Comments on: Cuts Both Ways

By: Al_Pal

Al_Pal — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 23:38:12 +0000

Wow. So much hurt in the universe. *sigh*

I hope the new friendships you’ve gained continue to crowd out any unsatisfactory ones will ill-mannered, or ill-timed, comments.

*hugs*

By: Two Makes Four

Two Makes Four — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 02:46:59 +0000

You’re lucky you learned this young! It took me until I was well in my 20’s that I “thought before I spoke” and that my words hurt people (and made an ass out of me). Good topic, good post
Two Makes Four´s last blog ..So I Let Them Play with Plastic and Metal

By: Dee Dee

Dee Dee — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 05:00:23 +0000

Ashley so sorry for your loss. I am not sure how you survived but you are obviously a warrior to survive. My thoughts are with you…

By: ali

ali — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 15:01:52 +0000

I’m so sorry you are hurting. more than you are already hurting. hugs, Heather. I can’t wait to give you a REAL one.
ali´s last blog ..when it rains, it pours. and apparently, the old man sleeps.

By: Haley-O

Haley-O — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 01:20:19 +0000

You are such a good friend – that much is clear in your posts and on twitter! Now you need your friends more than ever. We’re always here, sending you strength and love. (Hugs)

By: Funsize

Funsize — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 06:36:22 +0000

It’s hard, those who haven’t experienced our loss (our exact loss- the loss of a child) can’t connect with our grief and they say/ do the wrong things. I have a pregnant friend who has cut me out of her life because I lost my son- maybe she thinks pregnancy loss is contagious or maybe she thinks that being around her is too hard for me, who knows. My mom actually said to me I *almost* made her a grandmother. I’ve had my boss tell me “at least you can have another one”, as if having another baby will replace my son. Being babylost sucks, but at least it makes your skin a whole lot tougher.
Funsize´s last blog ..(Not) Telling

By: jana

jana — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 05:21:00 +0000

hugs, huge hugs and appreciation for your candor, your gracious honesty.
jana´s last blog ..In your heart

By: Cinthia

Cinthia — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 01:50:26 +0000

I cannot believe the crap some people have said to the commenters on this post. What the HELL?? Who the heck asked their awful “friends”/relatives to throw their in their shoddy, rusted two cents? I am so sorry and am still just HORRIFIED at the things people have said to grieving mothers, wives, etc.

I think the advice someone gave to say “that was rude” is a good idea. If, a”friend”/relative has the gall to make a thoughtless, hurtful comment,e, then tell them… “you were rude when you said xxxxxx”. People seriously need to be called out on their crap and they need to apologize. If it’s a good friend, they will probably do so, and if not, don’t bother with them.

By: Kristen

Kristen — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 01:30:16 +0000

Hi Heather,

I’ve been reading your blog for months, but I’ve never left a comment before… however, this post really touched me and the pain I feel for you is so incredibly raw and real.

Someone said something extremely insensitive to me a few months after a little boy I babysat for passed away from cancer. I was devastated when it happened, and still grieve over 3 years later. (I don’t claim to know what it’s like to lose a child, but I definitely felt this loss deeply in my heart). Almost all of my close friends attended Liam’s services, except for one. A few months later, she asked how I was doing in an email. When I told her that I was doing well, she responded, “Oh good, I’m glad you’re getting over that little boy.” She didn’t even use his name… just “that little boy”. I was shocked and so very hurt. I know that this is nothing at all, a drop in the bucket, compared to your loss, but I just wanted to share that story… even though I have not experienced what you have, I still attempt to empathize with you…

I think of your beautiful family daily… and I certainly hope that your friend someday realizes the severity of what happened, so that he/she can be sure to never do it again.
Kristen´s last blog ..Organize and Excite!

By: Glenda

Glenda — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 22:04:07 +0000

Heather, I truly hope that this post was prompted by someone’s ignorance and not malice or cruelty towards your feelings. I read your post every day and love your writing style. So eloquently said! Thinking of you and sending you and Mike hugs! XX