope Binky continues to grow and thrive and your pregnancy continues to go well. I’m so pleased to read you have a team of doctors taking very good care of you. I’m so excited for you and Mike that you have this wonderful gift arriving. You and Mike are such wonderful parents and Binky is going to be such a special son or daughter for you. Your precious Maddie would be so proud to be sharing her wonderful parents. Please continue to look after yourself.
Please know that for what its worth you and Mike will always have the love and support of this stranger friend.
With love,
your stranger friend, Erica in Luxembourg
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Rebecca says:
Congratulations to you & Mike. I can relate to many of your feelings about this second pregnancy. I am currently 30 weeks pregnant after losing Findlay, one of my twin boys, in February last year. I too am cautious but also trying to hold onto to some of the joy that comes with a new life growing. You will be in my thoughts.
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Melissa says:
It’s okay to be heartbroken and overjoyed at the same time.
Since beginning this post and writing this comment, I’ve already sent a few prayers for you. I’m a complete stranger, and yet your, Mike’s and Maddie’s story has touched me so deeply.
You know how many people know your Madeline, who have never met her? The new baby will know her as well. And I’ve always felt that if there is a part of us that is separate from our bodies, it’s the part that is able to love. I would bet that Madeline already knows and loves this new baby.
Best wishes, and all my hopes for an easy pregnancy and a healthy baby.
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kymberli q. says:
Congratulations! I wish you the very best!!
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Jamie says:
There have been some things in a few of your posts that left me wondering…
This baby will never replace Maddie — there is no doubt about that — but it is a gift that will hopefully help you to move forward with your lives in a way you wouldn’t be able to do otherwise. A reason to keep going… even on those days when you’d rather not.
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Sarah says:
Congratulations! How truly wonderful.
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Lisa says:
Congratulations to you, Mike, Maddie and your extended family. I wish you nothing but the best – a simple pregnancy (as much as high risk pregnancies can be simple!), an easy delivery and a healthy, full term baby that will be a bit of the light back into your lives. Maddie is smiling upon you.
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andy says:
Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!
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Beret says:
Wow, how amazingly wonderful!!
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amanda says:
How could you ever be over Maddie? None of us ever will – because she lights up the world every day.
I wish for you a very uneventful pregnancy and hope that it helps you heal a bit – of course you will never stop missing or loving Maddie- but I am so happy that her new sibling will get to experience your great mama love too.
xo from CT,
Amanda
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Erin says:
How wonderful. ANd yet I’m sure scary. You’ll remain in our prayers
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Cass says:
I’m all teary for you this morning. Congratulations!
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Eileen says:
I don’t even know what to say, except to send happy wishes to you both.
So bittersweet, yet joyful too.
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Belle says:
Gods timIng is so much better and so much more perfect than ours! Keeping you all in my prayers always.
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Julie says:
Congratulations. What fabulous news.
Will pray for a healthy, safe pregnancy for you and a perfect sibling for Maddie in the new year.
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Karishma says:
Oh my god, Heather and Mike! I am so happy for you. I’m sending my best, best wishes to you, full force. I know that you will never be “over” Maddie (how could you ever be?) but I do hope that this will help you two, and your entire family, heal just a little bit. Congrats.
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Lynn from For Love or Funny says:
Heather and Mike, I am so happy to hear news of Maddie’s new sibling! Keeping you in our prayers for a healthy pregnancy. Please keep us posted on how you are doing!!
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OHmommy says:
Congrats. What great news to receive this Monday morning from you guys. You have all my warm wishes. Congrats, again!
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Rebecca (Ramblings by Reba) says:
Congratulations! I’m pleased for you… Yay!
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Kristen says:
I want to Congrats because a new life is just that but I also want to give you **hugs** because Maddie will always be with you and of course watching over her younger brother or sister.
Kristen
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Mary says:
Congratulations! You are the strongest person that I don’t really know.
Maddie and Binky are incredibly blessed to have you as their mom, and Mike as their dad too.
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Earth_Mommy says:
I wish we were near enough I could give you lots of real hugs. But, if you need an ear, ever, just let me know. And tell the docs if they don’t take good care of you, they’ll have the whole internet come down around their ears
I recently had new tattoo ink done on my shoulder. Cherry blossoms blowing in the wind. Eight flowers. Four for my lost babies, three for the babies I have and one for a future baby I would like to still have (this will have to be adoption, as my last pregnancy was so hard my docs won’t let me do it again).
Bittersweet, I know. But Maddie will be watching. I’m positive she is happy for you and will be keeping an eye on you all.
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jen says:
I had a feeling you were pregnant. I am so happy for you and Mike.
I had a friend who lost her little girl a week before her 1st birthday. She didnt know at the time but soon found out she conceived just before losing her child. I always wanted to share this story with you but wasnt sure how…
Anyhow, she had to go through the grieving process while pregnant. It wasnt easy. Their family will always have a missing piece. But their little boy (and a girl followed a year later) are well aware of their big sister, who will never ever be forgotten
She has said that their life will never be the same. They will never fill that missing piece. They are forever changed. But, they have also found happiness again.
Sending love and well wishes your way. Stay strong for binky.
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Joe @ IrrationalDad says:
Thanks for sharing the news so we call all think happy (healthy) baby thoughts for the two of you. CONGRATULATIONS.
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Metalia says:
How beautiful. How bittersweet. Congratulations, Heather. My best wishes to you for a smooth and healthy pregnancy. xoxo
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Susan says:
Oh Heather! I am speechless..how wonderful and yet how bittersweet. Please take care of yourself!! My fiancee and I speak of you, Mike, and Maddie daily. Please remember, you are never alone.
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Chantelle @ Photo Mommy says:
I’m very happy for you! Sending all my prayers your way. =)
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Sally says:
Heather and Mike – what wonderful news. I know some of the feelings you must have right now, as I’m just a few weeks ahead of you in my second pregnancy, after the loss of my daughter at nearly 41 weeks in to my pregnancy last August. The joy is not the same this time. Fear is ever present. You and I both got very different, very harsh lessons on just how bad things can get. If you ever want to talk to someone going through pregnancy after the loss of a child, I am all ears and would be happy to hear from you.
I’ll be keeping the little one in my thoughts, wishing for a safe, uneventful and easy delivery early next year.
xoxo
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Liz says:
It is wonderful news mixed with sadness…so bittersweet. congratulations.
I found out i was pregnant less than a month after my sister died. What a strange time–mourning mixed with pregnancy. I had a tough time with all those different feelings. But I’ve always felt (hoped) that my baby was a gift from my sister, perhaps to help me get through the loss. Who knows for sure.
Best wishes for a safe and healthy pregnancy.
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Maria says:
Love you guys. Love love love.
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shannon says:
congratulations! i’m due at the end of january myself. i will now, of course, be thinking of you everyday in a new way, praying for the best pregnancy ever!
i, too, had hoped you and mike would have another. how could you not? so much love to give and one of the best ways to honor maddie’s memory…she will always be known, loved and missed. you have documented her life well.
i often thought, how long would it take to get to a place of deciding to have another baby without feeling like you’re replacing maddie? that question left me feeling sad for you, knowing it could take years and i didn’t want you to have to go through that…and now the hardest part of that decision has been resolved and while the timing is bittersweet, you have been spared that anguish and i couldn’t be happier for you. maddie is taking care of you and this baby will help you heal. blessings to your whole family.
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Lindsay from Florida says:
I almost screamed with joy at this post. And, then, of course, almost cried reading your words. What an unimaginable mix of emotions, and how very, very, very strong you have been to be carrying this baby while grieving your first. Maddie IS this baby’s big sister, always. And Maddie, I am sure, would want nothing more than to see her family grow. I have come to love you and your family since April 7th, Heather and Mike, and my heart is just bursting with this news today.
So many wishes for a healthy baby come Jan/February!!!
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Abby says:
Wow. Congratulations! Best wishes for a healthy, happy journey!
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Lala says:
Fantastic! Another child can never replace, never ever ever, but you can repair!
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Mary C says:
Congratulations to you all! You are a great mama. Not for one second would I think you’re over your Maddie. Lots of hugs with love to you, Mike and your family. I’m wishing you the best everyday.
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Scary Mommy says:
Well, there you go- something to live for. I’m overjoyed for you and your families.
And this child will grow up learning everyday about his/her amazing, inspiring and miraculous big sister. Sending you the best thoughts.
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Colleen says:
Oh, I just got goosebumps. I am so happy for you and Mike but at the same time I cried for you too. I really do believe that Maddie is looking out for you and will help protect you and her brother or sister. As silly as that might sound I believe she is with you every day and wants you to find some happiness. We all love you out here and I’ll be sending even more positive vibes your way! LOTS of LOVE & SUPPORT!!!
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Meg says:
I have tears STREAMING down my face… I am thrilled that you will once again be able to hold your heart in your arms again.
And, of course, this baby won’t “Cure” you from something that unfortunately has no cure…I am sure this news is bittersweet for you guys.
Be well. Peace.
Meg…CT
And PS: Can’t imagine grieving a loss while pregnant…hormones are raging just being pregnant. Take care of yourself.
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Tiffany says:
Oh my gosh Heather and Mike, I am still so sad for you but so happy now too. God bless you both and this new little one!
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Mary says:
Congratulations! I believe Maddie sent you this gift – she is an incredibly awesome little angel. I will continue to keep all 4 of you in my prayers. Mary
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Sarah says:
Congratulations! You will be in my prayers for a healthy and uneventful pregnancy!
Sarah´s last blog ..The countdown is officially on!
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Lora says:
Congratulations on this pregnancy, the little child coming soon! I know you will never be “over” losing Maddie, and she cannot be replaced. This baby is an individual, and I can’t wait to read all about him/her.
Lora´s last blog ..First Ponytail!
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Donna says:
I am SO doing the “Happy Dance” for you & Mike. Binkie will know all about how loved Maddie is, what Maddie was like. Binkie will grow up loving the stories, just as well all do.
((HUGS)) & look after yourself & Binkie.
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Ms. Moon says:
Yes.
Ms. Moon´s last blog ..My Kitchen Door Toad (Please click the pictures to appreciate his full beauty.)
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Neena says:
I am sending some extra prayers your way!
Neena´s last blog ..A Riddle Of Sorts
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jessica says:
I know it seems to be bittersweet, but i know that Maddie is sqeeling with glee alongside her angels. She can’t wait to be the guardian angel of her little brother or sister!
i do know someone who has gone through the same thing, so if you would like her contact information, i would be glad to give it to you. sometimes it helps to talk to someone who can truly know and understand your same fears and worries.
congratulations on your pregnancy.
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la petite belle says:
OMG! I had no idea. CONGRATULATIONS!
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Diane says:
This brings me such joy and sadness at the same time that I am left once again amazed by your strength. I’ll be praying for you, Mike, Maddie, and Binky. I’ll be praying you get to be pregnant and HUGE straight through the holidays. Much love to you guys, as always.
Diane´s last blog ..Where do you feel it?
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Amelia Sprout says:
Congrats. I am so happy to hear that you are getting top notch care and I know this must be hard. I do hope you get to enjoy it a little.
Amelia Sprout´s last blog ..Owning my girly
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Christine says:
Oh how beautiful and bittersweet all at the same time. No one here at least expects that you will be “over” anything or that this somehow fixes anything. But I do hope for a lifetime of joy for you, Mike, Rigby and Binky, with a little help from Maddie – of course.
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Micky says:
I am sooooooooo happy for you! I know up there in Heaven Maddie will always watch over her little brother/sister.
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Stacey says:
Congrats and best wishes to you and yours!
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Janeen says:
Oh, I’m so excited for you- scared of what you’re having to go through daily to monitor Binky, but confident you’ll do well. WOW, what stress, and anxiety. I pray that the payoff this coming winter, and as your pregnancy progresses, is all you hope and dream. Also, don’t for a minute think that Maddie won’t “know” Binky. She knows. She knows before you know! There is a similar instance with a family in MS who lost their baby in January, to Trisomy 18, and then found out she was pregnant. Their site is noahandjulieroberts.blogspot.com in case you want to read of another family with similar mixed emotions as you. Best of luck, I’ll be following and praying every step of the way for you four.
Janeen´s last blog ..Tour de Graham Road, and Tons-o-parties
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Lisa Wood says:
that is the best news ever. Maddie is going to be the best big sister ever, looking down and guiding her most gorgeous sibling. Never ever would we think this amazing new baby is going to replace Maddie or that you have forgotten Maddie, but will be joining your family and making it complete. Can’t wait to hear the best news ever….that this sweet child looks like Maddie and has Maddie beautiful nature.
Love and Congratulations sent your way.
Lisa Wood
Lisa Wood´s last blog ..Cute Kids
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MommyGeek says:
First, congratulations to both of you. An impending birth is always a reason to smile.
We know that you will not be suddenly consoled, “cured”, miraculously over Maddie’s death. She was and is a huge part of your life, your history, and I’m praying that your pregnancy and birth goes very smoothly so that Maddie’s brother or sister can come to know her as we have – through your site, through this community.
MommyGeek´s last blog ..GTT – What Turns Me On?
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Alexandra says:
I am SOOOOO happy for you! I’m sure that it will be very helpful to have another baby in the house. Maybe he/she will be able to make you smile once in a while when nothing else could.
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ClassyFabSarah says:
CONGRATULATIONS!
I just know that Maddie found this little one and sent him to you knowing that he or she would be a perfect addition to your family.
Maddie might not have met this new one on earth, but I’d bet that she knows him or her more than you know.
ClassyFabSarah´s last blog ..I Need You! to Make Decisions for Me
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Anna Marie Hinnant says:
Oh Wow. just WOW. I’m happy for you guys, and I know Maddie is thrilled for you too. My hope for you is for a healthy, uneventful pregnancy.
Congratulations and love from NC!
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kristen says:
love, hugs, peace, strength, courage, joy…i wish you all of this and so very much more as you and mike embark on this journey. i truly believe that madeline is watching over you, and that in this way she will know her brother or sister…
heartfelt congrats to you both….
xx
kristen
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Lucy says:
Congratulations! While the pain of losing Maddie will never disappear, this little miracle may help to bring a little sunshine back into your lives. It’s amazing how the fates throw us a life preserver just when we think we’re drowning.
I wish you a healthy, complication-free pregnancy. With your dedicated team of doctors, I’m sure you’re in excellent hands.
Lucy´s last blog ..The horizonal pro-star
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knoxvillepixie says:
Congratulations to the two of you! What fabulous news! Will continue to wish you and your family all the best.
knoxvillepixie´s last blog ..Progress
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Becca says:
I’m so happy for you both! Maddie will always be in your hearts and now God has given you a new miracle!
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Amy says:
I’ve never commented before…just silently wept and prayed just as many other readers have over the past few months. I can’t help but smile as I think about Maddie helping make this happen…from the timing of you finding out to finding Dr Blood. This beautiful little girl is looking down and wants to see her parents smile and ‘live’ again. Congratulations to you both and I can’t wait to read along as this progresses!
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Pamela says:
This is so wonderful!
Nothing will ever replace Maddie. Honoring her memory by building your family. Your love for her will grow in numberous ways, surrounding your family and Binky!
Pam
Pamela´s last blog ..Hard to believe…
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Tammy says:
I believe that a soul chooses the parents that it will be born too and that this baby has chosen to help heal yours and Mike’s hearts. Of course, that baby may have had help a mischievious little soul when it chose you …
With that said, I hope that you are able to experience some of the wonders and joys of carrying a new life with a whole heart. Other than praying for a healthy baby, that is my prayer for you. Joy and health during your pregnancy.
Congratulations to your family.
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Marie says:
Congratulations! I am sure nothing could ever take away the feelings you have about Maddie, and your loss. But what a gift to have something so positive to think about and plan for and be excited for. Best of luck!
Marie´s last blog ..My new camera
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Veronica says:
Congratulations on the announcement and thank you for sharing! We will keep you in our prayers for a safe and beautiful pregnancy and baby.
No, another baby will not take the pain away, but it will give you someone very special and uncritical to share Maddie’s small life with. Some one who will probably never tire of hearing about their big sister in heaven. Here is a gigantic virtual hug and I wish you and Mike and your families all the best. Please keep writing – it is beautiful!
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DesignHER Momma says:
Just like Maddie, this baby is an amazing miracle! I’m so excited for you! Nothing and no one will ever be able to come close to filling the void your first baby girl left.
I will be praying for you and the baby’s safety over the next coming months.
Heather, what a blessing this is and I’m ecstatic for you, Mike and the whole Spohr clan.
Take care of yourself!
