Brave
July 28, 2008
Maddie was in the NICU over Christmas, but that didn’t stop anyone from giving her presents. My brother Kyle gave Maddie a great shirt. It was HUGE on her at the time (size 3-6 months when she was swimming in preemie clothes) but we made it work. The nurses and the other parents in the NICU LOOOOVED it.

I know, right? So freaking cute and awesome.
When Mike, Maddie, and I went up to the Bay Area over the 4th of July, Maddie and I spent a lot of time with Jackie! I gave Jackie! a bunch of stuff - my wig collection, a bedazzled bandana (YES), the shirt she wore on Sunday, and one special thing. It was Maddie’s idea, actually. She wanted Jackie! to have her “I’m Brave” shirt. It had brought her so much luck, she wanted Jackie! to have it.
Early this evening, my phone beeped with a picture message. I downloaded it and saw this:

Along with the following message: Jackie says she loves you…and thanks Maddie for the shirt. Thank you for being such a great friend to her. And thank Maddie for being such a great role model.
I don’t know what got me more - my daughter’s shirt with my incredibly brave friend, or the smile on her face. Hmm…definitely the smile.
Her sisters updated all of us again to say that Jackie!, while extremely tired, is in great spirits. While she laid in recovery, she chanted our alma mater’s fight song. She made joke’s about her hair line being shaved a la Queen Elizabeth I. She has a long road ahead, but she’s already off to a great start.
Another friend of mine, Kim (a former roommate of mine and Jackie!’s) went into labor on Sunday night over four weeks early. After dilating to six inches, things stalled, so Kim had a C-Section today just before 7 pm. Her beautiful daughter Catie was born weighing 6lbs, 4oz and 18 inches (she’s almost as tall as her mom already!). The same day Jackie! had her tumor removed, Catie joined the world.
Life.