DesignHER Momma´s last blog ..Preparing for the Fruits of my Labor
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Cassondra says:
Oh my gosh, I am so thrilled for you!!! Congratulations. I’m sure that Maddie’s brother or sister will “know” her and love her. Thanks for sharing your news.
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april in NJ says:
Wow. Not the news I was expecting to read today… but this has made my day! I can understand your feelings (joy and sorrow all at once). I pray that this baby will help you on your way to healing. And Maddie will know Binky… she’ll be there every step of the way with you on this amazing journey. I’ll pray for you every day! Sending much love and hugs from NJ.
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JANE says:
Congratulations Heather! I know Maddie will be a HUGE part of her sibling’s life…always present, never forgotten.
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pbandjazz says:
Congratulations! I will be thinking and praying for you all.
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tonya cinnamon says:
i agree with Tammy on the her view
much congrats even its bittersweet for you all. Miss Maddie will never be forgotten even more so .
Maybe its Maddie way of letting you know its ok to smile again..
hugs!! to you all
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Shannon Kieta says:
Heather and Mike…
Oh My Goodness… I have chills so bad they hurt!!!! I am cathching tears running down my face and trying to explain to my 4 year old what I am crying about!
In all the heavens…NO ONE deserves to have a baby MORE than the two of you. I will pray everyday for a safe, healthy pregnancy, delivery and baby. Maddie is so proud of the both of you for shining through and creating a sibling for HER. This will always be her sibling. And this baby will always have a sister Maddie. Congrats to you both…you are very loved! And this newest little Spohr will be as loved as Maddie is! Shannon Kieta
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Karen says:
What beautiful, bittersweet news! I’m delighted for you and Mike for this new life!
Children give us an incredible gift; they allow us to love more deeply and completely than we ever would have known possible. There’s a saying… that “love doesn’t divide, it multiplies”… Anyone with children, or anyone who knows and cares about you would never imagine that you are better or over the loss of Maddie. Maddie is a member of your family, she is your heart; she is irreplaceable. This new baby will be just as precious and equally irreplaceable. A new baby will never lessen your love for Maddie; that love will simply multiply.
(And I think you can count on this community to always remember and chrerish your beautiful Maddie too.)
Karen´s last blog ..Purple Lupines
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eden says:
Holy SH*T.
I just went through so many emotions, reading that. Joy! Sadness! Fear! Relief! Guilt at relief!
I can’t imagine what you must be feeling. I read the tag “Binky” first, and thought you must be telling a story about when Madeline had her binky. I am truly happy for you!
Heather, you and Mike will never be “over” Maddie. Ever.
Thank goodness.
I really love the logo on the Friends of Maddie site …. the hands surrounding her look like angels wings.
Sending you up love, mate. Always.
XOXOXXO
eden´s last blog ..Each Day a New Beginning
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b*babbler says:
No one will ever be a replacement for Maddie… No one. But her little brother or sister will grow up knowing that they had an amazing sister. I’m sure your Maddie is already looking over her little brother or sister right now.
Congratulations to you both!
b*babbler´s last blog ..A man, merely a man
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Amber says:
Wow! That is amazing! Maddie will always be a central part of your family and I know she is watching over her new baby sister/brother right now. Praying that all goes well for your pregnancy.
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KG says:
Heather and Mike… what wonderful news! This new baby will have an angel follwing him/her forever. Best of luck, congratulations, and endless prayers coming your way.
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Eileen Jay says:
Oh, my! I’m all misty-eyed after reading this. This is SO wonderful to hear. I’m sorry you have to do those daily injections. I know this is going to be painfully bitter sweet, and I’m sure you’re going to feel scared all the time. I wish you the best and a healthy pregnancy. One day at a time…
Congratulations to you and your family
Be well,
xoxo, Eileen.
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Kristi F says:
Congratulations!
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Tina says:
Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So happy for you!!! I will be praying for you!
Tina´s last blog ..Let’s Celebrate!
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Jenny in IL says:
Congratulations! I will be praying you to have a happy and healthy nine months. I know it will be so hard not being able to share this new little one with Maddie. But you do get to share Maddie with the baby and that will be wonderful. Hope for many happy posts about Binky’s progress.
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Abby says:
Heather, you are so strong, it’s unbelievable to me. Congrats and please keep writing about this!
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Kathy says:
You are always on my mind. My sister lost Cassie,a full term stillborn baby girl, and you cannot compare that you had darling Maddie to love for so much longer, but she was still devasted. When she got pregnant with our Gaby girl –I felt like Gaby saved my life with a renewed breath. My sister, not so much, she felt so guilty yet for loving her when she couldn’t stop thinking of Cassie. I told her don’t worry…my mom and I would love Gaby so much that Gaby wouldn’t know her mom was working something out…and it took a couple of months, and a lot of prayer, but they are closer now than ever. And of course Gaby knows and loves her sister..and even went through a point in her life where she’d cry and say “I miss Cassidy”, which was darling, as she’d never even met her…but Gaby is 10 now, and the whole family still honors Cassidy. I think all of us here will love Maddie forever, without taking anything away from either of your children. God Bless your family. Kathy
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Julia says:
Congrats to you, Mike, and most of all, big sister Maddie! Thoughts and love being sent your way.
Julia´s last blog ..One week!
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Jamie says:
What wonderful news. <3 Good luck and prayers and best wishes going out for an uneventful nine months.
Jamie´s last blog ..What’s For Dinner-Week of July 19th
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cindy w says:
OMG OMG OMG! I’m sitting here crying for you guys. Of course the whole thing is bittersweet and scary and a hundred other emotions. But can I say? I am so, so happy for y’all.
Also, is it weird if I tell you I’m pulling for a January 27th arrival? (That’s Catie’s birthday.)
Love y’all. So much.
cindy w´s last blog ..mental photograph
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Lisa says:
Wow, Heather, this post just completely took my breath away and brought tears to my eyes. Congratulations. I know it may be a bit bittersweet. “Binky” has quite the little guardian angel to watch out for him/her. I wish you all the best with this pregnancy, I’m so happy for you.
Lots of love and hugs.
Lisa´s last blog ..Friends of Maddie
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Margie says:
Many, many, many congratulations. Your little Binky already has an angel watching over him/her.
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Jen says:
what a blessing!!!!!
Yet again you bring tears to my eyes!
Many congratulations!
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SusieO says:
I am cautiously happy for you both… and can understand the mixed feelings… so overwhelming. We are here and I have no doubt that you will need us more rather than less as the new life in you grows. Prayers and wishes for a healthy pregnancy and new baby. MUCH love now and always!
SusieO´s last blog ..Beware the Wild Jungle Yak
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sam {temptingmama} says:
I can’t even begin to tell you how very happy I am for you and Mike!! For your whole family.
Binky is one lucky little baby to have Madeline as a big sister. A big sister that will be with him / her all the time, anywhere they go. That’s a very special gift.
As bittersweet as this is, let nothing take away your happiness. You two deserve to be happy. I think Maddie agree.
Love you always!
sam {temptingmama}´s last blog ..Why friends probably shouldn’t work together (Read: Shit, we really need an accountant)
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Erika says:
Heather and Mike..
Ive been a blog follower of yours for quite some time now and with this big news I just had to reply and say a big CONGRATULATIONS on the upcoming arrival of your second miracle. What a Blessing. I wish you all the best and please know that by having another baby you will NEVER be replacing your precious Maddie, but like you said, just giving her a brother or sister. God Bless!
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Ashley says:
Congratulations, what a blessing! I will be praying for a healthy pregnancy and healthy baby.
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Tricia (irishsamom) says:
WOW! I have tears in my eyes. I have hope in my heart. I will keep you in my prayers every day. Much love and many hugs,
Tricia (irishsamom)xoxoxoxo ((((((HUG))))))
Tricia (irishsamom)´s last blog ..Grieving
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Midwest Mommy says:
I am so happy for you! Oh and btw THANK YOU for giving these doctors names I can remember. I could never keep it straight if I had to learn their real jobs!
Praying for Binky and you and Mike!
Midwest Mommy´s last blog ..You learn something new each day…
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jenni williams says:
Heather,
I burst into tears as soon as I read this. First of all CONGRATS! Because this is amazing news. I am incredibly happy for you.
I am also heartbroken. I am sure you are a tornado of emotions.
Blinky will have Maddie, a perfect angel big sister looking over her forever.
jenni williams´s last blog ..Not so Wordless Wednesday: Boo Boo, the Story
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Deborah says:
Oh, I’m so HAPPY for you! I can only imagine the mixed feelings this must be bringing to you and Mike, in addition to all the other feelings you feel each and every day. I will be hoping and praying hard for you every single day. Any sane person knows that this does not mean you are “over” Maddie. You will never be “over” your daughter, the love of your life. What a wonderful, yet mixed, blessing this is.
Deborah´s last blog ..New Etsy Listings
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Adventures In Babywearing says:
OH MY GOSH! This is wonderful wonderful happy news. I will continue to pray for your heart and mind during this time. I’m sure Maddie is thrilled.
Steph
Adventures In Babywearing´s last blog ..Softly, Mother
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amy says:
Congrats! Prayers for you and Binky. May you find joy in this crazy time and may your pregnancy go well.
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robyn says:
This is wonderful news, even as we all know that you will never be “over” Maddie. Wishing you a blessed and uneventful pregnancy.
robyn´s last blog ..Because I’m Obsessed With This Song Lately…
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Jennifer, Playgroups are no place for children says:
Oh my god, I’m crying! I’m so happy for you and crossing every appendage and praying and hoping for a healthy pregnancy, and of course a healthy baby.
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Middle-Aged-Woman says:
You’ve already made it through the hardest thing possible. I have a good feeling for you, Mike, Binky, and big sister watching over all.
Middle-Aged-Woman´s last blog ..Living With Teenagers Quiz
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jenni williams says:
Er I meant Binky, not Blinky trying to type while half awake and bawling doesnt work so well.
jenni williams´s last blog ..Not so Wordless Wednesday: Boo Boo, the Story
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Colleen says:
WOW! Such amazing news. Maddie will ALWAYS be a big sister and though they won’t be together physically, there is no question that there will be a bond there once Binky is introduced to his/her big sister. I’m so incredibly happy for both of you. Binky could not be getting a better mommy and daddy. I’m sure I speak for everyone when I say we are with you on this journey!
Congratulations!
Colleen
Colleen´s last blog ..One of THOSE Kids
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PrincessJenn says:
Love you guys so much. Am so happy for you and this new baby.
PrincessJenn´s last blog ..Still Alive
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Mindy says:
I am so happy for you and Mike! I will keep you both in my prayers and “Binky” daily! Just think, Maddie may already know “Binky” and will be his/her guardian angel!!!
Blessings!
Mindy
Mindy´s last blog ..I take it all back….
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Alison Percival says:
I am overjoyed for you both! I can really understand that this news must bring so many mixed emotions, joy and yet sadness, hope and regret. Your beautiful Maddie will never ever be forgotten. Sending you lots of love from across the sea in the UK.
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Jenni says:
Congratulations to you and Mike. I’m sitting here crying at my desk, they are a mixture of happy and sad tears, but I am thankful there are some happy tears mixed in there!
Jenni in Ohio
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Mindy says:
soooo many congratulations and hugs coming your way. no sibling will ever replace maddie, but you have enough love to give to another. so happy for you!
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Shash says:
I am so excited for you and Mike! Mazel Tov to you both!
Shash´s last blog ..How a CrazedMommy cleans her child’s room
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ali (adil320) says:
Oh my gosh! Congrats and much luck with Binky!! Binky baby will have the best angel on her shoulder ever.
much love lady!
ali (adil320)´s last blog ..Follow Friday the Blog Edition Part 2
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joyce says:
I am so so happy for you and your husband. I will keep your Binky in my prayers until she/he is safe in your arms!
joyce´s last blog ..Because I should post something…
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Marinka says:
my best wishes to you all. This is wonderful news.
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Trisha says:
What wonderful news! I suspected you might be pregnant. There were a few posts that made me wonder about it. I will be praying for a healthy arrival of Binky just as I pray for you, Mike, and Maddie every night.
Please know that all your “stranger” friends and friends “in real life” are all in this for the long haul. We will always be here for you.
Across the thousands of miles, I find myself checking in daily to see how you are doing.
(((HUGS))) from your friend in Florida
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Melissa says:
Congratulations! I know this is a bittersweet time, but I will be praying that you can both find peace and happiness in this new journey! Keep us posted… and remember to take care of yourself and the new baby!!
Melissa´s last blog ..The Last Push
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Sugar Jones says:
Oh Heather… you’ve been blessed! Congratulations to you guys.
Sugar Jones´s last blog ..ME? Talk About Work Life Balance?
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Rachel says:
Congratulations! I know the new addition will love hearing stories about her amazing big sister. My prayers go out for a safe, healthy pregnancy!
Rachel
A devoted follower in Nashville
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Karin says:
I lost my daughter when I was 6 months pregnant with my son, had a one yr old and a two yr old. The pregnancy helped me move forward at whatever pace I wanted. Some days were good – other’s -not so good. But I never forgot those cherished memories/moments of my daughter’s life and today, still incorporate them into all my children’s lives. My living children are now 22, 23, and 24.
Maddie made you realize how much we can love another and “the power of love”- You’ll carry her memory with you everywhere and in every detail of life.
Eath healthy – and often. Catch sleep whenver you can. Listen to your Dr’s, and find your center -it is there for you.
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wn says:
Such joyous yet bittersweet news. Congratulations to all, we will wait wit baited breath until Binky makes his/her arrival.
wn´s last blog ..St. Andrews
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Bridget says:
I told Marshall I thought you were! Back when you were having all your “lady bidness” exams months ago! And then when they identified the clot disorder…
I am so excited for you guys!
And heartbroken at the same time. I can’t even begin to imagine how hard this is.
I know you’ll never be “over” losing Maddie. We don’t expect you to; we don’t want you to. She’s beautiful, wonderful and amazing. She changed you, and she changed the world. We won’t forget.
Bridget´s last blog ..Mouthwatering Monday: Peach Pie
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Kate says:
I can’t imagine how complicated all of your feelings must be about this, my heart goes out to you both.
At the same time – it is very exciting – another new little life for two wonderful parents to love….not a replacement, an addition! Sincere and heartfelt congratulations to you! Keeping you in my thoughts!
Kate´s last blog ..Yum
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Connie says:
I can’t imagine the spectrum of emotions you go through on a daily basis…. I am so happy for you and at the same time sad that miss Maddie will never know Binky. Congratulations and I so look forward to hearing more!
Connie´s last blog ..My next project!
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jen says:
congratulations … i’m on the same road right now (expecting the newest little in early february) – but with obviously less needles at this point. that sounds rough … but very comforting to know that so many are helping you make sure that all goes smoothly.
and … i’m pretty sure that any baby entering that household of yours is going to KNOW maddie quite well. but it’s up to you to make sure it happens. and you will. i’m pretty sure of it.
jen´s last blog ..i {heart} faces … pets (kinda)
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Whitney says:
Congratulations Heather! So bittersweet, but a miracle nonetheless. Maddie is watching down and smiling.
Whitney´s last blog ..quite fruity
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Emma says:
You deserve the joy Binky will bring. Wishing you all the best in your pregnancy.
Emma´s last blog ..Good/bad/good
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Jennifer L says:
I could not have received better news this morning. Congrats on your pregnancy. He or she will be a perfect additions to your already perfect family, and what luck to get his/hers very own guardian angel. Like several others have said, I, too suspected you were preggers, without having any evidence other than a feeling. Will be hoping and praying for you even more now. Love to all from Jenn in atlanta.
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Heather says:
Wow. Life works in the most mysterious ways. And it’s in moments like these that I am in awe of life.
You’ve been through an experience that has plunged you into the deepest, darkest places, and at the same time, you’ve been blessed with something that will help bring you into the light again.
Obviously Maddie will never be forgotten, and you’ll never stop missing her. But I congratulate you on your pregnancy. It’s the greatest news that could come from you guys at this point. So happy.
Sending you good thoughts and prayers for a healthy, LONG, and uneventful pregnancy!
Heather´s last blog ..Peach Sorbet
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Kate says:
Oh. My. God. CONGRATULATIONS to you two.
Anybody with a lick of sense will know better than to think you’re ‘over’ Maddie or ‘replacing’ her. And anyone who doesn’t realize that is too stupid to acknowledge.
Kate´s last blog ..Pretend I’m wearing one of those old-timey green visors
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Maria Delgado says:
This baby will be such a beautiful blessing. I just know it!
Maria Delgado´s last blog ..Does anyone still read this?
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Kim says:
Congratulations. I got pregnant one month after my oldest died. It was a great time of healing and grieving and excitement and apprehension and and and…
I hope to meet you at BlogHer so I can give you a hug in person.
Kim´s last blog ..Smooshies!
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melissa says:
congratulations!
what a wonderful way to start my day! knowing that something incredible has happened to two people who couldn’t deserve it more!
mazel tov.
melissa´s last blog ..But Pigs Aren’t Kosher, So I Don’t Have To Worry About The Swine Flu
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AMomTwoBoys says:
And now I’m all teary, AGAIN.
I CAN NOT WAIT to meet Binky in person, and to bring you an ice cold Guinness at the hospital.
Also, rest assured that I’ll take care of drinking for you for the next 6ish months.
Love you. Love Mike. Love Maddie. Love Binky.
xoxo
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vhmprincess says:
I could not be happier for you!! This is such wonderful news – here’s hoping for an easy pregnancy! And thank you for sharing!
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m says:
so beautiful. congratulations. of course maddie will always be remembered.
out of death comes new life…
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Jenny from Mommin' It Up! says:
congratulations, Heather! Wishing you a safe pregnancy and lots of joy in your 2nd child. We won’t forget Maddie or the joy she brought you.
Jenny from Mommin’ It Up!´s last blog ..FREE is the New Black!
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Heather @ Not a DIY Life says:
Congratulations! When we became pregnant the 2nd time, we were also mourning the loss of a child, although over a year had passed since we lost her. I totally relate to your emotions right now. Anxious, excited, worried, happy, queasy.
Even though Maddie won’t be here to enjoy her sibling and be a big sister, you will certainly keep her a part of your daily lives for Binky to grow up knowing he/she has a wonderful big sister.
Heather @ Not a DIY Life´s last blog ..Change: It’s Difficult
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Lisa says:
Congratulations Heather and Mike! I am hoping and praying for a healthy, uneventful pregnancy for you and then for a healthy, uneventful labor, although what an event that will be!
Lisa´s last blog ..Random Thoughts- July Edition
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Jen says:
Wow. Congrats… and I hope the pregnancy is uneventful and as happy as can be for you!
Jen´s last blog ..weekly winners, volume 18
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Z says:
Congratulations!
I am sure your emotions are bounding all over the place right now, going from one extreme to the other and back again. This is so exciting, so nerve-wracking, so bittersweet and beautiful… As always, you know that you have an entire internet community out here to listen as your thoughts swing back-and-forth, to listen and love you (“you” being plural, your entire family!) and try to support in whatever way possible!
Z´s last blog ..my boys
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marty says:
You will always be the mother of two (or more!). I’m so happy for you and Mike and will add your new little one to the prayer we say for you nightly.
I’m due at the end of January too
marty´s last blog ..Welcome to the world, Rena Rose
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Tammy says:
Congratulations! I like the thoughts that others have left saying perhaps this baby was handpicked by Maddie. The new baby is a miracle and a blessing. Congratulations again!
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Expat Mom says:
I’m happy for you. I know it’s sad at the same time, but you do need the joy that a child brings to your life, particularly now. It doesn’t mean that you miss or love Maddie any less, but I bet she is thrilled that you will have a little one to hold in your arms once more.
Best of luck, I will be praying that you have a full, safe pregnancy and that this new little one is born healthy and strong.
Expat Mom´s last blog ..All About Poop (or, Not For the Squeamish)
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melissa says:
WOW! Congratulations! Ok now the tears are streaming. Maddie will never be forgotton, ever and I’m sure she’ll be watching over little Binky every step of the way.
I wish you a happy & healthy pregnancy. Love & Hugs to you and Mike.
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Sim says:
WOW, I am so happy for you and Mike,
nobody will ever think that you are over Maddie.
Don’t even concern yourself with this thought.
Maddie for ever be in her parents mind and all of us
for that matter.
take good care of yourself and Congratulation.
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Tia says:
Oh sweetheart, I’m so happy that the pregnancy is going well. I can’t imagine the emotions your feeling. Mourning the loss of one while you celebrate the other.
This baby will never ever be without love in it’s life. It truly is a blessing from above. And you guys are really due for a few!
And thanks for making me cry at work on a Monday, happy tears and Maddie tears!
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Heather says:
Nobody or nothing will ever take the place of your beautiful Maddie, but know that I am sending you, Mike AND Maddie big congrats on this new baby. I am constantly praying for the 3 of you, and now for gorgeous beautiful Binky.
Don’t want to sound preachy or anything but there is a book by Elizabeth McCracken called An Exact Replica of a Figment of My Imagination, which tells the true story of her first child being stillborn, and the birth of her 2nd child, it’s a beautiful, sad story.
I pray for you especially, being a mom myself to 2 little ones, I can’t imagine, but it is wonderful that you are under such wonderful care, perinatologists were my best friends during my 2nd pregnancy.
Maddie is watching over you all and Binky, she’s truly Binky’s guardian angel.
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Beth says:
Congratulations, what an amazing gift!
Beth´s last blog ..Cotton Candy Cupcakes
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Yvonne says:
While Maddie may not know her sibling, I know this child of yours will come know Maddie, and the wonderful sister she would have been. Praying for you, Heather
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Nat W. says:
Though Maddie won’t know her little bro/sis, I have no doubt that ya’ll will make Binky knows Maddie very well. Congratulations and fingers crossed that this pregnancy goes well
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Cute~Ella says:
Heather and Mike (and Family!)
This is a fantastic way to start a week. Congratulations! My thoughts are with you guys – always.
Try to enjoy this as much as you can. Maddie is watching over all of you now.
Oh, I’m so happy for you guys!
Cute~Ella
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Jen L. says:
Congratulations! Keeping your family in my prayers, as always.
Jen L.´s last blog ..In Which We Clean Out The Fridge…Again
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Momo Fali says:
My step-sister lost her daughter, Madison,when she was just 11 months old and when they ended up pregnant not long after Madison’s death, she worried what people would say. None of that mattered once Kaitlyn was born. She has been an immense blessing to my step-sister and her husband. She will never replace our Maddie, but she helped our family get through some very tough times.
Momo Fali´s last blog ..Getting to Know Me: Bag o’ Meds Edition
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Michelle@Everyday Celebrating says:
omg. I’m tearing up! That news just absolutely thrills me.
Hope I can meet you at BlogHer!
Michelle
http://www.everydaycelebrating.com
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Fraulicious says:
Heather and Mike, I was very happy to read your news. I know it’s bitter-sweet, but I hope in time it will be much more sweet than biter. I’m sure Maddie is happy for you, too. I’m glad you are in such good medical care and very much hope for a healthy and uneventful pregnancy and birth for you.
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Tara @ Feels like home says:
Praying for you now more than ever. May God give your doctors wisdom, and may that baby stay in there for a good long time.
Congratulations!
Tara @ Feels like home´s last blog ..Watergate Salad
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Madge says:
Congragulations! You are in our prayers and thoughts!
Madge´s last blog ..Vacation recap. OK I’m ranting
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Allison says:
Congratulations to your family! I will continue to keep you all in my prayers!
Allison´s last blog ..Try not to laugh…
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kelly says:
Heather,
OB/Gyn is my bag. Remember that this pregnancy does NOT have to mirror your previous pregnancy. Plus, now you have a little angel watching over you and her sibling.
One day at a time…
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Rachel says:
Congratulations to two people who truly deserve the honor of being parents. I have never written before, only read and shared your emotions, but I am grateful that two people who were so appreciative of being parents and what it means should get another opportunity. You will continue to be in my thoughts.
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Jen says:
What exciting and amazing news! I’m sure Maddie is smiling now that the blogging world has news of her sibling!
Jen´s last blog ..It’s a girl!
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mumby says:
Oh, I’m so happy to be sharing HAPPY tears with you! Congratulations! I am SO happy for you!!! Blessings.
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Suebob says:
Congratulations! What happy news. I’m sending good thoughts and prayers for an easy pregnancy and delivery and for a wonderful new addition to the Spohr family.
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cindyfey says:
So Happy For You! Congratulations and best wishes.
cindyfey´s last blog ..Cool New Finds
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Kelley Land says:
I’m overjoyed both about Friends of Maddie and your news of little Binky! I can’t imagine walking your journey, but I’m so grateful you continue to share it with us. My prayers and good thoughts are with you always.
Kelley Land´s last blog ..Why (part 1)
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Aisha says:
I think that rushing sound you’re hearing right now is the entire Internet tripping over themselves to give you and Mike a hug.
You two will be in my prayers. Congrats.
Aisha´s last blog ..Do the loopy dance for me
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Dana says:
I’m so happy for you both but I know the conflicting feelings you must be going thru. I think Maddie sent this sibling to you and will watching over you all the entire time! I’m also on blood thinners (Heparin) for my pregnancy right now and I’m going thru all the high risk monitoring that you are so I know how that is! I’m also due at the end of January
Congrat’s again, I couldn’t be happier for you, Mike and Rigby!!! You’re an amazing person and deserve all the happiness in the world.
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Megan says:
Congratulations…and please continue to give us updates! I am so happy for you guys and will keep you in my thoughts every day with the hope that this works out. I cannot think of any couple more deserving of parenthood.
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Chicky Chicky Baby says:
Many congratulations and good wishes for you guys. This will be a well loved baby.
Chicky Chicky Baby´s last blog ..The search for the perfect pair of jeans. Alternate title: The grass is always greener on someone else’s thighs.
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Molly says:
Congratulations, Heather. I can’t imagine the spectrum of emotions you’re experiencing now. Binky will be absolutely blessed with wonderful parents and a beautiful big sister looking after her.
Although I think of your family daily now, I’ll be thinking of you even more often–I’m due to deliver our baby at the same time and will think of you with all of the big and small pregnancy milestones.
Keeping you in my thoughts for a healthy Binky and some healing for you and Mike,
Molly
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Susan says:
Amazing – congrats. Take care of you…..
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Jane says:
Thank you for sharing this wonderful news. I am elated for the two of you, and glad to read that you’ve got all the docs in place, etc. In addition to my prayers for your peace (is that even possible?) — and for some measure of happiness in each one of your days, I will add prayers for this new little one. I can only imagine that if he or she is 1/1000th as sweet as your Maddie, you will be very very blessed.
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Lindsey says:
What amazing news! Congrats to the whole family.
Lindsey´s last blog ..I in my kerchief and Dave in his sink….
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Dawn @ Coming to a Nursery Near You says:
Wow – congratulations and lots of happy, healthy pregnancy vibes!
Dawn @ Coming to a Nursery Near You´s last blog ..Will you stay or will you go?
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Lauren says:
I am so happy for you! As I read your blog a huge lump developed in my throat with excitement and anticipation. I know how anxious you must feel, and will be praying for a healthy pregnancy all the way through. Congratulations!!
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Jenny says:
Keeping you in our prayers
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Susan D. says:
Congratulations on your wonderful news. Sending you lots of good thoughts!
Susan D.´s last blog ..Operation Sippy Cup, Day One
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Leslie says:
Oh, Heather, I’m so thrilled for you, Mike, and your families. I can’t even imagine the rollercoaster of feelings you’re experiencing. You and Mike are WONDERFUL parents with so much love to give and Binky will be born with a beautiful guardian angel over his/her little shoulder. You know, as I was reading the comments to your post this morning, I couldn’t help but think–if you could “see” all of the people who care about you and support you in real life and over the internet, you and Mike would be like the guy from the Verizon commercials.
We’d be following you two everywhere!
So, congratulations, this is truly wonderful news and I can’t wait to hear about your new journey. I’m sure Maddie is smiling down on you both.
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DESERA says:
Congratulations and I’m praying that all will go well for you…you SO deserve it! I pray for your family on my way to work every morning, asking God to somehow give you peace.
God Bless you all!
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Dawn says:
Dawn´s last blog ..Waiting till the last minute: all about the Room 704 Party.
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Overflowing Brain (Katie) says:
Congratulations! I know it’s emotionally difficult, but I hope that this pregnancy goes quickly and smoothly and that you get to savor it some. Or something mushy that means that. I’m not good at this.
Congratulations, again.
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Rash says:
I have been reading your blog for a long time but this is my first posting …Congratulations!!! Wishing you a Happy…Healthy and Uneventful pregnancy !!
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Stacey says:
Congrats!!!! What a miracle. I truely believe that Maddy had a hand in that. I am sure she is watching over you and her little brother and sister to make sure you both are safe.
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RookieMom Heather says:
Congrats Heather, we were thinking about you yesterday and having our toes painted purple. I have nothing profound to say, but I wanted to pipe in. You’re going to get so many hugs this weekend.
RookieMom Heather´s last blog ..Links for the weekend
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Dawn says:
Congratulations! Take care of yourself and Binky.
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Chris in NY says:
Congratulations to you both…..Here’s wishing for an uneventful, average pregnancy!
I’ve never been in your shoes, but I get it. I get that you’re probably thrilled, scared, nervous, terrified, happy, sad, angry, etc. Hopefully, you’ll be able to see through the fear and sadness and find some of the joy in this pregnancy. My heart is with you.
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Debi says:
Hi Heather and Mike,
I have been reading your blog for some time and even though your heart aches for Maddie, just think that Binky was chosen for you by Maddie and they both already know each other. My prayers are with you that this pregnancy will go great.
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Katie says:
Omg. Shocked to read this, and totally, totally happy for you. I can’t even imagine your feelings, and I know nothing will ever make you “better” or “over Maddie”, ever. But I am glad that you guys have something to hold on to, and maybe at least take you out of your deep, dark place. I will pray so hard for everything to be okay, that the baby will be born healthy and full term. I’m so glad that you discovered your clotting disorder and I can’t wait for you to meet Binky. Maddie will know her sibling.
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Gillian says:
Congratulations to you both! Wonderful.
Hugs, love, cheers, and sympathy-exhaustion beaming out at you from our family.
Be well!
Gillian´s last blog ..This Slogan Could Also Incorporate My Self Since College
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Lisa says:
Congratulations. You will be in our prayers as this baby grows and as you continue to grieve over Maddie.
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Keri says:
Heather – here’s hoping no one ever ever says you’re “over maddie” or “moving on” by bringing another child into your family. If they do, (even though Id ont know you) I will personally come and smack them for you.
I suspect that Maddie had a part of this step in your lives. I will be thinking of you and praying for a smooth pregnancy.
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Amy says:
Of course, no one could ever replace Maddie. Ever. The people who love you will know this and will continue to be gentle with you and try to help you grieve.
Even though she’s irreplaceable, I hope that as this new life grows, your heart will find a new way of healing.
And I hope your second child will have a smile that lights up the darkness, just like your first child had.
Congratulations!
Amy´s last blog ..Comprehensive BlogHer Packing List
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Megan says:
Great new. Bittersweet for you, I’m sure, but great news. Every baby is a blessing.
Megan´s last blog ..Pray…
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Tara says:
I’m so happy for you both!
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Dana says:
There are no words to describe my happiness for you, even though my heart is still saddened by Maddie’s passing.
Reading this post just makes me sob; tears of joy and the other kind as well.
Congratulations.
And also, my prayers are still with you. Always.
Dana´s last blog ..Twenty-Seven Weeks: Thinking About Labor & Delivery
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Miss Grace says:
Love to you! Much love.
Miss Grace´s last blog ..Sunday Driving
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Michellew_ says:
Incredible! Congrats!
I couldn’t think of better news to wake up to.
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Michelle Smiles says:
I can’t imagine the bittersweet joy of this for your family. Sending you good thoughts for an uneventful pregnancy.
Michelle Smiles´s last blog ..Salsa for dummies
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Mary says:
I think Maddie knows Binky. I think she’ll be watching over Binky until it’s time to pass Binky on into your and Mike’s arms. Binky will know all about the wonderful big sister Maddie. Best wishes and lots of prayers as you travel on this journey. Again I offer all the love and support I can send your way.
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Angella says:
Oh, wow. Awesome.
Congratulations you guys. Praying for you. xoxo
Angella´s last blog ..World On Fire
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NYCity Mama says:
Congratulations! I can understand how bittersweet your emotions must be right, but what an amazing gift. My thoughts and prayers go out to you both.
NYCity Mama´s last blog ..Rockefeller Center, NY
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AidoElleMom says:
Having followed you every day since learning of precious Maddie’s passing, I am so very happy for you and Mike. This baby, who is such a blessing, will never take the place of Maddie. but he or she will be born into a family so full of love it is tangible. I wish you nothing but the very best for the pregnancy. I am cheering for you here in Ottawa!
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Tracy F says:
Wishing you a healthy pregnancy! Congratulations on the wonderful news. Stay positive. I believe that Maddie will pick the perfect baby for you and send him or her to you as a special gift.