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July 28th, 2008 at 11:32 pm
Life, indeed. PS? My daughter was only 10 days early and weighed less than baby Catie. My son was a week late and weighed less than baby Catie. Let her parents know that. She’s in good shape.
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July 29th, 2008 at 2:08 am
The brave shirt is very very cool - on both of them. Jackie!’s smile almost made me cry. What a brave woman indeed.
July 29th, 2008 at 3:27 am
That picture is fantastic!! Can we all please come to Jackie!’s next celebratory party. She is my freaking hero.
July 29th, 2008 at 3:43 am
Those pictures brought tears to my eyes!
Jackie! smiling after brain surgery, I can’t believe it. She’s got some much light and beauty, she’s shining so brightly!
July 29th, 2008 at 4:16 am
I think that makes Catie the Anti-Turk.
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July 29th, 2008 at 4:23 am
Great smile, indeed! Glad all’s going well!
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July 29th, 2008 at 4:31 am
I am so glad you have such news… The more you tell us about Jackie and Maddie the more I would like to meet them.
NO, I am not a weird stalker chic, just always in the mood to meet really GREAT people.
You are a great friend and your blog always touches my heart.
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July 29th, 2008 at 4:44 am
Granted, I’m a wee bit hormonal, but this made me cry.
One of my best freinds’ sisters had a baby at the EXACT SAME TIME, literally, that my father died.
Makes you think.
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July 29th, 2008 at 5:14 am
Heather…i LOVE this post. it’s so beautiful. the shirt? amazing! the photo of Jackie smiling! your friend having a baby the same day! *weeping*
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July 29th, 2008 at 5:17 am
Thank you for the pic! She looks awesome!
I don’t even look that good in the morning and I didn’t have 8 hours of surgery
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July 29th, 2008 at 5:22 am
Absolutely amazing, awesome, beautiful! I’m so happy for her–for everyone! Thank you for the update.
July 29th, 2008 at 5:25 am
WOW - two such amazingly brave women (or will-someday-be-a-woman, in Maddie’s case) - and now a third! Life… Truly…
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July 29th, 2008 at 5:32 am
Thanks for starting my day at work on a great note. Here’s to health and happiness!
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July 29th, 2008 at 5:32 am
Oh man I was not equipped for this post this morning. Crying at my desk! Yikes.
Thank you so much for sharing this. I can’t think of anything more touching and wonderful than that picture of Jackie with Maddie’s shirt and that beautiful smile.
All these brave wonderful women. You guys are amazing.
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July 29th, 2008 at 5:42 am
Go Jackie! go!!
July 29th, 2008 at 5:47 am
OH joy! I am so glad htings worked out well for jackie and baby katie! What a BEAUTIFUL picture. I love how jackie is smiling. What an amazing woman.
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July 29th, 2008 at 5:56 am
The picture of Maddie is heartbreakingly sweet. And that smile on Jackie! is just spectacular. You do have some brave ladies in your life. Count yourself among them.
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July 29th, 2008 at 6:13 am
BRAVE, indeed, both of them. And little Catie gets to join right in.
July 29th, 2008 at 6:32 am
I love that shirt so much- what a perfect gift for a NICU baby. And what a perfect thing to send to Jackie. I can’t believe she’s already talking and smiling! I clearly know nothing about such things, but I was picturing that taking at least a few days to happen. She looks great. Like you said, she’s got a long road ahead of her, but now she’s closer to being done with it than she was! I’m so glad things went well.
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July 29th, 2008 at 6:42 am
Very, very brave.
July 29th, 2008 at 7:07 am
I think a shirt should be made with a picture of Maddie and Jackie! together on it and underneath the words on that shirt in the picture above should be under the picture and also the words “Two female heroes.”
It’s great to see that picture of Jackie! smiling and you can tell that she has a fighting spirit. Go Jackie! Go!
preTzel
July 29th, 2008 at 7:30 am
Yay for Jackie! I’m so glad her surgery was a success and I wish her the best of health for her long future.
Dang…your friend’s baby was a month early and was over 6lbs? Sounds like a good thing she was born early!! YIKES!
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July 29th, 2008 at 8:13 am
Love her smile!
And Maddie’s preciousness.
Good stuff all around.
July 29th, 2008 at 8:45 am
rock on, jackie!!!!
July 29th, 2008 at 9:01 am
Glad to hear Jackie is doing well. How can she be any better off, now that she has Maddie’s good luck shirt?
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July 29th, 2008 at 9:22 am
It’s so nice to see her smiling like that so soon after brain surgery! Wow! I think that’s a very good sign.
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July 29th, 2008 at 9:22 am
Wonderful news!
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July 29th, 2008 at 9:23 am
You and your frickin’ friends better stop making me cry!!! I swear. I can’t come here anymore without Kleenex. Or without leaving super inspired and grateful and in awe of the strength of the women around you.
Yay! Jackie!!
July 29th, 2008 at 9:27 am
Ok, that made me cry too, and like you at first wasn’t sure if it was the shirt or the smile, a little of both I think!
I am so happy to see Jackie! smiling! What a beautiful thing!
Congrats on your friend’s new baby! And WOW 6lbs….over FOUR weeks early! Yikes that would have been one big baby full term!!!
July 29th, 2008 at 10:47 am
Damn, you’re really tugging at my heart strings. I’m thrilled for both of your friends. And they’re lucky to have you. (Btw, your story is so emotional it made the earth move! Californians will understand).
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July 29th, 2008 at 11:36 am
So happy to hear the good news and I hope that Jackie! just goes from strength to strength.
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July 29th, 2008 at 11:53 am
Dude. Who looks that good after brain surgery? For crying out loud.
I’m totally late to the party because I read your email first thing and then when my sister said “Did you see “The Spohrs are Multiplying” post about Jackie! and the t-shirt?!” I was all “Yeah”. BUT I hadn’t. I’d only pictured it in my mind. I’m insane.
So HAPPY Jackie! is doing so well.
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July 29th, 2008 at 12:00 pm
Tears just shot out of my eyes, and I’m neither hormonal nor a friend of Jackie!
I think it was her smile. A very triumphant smile it is.
July 29th, 2008 at 12:01 pm
Wow. Fantastic news. Keep it up Jackie! And welcome baby Catie. Life pretty much says it all.
July 29th, 2008 at 12:33 pm
I’ve only lurked on your blog before, but that photo made me cry. Seriously. I’ve followed Jackie’s story through your blog. She is radiant even after brain surgery. Wow.
My twins were only two weeks early when they were born at 5 lbs each. I was almost scared of them they seemed so little. I can only imagine what you went through with your daughter. You and Maddie are brave.
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July 29th, 2008 at 3:22 pm
beautiful. WONDERFUL.
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July 29th, 2008 at 5:18 pm
Awesome.
Jackie! looks great! Brain surgery and looking that good.
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July 29th, 2008 at 5:25 pm
What a great photo of Jackie! And oh Miz Maddie. Even when sick she is the CUTEST.
Thinking good things for baby Catie. Big girl for 4 weeks early! Izzie was only 5 lbs 3 oz at 38 1/2 weeks, so she’s doing good!
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July 29th, 2008 at 7:25 pm
I can’t believe Jackie! is still smiling. She is my hero. I’m so glad it all went well.
And I can’t believe the early baby already weighed that much! Looks like your week is starting to turn around my friend - now all we have to do is tell the universe to stop sending you bloody earthquakes. Seriously, WTF?
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July 29th, 2008 at 9:00 pm
I’m SO glad your friend’s surgery went well. I’ve been following her story for a few days. Found you from Fussypants’ tweet a few nights ago!
July 29th, 2008 at 9:07 pm
Jackie! is a rock star, that’s awesome news about the resection of her tumor. Give her lots of hugs from strangers and let her know there’s lots of prayers coming her way.
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July 30th, 2008 at 7:02 am
Beautiful. I found you through Mrs. Chicken’s shared items…hoping your friend recovers well and soon…
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July 30th, 2008 at 11:11 am
That’s so amazing.
July 31st, 2008 at 5:44 pm
I love you SOOO much!