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@sunnywalk says:
Don’t feel guilty for being unable to wildly celebrate this exciting news….we, your faithful readers, have got that covered.
Maddie is the something you can’t live without, and Binky is the something to live for. What an amazing gift. In the coming weeks, as you begin feel that precious baby I pray that your heart would be awakened with a new sense of hope…something, I imagine, you haven’t felt for some time.
God bless you.
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Theresa Reply:
July 20th, 2009 at 6:45 am
“Maddie is the something you can’t live without, and Binky is the something to live for. ”
Wonderfully put…this is what I was thinking and just couldn’t figure out how to say it. I love that sentiment.
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always home and uncool says:
That is great news. Best of luck to all three of you.
always home and uncool´s last blog ..And That’s The Way It Is
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Jasmin says:
My heart dropped to my stomach as I started reading your post, predicting what the announcement will be. Congratulations! I wish you a safe pregnancy and will continue to check daily to see how you are progressing. I can understand the conflicting emotions you may be feeling. I’m sure Maddie will be watching over your new baby as she watches over you and Mike.
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Theresa says:
I am praying for your family. This new baby will never replace Maddie. But hopefully he/she will bring some joy to your hearts. Much love and prayers are with you! Congrats on your little blessing. And my daughter (who is 3) loves to look at the pics of Maddie on here and she says “Mommy, she is beautiful!”
Theresa´s last blog ..Lucas Scott
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Heather says:
What an amazing gift- congratulations to you and Mike! I cannot even fathom the mixed emotions you both must be having now, but this child is such a blessing. S/he will never, ever replace your Maddie but hopefully s/he will bring some joy back into your world.
I hope your pregnancy and birth is completely uneventful- praying for you all!
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Christine says:
CONGRATS!!! you will all be in my thoughts and prayers!
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nic @mybottlesup says:
heather- i’m reading this post over and over and over again, tweeting meghan about your glorious news, and the only thing that keeps popping in my head is maddie saying, “WOW.”
i wish you health and “WOW”ness.
xoxo!
nic @mybottlesup´s last blog ..from 32,000 feet
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kristin says:
ok, I’m a stranger in Atlanta who in inexplicably crying after reading your post. I’m also pregnant, due on Jan 24, and I swear have had a hard time being excited about this pregnancy partly b/c I have been mourning for your family. I will continue to mourn for Maddie, but all of a sudden I also feel the biggest rush of love and gratitude for my pregnancy and yours. I hope you are able to do nothing but take care of yourself, remember your little girl, and take some comfort knowing that Maddie will live on through her unborn sibling/s. In the meantime, it gives this stranger much comfort to know that you will have a baby–YOUR baby–in your arms again soon. And I can’t imagine anyone assuming that the next baby will EVER replace Maddie, or make that ache disappear.
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maggie, dammit says:
Oh, wow. WOW.
Congratulations, guys. Much love your way.
maggie, dammit´s last blog ..I’ve been to Glen Rock, Black Rock, Little Rock, Oskaloosa, Tennessee, Hennessey, Chicopee, Spirit Lake, Grand Lake, Devils Lake, Crater Lake, for Pete’s sake.
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bessie.viola says:
Oh, I am crying. Congratulations! I am so, so happy for you and Mike. Wishing you the best on this journey.
(And as for my personal beliefs? Maddie’s getting to know her little brother or sister right now as he or she waits to be born. That’s just how it works in my mind.)
xoxo
bessie.viola´s last blog ..dank-ooo, mummy
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Dani Springett says:
I am so happy for you. Congratultions.
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Nickie says:
Congratulations to you both! I am so happy for you, and sad for you at the same time. You are both amazing people who deserve nothing but happiness and I hope this new baby will help you find that happiness again.
Much love to you, and prayers that everything goes well with this pregnancy. *hugs*
Nickie´s last blog ..Never say goodbye…
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D says:
Wow, I am really tearing up. This is wonderful news, congratulations and best of wishes. I will be here to offer my support.
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Lora says:
I know I am a total stranger, but I still wanted to say congratulations on this amazing news. Anyone who is truly a parent will understand that this in no way makes you “all better” or that you got pregnant to “replace” Maddie. But the two of you have too much love to give NOT to have more children, and it is a blessing to the world that you have decided to have more. This baby will know Maddie in their own way, and she will have a profound influence on their life.
Lora´s last blog ..Because, you know, I had nothing better to do.
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Karly says:
Congratulations! Nobody will ever replace Maddie, but hopefully Binky will help to heal your hearts just a little.
Karly´s last blog ..Things That You Should Know
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Nancy Onion says:
OMG…. Congratulations to you and Mike. I am so happy to hear of this good news for the two of you. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers( as i have done since reading your blogs)
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Just Shireen says:
Wow. Just. Wow.
Congratulations Heather and Mike!
Just Shireen´s last blog ..The One Where I Ignore My Blog Because I’m Boring
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punkinmama says:
Wow! Goosebumps!
Sending you much love and well wishes for a healthy pregnancy and baby.
Anyone who knows you will know that Binky could never replace Maddie, but I hope that Binky can fill a tiny part of the huge hole in your life. And Binky will always know of the huge force that is Maddie.
**Love & hugs**
punkinmama´s last blog ..wordless wednesday: pool time surprise
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Kate says:
Congratulations. What wonderful news.
A new baby will never take away your pain. A new baby will not make you whole or replace what you’ve lost. But a new baby can help you find light in the darkness.
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Kayla says:
I have never commented on your blog because what can one say when something so tragic happens. I have read every day and cried many times. Cried so many times I would have to look away and say a quick prayer for your family.
Now I feel like I have to comment after so many months of being a silent fan.
Congrats on your wonderful news. All will be well and I send you huge hugs from NJ.
Kayla
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Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] says:
WOW! HUUUUGE CONGRATS!!! We’re with you every step of the way.
Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing]´s last blog ..Aiming Low
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rachel says:
I like to think Maddie is putting together the baby as we speak, going up and down the little baby aisles, picking out the smiles, the little toes, and the heart that her little bro/sis will have. She is definitely playing a part!
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Theresa says:
Congrats and best wishes for a safe pregnancy and on the new baby!
I can only imagine how bittersweet it must be. There will be so many rollercoasters of emotions and milestones…so many happy moments tinged or taken over by sad what-could-have-beens. But I know this new little one will be loved and cherished and will never “replace” Maddie. I know you will find a way to be sure he/she knows what a wonderful and beautiful big sister he/she has watching over him/her!
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KB says:
I’m so happy for you!! Your new little one is going to have an angel watching over him/her for a lifetime. I’ll be praying for a healthy pregnancy and a healthy little baby this winter.
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Ramee says:
Thinking of you both and wrapping you in my prayers. I am elated at the news of this new miracle but I can only imagine how difficult it also is. Praying for a remarkable peace for you and Mike and for health in your body and the body of this new, precious life.
Ramee´s last blog ..Sweet Sunday.
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Miche@CoordinatedChaos says:
What a wonderful joy, to have a baby on the way! It is OK to be sad and happy at the same time, and the new baby will love hearing all about his/her big sister.
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kgirl says:
Wonderful, wonderful news. All the very best.
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Jenn says:
OHHH Heather! Your news made me cry even though I suspected you were pregnant. I have unfortunately have 3 friends who have all lost their babies – 2 at birth, one at 10 months old. I can tell you without a doubt Heather, when they all had their new babies, they were healed…not completely but it did heal them.
They all did have their moments of feeling guilty, fearful, sadness and they all wondered if they could possibily love their new baby as much as they loved their other child.
Just last week, my close girlfriend give birth to a healthy baby boy 11 month after we lost her precious daughter. As she cuddled him, she looked up at me and said “I hope the moment he was born, the Angels dancing….especially our Angel”! I hugged her and told I knew they were and Heather, I know they will when your new son or daughter will be born as well and Maddie will be right with them giggling, clapping her little hands and saying “WOW”!!!!
I wish I lived closer so I could somehow help you. If you need anything from “afar” PLEASe let me know and I will be there!
Thinking and praying for you, Mike, Maddie and the Binky. So looking forward to being able to be apart of this process with you!!!! I can’t wait to hear about the gender, the name choices, the nursery choices, etc. Personally, I think we should have an one line baby shower for you!
Thank you for sharing your amazing news! Your new baby is sooo lucky to call you mom and Mike, Daddy! How lucky he/she will be!!!
With joy and excitement,
Your Stranger Friend,
Jenn
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Catherine says:
Congratulations! Surely this baby has a special little angel watching over him or her. All the best.
Catherine´s last blog ..seven months
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Genie says:
Congratulations Heather and Mike! To say your emotions are all over the place must be the understatement of the year, but this is truly wonderful news. I’m crazy excited for you!
Genie´s last blog ..Living Out Loud volume 7: By any other name …
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Tracy (@redvu9395) says:
Congratulations! I know that Binky has an angel looking out for him/her, just like you and Mike have. I do believe that Maddie knows her sibling.
You are always in my thoughts and prayers.
*hugs*
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Kristabella says:
Congratulations sweetie! I’m so happy for you and Mike!
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kelly says:
Congratulations! I know Maddie had something to do with this!! She is a special girl! (not “was”)
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Emilie @ Doritos for Dinner says:
I am thrilled for you, and at the same time my heart breaks for you. Congratulations — can’t wait to hear all about Binky!
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Alli says:
Congratulations! Your new bundle of joy will be loved so much by you, Mike, and Maddie. He or she will have a very special angel always looking over them. And he or she will grow up with stories and pictures to see of their sister.
I will pray that this pregancy and birth goes smoothly!
~Hugs from TX
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pillarr1 says:
Hip Hip Hooray!!!! I am so happy! Having been in this situation too (high risk pregnancy) I can totally understand your worries. I counted down the weeks of my pregnancy and if I had ANY thing out of the ordinary I immediately went to hospital labor/delivery. I was so paranoid that I just skipped my doctor and went right into the hospital. This WILL be a good pregnancy for you. I am going to save this post and pull it up this time next year (when your baby is 6 months) to remind myself of how happy I am for you and your family. This calls for a super dance to Mighty B!!!! Go girl!!!
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Jean says:
Your two sweet babies surely are passing each other on the way in and the way out– knowing each other from the very beginning.
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Zandi says:
Oh my, how wonderful!! I read your Tweet and came flying over here, read your post, cried and proceeded to call text and post to all my friends that follow you as if it were a close friend of ours that just announced her pregnancy… because you ARE, even though you don’t know me or them. I don’t think ANYONE in their right mind would think you are “replacing” Maddie or going to be “all better” because of this, I think its a beautiful way to help you heal ( I know you’ll never be 100% healed) by giving your heart, mind and body something positive to focus on while you grieve. I totally believe Maddie’s spirit will be with Binky and has been from the moment he/she was conceived.
Yesterdays Tweet ” So Sad. Aching for my baby.” struck me , made my heart ache knowing your agony is bigger than I can imagine, but todays made my heart skip a beat for the Happy news. I think about your and Mikes hearts and how confused they must be aching and skipping at the same time, still hurting but happy and hopeful.
Congratulations, H&H 9mo 2 u.
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Giselle says:
Congratulations! I know Maddie will be watching over her sibling to make sure things go well!
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Karen says:
Congratulations! I’m so happy for you!
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Amanda says:
This is Maddie’s gift to you.
Congratulations and sending you all the best wishes for a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby.
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michelle says:
Oh… such wonderful news. Praying for you, thinking of you and elated for you.
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Jennifer says:
Oh Heather and Mike–CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!
I know your emotions must be all over the board right now–but I’m so happy for you!!
My sister had the same clotting disorder and once she was diagnosed and receiving the same treatment as you (injections in the stomach, monitoring, etc.) everything was fine.
Wishing the very very best foir you guys!!!
Jennifer´s last blog ..My Day In Haiku
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Laura Fisk says:
Congratulations to you guys. I am so happy for you guys and feel that your little Maddie is smiling from above.
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Kristen says:
Congratulations! I am so happy for you both, and I know that your thoughts are everywhere – but this is a blessing and I know that Maddie is watching over you (the three of you – well, 4, sorry Rigby!). Wishing you the best, can’t wait to get more on Binky!
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Nadine says:
I really hope and wish that you have a healthy pregnancy! This is great news and I am thinking of you!
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Amber says:
How fantastic! My thoughts and prayers are with you. Maddie would have loved this!
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Courtney says:
How wonderful, a little miracle! I hope everything continues to go fine! God Bless.
Courtney in New York
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daysgoby says:
SQUEE! For a new baby!
And my God, how hard this must be for you.
Thinking of y’all and wishing you joy.
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3carnations says:
Congratulations! How special for your new little one that she has her own personal angel for a big sister.
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Amanda says:
Heather,
I am so happy for you and Mike and will keep you both in my prayers every night. I believe that the new miracle will have Maddie as a guardian angel. All my best.
Amanda´s last blog ..The Letter “V”
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samantha jo campen says:
I’m totally crying at my desk! Congratulations and all the blessings in the world!
samantha jo campen´s last blog ..Like Jaws, but cuter
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Mary Helen says:
I know it will be a bittersweet event, but how wonderful. I’m so happy for you. It sounds like you’re in good hands.
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Maggie says:
Wow, just wow. I’m so happy for you both…I can’t imagine the heartache combined with the utter joy, but hopefully you will always be able to see this as Maddie’s parting gift to you. Perhaps she gave you a new baby to help you carry on without her, knowing her memory would always be deep in your hearts.
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Meghan Carroll says:
Congratulations! I will keep you guys in my thoughts and prayers!
Meghan Carroll´s last blog ..We Have Started!!!
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Mary says:
Prior to seeing this posting I got a request on facebook to join the Friends of Maddie page. The word of her life is making its way around the world. When I saw it I thought that through your unthinkable tragedy Maddie is saving other families and children. Her legacy is clearly going to live on forever and help others. Isn’t that we all want from our lives? Even though I don’t know you the thought of Binky growing up not knowing Maddie is horrific. However, through your Blogs and the legacy that she has Binky will know him/her. Congratulations on the new addition and you guys are in all of our thoughts.
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Amber Mc says:
Well. That’s just great. I already spend all my time praying/thinking for/of you guys and now I just have to do it more. Geez. (Do we all know I’m being sarcastic?)
CONGRATS! I’m so happy about this! You have the power of the Internets behind you. We will all be behind you.
Take good care of yourself!
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Lolita says:
Wow. Amazing news. Hugs!
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Christina says:
Wow, that is great news, your new little one will have a special angel keeping her eye on him or her.
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Patty says:
Tears of joy in my eyes for you both right now! I know this baby will in NO WAY “replace” Maddie… no one ever could do this. I will say, though, that your family is overdue for some happiness, so take it and enjoy this beautiful gift from God. I also have to say that I truly believe with all of my heart that Maddie DOES know her little sibling, even before you! And I know you will never let this baby not know his/her big sister! Congratulations to you both!!!
Patty´s last blog ..A brighter day
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Melina says:
Oooooo! I wondered, when you were talking about going to the doctors and such, a little while back.
I’m hoping and praying that this is a healthy and successful pregnancy. I wish I knew you in RL, I’d hug you to pieces right now..:)
Melina´s last blog ..The one with Laura Nimbach
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Sheila says:
congratulations. I’m so glad your drs are watching you close. Lots of good vibes for a healthy pregnancy and birth. Your new little one will grow up with the best guardian angel watching over her and always know about her big sister.
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Alexandra says:
Beautiful news. I will be praying for you, and checking on you daily.
Maddie is in there with you.
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chatty cricket says:
Oh Heather. I am so happy for you, so heartbroken for you. Amazing, and I’m praying for you and Mike.
chatty cricket´s last blog ..and THEN they all fall out.
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Ceece says:
wow! Congrats and hopefully everything will go well!
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Katie in WI says:
Oh, wow.
Awesome I think.
Grow, Binky, grow!
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Ari says:
Oooh I had a hunch, from something you said a while back. Still, congratulations… I don’t think anyone will think that you’re “over Maddie”. Ugh.
Best of luck with this pregnancy!
Ari´s last blog ..Ok, ok… I get the point already.
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Heather says:
We’ll all be holding our breath along with you for a healthy 9 mines! I am sure the professionals learned alot from your first pregnancy and this is Maddie’s gift to the new baby!
I’m due in November, so we’ll have babies close in age.
Congratulations!
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Heather says:
That’s amazing! Best of luck through everything.
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Dixie says:
Many, many friends are hoping and praying for nothing but the best for all of you. Add my name to that list.
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Vicky says:
I am so happy for you. You continue to be in my prayers.
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Alicia says:
I am so happy for you and your husband!! Congratulations! I will continue to pray for you and your family and look forward to hearing about the healthy arrival of your little one!
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Sarah says:
Congratulations!
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annettek says:
Oh wow. I am so happy for you and so sad for you at the same time. Congratulations on the new baby. Of course he/she will never replace Maddie, Maddie was a one of a kind. You are such an amazing woman and mother, and I have no doubt there is room in your heart for another.
annettek´s last blog ..all the stars
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Vicky says:
Congratulations! I hope you will have an uneventful pregnancy ( uneventful as it can be seeing all those docs) and that you will enjoy the excitement that goes along with expecting. Enjoy the anticipation of a new life while loving and grieving for Maddie.Take good care of yourself and go one day at a time.
Thinking of you and Mike!
Vicky
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Kate says:
Such amazing news, congratulations. Your beautiful angel will be giving you all sorts of support to bring Binky into the world healthy (and I’m sure he/she will have at least a little bit of Maddie’s mischief
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Erin (@erinjeany) says:
awww brought tears to my eyes. congrats. im sure Maddie is sharing in your joy, keeping her sibiling company until his/her debut. we’re still praying for you! xoxox ~the pyle’s
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Nichole says:
I am so happy for you, congratulations
I know that it is very hard and a subsequent pregnancy is always hard and it will feel like a long 40 weeks. Our daughter was born 17 months after we lost Liam, it was very hard but in some way her birth made losing him bearable and we were able to smile again, behind every cloud there is the sun………
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Hanna says:
Oh wow! Congratulations to your family! I’ve wanted to write for a while, as you and I are in some very superficial ways similar. I just turned 30, I have a 22 month old daughter, live in OC, and worked at NPI at UCLA while you were there, although we have never met. I am also due in early February – just heard the heart beat Friday. I have had all the luck you deserve, and so I send it to you as a small gift. With all my heart I send you as much luck as I possibly can, and crossed fingers, and positive vibes, and prayers.
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Kelly says:
So (cautiously, optimistically) thrilled for you guys. You seem to be in much better hands this time around, I hope that it makes a big difference.
You must be ecstatic and terrified… My head would be spinning…
I hope (so very much) that everything turns out perfectly for you. You deserve all the happiness in the world – while nothing will ever mend your broken heart, Binky should go a long way towards being an amazingly bright light where there is otherwise darkness.
Love and hugs
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Terri says:
Heather my husband’s grandmother has lots of old stories and wives tales she shares with us. I’ve heard her say so many times that babies live in Heaven before they are born, they stay there until its time to make an appearance here in our world. Over time I’ve started believing everything this old woman says, she’s so wise about so many things. So I just wanted to tell you I strongly believe the baby and Maddie do know each other and are entertaining each other right now until time when the baby comes into our world. She’s also said that for the first few years of a child’s life it can see Heaven and angels. So when a baby is staring off into space smiling, it’s not for nothing, it’s smiling at someone or something that we just can’t see. So when the baby giggles and smiles in the air, I would be certain he/she is smiling at big Sis Maddie. I hope this brings you some kind of comfort. It has helped me and I truly believe it with all my heart. I’ll be praying for you all extra hard!
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Krystle @snarkykisses says:
I am SO excited for you both and know that with your special angel watching over you; everything will be okay. You also have some incredible doctor’s watching you.
You know Maddie is ecstatic for you two… why wouldn’t she be? She wants her momma and daddy to be happy, and she has a little brother or sister to watch over now, too. It’s all going to work out beautifully. Also know that because you are pregnant right now, that doesn’t mean that others just assume you are “over Maddie” etc, obviously God had huge plans for you, and Maddie knows how wonderful of parents you and Mike were, and she wants nothing more than you guys to be happy again, and maybe this was her little way of making that wish and want, come true. This new bundle of joy is truly Maddie’s blessing sent from above.
I am sending an incredible amount of love, hope, and good vibes your way. You and Mike deserve it.
Krystle @snarkykisses´s last blog ..Slackerific!
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Cat says:
Oh God, Heather, I am so happy for you and Mike that I am starting to cry. Of course you will never be over Maddie, but seriously? No one thinks you ever will be. But that pain doesn’t dimish your freedom to be as happy as possible for the new baby, just as you would be if Maddie were there to enjoy it too. In a way she is there to enjoy it, in spirit.
I usually just lurk, but I had to come out of hiding to say congratulations. I will be thinking all the healthy mommy and baby thoughts in the world for you.
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Ohmygoshi says:
such happy news!! Congratulations to you both!!
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Katie says:
heather:
nothing like losing a child but i lost my mom four days after learning i was pregnant. i now think the pregnancy was a gift from my mom — to give me something to look forward to, something to help pull me through the grief. i couldn’t lay in bed with the covers pulled over my head all day and drink wine all night because i had to take care of myself and the baby growing inside….i worried people would think i was over my mom’s death after the baby came. i totally get what you are saying. the baby did help me heal — so much — but he also was a constant reminder of all my mom was missing. (3 years later, he still is.) you can’t control what people think or understand: those who have never grieved can’t even conceptualize what you and your husband are experiencing. (and that is their good fortune.)
i believe my mom watches over my family through my son, whose life is inextricably connected to her death. and sometimes i think she communicates to me through him. your baby might be such a vessel for your maddie. i believe that s/he will be.
be well and know that a random stranger in NY is sending you and your growing child positive energy.
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Dona says:
Good
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JennK says:
Oh Wow!!! I’m so very, very happy for you and Mike! I had the same fears that you did about adding a sibling. And you already know what I found out…the baby will not ever replace the child that you lost. You just have a big job: making sure your new baby knows all about Maddie and how she will always have a big sister watching out for her.
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Girl With Curious Hair says:
Congratulations to you both! I pray for a healthy pregnancy and a healthy little baby.
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Christy says:
How bittersweet-though I can’t help but think that Maddie is watching over this special little one from heaven, and that she knows them in some way.
Many, many prayers are heading your way.
Christy´s last blog ..Dental Woes
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Two Makes Four says:
This is such happy and wonderful news! Congratulations! Keep it up with the docs and take care of yourself for a happy and healthy little baby
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Claire says:
Congrats to you and Mike Heather! Binky is my nickname! Even if Maddie can’t be a part of your family on earth she is still a part of it and no one can ever take that away from you. Little Binky will always have a guardian angel watching out for him/her.
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Bonnie says:
Congratulations! How wonderful for you all!
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Carolyn says:
Congrats! I’m so happy to hear that you’ll be bringing another little ray of sunshine into this world. You and Mike make beautiful babies. This little one will always have their big sister Madeline, watching over them.
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amy says:
Heather & Mike,
I am so happy for you both. I have followed your painful journey over the last few months, and I keep you and your beautiful Maddie in my prayers on a regular basis.
I will continue to do so as the newest little Spohr grows bigger and stronger.
Much love to all of you.
Amy
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Brittany says:
This is such amazing news! How did I come in late on this!? I can’t wait to hug you in person in just a few short days!
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The Dumbest Smart Girl You Know says:
Oh, Heather! Congratulations!!! It’s okay to be happy–really. No one will judge… After going through something so terrible, you deserve some more goodness coming your way!
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Karen Sugarpants says:
Wow Heather, that is really wonderful! I’m really happy for you guys! Love you!
xoxo
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Tasha says:
Congratulations.
It can be so difficult to be grieving, excited, scared and cautious at the same time. Let yourself continue grieving while you are anticipating Maddie’s sibling. It is so necesary and completely healthy. When we don’t allow ourselves to grieve completely, we will harbor bitterness and resentment in some form to replace the grieving that we don’t allow ourselves to bring to fruition. It will be a journey that in so many ways will not be over until you reach the other side. And on the other side (heaven) you will see Maddie again . That is the hope that we have in Jesus. This life is not the end. Life has two parts, this life and then the life that begins after death. One out of one people will eventually die. Period. No discussion. Then comes eternity. Maddie is there waiting. That should bring hope in the aspect of this life is not the end. It does not take away the pain in this life by any means. But it does bring hope in the aspect that all who accept Jesus as Savior will be reunited after death in Heaven. That is a promise in the Bible. Maddie having been a child gives her an automatic pass to heaven so to speak. But as adults we have to choose to accept Christ’s forgiveness of sin and His payment for a sin debt that we could never pay. That is my hope in this life. Those that I love in this live who died as children or died as adults who accepted Jesus as Savior are in Heaven and I will see them when my life here is over. Does that make me miss them any less. Absolutely not. But is does help me to know that I will see them again.
Tasha
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Jennie says:
Congratulations!
I pray for you and your family often. Have a happy and healthy pregnancy and baby.
Jennie´s last blog ..Happy Birthday, Uncle Chris
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denise says:
O-M-G
Soooo, happy for you and Mike!
I was so hoping for this for you guys – not that it would make Maddie’s passing hurt any less – but so that you could know another baby, another happiness, another sweet face.
Your sweet Maddie will NEVER be forgotten – she is an energy and a spirit that has unleashed a new and different kind of meaning in peoples lives – the people who follow you are helping other NICU families and the March of Dimes because of Maddie, in her name, for her memory – that’s a powerful thing.
You have made thousands of people all over the world very happy and hopeful today.
Holding your hand from Texas . . . .
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TexasRed says:
Congratulations!
You and your family will definitely be in my prayers as you deal with the excitement and mixed feelings and continued grief. I’ll also be praying for your health and Binky’s health. Mostly, I’ll be praying for peace for you all.
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kathryn says:
congratulations! i wish you peace and happiness…
kath
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Kat says:
I have been following your story from afar, because I am at a loss for words most of the time after reading. I just wanted you both to know how happy I am for you. Take care of yourselves. Congrats.
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Isadora says:
congratulations!! I was so happy reading this!!!
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The Tutugirl says:
Congratulations! I’m just speechless. How wonderful.
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Andrea says:
Wow. Congratulations! I totally understand your reservations about other peoples’ perceptions regarding this new pregnancy. I understand your own fears and sadness that the new little one won’t know Maddie other than the pictures and videos you have of her. On the other hand, you’ll have the chance to show another new person how awesome Maddie was. The Maddie Fan Club is going to get one more member. Healthy pregnancy, and hugs to you both. It’ll be okay.
Andrea´s last blog ..Rest Area Rampage
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Janelle says:
Congratulations! I know the next going may get tough over the next 7 months, but I’m so excited for you two and you know we are all here rooting for you!
Janelle´s last blog ..Montessori’s Nothing But Fun Summer Camp
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Andrea's Sweet Life says:
I know little Binky leaves you both with so many questions, but I can’t help but be SO EXCITED and happy for you.
Of course you’re not over Maddie. There won’t ever be a time when you’re “over Maddie”.
Love, love, love you!
Andrea’s Sweet Life´s last blog ..Friends of Maddie
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Kim says:
Just wanted to say congrats!!!
I understand the fear BELIEVE me! My son is a 26 weeker preemie. I lost my daughter (his twin) at 20 weeks. I’ve also had 2 miscarriages. We found out in June that I am pregnant again and expecting baby number 2 mid, february! We have seen this babies heartbeat and I’ve seen it move so I feel some what better. But i think i’ll be scared till I hold this little one in my arms!
Good luck! I know Maddie is watching over you all!
Kim
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Amy says:
Congratulations, Mike and Heather!
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Katrina says:
There is a family in my town who lost all three of their precious little ones on one day in a horrific car accident. Their grief was unimaginable. In an interview they described themselves as parents without children. I think that is one of the worst of all life sentences — to be here on earth while your child is not. This family got pregnant about 3 months after their children’s accident, and went on to have triplets. These new little ones bring them new joy. If anyone ever suggested that they were just trying to “replace” their other children, well…anyone who would even think that would have to have something wrong with them.
It warms my heart this morning to read your post. So exciting! Yet, bittersweet….
Congratulations to you, Heather!
Katrina´s last blog ..Sugar & Spice?
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Ginger says:
I am so so so happy for your family.
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Chrsity M. says:
Congratulations!! I’m over the moon happy for you!!!
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Kathy Guley says:
Amazing news! Sending love and prayers to you!
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Suzanne says:
CONGRATULATIONS!!! This is fantastic news! Try to stay as positive as you can, we want baby bean to cook in there as long as possible!!
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Jen says:
Somehow it seems that any time I read your blog, I am left in tears. This is incredible news, and I know it is bittersweet for you both, but I wish you all the best. Someone above said that Maddie will be the angel watching over your baby – and I agree. Your baby couldn’t be in better hands. Best wishes to you all.
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NoL says:
Weeping for you here in Maine. Many healthy vibes coming your way. Congratulations.
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Kira says:
Congratulations!
I understand your mixed emotions. I never felt truly excited about my 4th pregnancy because it was overshadowed by the dark cloud of my 3rd. Not until my sweet baby was in my arms did I let myself cry with joy over him….and cry with sorrow for the sister he would never have.
Let yourself be a little bit joyful. Enjoy this pregnancy as much as you are able. Maddie would want you to be happy and excited!
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Linds says:
Oh, my God! I can’t even describe to you the chills that ran up and down my arms when I read your post! A million congratulations!!
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Pocklock says:
Praying every day that the little miracle inside of you arrives healthy and well and in January.
I think of you and Mike and Maddie daily. I pray for you guys and that you find peace and that Maddie is in God’s arms safe and sound. Now I can add Binky to my prayers.
And I swear I’m not even religious!
Congratulations, Heather. Lots of hugs.
Pocklock´s last blog ..May The Geek Be With You
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Bonnie says:
Heather and Mike,
Congratulations and the very best wishes for a healthy and safe pregnancy and new addition.
I know that you must feel much excitement and joy at the prospect of a new sibling for your dear Maddie, and as you said, sadness that they won’t meet on this earth. I am sure that Maddie is watching over you all, and happy to know some comfort is found in your blessed news.
I will continue to pray for you all. Thank you for sharing with us.
Bonnie´s last blog ..MOTHER’s Act
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Tracy says:
It sounds like a very special angel sent you a very special gift from God.
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Paige says:
I think and pray for you and Mike all the time. I once saw a show with parents, who, like you, had lost a child. They went on to have another and one were quoted as saying that a new baby can’t help but bring joy into a home. The baby won’t replace Maddie or take away your pain at her loss.. but I have a feeling you and Mike will experience joy – true joy with this new baby. I will be praying for a healthy pregnancy… I sincerely wish you the best Heather, you are never far from my thoughts and prayers. You’ve never met me and don’t know me at all, but I am always wishing you strength and blessings.
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fidget says:
gah, what an emotional juggling act. It feels weird to say Im sorry and congrats at the same time but that’s really what it is…
I have a clotting disorder too(MTHFR). It’s possible i almost died of an embolism when i was pregs with my 1st but substandard care never found the true cause. My 1st has autism which has been tied to my clotting disorder… no one tested me for clotting disorders though until my aunt suddenly died of a pulmonary embolism. Even then I was never sent along to a blood doctor. It was not until this passed December that I found more info on my disorder and flipped my lid. I dragged myself to the blood doctor and found out that I could avoid keeling over like my aunt through simple vitamin and aspirin therapy- you’d think one of my 20 badillion other docs might have mentioned that!
Right now that I’m pregs Im on vitamins, aspirin, and blood thinners. They have me on Arxitra this time, since Lovenox and I dont play nice. They will switch me to Heparin around 30 weeks since I too have PTL issues. My last 2 babies were born at 35 weeks…
best wishes to you for both a glimmer of joy in this pregnancy and continued healing in your heart
fidget´s last blog ..enrolling in the PRP
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Karen says:
I’m so incredibly happy for you both!! What joyous news. And to think Binky already has a guardian angel to watch over her/him and keep him/her safe.
Karen´s last blog ..Baby steps
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Jeannine says:
a million trillion congrats! thanks for sharing!
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Valerie says:
I cannot think of a couple more deserving of such wonderful news. I agree wholeheartedly with a previous poster who said that this baby is so lucky to already have an angel watching out for him/her.
Congrats!!
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Patti B. says:
Congratulations
All the best to you both.
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Amanda says:
Congratulations. I know that both of you probably have so many emotions. I will continue to pray for you and now for you new baby on the way.
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Haley says:
What wonderful news! I will pray for your health daily.
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Beth at I Should Be Folding Laundry says:
I am so happy for you. Congratulations!
Sending massive, powerful prayers your way.
Beth at I Should Be Folding Laundry´s last blog ..Winners and other random quickies
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jenna says:
Heather and Mike I’m so happy that I’m crying!
It’s alright to be joyful and sorrowful at the same time. You’re celebrating a beautiful gift, and mourning a unimaginable loss at the exact same time.
Maddie already knows her sibling. She has already met him or her, and will watch over all of you as he or she grows.
Sending you all lots of love and prayers.
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Sarah says:
Oh – That is wonderful news! I am so excited for you guys. A new baby is always exciting.
I hope you are feeling well and will pray for smooth sailing 9 months.
Good luck!
Sarah
Sarah´s last blog ..3bundlesforme: Am the ONLY patient in the entire dr’s office, my appt was 1/2 hr ago, and I am still waiting. WTF?! Not going to make the Nordstrom’s sale!
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sensibly sassy says:
wow!
I can’t help but wonder if Maddie has called in a special order with the big guy upstairs…..
I am sending you thoughts and wishes of a healthy pregnancy.
sensibly sassy´s last blog ..Admitting You Have A Problem Is The First Step
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damaris says:
my mother in law has 6 children. One time someone (insensitive) told her that she was lucky to have so many kids because if one died she wouldn’t even have to get sad. Nothing replaces another person’s life, nothing. Maddie will always be missed. Congratulations on your pregnancy. I hope with all my heart that all goes well.
damaris´s last blog ..Chocolate Chip Orange Scones WITH Chocolate Cream Cheese Spread
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Amy says:
Wow. I remember when I was little, it seemed like women got pregnant when they wanted, and they always had healthy babies 9 months later. I never saw that in reality, so much more can happen instead.
I know that for every moment you’re excited, there’s at least one more that you’re worried–or scared, I’m sure. I will send all good juju your way and remember you in my every prayer.
Amy´s last blog ..The old "I’m shaving my head that night" excuse
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Vic says:
Congratulations. A bittersweet one, but still, congratulations.
Vic´s last blog ..In Vino Veritas
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Leslie says:
I understand your conflicted feelings. It will be a hard transition and I’m sure most of us don’t know exactly how you feel (we try). On the other hand, I’m very happy for you and Mike and I wish you a very smooth pregnancy. I agree with all the others that Maddie will be with this little one all the way and you’ll definitely be able to see Maddie through this new little life.
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Jamie M says:
Wow…..congratulations! Congratulations is the right word! You have so much love to give this precious baby, and he/she will be SO lucky to have you as their parents. Maddie will always be a big sister.
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Della says:
Wow. I am overcome.
Thank God that there is something concrete in your future to hope for.
I will be praying for those around you (especially in light of the recent “cuts both ways” post) that they’ll be able to understand that this child does not and will never replace Maddie.
And I will be praying for you that you are able to let go and love this Binky with abandon, love him just as much as you love Maddie, without fear that you’re loving him too much.
And praying for you that you won’t feel pressure to suppress your grief because of baby Binky.
…..
And also? SQUEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! babybabybabybabybabybabybabybabybabybabybabybabybabybabybabybaby!!!!!!!!!!
AND? Belly pictures, preferably all the way from slightly lumpy to Della-sized (oh gosh I am such a whale right now)! I so dearly hope that you will share them. I miss seeing pictures of you anyway – we haven’t had any fresh ones.
Love, tears, and so much more than I can ever fit in a comment box.
Della´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday and Three Things Thursday (on Friday)
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katie ~ motherbumper says:
Absolutely wonderful. Congratulations.
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Jack's Mom says:
Oh Heather! I’m so happy for you! I would have never thought that you having another baby was a way to replace your Maddie, but it will bring some joy and purpose back to your life. You and Mike are in thoughts and prayers.
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alyssa says:
My cousin died and a month or so later my aunt found out my other cousin was pregnant. At first she was upset, not even close to getting through my cousins death. Baby Nate was her project. She shopped for him, loved on him. This baby will never be Maddie. This baby will allow you to get through Maddie’s death. I heard a great quote after my mom died…..we don’t get over someones death we get THROUGH it.
Heather and Mike you’ll be in my prayers.
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Erin says:
Congratulations on little Binky! (Out of curiousity, where did that nickname come from?) And even though he/she may not physically know Maddie, I know that you will share your memories of Maddie, and that Binky will KNOW Maddie. At least in the most important way. Sending hugs of joy!
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Issa says:
OMG!!!!!!! I am so thrilled for you and Mike. Holy shit.
I can’t even imagine how amazing this is and how sad all at the same time. My heart is with you all. I hope that little Binky is healthy and that you stay healthy as well.
Okay, total selfish question….are you still going to come to BH this week, so I can hug you?
Issa´s last blog ..To bug on her fifth birthday
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Siobhan says:
My sincere congratulations to you both. It sounds like you’re in the best of hands and are being well taken care of. Ignore what others might be thinking/saying, which I know is hard, beacause regardless of the situation, everyone has an opinion when you’re pregnant. Sending prayers and blessings your way! Congrats again!! So happy for you both.
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Susan says:
My heart soars for you and Mike. Blessings and love (and of course lots and lots of prayers)
Susan´s last blog ..Chex Mix Turtle Bars a Tweet Treat
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Kate says:
I’m so happy to hear this wonderful news. I can imagine that this would be mixed since you still miss Maddie and the knowledge that she won’t know her sibling. Still, I’m here and thinking of you, hoping for a successful pregnancy.
Kate´s last blog ..Cupcakes
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Mary says:
I am a stranger friend (love that term used by someone else on a comment) and wanted to say congratulations and you are in my thoughts.
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mandy says:
Congratulations and my very best wishes to you and your family. I hope you and Mike have an easier go round with the pregnancy this time.
I know you will be swamped at Blogher, and I am incredibly (naturally) shy. So I send my virtual wave across the room to you right now. Before anyone gets on a plane at all.
mandy´s last blog ..Hyper Connectivity
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mommymae says:
congratulations! you have our never-ending support.
my wish for you both is that no one is dumb-fuck enough to say stupid shit to you about this.
mommymae´s last blog ..nekkid time
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Scatteredmom says:
Oh, WOW. Congratulations!
I’m thrilled for you. Like people have said, this baby won’t ever replace Maddy, but perhaps he/she will soothe that “Mom” spot in your heart .
Best wishes for a healthy pregnancy!
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Heather says:
Congratulations. Maddie will watch from above.
Heather´s last blog ..Wand vs. Gun
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VDog says:
Cuddles and hugs and looooooves and late night talks on the couch.
Here’s to hoping everything goes well with baby #2 and that I can get myself knocked up ASAP!!!
XOXOXOXOXOXO
I will be licking you SOOON!!!!
VDog´s last blog ..What I’m Bringing To BlogHer: The Not Clothes or Shoes Edition
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Jane says:
Congratulations! Smiles all around.
(with the knowledge that you will never be over Maddie–I sorry she will miss her sibling.)
Jane
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Katrina says:
I am so excited for you! I can’t imagine the inner turmoil you are feeling. I am sending you tons of happy, healthy, 40 week pregnancy thoughts!
Katrina´s last blog ..OK OK, I get it…
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Raging Dad says:
Wow. That is heart warming news. So happy for you both. Can’t imagine the mixture of emotions that you are having.
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Sara Joy says:
Oh Heather! I know you have to be cautious…but I don’t – so here is me being SO FREAKIN’ EXCITED for you.
This baby will never fill the hole that Maddie left, this baby’s job is to be this baby. Wow, ummm, I sure make a lot of sense, don’t I? Sorry, I am just thrilled for you, and understanding how overwhelming and confusing it is to rejoice while you grieve. So even if I don’t articulate it well, this is me saying – I get it.
Our prayers are with you and Mike and Binky,
Sara Joy
Sara Joy´s last blog ..Any Friend of Joel’s
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Tricia says:
Holy shit!! Awww Heather I am seriously crying I am so happy for you guys. I can’t imagine the mixed emotions you guys must be having and will have but I know that the little beanie will know Maddie and how awesome she was through you and mike. This kid is the luckiest kid ever to have you guys as his/her parents. I can’t wait to meet the lil nugget
Wow, this is so amazing, I couldn’t believe it when I read it! Congrats, congrats, CONGRATS! Love you guys!
xoxoxoxo,
Tricia
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Laurie says:
Heather and Mike, this is amazing news! I know how hard it must be, but I like to think that Maddie is there with you all. Stay safe, take it easy and we are all here for you. Much love.
Laurie´s last blog ..Beaching it up!
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Rachel says:
Heather and Mike—so, so amazing. Warmest wishes, sticky-baby vibes, and every good thing.
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blissfully caffeinated says:
Wow, I got chills reading this. Congratulations on your pregnancy. Sending good thoughts and prayers your way.
blissfully caffeinated´s last blog ..Dear Neighbor…
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Loralee says:
I’ve been holding my breath waiting to SQUEEEEEEEEEE!!!! publicly.
So many congrats, guys. xoxoxo
Loralee´s last blog ..This month is going to kill me, I swear.
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Allison Fonseca says:
CONGRATS! This is wonderful news! You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Allison
Chicago
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Nina says:
wow….I’m just so happy for you guys. That’s awesome….I’m praying every night for your’s and the baby’s health. Internet hugs coming your way….
Nina´s last blog ..Oh yes….more beach pictures
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Notesfromthegrove says:
I’d be lying if I said I hadn’t been waiting and waiting for this post. I’ve been hoping you guys would try to have another baby…but not to replace the one you lost: everyone in the world knows Maddie is absolutely irreplaceable. But in a way, I was hoping something wonderful would come into your life to give you something positive to focus on. I’m so happy for you two and hope this note reaches you in the intent in which it was written.
Much love,
Brittany
Notesfromthegrove´s last blog ..Project B29-365 Week 8
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Melissa says:
wonderful:)
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nikki says:
Congratulations! And I think anyone who matters will definitely know better than to take this as you both are “better” over little Maddie’s passing.
I also wanted to say I don’t comment much, but I read every entry you post Heather.
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Amanda says:
CONGRATULATIONS! I am excited for you and Mike AND Maddie. Maddie will take great care you and your baby from heaven. Have no fears for the famous Madeline will take care of your whole family!
With Love and Prayers!
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Natalie says:
Oh, what wonderful news! I read this post a few times to make sure I read it correctly
Lots of prayers for you and your family.
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Laura says:
Maddie will be the best guardian angel a new baby could ask for. She is clapping for you right now. Congratulations!
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Laura says:
Congratulations!
Can’t wait to hear all the pregnancy news. What an honor to Maddie’s memory to keep sharing the love you have to give!
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Rachel says:
Wow, just wow! Congratulations Spohrs! Keeping you both, Binky, and Maddie in my thoughts and prayers.
Rachel´s last blog ..Professor You-Tube
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Rachel says:
Wishing you nothing but LOVE and SUPPORT for the rest of your pregnancy and life. You are amazing! CONGRATS!
Rachel´s last blog ..The poopy diaries
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Casey says:
Oh. My. I am really happy for both of you, but at the same time cursing the universe that this pregnancy is so bittersweet for you. Perhaps not the pregnancy, but the time of your life in which it is occurring.
There is probably no right thing to say right now (ahem…), but I am squeezing you tight in my thoughts, hoping for the best of outcomes and a beautiful baby with whom you will share Maddie as that baby grows.
Casey´s last blog ..Couldn’t mussel their way in
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Susan A says:
WOW!!! WOW!!! WOW!!! What a rollercoaster year you are having. Congratulations!
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Melissa says:
Congratulations to you and Mike! Sending well wishes, prayers for a very healthy pregnancy and child, and happiness that your new baby will always have a special guardian angel watching.
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Nadine says:
You’re right. It’s sad that Maddie won’t meet her sister or brother. But I also think that she’s watching over you guys.
I don’t have kids, I don’t know how it is to have kids. Neither do I know how it must feel to lose a child.
I hope you can give Maddie’s little sibling all the love as possible.
Your baby will be happy to have such an adorable big sister and such strong parents.
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Miss MVK says:
Heather and Mike,
I am so elated for you. Through the clouds can come sunshine. Maddie will never be replaced or forgotten, but through another baby you can rediscover the joy of parenthood. Congratulations.
Love,
Margueritte
Miss MVK´s last blog ..Black and blue is the new black!
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Erin says:
Sending big hugs and congrats……Madeline will ALWAYS be honored….keep yourself healthy..and i will keep you in my prayers for a healthy safe pregnancy! lots and lots of love
Erin´s last blog ..Sleep Tight
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Jessi says:
This post made me sad and happy! I am so sorry Maddie wont be there to meet her brother or sister, but then I am so happy for you guys.
I will be praying for you, I hope your pregnancy will be fine and that there will be a little healthy baby arriving in January/February!
I am so excited for you guys!!
Jessi´s last blog ..MckLinky and other random stuff…
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Suzanne says:
Congratulations to your family!!
This news makes me so happy and yet a little sad too. I am happy that you are going to welcome another child in the world — another child who will have the joy of experiencing your unconditional and generous love. I am so hopeful that the pregnancy will be easier than Maddie’s.
But I am also sad that Madeline will not get to meet her sibling. She would have made such a wonderful big sister. I wish you healing as you grapple with the bittersweet experience of preparing for a new child while grieving for the daughter who left you too soon.
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Kristin says:
God Bless your beautiful and growing family.
Kristin´s last blog ..ok-finally
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Jessi says:
I was not done yet!!
I have been following your blog quite some time now and Your posts often made me tear up. Whenever you said that you guys lived for Maddie, or did everything for Maddie and now that she is gone you didnt know what to do..
Well I think this little miracle came to give you hope, to give you a new perspective in life. It wont take away the pain but it will help you with it.
God sure is watching over you!!
Jessi´s last blog ..MckLinky and other random stuff…
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Britta says:
Congratulations! Prayers for an uneventful pregnancy and delivery! I’m sure Maddie already has met her sibling and hand picked the perfect angel to join your family on earth.
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Elise says:
Wishing you and Mike a heartfelt congratulations! I can imagine what a bittersweet time this is for you both, but I do hope the anticipation of Binky will bring some joy back into both of your lives. You deserve it, and that no doubt would be what Maddie would want for her mommy and daddy. Of course Maddie will always be Binky’s sister, and surely Binky will grow to feel as though he/she knows Maddie in a very special way through your loving stories, photos, and videos of your special little angel.
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Julia says:
Amen. I found your blog on your saddest day and I have thought many times, I hope they have another baby. It is just so clear that you and Mike have so much love to give. And in no way will it mean that you are over Maddie.
Life is for living and soon enough we will all cross the bridge to see those that crossed before us. We must hold onto this belief. We must.
Prayers for your pregnancy. Julia
Julia´s last blog ..Angela’s Ashes
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Jessica says:
Congratulations! I’ll keep praying for you and Binky!
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Emily says:
Heather, I found your blog through Matt Logelin, who I found on BabyCenter. Through blog hopping through friends, I found you, and I have cried with you, prayed for you and wondered how you were doing, from a distance – again, the beauty of a blog and the friends that come from it. Your journey has been incredible, and the heartbreak you must feel, unbearable. I hope and pray that your healing continues, and a sibling for Maddie is a blessing. Prayers for good health for you both and the continued healing of heavy hearts.
Remember every single detail of Maddie’s life, so you can share her with her sibling. This blog will help you do that, for sure. Take care of yourself and that precious little one, too. Maddie’s a guardian angel, for sure.
Love and prayers,
Emily, Indianapolis, IN
Emily´s last blog ..Photo Shoot
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Lisa in WI says:
Congratulations! I’m sure it’s a mixed blessing for you. Whatever your religious beliefs (or nonbeliefs), I am sure somehow Maddie is watching over all of you and making sure her little sibling is safe. And I know you guys will do a wonderful job of making sure your new baby knows how amazing and special his/her big sister Maddie was and is!
You’re in my thoughts for an uneventful and healthy pregnancy and delivery!
Lisa in WI´s last blog ..Healthy Wednesday
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Jill says:
WOW, Heather and Mike! Congratulations on your little miracle.
All of you are always in my prayers.
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Leslie says:
Wishing you all the very best. I know it must be hard to know that Maddie will not be able to be a part of this, but she will always be with you in spirit … I am very happy for you.
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Jodee says:
I am soo excited for you and Mike!!! Congratulations! I will pray that your pregnancy goes so smoothly. I know Maddie is smiling. So much love and (hugs) to you both. =-)
Jodee´s last blog ..Friends of Maddie
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Amy says:
congratulations to you and Mike and the rest of your family.
I think everyone who knows you and knows better understands that Binky will never replace Maddie, as any one child is not a substitute for another.
we experienced two losses before welcoming our daughter and i didn’t tell anyone outside of both sets of grandparents, that i was pregnant until i was showing at 18 weeks.
the uncertainty is what grabs a hold and doesn’t let go until you hold your beautiful baby and it becomes real once again. remember why it is you and Mike chose to have a family in the first place and focus on that, on your love, and your love for Maddie and Binky.
I, too, get to partake in the awesome med cocktail of hormones, blood thinners, and daily shots and some fabulous combo of that is what helps my babies grow and thrive.
many blessings to all of you – there are more prayers coming your way than you will ever know!
Amy´s last blog ..bag lady junior
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habanerogal says:
that is the best news I have heard in ages
habanerogal´s last blog ..Beaver-time in Utah
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Debby says:
My body is filled with goosebumps and tears as I type this comment. That is beautiful news and I pray that your little baby will be perfect. Maddie will never be a thing of the past, I never expect you and Mike to move on. Maddie is your life and always will be. Your new son or daughter will love getting to know Maddie through all your wonderful photos and video. I am so very happy for you. Take care & God Bless.
Debby´s last blog ..CHECK THIS OUT
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Sunny says:
What amazing and wonderful news!
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Judy says:
WOW…that’s great news!!
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Diane says:
Congratulations, Heather and Mike!! What a wonderful blessing.
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Jen says:
And again today you have made me cry, this time happy tears for you. I am totally in awe for you.
Jen´s last blog ..Chase – Month 1
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Colleen says:
Congratulations!! I have nothing but great admiration and love for you guys!
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Rachel says:
Congratulations!
I can only imagine how all over the place your emotions are at this time. I know you will never be over the loss of Maddie, just because your family is changing yet again doesn’t mean you love Maddie any less or grieving for her any less. Losing Maddie also doesn’t mean you don’t have plenty of love to share with Binky, you will love him/her with all your heart.
I am happy for you.
Rachel´s last blog ..Bad News/Good News
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Danielle says:
Oh! Oh! Oh! Congratulations! I am so happy for you both, even though I know this is tremendously bittersweet for you. And I’m so happy for Binky, because you are both TREMENDOUS parents. I can’t help but think – no, I KNOW – that Maddie will know Binky, because they are cut from the same cloth.
You, Mike and Maddie are in my thoughts, wishing you a healthy, full-term pregnancy.
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Glenda says:
Congrats Heather & Mike! In one of your post you said you had a surprise, and I kept thinking, maybe she’s pregnant. But when you posted about Maddie’s foundation I thought, maybe not! I’m so happy for you! I’m sure the Dr’s will monitor you a lot closely and all will be fine! What a blessing! XO
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Debbie B says:
SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!
CONGRATULATIONS SPOHRS!!
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Kymmi says:
So happy for your family. There is no replacing Maddie, there will never be another. I’m sorry her brother or sister won’t get to know her in person, but you will be able to introduce him/her to Maddie through your stories, your pictures, your love.
My thoughts are with you during this emotional time. Pregnancy is hard enough, high risk pregnancy is hard enough (as you well know), but high risk pregnancy through grief is something I can’t contemplate. I hope your little one is growing strong. He/She is lucky to have parents like you & MIke.
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Sam says:
That is fabulous news!!! Congratulations!!!
Sam´s last blog ..Curiosity and Summertime Yumminess!!!
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jeffra says:
I can only imagine how nervous you are for this pregnancy to be a healthy one! Every pregnancy is different and you have all the “right” Dr.’s helping ensure its success! Maddie would be happy that you will have a little one here on earth to love you back. No doubt Maddie will continue to shine through her sibling’s eyes, as well, keeping her own memory alive! So happy for you!
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Debbie B says:
SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!
CONGRATULATIONS SPOHRS!!
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Joy says:
I most sincerely hope and pray that your pregnancy goes well and your heart begins to heal just a tiny bit.
God Bless
Joy
Atlanta, GA
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Andrea Neuman says:
I am so happy for you guys! I think sweet little Maddie might have had a hand in sending this one your way. And she has to be so excited for you guys.
Congrats!!!!
Andrea Neuman´s last blog ..Tina Miera Photography: Art at it’s finest…
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Kate says:
I have had a feeling for a while that you were pregnant. I don’t know why but I kept thinking every time you posted something about big news, exciting, etc. that it would be a sibling for Maddie. I think this baby is one lucky little guy to have such a great sister and wonderful parents, family, friends to enjoy him/her. Congrats to you and Mike and of course Maddie and Rigby and everyone in your lives! I have tears in my eyes and my heart is smiling for you guys through this beautiful blessing. No one can ever replace Madeline ever and the fact that she is going to have a sibling to watch over that is wonderful!
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Erin says:
Wow! I hope this brings you some joy again. Best wishes to you both, and the little one!
Erin´s last blog ..Seeing Foxes: Learning to Be
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Casey says:
I had hoped you guys would have another baby some day. Such a blessing. And he/she will have the best guardian angel. Love to you guys and God bless.
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Amanda says:
Heather and Mike-
I have been following your blog, I think, since right before Maddie left you. I have cried and laughed over your blogs, experiencing the pain along with you as only one looking in, can.
My husband and I have suffered three miscarriages, all at varying points of the pregnancy (none after 8 weeks). We were exhuasted and tired of trying and tests when we found out in May that we are once again pregnant…also due at the end of January. I know, to a point, the fear of going through a pregnancy after loss. We still haven’t told many family members because we are scared that something will happen. I don’t know if this will help, but please know that I will be thinking of you and Mike, Maddie and the new baby as you go through this journey. Congratulations!
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Samantha says:
Congratulations! Its amazing and sad at the same time. I am wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy!!!
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theresa says:
Always thinking about you guys!
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Lori says:
Congratulations on your pregnancy! This is wonderful news. When you blogged about having 20 vials of blood drawn, as a doctor, I had my suspicions. I hope you have a healthy, eventful pregnancy – I’m sure Maddie will be watching over you.
Lori´s last blog ..Down With Computers! Up With Typewriters!
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WM says:
My monday is now happy!
That is wonderful news.
WM´s last blog ..They’re lucky I even have pants on
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* TONYA * says:
I am so very happy for you. Sending you lots of prayers for a healthy, full-term pregnancy. Hugs.
* TONYA *´s last blog ..WEEKLY WINNERS
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Kathleen says:
Congratulations and very best wishes for a healthy pregnancy!
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anymommy says:
Oh, I am so happy for you both. What joy and unbelievable pain every day. All my wishes and love for a healthy, safe pregnancy. Baby Binky will know Maddie through you and your stories. Your family is amazing!
anymommy´s last blog ..A Friend Indeed
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Magda says:
Oh Heather and Mike I’m so happy for you both! This is such a bittersweet announcement. Maddie will never be forgotten and will be loved everyday. The new little Spohr will have hundreds if not thousands of friends to tell them about their big sister and how she touched so many lives. I look forward to sharing my
memories of Maddie with the little one. all my love to you guys today tomorrow and always! Sending tons of postive thoughts and prayers!
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Amy says:
I feel happy for you and Mike. I can only imagine how hard it must be to feel joyful at this point in time. The loss of Maddie still being so terribly fresh… but it is so wonderful to think of the joy that a new tiny Sphor will bring. Maddie will never be replaced, that is for certain. A new person will just bring more love in to your world…Congratulations to you!
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Allie says:
Happy tears, sad tears and so many prayers for a healthy pregnancy, birth and beautiful baby.
Allie´s last blog ..Letter of The Week H !
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mandie segura says:
Congratulations. I wish you a healthy and safe prgnancy, and will be praying for you and your family.
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Jen says:
Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Amanda says:
crying tears of joy for you!
I literally jumped out of my seat while reading this, internet ‘friend’ I am so happy today.
bless you!
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Angie says:
So happy for you. Im sure there are mixed emotions but I will be sending good vibes your way daily. (more than usual)
Angie´s last blog ..MINE
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Danielle says:
Please do not worry about what other people think. This is a miracle and you should not have to worry about what others think. Congrats!! You and Mike are in my thoughts and prayers for a healthy pregnancy and baby!!! Maddie will be looking down on him/her!
Danielle´s last blog ..Growing Up Way Too Fast
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Rachel says:
Congratulations! A new life is a blessing and a miracle. Something tells me Maddie is watching over you all. I will keep you in my prayers.
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Caren says:
Mike and Heather-
I have never commented before, but I have to let you know that I am here and I am praying SO HARD for you. I am an LA-area peep and I wish you all the blessings in the world.
Love,
Caren
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Snarky Mommy says:
Heather this is fabulous, fabulous news. Now you will have two children! I am so excited to read this and truth be told, a tiny part of me wondered if you might be pregnant because you were alluding to a lot of doctor appointments a few weeks ago.
Jan/Feb is a great time to have a baby — I have had one in each month!
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Mr Lady says:
Congrats, my friend. I am so happy for you both!
Mr Lady´s last blog ..We Interrupt This Regularly Scheduled Hiatus For A Bit Of Regularly Scheduled News
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Sara says:
I am not someone who likes to comment, even on my good friends’ blogs. I read this post this morning and thought I just had to. I’ve been waiting for this post. I don’t even know anything about you except for what I read on your blog, yet I couldn’t be happier for you.
What I have been wanting to write to you for a while is Thanks. Thanks for making me a better mom. Thanks for making me appreciate my own children more. I stay at home right now, but always fight with the idea of going back to work or doing something “else.” I feel that through your posts I understand that things can change in an instant and to enjoy each moment. I’m not a writer, so I know this comment isn’t doing justice to how I feel and what I want to say. But, at least I finally left a comment on a post that puts a huge smile on my face! Congrats Heather. You deserve the best and this little girl or boy (I think it will be a girl) is going to have the best mom. Lucky kid!
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Becky says:
I think that you probably should name the baby “Aunt Becky.” Just because, you know, it’s a rockin’ name.
Becky´s last blog ..The Great Purge Fest of ‘Aught Nine
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TheAngelForever says:
Mazel Tov on the multiplying new. May your precious angel Maddie watch over her sibling until you have him/her in your arms.
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Mrs. Cline says:
Delurking to say Congratulations! What a blessing and yet trying time. So excited to hear about this journey and praying for a complication free pregnancy and delivery!
Can’t stop smiling as I think of you and Mike and Maddie. What a joyous day!
Mrs. Cline´s last blog ..9 weeks!
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Michelle says:
I have lurked and read your site for months now, but never felt my comments would be worth much. I’m another LA mommy, and we’re the same age (I’ll be 30 in november…yikes.)
and I can’t believe how deeply your Maddie has touched my heart. Such a breathtakingly beautiful, radiant shining light, that girl! My 3rd child was a preemie and in and out of NICUs and PICUs for the first two years of his life and there were many scary moments. I think the ones who fought so hard just to stay alive at birth have something extra special about them!
I heard of your story through a mom’s group and was instantly captivated by Maddie. I have four little ones of my own (we’re nuts
I’m totally rambling, but just had to express my excitement for you and say congratulations on this new baby. I’m excited to read about your progress! I know it will all be bittersweet, but what a lucky little baby to have their big sister always watching over them!
-Michelle
P.S. I had a “Maddie-moment” this weekend. I was at my daughter’s dance recital and all of a sudden the “Single Ladies” song came on and my little toddler niece started bustin’ a move next to me in the seats and I was just struck with a sadness for the loss of your sweet girl. Know that she will never be forgotten!
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churchpunkmom says:
WOW. Congratulations!! I will be praying for you to have a healthy and complication free pregnancy.
*hugs*
churchpunkmom´s last blog ..My husband likes to try and embarrass me in front of famous people, but I don’t care. EMERY!!!
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Sarah says:
Some good amongst the bad, hard times. Great news! Congrats!
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Pattie says:
This made me cry, but it was a good cry. I’m very happy for you and wish you all the best with this pregnancy.
Pattie´s last blog ..Photoblogging: The East Tennessee Veterans Memorial
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Loural says:
Absolutely the best of wishes to you and mike. Hoping for a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby. My thoughts and prayers are with you guys and I know that Maddie is looking over you both.
Loural
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Amy @ Milk Breath & Margaritas says:
I am over the moon happy for you and Mike! I realize the conflict of emotions must be mind-blowing – incredible – but this is such a blessing and such wonderful news. Maddie knows this baby better than you guys do. I’m sure they are together now and she’s telling them what great parents they share.
Amy @ Milk Breath & Margaritas´s last blog ..The Best Cake Ever with Homemade Icing & Berries on Top
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ExtraordinaryMommy says:
So many hugs – congratulations. Sending you lots of healthy pregnancy energy and prayers.
ExtraordinaryMommy´s last blog ..The smile I need
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ali says:
wow. wow. wow.
I can’t wait to hug both of you. I am thinking of you!
ali´s last blog ..This is the most magnificent discarded living room set I’ve ever seen
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Shirley says:
This is terrific news but I am sure bittersweet for you and your husband. I can’t imagine anyone ever thinking you are “over” Maddie not being with you. That would be just plain ignorant. Congratulations – I am sincerely excited for you!
Shirley´s last blog ..How Random Can I Be?
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Jennifer says:
Congratulations, Heather. What wonderful news!
I continue to be both humbled and inspired by the grace with which you’ve handled Maddie’s loss and all that has followed. I look forward to watching you go through this adventure with the same amazing spirit and wish you and Mike nothing but the best.
Jennifer´s last blog ..Thanks, Kenny B
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Michele says:
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family!
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Audra says:
Just wanted to share my happiness with you. I am so glad for you guys and wish you nothing but the best. I’m sure Maddie is looking out for her new brother or sister from up above. You and Binky and Mike will be in my thoughts! AHHH SO HAPPY FOR YOU GUYS!
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Moxie says:
In the wake of extraordinary tragedy comes extraordinary hope. The healing from one and the growth of the other are not mutually exclusive.
Someone above mentioned that they believe Maddie is getting to know Binky right now. I believe the same!
Congratulations to you and Mike.
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Trisha Reply:
July 20th, 2009 at 9:37 am
Beautifully said Moxie! WOW!
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avasmommy says:
Somehow congrats doesn’t seem to cover it. So, so, happy for you two. I cannot wait to read more about Binky!
avasmommy´s last blog ..There’s Something About the Internet
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Whitney says:
Heather….
we all know nothing will replace Maddie or your love for Maddie!
You amazing and you deserve this to be perfect! You are in my prayers!!!!!!!! I’m so excited for you!!!!
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m a m a j o s s says:
I SO totally knew it
Congratulations and best wishes for a wonderful pregnancy. Maddie will always be in our hearts and I’m more that certain this is her way of sending you some love….from above 
m a m a j o s s´s last blog ..My weekend in numbers
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sarahcinct says:
congrats on a the new addition. you will be in our thoughts and prayers
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Crystal D says:
Congrats!! Oh goodness I am so happy for you guys. You could sure use a little happy in your life right now and you deserve it. My fingers will be crossed and you will be in my prayers that everything continues along as healthy and easy as possible. {{hugs}}
Crystal D´s last blog ..Dolphin Tour – Vacation 09 Part 2
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Kristi of Million Dream Mom says:
If it’s possible, my heart aches for you a little more, even as I’m indescribably happy for you guys. I hope that makes sense and doesn’t sound creepy. Even when it feels like the end of the world, life continues to go on. I will continue to send you waves of love and support from Chicago and can’t wait to continue sharing your journey from afar
Kristi of Million Dream Mom´s last blog ..south beach
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Joy says:
What lovely news.
I understand your fears about what this news will mean to the memory of Maddie. I hope you know that you have imprinted Maddie and her beautiful spirit on so many people that this is never possible. The way you have been so honest and open about your grief means we will always know that your love for her will never diminish – no matter how many siblings she has.
I do hope that you allow yourself some hope and joy as your pregnancy progresses.
Thinking of you and Mike.
Joy´s last blog ..Girl Power!
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Lyndsey says:
You are both such wonderful parents I am thrilled that you’ll have another baby to raise with your love and humor.
I will pray daily that you are given a break and have a wonderfully easy pregnancy and healthy baby in your arms in January. I know how hard it is to enjoy a pregnancy when you’ve been through hell in the past. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Lyndsey
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Jen @ Diagnosis: Urine says:
I am SO happy for you. Anyone with a heart knows this little one doesn’t replace Maddie.
I really like what Amy said above, about Maddie knowing this baby so well already. That makes sense, to me. This little soul knows his or her big sister already.
I’m so emotional reading this post that I can only begin to imagine how you two feel, but I will be praying for you, sending you strength, thinking of you, and pulling for you.
Jen @ Diagnosis: Urine´s last blog ..i discover i am clairvoyant when i accurately predict the ending of "titanic"
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Michelle says:
I literally have goosebumps. I am thrilled for you and Mike and I’ll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers hoping for a healthy pregnancy and an easy birth. Lord knows you’ve earned it.
I hope Binky has Maddie’s excellent taste in music and awesome ability to bust a move.
Michelle´s last blog ..Withdrawal
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laurie says:
Congratulations!! I’ve been reading your blog after being directed to your site from Matt and Maddie. I was so sad when Maddie passed. Sounds like Maddie is really looking over you both by blessing you with a baby. You are Mike are such great parents and you really deserve this. No one will ever forget Maddie….how could anyone EVER forget such an exceptional little being? Hope today is a good day for you.
Congrats again.
Laurie
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Kelly says:
Congratulations, Mike & Heather. I’m so happy for you both and hope that this pregnancy goes super smoothly. And anyone who thinks that this new baby makes Maddie’s passing o.k. somehow, well… that’s just ridiculous. No child could ever replace another, but I’m certain Binky will be watched over well by his/her big sis. Congrats again!
Kelly´s last blog ..Technically, he’s right.
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Amanda says:
Congratulations! We all know that you can NEVER replace Maddie! I will continue to keep your family in my thoughts. I’m sure this is quite bittersweet for you all.
Amanda´s last blog ..Good intentions
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Denice says:
Heather,
You, Mike, Maddie and now Binky have touched so many lives. All these good thoughts are being sent your way. I will keep all four of you in my prayers.
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Just Jiff says:
CONGRATULATIONS!!!
And though its bittersweet, it’s still a wonderful thing. I know you’ll always miss and love Maddie, but I think she’s probably very excited for you.
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Angela says:
Heather,
I read your site daily, although you don’t know who I am. I cry for you, with you. I found out about your blog from Matts blog which also touches my heart. While his plight is heartbreaking…it is yours that breaks my heart. I am a mom. I’ve had the experience of watching my son die in front of me (drowned). I watched him get CPR and thankfully, I watched him come back. I never say things like “it is the worst thing that can happen” because I’ve seen what the worst thing looks like…although for some reason Tyler got to live and your precious, beautiful daughter got wings. It is because I’ve seen what I have, that your blog leaves me breathless…..I don’t know how you have made it. I know the writing helps and putting the thoughts out there. For me, if my story had ended as yours had, I had two other children who I would have had to fight to stay alive for….and today, your news has told me your answer. You have made it, survived the last 3 months of hell on earth, of missing that precious baby with eyes as bright as the sunny sky so that you can survive for HER little sister or brother! You didn’t know it, but you too, had a reason to survive. This baby will never ever replace Maddie’s spot in your heart. If anyone ever suggests such a thing, they are crazy….but this baby is Maddie’s sister or brother and you will keep her alive in their heart. You will survive and go on so that you may share the story of your oldest child. She may not be physically here, but she is still your first, your oldest baby daughter. So while you will be sad in a way if baby has her smile or eyes or personality, you will also get to rejoice that s/he is like big sissy. I am not a prayerful person, but I do believe in spirits and of energy that stays behind when our loved ones leave this earth. I wouldn’t be surprised if the baby has a special toddling friend for life. After our accident, we chose to expand our family. Shortly before, I lost my grandpa whom I adored….my son was born on 11-18-07 and he is a spitting image of the old guy and you wonder if it could possibly be….. We’ll never know, but I love the similarities and you will too. Sometimes they will cut you and sometimes your smile won’t be able to wipe away, but this is a precious gift you are carrying. I wish you an uneventful, full term pregnancy! I’m also a preemie mom/nicu mom and love your organization. I’ve donated a bag and I’m going to spam the world to donate! Such a thoughtful thing to do! I know your blog is your outlet, but if you ever want to talk, birds4u2love@yahoo.com I am here for you, with you!
So happy for your family addition.
Angela
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Katherine says:
Congratulations! I don’t even know you but I’m so happy for you. I can’t wait to see what this little one looks like. Maddie was one of the most beautiful babies I’ve ever seen (3rd place behind my two
). I’ll pray every day that you have a healthy, full term pregnancy and a very healthy baby.
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Jessica says:
So, so happy for you Heather. I know (except I don’t of course) it must be so bittersweet. My prayers are with you for a long healthy pregnancy. Maddie is surely looking down on all three of you and is so excited too.
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Jessica (@It's my life...) says:
It’s so hard to say the right thing. I want to scream and yell congratulations and happy healthy baby vibes and all the wonderful things that are completely and utterly in order, but I can only guess at the emotional turmoil that this has put you in.
But I can’t help it: CONGRATULATIONS! Maddie would have been the best big sister ever.
Jessica (@It’s my life…)´s last blog ..The lump on my baby’s head
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Kim says:
Congratulations, Heather! I know that it must be very bittersweet but you and Mike are such good parents and I’m so glad that you are having another child. I will be praying for you throughout this whole pregnancy.
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Christina says:
Wow!!! Congratulations Mike and Heather!
You are in my thoughts and prayers. I wish you the healthiest pregnancy…you deserve it. No one will ever think you guys are “over it” or “better”, or that you are replacing Maddie. You two have just experienced the most painful loss imaginable, and you daughter is irreplaceable.
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Amanda says:
You just made me cry!
I am so happy for you guys…to have a little sunshine must be wonderful. Congratulations.
Amanda´s last blog ..Border Crossing 101
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amy vw says:
Congratulations on your pregnancy. I know it has to be bittersweet for you.
All my best to you and your family.
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Cora A. says:
Maddie will watch over Binky and all will be well.
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mama2addie says:
We are so, so happy for you guys! I can only imagine how a mixture of emotions can damper the joy that a new baby brings, but I wish nothing but the best for you, Mike, Maddie & Baby Binky!
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Gretchen says:
Such wonderfully exciting news for you and Mike. I don’t doubt for one second that you have terribly mixed emotions. Please know that your family is always in my thoughts and prayers. Who better to bring another child into this world than someone that knows (all too well) how incredibly precious every second of our lives is – this is a very lucky little baby!! Wishing you all the happiness in the world. (((HUGS)))
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jinx says:
I will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers for a healthy full term pregnancy. The baby will never replace Maddie but I am happy for you.
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Cara says:
I’m so happy for you, and I’m glad that you are with doctors you trust. Best wishes to all of you.
p.s. I know injecting Lovenox is a pain–I found that an icepack was great at times.
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Angie says:
Congratulations on your newest miracle. Maddie will always be a part of your lives, and her younger brother or sister will never doubt how special Maddie is. You will never be “better” or “over” Maddie, but I hope this new little one eases your pain a little and helps you remember with joy instead of pain.
Angie´s last blog ..Recipe for the Week: July 19–25, 2009
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Headless Mom says:
How ’bout a smoothie instead of that drink I promised you for your birthday?
Congrats to you both. I’ll be praying for continued strength and health-for all 3 of you!
Headless Mom´s last blog ..Wanted: Mojo. Send immediately!
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Stacey says:
Happiest news ever! Thank you so much for sharing – I wish you a happy and healthy pregnancy and a brand new Baby Spohr to completely dote over and love. SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!
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Kate says:
Heather,
I am very happy for you and Mike. I know it is probably hard for you to be truly happy after the loss of Maddie. But believe me you will find love for both of your children and you will always keep Maddie close in your heart. I lost my son 13 years ago and still think about him very often. His pictures still hang on the wall with my other children. He is a forever part of our family and our lives. I wish you all the best during your pregnancy. I know it will not be easy. I have had very rough pregnancies, a preemie born 11 weeks early, a miscarriage at 3 months and I lost a baby shortly after birth, and two very high risk pregnancy, so I know just getting pregnant is no guarantee. But I have been blessed with 3 healthy children. My little preemie is almost 18 years old 6 feet tall and almost 200 pounds. My daughters are 12 years and 5 years old. I will keep you in my prayers. All my best to you, Mike and your puppy Rigby. Kate (A faithful follower in Texas.) PS: I think of your beautiful Maddie often and what a wonderful mark she left on this world during her short time. She is Truly a Blessing.
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Denise says:
Congratulations to you and Mike. May you find joy and happiness as the days progress….even though you will always have that emptiness w/o Maddie…..may you be able to fill some of it with joy with this new life you have been given. Hugs, d
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Candice says:
I’m so happy for you, Heather! My friends and I in Bakersfield, CA walked for Maddie in the March for Babies so you and Mike are always in our hearts. We are all praying for a happy and healthy pregnancy for you. I know you must be feeling so many different emotions right now and we know that this baby will never replace Madeline, but we hope that he/she will be able to bring some happiness into your lives again. We all love you!!!
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RookieMom Whitney says:
Congratulations, Heather. I’m so happy for you guys to add to your family, and so sad that your babies will not be here together. Wishing you and the bump excellent health.
My BlogHer pedicure was intended to be purple in honor of your Maddie, but when I came home yesterday, my daughter reported that it is black.
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Colleen says:
I am in tears, I am so filled with joy for you. I come from a family where we lost 4 out of 10 children. Believe me, they are never forgotten and still very much part of our family. Enjoy your pregnancy, feel the love that is growing and I will send prayers your way every day! Your new baby in progress already has their very own guardian angel
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Lynn @ Walking With Scissors says:
Congratulations! What wonderful news. This new little one is going to be such a wonderful addition to your family.
Lynn @ Walking With Scissors´s last blog ..Hard Time & Nursery Rhymes (A Review)
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Carolyn says:
“long time reader, first time commenter.”
I am so so so happy for you and Mike. I have been following in your ups and downs and wondering how the heck you have managed to make it through some days.
I have no doubt that on a deeper level Maddie will in fact know her brother or sister. they may never play in a sand box together but between the memories you and Mike are so kind to share with your readers, and your love as a family, Maddie will always be a part of this child’s life.
I am not a big prayer person but for this I will definitely make an extra effort. For a safe pregnancy and delivery, a contiually successful and happy marriage, and a beautiful, healthy baby boy or girl.
xoxo
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Sara says:
Heather,
I discovered your blog the day Maddie died through several other mommy bloggers I follow. I have faithfully read about your journey since that day, and the way you have so eloquently described your experiences has often brought tears to my eyes. I cannot imagine the wave of emotions you are going through now with this new pregnancy, but please know that there will be at least one more person out there praying for the safe arrival of Maddie’s little brother or sister.
Sara´s last blog ..Brothers
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lindsaywillman says:
Congratulations to the Spohr Family!
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Liz says:
What a wonderful and sad (probably not the right word) experience all at the same time. Madeline sent an angel from Heaven for you. I will pray for you.
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Insta-Mom says:
A million different crazy emotions, but most of all, just love…for you, Mike, Maddie, AND Binky.
Insta-Mom´s last blog ..Grace
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kay says:
I think Maddie and Binky know each other very well! It is us here on earth who just don’t get it.
Stories, memories and pictures will give Binky an earthly connection to your angel!
Congratulations and enjoy every second of this baby.
http://randommusingsfrommypov.com
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EN Hauber says:
My heart is full of joy for you both — and for my ongoing love for the remarkable Maddie!
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Kristin says:
Wow. I can’t even imagine the emotions you are feeling, but I am so happy for you. Binky has one heck of a guardian angel of a big sister in Maddie watching over him/her.
Kristin´s last blog ..Conference Call
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Kekibird says:
I can’t imagine the mixture of emotions you and your DH are going through. But know there is a whole of support out here for you. Whether these are feeling of joy and triumph or of fear and sadness, there are many who love and care for you both. Bg hugs!
Kekibird´s last blog ..Me: Un-Plugged
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Candice says:
Wow. This post definitely made me tear up. I can only imagine how bittersweet this must be for you. We will never forget about Maddie and KNOW you haven’t either…obviously.
Congratulations!!!! This is excellent news. I will be praying for you. Know that your binky has a special angel watching over. The sweetest most beautiful angel anyone could imagine.
Hugs!!
Candice´s last blog ..Not My Child Monday
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Effie says:
Oh my goodness! What happy and joyous news this is! Your little Binky is so unbelievably lucky to have you and Mike as parents and beautiful Maddie to call a sister. Maddie’s light and life will shine through in all you do for your new little one and that is so beautiful.
Best wishes for a SAFE and HEALTHY pregnancy, you are always on my mind.
**Hurray I am so excited for you!!**
Effie´s last blog ..Best Friends
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Michelle Pixie says:
I couldn’t agree more with the comments that this baby is hand-picked by Maddie! Congrats! I know Maddie is holding on tight to little Binky to make sure that he or she experiences all the love and happiness from two of the greatest parents life has to offer. Now I must go and call my hubby and share the great news!
Michelle Pixie´s last blog ..Feather Toes
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Lex ~ @laprimera says:
Sending you love and well wishes. You’re little Binky is in my thoughts and prayers. Thinking of you and Mike and Maddie often.
I’m so happy for you both! If there is anything you need, don’t hesitate to ask.
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suzanne says:
I hope many good things come out of this pregnancy for you…but most especially…a healthy baby.
Thinking of you….
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Anne says:
Congratulations! It was so nice to cry happy tears again while reading one of your posts!
Anne´s last blog ..You Can Help
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Kim says:
CONGRATULATIONS
I am so happy for you and Mike !!
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Amber says:
Congrats Heather! I read your blog everyday and I’m so happy for you guys! None of us will ever forget Maddie, no matter how many kids you have!
Amber´s last blog ..world ebook fair: free music files
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Hannah says:
Congrats! I know Maddie will be watching over her new sibling whenever he/she arrives, safe and sound
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Michelle says:
Oh Heather!
What terrific news! As usual, I got teary-eyed but this time it was tears of joy for you and Mike.
I’m sure your emotions have run the all over the place! Maddie will always be a part of your family and your first-born, you have documented her life in way that will be so appreciated by Binky and any other siblings she may have. You are not replacing Maddie – I cannot believe anyone could even imagine such a thing!
Keep your inspirational outlook…I’m praying for you and Mike!
I don’t know if you read the mclenahan’s blog – their daughter Cora Paige had a short tragic life as well and they are expecting too….close to the same time I believe. She may be a good support system for you and Mike….and you for her and her husband!
I only wish you happiness, joy and great health with your pregnancy. I know that is hard to imagine with your sweet Maddie gone….I’m am so sorry for that.
You will continue to be in my prayers….
Love & Hugs,
Michelle – Herculaneum, MO
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Whitney says:
Congratulations, Heather and Mike! I’ll be praying for you and Binky and hope your pregnancy is uneventful.
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Kristin says:
Heather and Mike,
Congratulations on the wonderful news that your family is multiplying. I agree that Binky will have an angel watching him/her grow. Love and hugs and prayers for your family.
Kristin´s last blog ..Update…finally
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Tami says:
Wow! Congratultions to you and Mike. I know maddie woud of been excited over the new baby..And boy I bet the emotions are going threw your head like crazy. :0 I will keep you all in my prayers for a healthy and happy baby. Hugs to you both.
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missy says:
BIG Congrats Heather and Mike!! Maddie is sending you a gift from heaven. What a joy!! I am so happy for you. What a way to start the new year, Welcome Binky! Much love to your little family. Maddie is pleased.
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Erin says:
Heather and Mike,
I have followed your blog silently for a very long time but I wanted to reach out to you both after reading your post. All I can say is congratulations and I am sure Maddie is looking down from above. I will be praying for you all.
Love,
Erin
Erin´s last blog ..7 Months Old
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Vanessa says:
I’m a lurker – have never commented but I’ve been following your blog for months now after finding it via Matts, but I have to say CONGRATS!!!! I think this is awesome news and I can’t wait to hear all about S/he!!
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Michele says:
Congratulations! I know that it’s a whole mixed bag of emotions. But Binky sure as a lot of love ready to be aimed at him or her!
Michele´s last blog ..What I Am Doing Instead of BlogHer
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Katie says:
Big congratulations – wishing you a healthy 9 months!
Katie´s last blog ..Fertility Treatments: Not a black and white issue.
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Yo is Me says:
oh, so happy for you. sending you good vibes. sooo happy for you.
Yo is Me´s last blog ..have you ever needed a nudge?
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Jara says:
Oh oh oh I am so happpy for you. Maddie has already given her new brother or sister a gift of experienced parents who will so understand the gift of life. The new baby will help keep his or her sister’s memory alive and will of course give you a new focus to your life that you deserve. But there will never be a replacement for your wonderful Maddie. And no one who has any intellgence thinks you will ever be “over” what happened to her.
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Vanessa says:
Whoa! I am pregnant too! I think I got pregnant in May so we’ll see, I will be following your blog eve more closely now! Congrats, one day at a time!
Vanessa´s last blog ..Vida: 15 months today
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Mrs. Flinger says:
Oh, and I’ll drink for you, too. You crazy sober growing-a-baby bitch, you. Congrats!!!!
XO
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